my school has a project where i have to get a job, work there for two weeks without getting any payment whatsoever to get "work experience"... this is going to be hell, especially considering i've already gone through it once before, and that was recently... (2-3 months ago) i worked at a mall, in the sports section... i felt like i made a huge idiot out of myself, and got a 100$ coupon after i finished.. haven't even had the courage to go back and use it :/
It's all you when you feel something, one time i was in a crowd so nervous, but then i was like praying and saying nothigns wrong, then i became psychic, trancing into a spiral of light,m and then the girl next to me was smilin at me and dacning at me, i was the center of attention, i felt like jesus. Get your mind off of "other people" which dont exist, you are a feeling of divinity, get some healing crystals, and relax, heaven is here. Don't let other people tell you what you are.
i have anxiety and im 45 yrs old never had a job before and i play video games all day everyday thats the only thing i enjoy doing i cant even go 2 the store without freaking out mentally i cant stand ppl and never could......i avoid all public places and situations i want to do somthing with my life but i think its too late now im still living with my parents and dont know what the hell to do anymore i need help
@bitcyknw well its never too late, u know, if you want to change it you can - i would speak to others on anxiety social phobia sites, i have issues with other peoples energies too, when i go out i imagine a bubble around me about a foot out filled with violet for protection and then a mirror on the outside,, this means that no ones energy affects mine, and i go around practically invisible.. try that just with your parents and see what happens and how different you feel.. many people have this.
I was once told by my work mates that i was like a fly because i was that quiet and i was also told that i walked around like a zombie!! I was only 16 at the time and in my first job. it did nothin for my confidence :-/
when ever i feel really depressed about my anxiety your videos make me feel better and help me get my head back in the right place I just wanted to say thanks.
personally i think you shouldnt blame SAD because thats a part of you, i think it is better to learn to like it and talk back to it, prove it wrong........ at least thats what i heard... but extremely hard to do considering it is easy to blame other things.
The first minute of this video describes how I feel people think about me. Accept with me, I'm more convinced that it is not anxiety but the situation is real that I may have some sort of Autistic spectrum disorder or some other severely handicapped social deficit which makes people turn from me and therefore reinforces my anxiety.
Please read the books: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not understand this, and only offer extrovert solutions, like talking to others about it. Please read the books and get your answers from someone who is like you. I am proud to be an introvert and highly sensitive person now that I know the truth about why and how to handle it.
@NoSocialAnxiety...thanks this helped alot..my anxiety gets the best of me all alot of the time and people say things lik y r u so quiet when im really the loudest and funniest person u can ever meet if anxiety didnt overcome me...but thanks for the lesson it really helped..btw ur a pretty girl and u seem real cool dont let anxiety get the best of u and i'll tryta do the same :)
THIS GIRL IS AN ACTRESS ADVERTISING TRASHY CBT AUDIOBOOKS!
Just check out the link and look at the covers of the discs on the Sociallypositive website - people laughing and leaping for joy. Typical flimsy CBT spin. Please beware!!
@Monstrance23 but i bet the CBTs work... psycho people will think she is one of them ... and since she is pretty they will listen to her ... so may be this will help the psycho people
Question 1: How did you end up on this page? Question 2: How did you see the discs?
Either you're a person with far too much time on your hands or you've actually got SAD.
The videos are helping people! There's about a hundred of them and all completely free to watch on youtube! The website is being run by a very young girl with SAD, if you ask me, it's pretty damn impressive! The discs don't cost that much and nothing you need to pay for is shoved down your throat!
hahaha love the end. and this is actually really helpful, i always feel horribly guilty after people say "why are you so quiet?" and "what's wrong with you?" it's like i'm paralyzed and can't do anything differently, then i feel bad for it.
this is so about me, I've had the same problem at work and when it was really bad I could hardly talk to people so they assumed (or it's just my imagination) that I'm cold, arrogant, ignorrant, rude and not interesting so when the tension was so high that I couldn't stand it anymore I escaped from there with despair
i don't wana live any more i just hade my super panic attack today i was totally insain can't look at people face all my attension was pured towared my mobile playing with it ? what the hell i think i am officially crazy "wellcom to the jungel"
So when I said I don't really buy that I mean that I don't buy that I am now in control when I have social anxiety. Rather, I'd say my anxiety is more of an irrational fear or psychological walls that I didn't know my way around. Through counseling, I learned a methodology to get around them and became better skilled at jumping over them. It was always me. I just needed the understanding and skill set to get where I wanted.
I don't know if I really buy that. I actually went to a counselor for some of my issues with anxiety and she helped me understand that I was a perfectionist and that I kept myself in a bubble because I thought I'd "do it wrong". Yet it's when we step out into new territory where we cut our teeth and growth happens. By stepping out into new situations and seeing the world didn't end, it built some security for next time I had to try unknown.
thanks you very much, this video has made me happy =-), i overheard this girl from my gym calling me rude to her friend for only talking to her , i just found it easy talking to her cause she was very nice, Been blaming myself for this for ages.
The same the same thing happens to me. I have a difficult time checking out at stores...the people behind the counter get so......well...they think Im giving them an attitude when Im really uncontrollably scared. A lot of misunderstanding, and I don't blame them...does make me bitter how quick some people are to judge though. Same with work and other social places. Makes the cycle of S.A.D. never ending. I really feel like Im in hell right now.
@Darkpirater did they ruin your life? or did your thoughts about your self ruin your life? and is your life really ruined? how would you define a ruined life?
My life isn't totaly ruined but it's gonna be hard to fix it because i got no friends and I'm 17 years old. The only thing i do is playing on my computer 18 hours a day.I was bullied at school so i decided to drop out of school.I couldn't take it anymore, being bullied for 9 years straight everyday is really hard.So, I'm still in grade 8.The sad thing is that i'm my own best friend and i'm shaking like crazy when i see people walking or a someone driving a car.Yes, even people driving bully me.
@Darkpirater I'm sorry for what you have been through :( Bullying is disgusting behavior done by people operating out of ignorance and prejudice. Bullying makes me so sad. What computer games do you like playing? I love playing computer/video games ^ ^ At the moment it's age of empires 3 I'm addicted to :) People shouldn't bully anyone but this helps to ward off bullying I think: Increase your self esteem, confidence, and live your life the way you want to. Read books etc.
AOE 3 is an awesome game. I played for ages.Right now i'm playing Guitar Hero 4,Counter-Strike : Source.(I have over 4,000 games on my computer).I have friends IRL but, i hate them. They're just a bunch of immature kids trying to become popular.I thought they would become more mature after 4 years but, i guess they won't.Well, yes and no because i have alot of self esteem inside but outside none.I know i'm smart but, if i look at myself in the mirror, that's a different story.
@Darkpirater Also educate ur self about bullying behaviour. Maybe bullies are so emotionally/mentally sick them-selves they can't help but to hurt others. Maybe they're jealous of U. Its still no excuse for harmful behaviour. Bullies should be fined 4 emotional/mental damage they cause. Its so unacceptable. Im so sorry high schools are like this, it's disgusting. U are so being a better, more likeable person than those bullies. No friends? Do you have online friends? Family member friends? Pets?
@Darkpirater also do you treat your self like crap? How do you talk to your self? Do you treat your self with respect? Treat your self highly and with respect and don't say insulting things to your self. Like "I'm a looser, a failure" etc. Would you say that to a close friend or loved one? Then never say that to your self. If you treat your self as a friend others are more likely to as well. It changes your energy or something.
@Darkpirater Just wanted to tell you that things will get better... the people who are bullying you are peons who can't think for themselves, they see one person do something and they want to do it too. They have low mentalities and when they graduate highschool and join the real world, will most likely have a rude awakening. It is no reflection on you...stay strong and smile and know that all of this highschool crap is only temporary. Be happy and treat yourself good. :)
This really helped! I never thought of it that way, I always felt it was my fault when trying to talk to people failed. And the 'phbbbt' at the end was so funny! Thanks
Ya know, that anxiety has totally ruined my secondary / high school life, TOTALLY!! If not for this, I would be somewhere else better. Well, it can be reversed, I had to reach a state to search for vids like these to help me lol. I just get so nervous when talkin to strangers, opposite sex people, performin, talkin to ppl of higher authority, I would jus go red so sudden, its freaking embarrassin. And people really thought I was cold n proud, Now's the change I gotta make! Good luck to me then~
Pills, therapy, books about the subconcious mind etc you name it. In my experience I can truly testify that only The Living GOD has healed me. Medications from doctors helped me a little and it was temporary. God's healing power is ETERNAL! Now Im not an antidepressant pill dependent. The cure for fear is FAITH! Fear limits you. FAITH ENABLES YOU! People, THE ALMIGHTY GOD IS YOUR ONLY HOPE. READ THE WORD OF GOD, HAVE FAITH AND OBEY! God loves you and He wants you to LET HIM...
asshole parents are laregely to blame, they rob you of your self esteem when youre young, and dont give a fuck when youre older, just realize that youre the god of your own world and throw the finger up to the voices in your head and say "pfft, its just people"
I love your videos. I think its quite awful your emloyer would say that, my teachers at school are sometimes like that too, and i get really upset. This helped, i'm going to try it.
Just because they are teachers doesn't mean everything they say is true. Teachers can also abuse or neglect to care for students feelings. These sort of teachers have some sort of problem for being uncaring and sensitive. You can only get upset if you believe what they tell you, but it's probably not true, because nasty insults are usually distorted, irrational, or untrue. *hug*
I only recently realised that i have SA and this youtube community has been so helpful. I can relate so much to the things you and others are saying! Keep making videos, they are fantastic.
Have you ever told a lie, stolen anything or used Gods name in vain? Will you be guilty on Judgment Day? If you have done those things, God sees you as a lying, thieving, blasphemous. The Bible warns that if you are guilty you will end up in hell. Thats not Gods will. God sent his only son to suffer and die on the cross for you. You broken Gods law. But Jesus paid your fine. That means he can legally dismiss your case. Please repent of your sins and trust in JesusChrist alone for salvation.
I think I've felt exactly as you have. Also for me depression goes hand-in-hand with social anxiety. I call it being a social-retard. These continue to make me dislike my self in my aloneness. Also there is avoidant behavior.
hmmm I agree mostly. I dont think anyones the real them. Theyve been nurtured in a way to act. So The real them is trapped behind a constent ego and super ego. ID never comes out. Only in dreams and thoughts
Sometimes. I would think "Ugh, I better edit this out I don't want to scare people away from me or make them uncomfortable about me" if I have a weird look on my face LOL
But I think I'm thinking like this less. The reason for the editing is to edit out unnecessary gaps of me thinking about what I'm going to say because the purpose is to give the message thats all. But I plan to make another video showing the "gaps" & anxiety to poke fun at myself :)
It would be interesting to see you make a regular video without removing the gaps. I find it very insightful when someone with SA is in the process of thinking things out. The person's eyes and facial expressions start to speak in those moments. I can really relate to what their eyes and facial expressions are telling me. =)
I have some videos like that, one was called demonstration of Social Anxiety, and I uploaded several direct cam uploads without editing. I'll think about that =)
Thanks. I was also wondering something else. Why do you think it is that your SA doesn't stop you from posting videos like this for everyone to see. I mean, you are letting people into your soul in a sense. That is something that I would never do for reasons that have nothing to do with SA, and yet, you are able to do it with SA.
I don't know, I guess I'm comfortable with it & feel what is there to lose. I feel it's my responsibility to share what has helped me with this & my purpose to reach out to people that have been in pain like mine or worse is stronger than whatever else. As well as overcoming fears of what others think about me, I've seen many others in blogs or video channels talking personally so I guess it's not that much of a big deal to me.
Hey interesting channel. I saw it on cessnaaces channel. I'm quite an anxious person by nature and its good what your doing. Btw- ignore the haters. :-)
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Why are you talking so slowly? Why are you always staring at the same point? Why are all your videos so heavily edited? Are you reading all the time during the video? How old are you?
Seems like a prepaid ad for some too-good-to-be-true anti-SA program.
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Maybe it's because you don't answer the questions? =)
And btw, it just seems impossible to me that such a beautiful girl has SA in the first place. People with such high social stimulus value are praised all the time so they don't need to be anxious of anything.
Yes you can and you are quite prejudicial. I think that good-looking girls might not have be praised all the time, because of jealousy for example. Not to mention: there is more to a person than their looks!
Anyone can have social anxiety. Just like anyone can be very outgoing. A model can feel anxiety because she knows her faults and is afraid others will notice them and use them against her.
I understand what you mean, & it actually makes me mad about the whole thing in Society where people that look a certain way are treated better or worse because of how they look or whatever other reasons. First of all from ages 7 to 13 I was teased for being fat, way too short, looking too young for my age, & having very pale skin. I know how it feels.
There ARE attractive people with Body Dysmorphic Disorder (Their brain doesn't see their appearance as it is)
People can be attractive, but imagine if they grew up only hearing things about themself like "You are not Important" & Recieved emotional, verbal, or physical abuse from people as they were growing up. It makes sense they would have Social Anxiety Disorder or A fear of people, no matter what they looked like.
Heyyy you're very welcome :) & thankyou! I've been going through some anxiety/depression lately myself. So you're not alone. We are going through this & improving together. It is worth it though cause I am learning from these "setbacks" to be able to pass on everything I learn to you guys!
I never saw it this way but it's completely fair - blame the anxiety not yourself. I recall a couple of occasions when I was myself (in control) and I remember how good it felt, and how well I was received by others - that was me. Thanks
i know it may seem odd but i sometimes try look at the funny side of my anxiety. By that i mean when i get anxious about something small and non important i try and laugh at how stupid the anxiety is and sometimes doing this actualy calms me down a little. Thanks for another great video Emily
No that's awesome, I also love to do this as well - take things out to extreme proportions and laugh at them! Life is so much nicer when you don't take things seriously
Thank-you. :) Are you asking what is my anxiety level making this video? Or for other situations? Probably making this video 2, or 3, or even lower if 10 is the highest anxiety. I didn't really have much trouble at all
If you direct all your anger and negativity towards your anxiety and see it as separate part of yourself isnt it going to be more difficult to work with? I think that approach might be counterproductive, because it is creating more resistance and in this way feeding the anxiety. I do agree, though, that it is best not to take too much notice about other peoples negative opinions.
Think about it like this. Someone has a broken leg, and other people, who don't understand broke bones, get angry at the person for not walking right. Would you expect the person with the broken leg to take it personally, and think it's his fault for not walking right? He can't just change instantly, he is not in control & not able to please others, until he is healed. You would think it silly for him to think it's his fault for not walking properly, so same with S.A for not pleasing others
It depends what level of anxiety you have. Less anxiety means you can be more responsible and maybe do what you need to do with just a manageable amount of fear. I am I guess talking about more severe anxiety, as I think that is what I had. The sort of anxiety where you feel sick and frozen up with fear. I don't like the idea of blaming the anxiety then continuing on in the same way. You have to get better as well, it is still not ok to be like this, even though it's not your fault.
I think it is a very good advice not to take that kind of criticism personally. What Im saying is that I dont think that blaming the anxiety or the broken bones does anything good its not the bones fault it is broken, it just is. My viewpoint is that by blaming your SA, you are creating more inner resistance and the force of the thoughts of which the anxiety consists are getting amplified (regardless of the severity of the anxiety)
You're right blaming doesn't really do anything good. But taking blame & guilt off yourself is good when you realize those things weren't your fault & I thought maybe other people with S.A had taken criticisms caused by actions of their S.A personally & to realize it really wasn't their fault. To me, blaming the social anxiety wasn't a negative thing you feel bad about, but a positive thing you feel good about that will create less anxiety! I guess we must have been looking at it differently
I think it is because I was seeing it as beating yourself up less if you acted in a way you didn't want to because of Social Anxiety. And not feeling bad about yourself, but putting the blame onto the anxiety problem as the cause, not yourself
I already understood the message of this video. But it's an Ego response to protect itself. "I am not the one to blame. It's an illness". By this you are creating a projection "Someday, I'll be better. I'll be over this social anxiety". And you wont. You are creating a mental image. The Ego want to live in that image, because it can't accept the way it is.
I am not exactly sure what you mean. But I'll guess. Do you mean, instead of needing to feel better about yourself, you shouldn't need that, and just accept things as they are? You mentioned "You won't be over this social anxiety" In my experience, I have made progress, I have improved, therefore the way I see it, I can continue improving till I am completely better. I understand the ego can be bad, but isn't true that without the ego, no-one would aim to recover from Social Anxiety?
Then of-course, maybe we have a different definition of ego. Ego, to me, is the identity we have of ourselves, and wanting and needing things . The more basic core of us is simply awareness, observance, placing no meaning on anything. That is sort of how I see it.
You could be right. But I don't see it as an ego's response to protect itself. I see it as realizing the truth, that those people were not getting mad at the real you, simply the way anxiety was making you act. And that may help people feel more comfortable & happier, taking that negativity off themself & helping to stop the beating the self up inside the mind, therefore have an improvement socially
just to explain my point a little better: I think it would be a good advice not to get too detached to your thoughts (all together). But I also think it is important to accept the anxiety as a part of your situation, as a part of your reality you know, like you would tolerate the presences of a disobedient child. Only through acceptance is positive change possible.
That might be true. And maybe that's what its like in others experience. Though in my experience, things have been better when I see the anxiety as separate. This seems to give me more awareness of the negative thoughts as part of anxiety, not reality. I'm not really angry at the anxiety, I think making fun of it is best since anxiety thrives on you taking it seriously!
I cant argue against your experience, and I do appreciate that you share it - Being aware of the negative thoughts and not to take it seriously sounds just right! But I still think that it would be easier through acceptance. But glad to hear that it has helped you :)
Thanks for your videos! :)
and. you are cute and look like a wonderful person!
Kenzie001 1 week ago
so gorgeoussss....owwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
TheRealStinkyface 1 week ago
luv your accent.
TheRealStinkyface 1 week ago
Amazing,,,,, you make it all sound so simple , where do you achieve such knowledge ?
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my school has a project where i have to get a job, work there for two weeks without getting any payment whatsoever to get "work experience"... this is going to be hell, especially considering i've already gone through it once before, and that was recently... (2-3 months ago) i worked at a mall, in the sports section... i felt like i made a huge idiot out of myself, and got a 100$ coupon after i finished.. haven't even had the courage to go back and use it :/
sigur95 1 month ago
It's all you when you feel something, one time i was in a crowd so nervous, but then i was like praying and saying nothigns wrong, then i became psychic, trancing into a spiral of light,m and then the girl next to me was smilin at me and dacning at me, i was the center of attention, i felt like jesus. Get your mind off of "other people" which dont exist, you are a feeling of divinity, get some healing crystals, and relax, heaven is here. Don't let other people tell you what you are.
StuckInTheSky0 2 months ago
i have anxiety and im 45 yrs old never had a job before and i play video games all day everyday thats the only thing i enjoy doing i cant even go 2 the store without freaking out mentally i cant stand ppl and never could......i avoid all public places and situations i want to do somthing with my life but i think its too late now im still living with my parents and dont know what the hell to do anymore i need help
bitcyknw 2 months ago
@bitcyknw well its never too late, u know, if you want to change it you can - i would speak to others on anxiety social phobia sites, i have issues with other peoples energies too, when i go out i imagine a bubble around me about a foot out filled with violet for protection and then a mirror on the outside,, this means that no ones energy affects mine, and i go around practically invisible.. try that just with your parents and see what happens and how different you feel.. many people have this.
SovereignBeing 1 month ago
Hey baby, you don't have to be shy around me ;)
sandercohen1 2 months ago
you should off kicked your booses ass realy hard. more in the nuts. but i know how u feel.
SuperImmortal24 2 months ago
Waaa europe slag we americans anit trying to figure out wtf u saying
ifromthepast 3 months ago
@ifromthepast damn yanks cant understand shit
MultiLeroy22 2 months ago
Well I think that employer needs a good kick up the arse
homeboy29032001 3 months ago 2
Wow, if someone said something as cruel to me as what that employer said to you, I would be crushed for life.
woxiedowg 5 months ago
I was once told by my work mates that i was like a fly because i was that quiet and i was also told that i walked around like a zombie!! I was only 16 at the time and in my first job. it did nothin for my confidence :-/
MrJonnyboyification 5 months ago
Your videos are such a great help. Can't thank you enough.
Lafea17 6 months ago
lol. Take the responsibility and place it on a disorder. Then, pretend like it wasn't your fault in the first place for losing control.
The problem isn't socially anxiety. It's your shyness allowing the situation and other people to take control of your social encounters.
Don't over-think it. Get yourself in a positive/comfortable state before a social encounter and you'll do and feel fantastic afterwards.
iRavenTM 7 months ago
Try nihilism.
ManSmokingACigarette 7 months ago
when ever i feel really depressed about my anxiety your videos make me feel better and help me get my head back in the right place I just wanted to say thanks.
Vardandor1 8 months ago
personally i think you shouldnt blame SAD because thats a part of you, i think it is better to learn to like it and talk back to it, prove it wrong........ at least thats what i heard... but extremely hard to do considering it is easy to blame other things.
superchrist1000 8 months ago
thanks for the help!!
superchrist1000 8 months ago
The first minute of this video describes how I feel people think about me. Accept with me, I'm more convinced that it is not anxiety but the situation is real that I may have some sort of Autistic spectrum disorder or some other severely handicapped social deficit which makes people turn from me and therefore reinforces my anxiety.
RB902050 8 months ago
hi im also hot looking but suffer this
celtic4ever18 9 months ago
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usmankhizer 10 months ago
Please read the books: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not understand this, and only offer extrovert solutions, like talking to others about it. Please read the books and get your answers from someone who is like you. I am proud to be an introvert and highly sensitive person now that I know the truth about why and how to handle it.
ReverendMotherISIS 10 months ago
are you Australian or American? I cant tell by our ascent apart....anyways the ending was very cute :)
desufire 10 months ago
@desufire i knew somebody would say something about accent. american ppl is all they think about.. accents and race... its getting annoyin.
mrchrmedone 9 months ago
She's hot
Samogon2009 10 months ago 2
@NoSocialAnxiety...thanks this helped alot..my anxiety gets the best of me all alot of the time and people say things lik y r u so quiet when im really the loudest and funniest person u can ever meet if anxiety didnt overcome me...but thanks for the lesson it really helped..btw ur a pretty girl and u seem real cool dont let anxiety get the best of u and i'll tryta do the same :)
dfjr19 10 months ago
THIS GIRL IS AN ACTRESS ADVERTISING TRASHY CBT AUDIOBOOKS!
Just check out the link and look at the covers of the discs on the Sociallypositive website - people laughing and leaping for joy. Typical flimsy CBT spin. Please beware!!
Monstrance23 11 months ago
@Monstrance23 The message was still clear and viable.
Grandaddyfan209 10 months ago
@Monstrance23 but i bet the CBTs work... psycho people will think she is one of them ... and since she is pretty they will listen to her ... so may be this will help the psycho people
usmankhizer 10 months ago
@usmankhizer If you're not a "psycho person", why did you watch this video? You need a new hobby. :)
dannysquirrel 10 months ago
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usmankhizer 10 months ago
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@dannysquirrel Please let me know, where did i say i am not one of the psycho people ;)
usmankhizer 10 months ago
@Monstrance23
Question 1: How did you end up on this page? Question 2: How did you see the discs?
Either you're a person with far too much time on your hands or you've actually got SAD.
The videos are helping people! There's about a hundred of them and all completely free to watch on youtube! The website is being run by a very young girl with SAD, if you ask me, it's pretty damn impressive! The discs don't cost that much and nothing you need to pay for is shoved down your throat!
dannysquirrel 10 months ago
you are just a bundle of awesomeness, you won't understand how much you've helped me understand this.
veronicachic 1 year ago
this problem is terrible im 16 and have 1 friend and we hardly ever talk
ccomputer95 1 year ago
I love this video lol, such true thoughts and way of thinking! :)
avarules2 1 year ago
I lovee yer voice and yer really pretty! Btw I hate this thing , its ruined my life...
XsoEmiXD 1 year ago
thanks
92integ 1 year ago
hahaha love the end. and this is actually really helpful, i always feel horribly guilty after people say "why are you so quiet?" and "what's wrong with you?" it's like i'm paralyzed and can't do anything differently, then i feel bad for it.
angenette17 1 year ago
You are extremely pretty. Your voice is so sweet and soothing.
centoguzzi 1 year ago
this is so about me, I've had the same problem at work and when it was really bad I could hardly talk to people so they assumed (or it's just my imagination) that I'm cold, arrogant, ignorrant, rude and not interesting so when the tension was so high that I couldn't stand it anymore I escaped from there with despair
DeathOrRock 1 year ago
i love your accent
duke1k 1 year ago
i don't wana live any more i just hade my super panic attack today i was totally insain can't look at people face all my attension was pured towared my mobile playing with it ? what the hell i think i am officially crazy "wellcom to the jungel"
aminamaq 1 year ago
@aminamaq you're not crazy. things will get better. don't give up. its just anxiety.
AhYaOk 1 year ago
This is very useful because I realized Im always blaming myself
uninsomnia89 1 year ago
You said it right is when "you feel comfortable thats really you" . My anxiety controls me in certain situations. Once again great video.
HomicidalDavid 1 year ago
your an angel ^_^
SoraInuyashaAsh 1 year ago
So when I said I don't really buy that I mean that I don't buy that I am now in control when I have social anxiety. Rather, I'd say my anxiety is more of an irrational fear or psychological walls that I didn't know my way around. Through counseling, I learned a methodology to get around them and became better skilled at jumping over them. It was always me. I just needed the understanding and skill set to get where I wanted.
waspy89 1 year ago
I don't know if I really buy that. I actually went to a counselor for some of my issues with anxiety and she helped me understand that I was a perfectionist and that I kept myself in a bubble because I thought I'd "do it wrong". Yet it's when we step out into new territory where we cut our teeth and growth happens. By stepping out into new situations and seeing the world didn't end, it built some security for next time I had to try unknown.
waspy89 1 year ago
@idiuinuendum awww congrats!
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
thanks you very much, this video has made me happy =-), i overheard this girl from my gym calling me rude to her friend for only talking to her , i just found it easy talking to her cause she was very nice, Been blaming myself for this for ages.
manc650 1 year ago
you're gorgeous - I would love to get to know you better!
Ganjateer88 1 year ago
@Ganjateer88 thanks :)
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
The same the same thing happens to me. I have a difficult time checking out at stores...the people behind the counter get so......well...they think Im giving them an attitude when Im really uncontrollably scared. A lot of misunderstanding, and I don't blame them...does make me bitter how quick some people are to judge though. Same with work and other social places. Makes the cycle of S.A.D. never ending. I really feel like Im in hell right now.
auroral 1 year ago
You. Are. Amazing. X
19alba87 1 year ago
@19alba87 aww thank you ^ ^
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
I always hard on myself for making mistakes, and take things seriously. I get mental depression for being hard on myself.
DragonX7777 1 year ago
Good video!
whyyesyes 1 year ago
@whyyesyes Thanks :)
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
I hate Social Anxiety.
It ruined my life.Well, Anxiety and bullies ruined my life.
Darkpirater 1 year ago
@Darkpirater did they ruin your life? or did your thoughts about your self ruin your life? and is your life really ruined? how would you define a ruined life?
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
My life isn't totaly ruined but it's gonna be hard to fix it because i got no friends and I'm 17 years old. The only thing i do is playing on my computer 18 hours a day.I was bullied at school so i decided to drop out of school.I couldn't take it anymore, being bullied for 9 years straight everyday is really hard.So, I'm still in grade 8.The sad thing is that i'm my own best friend and i'm shaking like crazy when i see people walking or a someone driving a car.Yes, even people driving bully me.
Darkpirater 1 year ago 7
@Darkpirater I'm sorry for what you have been through :( Bullying is disgusting behavior done by people operating out of ignorance and prejudice. Bullying makes me so sad. What computer games do you like playing? I love playing computer/video games ^ ^ At the moment it's age of empires 3 I'm addicted to :) People shouldn't bully anyone but this helps to ward off bullying I think: Increase your self esteem, confidence, and live your life the way you want to. Read books etc.
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
@NoSocialAnxiety
AOE 3 is an awesome game. I played for ages.Right now i'm playing Guitar Hero 4,Counter-Strike : Source.(I have over 4,000 games on my computer).I have friends IRL but, i hate them. They're just a bunch of immature kids trying to become popular.I thought they would become more mature after 4 years but, i guess they won't.Well, yes and no because i have alot of self esteem inside but outside none.I know i'm smart but, if i look at myself in the mirror, that's a different story.
Darkpirater 1 year ago
@Darkpirater Also educate ur self about bullying behaviour. Maybe bullies are so emotionally/mentally sick them-selves they can't help but to hurt others. Maybe they're jealous of U. Its still no excuse for harmful behaviour. Bullies should be fined 4 emotional/mental damage they cause. Its so unacceptable. Im so sorry high schools are like this, it's disgusting. U are so being a better, more likeable person than those bullies. No friends? Do you have online friends? Family member friends? Pets?
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
@Darkpirater also do you treat your self like crap? How do you talk to your self? Do you treat your self with respect? Treat your self highly and with respect and don't say insulting things to your self. Like "I'm a looser, a failure" etc. Would you say that to a close friend or loved one? Then never say that to your self. If you treat your self as a friend others are more likely to as well. It changes your energy or something.
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
@Darkpirater Just wanted to tell you that things will get better... the people who are bullying you are peons who can't think for themselves, they see one person do something and they want to do it too. They have low mentalities and when they graduate highschool and join the real world, will most likely have a rude awakening. It is no reflection on you...stay strong and smile and know that all of this highschool crap is only temporary. Be happy and treat yourself good. :)
MyE555 1 year ago
@Darkpirater Wow! We sound like twins.
maplemerry 1 year ago
This really helped! I never thought of it that way, I always felt it was my fault when trying to talk to people failed. And the 'phbbbt' at the end was so funny! Thanks
Sijee33 1 year ago 4
@Sijee33 Glad it helps! Yes seeing things this way (which is the truth anyway) is much better for your well-being.
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
thx i reely like this but i have a q can a person have 3 diferent types of anxiety
drgigglesdoescocaine 1 year ago
This video is one of my favorites! I never thought of anxiety this way.
starryjoker 1 year ago
Ya know, that anxiety has totally ruined my secondary / high school life, TOTALLY!! If not for this, I would be somewhere else better. Well, it can be reversed, I had to reach a state to search for vids like these to help me lol. I just get so nervous when talkin to strangers, opposite sex people, performin, talkin to ppl of higher authority, I would jus go red so sudden, its freaking embarrassin. And people really thought I was cold n proud, Now's the change I gotta make! Good luck to me then~
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Chriomuz 2 years ago
asshole parents are laregely to blame, they rob you of your self esteem when youre young, and dont give a fuck when youre older, just realize that youre the god of your own world and throw the finger up to the voices in your head and say "pfft, its just people"
countscoopula 2 years ago
I love your videos. I think its quite awful your emloyer would say that, my teachers at school are sometimes like that too, and i get really upset. This helped, i'm going to try it.
bloodbuddy7 2 years ago
Just because they are teachers doesn't mean everything they say is true. Teachers can also abuse or neglect to care for students feelings. These sort of teachers have some sort of problem for being uncaring and sensitive. You can only get upset if you believe what they tell you, but it's probably not true, because nasty insults are usually distorted, irrational, or untrue. *hug*
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
Aw, thanks *hugs back*
I only recently realised that i have SA and this youtube community has been so helpful. I can relate so much to the things you and others are saying! Keep making videos, they are fantastic.
bloodbuddy7 2 years ago
Great vid nice job:)
And O M G you are soo beautiful 0.0
purplemasterthief 2 years ago
Wow she is pretty.
UNPSL 2 years ago 30
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greaterishethatsinme 2 years ago
God cant always help u :/
ur never even gonna see him until the day u die. so whats the point? theres no proof he exsists
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JayQ760side 2 years ago
Your amazing, thankyou so much !!
Bluesage2009 2 years ago
I think I've felt exactly as you have. Also for me depression goes hand-in-hand with social anxiety. I call it being a social-retard. These continue to make me dislike my self in my aloneness. Also there is avoidant behavior.
Aaron5of13 2 years ago
hmmm I agree mostly. I dont think anyones the real them. Theyve been nurtured in a way to act. So The real them is trapped behind a constent ego and super ego. ID never comes out. Only in dreams and thoughts
lukeywookey1234 2 years ago
Is the editing in your video due to your social anxiety?
XXXFirebird76XXX 2 years ago
Sometimes. I would think "Ugh, I better edit this out I don't want to scare people away from me or make them uncomfortable about me" if I have a weird look on my face LOL
But I think I'm thinking like this less. The reason for the editing is to edit out unnecessary gaps of me thinking about what I'm going to say because the purpose is to give the message thats all. But I plan to make another video showing the "gaps" & anxiety to poke fun at myself :)
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
It would be interesting to see you make a regular video without removing the gaps. I find it very insightful when someone with SA is in the process of thinking things out. The person's eyes and facial expressions start to speak in those moments. I can really relate to what their eyes and facial expressions are telling me. =)
XXXFirebird76XXX 2 years ago
I have some videos like that, one was called demonstration of Social Anxiety, and I uploaded several direct cam uploads without editing. I'll think about that =)
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
Thanks. I was also wondering something else. Why do you think it is that your SA doesn't stop you from posting videos like this for everyone to see. I mean, you are letting people into your soul in a sense. That is something that I would never do for reasons that have nothing to do with SA, and yet, you are able to do it with SA.
XXXFirebird76XXX 2 years ago
I don't know, I guess I'm comfortable with it & feel what is there to lose. I feel it's my responsibility to share what has helped me with this & my purpose to reach out to people that have been in pain like mine or worse is stronger than whatever else. As well as overcoming fears of what others think about me, I've seen many others in blogs or video channels talking personally so I guess it's not that much of a big deal to me.
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
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You speak the truth.
AhYaOk 2 years ago
Word
AhYaOk 2 years ago
Hey interesting channel. I saw it on cessnaaces channel. I'm quite an anxious person by nature and its good what your doing. Btw- ignore the haters. :-)
ianwilson1978 2 years ago
Haven't seen a new video from you in a while.
Hope you keep posting. You post some of the best advice.
-Much respect
ClockworkSublime 2 years ago 2
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Why are you talking so slowly? Why are you always staring at the same point? Why are all your videos so heavily edited? Are you reading all the time during the video? How old are you?
Seems like a prepaid ad for some too-good-to-be-true anti-SA program.
DornenBleiben 2 years ago
So why don't you like your perception/imagination of me in your mind?
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
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Maybe it's because you don't answer the questions? =)
And btw, it just seems impossible to me that such a beautiful girl has SA in the first place. People with such high social stimulus value are praised all the time so they don't need to be anxious of anything.
But i can be wrong
DornenBleiben 2 years ago
Yes you can and you are quite prejudicial. I think that good-looking girls might not have be praised all the time, because of jealousy for example. Not to mention: there is more to a person than their looks!
guruehuru 2 years ago
Anyone can have social anxiety. Just like anyone can be very outgoing. A model can feel anxiety because she knows her faults and is afraid others will notice them and use them against her.
XXXFirebird76XXX 2 years ago
I understand what you mean, & it actually makes me mad about the whole thing in Society where people that look a certain way are treated better or worse because of how they look or whatever other reasons. First of all from ages 7 to 13 I was teased for being fat, way too short, looking too young for my age, & having very pale skin. I know how it feels.
There ARE attractive people with Body Dysmorphic Disorder (Their brain doesn't see their appearance as it is)
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
People can be attractive, but imagine if they grew up only hearing things about themself like "You are not Important" & Recieved emotional, verbal, or physical abuse from people as they were growing up. It makes sense they would have Social Anxiety Disorder or A fear of people, no matter what they looked like.
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
hey thanks for the video...hope your doing well! ur very pretty btw (:
choosefreedom92 2 years ago 9
Heyyy you're very welcome :) & thankyou! I've been going through some anxiety/depression lately myself. So you're not alone. We are going through this & improving together. It is worth it though cause I am learning from these "setbacks" to be able to pass on everything I learn to you guys!
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
@choosefreedom92 you're welcome! Yes I am well, and you? & Thank you :)
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
thank you you"ve been very helpful and are a wonderful teacher,your young and very inciteful
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The7penguins 2 years ago
Great vid, i agree with what you are saying, you make a lot of good points:)
NARIEKODWOD 2 years ago 2
I never saw it this way but it's completely fair - blame the anxiety not yourself. I recall a couple of occasions when I was myself (in control) and I remember how good it felt, and how well I was received by others - that was me. Thanks
8KenBen8 2 years ago 4
Relevant and informative as always.
Thank you
ClockworkSublime 2 years ago 3
Your welcome this realization has helped me & I hope it does for others. I don't want people to feel bad about themselves unnecessarily!
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
i know it may seem odd but i sometimes try look at the funny side of my anxiety. By that i mean when i get anxious about something small and non important i try and laugh at how stupid the anxiety is and sometimes doing this actualy calms me down a little. Thanks for another great video Emily
Stuart847 2 years ago 2
No that's awesome, I also love to do this as well - take things out to extreme proportions and laugh at them! Life is so much nicer when you don't take things seriously
Welcome :)
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
Thanks :) I hope it helps
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
hi, Emily what's your anxiety level 1 through 10?
Great VID BTW.
thecanm 2 years ago
Thank-you. :) Are you asking what is my anxiety level making this video? Or for other situations? Probably making this video 2, or 3, or even lower if 10 is the highest anxiety. I didn't really have much trouble at all
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
If you direct all your anger and negativity towards your anxiety and see it as separate part of yourself isnt it going to be more difficult to work with? I think that approach might be counterproductive, because it is creating more resistance and in this way feeding the anxiety. I do agree, though, that it is best not to take too much notice about other peoples negative opinions.
BluesyMagus 2 years ago
You are right.
It is Ego reserving itself by blaming it like an illness..
EpirotFiqi 2 years ago
Think about it like this. Someone has a broken leg, and other people, who don't understand broke bones, get angry at the person for not walking right. Would you expect the person with the broken leg to take it personally, and think it's his fault for not walking right? He can't just change instantly, he is not in control & not able to please others, until he is healed. You would think it silly for him to think it's his fault for not walking properly, so same with S.A for not pleasing others
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
It depends what level of anxiety you have. Less anxiety means you can be more responsible and maybe do what you need to do with just a manageable amount of fear. I am I guess talking about more severe anxiety, as I think that is what I had. The sort of anxiety where you feel sick and frozen up with fear. I don't like the idea of blaming the anxiety then continuing on in the same way. You have to get better as well, it is still not ok to be like this, even though it's not your fault.
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
I think it is a very good advice not to take that kind of criticism personally. What Im saying is that I dont think that blaming the anxiety or the broken bones does anything good its not the bones fault it is broken, it just is. My viewpoint is that by blaming your SA, you are creating more inner resistance and the force of the thoughts of which the anxiety consists are getting amplified (regardless of the severity of the anxiety)
BluesyMagus 2 years ago
You're right blaming doesn't really do anything good. But taking blame & guilt off yourself is good when you realize those things weren't your fault & I thought maybe other people with S.A had taken criticisms caused by actions of their S.A personally & to realize it really wasn't their fault. To me, blaming the social anxiety wasn't a negative thing you feel bad about, but a positive thing you feel good about that will create less anxiety! I guess we must have been looking at it differently
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
I think it is because I was seeing it as beating yourself up less if you acted in a way you didn't want to because of Social Anxiety. And not feeling bad about yourself, but putting the blame onto the anxiety problem as the cause, not yourself
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
I already understood the message of this video. But it's an Ego response to protect itself. "I am not the one to blame. It's an illness". By this you are creating a projection "Someday, I'll be better. I'll be over this social anxiety". And you wont. You are creating a mental image. The Ego want to live in that image, because it can't accept the way it is.
EpirotFiqi 2 years ago
I am not exactly sure what you mean. But I'll guess. Do you mean, instead of needing to feel better about yourself, you shouldn't need that, and just accept things as they are? You mentioned "You won't be over this social anxiety" In my experience, I have made progress, I have improved, therefore the way I see it, I can continue improving till I am completely better. I understand the ego can be bad, but isn't true that without the ego, no-one would aim to recover from Social Anxiety?
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
Then of-course, maybe we have a different definition of ego. Ego, to me, is the identity we have of ourselves, and wanting and needing things . The more basic core of us is simply awareness, observance, placing no meaning on anything. That is sort of how I see it.
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
You could be right. But I don't see it as an ego's response to protect itself. I see it as realizing the truth, that those people were not getting mad at the real you, simply the way anxiety was making you act. And that may help people feel more comfortable & happier, taking that negativity off themself & helping to stop the beating the self up inside the mind, therefore have an improvement socially
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
just to explain my point a little better: I think it would be a good advice not to get too detached to your thoughts (all together). But I also think it is important to accept the anxiety as a part of your situation, as a part of your reality you know, like you would tolerate the presences of a disobedient child. Only through acceptance is positive change possible.
BluesyMagus 2 years ago
So in your case the reality would be that you had anxiety, yes, and your boss was an asshole :) ... that is just reality no reason to fight it :)
BluesyMagus 2 years ago
That might be true. And maybe that's what its like in others experience. Though in my experience, things have been better when I see the anxiety as separate. This seems to give me more awareness of the negative thoughts as part of anxiety, not reality. I'm not really angry at the anxiety, I think making fun of it is best since anxiety thrives on you taking it seriously!
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
I cant argue against your experience, and I do appreciate that you share it - Being aware of the negative thoughts and not to take it seriously sounds just right! But I still think that it would be easier through acceptance. But glad to hear that it has helped you :)
BluesyMagus 2 years ago
Yes acceptance is also really good & works well I think thanks for reminding me! =)
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
SAD is our common enemy and we are not guilty in our social faults, we should just not be hard on ourselves and live the best way we can.
MaxxEPM 2 years ago 2
Emily, you are so right, thank you for this positive video! And spitting in face of SAD is a good and funny idea! :D
MaxxEPM 2 years ago 2
Thank-you, yes take that S.A! =P For all the misery it causes people
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
Excellent advise, Emily. Thank you.
tommax26 2 years ago 2
You're welcome. Thanks for watching & for the comments :)
NoSocialAnxiety 2 years ago
Great message!!
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