Domestic violence

[Aquos1337]

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

[kissysmoocherlover]

sooooo sad they do this to these poor women

[Eternallightbearer]

So happy for these women who got help in their situations! I do hope they can forgive their abusers, and also receive the forgiveness that only comes from Jesus Christ! He died for us all, so we could be free, and spend Eternity in Heaven! " Whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved1" Romans 10:13

[byunboy]

sheesh marrying just after ten months?

[sarahcar1000]

so i can understand how they feel

[sarahcar1000]

there are more men that abuse womaen dude i was abused by my ex boyfriend

[ABCDE6294]

Under grants from the National Institute of Mental Health, the Family Research Laboratory from University of New Hampshire conducted a study on domestic violence. The following results came from the study:

1. At least 50% of domestic violence victims are male

2. Most domestic violence is initiated by females

3. Females are 3 times more likely to use a weapon during domestic violence

4. Females beat their spouse more severely and more often than males beat their spouse.

[WickedKaddy]

@ABCDE6294 I was exploring the Family Research Laboratory's website.. I found an international study on domestic violence, but could not find the research results.  Could you please provide a citation? I would like to see this data if possible.

[cheapcape]

..and what about the falsely accused? These orgs are very one-sided.

[MrWolverine3]

I agree that meaningless violence is weakness, but what if the woman uses this to gain the upper hand? What if she uses the fact that she can get him arrested to get whatever she wants? Is that normal? Is that right?

[MrKatanaKid]

Men who rape, and abuse women are just Weak, they act superior to women that they obivously are weaker than they are, to cover up their own insecurties.

[XQueenieXBX]

As i watch this i have a small fat lip......its going to get worse aint it :(

[eightballbank]

thank you! a great video i am a advocate as well! please see my channel i will subscribe and add as well

[NinkaPanda]

My friend's sister was in a abusive relationship, we told her to not to stay with the guy anymore but she intended to still say that she loved him. I dunno what goes on, but it must be hard to women in abusive relationships wanting to leave or not. I feel so helpless, because you can't exactly force someone out of a relationship that they want, because they will end up going back to them. I personally think more education should be done to help people intervene before something happens.

[bluemountain555]

Women....give nice guys a chance. They will never, ever abuse you. But the reality is, time and time again women show extremely stupidity to be attracted so abusive men while rejecting nice men. As a result, it's hard to sympathize with women who are vicitms of domestic violence.

[Godzilla8420]

@bluemountain555 I absolutely agree with you!

[MegaWinnieGirl]

@bluemountain555 You're an insensitive idiot.

[1middlesbrough]

@bluemountain555 its not stupidity, women just like aggression, must do , otherwise they would not even spend 1 minute with men like that. Thats why in most parts of the world , husbands are chosen for women, they just have not got the sense , or as i say they just like violence , turns em on

[vasemedroserii]

@bluemountain555 So you really believe that these women that are attrackted to good-looking men deserve it? That is stupid! You heard them say that the guys were nice and charming in the beginning.

[DontSilenceViolence]

@bluemountain555 unless you've been there u cant possibly understand, an abuser (not always necessarily a man) starts off nice & charming & ur deep n luv & then control begins. then its too late u think the hitting n controlling will stop it gets worse. Domestic Violence is like a disease until ur ready 4 the cure & alot of us dont have the necessary high self esteem it becomes broken down. Imagine if it was ur mom sis bro cousin etc sum 1 n ur family would u say the same thing?

[LI4E1]

Gymarachel,i say the same thing. May god bless you

[lanceintersection144]

I cant hit the woman who has my children, and whom I call my wife cause to me she'll be as beautiful as life and hurting her purposely would turn me into the very people I dislike

[EscargoTouChaud]

It is so important to talk about this. Bravo to those women in the clip!

[Mark10Fischer]

LONGING FOR FREEDOM is a 90-minute feature film

which tells the story of a young woman who liberates herself from an

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.

Please have a look at the trailer and let us know what you think.

Thanks,

[STARSandBARS1994]

I smell Libs

[edd77]

make divorce and custody laws fair and i bet you anything that any violent crime against women will drop

[gymrachel]

one day I will get away from it... things will gt better

[abdullahalmahmood]

@gymrachel are you suffering from this?

[sweethippy67]

I just wanted to say, theres a good book called "whos pulling your strings" by Harriet B. Braiker and i highly recommend it to anyone who is being manipulated/controlled or even going through domestic violence in general. It helps to be more aware of these kind of people who are likely to control people by applying concepts in situations and personality.

[jleecast100]

i was a victim of domestic violence. Denied proper healthcare. Beaten . Ty for being anti domestic violence.

[ltt989]

We need to castrate all these sorry excuses of men who commit domestic violence.

[Sivels]

@ltt989 what do we do about all the women who commit violence against men? You know, the majority of cases of domestic violence are initiated by women.

[jcollinsvideos]

I watched this and thought that these ladies ar every strong. Please watch my video jcollins Time 2 Talk the official video  about the death of a dear friend from domestic violence

[4everSupportive]

It's awful and I wish these women the best. My own best friend went through the same thing

[rachaelxxsxx]

I am suffering from domestic voilence it dont happen all the time but happens when the house is not up to 'his standards' or when he tries to control me, my 2 yr old son sees his dad hit his mum and smash the house up i wish i had the courage to leave :(

[floatzel104]

@rachaelxxsxx same with me my dad is very abusive to my mom but a word of adavise to u watch out 4 ur son leave just leave 4 the sake of ur son cuz when he grows upp there is a good chance he will abuse his wife and kids don't let him watch just leave cuz boys who mom have been abused will most likely do it to his own keep safe best wishes ;)

[robinveter]

@rachaelxxsxx : Hey i know i might be pretty difficult to give the first step, but please love yourself help yourself out and then you can give a good exemple for your soon.Abusive relationship is a circle, if you don't move out from this, it's never going to change.Where you live must have some place that you can go for support, first you must call the police and then a support place, you aren't alone, other people have done it before now is your turn, don't be affraid you are stronge

[sweethippy67]

@rachaelxxsxx there is no excuse for hitting/beating up someone. You have the power just find it and hold on to it... the option is in your hands. I feel bad for your son. Please act quickly on the matter. . . It will do good for everyone. The minute you make the move, he will see what is wrong with him and maybe he will change if you do that. If you stay its likely he wont change (unless he decides to see a therapist).

[karenwwjd]

I lived 12 years of this before I got out, taking my four young children, with me, It was the best thing I ever did. I would encourage any woman being hurt to get out of it. The police helped me and i ran over 200 miles away. I hadnt got a home anymore but had my children and was away from the fear, violence rapes etc he was putting me throuigh.My kids suffered because of it and im glad I got away for their sakes.

[dynisty5706]

@karenwwjd well done!

[royalsteven]

Domestic violence is not ok to women or to men. Because what if you have a woman who practices martial arts and could defend herself and kick her man's ass would it be ok to hit her man or vica versa? People made you believe only hitting women is ok because they are physically weaker and because woman hitting/abusing man is taboo.

[slipknotmetalchickk]

men who abuse women are weak

[dynisty5706]

@slipknotmetalchickk so true they feel weak so try to weaken them!

[sweethippy67]

@slipknotmetalchickk selfish too 

[gethsoftware]

@slipknotmetalchickk you dont say. its pretty much like with any other ape. in work, the boss usualy loads his tress on workers below him, and those do the same to those with the people below them. so who is lower then the lowest man at work? his wife ofcourse, and she then loads her stress to children. its called pyraimd of stress. now this does not justify abuse of anykind. but it explanes how abuse has creeped in to our psygology. its parasitic way to relive ones stress.

[npadul30]

@slipknotmetalchickk

What about women who abuse men?

[Windyshoot]

@npadul30

Start opening up support centres for abused men then. Because there aren't that many right now, and most that do exist are actually run by feminists that also support battered women. But as the seriousness of abuse increases, the more likely the victim is a heterosexual female or homosexual male.

[samatron2010]

@ilovemac26agmail seriously? she's closed her account :|

[sweethippy67]

@samatron2010 are you still here?

[karan6]

so sad just looking into there eyes you can see so much pain

[starfaery]

It's allways a sign of weakness, for a guy to hit girls.

[blendell69]

domestic abuse/violence is not caused by anger, so saying women have equal aggression to men its about the dominator being in control. No one has the right to abuse you!

[sweethippy67]

Excellent video on this subject. I was a victim of domestic violence...had to write about it for my sociology class. I say if I could go back ...I would go back all the way.

I was at a breaking point but I am glad I found a domestic violence website and that was help to my consciousness ...to just get out someway. It could have gotten so bad.. I cut contact with him for only a few months now...I still am healing. I still feel negative feelings at times..

[ilovemac26agmail]

@sweethippy67 hi iam having the same problem idont know what to do, i been marriages for 11 years now he is very controlling i can't have any friends i need help

[sweethippy67]

excellent video on this topic.

[ahmz35]

this videos is great it's help a lot to all women , who get married , be aware this kind of violence. God help us

[bermudatriangle83]

I've dealt w this prob.... what angers me is how ppl I told abt abuse ..... accused me of having "mental probs" & how "mental health' ppl perpetrate this.... it's like no one wants anything to do w me....bc of it... everyone turns backs....4 having probs.....even tho not act nuts or any of that.....being a woman & having any kind of probs seems to make one automatically guilty of being a nut job... TY psychiatrists 4 perpetrating this....not that some ppl don't need therapy 4 abuse but damn!

[hollywoodartchick]

@bermudatriangle83 i relate. Nobody wants to get involved, and it is easiest to just blame the victim and brush them off.

[JamieDean]

No one gets in a relationship to become a victim of abuse in any form .

[josefemme77]

Let us all be more aware and sensitive. Give back the much needed crucial power and control to the survivors of D.V. with our knowledge and support. free from judgment and condemnation We all need to reach out to help with love.After all never... say never. it could happen to you.

[lauraisbob17]

wow my stomach sunk when she said about the drugging. That happened to me... Just like her nobody believe me.. Im glad i am no longer with that person

[msmiche1000]

don't forget the brutality of emotional and psychological abuse. it often times preceeds the physical. red flags

[jairomvilla03]

check out the rapper batty battle giving tribute to domestic violence by typing in "batty battle be with you" a song he did for domestic violence awareness month

[Rachiejane1]

Why does every domestic violence video have to be about who is hit most? It's not a competition! Violence towards anyone is wrong.

[lilgeorge333]

omg poor thing she had a termination :'( thats so sad

[tigerwoman]

Zoe looks like she just cried.

I reunited with a male former classmate on facebook alone & he eventually exhibited this controlling attitude, he changed over 24 years. I didn't have to met him in person to figure that out & deleted him before he deleted me. That's called up holding your power. If anybody see these signs run & find a better person. Don't allow anybody to play with your emotions.

[kwcskl]

For me, being a victim of emotional abuse, I was very fortunate that I had very close friends around me who were there willing to help me. Even though my husband eventually left our home for another woman, the emotional abuse affected my own image of myself and the way in which I viewed myself as a productive member of sociiety. I was fortunate in that I was able to have access to a counselor who helped me to believe in myself and recognize all the good that I had to offer. 

[charyuill]

@kwcskl @Odinfriends The HER CENTRE is a charitable organisation working for life betterment of local women affected by domestic violence who reside in the London Borough of Greenwich. For more info contact us at Forum at Greenwich, Trafalgar Road, Greenwich, SE10 9EQ, Tel 0208 858 0748

[bigj4lj]

no one needs this these type of men are just low

[ZodiacSystem]

good educational video :)

[eepidoodle]

@Odinfriends a sad fact is spousal abuse goes both ways. just like women up til the 90s, men are just too ashamed to come forward a lot of the time. just like with women being beaten, men need to realise its nothing to be ashamed of and stand up and report these women.

[zewalla]

The problem is that these women are attracted to violent men.

[bluemountain555]

@zewalla Agreed. It's so digusting that women go from one abusive man to another while they rejecting docile men.

Ladies: Give nice guys a chance!

[SuzSeptember]

@bluemountain555 most abuser dont get violent until after they marry or have children..most women dont see a violent side until they are married. Once married the man can be himself...an abuser

[Hzqi]

@bluemountain555

No, sorry, "docile men" are not any kind of answer.



[SuzSeptember]

@zewalla that is not always the problem..if you listen to these women talking ,there spouse never got violent until after they got married or had children, so its not because they were attracted to a violent man..these women thought they were marrying a good man

[Rachiejane1]

@zewalla What a ridiculous comment

[CerebralMadness]

@zewalla your crazy...plenty of men WHO SEEM normal are violent nobody ask to be beat

[dolly32112]

this women are really smart, i really aspire to be like them

[skycladwow]

I got hurt, went to A and E, what shoked me was that police new him and his habits

and then found out that he was teling my family not to contact me, feel so sad for my kids to have been witness to it

[Alphaboo2]

6%? it is more like 40%. Everyone talks about the hidden shame of the abuse of women. The truth is the real shame is the abuse of men. Women have to face why didn't you just leave. Men are just not believed. A big man like you? How can you be a victim of abuse. What a real shame. Women' positions are better, men' are worse. Posters in hospitals about abuse only speak about women as victims. Women who steal their children from their husbands who have custody are forgiven, men vilified.

[DarthMalak1000]

Would've been better if they showed victims of BOTH sexes, so then that way we wouldn't have this shit going on down here.

[fiveboro718]

when it all comes down to it if it is men or women violence is horrible all around. People need to keep their hands to their damn self. It is incredible how people can argue who is more violent. That is like two cripple people arguing who can walk better it is just dumb.

[MultiPantsonfire]

:| wow that makes me sad, im worried about my sister because she can be a push over, but right now she isnt in a relation ship. This video is really shocking and sad, i dont like it....

[Gwisemua]

I got shivers down my spine when one of the women said: "I always ended up saying sorry, even tough I hadn't done anything, just to keep the peace". That's how it works with emotional manipulation. There comes a point in which the victims lower themselves to the ground in order to avoid conflict. It's sintomatic of emotional violence.

[angelic6465]

I dated a man once for 6 months that abused me, it started out very slow at first, eventually he started beating me, I tried to leave but he threatened, intimidated and stalked me. One night he beat me quite badly and told me he was going to kill me with a knife, I heard him go downstairs and get a knife. I climbed out a second story window and fell 25ft. I fractured my pelvis in 3 places, 2 vertebrae and lost a tooth. He spend 90 days in jail while I spent 90 days hospitalized to walk again.

[kennboy1]

@angelic6465 WOW I can't believe it, if this is real hope you get recover (emotionally)

[mrjazz747]

ORVX, women commit most DV? Oh, yeah, they drag their husband by their hair, throw them on the floor and kick them right? Most of my life I've seen mostly men doing the beating. Of course there are women who abuse their husband, but to say that most DV are committed by women is down right ridiculous. Only whiney men would make up such crap. Women and girls are usually the victims all over the world.

[MrSpieldose]

abuse toward anyone is wrong... my dad smacked me once and got arrested and my mother used to beat me every day and got away with it when I called the cops.

[kebabonastick]

me and mum went through abuse and I HATE HATE HATE this government my dad got NOTHING!!

police came round look at my mum battered and leave him with us.

It sickens me this whole country and how we treat each other

[mdtrtwlt]

I think this video is exceptional in that it tells two stories that demonstrate emotional manipulation as DV and physical violence as DV, especially since it is harder to identify emotional manipulation as being DV.

[Gwisemua]

@mdtrtwlt I agree with you. Some people don't even think of emotional violence as violence at all. I got shivers down my spine when one of the women said: "I always ended up saying sorry, even tough I hadn't done anything, just to keep the peace". That's how it works with emotional manipulation. There comes a point in which the victims lower themselves to the ground in order to avoid conflict. It's sintomatic of emotional violence.

[R4ruku]

Domestic violence is practically synonymous with substance abuse. If the accused acts like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde and is abusing alcohol or other mind altering substances, I BEG you to find shelter. Family, friends, anything. I understand this is someone you care about or love, but they are one drink/thought/hit away from destruction. "BUT I LOVE HIM..." When his eyes are something else, he doesn't love you. He can and will kill you.

[bellasonja]

I am so horrified and sickened, by what a large percentage of males in any country do to women. It's horrific, disturbing and just straight forward sickening. I despise it very much and hope it comes to an end.

[thedancinggymnast]

Join this facebook group 'Domestic violence is not funny!' because I am sickened by the motivational style posters that show an abused woman because they make a man a sandwich. It's wrong!!! It is also for abusive jokes about men too!

[Divine3231]

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HURTS EVERYONE.

[glitterbuh10]

its NEVER okayy to hit a girl, woman, boy, man, baby....its just plain right SICK!

[videodads]

Nice to see you include men & boys in that... most D/V speakers remain silent on the male sex as if to imply "it's ok when men suffer". The NHS in this video misrepresent, claiming it's 6% - when in reality it's at least 33%. They mention that 2women die p/w, but ignore that 3 men a fortnight die (i.e. only 4 women/3men - hardly a huge difference to justify ignoring male victims).

Kudos to you glitterbuh

[JohnnyCosmos1]

@glitterbuh10

Yes, I agree. Hitting, regardless of the age or gender of someone is never acceptable. The common notion that women should be able to hit men is terrible logic. A HUMAN BEING should not be hurting another HUMAN BEING. People have to stop placing emphasis on gender, and start placing an emphasis on the fact that violence is not the answer.

[Van2Dan]

@glitterbuh10 You're right! It's not okay to hit anyone no matter what race or gender the person is. Unless if it's self-defense.

[Van2Dan]

@glitterbuh10

[NANOFORGE]

@glitterbuh10 Exactly, someone who speaks with logic. It's wrong to hit anyone regardless of race, gender or species. I think only regarding women is quite sexist.

[PrimeReality]

All the signs are there in the beginning. People put the crazys through a test before you proceed.

[delocollier]

a guy once told me he didnt care if i was a woman

[crackwhen]

if a guy hits a woman, he is a wife beater, if a guy beats a man who is a woman's size, its fine; i dont get it, is it about the difference in size between men and woman or what

[princessmeow123]

who said it was ok...abuse is abuse no matter who is being abused or doing the abuseing

pedophiles abuse boys the size of woman..

[PASocietyRules]

i cant believe that men are watching this video and implying that some women may deserve it!!!

how stupid!!!!!! its for awareness, men and women.

yes! it happens to men. Its more of a problem for women though, why is that so difficult for medieval minds to comprehend? its shouldnt be happening. FULL STOP!

[bagpyprrr540]

Do your research. 6% of men are the REPORTED statistics, not the ACTUAL. Why is it that women are so unwilling to acknowledge the violent streak they harbour within? Projected ACTUAL cases of MALE spousal abuse by women surpasses that of violence against women by men. Why is it that no one wishes to look at THIS little tidbit?

[ORVX]

yep CDC! good post

[CES888100]

@bagpyprrr540 I'm not disagreeing with you but statics or the issue of men who are victums is something rarely discussed in the US when it is it's not ever stated as casually.

[ginaannday]

@bagpyprrr540 because violence is wrong no matter which gender it is pinned on. Safety is the immediate main issue for survival, not pinning the fault.

[Austen1984]

@bagpyprrr540

2 women die every week from domestic violence at the hands of men. How many men die a week at the hands of their partners? I'm not undermining that women can be violent towards husbands too...but lets not pretend that there are more male victims than women.

[Hzqi]

@Austen1984

Geee, here's an idea- Let's try NOT PRETENDING anything. Because the current paradigm is ENTIRELY ABOUT pretending women are angelic and innocuous and non-complicit or non-participant in violence.

How many studies have you actually read of female violence? None right? Are you aware of the high female propensity for "undetected" forms of violence, that are very rarely employed by men? (Poisoning, contracted murderings that even if caught are "multiple offender killings).

[marghester]

@bagpyprrr540 Please educate yourself as to the reasons each gender abuses, they're often vastly different. Also relevant is the scoring system bias of physical assault (which is the tip of the iceberg when considering domestic violence). Attend some programmes.

[mozarttheraver123]

it is wrong to abuse any living being in any way. If anybody abuses another living being, they are just cowards.

[MissJezebel61]

@bagpyprrr540 Here,here...you have hit the nail on the head...please see my friend Dean's video on mine+his channel.I have/am going through extreme domestic violence...I have been beaten,raped+stalked....I'm just about to leavre my home town with nothing,with no family,no friends to start again for my own safety...my own sanity.I thankyou for highlighting the statistics...94% unreported in the UK..I saw this man for 7 weeks 3yrs ago,,,my life is finished here,I have NO CHOICE..thankyou Sophie x

[TSM8088]

@bagpyprrr540 Female aggresion and violence is on the rise everywhere. It had been roughly equal 50:50 at one time but female violence vs. male violence in terms of percentage (roughly 73% of the time) has far surpassed violence comitted by males.

[beyondgreat]

@TSM8088 AMEN women can nag a man into a mental institution. What about the women who fight other women for men then get their behind beat by the man and complain when they knew very well the man was not right for them but the woman he was originally for. I do not feel sorry for them AMEN!!!

[AmyFire08]

@TSM8088

I think seeing this video as a battle between the sexs is really no help for the cause what so ever. Yes there are Male victims as well as female victims, these men should feel like they can be supported too. It would be fantastic if enough awareness was established to help victims both male and female and to stop abusers whether they be male or female from doing these behaviours with another partner.

This should be against abusers (male and female) not a gender battle

[MinxedUp]

@bagpyprrr540 you are quite right... but I doubt any of the women abusing men are the ones being victimised and tortured... its actually got nothing at all to do with gender and everything to do with control and insecurity.

[MinxedUp]

@bagpyprrr540 you are quite right... BUT its actually got nothing at all to do with gender and everything to do with control and insecurity.

[thekingoffunnyfaces]

@bagpyprrr540 what research?

[Lipsandass]

@bagpyprrr540 Oh wow. That is just interesting. I believe that to be true.

[slapplejuice]

As someone who has been through emotional and physical abuse, there were no "mind games". I can see where you're coming from, people can be deceptive such as this. But you wouldn't believe how the man who did this to me assumed I was playing mind games with him so he could have an excuse to be a coward.

[seekyefirst]

Once the kids see an abusive parent behave in this way they normally pick up their traits and it can be very hard for them to change the cycle from generation to generation. I hate men like this, and I feel so sorry for these women. I hope they managed to build their lives back up and never let men like this into their life again.

[cpatterson07]

Im in it now... have been for 3 and a half years...called 1800799safe today found out theres room for me to go to a shelter and I said I may show and now watch my dumbass will be beat tomorrow...

[x3iatezkate]

I don't know you, but i'm proud of you. Taking control and you are an inspiration to any women who sees this and is experiencing DV. Thank you commenting.

[Johannyjac]

Thanks for sharing

[9N8X]

Domestic violence

is only a big deal when

a woman is getting beaten.

[Shesnoin]

Abuse is wrong in all ways - the help is there for both sexes.

[slapplejuice]

Well, for one, domestic violence is a higher number in women. Two, a woman has a much more difficult time defending herself from a man. Domestic abuse is never okay, no matter who it is. You're pretty ignorant for making such a statement.

[SilentSouffleuse]

I'm shocked to hear how many women are affected! One in four and six percent are men...wow.

Thank you for brining this topic up. The problem must be exposed and talked about so that the abusers and abused know that violence in any form is unacceptable.

[j0andc0]

We have to look after our women more, women should be cherished and taken care of, this isnt good enough.

[ASKaPHYSICIST]

well, they're not objects, but people and we should treat them with the due respect. i'm sure you agree.

[kat87766]

been there; wore the t-shirt and it does take strength to leave..BUT!! YOU HAVE TO

[KingFirenze]

These women are very brave :)

[mishtary]

thank you for ensuring people that is it OK to talk about domestic violence, and seek help. thank to the brave ladies who shared their stories.