Most decent men have dreams of starting their own family one day. So why would They date a single Mother and raise another Mans kid? Most Women are also still in love with their baby father so again why would a Decent Man date a Single mother? its only natural Biology tells us that a male has nothing to gain from raising another mans kids
The true core of the problem is todays ultra-feminist black grandmothers who rebelled and went from being strong black women who were the rock of their families to being loud and extremely proud strong totally independent gangsta b****es who have extremely warped concepts of strength and masculinity.
As is very concisely explained in the book called "The Black Girl Curse" no one had ever heard of strong totally independent black women before the advent of mass govt assistance in the mid70s.
Me and my one of my homeboys had a good convo on this a while ago. About how much more responsibility we have to take on nowadays as far as relationships go. We have to be there for you emotionally when your having probs with your baby daddy, We have to somewhat care for another mans child because you didn't/couldn't work with baby daddy through thick and thin, We have to comfort you for months to show you we're not like the guy you dated in the past and you can trust us, List goes on and on smh
in other societies they will banish you from society for having out of wedlock children!! we have GOT to set standards for our women and the men will naturally follow because the women will teach those standards for him to abide by too.
our women need a morality check. sistah, no woman should be having a baby by a man whom she has long since decided she is through with him! study african, arab and chinese women and how they behave and their cultural standards concerning how a woman should carry herself.
they love white men and his lil d'ck just like in porno that smart racist white men shows to their dumb self-hating black azzez but only ugly old nasty looking crakkkers or wiggers date or want marry them. that's why so many black women are single, unmarried or porno white man's wh0res. its one of the reason why your black men are f'cking up, gays, hate, don't trust and don't like you black women.
black women are selfish dumb azz self-hating sellout white man's wh0res who hate dark skin and real dark/brown-skinned black men, that's why we're is in deep sh't. black women think that racist fake white people are their friends and their racist white "kings" men for real in love with them ... smh!
this is bullshit my uncle marry black woman who has two sons and she ain’t cute either lol i just keep it real but she is not hoe, don’t doing porno, have sex outside of her race so this is just was perfect to him that’s why he marry her. so this is not true about black men being selfish, materialistic and arrogant this is just bullsh’t!
I know one thing. If I ever committ to a real lifealtering relationship, it will be with a woman who: 1. Doesnt drag around with another motherfuckers offspring. 2. Can formulate at least two sentences in row without using the terms "yall know", "hear what Im saying", "whatever" and "know what I mean"
i would never discount dating a single mom but i would also never marry her or move in with her or supply any woman with money/support that was in the situation of being a single mom because ultimately i know a few things about that woman,, her kids will always come before me and i could be held financially responsible for those kids if things dont work out with her and we are married or living together so other than that its fine by me.
Oh and I would also like to add that my kid's dad was not and is not a THUG in any way....and....I have resumed a lifestyle choice of celibacy which is the very lifestyle I led before he and I became a SERIOUS couple.
too. There was a lot of resentment on my part, because I did everything right and so did he. But he wasn't quite ready for the life we'd planned. Today as mature 30 somethings we understand that. We have rebuilt our friendship and are doing a great job co-parenting. Just because a girl is childless doesn't make her GOLD and being a single mother doesn't automatically make a woman a WHORE! Everyone has a different story to tell.
This comment is to those of you who call single mothers whores. Try this on for size, We were together in a serious monogomous relationship, planning for marriage, failed birth control and baby was conceived. Five months into the pregnancy i found out that he had another girlfriend who threatened me and my baby...so I left him. I have never been a WHORE!! I am well established in my career and personal life...I fell in love with a "great guy" who was selfish and wanted his cake and eat it
any man who runs from a money grabbing single mommy and her bastard child is smart. if you bitches only slept with your husbands there wouldnt be any cheating, there would be no bastard children and no sexual diseases.. you whores deserve what you created.
MOST OF THE DUDES YOU BROADS DATE HATE LAW AND ORDER IN EVERY ASPECT OF THEIR LIVES...AND IT SHOWS IN HOW THEY TREAT YOU CHICKS AND THEIR OWN KID(S)...I DON'T FEEL FOR YOU'LL SINGLE MOMS NOR DO I CARE BOUT YOUR PAIN!!! YOU DUMMIES CHOOSE BAD DUDES CONTINUOUSLY BECAUSE YOU'RE BAD, AND REBELLIOUS YOURSELVES AND HATE ADVICE FROM THOSE THAT CAN HELP YOU AVOID COSTLY MISTAKES...FUCK YO MAN PROBLEMS...BLAME IT ON THE RAIN!!!
U CAN BLAME THE NO GOOD DADDIES BUT YOU CAN'T BLAME THE SINGLE MAN THAT HAVE NO KIDS BECAUSE THAT MAN USES CONDOMS EACH AND EVERY TIME HE HAS SEX....U CAN PUT ME IN THE SAME BOAT AS THEM OTHER NIGGAZ BUT ONCE U TURN YOUR HEAD AND LOOK AT THAT BOAT AGAIN IMMA BE GHOST...WHY? BECAUSE I DON'T BELONG IN UR OPINION OF NIGGAZ...SINGLE MOMS ARE THE KIND OF WOMEN THAT DISS DUDES LIKE ME THAT VALUE FAMILY FOR FLY DRESSED LOSERS, THEN YALL HAVE THE NERVE TO DISS ALL MEN...HAVE YOU EVER DATED A CHOIR BOY?
9 times out of ten, women have children by choice. there are 10 forms of birth control that I know of. he can walk away from the child, you have to protect yourself. You should at least get married, women won't even do that.Women in our society give it up to reckless, manipulative and irresponsible men (aka bad boys). there are good guys out there, and there are good girls out there. It's just that for some reason we aren't looking for each other, just hoes and bad boys. smh
Stay away from the single mom or baby momma.....they ain't shit, stay away! This all comes down to values at the end of the day, and they just don't have a value system that means anything. If they did, they would not be a baby moma! If the husband was killed in Iraq, that's different, but these useless women with their bullshit money game and having babies by losers who THEY CHOSE?? Any good man should just stay far away, save yourself major problems down that very short road!!
@georgelopezblows i'm so glad you said that cause i trick a lot of women by seeing where they're heads at by coming up to them in my work boots, dirty jeans and my work van"94 Nissan Quest" some will frown up and reject me cause they think i'm broke but then later they'll see me in my C230 Benz and wanna hold convo...LOL!!! plus they think the van is for my kids so they ask about "baby momma" well i dont have any kids LOL!!!
Love your video. I am a single mother of one 4 year old. I would love to date but I choose not to. My kid's father and I have a great relationship because we respect each other and keep out of each other's personal life. He has a girlfriend who concerns herself with me too often which is unnecessary Bcuz the dad and I only speak about the child or carry on "fair weather" type of convo to be polite. I am very well established in my life so I'd prefer a man for companionship not to push my "
The selfish one is the so called "single mother" , she's the one trying to push her baggage off on someone else. Your baby is your responsibility, not anyone else's.
As being married with two kids & my occupation is working for the military. I would hope if something was to ever happen to me that later down the road that black man would come into my family life & be a great father that he can be to my kids. My wife has a stepfather that step up to the plate & her biological father was murdered on duty (Cop). Its not fair to make these generalization about black women but I know where this shit stems from media encouraging black women to put us under the bus!
I waned a Black Child so bad I adopted. i couldnt find a womb healthy enough. We got problems out here. Black Women arent having babies anymore. I love kids! But I guess Ill never have any of my own. Not a good time anyway.. Sheeeid monies short.. But anyway.. SIgh........
TOOOOOOOOOO MUCH DRAMA..... FATHER IS ALWAYS AROUND............. KIDS ARE BAD AS HELL... FOH...ITS NOT SELFISH...... ITS OUR CHOICE /PREFERENCE....... I DONT DATE 400LB WOMEN EITHER.....
Are Black Men Selfish For Not Dating Single Black Mothers?NO from a evolutionary stand point a man has nothing to gain from raising another mans kids. My girlfriend has a kid i don't but then again i dont help raise her child at all i feel like i should only help raise children that are mine..
See sometimes I feel like I don't wan't a sexually experienced women with kids, I wan't a woman like me. Now I can choose..lolol...that's soo funny to me when I think about it. Now sister I can say this, you are one of the only sisters on youtube to take responsibility for her actions and that is one of the first steps. When a woman is humble that makes all the difference sometimes.
I have changed, I have matured from a nice boy to a grown man seeking righteousness in ever aspect of his life. I went from a boy not sure of his self worth to a Man who now can fully see and love himself for who he is. I look at some of them that I used to love and still do with kids and struggling and all I can say is I would of loved for those kids to be mine. I would of loved them and never ran off on you and our family. But all I can think is you should of loved me and apreciated me then
It's sad because I see all of these women that settled for the thug or bad guy in high school now single parents and on their own. I see all these guys I went to high school with struggling to pay child support or not paying at all. These men and women are still falling for the same thing. See, The Most High looks out for his own. I know my self worth and will no longer settle.These women try to talk to me now and when I turn them down they say that I have changed.lol.their right in an aspect
I'm a virgin, I was raised by my mom and dad to respect and honor women and wait until marriage. When I went to school with this attitude I was ran over. I then started to loose my self confidence because I thought something was wrong with me. My mom seemed to prepair me for a woman that no longer seemed to be in existence. I now thank my parents so much. I thought something was wrong with me but I now know the Most High was protecting me from this crap.
Are Black Men Selfish For Not Dating Single Black Mothers?? I would so No Men simply have nothing to gain for raising another Mans child it sounds cold but why should a man waste energy on kids he dont produce? it makes sense
I think you're missing the point. Most decent men have dreams of starting their own family one day. We don't want a woman that already has a family established because that goes against the laws of nature. It's pretty simple when you think about. The funny thing is ladies feel the same they just express it differently which is why most single parent females don't want other men who aren't the father to discipline their children.
this goes all communities; its really hard for guy to take serious relationship with a girl who has already a kid or kids; u have to feel sorry for women who are single moms because men tend to stay away from women who have kids
I would know a lot of brothars who married and would continue to do children with her if she only sleeps with black/mixed brothars and respect herself even if she have a lot of kids, but nooo black/mixed b'tches don't want this sh't! they wants white, jews or latinos dick, money and fame but if sh't doesn't work they blame black man in them sh't! smh!
this bullsh't is old! who told black women that she should f'cking with everybody? white/mexicans/latinos i mean with everybody who huh?! not black man! that is why they are single, unmarried or porno white men's whores!
black bitch close your legs. demand a condom. use birth control to prevent rape babies
its your body. if u dont wanna b single moms, stop being whores. get married before giving us the pussy. after u pop out babies most of us dont want u anymore
@King100ZL AA women putting down black men saying their no good, don't work, lazy, sperm donors, crooks e.tc.s and then you have some AA men saying black women are baby making machines, loose, classless, angry, gold diggers, cum dumpster,other people kids,nags etc
First thing a black man thinks is why didn't the baby daddy stay? Was it that you picked a scum nigga who wouldn't stay with you once he got you pregnant or that you picked a dude who you would have to let go because he was no good? Why weren't you on birth control and will you pull the same stunt with me? All good questions.
I completely agree with the idea that women still cling to the love they have for the father of their children. My parents have been divorced for seven years, separated for over ten. My Daddy's been passed away for almost three years. My mom STILL says she will never love anyone like she loved my dad. As far as she's concerned, my dad was the father of her children and that connection will never be broken, even after my daddy's death.
@GodsGift00104 They don't want to date them because they probably put a guy to the last man's head for not buying the right pampers -- black women aren't soft and feminine, they always want to kick ass.
"and just she was like ant then she had a guy and I was like I want a guyh like that or whatever. And then she had this guy...and they were married....and she was like...I have friends that were going to...and then there was...you know and whatever....."
this chick sounds SOOOO ignorant and BARELY finished a thought...,my god this couldv'e been 2 minutes withot alll that random rambling!
Single Black Mothers-boy what a topic..I am a man..I have been married for 26 years to a black woman..I have a grown son..and a 17 year old son..I was raised by a single mother..I have dated single mothers..I grew up in the ghettos of Detroit..I have lived in Colorado for over 20 years..so as you can see I have a little experience..The thing is life is one big riddle..what works for me doesn't mean it will work for you..but their are basics when it comes to relationships..any SM out there with ?
Most single black mothers at first ignore the good guys and go for thugs for the sex and then when they have kids by the thugs he leaves. Now she cries about being single and there not being any good black men.After she is stretched out and used up with multiple kids(fathers unknown)now she whats a good man.That is how 90 percent of single mothers are.
Hey Just love all black women, so sexy and strong... but..... You really can't choose these Thug brothers your whole life and then one day, when the spark is almost gone, say.."I wanna Good man" and expect the "Good Man" to not see whats going on when you say you have kids...and was not married and young...."Red Flag."
Ive dated women with kids, i love kids(have none of my own) I always had to deal with some lazy dude coming over when im at work...and hear "he is their father."
i like this video but personally i wouldn't date a guy with a kid. their is too much baggage and then you have to deal with the baby's mother and whether the guy has feelings for her or not. Then, when you help discipline the child, your going to hear "you can't tell me what to do u ain't my mom". and on top of that i want my OWN family. i don't want to have to deal with another person's child. if the child didn't come out of me then he/she is not my problem
I would never pick up someone elses left overs, Imagine spending years raising a kid thats not yours and if you try to chastise them, the woman gets vexed. Or the kid says to you "you aint my dad, you cant tell me what to do!!" LOL
I did try to date a couple of women with kids some years back and each relationship was full of drama with the baby daddy, being used as a credit card even though I was told my money wasn't needed and just utter nonsense. There is nothing wrong with dating a women with children - the problem ultimately is the possible drama that might come with that person. That story you said about the girl with a good man overseas, yet was cheating, says a lot about how some women think.
We look at children differently. I know the topic is about dating, but we really need to stop saying that we made a mistake in making children. We may have had a plan, but you don't know what The Most HIgh's plans are in having you make the child/children.
We look at children differently. I know the topic is about dating, but we really need to stop saying that we made a mistake in making children. We may have had a plan, but you don't know what The Most HIgh's plans are in having you make the child/children.
9 times out of 10 if the black mother's single... There's a pretty damn good reason for it... And most guys don't want to know what it is cause they have enough trouble in their life as it is... That's like asking " is a black man selfish if he doesn't spent $20 to sleep with crack whore"
I mean c'mon! nobody whats a partner with baggage...
That's very True and I agree, but you don't need to go looking in the wrong places for people who might do... Just use common sense. If someone can't hold down their relationship for the sake of their kids (their own legacy) then what makes you think being "the next guy" is going to be any better? either she got involved with a bum or he couldn't stand her and she drove him away...
Every time I ask, their own parents never stayed together, and now their splitting up with their partner. so it's like a vicious cycle, you need a roll model to build relationships… which most of us black people don't have. something like 80% of african american people didn't grow up with both biological parents… it's a shitty situation = /
Become conscious... people need to wake up you the mess their in first! Ask themselves "why" without looking to point blame or make excuses, environment makes a person and people make the environment.... so change your environment to change yourself... then go back and you will be more likely to effect change in other places. it all begins within you... the only thing blaming other people dose is make it happen more...
I've been thinking about it for a long time, I'm not a political of religious person, I look at everything from a neutral perspective... I'm only interested in the facts as they currently stand... I would like to meet more nice black woman who where born in Britain or America without second guessing "is it a good idea to get involved with that woman" or "should i just play it safe and go with what im used to?" there is no difference...But the difference in background is huge!
I don't want to discriminate, but If I can save myself the trouble by just not dating particular groups, it saves time, investment and heart break, no body wants to land up regretting something they could have prevented. (looking in the wrong place) On the other hand I've seen black men get very lucky with a black women, so I think it just pot luck now. who knows! = /
no man is wrong for not dating a woman with kids just as much a woman wouldn't date a single man with kids. I believe a relationship should be fresh and new
THE CHILD WILL MAKE THE CORRECTION WHEN HE/SHE SEE'S & UNDERSTANDS THAT THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MOTHER & FATHER CHANGES NO CONNECTION WITH CHILD AND PARENT. (Excuse That) RESPECT THE VIDEO SIS
WOMEN BE AWARE THAT YOU HAVE INNOCENCE AROUND YOU & YOU CANT JUST BE EXPOSING ANY & EVERYTHING TO IT.WHAT IS SHOWN TO THE YOUTH WILL BE FOLLOWED AND REPEATED.BE MATURE ENUFF TO KNOW THE LAST MAN IS THE LAST MAN, & STOP LOOKING FOR HIM IN THE NEW, YOU SMELL ME.YOU LOST THE NUT & PICKED UP A GADGET WITH MORE SCREWS MISSING THAN THE FIRST, NOW YOU CAN'T GET RID OF HIM WAKE UP! YOU BOTH SHOULD WANT SOMETHING BEFORE YOU HAVE SOMETHING !
I MEAN BOTH MAN & WOMEN IF A CHILD IS BORN,BE BRAVE & MATURE ENUFF TO HAVE THAT ENVIRONMENT OR AT LEAST IF NOT TOGETHER APART AT PEACE.O.K YOU CAN'T WORK, THEN BE MATURE ENUFF TO LET EACH OTHER GO & FIND IT WHERE THEY MAY.THE CHILD WILL MAKE THE CORRECTION WHEN H/?SHE SEE'S & UNDERSTANDS THAT THEMEN IF YOU WONT SUPPORT DIFFERENCES OF FATHER & MOTHER CHANGES NO CONNECTION WITH CHILD & PARENT.MEN THAT WONT BE DADS, BE BRAVE & MATURE ENUFF TO STEP ASIDE & LET HE WHO IS WILLING DO SO
They got us hate'n Yah's BLESSING we are a fruitful people.WOMEN don't hate YOURSELF WATCH YOURSELF.It Took A Man To Put You In That Position.You Will FOREVER BE A BLESSING TO THAT CHILD THE BURDEN WILL BE ON THE MANS SHOULDERS.We NEED To STOP THAT INGNORANT WAY OF THINKING, POINTING THE FINGER.HOW MANY OF YOU ARE IN A REAL POSITION TO TAKE CARE OF A FAMILY THE WAY IT NEEDS TO BE OR AT LEAST THE WAY SHE THINK IT NEEDS TO BE.YET WE PARTY LIKE WE GOT THIS.WELL NIGGA MAN UP GET IT.
@delf124 illegitimate choices are just that...illegitimate choices. that woman made a choice that she must deal with. they aren't monsters, but they made their choice and men w/o children should be able to make their choice, to be the focal point of a relationship. i don't want leftovers. bad energy. i haven't a clue what energy that child represents.
@sifurball This is true, and in that same respect dont knock the MAN that step's up & doe's what either the coward or unwilling would'nt.Should she not have a life, she brought one in the world, who's gonna take care of it.Again thats apart of our problems now.No one wants to teach the ones here.Lets cast them off & keep creating never mind correcting the wrongs.So we go back to pointing the finger, Dont You Get It? We Are A Stiffneck People That Wont Listen Thats The Problem.You Make The Change
@delf124 A child is a blessing from Yah but it is to be done in order. Outside of a covenant it is called fornication. Saying were a fruitful people does not supersede the order of Yah and his laws, statues and commandments. As for a brother needing to "man up," its amazing that even when striving for righteousness and waiting for marriage to have sex you are still told to man up and take on a responsibility you did not create.
@YahcobYsrael You're right ahch a child is suppose to be a blessing,but nowadays it's all about a check and drama,ima just do the best i can not to have any,but sometimes it doesn't work out that way.
You are rare, you actually admitted a fault. I applaud you. Now this is the type of woman that deserves to be treated right. I wish you all the best. Peace! P.S.: That woman you talked about is the problem with single mothers, you are the antidote.
i love muslim and hindu ladies most in every way possible cos i am not proud to be a white european male and black people , white people in media make me angry with their inferior ways .
I can respect this young woman taken responsiblity for failing to use protected sex or birth control.. Not to many woman accept their participation in irresponsible Oow pregnancies... It's been socially conveneint to blame their undeveloped, uneducated male sex partner.. Society has financially co-produced this Oow pregnancy entitlement mentality.. Common sense or survival thinking tells yng males they're weak financially & immature paternally to commit beyond a sexual intercourse relationship
COUPLES SHOULD BE EQUALLY YOKED...BABY MOMMAS SHOULD DATE BABY DADDIES...IT'S NOT FAIR FOR A WOMAN THAT'S SOME OTHER MAN OR MEN BABY MOMMA TO DATE A MAN WITH A CLEAN SLATE(NO KIDS) WOMEN WITH KIDS THAT DON'T LIKE THIS TELLS ALOT ABOUT HOW THEY THINK...WHICH TRICKLES DOWN INTO THEIR LIFESTYLE AND CHOICES...THERE'S ALOT OF WOMEN IN THE UNITED STATES THAT DISAGREE WITH FAIRNESS, JUSTICE AND WHAT'S RIGHT...AND IT SHOWS IN ALL THE DRAMA THEY'RE MIXED IN...1+2=3 1+1=2 EQUAL NUMBER BALANCE THE SCALE
I find this so hilarious. That we have to martyr single moms. My grandmother was a single mother, BUT she was married and later divorced. Plus in her day and age birth control was unavailable especially in the rural south for African Americans. Also there was no sex education. Insist on a condom or use birth control. My God, Planned Parenthood and Trojan do radio and TV commercials! I worked for child support enforcement as well.
Dating a single mothers of *any* race is unethical because it reinforces modern female culture that does not value fathers. If these women valued fathers, they would not have a child without securing willing father through marriage. Everytime a man provides male contact to the child when the real father has been evicted from the child's life, he contributes to the breakdown of the relationship between the child and the child's father.
i would not only date a black single mom but I'd also marry her..why not? am from Africa and i adore black-American women...i was ashamed when i came here abroad, why is there so much crisis btwn black men and black women...if the black American men don't want you, get an African man...or a white, Asian, Latin,etc
@montelka Well sir, you are naive to the facts about american women!
You say that they should go to white, Asian, Latin but you also have to factor in CULTURE! You can't put a Catfish with a Dolphin just because they're both fish. Getting a man is no problem for them but KEEPING HIM is something they're not that skilled at!
These women are FUCKED UP over here in the states!
The way the trend is implying is that as a man, I should have the joy of passing on my seed to the next generation and allow some other punk bitch with low self esteem raise my child while I go off into the city to repeat the process....anyone else see what I see? My roommate explained this to me and he's working on kid number 3, which is why I won't date single moms. Women need to use birth control, have smsmortions, or pick better partners cause it affects them the most in the end.
Just going to keeping it real.Black women steps.1.Ignore the good guys.2.Find thugs she likes.3.Have unprotected sex with multiple thugs within a month.4.Have multiple kids.5.The thug leaves and make more kids with different women.5.Your tax dollars support her kids and welfare check.6.she takes no responsibility and blames everyone else saying there are no good bm.7.When she is 40 she wants a good man.8.Some desperate man will support her and her kids.9.Her girls grow up.10.Repeat.
Don't you think it would be fair to the kids for the mother to sacrafice her personal wants for her kids needs? Instead of going for a different man work on u and the kids. Men will come and go, but that bond between u and your kids should be strong.
Im a black man from L.A. (the hood) I had a lot of short comings in my life but I play the cards I have dealt.I was raised by black women my pops was killed when I was 8.
I love white and foreign women like crazy now.They treat a bro waaaay better
Im all for who treat me the best the hell with color
I can't speak for all guys, But I don't date women with kids (NEVER would again) because of 2 words: Paternity fraud. If single mothers would work to FIX these fucked up laws, instead of advocating NOT changing them, then they'd be one hell of alot more desireable.
Until then, there's always that chance of getting financially FUCKED for the next 18 years by some cunt whose kid isn't even mine.
@King100ZL You looking at the wrong black women b/ca I definitely love a good black man though I do admit that I have dated interracially and all my black friends feel the same. My husband is an incredible black man and we have 2 beautiful boys who will be black kings one day. I hate seeing black ppl on yt arguing over stuff like this; we are just validating ppl like megawhitemaster.
Why do you ppl assume that dating a single mother means you have to take care of the child like it's your own? These children already have fathers, why not be there for the mother? She needs love too. Some of you black men have children scattered and expect to be accepted so stop with the goddamn double standards.
what the hell are you talking about? you're another confuse black woman How old are you? already, you made bad decisoions.? You're going to have more kids in the future, i can already see it ..lol
@King100ZL white women:cook, clean, oral sex, better looking, easier to live with, less drama, no thug baby daddys on the side, less cheating, not that much thug loving,no babies at all except with there MAN(which would be you good bm), excersize, no out of wedlock children, not fat stanky, real natural hair, less attitude, treat you as a MAN
For me, dating a single woman is worse than driving a used car when you have the option of new. At least when you have a used car and drive it down the street no one knows it’s used. Second you’re not constantly reminded just how used it is by the previous owner.Third, when it breaks down its because you used it.
first of all why did ur voice crack @:22 lmfao!!! ok i think in the end it's the woman, if she knows how to be mature about the whole deal it will be alright, but if she puts too much pressure on the guy to fill the hole the first father left the relationship is doomed to fail.
@Oneintelligentwoman i have never lived off anyone but i have had many women try to do that to me i told them to go get a job or find the man that help them have that baby!!
I'm sorry that you have to deal with idiots that comment on your video. Most of these men cannot even type with proper English.
I agree that not all single black women are selfish. I agree that it should be ALL women. I respect you for simply not agreeing with his video and not bashing it like many others would.
I personally would never date a women with children but not because of me being afraid of being used. More for wanting to start my own family.
I can't do the step father thing for 1, I wanna be number 1 in her life. POINT BLANK. If any woman say's that it takes a real man to raise a child,before I agree with the female, I will say it takes a man to raise his own child but not no one elses. I think he would be a fool.
@Oneintelligentwoman Liar! Sistas seek out the most irresponsible men they can find and have babies with these clowns knowing full well they got a gang of kids already. Then somehow they magically want him to become responsible and take care of their child now that she's Baby Mama #6. So really, nobody wants a responsible man. Take that!
when we havent have kids already, "child-less men" usually dont want to be with someone already with kids cuz it seems like too much responsibility....probably doesnt matter much.
YOU HAVE KIDS???????? did you think before having kids???????????? you look soo young to have 3 kids already, black women need to use their brain, Would you rather spend 2$ on condom or screw your life for ever??????????
Well to be honest I did think and my first child i was engaged to her father whom a marriage was promised to me soon and we plan to have a kid but the marriage never happened and i went throguh an emotional turmoil and idk i just kinda lost myself a lil and no after that i didnt think
@GodsGift00104 Use freaking birth control if you are going to be having sex. What do black women have against the pill. A guy who knocks you up is never going to marry you. I did my time in the army and we called those women who hang around the bases lounge lizards. Just want to get knocked up so they can get the pay from the army knowing the army will kick the guy out if he doesn't do the right thing. Which they should. Educated good black men don't black women with tons of babies. DUH!
@GodsGift00104 First child? Now your kids have different fathers? Wow whats the point in making this video? .. It kinda seems like you're contradicting yourself
@Ahmed587326 livin with a black girl only brings trouble but livin with a white girl will make a cute couple black girls dont cook nor clean or do dishes they favorite place is the salon and they hate bein in the kitchen,cheating,n ot loyal & wishy washy & always have other people kids!
I said it before on other videos. NO WAY JOSE', OR HELL NO Black men are not selfish in not dating a single mother. A man with no kids dealing with a single mother certainly cannot be #1 other than God Himself. Very very few Black men has made it work. Generally no it's doesn't work. Be like me single Black men and leave the single mother alone
Wow those unmarried successful women on the ABC Special set off hell on the internet. Going on TV complaining about not being able to attract decent men. Men have married and taken care of less educated, but good women for a long time. But these days, women are upto the same nonsense as men
black women fake like they are queens or something. but i have yet to see any race of men, fall in love in huge numbers for black women. yeah youre queens alright. 70% are singel right?do you not know what white men do to you guys. look at ghetto gaggers and all that other shit. a black woman is nothing to a white man but a fetish.once it is fulfilled hes back with his white wife. true true true oh how true that is.
Most decent men have dreams of starting their own family one day. So why would They date a single Mother and raise another Mans kid? Most Women are also still in love with their baby father so again why would a Decent Man date a Single mother? its only natural Biology tells us that a male has nothing to gain from raising another mans kids
theabomation 2 weeks ago
And I refuse to date a man with kids. Most of them have "baby mamma drama" and child support issues. No thanks.
disdainface 2 weeks ago
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The true core of the problem is todays ultra-feminist black grandmothers who rebelled and went from being strong black women who were the rock of their families to being loud and extremely proud strong totally independent gangsta b****es who have extremely warped concepts of strength and masculinity.
As is very concisely explained in the book called "The Black Girl Curse" no one had ever heard of strong totally independent black women before the advent of mass govt assistance in the mid70s.
pc0p1mp 3 weeks ago
I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER EVER DATE NO CHICK WITH A KID.
WHY SHOULD I????? LOL
theright1allthetime 1 month ago 2
Me and my one of my homeboys had a good convo on this a while ago. About how much more responsibility we have to take on nowadays as far as relationships go. We have to be there for you emotionally when your having probs with your baby daddy, We have to somewhat care for another mans child because you didn't/couldn't work with baby daddy through thick and thin, We have to comfort you for months to show you we're not like the guy you dated in the past and you can trust us, List goes on and on smh
floridaboy22 1 month ago 3
bitches are hypocrits
kg062007 2 months ago
in other societies they will banish you from society for having out of wedlock children!! we have GOT to set standards for our women and the men will naturally follow because the women will teach those standards for him to abide by too.
dragonpat666 2 months ago
our women need a morality check. sistah, no woman should be having a baby by a man whom she has long since decided she is through with him! study african, arab and chinese women and how they behave and their cultural standards concerning how a woman should carry herself.
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they love white men and his lil d'ck just like in porno that smart racist white men shows to their dumb self-hating black azzez but only ugly old nasty looking crakkkers or wiggers date or want marry them. that's why so many black women are single, unmarried or porno white man's wh0res. its one of the reason why your black men are f'cking up, gays, hate, don't trust and don't like you black women.
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black women are selfish dumb azz self-hating sellout white man's wh0res who hate dark skin and real dark/brown-skinned black men, that's why we're is in deep sh't. black women think that racist fake white people are their friends and their racist white "kings" men for real in love with them ... smh!
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this is bullshit my uncle marry black woman who has two sons and she ain’t cute either lol i just keep it real but she is not hoe, don’t doing porno, have sex outside of her race so this is just was perfect to him that’s why he marry her. so this is not true about black men being selfish, materialistic and arrogant this is just bullsh’t!
swagboi7 2 months ago
I know one thing. If I ever committ to a real lifealtering relationship, it will be with a woman who: 1. Doesnt drag around with another motherfuckers offspring. 2. Can formulate at least two sentences in row without using the terms "yall know", "hear what Im saying", "whatever" and "know what I mean"
kjemma 2 months ago
@kjemma lol added 2 that can form a sentence w/out a cuss word for every other word, is really jus not lady like
Dbaiely 1 month ago
I would date a single woman with kids. I just wouldn't get into a relationship with one.
e84fresh 2 months ago
MEN should not to date single mothers!
1)many had children to secure welfare and child support!
2)higher risk of STD'S most to not use protection!
3) expect you to raise children that is not your own with no legal rights to the child.
4) personal safety can be threatened buy the child's father since many of them still sleep with the guy.
5)children often have behavioral problems many are violent!
6)they expect you to be captin save a hoe!
mrcharles007 2 months ago 6
i would never discount dating a single mom but i would also never marry her or move in with her or supply any woman with money/support that was in the situation of being a single mom because ultimately i know a few things about that woman,, her kids will always come before me and i could be held financially responsible for those kids if things dont work out with her and we are married or living together so other than that its fine by me.
fixt100 3 months ago
Oh and I would also like to add that my kid's dad was not and is not a THUG in any way....and....I have resumed a lifestyle choice of celibacy which is the very lifestyle I led before he and I became a SERIOUS couple.
chocolatemodel30 3 months ago
too. There was a lot of resentment on my part, because I did everything right and so did he. But he wasn't quite ready for the life we'd planned. Today as mature 30 somethings we understand that. We have rebuilt our friendship and are doing a great job co-parenting. Just because a girl is childless doesn't make her GOLD and being a single mother doesn't automatically make a woman a WHORE! Everyone has a different story to tell.
chocolatemodel30 3 months ago
This comment is to those of you who call single mothers whores. Try this on for size, We were together in a serious monogomous relationship, planning for marriage, failed birth control and baby was conceived. Five months into the pregnancy i found out that he had another girlfriend who threatened me and my baby...so I left him. I have never been a WHORE!! I am well established in my career and personal life...I fell in love with a "great guy" who was selfish and wanted his cake and eat it
chocolatemodel30 3 months ago
any man who runs from a money grabbing single mommy and her bastard child is smart. if you bitches only slept with your husbands there wouldnt be any cheating, there would be no bastard children and no sexual diseases.. you whores deserve what you created.
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MOST OF THE DUDES YOU BROADS DATE HATE LAW AND ORDER IN EVERY ASPECT OF THEIR LIVES...AND IT SHOWS IN HOW THEY TREAT YOU CHICKS AND THEIR OWN KID(S)...I DON'T FEEL FOR YOU'LL SINGLE MOMS NOR DO I CARE BOUT YOUR PAIN!!! YOU DUMMIES CHOOSE BAD DUDES CONTINUOUSLY BECAUSE YOU'RE BAD, AND REBELLIOUS YOURSELVES AND HATE ADVICE FROM THOSE THAT CAN HELP YOU AVOID COSTLY MISTAKES...FUCK YO MAN PROBLEMS...BLAME IT ON THE RAIN!!!
SunnyCosign 4 months ago
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SunnyCosign 4 months ago
U CAN BLAME THE NO GOOD DADDIES BUT YOU CAN'T BLAME THE SINGLE MAN THAT HAVE NO KIDS BECAUSE THAT MAN USES CONDOMS EACH AND EVERY TIME HE HAS SEX....U CAN PUT ME IN THE SAME BOAT AS THEM OTHER NIGGAZ BUT ONCE U TURN YOUR HEAD AND LOOK AT THAT BOAT AGAIN IMMA BE GHOST...WHY? BECAUSE I DON'T BELONG IN UR OPINION OF NIGGAZ...SINGLE MOMS ARE THE KIND OF WOMEN THAT DISS DUDES LIKE ME THAT VALUE FAMILY FOR FLY DRESSED LOSERS, THEN YALL HAVE THE NERVE TO DISS ALL MEN...HAVE YOU EVER DATED A CHOIR BOY?
SunnyCosign 4 months ago 2
@sunsagleaming
9 times out of ten, women have children by choice. there are 10 forms of birth control that I know of. he can walk away from the child, you have to protect yourself. You should at least get married, women won't even do that.Women in our society give it up to reckless, manipulative and irresponsible men (aka bad boys). there are good guys out there, and there are good girls out there. It's just that for some reason we aren't looking for each other, just hoes and bad boys. smh
Diverse0725 4 months ago
Stay away from the single mom or baby momma.....they ain't shit, stay away! This all comes down to values at the end of the day, and they just don't have a value system that means anything. If they did, they would not be a baby moma! If the husband was killed in Iraq, that's different, but these useless women with their bullshit money game and having babies by losers who THEY CHOSE?? Any good man should just stay far away, save yourself major problems down that very short road!!
nagone11 4 months ago
@georgelopezblows i'm so glad you said that cause i trick a lot of women by seeing where they're heads at by coming up to them in my work boots, dirty jeans and my work van"94 Nissan Quest" some will frown up and reject me cause they think i'm broke but then later they'll see me in my C230 Benz and wanna hold convo...LOL!!! plus they think the van is for my kids so they ask about "baby momma" well i dont have any kids LOL!!!
paul3fun 4 months ago
@paul3fun That must be fun lol.
GreasemonkeyCGI 4 months ago
Baggage onto someone else. Confident women don't do that.
chocolatemodel30 5 months ago
Love your video. I am a single mother of one 4 year old. I would love to date but I choose not to. My kid's father and I have a great relationship because we respect each other and keep out of each other's personal life. He has a girlfriend who concerns herself with me too often which is unnecessary Bcuz the dad and I only speak about the child or carry on "fair weather" type of convo to be polite. I am very well established in my life so I'd prefer a man for companionship not to push my "
chocolatemodel30 5 months ago
The selfish one is the so called "single mother" , she's the one trying to push her baggage off on someone else. Your baby is your responsibility, not anyone else's.
MrShaneVicious 7 months ago
@MrShaneVicious Single mom's are selfish PERIOD. I'll explain why later.
psx2514 6 months ago
As being married with two kids & my occupation is working for the military. I would hope if something was to ever happen to me that later down the road that black man would come into my family life & be a great father that he can be to my kids. My wife has a stepfather that step up to the plate & her biological father was murdered on duty (Cop). Its not fair to make these generalization about black women but I know where this shit stems from media encouraging black women to put us under the bus!
lilrog0909 7 months ago
wat would u do differently if u could do it over again?
patriciacarrasco 7 months ago
I waned a Black Child so bad I adopted. i couldnt find a womb healthy enough. We got problems out here. Black Women arent having babies anymore. I love kids! But I guess Ill never have any of my own. Not a good time anyway.. Sheeeid monies short.. But anyway.. SIgh........
RuggedBrotha 7 months ago
Fuck yo kids byaaatch.
MrFuckyoubitch69 8 months ago
Good points.
Very unbiased outlook on ating sngle parents in general.
nichirenx 8 months ago
TOOOOOOOOOO MUCH DRAMA..... FATHER IS ALWAYS AROUND............. KIDS ARE BAD AS HELL... FOH...ITS NOT SELFISH...... ITS OUR CHOICE /PREFERENCE....... I DONT DATE 400LB WOMEN EITHER.....
stickyfingerz187 8 months ago
are you a single mom?
EmpressButterfly1 8 months ago
Are Black Men Selfish For Not Dating Single Black Mothers?NO from a evolutionary stand point a man has nothing to gain from raising another mans kids. My girlfriend has a kid i don't but then again i dont help raise her child at all i feel like i should only help raise children that are mine..
theabomation 8 months ago
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See sometimes I feel like I don't wan't a sexually experienced women with kids, I wan't a woman like me. Now I can choose..lolol...that's soo funny to me when I think about it. Now sister I can say this, you are one of the only sisters on youtube to take responsibility for her actions and that is one of the first steps. When a woman is humble that makes all the difference sometimes.
YahcobYsrael 9 months ago
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YahcobYsrael 9 months ago
I have changed, I have matured from a nice boy to a grown man seeking righteousness in ever aspect of his life. I went from a boy not sure of his self worth to a Man who now can fully see and love himself for who he is. I look at some of them that I used to love and still do with kids and struggling and all I can say is I would of loved for those kids to be mine. I would of loved them and never ran off on you and our family. But all I can think is you should of loved me and apreciated me then
YahcobYsrael 9 months ago
It's sad because I see all of these women that settled for the thug or bad guy in high school now single parents and on their own. I see all these guys I went to high school with struggling to pay child support or not paying at all. These men and women are still falling for the same thing. See, The Most High looks out for his own. I know my self worth and will no longer settle.These women try to talk to me now and when I turn them down they say that I have changed.lol.their right in an aspect
YahcobYsrael 9 months ago
I'm a virgin, I was raised by my mom and dad to respect and honor women and wait until marriage. When I went to school with this attitude I was ran over. I then started to loose my self confidence because I thought something was wrong with me. My mom seemed to prepair me for a woman that no longer seemed to be in existence. I now thank my parents so much. I thought something was wrong with me but I now know the Most High was protecting me from this crap.
YahcobYsrael 9 months ago
Are Black Men Selfish For Not Dating Single Black Mothers?? I would so No Men simply have nothing to gain for raising another Mans child it sounds cold but why should a man waste energy on kids he dont produce? it makes sense
theabomation 9 months ago
I think you're missing the point. Most decent men have dreams of starting their own family one day. We don't want a woman that already has a family established because that goes against the laws of nature. It's pretty simple when you think about. The funny thing is ladies feel the same they just express it differently which is why most single parent females don't want other men who aren't the father to discipline their children.
obatron1 9 months ago 8
this goes all communities; its really hard for guy to take serious relationship with a girl who has already a kid or kids; u have to feel sorry for women who are single moms because men tend to stay away from women who have kids
Kemiztri 9 months ago
I would know a lot of brothars who married and would continue to do children with her if she only sleeps with black/mixed brothars and respect herself even if she have a lot of kids, but nooo black/mixed b'tches don't want this sh't! they wants white, jews or latinos dick, money and fame but if sh't doesn't work they blame black man in them sh't! smh!
realblackxxxx 10 months ago
this bullsh't is old! who told black women that she should f'cking with everybody? white/mexicans/latinos i mean with everybody who huh?! not black man! that is why they are single, unmarried or porno white men's whores!
realblackxxxx 10 months ago
@mh89780 Because I am a man. If you flip the genders in what the comment I replied to said, then you would understand.
DeadSleepers 10 months ago
black women ARE MASTERS OF EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL. BLACK MEN OR OTHER RACE MEN RUN dont date single black moms run run run.
MRbossman1982 10 months ago
black bitch close your legs. demand a condom. use birth control to prevent rape babies
its your body. if u dont wanna b single moms, stop being whores. get married before giving us the pussy. after u pop out babies most of us dont want u anymore
MegaWhitemaster 11 months ago 3
@AlaskanHereo god bless you,greetings
MegaWhitemaster 11 months ago
@King100ZL AA women putting down black men saying their no good, don't work, lazy, sperm donors, crooks e.tc.s and then you have some AA men saying black women are baby making machines, loose, classless, angry, gold diggers, cum dumpster,other people kids,nags etc
MegaWhitemaster 11 months ago
First thing a black man thinks is why didn't the baby daddy stay? Was it that you picked a scum nigga who wouldn't stay with you once he got you pregnant or that you picked a dude who you would have to let go because he was no good? Why weren't you on birth control and will you pull the same stunt with me? All good questions.
bhillboy37 11 months ago
I completely agree with the idea that women still cling to the love they have for the father of their children. My parents have been divorced for seven years, separated for over ten. My Daddy's been passed away for almost three years. My mom STILL says she will never love anyone like she loved my dad. As far as she's concerned, my dad was the father of her children and that connection will never be broken, even after my daddy's death.
DarthVreda 1 year ago
@GodsGift00104 They don't want to date them because they probably put a guy to the last man's head for not buying the right pampers -- black women aren't soft and feminine, they always want to kick ass.
ArtistBet 1 year ago
"and just she was like ant then she had a guy and I was like I want a guyh like that or whatever. And then she had this guy...and they were married....and she was like...I have friends that were going to...and then there was...you know and whatever....."
this chick sounds SOOOO ignorant and BARELY finished a thought...,my god this couldv'e been 2 minutes withot alll that random rambling!
theherdmentality 1 year ago
@BlackMaleRedemption or maybe the have more loyalty to the black man.
Empre55 1 year ago
@Oneintelligentwoman Alot of my friends are thinking that way. I still believe in the bm time will tell if I am wasting my time.
Empre55 1 year ago
Single Black Mothers-boy what a topic..I am a man..I have been married for 26 years to a black woman..I have a grown son..and a 17 year old son..I was raised by a single mother..I have dated single mothers..I grew up in the ghettos of Detroit..I have lived in Colorado for over 20 years..so as you can see I have a little experience..The thing is life is one big riddle..what works for me doesn't mean it will work for you..but their are basics when it comes to relationships..any SM out there with ?
JamesMorrisModeling 1 year ago
Most single black mothers at first ignore the good guys and go for thugs for the sex and then when they have kids by the thugs he leaves. Now she cries about being single and there not being any good black men.After she is stretched out and used up with multiple kids(fathers unknown)now she whats a good man.That is how 90 percent of single mothers are.
robertjosephgreen 1 year ago 3
Hey Just love all black women, so sexy and strong... but..... You really can't choose these Thug brothers your whole life and then one day, when the spark is almost gone, say.."I wanna Good man" and expect the "Good Man" to not see whats going on when you say you have kids...and was not married and young...."Red Flag."
Ive dated women with kids, i love kids(have none of my own) I always had to deal with some lazy dude coming over when im at work...and hear "he is their father."
Never again.
NatTurnersGhost 1 year ago
i like this video but personally i wouldn't date a guy with a kid. their is too much baggage and then you have to deal with the baby's mother and whether the guy has feelings for her or not. Then, when you help discipline the child, your going to hear "you can't tell me what to do u ain't my mom". and on top of that i want my OWN family. i don't want to have to deal with another person's child. if the child didn't come out of me then he/she is not my problem
NaijaPrincess1989 1 year ago 12
@NaijaPrincess1989 Thats exactly how men feel.
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wendablomah 1 year ago
well you should have used protection when you decided to have sex. but, you did without and now you have children. deal with it.
92680BOYD 1 year ago
I would never pick up someone elses left overs, Imagine spending years raising a kid thats not yours and if you try to chastise them, the woman gets vexed. Or the kid says to you "you aint my dad, you cant tell me what to do!!" LOL
Melchizedek86 1 year ago
@Melchizedek86 so right dude, so right.
It takes either a man with great social conscience or stupidity to raise some one else's kid
BarriosGroupie 1 year ago
I did try to date a couple of women with kids some years back and each relationship was full of drama with the baby daddy, being used as a credit card even though I was told my money wasn't needed and just utter nonsense. There is nothing wrong with dating a women with children - the problem ultimately is the possible drama that might come with that person. That story you said about the girl with a good man overseas, yet was cheating, says a lot about how some women think.
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We look at children differently. I know the topic is about dating, but we really need to stop saying that we made a mistake in making children. We may have had a plan, but you don't know what The Most HIgh's plans are in having you make the child/children.
TheELSABA 1 year ago
We look at children differently. I know the topic is about dating, but we really need to stop saying that we made a mistake in making children. We may have had a plan, but you don't know what The Most HIgh's plans are in having you make the child/children.
TheELSABA 1 year ago
@TheELSABA Yeah! and this to eevryone who commented what about Eugenics too.
Empre55 1 year ago
@TheELSABA Yeah! and this to everyone who commented what about Eugenics too.
Empre55 1 year ago
9 times out of 10 if the black mother's single... There's a pretty damn good reason for it... And most guys don't want to know what it is cause they have enough trouble in their life as it is... That's like asking " is a black man selfish if he doesn't spent $20 to sleep with crack whore"
I mean c'mon! nobody whats a partner with baggage...
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 1 year ago
@XXTheRealMcCoyXX children or no children everyone got baggage.
Empre55 1 year ago
@Empre55
That's very True and I agree, but you don't need to go looking in the wrong places for people who might do... Just use common sense. If someone can't hold down their relationship for the sake of their kids (their own legacy) then what makes you think being "the next guy" is going to be any better? either she got involved with a bum or he couldn't stand her and she drove him away...
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 1 year ago
Every time I ask, their own parents never stayed together, and now their splitting up with their partner. so it's like a vicious cycle, you need a roll model to build relationships… which most of us black people don't have. something like 80% of african american people didn't grow up with both biological parents… it's a shitty situation = /
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 1 year ago
@XXTheRealMcCoyXX How do we change this?
Empre55 1 year ago
@Empre55
Become conscious... people need to wake up you the mess their in first! Ask themselves "why" without looking to point blame or make excuses, environment makes a person and people make the environment.... so change your environment to change yourself... then go back and you will be more likely to effect change in other places. it all begins within you... the only thing blaming other people dose is make it happen more...
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 1 year ago
@XXTheRealMcCoyXX
if you believe "black men ain't shit" or "black women crazy" I hear this all the time.
thats all your going to attract... the mind subconsciously looks for what it believes in most...
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 1 year ago
@XXTheRealMcCoyXX That must be the best comment on here.
Empre55 1 year ago
@Empre55
I've been thinking about it for a long time, I'm not a political of religious person, I look at everything from a neutral perspective... I'm only interested in the facts as they currently stand... I would like to meet more nice black woman who where born in Britain or America without second guessing "is it a good idea to get involved with that woman" or "should i just play it safe and go with what im used to?" there is no difference...But the difference in background is huge!
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 1 year ago
@XXTheRealMcCoyXX
I don't want to discriminate, but If I can save myself the trouble by just not dating particular groups, it saves time, investment and heart break, no body wants to land up regretting something they could have prevented. (looking in the wrong place) On the other hand I've seen black men get very lucky with a black women, so I think it just pot luck now. who knows! = /
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 1 year ago
you are talking about nothing or whatever
BEERandWEED 1 year ago
aint no black man want a black bitch with.........a bitch ass kid of some other nigger!
cuz all niggers know.....if you make a kid with a bitch the bitch got loyalty to another nigger......!!!! he can always come get that baby daddy pussy
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terisavosburgmdk 1 year ago
no man is wrong for not dating a woman with kids just as much a woman wouldn't date a single man with kids. I believe a relationship should be fresh and new
sebkhetsabur 1 year ago
I'd date you because you're a real beauty!
malarki5 1 year ago
Right on Gods Gift. This is real talk.
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yamunagayan 1 year ago
THE CHILD WILL MAKE THE CORRECTION WHEN HE/SHE SEE'S & UNDERSTANDS THAT THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MOTHER & FATHER CHANGES NO CONNECTION WITH CHILD AND PARENT. (Excuse That) RESPECT THE VIDEO SIS
delf124 1 year ago
WOMEN BE AWARE THAT YOU HAVE INNOCENCE AROUND YOU & YOU CANT JUST BE EXPOSING ANY & EVERYTHING TO IT.WHAT IS SHOWN TO THE YOUTH WILL BE FOLLOWED AND REPEATED.BE MATURE ENUFF TO KNOW THE LAST MAN IS THE LAST MAN, & STOP LOOKING FOR HIM IN THE NEW, YOU SMELL ME.YOU LOST THE NUT & PICKED UP A GADGET WITH MORE SCREWS MISSING THAN THE FIRST, NOW YOU CAN'T GET RID OF HIM WAKE UP! YOU BOTH SHOULD WANT SOMETHING BEFORE YOU HAVE SOMETHING !
delf124 1 year ago
I MEAN BOTH MAN & WOMEN IF A CHILD IS BORN,BE BRAVE & MATURE ENUFF TO HAVE THAT ENVIRONMENT OR AT LEAST IF NOT TOGETHER APART AT PEACE.O.K YOU CAN'T WORK, THEN BE MATURE ENUFF TO LET EACH OTHER GO & FIND IT WHERE THEY MAY.THE CHILD WILL MAKE THE CORRECTION WHEN H/?SHE SEE'S & UNDERSTANDS THAT THEMEN IF YOU WONT SUPPORT DIFFERENCES OF FATHER & MOTHER CHANGES NO CONNECTION WITH CHILD & PARENT.MEN THAT WONT BE DADS, BE BRAVE & MATURE ENUFF TO STEP ASIDE & LET HE WHO IS WILLING DO SO
delf124 1 year ago 3
They got us hate'n Yah's BLESSING we are a fruitful people.WOMEN don't hate YOURSELF WATCH YOURSELF.It Took A Man To Put You In That Position.You Will FOREVER BE A BLESSING TO THAT CHILD THE BURDEN WILL BE ON THE MANS SHOULDERS.We NEED To STOP THAT INGNORANT WAY OF THINKING, POINTING THE FINGER.HOW MANY OF YOU ARE IN A REAL POSITION TO TAKE CARE OF A FAMILY THE WAY IT NEEDS TO BE OR AT LEAST THE WAY SHE THINK IT NEEDS TO BE.YET WE PARTY LIKE WE GOT THIS.WELL NIGGA MAN UP GET IT.
delf124 1 year ago 16
@delf124 illegitimate choices are just that...illegitimate choices. that woman made a choice that she must deal with. they aren't monsters, but they made their choice and men w/o children should be able to make their choice, to be the focal point of a relationship. i don't want leftovers. bad energy. i haven't a clue what energy that child represents.
sifurball 1 year ago
@sifurball This is true, and in that same respect dont knock the MAN that step's up & doe's what either the coward or unwilling would'nt.Should she not have a life, she brought one in the world, who's gonna take care of it.Again thats apart of our problems now.No one wants to teach the ones here.Lets cast them off & keep creating never mind correcting the wrongs.So we go back to pointing the finger, Dont You Get It? We Are A Stiffneck People That Wont Listen Thats The Problem.You Make The Change
delf124 1 year ago
@delf124 A child is a blessing from Yah but it is to be done in order. Outside of a covenant it is called fornication. Saying were a fruitful people does not supersede the order of Yah and his laws, statues and commandments. As for a brother needing to "man up," its amazing that even when striving for righteousness and waiting for marriage to have sex you are still told to man up and take on a responsibility you did not create.
YahcobYsrael 9 months ago
@YahcobYsrael You're right ahch a child is suppose to be a blessing,but nowadays it's all about a check and drama,ima just do the best i can not to have any,but sometimes it doesn't work out that way.
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MoniRokse 1 year ago
You are rare, you actually admitted a fault. I applaud you. Now this is the type of woman that deserves to be treated right. I wish you all the best. Peace! P.S.: That woman you talked about is the problem with single mothers, you are the antidote.
xldjvista 1 year ago
@clashfiend idk wat single moms u seen or been around but i got none of that im just as fine and hot as i was be4 i had kids.
GodsGift00104 1 year ago
@GodsGift00104
all races have fun together we are all human : )
i love muslim and hindu ladies most in every way possible cos i am not proud to be a white european male and black people , white people in media make me angry with their inferior ways .
muslim is the dark skin middle eastern people .
hindu is the brown asian people .
ukgreaterlondon 5 months ago
I can respect this young woman taken responsiblity for failing to use protected sex or birth control.. Not to many woman accept their participation in irresponsible Oow pregnancies... It's been socially conveneint to blame their undeveloped, uneducated male sex partner.. Society has financially co-produced this Oow pregnancy entitlement mentality.. Common sense or survival thinking tells yng males they're weak financially & immature paternally to commit beyond a sexual intercourse relationship
HiRoader11 1 year ago
COUPLES SHOULD BE EQUALLY YOKED...BABY MOMMAS SHOULD DATE BABY DADDIES...IT'S NOT FAIR FOR A WOMAN THAT'S SOME OTHER MAN OR MEN BABY MOMMA TO DATE A MAN WITH A CLEAN SLATE(NO KIDS) WOMEN WITH KIDS THAT DON'T LIKE THIS TELLS ALOT ABOUT HOW THEY THINK...WHICH TRICKLES DOWN INTO THEIR LIFESTYLE AND CHOICES...THERE'S ALOT OF WOMEN IN THE UNITED STATES THAT DISAGREE WITH FAIRNESS, JUSTICE AND WHAT'S RIGHT...AND IT SHOWS IN ALL THE DRAMA THEY'RE MIXED IN...1+2=3 1+1=2 EQUAL NUMBER BALANCE THE SCALE
SunnyCosign 1 year ago
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only thing i want from a single mother is her money in food and her car
terrence6720 1 year ago
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only thing i want from a single mother is her money in food
terrence6720 1 year ago
only thing i want from a single mother is her money in food.
terrence6720 1 year ago
only thing i want from a single mother is her money in food.
terrence6720 1 year ago
I find this so hilarious. That we have to martyr single moms. My grandmother was a single mother, BUT she was married and later divorced. Plus in her day and age birth control was unavailable especially in the rural south for African Americans. Also there was no sex education. Insist on a condom or use birth control. My God, Planned Parenthood and Trojan do radio and TV commercials! I worked for child support enforcement as well.
fightingblindly 1 year ago
Dating a single mothers of *any* race is unethical because it reinforces modern female culture that does not value fathers. If these women valued fathers, they would not have a child without securing willing father through marriage. Everytime a man provides male contact to the child when the real father has been evicted from the child's life, he contributes to the breakdown of the relationship between the child and the child's father.
feministsAreCorrupt 1 year ago
i would not only date a black single mom but I'd also marry her..why not? am from Africa and i adore black-American women...i was ashamed when i came here abroad, why is there so much crisis btwn black men and black women...if the black American men don't want you, get an African man...or a white, Asian, Latin,etc
montelka 1 year ago
@montelka Well sir, you are naive to the facts about american women!
You say that they should go to white, Asian, Latin but you also have to factor in CULTURE! You can't put a Catfish with a Dolphin just because they're both fish. Getting a man is no problem for them but KEEPING HIM is something they're not that skilled at!
These women are FUCKED UP over here in the states!
Lilart1981 1 year ago
The way the trend is implying is that as a man, I should have the joy of passing on my seed to the next generation and allow some other punk bitch with low self esteem raise my child while I go off into the city to repeat the process....anyone else see what I see? My roommate explained this to me and he's working on kid number 3, which is why I won't date single moms. Women need to use birth control, have smsmortions, or pick better partners cause it affects them the most in the end.
rickdarko 1 year ago
It comes down to simple economics, the broke guys have to date single mothers, the ones who have an actual career can afford better.
CaptainNoMarriage 1 year ago
wow i wish you had waited for marriage. you would have appreciated it more.
trevanismith 1 year ago
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Just going to keeping it real.Black women steps.1.Ignore the good guys.2.Find thugs she likes.3.Have unprotected sex with multiple thugs within a month.4.Have multiple kids.5.The thug leaves and make more kids with different women.5.Your tax dollars support her kids and welfare check.6.she takes no responsibility and blames everyone else saying there are no good bm.7.When she is 40 she wants a good man.8.Some desperate man will support her and her kids.9.Her girls grow up.10.Repeat.
robertjosephgreen 1 year ago
There is now way I would date a woman with kids. Only a desperate man would go through all that.
southboy99 1 year ago 3
@southboy99 yup.just say no to singlemoms lol.mabey a one night stand but thats it.
philmo211 1 year ago
@philmo211 I just don't want to deal with them period. That booty call can turn you into another baby daddy.
southboy99 1 year ago 4
The women with kids who say they dont want a man with kids are just as selfish!
nmr20067 1 year ago
Don't you think it would be fair to the kids for the mother to sacrafice her personal wants for her kids needs? Instead of going for a different man work on u and the kids. Men will come and go, but that bond between u and your kids should be strong.
waltjrhurd 1 year ago
Im a black man from L.A. (the hood) I had a lot of short comings in my life but I play the cards I have dealt.I was raised by black women my pops was killed when I was 8.
I love white and foreign women like crazy now.They treat a bro waaaay better
Im all for who treat me the best the hell with color
07dunn 1 year ago
I can't speak for all guys, But I don't date women with kids (NEVER would again) because of 2 words: Paternity fraud. If single mothers would work to FIX these fucked up laws, instead of advocating NOT changing them, then they'd be one hell of alot more desireable.
Until then, there's always that chance of getting financially FUCKED for the next 18 years by some cunt whose kid isn't even mine.
jjrants 1 year ago
@Washanen07 that's all 10/10
MegaWhitemaster 1 year ago
@King100ZL You looking at the wrong black women b/ca I definitely love a good black man though I do admit that I have dated interracially and all my black friends feel the same. My husband is an incredible black man and we have 2 beautiful boys who will be black kings one day. I hate seeing black ppl on yt arguing over stuff like this; we are just validating ppl like megawhitemaster.
MsMig88 1 year ago
Why do you ppl assume that dating a single mother means you have to take care of the child like it's your own? These children already have fathers, why not be there for the mother? She needs love too. Some of you black men have children scattered and expect to be accepted so stop with the goddamn double standards.
MsMig88 1 year ago
your cute
mrnerville 1 year ago
what the hell are you talking about? you're another confuse black woman How old are you? already, you made bad decisoions.? You're going to have more kids in the future, i can already see it ..lol
TheLou28 1 year ago
@King100ZL white women:cook, clean, oral sex, better looking, easier to live with, less drama, no thug baby daddys on the side, less cheating, not that much thug loving,no babies at all except with there MAN(which would be you good bm), excersize, no out of wedlock children, not fat stanky, real natural hair, less attitude, treat you as a MAN
MegaWhitemaster 1 year ago
@MegaWhitemaster lmao primitive thinking...step outside the box
NuwaniDeNubianLadyIE 1 year ago
Usually not someone to post on topics like that, but it is almost a universal variable, that Men rather pick the single woman, than the single mom.
It takes a good chunk of character to accept a woman with other man's children.
And we all know that today is lacking good characters in men. Woman too.
"All of mankind is lacking these days", used my old professor to say.
On the other hand, getting ahead with 3 kids out of wedlock or security if you will, was careless, for lack of better words.
Myxale 1 year ago
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For me, dating a single woman is worse than driving a used car when you have the option of new. At least when you have a used car and drive it down the street no one knows it’s used. Second you’re not constantly reminded just how used it is by the previous owner.Third, when it breaks down its because you used it.
thedriver500 1 year ago
YOU TOO PRETTY TO BE SINGLE WITH THREE KIDS!!!!!
djgemini31 1 year ago
no clearly thinking men will ever meet girl who has kids
FindAllTruth 1 year ago
first of all why did ur voice crack @:22 lmfao!!! ok i think in the end it's the woman, if she knows how to be mature about the whole deal it will be alright, but if she puts too much pressure on the guy to fill the hole the first father left the relationship is doomed to fail.
KBoogs719 1 year ago
CONDOM 4$ GET SOME YEAH.
MRbossman1982 1 year ago
@Oneintelligentwoman good for you KEEP IT THAT WAY
deepblue330 1 year ago
@Oneintelligentwoman i have never lived off anyone but i have had many women try to do that to me i told them to go get a job or find the man that help them have that baby!!
deepblue330 1 year ago
@Washanen07 you are so right
deepblue330 1 year ago
I'm sorry that you have to deal with idiots that comment on your video. Most of these men cannot even type with proper English.
I agree that not all single black women are selfish. I agree that it should be ALL women. I respect you for simply not agreeing with his video and not bashing it like many others would.
I personally would never date a women with children but not because of me being afraid of being used. More for wanting to start my own family.
shaye1444 1 year ago 3
@Oneintelligentwoman
haaaaaaaaaa
a typical SINGLE BLACK BITCH ! LOL
who's d daddy , bitch ?
kunzy3000 1 year ago
Go find your babydaddy and leave me alone, single mothers are strictly booty calls
whitebitchnigga 1 year ago 3
You should report her because If she cheats on a Military guy. She should got to jail for treason.
aslitusoa 1 year ago
I can't do the step father thing for 1, I wanna be number 1 in her life. POINT BLANK. If any woman say's that it takes a real man to raise a child,before I agree with the female, I will say it takes a man to raise his own child but not no one elses. I think he would be a fool.
Koolregg1014 1 year ago 2
@Oneintelligentwoman Liar! Sistas seek out the most irresponsible men they can find and have babies with these clowns knowing full well they got a gang of kids already. Then somehow they magically want him to become responsible and take care of their child now that she's Baby Mama #6. So really, nobody wants a responsible man. Take that!
producer4real 1 year ago
@producer4real, yup responsible is boring to women. They don t want that apparently.
SLICENSLASH 1 year ago
Men, please listen to me! DO NOT DATE SINGLE MOTHERS!
HOODYWOODRECORDS 1 year ago 3
@HOODYWOODRECORDS why ? date for sex only :)
MegaWhitemaster 1 year ago
im a single black male with no kids and i say it depends on the woman and the kids
khepruuu 2 years ago
you're cute god'sgift, u can get any guy u want.
when we havent have kids already, "child-less men" usually dont want to be with someone already with kids cuz it seems like too much responsibility....probably doesnt matter much.
sfsTrader 2 years ago
YOU HAVE KIDS???????? did you think before having kids???????????? you look soo young to have 3 kids already, black women need to use their brain, Would you rather spend 2$ on condom or screw your life for ever??????????
Ahmed587326 2 years ago 17
Well to be honest I did think and my first child i was engaged to her father whom a marriage was promised to me soon and we plan to have a kid but the marriage never happened and i went throguh an emotional turmoil and idk i just kinda lost myself a lil and no after that i didnt think
GodsGift00104 2 years ago
@GodsGift00104 Use freaking birth control if you are going to be having sex. What do black women have against the pill. A guy who knocks you up is never going to marry you. I did my time in the army and we called those women who hang around the bases lounge lizards. Just want to get knocked up so they can get the pay from the army knowing the army will kick the guy out if he doesn't do the right thing. Which they should. Educated good black men don't black women with tons of babies. DUH!
pnd810 1 year ago
@GodsGift00104 But what i dont understand is why do yall have babies with the worst type of dudes. Yall black females dont have no common sense.
kambridge967 1 year ago
@GodsGift00104 be mindful of who you date because being ppl we have to be careful not to form soulties with ppl
trevanismith 1 year ago
@GodsGift00104 First child? Now your kids have different fathers? Wow whats the point in making this video? .. It kinda seems like you're contradicting yourself
markeithmm89 1 year ago
@GodsGift00104 Enaged isn't the same as being married. Why not get married then give it to him raw?
thinker900 1 year ago
@Ahmed587326 livin with a black girl only brings trouble but livin with a white girl will make a cute couple black girls dont cook nor clean or do dishes they favorite place is the salon and they hate bein in the kitchen,cheating,n ot loyal & wishy washy & always have other people kids!
MegaWhitemaster 1 year ago
I said it before on other videos. NO WAY JOSE', OR HELL NO Black men are not selfish in not dating a single mother. A man with no kids dealing with a single mother certainly cannot be #1 other than God Himself. Very very few Black men has made it work. Generally no it's doesn't work. Be like me single Black men and leave the single mother alone
21sttnmemphis 2 years ago 2
Wow those unmarried successful women on the ABC Special set off hell on the internet. Going on TV complaining about not being able to attract decent men. Men have married and taken care of less educated, but good women for a long time. But these days, women are upto the same nonsense as men
lemmieatit 2 years ago
LOL! hahaah your man is at the cracker barrel. Hurry up ! run to your WM LOL!
DIJV79 2 years ago
also no one wants to be dragged down just cause you got knocked up and left on your own point and case :|
HInataDIESYAY 2 years ago
black women fake like they are queens or something. but i have yet to see any race of men, fall in love in huge numbers for black women. yeah youre queens alright. 70% are singel right?do you not know what white men do to you guys. look at ghetto gaggers and all that other shit. a black woman is nothing to a white man but a fetish.once it is fulfilled hes back with his white wife. true true true oh how true that is.
enferno00 2 years ago 14