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So live a life without emotional feeling? For all its madness I would live with the ability to love and be hurt rather than a robot of a system where the only love is money and power and the control that goes hand in hand with it.
@gruyyt Its not just once in a life time. The first two times it happened to me almost BROKE me completely, but I only came back stronger. This time feels different. They say the third times the charm, right?
You get pulled towards the same attitude, understanding of life, knowledge and personality as well. This is why it's always extremely risky to fall in love. All of that stuff changes....and quite rapidly! It might have been possible in the 1800s and before, but now the person you fall in love with will not be the same person 6 months further down!
and having very little money and no right to work and he unable to find work just made it all the more terrifying and difficult. I used to be a very happy carefree person back when I had steady work and enough money to survive. It was the lack of money/security that made me miserable and sick. I am absolutely certain that money will make my life go from terrifying to bliss. I am all the more certain now since he has been hired and even though he hasnt started yet we both feel much less depressed
@crumblepie001 I dont think money makes you happy. It your personal philosophy and outlook mostly, but also your living situation impacts it greatly. I just spent the last 3 years going to food banks and begging the inlaws for rent money every month (for the last year anyway). We were constantly on the brink of being homeless, I developed anxiety disorder and have dental pain with no hope of affording the dentist. I had to immigrate to his country so that we could be allowed to live together...
I still don't buy this whole love thing. She said it's like an addiction and there is a deep attachment. The neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp hints at how love relates to our basic emotional systems; I get the feeling that those who feel love most strongly are just those who've had the most painful separation distress as babies! Me included! I've been 'in love' with several girlfriends and each time I got over them, I realise I didn't actually like them without the rose tinted spectacles on!
@tobo86 You/We enjoy the feeling of love, 'elevation of energy' which is attached to a person/relationships. That is what love is. Love is activated by the characteristics you adore in someone. So the several girlfriends must have common factors that bring out the 'energy level' in you... hope that made sense, im half asleep... :)
@gagzy1989 Hmmm sounds like you are onto something, although I must admit, for my thoughts to be clear, I need to translate words like 'energy' into science. Coz it could be a language trap! But that still makes sense, I would just call it activating the emotional systems. Haha, I'm actually a robot, but I never let on!! To be honest though, I think the girlfriends were doing a combination of soothing my attachment insecurity and sexing me up at the same time. Scuse the vulgarity but it's true!
If some great mind could just connect these specific perceptions with a reason for the cosmic uniting of souls in Love, then, just maybe we could proceed to greater realms of understanding.
I'm incredibly addicted to my husband. Relationship is 5 years strong. Im not delirious like I was for the first year or so, but I am still strongly drawn to him and same with him. I know we will be one of those old couples who still truly love each other. I feel so lucky. I won the love lottery.
Now if only I wasn't so damn poor. lol. One more lottery to win :P
I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tending to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tanding to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tanding to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tanding to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tending to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tending to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
Wow, thanks for the coffee shop poetry reading about "love." Did you guys do any interesting research? Because I didn't get very far before I gave up.
i did like this but i wish that more of it was about science and not about quotes from plato and others, i mean it does help people to think outside of the box and such, but it almost seems as she is having a stab at what love is rather than using a more scientific approach
yes she used brain scans and such but it would of been better if it was a bit more in-depth scientifically
Seems she's never been in love ever, she would know true love lasts longer that the profusion of the passions which you can't get rid of. What she's talking about is not love, just one layer of it, she actually destroys the true meaning of it. I feel sorry for her and those who eat this crap =(
I'm very happy because I found this speech again! I'm very interested in this subject! ;) I would like to define my own feelings... yet, it's impossible to define it rationally, scientifically. Perhaps it's all about some energy we all have - we just meet this other energy, which is for us the 'right' energy, and that's all. The matter of two compatible energies.
All nice, but how about people like my girlfriends& I who have a poly-amourous relationship? I've never felt more in love than I have with these two beautiful souls who by some miracle love me and each other too! I understand it is not the norm, but being ambidextrous isn't either! So much for the theory that humans are built to love one at a time only! Maybe I should be happy with freedom in Europe because I also know a woman and her two male partners who've been happily together for 23yrs!!!
Her brain scan data hasn't explained anything. It basically says, "It's all in the head." We knew that already. So now we know what part. Big deal. Now we can say, "It's all in the amygdala, or some such." That isn't an explanation, nor are the hormone ratios. It's like a caveman scanning a moving car and saying, "I found a hot spot under the hood, so now we know how it works. And when it goes fast, we get a gas out the pipe." It can be used for lie detection, though -- fake love detected.
She's trying to be a moving orator too hard and to put on a show of rhetoric with that poem and the pompous inflections. Her cocaine joke flopped, because she's not playing it straight. Drop the act and speak from the heart without reading those darn canned notes. Bad speaker. This is why college can suck. Your stuck with a pompous turkey like this and all her hot air.
It's hard to believe that when you finally get to the specifics of her research and findings, they are pretty damn intriguing. It is sad to find her droning on in her presentations, interviews and written work from page one or minute one.
@BobMcCob ? What is your point ''Bob'' in those two words? IF you still need more explanation to what I've previous declared: I am against in ''scianifically'' research about the human SOUL characteristics... WHAT are scientists doing? They CUT deep to FIND those so called ''evidences''...
@Life3is - & WHO would scientifically look for what is in some one's SOUL - no matter the path they use, there is THE SAME - they are CRIMINALS! Someone should NOT QUESTION LOVE/FEELINGS/such evidence or otherwise - whatever it is about the SOUL! Thank you for your time :)(:
@Life3is Define "soul". Is the soul the personality, the feelings, the cares that you have, or the experience of these things? Everything you love, all you have known and your personality, tastes, opinions and ideas are the structure of your brain and the chemicals within. The subjective experience of these is anyone guess.
Love be chemicals, case closed.
And I'm extremely sure that human vivisection is looked down upon by the scientific community, if that is what your getting at.
@BobMcCob - & WHO would scientifically look for what is in some one's SOUL - no matter the path they use, there is THE SAME - they are CRIMINALS! Someone should NOT QUESTION LOVE/FEELINGS/such evidence or otherwise - whatever it is about the SOUL! Thank you for your time :)(:
@BobMcCob -HAVE you idea what is that to you to be in a scientist's eye?You wouldn't be agnowledged about it - imagine - when it is about your behaviour in this subject, would you?IF I was the case of such a subject,OR I just felled under a stupid person's power-that was it,my chance-but I need no more the service of a dating site (as these scientists used) & I need no other new criminal person in my life either-thks! IF I'M STILL ALIVE(?)it's not to kill my criminal...nor to look for another!!
@Life3is i read your "arguments" with BobMcCob, and you sir, are either an ignorant fool or a troll. I can't decide which, so at peril of feeding a troll...
Your statements clearly show you have no notion of biochemistry, neurology, physics, science in general, or the architecture of data processing systems.
Your "soul", interpreted as your conciousness, is a result of your connectome, and the signals it uses. Simplified stated, it's a feedback loop in an analog circutry.
Amazing information and yet most of the comments are about the speaker. lol. Guilty myself in that I found it distracting, but I was able to receive the material as well. And I think maybe this relates to the fact that the Panda in the Zoo, I think Ling Ling which refused to mate for so long simply wasn't attracted to the other panda and therefore couldn't even get it up to get it on. They should have just gotten him drunk and slipped him some "ecstasy." Science. Go figure.
I really wanted to listen to this talk but I couldn't hear her voice after struggling through 5 mins of it. It was so annoying. I'll find something to read instead.
I tried to analyse exactly what was annoying - the breathing, the speed, the lack of spaces in between words that allows one to assimilate the information contained. The pitch, suffering from an illness - I couldn't quite make it out. Shame really cause I wish no offence at all.
@jay123tysk Yeah I do know religion is bullshit. thats why i wrote what i did. if you look back to when organized religion was created you can look through the holy texts and see that the women and african has been seen as inferior. Dude, in 1909 the POPE! said that women would hurt society if they tried to have a life outside the house. (and im a guy)
yes religion is bullshit. you dont need to tell me. thanks though
men have been providers, women have been the ones who care for the family. over time religion has manifested this idea in their own ways. the point is, religion fucks up everything. people find a way to use religion as a scape goat.
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This is like the research i was hoping to do :p. But i realised that one couldn't get past an ethics commitee for what I wanted to study. Absolutely brilliant ideas! Keep them coming X
you know rorygherbert1990 has a very good point. that is bullshit. this "men are better than women" shit is stupid. women have been shit on for years because people take all that religion to literally. why cant women have 4 husbands why do only the men do. i can guess because it was written by a bunch horny sexist sociopathic men.
@Spacemonkey742 Women tend to desire sex less regularly than men. They also can have at most 1 baby every nine months. That's why it makes more sense for a man to want multiple wives than it does for a woman to want multiple husbands.
There are however societies where women have multiple husbands.
i agree that men are not better than women but we are different. There are matriarchal societies where women do have multiple partners. Sadly there is a correlative relationship between patriarchal vs matriarchal societies and the fact that every single first world country is male dominant. Chris Rock said it best when he said "you would think woman would rule the world but you know why they dont? women.. hate.. women!" ^^
@Spacemonkey742 Do women even want four husbands? Some women might have high sex drives due to the testosterone in their bodies but can they really handle 4 men's sex drives? The reason you don't see women with multiple husbands is because they don't want it. Men in the past had multiple wives because we needed to spread our genes, to reproduce. Also, it's normal to see men with many wives at one single point in time because the women dissipates all his sex drive.
even though its her job as a researcher, i feel like she's trying to explain every little thing; as if every single part of love can be explained by something scientific.
Fire runs through my body with the pain of loving you Pain runs through my body with the fires of my love for you Pain like a boil about to burst with my love for you Consumed by fire with my love for you I remember what you said to me I am thinking of your love for me I am torn by your love for me Pain and more pain Where are you going with my love? I am told you will go from here I am told you will leave me here My body is torn with grief Remember what I said, my love Goodbye my love Goodbye.
Since seeing Dr Daniel Amen's special on PBS The Brain in Love, I have become fascinated by this topic. A fascinating study indeed. Not to be disrespectful, but I think she would do well to hone her skills at public speaking.
04:14 People who are in love show activity found in base of brain in the Reptilian-complex. This area makes dopamine and sprays it to other parts of the brain. People who also show activity in this area are on cocaine!
05:33 Rejected lovers showed activity in regions where intense love and attachment occur. When you cannot get what you want, you grave it even more.
Helen Fisher says when you cannot get what you want in love, you CRAVE it more, not grave it more. That was a Freudian slip, because i have experienced an excruciatingly slow rejection of existing deep love and i had suicidal ideations.
We crave love because, yes it is an instinctual behavior, and we experience it at birth when our mothers, in a rush of oxytocin, nurture us. It is called the attachment theory. In terms of our genes, the purpose of life is to procreate, raise our children to adulthood, and then to die. Love can become an addiction, thus people die for it. Remember that love is not entirely rational.
In the networking world, no theory is dumb. Your individual theory is as valid as each of ours, and i would love to hear yours. The crazier, the better! I enjoy wild imaginations when they conjecture. I think people can die over ending intense love, simply because their pain becomes too great to bear. Death is a painless solution. Your theory if you can still remember? Sometimes our minds lose our good ideas if we do not write them down. Is it to inflict guilt on ex-lover?
we crave love possibly because it's instinctual behavior that is chemically inspired by the need to survive and to procreate to survive the human species. also one of the basic human needs is human recognition and it's a need so we just have the basic need to be recognized by others...and especially love...it's our nature. why do some people die for it? cause it's complicated if i told you why, you would think i am crazed!
I cannot believe what she says is what is happening to me... Since one year ago, I declared myself to one guy and he rejected me and I still like him. It may sound stupid but don't know what to do because It's very hard to forget about him!
perhaps u even have things that will annoy him to a point. it could be too much attention or whatever.
the only way a guy could become intersted in a woman is seeing something that he THINKS he lacks in his everyday life. wether its happiness or simply just a great friend.
i absolutely agree with her that socio economic status, education levels and good looks aren't the main criteria for attraction, it's an innate biology.
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LOL... yeah sure... Anna Nicole Smith said that exact same thing about her hubby too :)
Yes, someone can die of a broken heart. When someone is separated from THAT person they can no longer interact with them and slowly they start to shut down in thier minds and then in the body. The human desire to live is strong and can be revitalized with new intereasts and will reboot, just like a computer. So Don't Loose Heart.
i absolutely agree with her that socio economic status, education levels and good looks aren't the main criteria for attraction, it's an innate biology.
individuals are attracted to certain people just by the stimuli their face provides to another's brain.
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"We tend to fall in love... same social/economic background; the same general level of intelligence; the same general level of good looks... and nobody knows how"
Why don't you go ask a group of people living in poverty and have them describe what a perfect dinner is for them; and then ask another group of millionaires the same question.
Compare the cost and see if you can figure that one out, Einstein!
(Oh, my bad, Einstein was not a anthropologist, and he also wasn't a corporate sellout)
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lightandbeautiful 5 days ago
Lovely!
StudentencorpsNL 1 week ago
So live a life without emotional feeling? For all its madness I would live with the ability to love and be hurt rather than a robot of a system where the only love is money and power and the control that goes hand in hand with it.
2012Aragorn 1 month ago
I have felt as though I have loved so DEEPly that entire universes were being created. Is this normal??
calebhartkey 1 month ago
@calebhartkey Yes. your truly madly deeply in love, dont let it go, that sort is once in a lifetime
gruyyt 3 weeks ago
@gruyyt Its not just once in a life time. The first two times it happened to me almost BROKE me completely, but I only came back stronger. This time feels different. They say the third times the charm, right?
calebhartkey 3 weeks ago
@calebhartkey i think i know what u mean. loving so deeply you feel like passing out, because of the intense emotional stress,
gruyyt 3 weeks ago
Yeah, sexual attraction is strange ,the more Helen Fisher talks about it, the more I'm attracted to her....go figure.
Contakum 1 month ago
wonderful.
rahxephon52 1 month ago
Only if all females where educated like Helen Fisher.
fatpeoplemotivation 2 months ago
You get pulled towards the same attitude, understanding of life, knowledge and personality as well. This is why it's always extremely risky to fall in love. All of that stuff changes....and quite rapidly! It might have been possible in the 1800s and before, but now the person you fall in love with will not be the same person 6 months further down!
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Unfortunately she only understands this theoretically. Understand this as being true and you become a Buddhist
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All the old guys in the video looking at the speaker seems to be in love with her lol...and so am I
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If you think this is amazing, listen to the song Sunlove by Big Chocolate. It samples her speech and will blow your mind.
imjustakid22 2 months ago
She's very fucking annoying
Alexi243 2 months ago
science says that we love with our brain and religion says that we love with our heart.. true is somewhere in between
andreeaweed 2 months ago
Thank you .
junevortex 4 months ago
correct, but it isn't love she talks but just only passion...
RomanVasylenko 4 months ago
In her love of her eloquence and erudition and enthusiasm, she reminds me of Carl Sagan
2001Horatio 5 months ago
@crumblepie001
Actually, numerous studies of the sort HAVE been done, although I am unfortunately incapable of providing exact names/dates.
moscowmasha 5 months ago
Wow! My mind was blown...This video is great
WhisperellaRogue 6 months ago
love is a need
chetdog 6 months ago 8
"Love is in us,
It's deeply embedded in the brain,
Our challenge is to understand each other."
This woman speaks with such passion in her work, it's practically poetry<3
evilchildatb 6 months ago
what about our energetic bodies?
what about the heart? and the soul?
what about karma? keep researching!
johnwang67 6 months ago
"ehh, ehh, ehh"
Miniboy8 7 months ago
and having very little money and no right to work and he unable to find work just made it all the more terrifying and difficult. I used to be a very happy carefree person back when I had steady work and enough money to survive. It was the lack of money/security that made me miserable and sick. I am absolutely certain that money will make my life go from terrifying to bliss. I am all the more certain now since he has been hired and even though he hasnt started yet we both feel much less depressed
Aprilshowersss 7 months ago
@crumblepie001 I dont think money makes you happy. It your personal philosophy and outlook mostly, but also your living situation impacts it greatly. I just spent the last 3 years going to food banks and begging the inlaws for rent money every month (for the last year anyway). We were constantly on the brink of being homeless, I developed anxiety disorder and have dental pain with no hope of affording the dentist. I had to immigrate to his country so that we could be allowed to live together...
Aprilshowersss 7 months ago
Some people seem to fall in love constantly. Others, not so often. I used to fall in love a lot before entering college. Now in college, not at all.
someThinkingApe 8 months ago
Those are some awesome short-shorts at 15:13
MrIsaiah722 8 months ago
I still don't buy this whole love thing. She said it's like an addiction and there is a deep attachment. The neuroscientist Jaak Panksepp hints at how love relates to our basic emotional systems; I get the feeling that those who feel love most strongly are just those who've had the most painful separation distress as babies! Me included! I've been 'in love' with several girlfriends and each time I got over them, I realise I didn't actually like them without the rose tinted spectacles on!
tobo86 9 months ago
@tobo86 You/We enjoy the feeling of love, 'elevation of energy' which is attached to a person/relationships. That is what love is. Love is activated by the characteristics you adore in someone. So the several girlfriends must have common factors that bring out the 'energy level' in you... hope that made sense, im half asleep... :)
gagzy1989 9 months ago
@gagzy1989 Hmmm sounds like you are onto something, although I must admit, for my thoughts to be clear, I need to translate words like 'energy' into science. Coz it could be a language trap! But that still makes sense, I would just call it activating the emotional systems. Haha, I'm actually a robot, but I never let on!! To be honest though, I think the girlfriends were doing a combination of soothing my attachment insecurity and sexing me up at the same time. Scuse the vulgarity but it's true!
tobo86 9 months ago
@gagzy1989 And thanks for comment :-)
tobo86 9 months ago
If some great mind could just connect these specific perceptions with a reason for the cosmic uniting of souls in Love, then, just maybe we could proceed to greater realms of understanding.
StumpCreekSentinal 9 months ago
It's really not all about mating...! It can't be, what about loving or family and friends?!
And it's not like after you get married, and you become too old to have children and stop loving your spouse because you can no longer mate!!!
SomethingCklever 9 months ago
get your criminal shit off youtube
Zareste 9 months ago
I'm incredibly addicted to my husband. Relationship is 5 years strong. Im not delirious like I was for the first year or so, but I am still strongly drawn to him and same with him. I know we will be one of those old couples who still truly love each other. I feel so lucky. I won the love lottery.
Now if only I wasn't so damn poor. lol. One more lottery to win :P
Aprilshowersss 10 months ago
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"at least you come down from cocaine".... hahaa shes looks so uncomfortable wen no one laughs at her joke in bad taste lol my kinda lady
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I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tending to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
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I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tanding to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
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I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tanding to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
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I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tanding to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
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I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tending to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
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I love love love helen fisher AND this clip... but i totally disagree with the part about people tending to choose partenrs from the same socio-economic background... this has never been the case with me, in fact the opposite happened, I was always looking for something different! But this clip is classic and this woman is wonderfully articulate and emotive!
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aliaandreadi 11 months ago
Wow, thanks for the coffee shop poetry reading about "love." Did you guys do any interesting research? Because I didn't get very far before I gave up.
instereovideos 11 months ago
That is one bigass invisible retainer....
XSixClawX 1 year ago
i did like this but i wish that more of it was about science and not about quotes from plato and others, i mean it does help people to think outside of the box and such, but it almost seems as she is having a stab at what love is rather than using a more scientific approach
yes she used brain scans and such but it would of been better if it was a bit more in-depth scientifically
NinjaNerdJr 1 year ago
Seems she's never been in love ever, she would know true love lasts longer that the profusion of the passions which you can't get rid of. What she's talking about is not love, just one layer of it, she actually destroys the true meaning of it. I feel sorry for her and those who eat this crap =(
xgazette 1 year ago
first 8 minutes of crap, can't bear more sorry
TheRealCristianLuca 1 year ago
I'm very happy because I found this speech again! I'm very interested in this subject! ;) I would like to define my own feelings... yet, it's impossible to define it rationally, scientifically. Perhaps it's all about some energy we all have - we just meet this other energy, which is for us the 'right' energy, and that's all. The matter of two compatible energies.
jesienna83 1 year ago
All nice, but how about people like my girlfriends& I who have a poly-amourous relationship? I've never felt more in love than I have with these two beautiful souls who by some miracle love me and each other too! I understand it is not the norm, but being ambidextrous isn't either! So much for the theory that humans are built to love one at a time only! Maybe I should be happy with freedom in Europe because I also know a woman and her two male partners who've been happily together for 23yrs!!!
RaRaLandEQ 1 year ago
Her brain scan data hasn't explained anything. It basically says, "It's all in the head." We knew that already. So now we know what part. Big deal. Now we can say, "It's all in the amygdala, or some such." That isn't an explanation, nor are the hormone ratios. It's like a caveman scanning a moving car and saying, "I found a hot spot under the hood, so now we know how it works. And when it goes fast, we get a gas out the pipe." It can be used for lie detection, though -- fake love detected.
JoeyFudd 1 year ago
@JoeyFudd
Finding out how thing are working, in an ever more precise way, is exactly what science is all about.
TomFynn 1 year ago
She's trying to be a moving orator too hard and to put on a show of rhetoric with that poem and the pompous inflections. Her cocaine joke flopped, because she's not playing it straight. Drop the act and speak from the heart without reading those darn canned notes. Bad speaker. This is why college can suck. Your stuck with a pompous turkey like this and all her hot air.
JoeyFudd 1 year ago
@JoeyFudd
It's hard to believe that when you finally get to the specifics of her research and findings, they are pretty damn intriguing. It is sad to find her droning on in her presentations, interviews and written work from page one or minute one.
cmonster67 1 year ago
oh, Science starts at 15:00 or so, and at 15:30, I find out I'm a boy. Damn
TheTzeqin 1 year ago
urgh, get to the science
tzeqin 1 year ago
Thanks Prof Abramson from for this awesome link!!!
lakers348 1 year ago
this talk is good, but how do you differentiate between being authentically in love and being needy?
africanchina1 1 year ago
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You have discovered NOTHING! Just empty words!
That IS NOT love :(
A scientist is as stupid as any other criminal can be_
WHAT exactly have you discovered?
Hey, you've just introduced me to ... NOTHING!
Where is your discovery? A tiny point into the brain?
You must not just be lucky next time when you'll have a lobotomy as some of us already had on Match.com :( Many thanks!
The money you earned will be good for the next winter for you? Or you'll get few more rats...? Nice to meet you :)(:
Life3is 1 year ago
@Life3is Truth scary?
BobMcCob 1 year ago
@BobMcCob ? What is your point ''Bob'' in those two words? IF you still need more explanation to what I've previous declared: I am against in ''scianifically'' research about the human SOUL characteristics... WHAT are scientists doing? They CUT deep to FIND those so called ''evidences''...
Life3is 1 year ago
@Life3is - & WHO would scientifically look for what is in some one's SOUL - no matter the path they use, there is THE SAME - they are CRIMINALS! Someone should NOT QUESTION LOVE/FEELINGS/such evidence or otherwise - whatever it is about the SOUL! Thank you for your time :)(:
Life3is 1 year ago
@Life3is Define "soul". Is the soul the personality, the feelings, the cares that you have, or the experience of these things? Everything you love, all you have known and your personality, tastes, opinions and ideas are the structure of your brain and the chemicals within. The subjective experience of these is anyone guess.
Love be chemicals, case closed.
And I'm extremely sure that human vivisection is looked down upon by the scientific community, if that is what your getting at.
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@BobMcCob - & WHO would scientifically look for what is in some one's SOUL - no matter the path they use, there is THE SAME - they are CRIMINALS! Someone should NOT QUESTION LOVE/FEELINGS/such evidence or otherwise - whatever it is about the SOUL! Thank you for your time :)(:
Life3is 1 year ago
@BobMcCob -HAVE you idea what is that to you to be in a scientist's eye?You wouldn't be agnowledged about it - imagine - when it is about your behaviour in this subject, would you?IF I was the case of such a subject,OR I just felled under a stupid person's power-that was it,my chance-but I need no more the service of a dating site (as these scientists used) & I need no other new criminal person in my life either-thks! IF I'M STILL ALIVE(?)it's not to kill my criminal...nor to look for another!!
Life3is 1 year ago
@BobMcCob SCIENTISTS should cut the deads not those ALIVE.
:)(:
Life3is 1 year ago
@Life3is i read your "arguments" with BobMcCob, and you sir, are either an ignorant fool or a troll. I can't decide which, so at peril of feeding a troll...
Your statements clearly show you have no notion of biochemistry, neurology, physics, science in general, or the architecture of data processing systems.
Your "soul", interpreted as your conciousness, is a result of your connectome, and the signals it uses. Simplified stated, it's a feedback loop in an analog circutry.
gulllars 1 year ago
hahahahhaa what strange creatures we are
Wiggyify 1 year ago 11
Amazing information and yet most of the comments are about the speaker. lol. Guilty myself in that I found it distracting, but I was able to receive the material as well. And I think maybe this relates to the fact that the Panda in the Zoo, I think Ling Ling which refused to mate for so long simply wasn't attracted to the other panda and therefore couldn't even get it up to get it on. They should have just gotten him drunk and slipped him some "ecstasy." Science. Go figure.
daskitso 1 year ago
I really wanted to listen to this talk but I couldn't hear her voice after struggling through 5 mins of it. It was so annoying. I'll find something to read instead.
I tried to analyse exactly what was annoying - the breathing, the speed, the lack of spaces in between words that allows one to assimilate the information contained. The pitch, suffering from an illness - I couldn't quite make it out. Shame really cause I wish no offence at all.
2JAMMY 1 year ago
amazing topic and a dull speaker
longleggedmakdaddy 1 year ago
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this is so beautiful.
papasmuffslover 1 year ago
@jay123tysk Yeah I do know religion is bullshit. thats why i wrote what i did. if you look back to when organized religion was created you can look through the holy texts and see that the women and african has been seen as inferior. Dude, in 1909 the POPE! said that women would hurt society if they tried to have a life outside the house. (and im a guy)
yes religion is bullshit. you dont need to tell me. thanks though
SEnsiStar32 1 year ago
Amazing!
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Hannipp 1 year ago
An exceptional speech, the fusion of neurobiology and philosophy was beautiful and, more importantly, augmented her point absolutely.
Bidds12 1 year ago 4
men have been providers, women have been the ones who care for the family. over time religion has manifested this idea in their own ways. the point is, religion fucks up everything. people find a way to use religion as a scape goat.
SEnsiStar32 1 year ago 2
@SEnsiStar32 Religion is BS and you know it.
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Terra7Q 1 year ago
This is like the research i was hoping to do :p. But i realised that one couldn't get past an ethics commitee for what I wanted to study. Absolutely brilliant ideas! Keep them coming X
MedicalDB 1 year ago 3
Thats complete bullshit the ISLAM system.
ISLAM System only benifets man.
Not women.
rorygherbert1990 1 year ago 6
yeah right
it benefits women much more than it does to men
women receive comfort and direct financial dependency from men while even they are working.
they are not asked to contribute their whole earnings
you people are blind and in dark ages
zeb120 1 year ago
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these athiest cunts dont understand one thing
the facts of three emotional feeling classes that they declare command upon have been awarded already BY ISLAM
men are allowed 4 marriages
one for arranged
one for attachment
one for sexdrive
one for love
whereas women are awarded 2 chances of marriage because for girls there is always two men in life
perfect marriage system laid down by ISLAM
zeb120 1 year ago
you know rorygherbert1990 has a very good point. that is bullshit. this "men are better than women" shit is stupid. women have been shit on for years because people take all that religion to literally. why cant women have 4 husbands why do only the men do. i can guess because it was written by a bunch horny sexist sociopathic men.
Spacemonkey742 1 year ago 17
yeah right
it benefits women much more than it does to men
women receive comfort and direct financial dependency from men while even they are working.
they are not asked to contribute their whole earnings
you people are blind and in dark ages
zeb120 1 year ago
its not written
it is divine and prophetic
it is linked to millions of years of revelations
zeb120 1 year ago
@Spacemonkey742 Women tend to desire sex less regularly than men. They also can have at most 1 baby every nine months. That's why it makes more sense for a man to want multiple wives than it does for a woman to want multiple husbands.
There are however societies where women have multiple husbands.
Paulginz 1 year ago
@Spacemonkey742 I bet you are a girl. Anyway, I still agree.
larbo1616 1 year ago
@larbo1616 I think he's a guy. But his reasoning is still faulty.
sevandyk 1 year ago
@Spacemonkey742 Damn speak the truth! [[:
MegganMarieMills 1 year ago
@Spacemonkey742 im trying to reply to reply to ur post but it keeps saying that there is an error...
mr3ashly 1 year ago
@Spacemonkey742
i agree that men are not better than women but we are different. There are matriarchal societies where women do have multiple partners. Sadly there is a correlative relationship between patriarchal vs matriarchal societies and the fact that every single first world country is male dominant. Chris Rock said it best when he said "you would think woman would rule the world but you know why they dont? women.. hate.. women!" ^^
MastermindDOR 11 months ago
@Spacemonkey742 Do women even want four husbands? Some women might have high sex drives due to the testosterone in their bodies but can they really handle 4 men's sex drives? The reason you don't see women with multiple husbands is because they don't want it. Men in the past had multiple wives because we needed to spread our genes, to reproduce. Also, it's normal to see men with many wives at one single point in time because the women dissipates all his sex drive.
PhantomLegos 10 months ago
Interesting!
delg11 1 year ago 2
Nonono... don't put maths equations into this...
'The lesser my hope, the hotter my love'
omg that's doomsday right there...
TheChewyTunes 1 year ago
Amazing & interesting.
nibblesxsips 1 year ago 4
it is not gratuitous that the leading scientist on 'love' is a woman. Even if she might be gay.
TheChewyTunes 1 year ago
I love this lecture... Very interesting research, amazing choice of poetry... interesting conclusions...
jesenjeLisce 2 years ago 3
I´ve just understood the half of her speach -.-
SatisfactionforYa 2 years ago
God that was wholly inelegant.
kiri101 2 years ago
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what a fucking crazy bitch
ATK5201 2 years ago
even though its her job as a researcher, i feel like she's trying to explain every little thing; as if every single part of love can be explained by something scientific.
ParisChic6 2 years ago
...ohh. This makes more sense. I guess. Lol
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redhairedjew 2 years ago
Calla vieja loca de mierda!
novoare 2 years ago
brandonmgd 2 years ago 77
Although this is also the basis for playing hard to get lol...
TheChewyTunes 1 year ago
@brandonmgd it's actually my body is numb with grief
nochoice2 1 year ago
@brandonmgd BULL SHI*
adamrocks2006 1 year ago
@adamrocks2006 Sorry you feel that way.
brandonmgd 1 year ago
Bravo from the EQ Coach who knows this ... I also do Dating Coaching. I hear about this all the time, up-close and personal.
susandunn 2 years ago
Wow! She's truly described my brain... Great job, wonderfully said and explained
1elena27 2 years ago
ooh dios mio!! D: El amor es un maldito, que no tiene piedad
kalceoer 2 years ago 3
es un puto. :(
mynameisjavier 2 years ago 2
jajajaja! =P
PAUTAC68 2 years ago
Wonderful, thank you very much to Helen!
chicademar80 2 years ago
Just love it! And she`s so smart n sexy!
thalesferro 2 years ago 4
love this video, 3rd time watching it, but how come i want to keep it to myself? ja ja ja
PanaTei 2 years ago
Since seeing Dr Daniel Amen's special on PBS The Brain in Love, I have become fascinated by this topic. A fascinating study indeed. Not to be disrespectful, but I think she would do well to hone her skills at public speaking.
Evan97531 2 years ago
Interesting points at:
04:14 People who are in love show activity found in base of brain in the Reptilian-complex. This area makes dopamine and sprays it to other parts of the brain. People who also show activity in this area are on cocaine!
05:33 Rejected lovers showed activity in regions where intense love and attachment occur. When you cannot get what you want, you grave it even more.
DefiningConcepts 2 years ago
Helen Fisher says when you cannot get what you want in love, you CRAVE it more, not grave it more. That was a Freudian slip, because i have experienced an excruciatingly slow rejection of existing deep love and i had suicidal ideations.
DefiningConcepts 2 years ago 3
I wish the TED mics didn't pick up so much treble - every breath, every sniff, every smack of the tongue. It's driving me crazy.
shuckslbj 2 years ago
We crave love because, yes it is an instinctual behavior, and we experience it at birth when our mothers, in a rush of oxytocin, nurture us. It is called the attachment theory. In terms of our genes, the purpose of life is to procreate, raise our children to adulthood, and then to die. Love can become an addiction, thus people die for it. Remember that love is not entirely rational.
sprungit 2 years ago
but i don't know the exact answer only a dumb theory!
phantomjane 2 years ago
In the networking world, no theory is dumb. Your individual theory is as valid as each of ours, and i would love to hear yours. The crazier, the better! I enjoy wild imaginations when they conjecture. I think people can die over ending intense love, simply because their pain becomes too great to bear. Death is a painless solution. Your theory if you can still remember? Sometimes our minds lose our good ideas if we do not write them down. Is it to inflict guilt on ex-lover?
DefiningConcepts 2 years ago
we crave love possibly because it's instinctual behavior that is chemically inspired by the need to survive and to procreate to survive the human species. also one of the basic human needs is human recognition and it's a need so we just have the basic need to be recognized by others...and especially love...it's our nature. why do some people die for it? cause it's complicated if i told you why, you would think i am crazed!
phantomjane 2 years ago
love it!
thnx for uploading!
cherriediamond 2 years ago
her voice makes me uncomfortable
chenhsun 2 years ago
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one of the more boring ted talks
hwwwarrior90 2 years ago
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my name is helen langloe fischer ,_.
Helenhihi 2 years ago
Interesante....
LIMZ16 2 years ago 4
oh boy. she turned this talk into an advertisement for her website with no conclusion to her research :(
Cannibalzz 2 years ago 4
I cannot believe what she says is what is happening to me... Since one year ago, I declared myself to one guy and he rejected me and I still like him. It may sound stupid but don't know what to do because It's very hard to forget about him!
andresmtv 2 years ago
when a guy doesnt show interst, it means
you dont have anything that he lacks.
perhaps u even have things that will annoy him to a point. it could be too much attention or whatever.
the only way a guy could become intersted in a woman is seeing something that he THINKS he lacks in his everyday life. wether its happiness or simply just a great friend.
5tranger 2 years ago 2
If it helps at all, I feel you're pain.
thekkl 2 years ago
"nobody gets out of love alive"
mtheoryrules 2 years ago
Good one! or sane :o)
LittleKamikadze 2 years ago
how does she explain the upwardly mobile?
queenie0106 2 years ago
i absolutely agree with her that socio economic status, education levels and good looks aren't the main criteria for attraction, it's an innate biology.
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LOL... yeah sure... Anna Nicole Smith said that exact same thing about her hubby too :)
SD619rules 2 years ago
so true everything you said.very interesting.can someone died of a broken heart?
babeokelly 2 years ago
Yes, someone can die of a broken heart. When someone is separated from THAT person they can no longer interact with them and slowly they start to shut down in thier minds and then in the body. The human desire to live is strong and can be revitalized with new intereasts and will reboot, just like a computer. So Don't Loose Heart.
srvinfinity 2 years ago
lol sorry bout my previous comment.
i absolutely agree with her that socio economic status, education levels and good looks aren't the main criteria for attraction, it's an innate biology.
individuals are attracted to certain people just by the stimuli their face provides to another's brain.
i absolutely believe this.
fluoridemakesudumb 2 years ago
when westerners talk about love, it is almost always love intertwined with sexual attraction or between the sexes.
they know so much about love yet the divorce rates are 1 in 2 in the west.
AHAHHAHAHAHA.
fluoridemakesudumb 2 years ago 3
her voice annoys me but very intreeking speech
missyBloodyMascara 3 years ago 18
ok. Then I'm genuinely sorry for questioning you. Take care
ellyunfortunetly 3 years ago
She's amazing
ellyunfortunetly 3 years ago
Incogniteaux: You read that out of a David Icke book didn't you? The Author who proclaims himself as 'Son of God'.
ellyunfortunetly 3 years ago
The god of love lives in the state of need. Et tu, Plato?
loveyoutodeathbut 3 years ago
i took her class at rutgers but she's very cool and i loved her way of teaching. She's always busy though.
asianbee21 3 years ago 3
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Beware! another breed of eugenicists is on the rise.
lverodio 3 years ago
Not one Obsession is good.
Feeling's make me so confused because they collide with my logical part of the brain. Aghhh It hurt's!
n3wby001 3 years ago
5/5. That nose-influenced voice can turn anything into comedy.
RickChimera 3 years ago
Absolutely!
Though I sympathize with the difficulty she must have with sounding sincere. :)
Animelovah89 3 years ago
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"We tend to fall in love... same social/economic background; the same general level of intelligence; the same general level of good looks... and nobody knows how"
Why don't you go ask a group of people living in poverty and have them describe what a perfect dinner is for them; and then ask another group of millionaires the same question.
Compare the cost and see if you can figure that one out, Einstein!
(Oh, my bad, Einstein was not a anthropologist, and he also wasn't a corporate sellout)
xusword 3 years ago
What does poverty have to do with what she's talking about? How about you GTFOKTHX
tickingclocks48 3 years ago
that is VERY interesting i will have to research on this brain of ours now..
xemosintightsx 3 years ago
That was incredibly fascinating.
VivekisV 3 years ago
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That thing about the temples in the first two minutes was a waste of time.
MrCropper 3 years ago
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Wonderful video Helen is saying love evolved
from animals. I beieve love evolved from God
before any animal existed. Study how the earth got its water or its seasons or how the
Dynosaurs where removed for mamals to live.
Thousands of acts of devine love or billions
to one coincidences to make way for humanity.
We have all to learn how to love that was the role of religion and perhaps it will be again
someday. Perhaps Helen can find love for your
neighbour in her test tube?
Peter
petebax1 3 years ago
the high of love is like coke....even more than.
brandnewsunday9 3 years ago
fantastic
rawrcalumx 3 years ago
Wow. What an incredible talk. One of our favourite TED talks ever.
societas1 3 years ago
That was BRILLIANT! And by the way shes a scientist not a politician. She doesnt tneed to perfect her bloody speaking skills.
1nsp1r0n 3 years ago
This lady had passion,but needs to be a more interesting speaker.
jmartinez562 3 years ago
The spit noises that her mouth makes are awful. I know it's kinda OCD, but it's super fucking irritating. I want to skin her face.
Also I'm quitting smoking. Maybe that has something to do with it.
soapboxtech 3 years ago
Love is definitely an addiction. FACT
papatoony 3 years ago
That was really interesting at the end about how women face each other while men sit side by side.
BoozyBeggar 3 years ago
I just consider love another meme, completely unsympathetic of what it may do to it's host.
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