Why can't I be happy with a good man (I think most Black men are, at least the one's I know are) who wakes up 5 days a week and goes out, works hard and brings his money home? Why do I HAVE TO marry a man who "matches" me? Black women, we missing out on marital bliss because of our negative attitudes and our unattainable romantic expectations.
The media knows how to play the game. Some times it's just a matter of knowing when to turn your TV off. Click.
"Most black women just like the bruthas...it's just what they like" That's exactly what white people said about not wanting interracial marriages or dating, and they got called racist for that. The double standards in this country make me want to scream.
Richard Banks is an IDIOT. Granted, an IDIOT who graduated from Stanford, but still an IDIOT. I think it's HILARIOUS how he's asking BW to shift their ATTRACTION to other races of men, like it's something you can do on a dime. The MAJORITY of BW have a PREFERENCE for BM, and stats confirm this. I don't see anyone asking other races of women to shift their ATTRACTION, so why the focus on BW? Just because you have two EDUCATED parents in the home doesn't make it a recipe for a SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.
@BIGBOSSandTHEDOLL C'mon, you know as well as I do that this man-and I use that word loosely-is a MORON. You can sit there and deny it as much as you like, but it is what it is.
@BIGBOSSandTHEDOLL When have Standford grads become MORONS? When they started saying the most IDIOTIC SHIT, as this so-called professor has. By the way, you are one STUPID BITCH.
Men white, black and other (ethnic group of men) do not even want to marry women, they want to be with men/marry a man. The shortage as they call it is not because of skin color it's because of ignorance. Go to Greenville, South Carolina, Black women marry any ethnicity and they go to church and praise God. If you are just going to talk about Black - supposely even came from the Black race. People neet to stop whoring around regardless of race. There is no man shortage - Respect God and Life
THIS DUDE JUST HELP OTHERS VALIDATE WHAT THE BLACKMAN HAS BEEN LABELLED AS OVER THE YEARS. AND HALF YOU IDIOT WILL NEVER TRY TO ACKNOWLEDGE HOW DEEP A BLACK MAN'S WOUNDS ARE SO IF WE'RE NOT UP YOUR STANDARDS FEEL FREE TO MOVE ON.
AND IF FEMALES BUY THIS GUYS BOOK SOLEY OF WHAT HE CLAIMS TO BELIEVES THE BLACK WOMAN SHOULD DO, THIS SAYS A LOT ABOUT YOUR INTELLIGENT SPECIES BECAUSE THOUGH THINGS MAY NOT BE BETTER IT'S NOT AS BAD AS THIS A55HOLE'S OR OR ANYBODY ELSE IS DOING IT JUST BECAUSE HE'S TRYING TO GET YOU TO BUY HIS BOOK.
NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING MORE BUT SOMETIMES WANTING MORE IS NOT WHAT THE SOUL WANTS. AND WHEN I SAY MORE I MEAN KEEPING UP WITH APPEARANCES BECAUSE SOCIETY HAS ALWAYS PUT FORTH THE IDEA OF A PERFECT IMAGE OF WHAT MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSED TO BE.
YOU FOLKS HAVE JUST ABANDONED PURE REASON. 1ST THING A WOMAN SHOULD KNOW WHAT HER MAN LIKES DISLIKES ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL. FOR A WOMAN TO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THAT SHE HAS CERTAIN TENDENCIES. IS DISASTER WAITING TO HAPPEN. SOME FEMALES WILL NEVER BE CONTENT, BECAUSE SOME CAN'T BE .KNOWING THAT THEY DON'T HAVE EVERYTHING THEY WANT TO ACHIEVE.
I wanted to be a wife and have a family with its father still there. its not even bm its american men period. I worked hard to find the man I wanted. And now I live in paradise, have a business with my hubby and im super happy and we have been together for almost a decade. leave these bm alone ladies. get yourself a man from another country that will love you and that is about family. all american men will do is leave you with babies
So...what's the gender war without male bashing, huh? lol Can we please uplift loving REALationships by people of EVERY COLOR please? All of these black wedding videos on youtube and we can't find one single good thing to say about good black men? Wow.
He won't tell the world about all of the educated white women who marry blue collar white guys.This guy would be a slave trader back in the day.You all are seeing how we were sold into slavery.If a white woman makes 150k and her husband makes 40k that's ok.But if a sister makes more money than her man it's a big deal for black women.We see white women making more money than their husbands all the time.That money is for the family wealth.Not yours alone black women.Use your common sense.
But somehow there are enough black men to marry white women??? this COONSKIN ASS NIGGER is helping the power elite to push interracialism on the BW. instead of him making a book to help & mentor the younger population of black males to do better he opts out by telling BW to abandon their male counterpart. THIS NIGGER DESERVES DEATH!!!!
@thebest20061 Yes. but SHINES like that Dr on that video deserve to get whats coming to him for being a weak CALCIFIED ASS NEGRO! who don't mean the black community any bit of good.
@azumanation I do not know what’s wrong with us black ppl. We let anyone persuade us. I hear black men say negative things about black women, and they tell me we are talking about you because you are light skinned. They must realize that many biracial women consider themselves as black. My grandmother was white, so that makes my mom mixed .
@azumanation cont However, in this country she is still black. I was raised to love my black ppl. I have always envisioned myself with a Cosby like family,but it looks like that will never happen. I am hearing all these black men put down black women and I am starting to get turned off. I have two college degrees, and I do not have any children. I am really confused about what I want right now.My dream family was once so clear.
@Simplyredefined Exactly! Also to add to that effect we are not in segregation anymore. There is no law saying you have to stick with your own race. Also it is quite odd that a stranger would be upset with whom you chose to date.
MEN DON'T CHOSE WOMEN DO, SO WHO EVER YOU DATED YOU CHOSE TO DATE. BLACK MEN KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, AND WHAT YOU DO ON A REG. It is no secret the reason why your single is because you have issues. We don't run to white women we are given a choice.
only reason this guy is catching flack is bc he is telling the truth and "brothers" are intimidated that this will register in the psyche of black women. if it does, they will be s.o.l. Numbers don't lie. They can not keep up and we dnt have to pay for this. Those sistas who are caught up on "sticking by the black man's side" can do so if they please but the African-American community need not look to black women to save it. We don't owe black men anything.
@DivinelyMochaDipped Like you he is racist agianst black men, there is allot of black on black racism going around ehg ehm. You can allow this BS the register in the brians of black women all you want, maybe then they will start to date good black men instead of the trash in the street.
*yawn* obviously, u r intimidated by white men bc u keep blabbering on this thread. i'm not racist, u're just sensitive and quite frankly, idgaf. grow up. u exude the very stereotype that is branded to black men which is blaming others for your problems, "women choose, not men." gtfoh. seeing as relationships are a 50/50 deal, BOTH ppl choose, it's mutual. not 1 person making the decisions. & if a white person said this, i wouldnt care cuz regardless who says it, its still the truth.
@DivinelyMochaDipped You missing the point so far off that i'm going to have to end it there. White men have little to do with what i'm talking about. My main point is, black men are not to blame, and we don't deserve the harsh words this thread and the Doc have put out there plane and simple. White men arn't the threat toward black men... Black people like you and the Doc are, and the thugs are just the fuel for the flame.
didnt miss a point cuz ur statement was BS. the prob w/ our community is the breakdown of the family. there are diff factors for this & one IS the imbalance when it comes to success. education and finance fuel social mobility and if one group is moving while the other is not, compatibility dissimilates. as long as this rate among females is greater than that of males, there will be issues. Thats the point that me & "the doc" make. if that offends u, thats ur prob. we're not lying.
@DivinelyMochaDipped When you say black men, instead of pointing out some who have issues you are being racist. If a white person stated this what would you say.... Ok then watch your mouth, when addressing your brother, your father, your uncle and the list goes on and on. Black men deserve to have a loving supportive well kept healthy (mind body and sole) good black woman, who gives him warm hugs and a smile when he gets home. Anything less gets rejected plane and simple.
Not marrying a black man is not a huge loss because the world is filled with all different types of men from all over the world with different accents and attitudes.
If money matters too you, then what exactly is it that your looking to establish with a man, because relationships are about two people who like eachother. You make it seem like a business.
I searched on Plentyoffish too see how many black men outthere measure up to me. I was the only one within a 100 mile radius who was between the age of 28-35 no kids, MA, over 6F making between 30 and 40 grand, and still having trouble. And no I am not unattractive
Propaganda this is being done because of the rise of michelle obama can't get to her get to the rest of them they step up their media assault on black women on purpose to drive black women to white men or other race's because once the black woman cut's out from the self preservation game we are done in this country anywhere white's are they always remain a ruling class over the darker mix up race's the so called pure white's control the MEDIA I REPEAT MEDIA what's there purpose?
@MarieSueMax Black men are sexy but they are no damn good. Every woman knows that black men are gorgeous creatures. Why do you think White women fantasize about them all the time. The thing is these black men just don't know how to be a boyfriend or husband and most of them just want sex.
@MsKateRoberts Maybe you should stop looking in the nightclubs and project apartments for them and try to focus on what a good man really is. You keep looking for the tuff and ruff, and not the smart and good hearted. There are soooo many good black, men who rejected quickly by sistahs for being too smart and educated, too kind and good natured. You women consider this weak and too nice. You are your own worst enemy.
@jamesdh76 'Maybe you should stop looking in the nightclubs and project apartments for them'
First of all I have only been to the club once in my entire lifetime and it was with friends on my 19th birthday. I don't go to the projects I don't know anyone in the projects. I live in the suburbs not the inner city.
@MsKateRoberts I don't care who you date just don't go spewing hatred toward black men based on lies, and stuff on the news. We are strong, and could do without hatred from our sisters, and mothers. Relax and be sweet to a brother instead of mean and judgemental and you will see a hole different side of us.... It's what white, and Asian women do. Hint Hint,
@MskateRoberts your response to MarieSueMax is racist, some of the most racist people I have ever dealt with were blacks racist toward me beacause I speak, well. Yes if you say I speak white your racist agianst Blacks. Sayhing something like this about black men is spineless, and foul. You know your not serious just mad at the fact that you don't have a man. How about the large amount of black women who use good black men for money, and free meals to go back and bring the doggy bag to a thug
@jamesdh76 'your response to MarieSueMax is racist, some of the most racist people I have ever dealt with were blacks racist'
I checked all of my comments that I have made and I don't see one that is racist. Please let me know which one it is and I will explain it. If you speak well then I would most likely I would be happy for you. There is nothing worse than having a conversation with someone who speaks poor English or ebonics. Now I may have my opinon on things but I am no racist. I luv evy1
@MsKateRoberts Your coments were directed at black men being the issue, when we both know the only men sistahs date are low life thugs, and drug dealers, as is the case with every single female in my family accept for a few. Seattle, and Cali make it an issue for people like you, and state that black men find love everywhere, and it's not because of hatred of black women, it's hatred from black women.
Thats why these men leave yall asses on welfare with all these dam kids and every minute yall fighting each other over these no good Black men! If you are going to date a black man, then find a good one and if you cant find a good one, then explore other races. THATS IT! He isn't saying not to date Black men or to give up on them! He is only suggesting to explore other options, as half of us cant find good Black men anyway (according to the statistics, thats why so many black women are single)
@alphaacad1 Black Women don't want good black men, nor do they know what a good black man is. They think that good means money. Dumb, or they think good means hood, or ghetto fame. You can't win this fight, their are toomany women not black coming into this country looking for black men... Educated black men.
@jamesdh76... I cant win this fight? hmmm, who is fighting and what exactly is your point? I am not the one looking for a Black man and I am not from this country, so if foreign Black women want a Black American, it does not have any effect on me whatsoever. The only thing I am saying is that if the Black American women cant find a good Black American man, then date outside racial lines........thats all. Ppl can date who they want
@jamesdh76 ..LOL... Please re-read my post, nothing indicates that i am racist. how am I racist when I am black I am just not a black American. Perhaps I should put it this way, dont black men date outside their racce, hmmmmm, so why cant the women do the same? I just thinks its ok to date outside or racial lines. thats all
@jamesdh76 actually I am not the problem as I am not black American and I am not dating a Black man, sooooooo I am not quite sure what our point is. Furthermore, no one has a sword up for Black men. This is the professor's book not mine and he is simpley stating that women should be open to dating men of other races. This is not difficult to understand!
@alphaacad1 the point is do what ever you wish but keep black men out of your mouth, and leave us be. You have an issue with black men, and your not black, ok then take it up with you boyfriend, Not youtube.
@alphaacad1 White couldn't the Professor state how these men that are sooooo hard to find. Bull Shizz, are not appealing to these black woman. BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO GOOD BLACK MEN= EDUCATED WELL GROOMED, SMART, NICE, RESPECTFUL ETC.!!! Thats the problem. White women and Asian women like black men like this.
@alphaacad1 I wasn't talking about foreign black women, I was talking about foreign all women. And I wasn't talking about black men, I was talking about the young healthy smart educated black men.. THE BLACK WOMEN CALL SOFT CORNY, BORING AND WEAK.
@jamesdh76 Not at all dear. The problem is you black men have a tendency to put on an act and pretend to be the loving boyfriend or husband yet you want to take phone calls in the other room. You black men initiate the relationsship then you cheat. You black men out on an act and we fall for it and you turn out to be garbage all along. You all are so convinicing and very good actors. There are so many black men that are bad that its hard to distinguish who is good and who is bad!
@MsKateRoberts No it's you who keep falling for the dumb so called thugs, you don't want a good man, you think four years in prison is sexy, and four years in college is gay. It's no act with good men you just see smart black men as weak, and wack. I see it in DC all the time.
@jamesdh76 It's not necessarily a thug that we like. It is the demeanor of the "bad boy" look that we like. No woman in her right mind unless she is an adolecesant wants a "thug" as a lifelong partner. I can tell you that my husband is a college grad and he dresses up in thug gear and he is very educated. It is nothing more than just a style. I did 4 years of college and so did my man. Lastly I do not judge people who were locked up before because I know that no one is perfect. We all make mista
@MsKateRoberts Yeah right the demeanor is the bad boy the type of person that will get into a fight with anyone get you in trouble get fired from a job, can't take the tuff of college and so on. A real man is strong, and can handle anything without being a dumb thug. You know what hate all you want there are women from everywhere looking for black men. Black men arn't having a problem in the dating Game Black woman are. Keep you racist hate going all you want.
@jamesdh76 I could care less what black men are doing because I don't even date black men anymore. They make terrible boyfriends and I think they might make even worse husbands seeing how the rate of married black men falling to all time lows these days and the black families dwindling more and more each year, Then you have people like me dating outside our race shrinking our race even more. To me its a good thing anyway seeing that there is no unity between blacks anyway.
@jamesdh76 Just becuase someone did time in jail dont mean that they are some how a bad person or a thug. I have friends who have done time who are far from being a thug. People make mistakes and some get caught while others get away with it. You cannot consider that every person who gets locked up are labeled as thugs. All walks of life from every race and every class gets locked up. When I was in college we took a trip to a local prison and the people in there are no different than out here .
@MsKateRoberts No only the black men in the ghetto hood, thug state of mind that you seem to fucus on and ignor the good ones, so what happns is the good ones some times turn bad beause they know that you only want men like this. The problem is that being a thug works, being a man with ten kids works, selling drugs works to getting you women. There are a ton of good black men out there but they don't feel you want them, so why even bother.
@MsKateRoberts you didn't date every black man in the world jack ass, that's what makes it racist Glenn Beck said "I don't have any black friends because I won't know what to say to them with out sounding racist" You say your not into black men because you had a few bumps with them, same thing... Your racist, I can assure you that most black men are not like this, you just keep finding ones that are, because you like that shizzz.
@jamesdh76 I know that there are good black men out there. I am just tired of black men stressing me out with their lies and cheating ways. You black men play too many games. You all act like you want to be in a relationship one minute then you act like you don't so I am confused with what black men want. So I simply just leave them alone and let them stress somene else out.
What's scary is white men play just as much games, and yet you do not generalize them, but only black men. I find it pathetic and childish that you look at white men as individuals, but with black men you generalize all of them. Looks like you have been stuck in the mental prison of white supremacy on a subconscious level. Ignorance is a bliss I guess. And that is a common interest you can share with a white man.
@GoodBlackMusic You are incorrect. I do look at everyone as an individual not just white men. The thing is I grew up in a white neighborhood and went to private schools with them so I have a better understanding of white people individually because most of my friends are white. With black men I have notice a consistency in their behavior especially ghetto ones and when you notice a consistency in something you can predict the possible outcome.
@MsKateRoberts you don't know, a brother can come along and just up and love you right, just shut up step your looks up, get your A game on. YOu only live ounce so go get what you want and stop Whilding out on this bull Shizz.
@jamesdh76 'you don't know, a brother can come along and just up and love you right, just shut up step your looks up'
But here is the problem though. Most black men out on the "loving boyfriend" act and when I give them a chance they up and cheat on me and lie about it. That is why I am beginning to have a slight hatred for black men just slight. I don't need to change the way that I look because I am men and I accept myself the way that I am. I am real and refuse to be fake to imp
@jamesdh76 (con't) ress any man regardless of race. If he can't love me for who I am and the way that I look then he isn't worth talking too. Me trying to change the way that I look to impress a man is not being myself and eventually the real me will show so it is pointless to change anything about me just to impress a man that may or may not even stay with me.
@alphaacad1 I'm sorry but I feel disrespected by you because you bad mothed Welfare! I love welfare it was one of the things I thank this country for. Why is it that people talk bad about welfare? There is nothing wrong with it. I have been using welfare since I was a teen and it has never let me down. Welfare helped me when I was in college and was on a tight budget paying college loans. You better watch your mouth about welfare. Welfare is my best friend in the whole world! LOL!
@alphaacad1 thank you, but we both know that when black women find good black men you call them boring, and claim he isn't good in bed when you havn't even touched the man. Then you see him with a white women and start spewing racism. It's what the KKK does.. the KKk is filled with white men who can't get laid. Hmm. the Bkkk anyone\?
@alphaacad1 But what is better, i'll bet if you put this so called women in a room full of good black men and thugs, the thugs would get all the attention. oh wait Oprah and Tyra Banks already did this, and proved me right that's right dang.
There are still a lot of good black men out there for high expectation black woman .Going to other races will not help the black family but make it more weak and in your case non existent.
Another sad brain wash white man uncle Tom.He is really saying if a black woman is not happy with a black man date or married a white man and full fill all your financial dreams of happiness.Yea marry the white and forget about the black man and just let them keep going to jail and killing each other. Ralph "Uncle Tom" Banks stop dwelling only on the negative about the black man you sound like your slave master white racist out there.
@PREZ150 Yup, and the black women are following this fool proven the hatred they have for black men. They run around with fools so much that they beleive that this is how we are. I watched my sistahs run after these men, all my life... Tell me nothing.
@jga665 - ......John Henrick Clark once said "The foundation of the black community is the black family and the foundation of the black family is the black woman."
Obviously, a man like Ralph Richard Banks cares little, if any at all, about our community. I bet you a c-note his wife is white. Lol.
@jkillah999 No, his wife is actually black. She's psychologist at Stanford. He admitted his wife prefers that their children marry within their own race. Which is strange, because he's encouraging bw to marry out.
@jga665....NO ITS NOT STRANGE!! THE KEY WORD WAS "PREFERS" MEANING ITS OK TO DATE WITHIN YOUR RACE, BUT IF ONE CANNOT FIND A MATE WITHIN THEIR OWN RACE, CONSIDER TO MARRY OR DATE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE. HE IS ONLY MAKING A SUGGESTION FOR THE HIGH POPULATION OF SINGLE BLACK WOMEN!
You noticed how no one ever speaks about the large percentage of black men and women who AREN'T in college who make up the majority of the black community and who are, more or less, in the same boat. They talk about the small percentage of college educated black men and women as if they represent our entire race. This clever bit of word manipulation is how they convince large numbers of BW that BM are beneath them, when in reality, the majority of us are still on the same level. Pay attention.
@jkillah999 Ppl don't understand that he wrote this book about the black upper-middle-class, that's why it's such a big hit. Other ppl who wrote these types of books, only wrote about the poor. Of course poor ppl weren't buying those books. For this book, he interview highly educated black women (doctors, layers, etc.) Since a lot of them are single and talk about this topic amongst each other, this book was bound to be a huge seller.
@jkillah999 The title was a clever one...Had he named it Upper Middle-Class Black Women & their Marriage Woes, it wouldn't have caught as much attention as "Is Marriage for White People." This book is written about a certain group. A little elitist? Yeah, I know.
@jga665 - Yeah....but when they talk about it publicly, they never make that distinction, and i wonder if they even realize that speaking in general terms like that has a profound effect on the black community as a whole. At the end of the day, its all just sad really. The way we've changed from being people with overwhelming, dare i say militant, pride in ourselves to turning completely against each other in a matter of decades.....
I agree with the author, BW shouldn't limit themselves or carry the burdens of black men. BW have come to far and we do not need to keep waiting or looking just within our race. BW need to open their horizons the data doesn't lie GIVE UP the good fight
Speaks volumes about what and the real world does reflect the fact that over 60% of black children are being raised by one parent as opposed to two and a myriad of other problems and in order for there to be a soultion, black america must first admit that there is a problem and as far as I'm concerned, black people are in denial.
Single parenthood is just a black problem? I know other groups who are having babies out of wedlock just as frequently, it's not a black problem it's a societal one. Again who is magnifying the out of wedlock "problem" for those other people? No one. That's why I question the criticisms of blacks when other groups are facing the same issues but yet it's a "black problem", you can't see the hypocrisy?
Unfortunately he speaks an accepted truth which do not mean it's the absolute truth. There have been an on-going push by mainstream media to constantly portray black men and women as oil and water happiest partnering with anyone but themselves. The fact is mainstream media does not reflect the real world where 96% of black men marry black women and 98% black women marry black men. The author married a black woman and that in and of itself speaks volumes.
This guy is part of the problem and contributing to the breakdown of the black community and the social structure within. I would think he would offer more of a positive solution in building relationships between black women and men, however, I hear nothing of the sort. I will uplift all those within my community and will wait for my black King to take his place on his thrown next to me. My degree got me a career and my heart will bring to me a diligent black man. Or I'll die alone.
@flirtwd i'm talking about overall statistics. overall education, employment, and incarceration statistics nationwide. don't tell me this, tell your brothers they should stay in school. i don't care if it's "nice," it's not nice that black women have to deal with such losers.
Of course they did. 791,600 African Americans in prison (Census) and 804,000 African-American males in college (National Center for Education), hmm of a population of 41 million. Black women don't have mate potentials in their own race is nonsense. If they want mates outside of their race more power to them but they should be aware they're being lied to by the media about their own men.
so because you pulled numbers out of a hat, and it turns out there's SLIGHLY more men in college than jail, then there's no problem!
listen, idiot. the problem is rates. there are TWICE as many black women in college as men. and the rates of black male crime are enormous. a successful black woman with a degree isn't going to marry some loser with a drug record who just got out.
you don't know how numbers work. stop embarassing yourself.
Quite the contrary I'm not embarrassing myself nor am I filled with anger to call you a name. My desire is to see my people prosper and not be took advantage of by believing the okey doke that's peddled as fact. I know numbers can be used to mislead and to solidify stereotyping which is the case. It appears you want to believe the lies about black men and that's fine believe but the truth is the truth regardless to how badly you want to believe otherwise.
@karlsmith00 Then why is that that black women reward only the black men who committ crimes with thier love, and call good educated brothers white. They are the ones having babys with drug dealers, and thugs, and trash in the street not black men. You tell the world I want a thug, and you get one sleep with him show the other brothers what you can get if you act this way and you get more have a kid, who looks up to one, and you get more..... Get it?
@jamesdh76 what the fuck do you mean REWARDING? what "good educated" brothers are you talking about? WOMEN GRADUATE FROM COLLEGE AT THE RATE OF 2 TO 1 COMPARED TO MEN. 1 IN 4 BLACK MALES ARE IN JAIL OR ON PAROLE.
do you even understand the facts? or do you make up your own like a typical male?
if you're some loser that nobody wants, then that's your fault. males are so fucking sad. you guys are the problem, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY AND STOP WHINING.
@karlsmith00 Your missing the point, and 1 -4 is a lie, lol you racist prick. By the way i'm not loser who none wants I have a girl and i'm fine. This is my work kill time stuff. I'm talking about the hatred spewing on this page about black men being no good and all. Like yoiu bringing up black men being in jail crap. If you read my post you would see the link I made to this.
@karlsmith00 Im not in jail and have allot of education, ugh Masters, and a well paying job, no kids in shape nice skinn smart need I go on. The point is black women don't wan me, white women do, so when you spew hate about no good black men, try asking why they are allways dissing the good black men. It's a worlwind of bull shiz.
Are you stupid or dumb? This man is not talking about ghetto welfare receiving multi-babby daddy having black women. He specifically said COLLEGE-EDUCATED and is referring to middle class black women who make names for ourselves. Do you honestly think these are the same women who lay up with thugs and make babies they can't afford?
Fact is there are more black males on the level of those ghetto boppers than on the level w/ us who are educated/self-made. Get it? *rolls eyes*
Black people seem to think they own each other. Blacks are obsessed about the negative aspects of interracial relationships. BOTTOM LINE: Find someone who you love and will love and respect you, PERIOD! Race should not be this huge of an issue.
Normally it shouldn't however when you live in a society that have nothing positive to say about a an entire population the most natural thing for them to do is stick together. Actually blacks are not obsessed with interracial relationships, it's the media which is constantly telling that lie there's not enough black men for black women and they use misguided folks such as the author to do so. What other race is picked apart in the media like the Am. black? No other.
Ralph Richard Banks is so full of shit. Statistics show that men of all races (even black men) are not interested in marrying black women (in comparison to other races). The majority of black women and white men do not have much in common. Black women might be open to marrying outside of their race, but it’s not always the other way around.
I think this dude is just tired of seeing sisters suffer and he's basically telling these gals to save themselves...These women need to stop putting out and getting knocked up if the dude hasn't married you. These chicks have got to stop letting all these bums knock them up with various kids that they can't possiblity parent because he has a million kids in a million other households...The women need to step up their requirements... If the guy doesn't cut...DROP HIM...
@Machelle3200 He is actually addressing educated black women, not hoochies (with multiple out of wedlock children). Educated (middle/upper income) black women tend to be single, without children.
@Mary2020VA I"m sorry but having a child out of wedlock or not being highly educated doesn't make one a "HOOCHIE"...get over yourselves...and having a degree doesn't make a bougie high maintainence chick worthy of being a wife....If she doesn't know the TRUE meaning of being a wife...it doesn't matter what kind of education she has. A woman can have a million degrees and still be a bytch with a stank attitude that can't cook or clean. What real man wants to come home to that garbage?
@Mary2020VA I don't give a phuck who he was talking about. BLACK MEN IN GENERAL.. aint marrying these broads...REGARDLESS OF THEIR EDUCATION...hooked on phonics much? I bet you have about ten degrees eh?LOL You're one of those uppity black chicks aren't you?
@Machelle3200 I'm trying to follow your rationale. You stated the following, '...These chicks have got to stop letting these bums knock them up with various kids that they can't possibly parent because he has a million kids in a million other households.' I responded, 'He is actually addressing educated black women, not hoochies (with multiple out of wedlock children). It's important to realize that there are very clear class distinctions between the two groups.
@Machelle3200 I am working on my doctorate in epidemiology/public health, but that's beside the point. I'm an 'uppity black chick' because I do not fit into your narrow 'black box.'
Newsflash: There's nothing 'uppity' about electing to further one's education. If anything, it's natural to work towards advancement.
@Machelle3200 .......You can say that again.... Everyone wants to point the finger and say "Haha BW can't get a BM to marry then".... Truthe is..Black Men aren't getting married, PERIOD. The regular everyday black men that I see hooking up with all these whites and mexicans, are NOT marrying these chics. Certain BM just don't want to get married. ... Cgirl2020
Seriously, the modern black man aint fit to marry. Especially not where I live. They are angry, irresponsible and just emotionally and mentally screwed up.Finding decent relationships has nothing to do with money or education. it's about two people who share a bond spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. It's about two people who have a shared view of the world. I believe in a man and wife raising their kids together. Most black men i know have kids all over the place..What a lost cause....
Not enough black men? Are they talking about in America only, or in the world? I see plenty. Now whether or not they want to be in a marriage relationship, not everyone is going to want to get married, at the same time, or ready for it. Any person can change, it doesn't matter how educated you are, the issue is, are they willing to change.
No give up on tolerating the Black man's mess..all these lies, cheating, calling women out their name, and just plain lust do not tolerant it! Do not give up on Black men! Just dont tolerant his foolishness
The author is telling the sisters to give up the good fight, that is give up on black men. I am one who will not be purchasing his book. There are a lot of good black men out there, it just that mainstream media like CNN can't make any money off of them because that does not boost their ratings. Sisters , just use a virtue called patience, and in due time you will get that good brother.
The author is telling the sisters to give up the good fight, that is give up on black men. I am one who will not be purchasing his book. There are a lot of good black men out there, it just that mainstream media like CNN can't make any money off of them because that does not boost their ratings. Sisters , just use a virtue called patience, and in due time you will get that good brother.
Why is the focus of this video race? Sorry, but good and bad men come in all nationalities, colors and sizes. A lot of what happens has to to with a person's upbringing (or lack thereof). The real issue at hand is how to stop bad parents from raising bad children. Every race/nationality has issues. As a good woman, you are lucky to find a good man of any color these days!
I can't believe that two black men are on tv telling black women to stop dating their race. Who are these guys married to. I am not in disagreement with a lot of the issues that plague black america, but how about raising the standard for black men. Getting them educated and moved into position to take care of the black family. One more thing, every so called successful black woman isn't prepared to date a successful black man. They get a better than you mind set and don't allow men to be men.
Amen brother!!! I have honestly been saying this forever!! Most black women are so afraid to date outside of their race and they project that & therefore don't get approached by other men. And I am talking about the well educated black women who have good jobs. So many of them are unmarried but do not open themselves up to other races.
@bunbun5877 Oh expert, please expound... tell us what black women are afraid of?!?! Lol, BW aren't afraid to date outside of their race, they just don't want to. You like what you like, most BW like BM. Most women tend to gravitate towards men that have similarities to their fathers, and since BW fathers are black, that is what most of them prefer. Why does it bother people so much that BW are getting married anyway, it's their problem not yours?!?!
I almost spit out my coffee when some woman, probably a nappy ghetto with ten kids said bw want bm but bm do not want bw.wtf.I'm just not attracted to bm.I'm multiracial and have my choice of men and I just dont want a bm.If bw are single it's because they dont put up with bull.Down low or low down men which ever way you take it.leave that shit for weak ww.I'm glad bm like ww. ww dont want them unless they have three jobs.bm get what the wm has used up and tossed aside.who crying over bm?
This Ralph guy is a Captain save-a-hoe ass bitch! All these black women are single but where are all these babies coming from? Where did these BM who are not on-point come from? Why is it that BM are able to date and marry outside of the race so much but BW are not? It is pretty obvious BW are on bullshit! They can't marry outside the race because they purposily get with less established men so they can run the relationship. This is why BW can't date outside the race.
there's plenty of black men but U Esau!! have our men in your jails or poisoning our neighborhoods with your crack & guns or using these faggot rappers to teach our only good men to turn gay. F*ck U Edom your fate is death.
Either Ralph Richard Banks is a mangina who has bought into Black AMERICAN feminist agitprop about Black men, or he is a VERY clever progressive who has grown tired (as most progressive brothers have) of Black AMERICAN women bemoaning the lack of "good" Black men while they simultaneously praise men of other races, and wantonly go after the lowest and least productive men in the Black community.
You know after Obama got in office it seems like the only thing in this country that matters now is race. I'm a black guy and I'm tried of hearing about it to be honest. There are other things in this world (mainly in this country) that need our attention, and we waste time with nonsense, and they wounder why people don't have respect for mainstream media. They're a bunch of rating whores. I'm sure that race topics pull in huge ratings, and that's the whole reason why they talk about this stuff
I'm a black woman and honestly I'm just not into black men. I like white guys and Asian guys but i have no time for an idiot dude who believe that the world is keeping him down because he's a black man.
Why can't I be happy with a good man (I think most Black men are, at least the one's I know are) who wakes up 5 days a week and goes out, works hard and brings his money home? Why do I HAVE TO marry a man who "matches" me? Black women, we missing out on marital bliss because of our negative attitudes and our unattainable romantic expectations.
The media knows how to play the game. Some times it's just a matter of knowing when to turn your TV off. Click.
ladyEulaelie 6 days ago
"Most black women just like the bruthas...it's just what they like" That's exactly what white people said about not wanting interracial marriages or dating, and they got called racist for that. The double standards in this country make me want to scream.
nyker07 1 week ago
this nigger is a sell out bitch black power
blkmun86 2 weeks ago
the black woman that date a white man is a sell out bitch the white man got aids
the black woman who date a white man is a bitch
blkmun86 2 weeks ago
WOW! I am at a loss for words in response to his comments. Wonder how he would feel if someone had given up on him as a black man?
msquietstorm36 2 weeks ago
Richard Banks is an IDIOT. Granted, an IDIOT who graduated from Stanford, but still an IDIOT. I think it's HILARIOUS how he's asking BW to shift their ATTRACTION to other races of men, like it's something you can do on a dime. The MAJORITY of BW have a PREFERENCE for BM, and stats confirm this. I don't see anyone asking other races of women to shift their ATTRACTION, so why the focus on BW? Just because you have two EDUCATED parents in the home doesn't make it a recipe for a SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.
MAJESTY357 1 month ago
@MAJESTY357 He is not an idiot..he is RIGHT on the money!
BIGBOSSandTHEDOLL 3 weeks ago
@BIGBOSSandTHEDOLL C'mon, you know as well as I do that this man-and I use that word loosely-is a MORON. You can sit there and deny it as much as you like, but it is what it is.
MAJESTY357 3 weeks ago
@MAJESTY357 Since when have Stanford grads become morons?? You are truly an ass.
BIGBOSSandTHEDOLL 3 weeks ago
@BIGBOSSandTHEDOLL When have Standford grads become MORONS? When they started saying the most IDIOTIC SHIT, as this so-called professor has. By the way, you are one STUPID BITCH.
MAJESTY357 3 weeks ago
Men white, black and other (ethnic group of men) do not even want to marry women, they want to be with men/marry a man. The shortage as they call it is not because of skin color it's because of ignorance. Go to Greenville, South Carolina, Black women marry any ethnicity and they go to church and praise God. If you are just going to talk about Black - supposely even came from the Black race. People neet to stop whoring around regardless of race. There is no man shortage - Respect God and Life
pacecomm100 1 month ago
THIS DUDE JUST HELP OTHERS VALIDATE WHAT THE BLACKMAN HAS BEEN LABELLED AS OVER THE YEARS. AND HALF YOU IDIOT WILL NEVER TRY TO ACKNOWLEDGE HOW DEEP A BLACK MAN'S WOUNDS ARE SO IF WE'RE NOT UP YOUR STANDARDS FEEL FREE TO MOVE ON.
skyrokketexp 1 month ago
AND IF FEMALES BUY THIS GUYS BOOK SOLEY OF WHAT HE CLAIMS TO BELIEVES THE BLACK WOMAN SHOULD DO, THIS SAYS A LOT ABOUT YOUR INTELLIGENT SPECIES BECAUSE THOUGH THINGS MAY NOT BE BETTER IT'S NOT AS BAD AS THIS A55HOLE'S OR OR ANYBODY ELSE IS DOING IT JUST BECAUSE HE'S TRYING TO GET YOU TO BUY HIS BOOK.
skyrokketexp 1 month ago
NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING MORE BUT SOMETIMES WANTING MORE IS NOT WHAT THE SOUL WANTS. AND WHEN I SAY MORE I MEAN KEEPING UP WITH APPEARANCES BECAUSE SOCIETY HAS ALWAYS PUT FORTH THE IDEA OF A PERFECT IMAGE OF WHAT MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSED TO BE.
skyrokketexp 1 month ago
YOU FOLKS HAVE JUST ABANDONED PURE REASON. 1ST THING A WOMAN SHOULD KNOW WHAT HER MAN LIKES DISLIKES ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL. FOR A WOMAN TO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE THAT SHE HAS CERTAIN TENDENCIES. IS DISASTER WAITING TO HAPPEN. SOME FEMALES WILL NEVER BE CONTENT, BECAUSE SOME CAN'T BE .KNOWING THAT THEY DON'T HAVE EVERYTHING THEY WANT TO ACHIEVE.
skyrokketexp 1 month ago
I wanted to be a wife and have a family with its father still there. its not even bm its american men period. I worked hard to find the man I wanted. And now I live in paradise, have a business with my hubby and im super happy and we have been together for almost a decade. leave these bm alone ladies. get yourself a man from another country that will love you and that is about family. all american men will do is leave you with babies
shyvixx1 1 month ago
So...what's the gender war without male bashing, huh? lol Can we please uplift loving REALationships by people of EVERY COLOR please? All of these black wedding videos on youtube and we can't find one single good thing to say about good black men? Wow.
AfreeQueen 1 month ago
He won't tell the world about all of the educated white women who marry blue collar white guys.This guy would be a slave trader back in the day.You all are seeing how we were sold into slavery.If a white woman makes 150k and her husband makes 40k that's ok.But if a sister makes more money than her man it's a big deal for black women.We see white women making more money than their husbands all the time.That money is for the family wealth.Not yours alone black women.Use your common sense.
shedpark 1 month ago
But somehow there are enough black men to marry white women??? this COONSKIN ASS NIGGER is helping the power elite to push interracialism on the BW. instead of him making a book to help & mentor the younger population of black males to do better he opts out by telling BW to abandon their male counterpart. THIS NIGGER DESERVES DEATH!!!!
azumanation 1 month ago
@azumanation Death is a harsh notion .
thebest20061 1 month ago
@thebest20061 Yes. but SHINES like that Dr on that video deserve to get whats coming to him for being a weak CALCIFIED ASS NEGRO! who don't mean the black community any bit of good.
azumanation 1 month ago
@azumanation I do not know what’s wrong with us black ppl. We let anyone persuade us. I hear black men say negative things about black women, and they tell me we are talking about you because you are light skinned. They must realize that many biracial women consider themselves as black. My grandmother was white, so that makes my mom mixed .
thebest20061 1 month ago
@azumanation cont However, in this country she is still black. I was raised to love my black ppl. I have always envisioned myself with a Cosby like family,but it looks like that will never happen. I am hearing all these black men put down black women and I am starting to get turned off. I have two college degrees, and I do not have any children. I am really confused about what I want right now.My dream family was once so clear.
thebest20061 1 month ago
@azumanation I meant to say they say we are not talking about you because you are light
thebest20061 1 month ago
@Simplyredefined Exactly! Also to add to that effect we are not in segregation anymore. There is no law saying you have to stick with your own race. Also it is quite odd that a stranger would be upset with whom you chose to date.
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
The title should be not enough black women worth marrying..
I'm a college grad myself and I aint stand of none of dem golddigging black hoes.
theright1allthetime 2 months ago
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@theright1allthetime "I aint stand of none of dem" < What college taught you that shit, lol?
ArchNME 2 months ago
@theright1allthetime amen
Superseadragon 1 month ago
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theright1allthetime 1 month ago
@Simplyredefined
New Flash.. the same logic applies to men of all races.
GoodBlackMusic 2 months ago
this coon need his head cut off
heckler171 2 months ago
@heckler171 sub to my videos. we have alot to talk about of these damn coons
Superseadragon 1 month ago
MEN DON'T CHOSE WOMEN DO, SO WHO EVER YOU DATED YOU CHOSE TO DATE. BLACK MEN KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, AND WHAT YOU DO ON A REG. It is no secret the reason why your single is because you have issues. We don't run to white women we are given a choice.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
only reason this guy is catching flack is bc he is telling the truth and "brothers" are intimidated that this will register in the psyche of black women. if it does, they will be s.o.l. Numbers don't lie. They can not keep up and we dnt have to pay for this. Those sistas who are caught up on "sticking by the black man's side" can do so if they please but the African-American community need not look to black women to save it. We don't owe black men anything.
DivinelyMochaDipped 2 months ago
@DivinelyMochaDipped Like you he is racist agianst black men, there is allot of black on black racism going around ehg ehm. You can allow this BS the register in the brians of black women all you want, maybe then they will start to date good black men instead of the trash in the street.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
@jamesdh76
*yawn* obviously, u r intimidated by white men bc u keep blabbering on this thread. i'm not racist, u're just sensitive and quite frankly, idgaf. grow up. u exude the very stereotype that is branded to black men which is blaming others for your problems, "women choose, not men." gtfoh. seeing as relationships are a 50/50 deal, BOTH ppl choose, it's mutual. not 1 person making the decisions. & if a white person said this, i wouldnt care cuz regardless who says it, its still the truth.
DivinelyMochaDipped 2 months ago
@DivinelyMochaDipped You missing the point so far off that i'm going to have to end it there. White men have little to do with what i'm talking about. My main point is, black men are not to blame, and we don't deserve the harsh words this thread and the Doc have put out there plane and simple. White men arn't the threat toward black men... Black people like you and the Doc are, and the thugs are just the fuel for the flame.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
@jamesdh76
didnt miss a point cuz ur statement was BS. the prob w/ our community is the breakdown of the family. there are diff factors for this & one IS the imbalance when it comes to success. education and finance fuel social mobility and if one group is moving while the other is not, compatibility dissimilates. as long as this rate among females is greater than that of males, there will be issues. Thats the point that me & "the doc" make. if that offends u, thats ur prob. we're not lying.
DivinelyMochaDipped 2 months ago
@DivinelyMochaDipped When you say black men, instead of pointing out some who have issues you are being racist. If a white person stated this what would you say.... Ok then watch your mouth, when addressing your brother, your father, your uncle and the list goes on and on. Black men deserve to have a loving supportive well kept healthy (mind body and sole) good black woman, who gives him warm hugs and a smile when he gets home. Anything less gets rejected plane and simple.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
Not marrying a black man is not a huge loss because the world is filled with all different types of men from all over the world with different accents and attitudes.
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts OMY GOD I TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!
alphaacad1 3 months ago
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@alphaacad1 Yes honey welfare is everything to me. It is a very good thing if you know what you are doing with it.
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
If money matters too you, then what exactly is it that your looking to establish with a man, because relationships are about two people who like eachother. You make it seem like a business.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
I searched on Plentyoffish too see how many black men outthere measure up to me. I was the only one within a 100 mile radius who was between the age of 28-35 no kids, MA, over 6F making between 30 and 40 grand, and still having trouble. And no I am not unattractive
jamesdh76 3 months ago
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Propaganda this is being done because of the rise of michelle obama can't get to her get to the rest of them they step up their media assault on black women on purpose to drive black women to white men or other race's because once the black woman cut's out from the self preservation game we are done in this country anywhere white's are they always remain a ruling class over the darker mix up race's the so called pure white's control the MEDIA I REPEAT MEDIA what's there purpose?
RealityIsAIllusion 3 months ago
black men are the sexiest .cant help it
MarieSueMax 3 months ago
@MarieSueMax < likes this woman.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@MarieSueMax Black men are sexy but they are no damn good. Every woman knows that black men are gorgeous creatures. Why do you think White women fantasize about them all the time. The thing is these black men just don't know how to be a boyfriend or husband and most of them just want sex.
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts Maybe you should stop looking in the nightclubs and project apartments for them and try to focus on what a good man really is. You keep looking for the tuff and ruff, and not the smart and good hearted. There are soooo many good black, men who rejected quickly by sistahs for being too smart and educated, too kind and good natured. You women consider this weak and too nice. You are your own worst enemy.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 'Maybe you should stop looking in the nightclubs and project apartments for them'
First of all I have only been to the club once in my entire lifetime and it was with friends on my 19th birthday. I don't go to the projects I don't know anyone in the projects. I live in the suburbs not the inner city.
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 Black men are ok. But I prefer White or Latino men more. They just add a little extra spice to the relationship that most black men don't.
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts I don't care who you date just don't go spewing hatred toward black men based on lies, and stuff on the news. We are strong, and could do without hatred from our sisters, and mothers. Relax and be sweet to a brother instead of mean and judgemental and you will see a hole different side of us.... It's what white, and Asian women do. Hint Hint,
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@MskateRoberts your response to MarieSueMax is racist, some of the most racist people I have ever dealt with were blacks racist toward me beacause I speak, well. Yes if you say I speak white your racist agianst Blacks. Sayhing something like this about black men is spineless, and foul. You know your not serious just mad at the fact that you don't have a man. How about the large amount of black women who use good black men for money, and free meals to go back and bring the doggy bag to a thug
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 'your response to MarieSueMax is racist, some of the most racist people I have ever dealt with were blacks racist'
I checked all of my comments that I have made and I don't see one that is racist. Please let me know which one it is and I will explain it. If you speak well then I would most likely I would be happy for you. There is nothing worse than having a conversation with someone who speaks poor English or ebonics. Now I may have my opinon on things but I am no racist. I luv evy1
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts Your coments were directed at black men being the issue, when we both know the only men sistahs date are low life thugs, and drug dealers, as is the case with every single female in my family accept for a few. Seattle, and Cali make it an issue for people like you, and state that black men find love everywhere, and it's not because of hatred of black women, it's hatred from black women.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts thats what happens when women fall all over men. They know they can find another woman so easy so they walk all over all of them.
MarieSueMax 3 months ago
Thats why these men leave yall asses on welfare with all these dam kids and every minute yall fighting each other over these no good Black men! If you are going to date a black man, then find a good one and if you cant find a good one, then explore other races. THATS IT! He isn't saying not to date Black men or to give up on them! He is only suggesting to explore other options, as half of us cant find good Black men anyway (according to the statistics, thats why so many black women are single)
alphaacad1 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 Black Women don't want good black men, nor do they know what a good black man is. They think that good means money. Dumb, or they think good means hood, or ghetto fame. You can't win this fight, their are toomany women not black coming into this country looking for black men... Educated black men.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76... I cant win this fight? hmmm, who is fighting and what exactly is your point? I am not the one looking for a Black man and I am not from this country, so if foreign Black women want a Black American, it does not have any effect on me whatsoever. The only thing I am saying is that if the Black American women cant find a good Black American man, then date outside racial lines........thats all. Ppl can date who they want
alphaacad1 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 You do realize you racist right?
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 ..LOL... Please re-read my post, nothing indicates that i am racist. how am I racist when I am black I am just not a black American. Perhaps I should put it this way, dont black men date outside their racce, hmmmmm, so why cant the women do the same? I just thinks its ok to date outside or racial lines. thats all
alphaacad1 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 Do so, but please put down the hate sword for black men, because we are not you problem... You are.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 actually I am not the problem as I am not black American and I am not dating a Black man, sooooooo I am not quite sure what our point is. Furthermore, no one has a sword up for Black men. This is the professor's book not mine and he is simpley stating that women should be open to dating men of other races. This is not difficult to understand!
alphaacad1 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 the point is do what ever you wish but keep black men out of your mouth, and leave us be. You have an issue with black men, and your not black, ok then take it up with you boyfriend, Not youtube.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 White couldn't the Professor state how these men that are sooooo hard to find. Bull Shizz, are not appealing to these black woman. BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO GOOD BLACK MEN= EDUCATED WELL GROOMED, SMART, NICE, RESPECTFUL ETC.!!! Thats the problem. White women and Asian women like black men like this.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 yes you did. You said black men this and that..... That's racist.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 I wasn't talking about foreign black women, I was talking about foreign all women. And I wasn't talking about black men, I was talking about the young healthy smart educated black men.. THE BLACK WOMEN CALL SOFT CORNY, BORING AND WEAK.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 Not at all dear. The problem is you black men have a tendency to put on an act and pretend to be the loving boyfriend or husband yet you want to take phone calls in the other room. You black men initiate the relationsship then you cheat. You black men out on an act and we fall for it and you turn out to be garbage all along. You all are so convinicing and very good actors. There are so many black men that are bad that its hard to distinguish who is good and who is bad!
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts No it's you who keep falling for the dumb so called thugs, you don't want a good man, you think four years in prison is sexy, and four years in college is gay. It's no act with good men you just see smart black men as weak, and wack. I see it in DC all the time.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 It's not necessarily a thug that we like. It is the demeanor of the "bad boy" look that we like. No woman in her right mind unless she is an adolecesant wants a "thug" as a lifelong partner. I can tell you that my husband is a college grad and he dresses up in thug gear and he is very educated. It is nothing more than just a style. I did 4 years of college and so did my man. Lastly I do not judge people who were locked up before because I know that no one is perfect. We all make mista
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts Yeah right the demeanor is the bad boy the type of person that will get into a fight with anyone get you in trouble get fired from a job, can't take the tuff of college and so on. A real man is strong, and can handle anything without being a dumb thug. You know what hate all you want there are women from everywhere looking for black men. Black men arn't having a problem in the dating Game Black woman are. Keep you racist hate going all you want.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
@jamesdh76 I could care less what black men are doing because I don't even date black men anymore. They make terrible boyfriends and I think they might make even worse husbands seeing how the rate of married black men falling to all time lows these days and the black families dwindling more and more each year, Then you have people like me dating outside our race shrinking our race even more. To me its a good thing anyway seeing that there is no unity between blacks anyway.
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
@jamesdh76 Just becuase someone did time in jail dont mean that they are some how a bad person or a thug. I have friends who have done time who are far from being a thug. People make mistakes and some get caught while others get away with it. You cannot consider that every person who gets locked up are labeled as thugs. All walks of life from every race and every class gets locked up. When I was in college we took a trip to a local prison and the people in there are no different than out here .
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts Everything you just said in this post proves my point... Your garbag.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts No only the black men in the ghetto hood, thug state of mind that you seem to fucus on and ignor the good ones, so what happns is the good ones some times turn bad beause they know that you only want men like this. The problem is that being a thug works, being a man with ten kids works, selling drugs works to getting you women. There are a ton of good black men out there but they don't feel you want them, so why even bother.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@MsKateRoberts You said "you black men have a tendency " you sound like Glen Beck.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
@jamesdh76 I may sound like Glenn Beck but I am speaking of the truth because it is all based upon my personal experience with black men.
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
@MsKateRoberts you didn't date every black man in the world jack ass, that's what makes it racist Glenn Beck said "I don't have any black friends because I won't know what to say to them with out sounding racist" You say your not into black men because you had a few bumps with them, same thing... Your racist, I can assure you that most black men are not like this, you just keep finding ones that are, because you like that shizzz.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
@jamesdh76 I know that there are good black men out there. I am just tired of black men stressing me out with their lies and cheating ways. You black men play too many games. You all act like you want to be in a relationship one minute then you act like you don't so I am confused with what black men want. So I simply just leave them alone and let them stress somene else out.
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
@MsKateRoberts
What's scary is white men play just as much games, and yet you do not generalize them, but only black men. I find it pathetic and childish that you look at white men as individuals, but with black men you generalize all of them. Looks like you have been stuck in the mental prison of white supremacy on a subconscious level. Ignorance is a bliss I guess. And that is a common interest you can share with a white man.
GoodBlackMusic 2 months ago
@GoodBlackMusic You are incorrect. I do look at everyone as an individual not just white men. The thing is I grew up in a white neighborhood and went to private schools with them so I have a better understanding of white people individually because most of my friends are white. With black men I have notice a consistency in their behavior especially ghetto ones and when you notice a consistency in something you can predict the possible outcome.
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
@MsKateRoberts words of a ghetto gagger. go gag away
Superseadragon 1 month ago
@Superseadragon At the end of the day i am still getting what I want and that is not a black man!
MsKateRoberts 1 month ago
@MsKateRoberts what ever. just shoo. shoo.
Superseadragon 1 month ago
@MsKateRoberts you don't know, a brother can come along and just up and love you right, just shut up step your looks up, get your A game on. YOu only live ounce so go get what you want and stop Whilding out on this bull Shizz.
jamesdh76 2 months ago
@jamesdh76 Look the truth is I really do still like black men. Its that you all get on my nerves sometimes.
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
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@jamesdh76 'you don't know, a brother can come along and just up and love you right, just shut up step your looks up'
But here is the problem though. Most black men out on the "loving boyfriend" act and when I give them a chance they up and cheat on me and lie about it. That is why I am beginning to have a slight hatred for black men just slight. I don't need to change the way that I look because I am men and I accept myself the way that I am. I am real and refuse to be fake to imp
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
@jamesdh76 (con't) ress any man regardless of race. If he can't love me for who I am and the way that I look then he isn't worth talking too. Me trying to change the way that I look to impress a man is not being myself and eventually the real me will show so it is pointless to change anything about me just to impress a man that may or may not even stay with me.
MsKateRoberts 2 months ago
@alphaacad1 I'm sorry but I feel disrespected by you because you bad mothed Welfare! I love welfare it was one of the things I thank this country for. Why is it that people talk bad about welfare? There is nothing wrong with it. I have been using welfare since I was a teen and it has never let me down. Welfare helped me when I was in college and was on a tight budget paying college loans. You better watch your mouth about welfare. Welfare is my best friend in the whole world! LOL!
MsKateRoberts 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 thank you, but we both know that when black women find good black men you call them boring, and claim he isn't good in bed when you havn't even touched the man. Then you see him with a white women and start spewing racism. It's what the KKK does.. the KKk is filled with white men who can't get laid. Hmm. the Bkkk anyone\?
jamesdh76 3 months ago
Black women do deserve better! If you cant find a GOOD Black man, then I think its ok to date outside their race!!! Think about the box
alphaacad1 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 But what is better, i'll bet if you put this so called women in a room full of good black men and thugs, the thugs would get all the attention. oh wait Oprah and Tyra Banks already did this, and proved me right that's right dang.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
There are still a lot of good black men out there for high expectation black woman .Going to other races will not help the black family but make it more weak and in your case non existent.
PREZ150 3 months ago
Another sad brain wash white man uncle Tom.He is really saying if a black woman is not happy with a black man date or married a white man and full fill all your financial dreams of happiness.Yea marry the white and forget about the black man and just let them keep going to jail and killing each other. Ralph "Uncle Tom" Banks stop dwelling only on the negative about the black man you sound like your slave master white racist out there.
PREZ150 3 months ago
@PREZ150 Yup, and the black women are following this fool proven the hatred they have for black men. They run around with fools so much that they beleive that this is how we are. I watched my sistahs run after these men, all my life... Tell me nothing.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jga665 - ......John Henrick Clark once said "The foundation of the black community is the black family and the foundation of the black family is the black woman."
Obviously, a man like Ralph Richard Banks cares little, if any at all, about our community. I bet you a c-note his wife is white. Lol.
jkillah999 3 months ago
@jkillah999 No, his wife is actually black. She's psychologist at Stanford. He admitted his wife prefers that their children marry within their own race. Which is strange, because he's encouraging bw to marry out.
jga665 3 months ago
@jga665 - Wow.....now that IS strange.
jkillah999 3 months ago
@jga665....NO ITS NOT STRANGE!! THE KEY WORD WAS "PREFERS" MEANING ITS OK TO DATE WITHIN YOUR RACE, BUT IF ONE CANNOT FIND A MATE WITHIN THEIR OWN RACE, CONSIDER TO MARRY OR DATE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE. HE IS ONLY MAKING A SUGGESTION FOR THE HIGH POPULATION OF SINGLE BLACK WOMEN!
alphaacad1 3 months ago
You noticed how no one ever speaks about the large percentage of black men and women who AREN'T in college who make up the majority of the black community and who are, more or less, in the same boat. They talk about the small percentage of college educated black men and women as if they represent our entire race. This clever bit of word manipulation is how they convince large numbers of BW that BM are beneath them, when in reality, the majority of us are still on the same level. Pay attention.
jkillah999 3 months ago
@jkillah999 Ppl don't understand that he wrote this book about the black upper-middle-class, that's why it's such a big hit. Other ppl who wrote these types of books, only wrote about the poor. Of course poor ppl weren't buying those books. For this book, he interview highly educated black women (doctors, layers, etc.) Since a lot of them are single and talk about this topic amongst each other, this book was bound to be a huge seller.
jga665 3 months ago
@jkillah999 The title was a clever one...Had he named it Upper Middle-Class Black Women & their Marriage Woes, it wouldn't have caught as much attention as "Is Marriage for White People." This book is written about a certain group. A little elitist? Yeah, I know.
jga665 3 months ago
@jga665 - Yeah....but when they talk about it publicly, they never make that distinction, and i wonder if they even realize that speaking in general terms like that has a profound effect on the black community as a whole. At the end of the day, its all just sad really. The way we've changed from being people with overwhelming, dare i say militant, pride in ourselves to turning completely against each other in a matter of decades.....
jkillah999 3 months ago
I agree with the author, BW shouldn't limit themselves or carry the burdens of black men. BW have come to far and we do not need to keep waiting or looking just within our race. BW need to open their horizons the data doesn't lie GIVE UP the good fight
simone23803 3 months ago
Speaks volumes about what and the real world does reflect the fact that over 60% of black children are being raised by one parent as opposed to two and a myriad of other problems and in order for there to be a soultion, black america must first admit that there is a problem and as far as I'm concerned, black people are in denial.
MegaFELIPE48 3 months ago
@MegaFELIPE48
Single parenthood is just a black problem? I know other groups who are having babies out of wedlock just as frequently, it's not a black problem it's a societal one. Again who is magnifying the out of wedlock "problem" for those other people? No one. That's why I question the criticisms of blacks when other groups are facing the same issues but yet it's a "black problem", you can't see the hypocrisy?
RE35R 3 months ago
Ralph Richard Banks is one individual who is not P.C. for he speaks the truth and some folks simply cannot handle it
MegaFELIPE48 4 months ago
@MegaFELIPE48
Unfortunately he speaks an accepted truth which do not mean it's the absolute truth. There have been an on-going push by mainstream media to constantly portray black men and women as oil and water happiest partnering with anyone but themselves. The fact is mainstream media does not reflect the real world where 96% of black men marry black women and 98% black women marry black men. The author married a black woman and that in and of itself speaks volumes.
RE35R 3 months ago
This guy is part of the problem and contributing to the breakdown of the black community and the social structure within. I would think he would offer more of a positive solution in building relationships between black women and men, however, I hear nothing of the sort. I will uplift all those within my community and will wait for my black King to take his place on his thrown next to me. My degree got me a career and my heart will bring to me a diligent black man. Or I'll die alone.
beau2fullyhuman 4 months ago
black men are just sad. stop committing crimes and stay in school, boys. it's the men that need a kick in the pants. black womena aren't the problem.
karlsmith00 4 months ago 14
@karlsmith00
Wake up motherfucker! I'm black and a biophysics major. You are obviously grouping all black men in one pot. Not a nice thing to do.
flirtwd 4 months ago
@flirtwd i'm talking about overall statistics. overall education, employment, and incarceration statistics nationwide. don't tell me this, tell your brothers they should stay in school. i don't care if it's "nice," it's not nice that black women have to deal with such losers.
karlsmith00 4 months ago
@karlsmith00
Black men and women are the problem when they believe all the hype mainstream media say about them.
RE35R 3 months ago
@RE35R the media didn't invent the facts.
twice as many black women as men graduate from college. 1/4 of black men are either incarcerated or on parole. the media didn't invent that "hype."
karlsmith00 3 months ago
@karlsmith00
Of course they did. 791,600 African Americans in prison (Census) and 804,000 African-American males in college (National Center for Education), hmm of a population of 41 million. Black women don't have mate potentials in their own race is nonsense. If they want mates outside of their race more power to them but they should be aware they're being lied to by the media about their own men.
RE35R 3 months ago
@RE35R look at this idiot.
so because you pulled numbers out of a hat, and it turns out there's SLIGHLY more men in college than jail, then there's no problem!
listen, idiot. the problem is rates. there are TWICE as many black women in college as men. and the rates of black male crime are enormous. a successful black woman with a degree isn't going to marry some loser with a drug record who just got out.
you don't know how numbers work. stop embarassing yourself.
karlsmith00 3 months ago
@karlsmith00
Quite the contrary I'm not embarrassing myself nor am I filled with anger to call you a name. My desire is to see my people prosper and not be took advantage of by believing the okey doke that's peddled as fact. I know numbers can be used to mislead and to solidify stereotyping which is the case. It appears you want to believe the lies about black men and that's fine believe but the truth is the truth regardless to how badly you want to believe otherwise.
RE35R 3 months ago
@karlsmith00 YUP... i agree
alphaacad1 3 months ago
@karlsmith00 Then why is that that black women reward only the black men who committ crimes with thier love, and call good educated brothers white. They are the ones having babys with drug dealers, and thugs, and trash in the street not black men. You tell the world I want a thug, and you get one sleep with him show the other brothers what you can get if you act this way and you get more have a kid, who looks up to one, and you get more..... Get it?
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76 what the fuck do you mean REWARDING? what "good educated" brothers are you talking about? WOMEN GRADUATE FROM COLLEGE AT THE RATE OF 2 TO 1 COMPARED TO MEN. 1 IN 4 BLACK MALES ARE IN JAIL OR ON PAROLE.
do you even understand the facts? or do you make up your own like a typical male?
if you're some loser that nobody wants, then that's your fault. males are so fucking sad. you guys are the problem, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY AND STOP WHINING.
karlsmith00 3 months ago
@karlsmith00 Your missing the point, and 1 -4 is a lie, lol you racist prick. By the way i'm not loser who none wants I have a girl and i'm fine. This is my work kill time stuff. I'm talking about the hatred spewing on this page about black men being no good and all. Like yoiu bringing up black men being in jail crap. If you read my post you would see the link I made to this.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@karlsmith00 Im not in jail and have allot of education, ugh Masters, and a well paying job, no kids in shape nice skinn smart need I go on. The point is black women don't wan me, white women do, so when you spew hate about no good black men, try asking why they are allways dissing the good black men. It's a worlwind of bull shiz.
jamesdh76 3 months ago
@jamesdh76
Are you stupid or dumb? This man is not talking about ghetto welfare receiving multi-babby daddy having black women. He specifically said COLLEGE-EDUCATED and is referring to middle class black women who make names for ourselves. Do you honestly think these are the same women who lay up with thugs and make babies they can't afford?
Fact is there are more black males on the level of those ghetto boppers than on the level w/ us who are educated/self-made. Get it? *rolls eyes*
DivinelyMochaDipped 2 months ago
Black people seem to think they own each other. Blacks are obsessed about the negative aspects of interracial relationships. BOTTOM LINE: Find someone who you love and will love and respect you, PERIOD! Race should not be this huge of an issue.
LAWoman323213 4 months ago
@LAWoman323213
Normally it shouldn't however when you live in a society that have nothing positive to say about a an entire population the most natural thing for them to do is stick together. Actually blacks are not obsessed with interracial relationships, it's the media which is constantly telling that lie there's not enough black men for black women and they use misguided folks such as the author to do so. What other race is picked apart in the media like the Am. black? No other.
RE35R 3 months ago
@RE35R You have a valid point.
LAWoman323213 3 months ago
Ralph Richard Banks is so full of shit. Statistics show that men of all races (even black men) are not interested in marrying black women (in comparison to other races). The majority of black women and white men do not have much in common. Black women might be open to marrying outside of their race, but it’s not always the other way around.
LAWoman323213 4 months ago
I think this dude is just tired of seeing sisters suffer and he's basically telling these gals to save themselves...These women need to stop putting out and getting knocked up if the dude hasn't married you. These chicks have got to stop letting all these bums knock them up with various kids that they can't possiblity parent because he has a million kids in a million other households...The women need to step up their requirements... If the guy doesn't cut...DROP HIM...
Machelle3200 5 months ago
@Machelle3200 He is actually addressing educated black women, not hoochies (with multiple out of wedlock children). Educated (middle/upper income) black women tend to be single, without children.
Mary2020VA 5 months ago
@Mary2020VA I"m sorry but having a child out of wedlock or not being highly educated doesn't make one a "HOOCHIE"...get over yourselves...and having a degree doesn't make a bougie high maintainence chick worthy of being a wife....If she doesn't know the TRUE meaning of being a wife...it doesn't matter what kind of education she has. A woman can have a million degrees and still be a bytch with a stank attitude that can't cook or clean. What real man wants to come home to that garbage?
Machelle3200 5 months ago
@Mary2020VA I don't give a phuck who he was talking about. BLACK MEN IN GENERAL.. aint marrying these broads...REGARDLESS OF THEIR EDUCATION...hooked on phonics much? I bet you have about ten degrees eh?LOL You're one of those uppity black chicks aren't you?
Machelle3200 5 months ago
@Machelle3200 I'm trying to follow your rationale. You stated the following, '...These chicks have got to stop letting these bums knock them up with various kids that they can't possibly parent because he has a million kids in a million other households.' I responded, 'He is actually addressing educated black women, not hoochies (with multiple out of wedlock children). It's important to realize that there are very clear class distinctions between the two groups.
Mary2020VA 5 months ago
@Machelle3200 I am working on my doctorate in epidemiology/public health, but that's beside the point. I'm an 'uppity black chick' because I do not fit into your narrow 'black box.'
Newsflash: There's nothing 'uppity' about electing to further one's education. If anything, it's natural to work towards advancement.
Mary2020VA 5 months ago
@Machelle3200 .......You can say that again.... Everyone wants to point the finger and say "Haha BW can't get a BM to marry then".... Truthe is..Black Men aren't getting married, PERIOD. The regular everyday black men that I see hooking up with all these whites and mexicans, are NOT marrying these chics. Certain BM just don't want to get married. ... Cgirl2020
Creditgirl2020 4 months ago
Seriously, the modern black man aint fit to marry. Especially not where I live. They are angry, irresponsible and just emotionally and mentally screwed up.Finding decent relationships has nothing to do with money or education. it's about two people who share a bond spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. It's about two people who have a shared view of the world. I believe in a man and wife raising their kids together. Most black men i know have kids all over the place..What a lost cause....
Machelle3200 5 months ago 4
Not enough black men? Are they talking about in America only, or in the world? I see plenty. Now whether or not they want to be in a marriage relationship, not everyone is going to want to get married, at the same time, or ready for it. Any person can change, it doesn't matter how educated you are, the issue is, are they willing to change.
paradokzal 5 months ago
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trahhollidayveal 5 months ago
I agree, this is a stupid conversation!
1205Ydoc 5 months ago
No give up on tolerating the Black man's mess..all these lies, cheating, calling women out their name, and just plain lust do not tolerant it! Do not give up on Black men! Just dont tolerant his foolishness
cogiclady09 5 months ago 2
The author is telling the sisters to give up the good fight, that is give up on black men. I am one who will not be purchasing his book. There are a lot of good black men out there, it just that mainstream media like CNN can't make any money off of them because that does not boost their ratings. Sisters , just use a virtue called patience, and in due time you will get that good brother.
fthcm101 5 months ago
The author is telling the sisters to give up the good fight, that is give up on black men. I am one who will not be purchasing his book. There are a lot of good black men out there, it just that mainstream media like CNN can't make any money off of them because that does not boost their ratings. Sisters , just use a virtue called patience, and in due time you will get that good brother.
fthcm101 5 months ago
These type of things gave black men like me a bad name. Smh.
malikzzzzz 5 months ago
Wooooooow this is the most racist thing I've seen on youtube to date.
JacareCalhoun28 5 months ago
Why is the focus of this video race? Sorry, but good and bad men come in all nationalities, colors and sizes. A lot of what happens has to to with a person's upbringing (or lack thereof). The real issue at hand is how to stop bad parents from raising bad children. Every race/nationality has issues. As a good woman, you are lucky to find a good man of any color these days!
reynellie 5 months ago
Ralph "Uncle Tom" Banks
afvmedia 5 months ago
I can't believe that two black men are on tv telling black women to stop dating their race. Who are these guys married to. I am not in disagreement with a lot of the issues that plague black america, but how about raising the standard for black men. Getting them educated and moved into position to take care of the black family. One more thing, every so called successful black woman isn't prepared to date a successful black man. They get a better than you mind set and don't allow men to be men.
Cleeze430 5 months ago
This is like an In Living Color skit.
roscoegino 5 months ago 2
Amen brother!!! I have honestly been saying this forever!! Most black women are so afraid to date outside of their race and they project that & therefore don't get approached by other men. And I am talking about the well educated black women who have good jobs. So many of them are unmarried but do not open themselves up to other races.
bunbun5877 5 months ago
@bunbun5877 Oh expert, please expound... tell us what black women are afraid of?!?! Lol, BW aren't afraid to date outside of their race, they just don't want to. You like what you like, most BW like BM. Most women tend to gravitate towards men that have similarities to their fathers, and since BW fathers are black, that is what most of them prefer. Why does it bother people so much that BW are getting married anyway, it's their problem not yours?!?!
diragurl 5 months ago
I almost spit out my coffee when some woman, probably a nappy ghetto with ten kids said bw want bm but bm do not want bw.wtf.I'm just not attracted to bm.I'm multiracial and have my choice of men and I just dont want a bm.If bw are single it's because they dont put up with bull.Down low or low down men which ever way you take it.leave that shit for weak ww.I'm glad bm like ww. ww dont want them unless they have three jobs.bm get what the wm has used up and tossed aside.who crying over bm?
treeyard1 5 months ago
MORE SINGLE WOMEN TO KNOCK BOOT!
0305trailblazer 5 months ago
This Ralph guy is a Captain save-a-hoe ass bitch! All these black women are single but where are all these babies coming from? Where did these BM who are not on-point come from? Why is it that BM are able to date and marry outside of the race so much but BW are not? It is pretty obvious BW are on bullshit! They can't marry outside the race because they purposily get with less established men so they can run the relationship. This is why BW can't date outside the race.
SSJ1Goku 5 months ago
@SSJ1Goku
No race of man wants to put up with a BW's bullshit! That is why 80% of BW are single!
SSJ1Goku 5 months ago
there's plenty of black men but U Esau!! have our men in your jails or poisoning our neighborhoods with your crack & guns or using these faggot rappers to teach our only good men to turn gay. F*ck U Edom your fate is death.
TheVee909 5 months ago
Either Ralph Richard Banks is a mangina who has bought into Black AMERICAN feminist agitprop about Black men, or he is a VERY clever progressive who has grown tired (as most progressive brothers have) of Black AMERICAN women bemoaning the lack of "good" Black men while they simultaneously praise men of other races, and wantonly go after the lowest and least productive men in the Black community.
SavMacCauley 5 months ago
You know after Obama got in office it seems like the only thing in this country that matters now is race. I'm a black guy and I'm tried of hearing about it to be honest. There are other things in this world (mainly in this country) that need our attention, and we waste time with nonsense, and they wounder why people don't have respect for mainstream media. They're a bunch of rating whores. I'm sure that race topics pull in huge ratings, and that's the whole reason why they talk about this stuff
mmawilldesha 5 months ago 12
@mmawilldesha and then they got black people doing the reporting
iamwhitfield 5 months ago
@iamwhitfield IKR! Looking like dummies downing the black race. LMAO. WOW.
DrMom2012 5 months ago
Still having kids though. Go figure !
FRANKIEFRESH9 6 months ago
I'm a black woman and honestly I'm just not into black men. I like white guys and Asian guys but i have no time for an idiot dude who believe that the world is keeping him down because he's a black man.
NotMyBirthday 6 months ago 4
@NotMyBirthday
And thats why you will be forever more nothing but a ungrateful nigga bed wench
JODYJOE 6 months ago
@JODYJOE thank you :)
NotMyBirthday 5 months ago
@NotMyBirthday
YOUR WELCOME! : ]
JODYJOE 5 months ago