its not just you, people that are like that... are like that to everyone for every reason. i dont care why they are like that... ive argued with people for a long time before i realized that arent thinking about anything im saying... they just want to be heard. it doesnt matter if you agree or not.. its not really about you. they just have issues, so dont feel like you have to convince them your one thing or another.
One person I knew responded to me giving them a gift by saying,'I hope you're not trying to bribe me'. I was thinking it's a small gift and just because someone gives you one doesn't mean they have alterior motives. But they insisted that if they were to give the same (fairly inexpensive) gift it would be bribery on their part. This is the small and lonely world they live in and it has nothing to do with you.
The reason people scapegoat is because they want to look better than you. I have known people like that and they grow up in very distrustful and possibly abusive environments and therefore cannot fathom someone wanting to help them for a return of just a few dollars. These people are also stingy and generally dishonest themselves and think that everyone has the same warped reality as they.
thinking in a general way, rather than specifically in regard to business, i think it may just be that people are not willing to "own" their mistakes.
i think this is a social thing, and we are taught it from birth.
to overcome this, and to examine your mistakes is not a common point of view because you must first admit that you made a mistake.
this may be why people make the same mistake many times.
if they "owned" the error, they could examine the thought pattern that led to it, and avoid it
If I can prove to the provider of a product that I don't need their product then I in turn prove to myself that I'm good enough without it. It's not scapegoating it's masturbation of the ego.
Even if someone has never encountered a sales person, they have a preconceived idea based on what other people have told them and I think this goes as far as to pre-emptively blind a person against a product's credability, even if it could benefit them.
More into context, the selling a product story you mentioned... I think it is because the majority of people despise sales people. In my experience, can be rude, harrassing and generally they don't have anything useful to sell you (forgive me if I insult you, which seems a bit ironic)....
I'm assuming its not too late to comment on this topic but here I go regardless.
I would have thought it was quite obvious why people scapegoat. People don't like to suffer negative consequences, therefore, if it is inevitable that bad things will come around, people will transfer the blame onto something or someone else to avoid it. The "Better you than me" expression springs to mind here.
popping your knuckles is very bad, you are pushing the synovial fluid out of them and that can cause suffering later in life just wanted to let you know:.)
you could just never be consistently disobedient,,lol..hahahahaha...yeah it was 8:30pm..but hey WOW,you do and you dont,a problem needs to be sorted ,but you cant forgive them..lol..I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WAS SAYING...and it was beautiful from a beautiful person.You certainly made my rainy day!
beauty:qualities that give pleasure to the senses or exalt the mind : LOVELINESS: also : something having such qualities.
brain 1:the part of the vertebrate nervous system that is the organ of thought and nervous coordination, is made up of nerve cells and their fibers, and is enclosed in the skull: also : a centralized mass of nerve tissue in an invertebrate 2:INTELLECT, INTELLIGENCE.
Beauty and Brain LOVE your videos,keep up the good work.
Your assumption that "reason" need be logical is not universally held. Further, your question assumes that personal decisions are internally derived; in fact, most people focus on externals—probably in direct proportion to their (in)ability to contact and express their internal processes (and self). Allow for those alternatives and your question is answered.
If I were to cover all possible answers, there would be little to no room for feedback. I never said logic was the only factor for people when making decisions. Logic is a factor for me, a dominating factor. I am well aware that decisions and actions are strongly influenced by emotion, but it is more an issue of the psychology rather than environment. I do allow for the alternatives. There is not definitive answer to the human psychology. I was only curious to see what other's are thinking.
And yet the question was posed such as to suggest that the example's behavior went against logic. By logic, I mean the set of assumptions you laid down as a baseline against which that person's behavior was measured (and therefore, implicitly explained). My answer, more simply put, would be that he doesn't think or feel like you. His psychology is unknown to me, and, beyond the generalization I offered, the psychology of the general public cannot be more specifically presented.
its not just you, people that are like that... are like that to everyone for every reason. i dont care why they are like that... ive argued with people for a long time before i realized that arent thinking about anything im saying... they just want to be heard. it doesnt matter if you agree or not.. its not really about you. they just have issues, so dont feel like you have to convince them your one thing or another.
reverseheavendotcom 2 years ago
One person I knew responded to me giving them a gift by saying,'I hope you're not trying to bribe me'. I was thinking it's a small gift and just because someone gives you one doesn't mean they have alterior motives. But they insisted that if they were to give the same (fairly inexpensive) gift it would be bribery on their part. This is the small and lonely world they live in and it has nothing to do with you.
Praestantia111 3 years ago
The reason people scapegoat is because they want to look better than you. I have known people like that and they grow up in very distrustful and possibly abusive environments and therefore cannot fathom someone wanting to help them for a return of just a few dollars. These people are also stingy and generally dishonest themselves and think that everyone has the same warped reality as they.
Praestantia111 3 years ago
sorry you sound like a dude. Or you just have a deep voice
elconnero 3 years ago
thinking in a general way, rather than specifically in regard to business, i think it may just be that people are not willing to "own" their mistakes.
i think this is a social thing, and we are taught it from birth.
to overcome this, and to examine your mistakes is not a common point of view because you must first admit that you made a mistake.
this may be why people make the same mistake many times.
if they "owned" the error, they could examine the thought pattern that led to it, and avoid it
asidonhopo53 3 years ago
If I can prove to the provider of a product that I don't need their product then I in turn prove to myself that I'm good enough without it. It's not scapegoating it's masturbation of the ego.
zushiba 3 years ago
Even if someone has never encountered a sales person, they have a preconceived idea based on what other people have told them and I think this goes as far as to pre-emptively blind a person against a product's credability, even if it could benefit them.
DolchiO07 3 years ago
More into context, the selling a product story you mentioned... I think it is because the majority of people despise sales people. In my experience, can be rude, harrassing and generally they don't have anything useful to sell you (forgive me if I insult you, which seems a bit ironic)....
DolchiO07 3 years ago
I'm assuming its not too late to comment on this topic but here I go regardless.
I would have thought it was quite obvious why people scapegoat. People don't like to suffer negative consequences, therefore, if it is inevitable that bad things will come around, people will transfer the blame onto something or someone else to avoid it. The "Better you than me" expression springs to mind here.
DolchiO07 3 years ago
popping your knuckles is very bad, you are pushing the synovial fluid out of them and that can cause suffering later in life just wanted to let you know:.)
ladysnowladyd 3 years ago
Products require credibility. Market is full of fraud, people are always skeptical when money is involved, especially if the claims are considerable.
We blame others because its easier but not sure the relation to your product or your story.
truevoiceofsanity 4 years ago
you could just never be consistently disobedient,,lol..hahahahaha...yeah it was 8:30pm..but hey WOW,you do and you dont,a problem needs to be sorted ,but you cant forgive them..lol..I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WAS SAYING...and it was beautiful from a beautiful person.You certainly made my rainy day!
1GXG 4 years ago
salam...peace
smile...sometime please
arifdesign 4 years ago
Webster's Dictionary:
beauty:qualities that give pleasure to the senses or exalt the mind : LOVELINESS: also : something having such qualities.
brain 1:the part of the vertebrate nervous system that is the organ of thought and nervous coordination, is made up of nerve cells and their fibers, and is enclosed in the skull: also : a centralized mass of nerve tissue in an invertebrate 2:INTELLECT, INTELLIGENCE.
Beauty and Brain LOVE your videos,keep up the good work.
cyberdookie 5 years ago
Your assumption that "reason" need be logical is not universally held. Further, your question assumes that personal decisions are internally derived; in fact, most people focus on externals—probably in direct proportion to their (in)ability to contact and express their internal processes (and self). Allow for those alternatives and your question is answered.
DukeStreetBill 5 years ago
If I were to cover all possible answers, there would be little to no room for feedback. I never said logic was the only factor for people when making decisions. Logic is a factor for me, a dominating factor. I am well aware that decisions and actions are strongly influenced by emotion, but it is more an issue of the psychology rather than environment. I do allow for the alternatives. There is not definitive answer to the human psychology. I was only curious to see what other's are thinking.
Recalcitrance 5 years ago
And yet the question was posed such as to suggest that the example's behavior went against logic. By logic, I mean the set of assumptions you laid down as a baseline against which that person's behavior was measured (and therefore, implicitly explained). My answer, more simply put, would be that he doesn't think or feel like you. His psychology is unknown to me, and, beyond the generalization I offered, the psychology of the general public cannot be more specifically presented.
DukeStreetBill 5 years ago