I came across this song by accident, it is so touching where i am in my life .. Asking to much at this point and time, i will forgive only in time , just not now .... These words written are taken from the very souls of those that have been done so wrong.... Thanks for this we need songs in our lives that touch us and make sence out of what we cant at the time....
Love Sarah's music. What a voice. We don't forgive others for their benefit, we do it for ours. Everyone needs grace as we struggle with our humanity. Give a little and you get a lot. Forgiveness is an on-going journey. In the end, we all must forgive each other for everything. That's the work for all of us!
This song SO speaks to where I'm at. I just left my abusive alcoholic husband, Yes it's very hard to forgive and yes I'm much better off without him. It's all very raw. I will eventually forgive, but I must never forget so that I don't fall for another 'loving lying enemy'
@mrscanadabear same happend to me i have now forgiven him but will never forgive what he put me through he has since passed away but i still wont forget never it will take time for you too and well done for getting out bfore it was to late have a good life
I went through something very similar, though I was VERY young when I did. He was very abusive, an in every way possible. And he loved his alcohol and drugs. I never married him, so I can only imagine how tough it must be for you. But it does get better. It's been three years since I finally got away from him, and everyday I get a little bit stronger. You will too. Remember the lessons you have learned, but also know that there ARE good men out there too.
If a person is gonna cheat on someone, someone they vowed to spend the rest of their lives with, along with the cheating comes the lies to cover the cheating. And the hurt a person feels inside because the person she thought loved her has gone outside the marriage for a relationship with someone else. Unless a person has gone through this they have no idea how hard it is on a person. When you give your heart and soul to someone and they do something to break it, sometimes it just can't be healed
It isn't so much about forgiveness.....sure we can forgive, can we forget.....I know I may not forgive, but I do not harbor any ill will either.....not worth the energy... :-)
No one knows what went on between Sarah and her husband, and I don't think any of us have any room or right to judge her. The best art often comes from a very emotionally raw place - that's what makes it so great. This song may have been written when her hurt was very new, and this song may have just been a vent and a release for her. No one but Sarah knows for sure. Music like this is great because it allows the listener to feel it, not just hear it. Judge not 'lest ye be judged.
I think this song is about her feelings dealing with her divorce. Divorce is hard for anyone. You gave your heart to someone and then they decide that they don't want to be with you anymore? When the wounds of divorce are fresh, forgiveness is a lot to ask for and it takes time.
its not a cold message really if you really listen and i am very sure knows what heaven is gonna be like. she is just saying that a guy had hurt her really bad and she doesnt know how to express it so she just put it in a song. it happened to me once. this guy was like a brother to me and he had hurt me and i didnt talk to him for like a month in a half and he finally said sorry so we are good now.
I am glad that there is a video with the lyrics for this song, but it is a shame that such a good melody must be paired with such a cold message. If these are her own words, then I fear that Sarah McLachlan doesn't know much about heaven if she doesn't know that forgiveness is a prerequisite for it.
@SilentFlame100 I agree with what @CharmedNijntje said. I feel this way about my mother. This song actually fits my relationship with her pretty well, "I remember your loving kiss... the evening lullabies I will truly miss... Don't believe when you tell me your love is real... every time I see you I can't help but look away..." - my mother abused me for years & kinda broke my heart & she might think she loves me but what is love? Actions speak louder than words. I can't forgive her, at least not
@CharmedNijntje@SilentFlame100 yet. Although she isn't asking for forgiveness, so obviously this song isn't perfect for our relationship. If she really would admit she was wrong and abused me and my brother and if she'd admit that my dad is a good guy for rescuing us from her, and if she really did ask me for her forgiveness, I might consider forgiving her. But right now I am better off without her and I don't feel she deserves my forgiveness. "And i don't care what people say/I'm ready now to
@CharmedNijntje@SilentFlame100 face this day/'cause I have lost you along the way" - that fits my relationship with her well too. ;) I am much better off without her, and it doesn't matter that some people who don't understand my situation feel that I should always honor my mother & father like the 10 Commandments say or that everyone deserves forgiveness or whatever. ;)
Of course this song is actually about a man who cheated on a woman (the singer) and that's okay, I get that. ;) Still. ;)
@luvtheheaven3 I agree. Besides you can't force yourself to forgive, you've got to mean it before you say you did. I hope it works out for you! And it doesn't matter what the singer ment with the song, you can interpret it the way you like, that's the beauty of music:)
I don't think she means it quite that way. Sometimes, when someone hurts you, you just have to walk away and not take any more of the hurt, rather than 'forgive and live with it'. God never wanted us to take abuse. It doesn't mean we don't forgive - we do, but not by staying and putting up with it.
@fiddlestar3 If abuse were the issue, then I would agree; I do believe that there are times when that is the only way one can forgive. In this instance I'm afraid it doesn't sound to me like abuse, however. The man is directly asking for forgiveness yet she refuses to forgive him. I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt, but it doesn't appear to me that there is room for it here.
I do appreciate your comment, however; I do think you have the right view on forgiveness.
@SilentFlame100 So what do you do when the person your married to chooses to go out and cheat on you with someone else and then comes home and starts lieing to you about this and that and everything else? Do you take them back like nothing ever happened? I don't think so. Do you think if you do that person won't cheat on you again? Of course they will. So you leave them and get on with your life without them in it. If I can't trust a person, I don't want them around.
@SilentFlame100 The fact that it's such a good melody paired with the message is part of it. The message is that now she sees through the lies and she's healing after what he has done. She's moving on, and realizes that he never will. When she says "you don't know much about heaven" what's she saying is that he promised her heaven, but he can't give it to her because ha has to hurt to feel. Listen to the true message, not the literal. ;)
deep, tears here.
Izzycuddles09 1 month ago
I came across this song by accident, it is so touching where i am in my life .. Asking to much at this point and time, i will forgive only in time , just not now .... These words written are taken from the very souls of those that have been done so wrong.... Thanks for this we need songs in our lives that touch us and make sence out of what we cant at the time....
mamad1997 1 month ago
Still look ssuspiciously GAY, Jackson...
BillyJimOMFG 2 months ago
Love Sarah's music. What a voice. We don't forgive others for their benefit, we do it for ours. Everyone needs grace as we struggle with our humanity. Give a little and you get a lot. Forgiveness is an on-going journey. In the end, we all must forgive each other for everything. That's the work for all of us!
MillicentStClaire 4 months ago
Wonderful song.....
inousch 6 months ago
This song SO speaks to where I'm at. I just left my abusive alcoholic husband, Yes it's very hard to forgive and yes I'm much better off without him. It's all very raw. I will eventually forgive, but I must never forget so that I don't fall for another 'loving lying enemy'
mrscanadabear 7 months ago 19
@mrscanadabear indeed keep your eyes open!
CharmedNijntje 7 months ago
@mrscanadabear you did what was right :) I hope you get 100% better so you can try and live life to its fullest. :)
CeaseFireOne 6 months ago
@mrscanadabear Congratulation. I'm happy for you. There are people i know who can never do that.
sinvang 5 months ago
@mrscanadabear same happend to me i have now forgiven him but will never forgive what he put me through he has since passed away but i still wont forget never it will take time for you too and well done for getting out bfore it was to late have a good life
MegaCatlady66 5 months ago
@mrscanadabear
I went through something very similar, though I was VERY young when I did. He was very abusive, an in every way possible. And he loved his alcohol and drugs. I never married him, so I can only imagine how tough it must be for you. But it does get better. It's been three years since I finally got away from him, and everyday I get a little bit stronger. You will too. Remember the lessons you have learned, but also know that there ARE good men out there too.
Midg3tR3r3 4 months ago
@mrscanadabear Eventually. Same here. Eventually is a LONG LONG ways off. Peace, my friend.
DesperateHW 1 month ago
@mrscanadabear
Been there...forgave and now I am free. Keep your eye on the sparrow!
greeniis1 1 month ago
@mrscanadabear I,m grad you were able to get out.more women need to get out of abusive relationships.
Izzycuddles09 1 month ago
forgive but never forget is wat i have been told BUT i would never forgive someone just like that especially when they treat me so bad
shojogirl93 9 months ago
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Mireela89 11 months ago
If a person is gonna cheat on someone, someone they vowed to spend the rest of their lives with, along with the cheating comes the lies to cover the cheating. And the hurt a person feels inside because the person she thought loved her has gone outside the marriage for a relationship with someone else. Unless a person has gone through this they have no idea how hard it is on a person. When you give your heart and soul to someone and they do something to break it, sometimes it just can't be healed
MrSlammeddown 1 year ago
It isn't so much about forgiveness.....sure we can forgive, can we forget.....I know I may not forgive, but I do not harbor any ill will either.....not worth the energy... :-)
MizerableTeez 1 year ago
No one knows what went on between Sarah and her husband, and I don't think any of us have any room or right to judge her. The best art often comes from a very emotionally raw place - that's what makes it so great. This song may have been written when her hurt was very new, and this song may have just been a vent and a release for her. No one but Sarah knows for sure. Music like this is great because it allows the listener to feel it, not just hear it. Judge not 'lest ye be judged.
JoselynsMom 1 year ago 24
I love this song, i loved seeing her on life unexpected singing it.
mhuskey1984 1 year ago 4
I think this song is about her feelings dealing with her divorce. Divorce is hard for anyone. You gave your heart to someone and then they decide that they don't want to be with you anymore? When the wounds of divorce are fresh, forgiveness is a lot to ask for and it takes time.
SweetAmaretta 1 year ago
omg sarah is an awsome singer
abrett1000 1 year ago
its not a cold message really if you really listen and i am very sure knows what heaven is gonna be like. she is just saying that a guy had hurt her really bad and she doesnt know how to express it so she just put it in a song. it happened to me once. this guy was like a brother to me and he had hurt me and i didnt talk to him for like a month in a half and he finally said sorry so we are good now.
tjblover001 1 year ago
I seriously love Sarah McLachlan. I agree that it's a cold message, but it's just an amaaaazing song.
spiralizes 1 year ago
I am glad that there is a video with the lyrics for this song, but it is a shame that such a good melody must be paired with such a cold message. If these are her own words, then I fear that Sarah McLachlan doesn't know much about heaven if she doesn't know that forgiveness is a prerequisite for it.
SilentFlame100 1 year ago
@SilentFlame100 I disagree. Sometimes your so hurt by someone it's realy hard to forgive. Sometimes your just better of without some people
CharmedNijntje 1 year ago 37
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luvtheheaven3 1 year ago
@SilentFlame100 I agree with what @CharmedNijntje said. I feel this way about my mother. This song actually fits my relationship with her pretty well, "I remember your loving kiss... the evening lullabies I will truly miss... Don't believe when you tell me your love is real... every time I see you I can't help but look away..." - my mother abused me for years & kinda broke my heart & she might think she loves me but what is love? Actions speak louder than words. I can't forgive her, at least not
luvtheheaven3 1 year ago
@CharmedNijntje @SilentFlame100 yet. Although she isn't asking for forgiveness, so obviously this song isn't perfect for our relationship. If she really would admit she was wrong and abused me and my brother and if she'd admit that my dad is a good guy for rescuing us from her, and if she really did ask me for her forgiveness, I might consider forgiving her. But right now I am better off without her and I don't feel she deserves my forgiveness. "And i don't care what people say/I'm ready now to
luvtheheaven3 1 year ago
@CharmedNijntje @SilentFlame100 face this day/'cause I have lost you along the way" - that fits my relationship with her well too. ;) I am much better off without her, and it doesn't matter that some people who don't understand my situation feel that I should always honor my mother & father like the 10 Commandments say or that everyone deserves forgiveness or whatever. ;)
Of course this song is actually about a man who cheated on a woman (the singer) and that's okay, I get that. ;) Still. ;)
luvtheheaven3 1 year ago
@luvtheheaven3 I agree. Besides you can't force yourself to forgive, you've got to mean it before you say you did. I hope it works out for you! And it doesn't matter what the singer ment with the song, you can interpret it the way you like, that's the beauty of music:)
CharmedNijntje 1 year ago 7
@SilentFlame100
I don't think she means it quite that way. Sometimes, when someone hurts you, you just have to walk away and not take any more of the hurt, rather than 'forgive and live with it'. God never wanted us to take abuse. It doesn't mean we don't forgive - we do, but not by staying and putting up with it.
fiddlestar3 1 year ago 2
@fiddlestar3 If abuse were the issue, then I would agree; I do believe that there are times when that is the only way one can forgive. In this instance I'm afraid it doesn't sound to me like abuse, however. The man is directly asking for forgiveness yet she refuses to forgive him. I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt, but it doesn't appear to me that there is room for it here.
I do appreciate your comment, however; I do think you have the right view on forgiveness.
SilentFlame100 1 year ago
@SilentFlame100 So what do you do when the person your married to chooses to go out and cheat on you with someone else and then comes home and starts lieing to you about this and that and everything else? Do you take them back like nothing ever happened? I don't think so. Do you think if you do that person won't cheat on you again? Of course they will. So you leave them and get on with your life without them in it. If I can't trust a person, I don't want them around.
MrSlammeddown 9 months ago
@SilentFlame100 Sarah Mclachlan is an atheist, she doesn't believe in heaven or god
zeesta13 7 months ago
@SilentFlame100 The fact that it's such a good melody paired with the message is part of it. The message is that now she sees through the lies and she's healing after what he has done. She's moving on, and realizes that he never will. When she says "you don't know much about heaven" what's she saying is that he promised her heaven, but he can't give it to her because ha has to hurt to feel. Listen to the true message, not the literal. ;)
Lokhai 2 months ago