First of All..... Congratulations on the marriage, have been following you for a number of years..... You look great together.
Now....Alicia ....as a male (uk) ..you've met the immediate family .. I'd say with the extended family comes more questions, maybe he doesn't want his ear chewed off about the babies thing.
Anyway, hope both you and the happy couple have a happy Christmas and new year.
You are in denile. He is not serious. Girl,dump him. He is not trying to settle down. If he dosen't introduce you to the family after 5yrs, then you are a convenience for him. Don't listen to the excuses. Even if he didnt understand your needs, after 5yrs he should be sensative to them & introduce you to the family. Seriously, you should dump him and date a man who respects you . Because he is just kicken it for convenience.
Uhh 5YRS!! Did he present a ring to you by now? He is going home for Thanksgiving.......He should of talked to you FIRST...If he has not done either of these 2 things...DUMP HIM! simply put. uuughh
Now to Alicia directly @RenBug55 - I just read your post. As I mentioned earlier, MissBrownSuga444 and I have talked about similar scenarios many times. So, I have a question for you: I understand you want marriage love and not marriage and no kids. Did he say he wants the same thing? Being an East Coast native, I know how traditional East Coast families can be. And if you come to the East Coast - the family will ask you and him tons of questions about where you're relationship is headed.
Hey MissBrownSuga444, this is Jerome in da house. You will probably not be surprised by my comments for Alicia as it similar to many conversations we have had as friends over the years. Every relationship of 2 years or more is eventually going to hit the four little words: Where Is This Going? I am so glad for you that there was a positive answer for you and Mr. M. After 5 years, I am concerned for Alicia that her man is not going anywhere near making her feel like a princess.
I haven't been in this situation but he has something to hide. It's either he doesn't want you to meet his family because of IDK, ethnicity, race, some weird BS or he's kind of ashamed/embarassed of his family( mannerisms, something.) He's definitely hiding something. And you guys have been together for a half a decade? He needs to get it together or let it loose. That's too long to not be more opened.
*Hello Everyone, its Alicia* (the kitty cat :)) well i think i should have said something...I have met him mom and step dad quite a few times. They love me! they want us to have a litter of babies! But as for marriage, its not my thing (as untraditional as that sounds comin from a female, and NO babies either) i don’t need a marriage just marriage love. :)
@RenBugBug55 Oh, I thought you didn't meet them @ all. Maybe he doesn't want you to meet the rest of his family or something. The holidays is pretty much a time where everyone comes together. So IDK.
Okay real talk. you have just been a victim of don't bring sand to the beach scenario. And sometimes a man just has to clean up his pass before he can bring his new girl around you don't want to walk in to a situation where all his old lovers are in his face as soon as you land. sometimes we as men need to (clean up the closet before we can hang up the new coat) . If you understand what I mean
Okay real talk. you have just been a victim of don't bring sand to the beach scenario. And sometimes a man just has to clean up his pass before he can bring his new girl around you don't want walk in to a situation where all his old lovers are in his face as soon as you land. sometimes we as men need to (clean up the closet before we can hang up the new coat) . If you understand what I mean
kinda unsure and sorry for saying this but is it probable that you two have an untraditional/alternative type of relationship that he is not sure of exposing his family to as of yet?
That being said you really need to ask him straight up why he doesn't want you to meet his family after almost 5 years, even fi you don't want to argue. If it bothers you (which it should, lol) it needs to be discussed. He needs to know how you feel about it and more than that you need to know just how he feels about this and why. Communication is key to a lasting relationship, right?
I'm a guy and 'm not sure why he would do this, it really is as bit strange. He may just be so used to being with his whole family in his hometown without a girlfriend that perhaps to him it's like HIS time with his family. I don't agree with that idea, because at this point you should at least meet his family if not begin to be a part of it... Maybe he's worried that his family might embarass him? I really don't know, I find it's very strange.
To quote Tony Braxton "let it flow". Don't be afraid of having an argument because you think he'll leave you or get mad. If he gets upset, so what. You can't demand that kind of respect if you're afraid his his reaction. After five years of knowing someone you shouldn't be walking on egg shells. Just make a promise to yourself to have a productive conversation and not to let your emotions get the best of you. Without a doubt in my mind there's a specific reason why. And being his five year......
I'm not a male but RED FLAG!!!!! He might be a really great guy but if you haven't met his family in 5 years, I would question where does he see this relationship going or is this it. I have always said that if he doesn't introduce you to his family, then you are not the one. I'm afraid this might be a case of why buy the cow when the milk is free. You need to know if marriage is in the near future or are you wasting your time. You deserve better..
First of All..... Congratulations on the marriage, have been following you for a number of years..... You look great together.
Now....Alicia ....as a male (uk) ..you've met the immediate family .. I'd say with the extended family comes more questions, maybe he doesn't want his ear chewed off about the babies thing.
Anyway, hope both you and the happy couple have a happy Christmas and new year.
:D
Onevision63 2 months ago
You are in denile. He is not serious. Girl,dump him. He is not trying to settle down. If he dosen't introduce you to the family after 5yrs, then you are a convenience for him. Don't listen to the excuses. Even if he didnt understand your needs, after 5yrs he should be sensative to them & introduce you to the family. Seriously, you should dump him and date a man who respects you . Because he is just kicken it for convenience.
alecniles 3 months ago
Uhh 5YRS!! Did he present a ring to you by now? He is going home for Thanksgiving.......He should of talked to you FIRST...If he has not done either of these 2 things...DUMP HIM! simply put. uuughh
BelgiumChoco 3 months ago
sorry Alicia, but I think that after 5 YEARS...you deserve much better!
mashramani 4 months ago
Now to Alicia directly @RenBug55 - I just read your post. As I mentioned earlier, MissBrownSuga444 and I have talked about similar scenarios many times. So, I have a question for you: I understand you want marriage love and not marriage and no kids. Did he say he wants the same thing? Being an East Coast native, I know how traditional East Coast families can be. And if you come to the East Coast - the family will ask you and him tons of questions about where you're relationship is headed.
jcashman011 4 months ago
Hey MissBrownSuga444, this is Jerome in da house. You will probably not be surprised by my comments for Alicia as it similar to many conversations we have had as friends over the years. Every relationship of 2 years or more is eventually going to hit the four little words: Where Is This Going? I am so glad for you that there was a positive answer for you and Mr. M. After 5 years, I am concerned for Alicia that her man is not going anywhere near making her feel like a princess.
jcashman011 4 months ago
my question is why is a grown married woman going out to celebrate halloween? That strikes me as odd.
Goin2Back 4 months ago
I haven't been in this situation but he has something to hide. It's either he doesn't want you to meet his family because of IDK, ethnicity, race, some weird BS or he's kind of ashamed/embarassed of his family( mannerisms, something.) He's definitely hiding something. And you guys have been together for a half a decade? He needs to get it together or let it loose. That's too long to not be more opened.
KTBEverlasting 4 months ago
*Hello Everyone, its Alicia* (the kitty cat :)) well i think i should have said something...I have met him mom and step dad quite a few times. They love me! they want us to have a litter of babies! But as for marriage, its not my thing (as untraditional as that sounds comin from a female, and NO babies either) i don’t need a marriage just marriage love. :)
RenBugBug55 4 months ago
@RenBugBug55 Oh, I thought you didn't meet them @ all. Maybe he doesn't want you to meet the rest of his family or something. The holidays is pretty much a time where everyone comes together. So IDK.
KTBEverlasting 4 months ago
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Okay real talk. you have just been a victim of don't bring sand to the beach scenario. And sometimes a man just has to clean up his pass before he can bring his new girl around you don't want to walk in to a situation where all his old lovers are in his face as soon as you land. sometimes we as men need to (clean up the closet before we can hang up the new coat) . If you understand what I mean
dmtrssngltn 4 months ago
Okay real talk. you have just been a victim of don't bring sand to the beach scenario. And sometimes a man just has to clean up his pass before he can bring his new girl around you don't want walk in to a situation where all his old lovers are in his face as soon as you land. sometimes we as men need to (clean up the closet before we can hang up the new coat) . If you understand what I mean
dmtrssngltn 4 months ago
kinda unsure and sorry for saying this but is it probable that you two have an untraditional/alternative type of relationship that he is not sure of exposing his family to as of yet?
9961269 4 months ago
@9961269 Hello its Alicia. No we're pretty 'normal' :) i think . LOL
RenBugBug55 4 months ago
That being said you really need to ask him straight up why he doesn't want you to meet his family after almost 5 years, even fi you don't want to argue. If it bothers you (which it should, lol) it needs to be discussed. He needs to know how you feel about it and more than that you need to know just how he feels about this and why. Communication is key to a lasting relationship, right?
Best of luck :P
hello184 4 months ago
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hello184 4 months ago
I'm a guy and 'm not sure why he would do this, it really is as bit strange. He may just be so used to being with his whole family in his hometown without a girlfriend that perhaps to him it's like HIS time with his family. I don't agree with that idea, because at this point you should at least meet his family if not begin to be a part of it... Maybe he's worried that his family might embarass him? I really don't know, I find it's very strange.
hello184 4 months ago
.......companion you have every right to know why. Trust your instincts!!!!!!
P.S. This opinion is coming from a straight male.
turntable1985 4 months ago
To quote Tony Braxton "let it flow". Don't be afraid of having an argument because you think he'll leave you or get mad. If he gets upset, so what. You can't demand that kind of respect if you're afraid his his reaction. After five years of knowing someone you shouldn't be walking on egg shells. Just make a promise to yourself to have a productive conversation and not to let your emotions get the best of you. Without a doubt in my mind there's a specific reason why. And being his five year......
turntable1985 4 months ago
Your dude has something to hide, the question is... WHAT?
cococure77 4 months ago
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Look sweetheart, wake the fuck up before it's too late.
jahforce7 4 months ago
I'm not a male but RED FLAG!!!!! He might be a really great guy but if you haven't met his family in 5 years, I would question where does he see this relationship going or is this it. I have always said that if he doesn't introduce you to his family, then you are not the one. I'm afraid this might be a case of why buy the cow when the milk is free. You need to know if marriage is in the near future or are you wasting your time. You deserve better..
kkimberly2004 4 months ago