Try joining a martial arts club. It's a great way to meet new and friendly people and improve confidence. After only one class my s.a was significantly diminished and I felt quite confident in my abilities even in usually feared situations. I train Jeet Kune Do..
Since I started college. I have to push myself so hard. But the thing that kills me is groups and interacting. I have cried during class or leaving the class while everyone is busy. Its horrible. But that didn't stop me. I joined this program puente it helped tremendously. I still get anxious bad but improved. I been called weird and other things. For being quiet and shy, when it's SA I'm going back to college tomorrow. I'm anxious again :S Everyone it gets better. Please don't give up!
Thank you for sharing. I've been trying to go to college for 5 years now and I still haven't completed two years worth of credits because my social anxiety gets in the way. I'll start missing days and then just stop going all together. It's so completely frustrating. College makes me feel so so so isolated.
I just had my first day of college, and we had a similar icebreaker excercise. It was one of the most difficult experiences I've ever had. I don't think I'll be going back.
I don't know how you managed to get through college with SAD - that alone is very commendable!
@scarface82us woah dude! Dont give up on it just yet! Yeah it's hard right now, but if you hang in there things will get better! Remember, College first and foremost is about getting a good education so that you can improve your life. Dont let the social side of it stop you from achieving that. You can do it! :)
I hate living like this in college. It seems like everyone is incited to one big party except me. Sometimes it gets so overwhelming, I just want to die
When I was at my college orientation, I felt so bad. I couldn't breathe, I didn't talk to people...it was painfully awkward and I cried in the bathroom.
Damn, I have to go to work, don't you just love when work interups life as we would like it?? NOT! Will be back for another look at your video when I get time... after you know what has sucked 8 hours out of me.
And the guy kicking your chair is in...college?? That's obviously something you'd expect from a kindergarten student.
Anyways, I'm still in college, but I've definitely felt moments that I wanted to flip-out in utter anger, but I couldn't because of my social anxiety (I didn't want to be the center of attention). So, in a way, SA saved me from expulsion. Rare moments like just make me wish that this anxiety would do more good than bad.
whata an amazing man you are....my son went thro exactly the same....dont let the barstards grind you down lv....and i remember being your age aving to read out my work to the class.. i was so overcome with anxiety i ran out crying my eyes out to the toilet, shakeing all over and bright red....today 20 years later im totally confident in the same role... do something enough times,being mentally prepared helps...and remember you are a great person never forget your great qualites.promise it works
@iUzair → Every single time I'm in a new class, I always think "Please, no ice breakers. Please, no ice breakers...." I totally understand where you're coming from.
I like you allot man, you got nothing to worry about! :P
are you still in college? Its my first year here and I had a similar experience today going to watch a movie(well, i didn't faint:P) But everyone is having such an awesome time and running around yelling with all their friends and here i am sitting in my room watching social anxiety videos. I feel so small
goin to this summer college thing...probably about 40 kids...almost over, havent made any friends...i just wish i could meet someone like me...its hard for me because im kinda weird hah..and funny just watch my videos and youll see..i just wish so bad i could act like i do in my videos at school...i want that soo bad..i gotta get some drugs
I've always hated "ice breakers" too. I had to do /so/ many of those in smaller college classes. One after another, and I always felt increasingly more uncomfortable than I did from the previous icebreaker. All I wanted to do was have the syllabus handed to me and the professor babble on about the class. First days of the semester always turn me into a shaking adrenaline wreck, I would skip just the first day to miss introductions but I'm always afraid of missing an important assignment.
im 18 have social anxiety and am goin to college in fall...gona play baseball...shit..its a small college..will they put me in classes with other freshmen so im not alone? im so anxious about this. i dnt wana be alone in being nervous..
Lol the arnie clip i remember that episode. There's alot of people I wish I can just fucking go nuts on like that. Instead of flipping the table you should of suplexed him through it.
hmm, social anxiety is rough. I identify with what you are saying though I do not have SA. You don't need to be like that, Im sure youll find freedom from this. Maybe you alrdee have bc this is only vid #5. Shit I hate those bastards, so lame. Yawn worthy. Like please. Be more creative meat head.
First off, your videos are great. Im finding your stories very easy to relate to. I had a similar problem in highschool once when a guy was sitting behind me and he kept drawing on the back on my neck. i turned around once and told him to stop. then he kept doing it. then I just turned my head a little to get a quick glance at him and noticed he had his hands sitting on the edge of his table. So i quickly pushed with my legs and ended up breaking 4 of his fingers
@punkomatic87 Good job! Man, my high-school experience was nerve-wrecking. They put me in a remedial class-room with a bunch of kids going no-where. I got out and had to deal with the same ole' things. High-school destroyed my confidence completely. I'm thinking seconds about going to college, because I might go through the same exact thing. Somedays I'd miss school because of the turmoil.
Take each day as it comes... that's what I'm gonna do. I'm in a double and living with another person is awful. But I've skipped so much class already due to SA, that if I skip any more I'll probably be kicked out. I'll just have to bear with it for 2 more months.
wow, i totally feel ya. Its good to know im not alone.
At work its horrible because im so shy someone once said i was rude because i didnt talk much. I hate people sometimes. We are not mean to anyone, yet everyone is mean to us.
i kno ppl are so mean, they discriminate against shy quiet ppl and pick on us, but they don't understand that it's not our fault! We can't help it, we don't want to be this way. FUck them all!
Ive blocked out and suppressed a lot of memories from my last years of high school. Its like their is a gap of between my last good times during Jr. high and now. The anxiety got worse every year. Like I was slowly shutting off my connection to the world. Great videos man. Hope to see more in the future. Much respect..
This sounds so familiar to me. I just started college in september and was obviously really anxious about it. my first day went alright, I was looking forward to meeting new people but at the same time was totally freaking out about it. Ive made a few friends now but im still very much the "quiet girl".
@GirlGhost17 same here! i just started college and i am in the same situation. I've met a couple of people but im just seen as 'really shy' or 'anti social'
ugh yeah i almost passed out in class, one day introducing myself to the class... everything got black, but i snapped outta it, but i got dirty look :(
Indeed. Would think that ppl grow out of this but its same at the factory Ive worked at 22 yrs. Theres several ppl 40-60yo that routinely do verbal & physical childish & aggresive things like that.
I too am not a violent person butve been pushed so many times to thoughts of permanently physically hurting these ppl. Instead I bottle it up & injure myself by punching a hole in a door when I get home later. After yrs of this & replaying in your head it can feel to eat away at you inside physically hurting your heart & head. I live in a very bigot & crime(gang) city. Am very short for a male , always alone & quiet so a regular target. Ppl wonder why their are school shooting & such. puh-lees.
Hey man, i gotta say, I really like this video. Even though you speak about some of your hardest times a lot of your character comes out when you speak about it. It makes me think "This guy went throught some bad shit but he's talking and laughing about it with so much honesty."
I know that feeling.. At work everybody hates me and wishes i would die..When I dare talk I'm so full of adrenaline that I can't pay attention to what they are saying. I'm just charged on adrenaline all day makes work 3 times as hard.
NO! No No No! I wanted a violent ending. Yes you did the right thing etc. etc., but couldn't you have embellished a bit first? I got angry on your behalf!
You got balls for turning out videos like this with social anxiety and all, i know i couldn't do it. You seem like a really decent guy, why is it that the worst things happen to the best of us? Oh and keep rockin those sideburns, we share the same taste in style, lol
I know what you mean... I can pick many examples in my life of people walking on me as if I was a doormat, making sure to stomp on my head.
And as for passing out, that must be been embarrassing, congrats on being strong! My SA?AvPD is so strong it would not allow me to faint lol, instead I experience depersonalization, I either feel I'm outside my own body or trapped inside with all movements frozen.
This is a revelation. I'm from Australia 31 and have suffered from SA all my life. After starting uni 2 years my SA resulted in my withdrawing from the course after only 4 weeks!! I realised then that It was SA that was the problem. I have been seeing a psy for the last year and returned to Uni this year. It is a slow process but the techniques I learn with CBT have really helped. It is so comforting that their are others that share this experience.
I can relate alot to this one. I am in Uni and at first I thought I could cope and I guess I am coping quite well but every day is a bit of a struggle. I find work has gotten very difficult in the past year.
I remember I like really gave this guy a real-telling off infront of my whole class because he was a racist ^^ It was quite embarassing if I think about it now but I still stand for it because he deserved it.
I always thought S.A was a "mental illness" but i recently fund out its just emotions that take over and become uncontrolable, when you were saying that you got so worked up you nerly smacked the lad, i just what i feel everyday, the thing is sometimes i cant rustrain myslef. im going to college next year and i am already shitting it. + me ill probably will pass out, but anyway, i love watching your vids, they really make me think positavley about S.A and helps me through the day so thankyou =]
i hate the feeling of social anxiety because i fear to be different. its best to be noticed but its letting bad in with the good. i'm going to college this summer. i may be the same as you on my first day.
I know the feeling bro. I keep going from mad nervous to really excited about going to Johns Hopkins University this summer/fall. I dont have SA per se but i have generalized anxiety disorder which probably has some SA in it as well. Its a pain in the ass but I manage with exercise and some low dose of SSRI, which i hope to get off in a year or so.
GREAT VIDEO (as usual)! I can relate to the anger stuff so much. Ironically you have to wonder why these jerks even pick on people? Like don't they fear that the person would tear them to shreds? I mean they would be so shocked I don't think they would have time to react.
Man, you worry me about this college thing. I don't know how you got through it. I've been out of school so long, I don't know if I can tolerate juvenile behavior like that. I don't think I'd get into a fight, but if I snapped, I might say some pretty regrettable things. I'm hoping that going to school will just force me to improve my social skills, but that might be wishful thinking.
glad to have found your vids. I need all the help I can get. At the 2:00 min mark, you talk about blocking out, do you mean "dissociating" or just trying to forget ? I remember in school almost having blackouts because of my SA almost as if I left my body (especially when getting up in front of people).. Just wondering :) Have a great day-
When I say block out, it's like sometimes I will feel a bad memory coming forward, so I'll push it away and think of something else. Eventually over time the memory fades and isnt so clear in my mind anymore.
its know it funny. I will be like your making me angry you wont like me when I m angry. I don know how to control myself in that situation. I can sympathize with that.
Mark, I've had the same sort of thing happen to me with that kid kicking your chair. And with SAD I was thinking when it happened to me, "Oh great, if I don't fight this guy all the girls and guys in class are going to think I'm a wimp." I'm never violent either but I also saw myself flipping desks and grabbing the person by the throat and strangling them.
Hey mate..I can identify with everything you say believe me. I'm not a violent person either by nature, but with SA it brings out another side to your personality. Good Video! :)
OMG, I had the same experience in school. This stupid guy was sitting behind me and suddenly he pushed me. I ignored the first time but the second time he pushed so hard I actually hit the table in front of me so I turned around to asked him what his problem was. Then he and his mates just laughed at me and saying stupid things like "oh you just have to push her buttons so she talks". I still wish to this day I would have gotten up and slapped him, he so deserved it lol I was so angry.
Wow...memories of school with that kid kicking your chair. I'm a female and was a brown belt in karate by your age (I recommend it for anyone who has confidence problems, well it worked for me anyway) Anyway, this kid was kicking my chair and wouldn't stop, just like you said. I grabbed his feet, the whole time looking forward at the teacher and stood up still holding his feet. He hit the ground and I calmly walked out - I'm not saying it was the right thing to do,but he never did it again.
what?! they still do that in college? oh lord. i was totally picked on like that in middle school...because i was an easy target, being quiet and vulunerable-looking. the worst being someone knocking down my lunch on purpose...and i didn't do ANYTHING! so lameee of me. i think i was in a state of shock and also i didn't know what to say! so i just walked away with my friend like it never happened...
in relation to SA...i think u speak really well and ur funny too! always a plus!
Wow. Everything you said was so vivid and personal to me. I've gone through just about everything you just related except for the fainting. However,I've been anxious to the point where I've become light headed, dissociated, my whole body aching. An ache I would feel deep in my bones. I can totally relate to the tremendous anger you must have felt in that situation with that idiot. Lord knows I seem to frequently find myself in those situations. The shaking is characteristic when I lose it.
It seems that I'm now hypersensitive to perceived criticism. To the point where I squash it immediately using various defense mechanisms I've acquired over the years. I tend to channel the anxiety into an onslaught of vindictiveness. It consumes me at times. Drags me under. I can still remember stalking someone who constantly jeered me while in high school. He came pretty close to getting a knife in his back. I'm ashamed to say the only thing that stopped me was lack of real opportunity.
Oh man, I can feel the anger boiling in me when you related to us the time when that jerk kept kicking your chair. I can remember feeling my rage against a kid saying something stupid about me consistently but I forgot what he said exactly. I wanted to break his neck but managed to control myself somehow.
It's a wonder you didn't go off on that dude. It's a lot easier to ignore verbal bullshit. But, the physical stuff like him kicking the chair...it just makes the anger and rage that much more intense I think.
ahh man, he knew exactly what he was doing and he was pushing all the right buttons. He'd previously used me for the butt of his jokes, so i was getting to a stage where I couldnt take much more
but i know what youre saying. you get so sick of people fucking with you and just ignoring them that eventually you react to every situation like you have to kill the person. even if they say something normal i take it way too personal and feel like the only rational response is to stomp them.
Yeah thats exactly it. You're constantly bottling up that emotion, trying to hide it and the anxiety coupled with stress and anger makes you over sensitive to things. And then you get to breaking point and it just all comes out
That's good to hear you and the guy are still friends. I wish I could say the same thing happened with me and most of the very few people I managed to become friends with back then.
Yeah he's a really good bloke. The only person who has stuck with me through thick and thin. All my other so called friends dropped me. But ya know, I'd rather have 1 good friend than lots of insincere ones
I hope you're ok :) work through it
LittleCurryPot 3 days ago
Try joining a martial arts club. It's a great way to meet new and friendly people and improve confidence. After only one class my s.a was significantly diminished and I felt quite confident in my abilities even in usually feared situations. I train Jeet Kune Do..
elias5926 2 weeks ago
Since I started college. I have to push myself so hard. But the thing that kills me is groups and interacting. I have cried during class or leaving the class while everyone is busy. Its horrible. But that didn't stop me. I joined this program puente it helped tremendously. I still get anxious bad but improved. I been called weird and other things. For being quiet and shy, when it's SA I'm going back to college tomorrow. I'm anxious again :S Everyone it gets better. Please don't give up!
lovelymakeupnewbie 1 month ago
I would of snaped all his shit up. No college degree is worth enough to me to allow anyone to take me through that hell hole again.
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WhoAr3You 1 month ago
you remind me of roger taylor from queen...
pinkbluegreeen 2 months ago
Thank you for sharing. I've been trying to go to college for 5 years now and I still haven't completed two years worth of credits because my social anxiety gets in the way. I'll start missing days and then just stop going all together. It's so completely frustrating. College makes me feel so so so isolated.
lovelydisarray 5 months ago
I just had my first day of college, and we had a similar icebreaker excercise. It was one of the most difficult experiences I've ever had. I don't think I'll be going back.
I don't know how you managed to get through college with SAD - that alone is very commendable!
scarface82us 5 months ago
@scarface82us woah dude! Dont give up on it just yet! Yeah it's hard right now, but if you hang in there things will get better! Remember, College first and foremost is about getting a good education so that you can improve your life. Dont let the social side of it stop you from achieving that. You can do it! :)
BulletProofMonkeon 5 months ago
I hate living like this in college. It seems like everyone is incited to one big party except me. Sometimes it gets so overwhelming, I just want to die
FluffyPorcupines 6 months ago
When I was at my college orientation, I felt so bad. I couldn't breathe, I didn't talk to people...it was painfully awkward and I cried in the bathroom.
leesway 7 months ago
that was in college dame you must have went to a junior college
dazeguy513 9 months ago
@dazeguy513 You don't have to go to junior college to get bullied. There is bullying everywhere from schools, homes, workplaces, etc.
TransmissionFilms 7 months ago
Damn, I have to go to work, don't you just love when work interups life as we would like it?? NOT! Will be back for another look at your video when I get time... after you know what has sucked 8 hours out of me.
IncelTreatment 11 months ago
And the guy kicking your chair is in...college?? That's obviously something you'd expect from a kindergarten student.
Anyways, I'm still in college, but I've definitely felt moments that I wanted to flip-out in utter anger, but I couldn't because of my social anxiety (I didn't want to be the center of attention). So, in a way, SA saved me from expulsion. Rare moments like just make me wish that this anxiety would do more good than bad.
shadowfrost91 1 year ago
lol at the arnold clip, totally unexpected
cmonutube 1 year ago
whata an amazing man you are....my son went thro exactly the same....dont let the barstards grind you down lv....and i remember being your age aving to read out my work to the class.. i was so overcome with anxiety i ran out crying my eyes out to the toilet, shakeing all over and bright red....today 20 years later im totally confident in the same role... do something enough times,being mentally prepared helps...and remember you are a great person never forget your great qualites.promise it works
scrummime 1 year ago
I hate those "ice breaker" things teachers do :-/ Freaks me out
iUzair 1 year ago 9
@iUzair → Every single time I'm in a new class, I always think "Please, no ice breakers. Please, no ice breakers...." I totally understand where you're coming from.
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Posthuman7 1 year ago
Its nice to see that you made a friend at college, I've just started my second year and I still have no friends to hang out with :(
STRING3R 1 year ago 3
"which was good" haha!!
I like you allot man, you got nothing to worry about! :P
are you still in college? Its my first year here and I had a similar experience today going to watch a movie(well, i didn't faint:P) But everyone is having such an awesome time and running around yelling with all their friends and here i am sitting in my room watching social anxiety videos. I feel so small
woodwhips 1 year ago
Dude I Was Nervous And Shy But You JUst Got To Talk
There In Exactley The Same Situation As You ,There Not Going To Bite Yourself
You Probaly Just Need To Get Out More
stef9999100 1 year ago
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Posthuman7 1 year ago
@stef9999100 you're ignorant.
Posthuman7 1 year ago 3
what do u do as a career
DesertSmeagle 1 year ago
I would have choked that worm so hard his cock would have shot out of his skin.
nonstopjc2k8 1 year ago
If i meet this kid in a second lifetime, i will beat the shit out of him for you. (coming from a former boxer)
-Greg
betthisonesfree 1 year ago
goin to this summer college thing...probably about 40 kids...almost over, havent made any friends...i just wish i could meet someone like me...its hard for me because im kinda weird hah..and funny just watch my videos and youll see..i just wish so bad i could act like i do in my videos at school...i want that soo bad..i gotta get some drugs
DesertSmeagle 1 year ago
I've always hated "ice breakers" too. I had to do /so/ many of those in smaller college classes. One after another, and I always felt increasingly more uncomfortable than I did from the previous icebreaker. All I wanted to do was have the syllabus handed to me and the professor babble on about the class. First days of the semester always turn me into a shaking adrenaline wreck, I would skip just the first day to miss introductions but I'm always afraid of missing an important assignment.
tigerlilja1 1 year ago
hes a right boring guy
fishersann2k7 1 year ago
Picking on you in college? How immature of someone to do that to you. I hate idiots that mess with you while you're in school.
visionimagify 1 year ago
im 18 have social anxiety and am goin to college in fall...gona play baseball...shit..its a small college..will they put me in classes with other freshmen so im not alone? im so anxious about this. i dnt wana be alone in being nervous..
DesertSmeagle 1 year ago
Lol the arnie clip i remember that episode. There's alot of people I wish I can just fucking go nuts on like that. Instead of flipping the table you should of suplexed him through it.
swiv2d 1 year ago
hmm, social anxiety is rough. I identify with what you are saying though I do not have SA. You don't need to be like that, Im sure youll find freedom from this. Maybe you alrdee have bc this is only vid #5. Shit I hate those bastards, so lame. Yawn worthy. Like please. Be more creative meat head.
BLuFirefli 1 year ago
I hate those stupid ice breaker things. I always dread them and they make me sooo nervous.
MissCheesecake705 1 year ago
First off, your videos are great. Im finding your stories very easy to relate to. I had a similar problem in highschool once when a guy was sitting behind me and he kept drawing on the back on my neck. i turned around once and told him to stop. then he kept doing it. then I just turned my head a little to get a quick glance at him and noticed he had his hands sitting on the edge of his table. So i quickly pushed with my legs and ended up breaking 4 of his fingers
punkomatic87 1 year ago 5
@punkomatic87 Good job! Man, my high-school experience was nerve-wrecking. They put me in a remedial class-room with a bunch of kids going no-where. I got out and had to deal with the same ole' things. High-school destroyed my confidence completely. I'm thinking seconds about going to college, because I might go through the same exact thing. Somedays I'd miss school because of the turmoil.
visionimagify 1 year ago
Take each day as it comes... that's what I'm gonna do. I'm in a double and living with another person is awful. But I've skipped so much class already due to SA, that if I skip any more I'll probably be kicked out. I'll just have to bear with it for 2 more months.
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Idunnoquestionmark 2 years ago
wow, i totally feel ya. Its good to know im not alone.
At work its horrible because im so shy someone once said i was rude because i didnt talk much. I hate people sometimes. We are not mean to anyone, yet everyone is mean to us.
LIfe sucks with SA.
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CHIP08081993 2 years ago
i kno ppl are so mean, they discriminate against shy quiet ppl and pick on us, but they don't understand that it's not our fault! We can't help it, we don't want to be this way. FUck them all!
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Irkcibozkurt 2 years ago
Ive blocked out and suppressed a lot of memories from my last years of high school. Its like their is a gap of between my last good times during Jr. high and now. The anxiety got worse every year. Like I was slowly shutting off my connection to the world. Great videos man. Hope to see more in the future. Much respect..
ClockworkSublime 2 years ago
Its good to know im not alone.
deanblitz 2 years ago 28
he kind of looks like breaking benjamin
moreajosh 2 years ago
This sounds so familiar to me. I just started college in september and was obviously really anxious about it. my first day went alright, I was looking forward to meeting new people but at the same time was totally freaking out about it. Ive made a few friends now but im still very much the "quiet girl".
GirlGhost17 2 years ago 3
@GirlGhost17 same here! i just started college and i am in the same situation. I've met a couple of people but im just seen as 'really shy' or 'anti social'
langleypark 2 years ago
ugh yeah i almost passed out in class, one day introducing myself to the class... everything got black, but i snapped outta it, but i got dirty look :(
greenbeltgirl419 2 years ago
Indeed. Would think that ppl grow out of this but its same at the factory Ive worked at 22 yrs. Theres several ppl 40-60yo that routinely do verbal & physical childish & aggresive things like that.
ubking777 2 years ago 2
I too am not a violent person butve been pushed so many times to thoughts of permanently physically hurting these ppl. Instead I bottle it up & injure myself by punching a hole in a door when I get home later. After yrs of this & replaying in your head it can feel to eat away at you inside physically hurting your heart & head. I live in a very bigot & crime(gang) city. Am very short for a male , always alone & quiet so a regular target. Ppl wonder why their are school shooting & such. puh-lees.
ubking777 2 years ago
Hey man, i gotta say, I really like this video. Even though you speak about some of your hardest times a lot of your character comes out when you speak about it. It makes me think "This guy went throught some bad shit but he's talking and laughing about it with so much honesty."
Well done.
jonny1251 2 years ago 2
lol wow that sucks for a first day of college :(
subzer0l 2 years ago
im starting college next week and im nervous
Zanarkland19 2 years ago
I know that feeling.. At work everybody hates me and wishes i would die..When I dare talk I'm so full of adrenaline that I can't pay attention to what they are saying. I'm just charged on adrenaline all day makes work 3 times as hard.
HealthQuestion 2 years ago
NO! No No No! I wanted a violent ending. Yes you did the right thing etc. etc., but couldn't you have embellished a bit first? I got angry on your behalf!
Zarathustra06 2 years ago
You got balls for turning out videos like this with social anxiety and all, i know i couldn't do it. You seem like a really decent guy, why is it that the worst things happen to the best of us? Oh and keep rockin those sideburns, we share the same taste in style, lol
dimsdale321 2 years ago 6
I know what you mean... I can pick many examples in my life of people walking on me as if I was a doormat, making sure to stomp on my head.
And as for passing out, that must be been embarrassing, congrats on being strong! My SA?AvPD is so strong it would not allow me to faint lol, instead I experience depersonalization, I either feel I'm outside my own body or trapped inside with all movements frozen.
calladuz 2 years ago
@calladuz
I can relate man. Feeling Frozen. Its like your every move is being scrutinized and your totally aware of every muscle movement.
ClockworkSublime 2 years ago 6
Michael Michael ... he cant be death!!!! argghhhhhhhhhhh
YeAhSuperGirl 2 years ago
Sounds to me like the asshole got what was coming to him.
PositiviT 2 years ago
This is a revelation. I'm from Australia 31 and have suffered from SA all my life. After starting uni 2 years my SA resulted in my withdrawing from the course after only 4 weeks!! I realised then that It was SA that was the problem. I have been seeing a psy for the last year and returned to Uni this year. It is a slow process but the techniques I learn with CBT have really helped. It is so comforting that their are others that share this experience.
letangoable 2 years ago 3
I can relate alot to this one. I am in Uni and at first I thought I could cope and I guess I am coping quite well but every day is a bit of a struggle. I find work has gotten very difficult in the past year.
4Bronwynn 2 years ago
I know what you mean about that bully.
I remember I like really gave this guy a real-telling off infront of my whole class because he was a racist ^^ It was quite embarassing if I think about it now but I still stand for it because he deserved it.
velociped 2 years ago
Hypnosis works for social anxiety, download some tracks from the internet.
You should also check out some NLP books.
2FERGIE7 2 years ago
I always thought S.A was a "mental illness" but i recently fund out its just emotions that take over and become uncontrolable, when you were saying that you got so worked up you nerly smacked the lad, i just what i feel everyday, the thing is sometimes i cant rustrain myslef. im going to college next year and i am already shitting it. + me ill probably will pass out, but anyway, i love watching your vids, they really make me think positavley about S.A and helps me through the day so thankyou =]
mazzvanity 2 years ago
your videos are so funny when you add those little inserts, it brightened my day as I feel the same
wshort12 2 years ago 2
im sure he knows that also but its kinda hard to do it when youre so anxious of even talking , i know the feeling
DHammerr 2 years ago
i hate the feeling of social anxiety because i fear to be different. its best to be noticed but its letting bad in with the good. i'm going to college this summer. i may be the same as you on my first day.
Minan3 2 years ago
I know the feeling bro. I keep going from mad nervous to really excited about going to Johns Hopkins University this summer/fall. I dont have SA per se but i have generalized anxiety disorder which probably has some SA in it as well. Its a pain in the ass but I manage with exercise and some low dose of SSRI, which i hope to get off in a year or so.
njchampnj 2 years ago
GREAT VIDEO (as usual)! I can relate to the anger stuff so much. Ironically you have to wonder why these jerks even pick on people? Like don't they fear that the person would tear them to shreds? I mean they would be so shocked I don't think they would have time to react.
RHayabusa 3 years ago 5
dude your life is exactly like mine
3childrenofbodom3 3 years ago 6
haha that arnie flick made me laugh, i've probably done that maybe 15 times in my life, so much adrenaline it's crazy
amlaped09 3 years ago 4
Man, you worry me about this college thing. I don't know how you got through it. I've been out of school so long, I don't know if I can tolerate juvenile behavior like that. I don't think I'd get into a fight, but if I snapped, I might say some pretty regrettable things. I'm hoping that going to school will just force me to improve my social skills, but that might be wishful thinking.
ThruLightProjected 3 years ago 4
glad to have found your vids. I need all the help I can get. At the 2:00 min mark, you talk about blocking out, do you mean "dissociating" or just trying to forget ? I remember in school almost having blackouts because of my SA almost as if I left my body (especially when getting up in front of people).. Just wondering :) Have a great day-
KDW74 3 years ago 5
When I say block out, it's like sometimes I will feel a bad memory coming forward, so I'll push it away and think of something else. Eventually over time the memory fades and isnt so clear in my mind anymore.
BulletProofMonkeon 3 years ago 4
@BulletProofMonkeon u remind me of myself and how i went through it and still do. im from uk london.
chof0319 1 year ago
"anxiety clouded my judgement"....wow so ture
ashley78999 3 years ago
its know it funny. I will be like your making me angry you wont like me when I m angry. I don know how to control myself in that situation. I can sympathize with that.
eduar001dfd 3 years ago 2
Mark, I've had the same sort of thing happen to me with that kid kicking your chair. And with SAD I was thinking when it happened to me, "Oh great, if I don't fight this guy all the girls and guys in class are going to think I'm a wimp." I'm never violent either but I also saw myself flipping desks and grabbing the person by the throat and strangling them.
nocjosh 3 years ago
After watching all your videos, it seems like a lot of what you said is what I have gone through.
frakdox 3 years ago
Hey mate..I can identify with everything you say believe me. I'm not a violent person either by nature, but with SA it brings out another side to your personality. Good Video! :)
Stepuptothemic 3 years ago 3
OMG, I had the same experience in school. This stupid guy was sitting behind me and suddenly he pushed me. I ignored the first time but the second time he pushed so hard I actually hit the table in front of me so I turned around to asked him what his problem was. Then he and his mates just laughed at me and saying stupid things like "oh you just have to push her buttons so she talks". I still wish to this day I would have gotten up and slapped him, he so deserved it lol I was so angry.
cherryredcutie 3 years ago 2
Wow...memories of school with that kid kicking your chair. I'm a female and was a brown belt in karate by your age (I recommend it for anyone who has confidence problems, well it worked for me anyway) Anyway, this kid was kicking my chair and wouldn't stop, just like you said. I grabbed his feet, the whole time looking forward at the teacher and stood up still holding his feet. He hit the ground and I calmly walked out - I'm not saying it was the right thing to do,but he never did it again.
yourewho 3 years ago 2
what?! they still do that in college? oh lord. i was totally picked on like that in middle school...because i was an easy target, being quiet and vulunerable-looking. the worst being someone knocking down my lunch on purpose...and i didn't do ANYTHING! so lameee of me. i think i was in a state of shock and also i didn't know what to say! so i just walked away with my friend like it never happened...
in relation to SA...i think u speak really well and ur funny too! always a plus!
jennipoo55 3 years ago 3
Wow. Everything you said was so vivid and personal to me. I've gone through just about everything you just related except for the fainting. However,I've been anxious to the point where I've become light headed, dissociated, my whole body aching. An ache I would feel deep in my bones. I can totally relate to the tremendous anger you must have felt in that situation with that idiot. Lord knows I seem to frequently find myself in those situations. The shaking is characteristic when I lose it.
GiftedSleep 3 years ago 2
It seems that I'm now hypersensitive to perceived criticism. To the point where I squash it immediately using various defense mechanisms I've acquired over the years. I tend to channel the anxiety into an onslaught of vindictiveness. It consumes me at times. Drags me under. I can still remember stalking someone who constantly jeered me while in high school. He came pretty close to getting a knife in his back. I'm ashamed to say the only thing that stopped me was lack of real opportunity.
GiftedSleep 3 years ago 3
Oh man, I can feel the anger boiling in me when you related to us the time when that jerk kept kicking your chair. I can remember feeling my rage against a kid saying something stupid about me consistently but I forgot what he said exactly. I wanted to break his neck but managed to control myself somehow.
SkepticScepter 3 years ago
It's a wonder you didn't go off on that dude. It's a lot easier to ignore verbal bullshit. But, the physical stuff like him kicking the chair...it just makes the anger and rage that much more intense I think.
XFreedomSeekerX 3 years ago 5
ahh man, he knew exactly what he was doing and he was pushing all the right buttons. He'd previously used me for the butt of his jokes, so i was getting to a stage where I couldnt take much more
BulletProofMonkeon 3 years ago
lol nice arnold clip i just saw that yesterday.
but i know what youre saying. you get so sick of people fucking with you and just ignoring them that eventually you react to every situation like you have to kill the person. even if they say something normal i take it way too personal and feel like the only rational response is to stomp them.
ZeroHourComes 3 years ago
Yeah thats exactly it. You're constantly bottling up that emotion, trying to hide it and the anxiety coupled with stress and anger makes you over sensitive to things. And then you get to breaking point and it just all comes out
BulletProofMonkeon 3 years ago
That's good to hear you and the guy are still friends. I wish I could say the same thing happened with me and most of the very few people I managed to become friends with back then.
NeroMaddox 3 years ago 3
Yeah he's a really good bloke. The only person who has stuck with me through thick and thin. All my other so called friends dropped me. But ya know, I'd rather have 1 good friend than lots of insincere ones
BulletProofMonkeon 3 years ago 8
nice to see that your a lot more talkitive (or however it,s spelt) in your videos mate.
blinkfan87 3 years ago