TCK Gets Real - Losing Your Friends Part III

[nikiichan]

I respect you so much for posting this. I was just feeling really lonely and I was trying to write out all those feelings that were sorta mixed up inside. That would help to I guess feel better. Its hard to tell people when they do not understand or do not really care. If they listen it causes pity and no one wants that it does not help in anyway. Being a TCK myself I understand.

thanks and Take care :)

[kr15t1n0]

Soulofbass, that was so moving! Thanks for sharing that.  At the end I was crying with you. I'm an adult Third Culture Kid and I mourn for my relationships- the friends I had to leave, and the friends I never opened up to, or shared a piece of my soul, because I was terrified of losing them too, and losing that piece of my soul.

[diariesoftheradar]

Thanks for this. Our family moved back and forth between India and England and Norway every 6-12 months. The longest time in India was a 2 year stretch, but mostly 6 months, then back to England or Norway, then back to India.... Absolutely insanely confusing as a kid. Made friends and lost them all my life. Best friends who years later almost couldnt speak to anymore... people I didnt get along with before suddenly becoming very close friends.. made new ones, lost some.....

life is about change

[soulofbass]

you're welcome and thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[koolkg]

Dude, I don't know you, but I feel like part of my life was yours. I haven't made as many moves as you, but I've said a few goodbyes after living in 7 countries. I'm with you on the tragedy of having really good friends relegated to a facebook photo. Thanks for being brutally honest and making your thoughts available to whomever could benefit from them. You eloquently voiced emotions I haven't known how to express that have been pushed aside. Thanks. May God give you a true life friend.

[lishkeemamma]

i'll reply to this (cuz your mum and dad posted it!) on fb so you can see my picture, then you might remember me! :)

[lishkeemamma]

Thanks for sharing your heart and soul with us - I knew you as a young boy, and always felt your distance ( i babysat Joel when you were in TO in the late 90's). I didn't know how to reach you, but this explains why you were hard to reach. Thank God you had the friends you did, when you did! I've been to many different schools, moved a bit, and lost friends too, as life brings you to diff't places. It's a difficult part of life. Thanks again for sharing! You have a precious heart!

[soulofbass]

you're welcome and thank you for the comment (trying to remember who this might be).

[arrowsk8rman20]

im cant really relate to this but thanks a lot for doing this man, i mean ive already appreciated wat ive had but these 3 videos just made it that much better, thanks man, and good luck with life

[soulofbass]

thank you and good luck to you too

[bradinthedesert]

Wanted to watch all three before I commented. Dude. Wow.

First off, I admire your honesty, and your courage for talking so openly. I wish I had the guts to make a video like this.

I'm not a TCK, just an american gypsy. No contact with any of my old friends. Too many moves. Too many goodbyes. Life is fluid, and home is where I am. It's... solitary, but it makes you strong, and dude, you've got strength.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts man, you rock.

[soulofbass]

you're welcome!

[TheGreatGeekZ]

the ammount of emotion you made the audience feel is simply impressive.

Im not a TCK persay, but i have never lived in a single town for more than a year, in 16 years, ive lived in every US state, and tiawan for 3 months.

I know what its like to leave people behind.

So go on, and keep kicking musics ass

[soulofbass]

that is amazing and that must also be quite tough. thanks for the comment :)

[asmermer]

thanks for sharing ur vids soulofbass, I am a TCK/CCK too, I know very well what you mean. do you know brice royer? if you don't already, you should!

on a small technical note: there's a lot of background noise on ur vid, it makes it hard to listen to.

thanx again!

[Prismatic19]

my parents are moving to mexico....now they will be my skype parents hmmmmm

[soulofbass]

wow is that so? how does that make you feel?

[Prismatic19]

well i am slightly ambivalent. i dont think it will set in until they are gone. My family is actually my friends. I have 4-5 best friend for over a decade. I just realized over christmas how lucky i am. I wrote them a long note expressing my gratitude towards them and how special they are to me.

[Prismatic19]

but at the same time i have an adventurous soul. i plan on leaving next year to new york or la....it scares me to loose them. but i am at home where ever i may be. i hope to start traveling soon but to leave them behind will be the hardest thing. they are my true family.

[benzone50]

very cool, thanks for sharing. i like how you are chasing your dream.

asking questions, that take on opinions & end up challenging beliefs. interesting!

[soulofbass]

thank you, i am chasing away and chasing is part of the dream too, the process is also important i think.

[mtirby60]

it' s incredibly hard (at least it is/was for me) to deal with that lesson of losing contact with friends and not having anything in common w/ them. I'd say everyone goes through this (not just TCKs), but (especially) TCKs seem to experience it more abrubtly.

it was hard not knowing what was going on and being able to explain things while they were happening... but they say, "hindsight is 20/20" .

nice video, thanks for sharing :)

later!

[soulofbass]

i was thinking that as well, how even if you have a best friend over time that relationship might come to an end just because of the inevitable changes you will go through. but not having the chance to see it through leaves questions of what might have been...

[soulofbass]

thank you for your kind words, FB is fantastic for what it is and am glad to have it

[reneewalker1]

THIS IS A REPOST as I was a little dyslexic and screwed up the abrv. for Third Culture Kids! hahaha!

"Hugs to a fellow TCK and World Vagabond!

But, I think FB is surely, better than nothin´@all! So, heehee! don´t knock the friends in little squares! LOL! Of course, I DO know, exactly...what you mean, though!

hearts & flowers "

[jeremyfrancis]

you're insight on how answering questions can affect one's own beliefs is very true. i am always testing myself to be as unbiased as possible. always arguing my own points in order to realize that there never is a right answer to anything. it's a difficult task because it's so easy to make labels and to create division. anyways, i didn't know you were a tck. but that just makes you that much more interesting to me. nice vlog, man!

[soulofbass]

thanks for chiming in man, always appreciate it. thats really cool that you try to avoid being biased about things. cheers!

[Kaiserks3338]

i felt sorry for you...if i live in Bangkok i would love to be your best friend ...

[soulofbass]

no need to feel sorry for me :) thats life... gotta make the best of it