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  • @MtthwSmmns There are 2 serious issues I have with your statement. One, you want to reframe the debate to an issue that is opinion based, which is if parents should be able to do what they wish regardless of whether it has been proven harmful to children or not simply because they are parents. Two, with regards to the hypothetical you gave about standing in the corner. I have a hard time understandin why you believe that if a child disobeys your command, that the logical next step is to hit him.

  • IT REALLY DEPENDS ON THE KID, PERIOD. SOME CHILDREN CAN ONLY BE DISCIPLINED WITH SPANKING, AND SOME ONLY WITH PRIVILEGES BEING TAKEN AWAY. IT COMES DOWN TO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR CHILD TO BE DISCIPLINED...SHOWS LIKE SUPERNANNY WERE MADE BECAUSE SO MANY PARENTS DON'T WANT TO DISCIPLINE THEIR CHILDREN.

  • @UrbanDecayLova247 THIA IS NOT A BLACK AND WHITE ISSUE WHATSOEVER 

  • I don't agree with spanking. The grounding and time outs worked for me as a kid, and the parents have to be consistent, must follow through, and be firm

  • I love all these people attempting to push their own views about the topic of spanking, & then reverting to insults because they can't change someone else's opinion. There is a difference between spanking (popping a child on the rear through clothes bare handed) & beating a child (using whatever is in arm's reach because you're pissed). To be honest, by my own definition, I was beat. I don't support beating a child. But I do support a parent's right to spank a child.

  • Children are little people with feelings that need to be considered. This doesn't mean that we give them everything they want and spoil them. Though sometimes it's helpful to see things from their point of view, to gain understanding.

  • @rtpb1234 i am longer answering questions on this topic. i have answered many spanking questions on different videos, check out my playist for more videos, or research the issue independently. i encourage education.

  • so many pretentious blowhards!!!

  • people who spank are abusers, because they were abused too, their neurosis do not let them realize their pathology, from victim they become abusers of her own children... that the cyicle of violence

  • @marisolitafr then what do you do to fix it?

  • @sailornaruto39 Read ORIGINS OF VIOLENCE, see the site: violence dot de

  • @marisolitafr so does that imply that people who are spank become vilonet?

  • What we see is clapping idiots every time the pastor is talking about how right it is to abuse children- sad! sa! sad! these people arent intelligent, cause if they were they wouldnt sit there clapping every time they hear the words whipping children is ok. Its very sad and these clapping idiots need a school education and learn how to deal with normal things in life, with other words they need to learn how to see right from wrong.

  • @sw20008 ur pathetic excuses of hitting is ok if u use time outs first and hitting is ok because non spanked children can end up in jail isnt gonna fly. u r now partly responsible for increasing this cycle of stupidity for another generation. ur daughter will grow up and hit her kids because her father didnt have the intelligence to discipline her without violence!

  • @sw20008 since u were spanked and u think u turned out fine, i guess all the thousands of doctors and researchers who criticize spanking dont know what they r talking about. ur the genius. if u spank ur child, at least admit that ur a moron and dont try to rationalize ur behavior.

  • @omgtaylorswift01 i turned out perfectly fine their is a difference between a spanking an physical abuse.my siblings and myself are fine and all my friends so dont you dare say something does not work when it has for me and the majority of ppl i know.you know nothing bout it every1 is different

  • @rtpb1234

    From Wikipedia, 'Physical abuse is abuse involving contact intended to cause feelings of intimidation, injury, or other physical suffering or bodily harm.' You can call it spanking or whatever prissy little term helps your conscience but spanking is intended to HURT the child. You are deliberately inflicting harm on a CHILD. It does not matter if it worked for you or your friends, if I starved my child it would stop them from becoming obese. Does that mean it's ethical to starve...

  • @ScouseCaspaXS Yes! you are right it hurts the child! But it also teaches them right from wrong! If you do not spank your child THEY WILL RUN OVER YOU! They will see that their "punishment" doesnt hurt in any way and therefore will be like " Well, this wasnt that bad, I think I will do it again!" Hey how about this, LEts not punish our criminals by locking them up because this has been proven to be bad on the psyche! Lets just let them run around and do what they want! Sounds good

  • @MtthwSmmns

    Which is why every child who has been spanked is perfectly well behaved and every child who wasn't is an absolute bastard? Oh wait...What do you do when your child is big enough to hit you back? What do you do if your child has smacked another child, smack them to show them how bad smacking is? If there was another method to prevent criminals re-offending/stop them being a danger others, that didn't involve psychologically harming them, I'd choose that option.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS First off! I know many parents whos children are grown up and the child of those parents never tried to hit them back because they had respect for their parents. Why did they have respect? Because the parents spanked them while they were younger! I now see parents in public places letting their kids just run wilded and they parents kept say "No, dont do that." "You are being bad dont do that." Guess what? The child still acted wild! Pain teaches!

  • @MtthwSmmns

    And don't start with the, 'they won't know right from wrong' bullshit. If you're unable to teach your child right from wrong w/o physically hurting them then that just tells me that you're a poor parent. There are plenty of parents who can teach a child right from wrong w/o spanking them, it isn't impossible, it just takes work and commitment.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS Please tell me! I dont want to spank my child, but its called tough love! You must be able to talk in child langauge because most children do not understand your words alot of the time! Spanking works! Face it! You have no children and have no right, to tell me how I should and shouldnt punish my child! If you want to use words that do not work alone! then fine! that is your way to dealing with things!

  • @ScouseCaspaXS You obviously dont have children and if you do I bet they are the ones that are running around on the streets doing whatever they like because they feel that there are not real consequences to life! They life is all gravy! That if they do happen to do something wrong then there "punishment" will not be that bad.

  • @MtthwSmmns

    I don't have children, but I am a fully qualified childcare professional. That means I am actually trained to meet the needs of children, unlike you, a parent, who simply learns to care for their child by imitating their parents and trial and error.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS LOL are you kidding me?! You were trained! You mean you wanted to get paid to deal with children unlike me, a parent, which chose to do it for free! Just because you are Qualified childcare professional doesnt mean anything! You can still do as much wrong as a parent can! LOL like that title makes you perfect! If you are such a trained pro. then you should know that children learn from pain! Well you should know that because the average idiot knows this!

  • @MtthwSmmns

    Yes I do know children learn from pain, I bet they'd learn a lesson if I beat them unconscious too, does that make moral or acceptable? Do you hit your dog if it does something wrong? Your wife? Your mother? Your father? Your siblings? Your extended family? Your friends? Your colleagues? No, but you think it's acceptable to do it to a child that can't defend themselves. It makes you no better than a bully.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS LOL you are comparing a child to adults! Children are not adults! I dont hit anyone because my mom that if i hit someone out of just wanting to hit someone that there are punishments for such crimes. Its weird how it works! I was taught by spanking that if I got out of line and broke the rules that I would be punished in a way that is not so easy! A punishment that taught me not to hit others! Not a punishment that just made me think, gosh, is this all i get?

  • @ScouseCaspaXS because my mom taught me that if I hit someone out of just wanting to hit someone that there are punishments for such crimes. Sorry had to fix that.

  • @MtthwSmmns The time out method does work, children learn from repetition and consistency. If you give a child a warning and they continue misbehaving, you place them in time out and explain to them why you're doing it, if they get up you put them back however many times it takes, you then leave them there until the time has run out and ask them to say sorry, if they don't say sorry or if you feel it's insincere you repeat the process until they apologize. Fucking rocket science isn't it!

  • @ScouseCaspaXS Whoa.... you kiss your mom with that mouth? Hope you dont use that langauge around kids! Looks like someone hasnt been spanked as a child! LOL anyways, the child will never learn anything from being put in the corner over and over again. He or she will just learn repetitiveness is annoying! LOL I guess you just stand there all day long putting kids in the corner over and over and over again because like I said a kid has more energy than your grown self does!

  • @MtthwSmmns

    The time out method works because it gives children time to understand and reflect on what they did wrong, deprives them of play and attention - when done correctly - and helps them to understand that you will follow through with what you say. It can, especially when used with strategies like positive reinforcement, teach a child right and wrong *WITHOUT* using the fear of being hurt to scare them into doing what you want them to,

  • @ScouseCaspaXS oh, hey you posted this twice! Must have done it out of rage or just impatience! Must be that trained professional coming through.

  • @MtthwSmmns I do have the right to say you shouldn't punish your child by spanking, by the way, it's called freedom of speech and no-one forced you to respond to me. My bet is that you were spanked as a child by your parents, and you spanked your own children, so instead of admitting that you and your parents were cruel bastards - who are no better than wife-beaters - you have to come here and justify your cruelty and your parents cruelty.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS Wow I would hate to live in a world of your making because there would be criminals everywhere! They would kill someone and just get put in the corner. You "Now, dont do that again because killing is bad, do you understand?" Killer "Yes, I understand that if I kill someone then I will be put in the corner which is such a bad place to be, so (lie) I will not do it ever again because the corner is so bad........." LOL nice make believe world of chaos you have there.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS LOL Yea my Parents were such cruel bastards that I would do anything for them! They were so cruel that I respect them so much! My parents are so cruel that I am a law abiding citizen for now anyways until my freedoms are all taken away from which I will rise up and take them back! Oh, yea, my kids have no freedoms until grown up and out of my house. When being a child and living under my roof, you will obey my rules of the house! They are reasonable rules as well.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS oh and if you say that a child should have freedom, well then you might as well just throw your child to the wolves! By putting a child in the corner you are teaching them that if they break the rules then the punishment will be minor! Me however, Teach my kids that if I have to ask 3 times, then the punishment will not be something to be enjoyed or so minor. Your one of the reasons the murder rate is up. Keep teaching your minor punishments.

  • @MtthwSmmns

    I, however, have nothing to justify because I'm not a cruel bastard and I don't hurt children. I know how to raise a child w/o resorting to the easy option of inflicting pain on them because I'm not an idiot, not a bully and I want my children to respect me, not be scared of me - like yours probably were and still are.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS You dont have children! You get paid to let other pples children run all over you because you dont know how to punish a child. My children respect me, but also fear me as well, you are right about that. BTW, trust me, dont have children because you wouldnt be able to handle them day and night. Oh, yea, and I also dont really believe that you are a "trained professional". Just a lying person that does not really understand what having children really mean.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS LOL try putting a kid in the corner and see what happens! He will just walk away and be like yea whatever. Then what are you going to do? Tell him to get in the corner again? Yea because that worked so well the first time! Take away their toys and hear them cry on and on and on which btw is neglect! LOL, you think you know but unless you have kids you dont know!

  • @MtthwSmmns

    I have put children on timeout and, actually, they stayed there because it we'd consistently used the method with them and they knew if they got up we'd put them back. They also apologized, unprompted, and then altered their good behavior charts to reflect what had happened and show they understood they'd behaved badly. Taking away a child's toys isn't neglect you numpty, are they gone forever? No. Is any court going to criminalize it? No. I don't need to be a parent to know...

  • @ScouseCaspaXS

    ....as I've already pointed out, childcare facilities can have strong and successful discipline systems w/o resorting to corporal punishment and they can do it whilst looking after 10+ children. If they can, there's no excuse for you not to, aside from pigheadedness, laziness and ignorance.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS Sounds like bullshit to me! I have 3 children! I know by experience what they will and willnot do. Yes, you do need to be a parent to fully understand because you are not with that child 24/7! When you have kids then get back with me. If you put a child back into the corner, he or she will come back out! You will then go through an endless loop of putting them in the corner, them coming out, and so on and nothing is accomplished! Please dont lie just to make........

  • @ScouseCaspaXS yourself look good. You said you dont have to be a parent to know, but who's kid did you put into the corner? You must work at a daycare or something and if so, again, you are not with that child 24/7 and dont know if the parents spank that child or not. The only reason why a child would stay in that corner is if they were afraid of a worse punishment likea spanking! Without this no child has any reason to stay in the corner! If so you must have a child that was....

  • @ScouseCaspaXS born perfect and never needed to be told what to do and therefore wouldnt be in the corner in the first place. LOL so you told me you put a child in the corner which you dont really know that well because you are not around them 24/7 and they went to the corner with no thought about it and then when they came out, they said, "Im sorry for my mistakes and it will never happen again." WOW you have just met a perfect child! He acts better than some adults do. Get real!

  • @rtpb1234

    ....my child? No. Spanking may well work, that doesn't make it okay to use it as a discipline method. There are other way to discipline children that do not involve inflicting harm on them, that work. Why then would you still resort to hitting your child to get them to listen to you? Aside from the fact you are too ignorant to take a second to look at these alternatives and use them.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS So you are telling me that putting a child in the corner works? OR telling me that taking their toy away works? Im sorry to say, but no it does not. I put my child in the corner and you know what he would do? Walk out of the corner. I would put him in the corner again! What does he do walk away again! Really? Yea that works well!

  • @MtthwSmmns

    Just because you were unable to implement it correctly doesn't mean that the method does not work - as with every aspect of raising children you have to be *consistent* which means that every-time the child gets up they are placed back into timeout, until they stay there and do the full time. You think that doesn't work? Well, the majority of nursery schools will disagree with you since that's one the methods of discipline they use.

  • @ScouseCaspaXS LOL Consistent? You mean a never endless loop of putting a child in the corner, them coming out, putting them back in the corner, them coming out, putting them back in the corner, them coming out, putting them back in the corner, them coming out, putting them back in the corner, them coming out, and so on and so on! This is a never endless circle without anything coming out. Im sorry but that child has more persistance than you will ever have because its a child!

  • @omgtaylorswift01 LOL really? How about the experience of parents? You know the ones that actually raise their children! PArents have more experience on this subject that many of those childless researchers! I have 3 children and putting them in the corner works like this! "Son go to the corner." Child stands there. "Son go to the corner now!" Child goes to corner for 2 seconds and leaves." What do you do now? Use more harsh words? You obviously dont have kids you dumbass!

  • ricky didn't like the pastor saying the name of JESUS did she?

    Nope, but the Pastor is exactly right.. Disipline isn't abuse if it is then it's not disipline.. But a good spanking isn't going to kill a child..

  • I was spanked as a child & im fine. I spank my daughter ONLY when she needs it. I do use the timeout first but if she fights me about it i spank her on the butt. Weather u spank ur child or not, there is a possibility they can end up doing &/or selling drugs going 2 jail or whatever. It also depends on what type of people they hang out w/ & who they let influence them into doing things they know that are wrong. When she's 11, the spankings will stop & shell get grounded & her stuff taken away.

  • Spanking doesn't work. Getting hit on the butt by someone's hand doesn't hurt that much, so it won't do anything.

    Hitting a child with a belt is abuse. It will "work" but only because the child is in serious pain or fear.

    If it leaves a bruise your kids can get taken away and you can get arrested.

  • The rev. is the only one with sense. Its amazing how many people don't care about the big brother/nanny effect our government has.

  • My father has been abusing me since i was 3 yrs old, up until now at age 17. As a person that is going through this situation RIGHT NOW, i can assure you that beating your child does NOT work! My situation with my father has escalated to a point where i ended up retaliating both verbally and physically because i just couldn't take it anymore.

    The pain i'm going through right now is so deep, that i honestly feel like Killing myself and ending my life.

    Parents, don't hit your kids, please....

  • You guys want to know what abuse is? Read the book "A Child Called IT." A quick little spank done with no anger is not abuse. Hitting for no reason is abuse. The child brings fourth his own undoing; consequences follow.

  • @AsILayDyingOWNS77 Exactly. These people see spanking = abuse. When its NOT. So because of people like them, kids nowadays run WILD and RUN their parents.

  • i love that reverend haha

  • I agree with the pastor 'Spare the rod spoil the child' that is so true because more and more people are noticing kids these days are acting wild and beating on their mama thinking they should get WHATever they want or they'll act a fool being disrespectful like saying 'I hate you' in your face and parents are just taking it and like all they can do is say 'Go To Your Room' and then the same things happen over and over again.

  • @skategoddess123 Well said.

  • Why should it be OK to whip little children, but not one's spouse for behavior one doesn't like? Do children have less right to dignity and freedom from physical assault? Why is sadomasochism considered perverted between adults, but the same type of dominance/obedience punishment is "not" perverted between adult and child? Why do many parents fail to research punishment before they resort to hitting their child? Ignorance is forgivable, but avoidance of illumination is not. Stop the hitting!

  • @ReNuriche i know they should but alot of parents think it is ok but at the same token wat if u hit them really hard and leave a mark and they tell a teacher or someone that works at a school then wat u know wat i mean

  • @ReNuriche What a lot of nonsense. Hitting a child is appropriate only under certain conditions anyway. It has nothing to do with masochism it's just disciplining.

    In the case of the adult it's different for obvious reasons. Adults are mature enough and too old to be disciplined in this way. If children are to be treated exactly the same way as adults then let's allow kids to go and buy alcohol or smoke. Adults can do that, so kids should as well, right?

  • @ReNuriche Have you ever been spanked before?

  • @ReNuriche don't you know certain forms of punishment won't work on others?

  • @ReNuriche You are an idiot! Adults and children are obviously different! If they were not then children could drink, have sex, live and work on their own, which obviously they cant at a young age accept in some rare cases! Children need guildance more than an adult which has "grown up", understand? You dont have children obviously! Telling a child to sit in a corner is like telling a criminal just to write a note and say "I am sorry for what I have done." It doesnt work! Face it!

  • @schneke1 The fact that you spank your kids is NOT more about you than your child. It's teaching your child right from wrong. It's perfectly legal to physically discipline your child as long as it's below the belt line. Educate yourself.

  • ***learned all of the values a grown, responsible, career minded, educated, family-oriented adult should possess! And to answer that man's question abt Jesus and whipping children, all i know is the bible say spear the rod spoil the child. Hello somebody!!!

  • Why does every1 think they knw the best way 2 raise some1 else child? All those books listed up top is nothing but some1's meal ticket and/or opinion.The world as we know it today is a messed up! Raise your kids as u see fit...as long as the child is not being abuse I believe it is up to the parent on how to raise their child. But as 4 me & mine, u act up you getting it. That's how I was raised and out of that I learned all of the values a grown, responsible, career-minded adult should possess!

  • @savoy81 i couldnt have said it better .

  • @savoy81 I agree!! same here!!

  • @savoy81 you need more thumbs up. Deserve it more than the pretentious wipes that think they know everything because of some study.

  • In hebrews 12:09-10 we see a comparison being done between the chastising of our flesh by our earthly fathers and the non-violent chastising of God unto his children. in verse 10 it shows that the only form of chastisment that is profitable to the one receiving it is that which comes from God while that done unto our flesh by our fathers is not profitable to us but only feeds the pleasures of those that inflict it !

  • Whipping a child has been in the black community since forever u cannot tell a person how to raise a child

  • People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, college students, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.

  • For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the sex organs, anal region, and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be intentionally or unintentionally sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can read the testimony, documentation, and educational resources available from the website of PTAVE.

  • The US states with the highest crime rates and the poorest academic performance are also the ones with the highest rates of child corporal punishment.

    There is simply no evidence to suggest that child bottom-slapping/battering instills virtue.

  • @MMino1000 more people,more everything.

  • Stupid and violent kids are more likely to get sent to prison. Sending stupid violent criminals to jail is not what causes them to be stupid or violent. Crazy kids are more likely to see psychotherapists. Does psychotherapy cause kids to act crazy? Well, of course psychologists make money from that unlike spankings.

  • Parents beat because its the quickest thing to do. no one wants to take the time to learn to be a parent. wat is wrong with u ppl? Super nanny shows ppl how to discipline without hitting and yelling yet ppl dont want to take the time to learn those tactics. Spanking obviously is a cycle,...how many ppl say they spank their children and were spanked themselves? Why is this violence okay? Why can a man hit a woman without leaving bruises and we call it Domestic Violence? Yet hitting kids is ok?

  • Corporal punishment is full of hipocracy and is not peacful or merciful and definitley not gentle so it can not be considered wisdom according to the new testiment's definition of wisdom. james 3:17-18 but the wisdom that is from above is first pure,then peaceable, gentle,and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hipocracy. and the fruite of the riteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

  • @schneke1 I'm the kind of person who would rather avoid spanking. If were a parent, I would rather discipline my child with kind and insightful words. I would travel alone with my child to many different areas. That will enrich her life and I can teach her what are the goods/bads of life. Spanking hurts the parents more than the kid. What sort of parent who loves their children would hurt their child for joy? Spanking takes all the strength in you. I know because that's how I educated my bro.

  • @schneke1 Why, thank you. I feel like I am talking to a mirror though. You seem just as intelligent as I am, if not more. I say, everybody is different and spanking will not work on everyone. What I'm saying is that spanking should not be looked down upon just because there are bad parents out there who abuse their kids. People need to see the true effects of spanking. And the only reason spanking works sometimes is because of diverse neighborhoods.

  • @schneke1 It wasn't that bad. While I didn't have a father, my mom took both roles. My mom kept me off the streets, away from drugs, drinking and smoking. I owe my life to her for raising me into one fine, young man. My only fault is that I use profanity, but never to hurt people's feelings. I curse out of necessity and sometimes out of comedic relief. And you are most right. I am not a violent man. I gave up fighting years ago mate. It's not in me to hurt another person who wields life.

  • @schneke1 While I'm not a parent, my mother did discipline me by hitting my hands with a heavy, large and hot spoon when I did foolish things. When I crossed the line, my mother would have a 1 minute session of belt>ribs. That REALLY taught me. Sometimes tough love is the best medicine that a parent can give. I still remember seeing the frown on my mother's face when she beat me. That taught me a good lesson. I turned out to be a very spiritually enlightened person.

  • i was spanked (not all the time but when it was the only remaining resort) and i would never hit a person in an abusive manner. I turned out ok and i give all the credit to my parents because they disciplined me the way i needed. Every child is different. Therefore, every child requires a different type of discipline spanking may work for one and not work for the other. Time outs may work for one and not the other. Ok.. off my soapbox...

  • @Brysonmdulack absolutely correct..I have seen kids raised in the same home and all have turned out differently.

  • @ntihata well thank ya

  • Psychologists studied a group of sixteen fourteen-month-olds playing with their mothers. When one group of toddlers tried to grab a forbidden object, they received a slap on the hand; the other group of toddlers did not receive physical punishment. In follow-up studies of these children seven months later, the punished babies were found to be less skilled at exploring their environment. Better to separate the child from the object or supervise his exploration and leave little hands unhurt.

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  • @agirlinglass 7 months =/= equal a lifetime. Even though everyone is different, I believe those who are physically punished have a better mentality. We have more moral values, creativity and certain other traits. That is just from experience. Most people I know/don't know have proven this for me.

  • demanding respect from a child by physical abuse never worked n it will not work from now on.. parents need to knw that ur kids will fear and hate u if put ur hands on them.just educate them show them u love thm n communicate with them clearly, explain to them their mistakes, they will undertsand u 100%..

  • @Falisia11 That is foolish. It may work with white children because they grow up in good neighborhoods, but where I come from, beating your kid teaches them morals and values. If you try that sissy-style way of raising your kids, they'll never respect you and they'll laugh/spit on you. Trust me, I grew up in the slums of New York so I've seen it happen daily. You don't beat your kid out of spite but by giving him tough love. No pain, no gain. Your kid will look up to you in his later years.

  • @Atma01 i dnt knw what ur life is like or those white kids u talkd bout in america. but i knw that in my childhood i have seen war, migration to 4 diferent nations to 2 continents n yet never had any1 put thr hand on me.. am 21 now at university n hve my own goals in life. its ok to displicine ur kids but there is diference between abuse n displining.. bunchin a child in the face, hitting them with strong object wil hv unhealthy impact on thr emotions n mentality later at adulthood.

  • @Falisia11 Most of us have seen war. The environment you grow up in does affect how you live. You are fortunate enough to see so much of life and learn from it. Many aren't that lucky. there are those who are spoiled and those who don't know right from wrong. But I think you may be confused about something. Spanking/whooping your child is not the same as physical abuse. Punching your kid in the face is abusive. That is not spanking. Spanking is a corrective punishment.

  • @Falisia11 When you spank your child, you don't throw fists or kicks. You get your corrective tool (belt, spoons, whatever you use) and you correct your child. And people should not be making a big deal out of this. Only real parents discipline their children with spanking. But it's not as tough on the kids as it in on the parents. Real parents feel hurt when they hurt their kids. Those abusive parents feel joy when they hit theirs. That's not love.

  • That pastor has a big mouth! I was spanked twice in my life and I remember both times vividly.

  • i was spanked as a child and it made me enjoy them in my later years soo maybe its not soo good but it is fun well to be spanked now that is not so much when i was young

  • People who Spank their Children making me Mentally ill!!!

    :(

  • People that spank their children are iggnorant. Spanking a child teaching child that hitting is okay because they are mimicking our behavior. Spanking leads to hitting others, which can be a greater problem when they start going to school. Transitioning from hitting to time out is difficult and hard work, but IS effective in the long run. Kids needs to be tought with love not anger or fear.

  • @srh1502 spanking is not hitting. Hitting is out of hatred, spanking is out of correction. The skin is an instrument of caution to the body, mind and brain. You take care when picking broken glasses, you take care when dealing with fire, because you have been warned by the pain you got from those things. So is spanking. Kids think twice before doing something if they have been spanked on that issue.

  • @ezeimo yeah thats true.. i been spanked before and i turned out juss fine

  • hittinga child is a larger person inflicting pain in a display of power. it is more often lashing out in anger, so is a way to dispel anger for the adult. So, what you teach your child is to be and do as you have 'taught' them.

    I hear so often, but "I " turned out ok. Well, maybe you didn't. Perhaps you also hit your children and continue the abuse cycle. Perhaps you are too aggressive... or a bully boss or you can't display emotions or dispel anger without lashing out.

  • hittinga child is a larger person inflicting pain in a display of power. it is more often lashing out in anger, so is a way to dispel anger for the adult. So, what you teach your child is to be and do as you have 'taught' them.

    I hear so often, but "I " turned out ok. Well, maybe you didn't. Perhaps you also hit your children and continue the abuse cycle. Perhaps you are too aggressive... or a bully boss or you can't display emotions or dispel anger without lashing out.

  • I believe that there is anything wrong with a spanking. My mother spanked me, with a belt, and I am a straight A student, excellent behaivior in school and all of my teachers like me. I am not saying that a spanking is the way to solve all discplinary problems within child, but it helps emensely. There is a fine line between spanking and abuse.

  • my parents used to say.. " i whop u bcz i love you" or its gona hurt me more then it will hurt u'... i thought it was lies.. but infact its true.. althought i dont hav children. my neices & nephews are close enough. i hate to discipline them. but i have to ( when parents arent around) bcz of whats being done. whoopns ARE NOT THE ONY WAY!!!!

  • The pastor said Jeffery Dahlmer's mom never beat him. What about the dad? He might've beaten him. Adolf Hitler's father beat him as a child, and look what happened to him.

  • @MermaidRam yeah, if going back as far as king saloman in the old testiment bible who clearly beat his son. The bible records of how horrible his son rehoboam turned out. he was a cruel and selfish king that lost all his father had for being such a brat and had to leave his throne to keep from getting assasinated. The lesson to learn from the bible on this matter is that it did not work.

  • Not to sound smart, but I've never heard of 'SoloMAN'. I've heard of 'SoloMON'.

  • @MermaidRam yeah i must have accidentally misspelled it. however i dont think " Not to sound smart" is proper english either

  • When it comes to the husbands abusing his wives, the wife has a choice. She CHOSE to marry that man. She can choose to leave him if she wanted. Children don't have that choice. Children have to stay with their parents no matter what.

  • I agree with the Psychologist.

  • What do you agree with the Psychologist on?

  • @MermaidRam

    everything.

  • Can you please explain what you mean?

  • @MermaidRam

    It seems to be like all of the parents on that stage that are spanking or whipping their children have anger issues. especially the black woman with no fair or little hair. whatever. she looks like the kind of woman that would break her kids nose without a doubt.

  • I'm Black. In the Black community, most parents like her & the pastor justify their whipping their children by six words: SPARE THE ROD, SPOIL THE CHILD!

    The pastor also said he would never hit is 5' mother. I can tell she taught him to fear her. That's what most parents like them do to their kids: teach them to fear them. She's lucky her son still wants her in his life; lots of parents like that aren't.

  • no fair or little hair!! that funny as hell!!!

  • Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

    Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

    Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

    Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

    Plain Talk About Spanking

    by Jordan Riak,

    The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children

    by Tom Johnson,

    NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say

    by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

  • So, when you "spank" an adult it is against the law, but you "spank" a child and it is okay? You are a hypocrite and insanely unfit to be a parent.

    Actually, you are obviously a troll I have said what I need to say. You are 100% wrong and if you actually do research you will find that you are wrong. Enjoy a life of ignorance and hate.

  • You need to learn proper grammar, or at least gain the ability to write a tad bit more legible.

  • The Goverment is Corrupt!

    when i say child i mean ages 7 - 14

    Its ok for a Child to use foul language, use illegal drugs, Steal, carry a firearm knife to school, cut school and flunk.

    but its not ok for a parent to spank a child when he or she is misbehaving.

    wow what a great goverment we have we pay tax dollars but we can't correct our own child.

  • Pretty bad strawman argument, you might wanna work on that. Each *misbehavior* you listed is nearly totally different than the other. Also, the cause of all of those *misbehavior's* is not "the lack of discipline".

  • Uh wrong, kids in juvenile hall are from abusive families or families where they don't care or love their child. Kids that act out in the way you are describing are neglected, not loved and respected.

  • Work on your strawman argument.

    You really lack much knowledge on parenting and children. Just because you don't punish or reward to manipulate your child, doesn't mean you let them run around and do what they want. Besides the fact that children are not destructive by nature.

  • Kids don't respect their parents, teachers police, and most of all ELDERLY....

    i saw a old lady with a cane she must have been in her 80's she was walking down the sidewalk then a group of teenagers came up walking past her and one of the teenagers yelled & said "MOVE B*TCH" these kids were white kids they were around 12 to 14 yrs old

    i couldn't believe kids that old would use foul language and say that to a elderly woman. People around her shook their heads in and said disrepectful