Adult Adhd
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  • Well said! You and your sister are obviously in some great company...reading these comments. Kudos to all who have suffered and endured the emotional dumpster fire of ADHD! I was diagnosed when I was 14...I am 36 now. I have only been medicated for the past 5 years, but that medication has given those dozen or so race cars in my brain some brakes and some little drivers. Giving me some control of my own thoughts has been so nice! Still have my moment, but it's so much better. Hope you are too!

  • thanks for the video, stay strong!!.... but hey, it could be worse, you could be ugly.... :)

  • @HeidiJoanne34 Your video has touched me very, very much, and I cannot describe in words how much I admire and look up to you for having the courage to express yourself so deeply and genuinely from the heart.

    The authenticity of character is so powerful that it moved me to tears. Thank you so much for uploading this. It's the best video I've seen in a very long time...

  • I know how you feel so much, I have just found out I have adhd. I hope you feel better now.

  • I have been diagnosed with adhd today. Loved this video - please make more! :)

    I was initially incorrectly diagnosed with bipolar.

    It's (selfishly) comforting to see someone else my age that has struggled to find out what the hell was making her life so distressing. Finally I have a diagnosis that fits like a glove. I'm certainly not 'happy' that I have it, but it feels good to be understood. Nervous about having to go through the trial and error process for meds though. :-/

  • Hello Heidi. You are not alone. I am 46 and was diagnosed with adhd just over a year ago. I always thought I was just stupid, along with a lot of emotional issues...etc. My friend recognized I had adhd so I googled it and I had just about every symptom. I am now on ritalin and prozac and I am doing better. I still have my days, but my adhd is much more managable.

  • good post. i hope everything is working out for you

  • Hay I am 31 and I have ADD. I know how your feel. I have been on medication for a long time and at first it can feel like the best thing in the world but be aware that you may get some of the side effects and need to change medication. I have had problems with some medications making me zombi like, very very nervous. But I am 100 better on meds than off. I have found that if I till people I have it they use it against me, in very silly ways. so don't. some doctors do not believe in it.

  • @MsSpencerinfrance some doctors do not believe in it either and the general reaction to all the local doctors I have is lets get you off these meds ASAP you are a grown up now and do not need them. Believe me I have tried and I know many adults with ADD that do not use meds but I do and I need them to so what I do.

  • So just curious gonna shoot this question at you see if it will put my mind at ease. So i'm extremely impulsive , constantly moving, partially reclusive. But the this biggest issue i find to overcome is when im in social situations and people get too close or ask me personal questions out of the blue or in the middle of a conversation it's like an alarm goes off in my head, i even get embarrassed and get all red in the face. All my co-workers look at me funny , even my friends seem to shun me.

  • Thank you for posting this, it is very brave. There's plenty of reasons why a person might miss out on being diagnosed with "AD/HD" as a child. Your sister shouldn't believe that fool of a doctor, and seek a second opinion.

  • You lost me at 3 secs.

    Maybe plan ahead & even do a 2nd take.

  • don't over emphasize the fact that you got diagnosed with ADD because doing so can cause you to give up on trying to get better which you have been trying to do day and night for years ... Take that diagnosis as an extra piece of information to keep in mind, and stay in the here and now, meditate... read 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle....

    I usually dont post any comments on videos on here but this time i felt like i should.... good luck

  • damn your hot!!! im a 27 add lets get together. i got money too!!

  • Hi every body. Its been a year since I started meds and it has been the best year of my life. Going to get diagnosed the best thing i have done in my life. I can't even think of the second best. ADD is not a disorder its how you are compared to the population norm. We are very sensitive to stimulii in many ways which makes life hard but also can give us vision that others will never have. Meds don't cure you they change a set point to make you work better in society. Happy new year everybody.

  • I totally understand and its crazy and hard. People really need to try understand. You cant imgine how hard it is. Dont be so heartless. You cant take care of your family. You dont have friends . Cant keep a job and inside you really to. Who wants to be alone and fail at everything.

  • dude you are weird O_o. i think taking drugs will make you worse.....

  • Can;t seem to cut it in the real world. Caqn tell people think I am wierd or something. Can't seem to be a success at anything that really counts. Too easy to stress at work. Often I would just like to die quietly. I know people with no imagination, who I am sure are less intelligent than me. They are often successful, and not looked on as strange. I cannot make it work,God forgive me, I have been a failure. I am just not going to make it. I don't want to die a loser. There's just no way to win.

  • I've always had reading comprehension problems while in grade school. Is that one of the indications that I may have ADHD?

  • Thank you. I was diagnosed about a month ago, I am 33. I lived my entire life feeling weird, and awkwardly out of place. All my life, people told me how brillant I was, how creative I was..how lazy I was..how come I cound´t finish stuff, when I was obviously more inteligent that the rest.I have fight my whole life to just don´t get adicted to whatever stuff I liked, and to act like I care when i didn´t. The day I knew about my add was a shock. To knew this was a disorder and not my true self.

  • what you mean thier goes your ADD again (im 19) i flick my hair a lot i thought it was a habit :/ best of luck and i hope you can settle into ADD think i may have it tbh :/ but dont know whether to get diagnoised, take care x x

  • Fascinating...watching folk like you on YT...was diagnosed today...I channel the things through Obsessions..covereing every Beatles song there ever was and every UK top 3 of the 60s...keep a sketch book/visual diary since 1992..they say I've been self administrating the psycological stuff myself and have coped through this groove...shrinks (2 of them) we're deffo I'm there...very interesting..thanks for the vid.

    Danny

  • Good for you girl!

  • Dam you're cute!!!

  • Just curious is this a real disorder?

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  • I would like to know how do u get this ? Is it the cause of drugs?

  • i want to be able to make decisions and move foreward and although i try to get organized and make progress i continue to waste my days wondering why i couldnt do this or that right it really sucks.

  • I have been on prozac for the last 10 years because I have depression. I am beginning to suspect that I have ADHD which may have caused my depression in the first place. I dropped out of college 3 times before finally graduating at the ripe age of 30. I have no friends. I had a GF who seems to have broken up with me because I cant keep commitments. Right now I am in a foreign country going to graduate school scared as shit coz I dont wanna screw up this opportunity. ADHD is hell....

  • i don't know if i have adhd or i'm just lazy.

  • What happened to your sister was awful. I'm a student in psychology and want to become a psychotherapist who works with autistics, ADHD and LD's. I myself have inattentive ADHD and have never been medicated. I'm thinking maybe I need to be to do better in school. And i'm quite shy as well. I think we are different from the neurotypicals and ought to be understood. I don't even know if my close friends understand what it's like to be me. My family is also riddled with it.

  • First of all ur so charming that I can't stop watching ur video. Quick very very important tips for people with ADHD: 1)avoid Gluten (amino acid "google it") 2)avoid white sugar or at least regulate your Glucose consumption 3) not try or it's good to... no...YOU HAVE TO EXERCISE... peace

  • Are you married? Will you marry me? Sorry sorry. You are so beautiful. I like your eyes! Sorry. Great video!

  • I found this doing some research on adult ADD. I am sorry to see her so sad! I have tried a bunch of different meds but am not a fan of stims. Been on Straterra for 5 weeks and will give it a few more, so far only side effects nothing beneficial. On a lighter note, this woman is gorgeous =)

  • I can understand very much how you feel after being diagnosed (still its 2 years ago ;) ) I'm 30 years old now and i feel exactly the same as you. They don't understand how it is to have a fucking disco in your head 24/7 each day. I hope you do well at the moment seeing as some time has passed, it is even harder as an adult since people think of Children when talking about Adhd, all the best to you...

  • ( sorry YouTube did not show my whole post again ).. Because of that most of us fall in a deep depression. So Find a good doctor, get medicated, understand your weaknesses and carefully write down a plan to work on it or actually attack it, then fasten your seatbelt and take off. And have a nice trip in life. :)

  • ( sorry YouTube did not write my whole post ). So, the main thing is to understand your strengths and weaknesses. Analyze yourself carefully and work on your weaknesses. You have to understand ADHD is not psychiatric thing, it's a neurological syndrome that most if not all geniuses and successful people have (ex: Bill Clinton). The problem with ADHD that we can seem extremely kind or naive but once we reach a certain age, we face the ugliness of life sometime. Because of that most of us fall in

  • Hi, I'm Louise, 16 years old.

    I think I might have ADD, I struggle a lot at school to remember things and paying attention, I sometimes answer to a question before the person have finished. most people think i'm retarded, but i know i'm not!

    I feel like i'm not always aware that i exist... you'd have to be me to understand that... or to be like me.. you know.. I like your video very much!

  • Could you answer a question?

    Do the medication work well? In the video you said that you are more aware of things, is it because of the medication? :)

    I'm sorry if my English isn't so good, I'm from Sweden!

  • Please read carefully. I'm from saudi arabia and studied in USA and I felt so connected to the american mentality, that's why I'm trying to help. I have ADHD myself and been doing lots and lots of reading. The only person in the universe who can help you is YOU. Feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help. You have to be stronger then life to survive. Basically YOU HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE. I know you can, because people who have ADHD are both intelligent and strong IF THEY UNDERSTAND THEIR OWN

  • You are brave to put up this video. I admire and respect you for that. Thank you

  • I think you got the most valuable points, but you need to bring up that ADD/ADHD isn't just all bad! We got the ability to associate like really fast and really abstract. I think alot of inventors had a form of ADD, I believe DaVinci was one.

    I mean, this is just a small part of the good things that ADD brings.

    But I really agree on the fact that ADD is almost invisible.

    I can tell you this, NO ONE of my friends believed that I had a disorder like that.

    Not my parents either. Guess what? I did.

  • I so get what your going through and have gone through. Especially as a woman, we aren't seen. The frustration, and the loneliness and the difficulty in getting proper treatment once you know.

    I am from the UK and there is zip for us as adults all it is for me is a daily fight.

    The system for dealing with it is a joke. I thank you for your video as more women need to be seen.

  • Thanks for the video, I'm glad you're finding peace. I'm still looking.

  • Hi,I was diagnosed with adult adhd recently.the first dr.i seen said the same thing "if i was not diagnosed as a child that it probably was not adhd,but if a person has had it all their life it becomes their normal ,that is all they know,it sucks always getting distracted ,never finishing things and usually a cluttered mess around.Anyway meds do help,your sister should try a different dr. and by the way you are stunningly beautiful, good luck

  • I am currently teaching myself java code so, that I may make my own custom software. When I am on my computer learning, it is the one time out of the day that my mind is on task. I had recently started taking Strattera and found it to help some, but due to it's high price and my crappy insurance I have had to quit.

  • Great job bringing awareness. I am 29 and recently diagnosed. Most of my life I thought there was something wrong with me. I was always regarded as a smart child and teen who just never applied myself. My teachers were constantly on me to put more effort into school. I always had a problem paying attention in class with my mind wandering elsewhere. I even had this problem in college. I do tend to hyper focus on certain things such as modding Android smartphones.

  • WOW She looks alot like Jodie Foster!!! She should try and go into Movie Acting! She might have a future with her fabulous looks!

  • my parents dissagree with my disorder and say i'm fine. but i still feel obligated to be tested. what should i do?

  • @trackohbeast

    Although I'm sure your parents love you and only want the best for you, they are not you. I feel you should do what makes you feel good, and if your experiencing negative life affects perhaps this is the problem so I don't see how it could hurt to at least get tested and go from there......best of luck!

  • @HeidiJoanne34 Dear HeidiJoanne34, After 30 years of 58, I as well am similarly challenged.

    But here is a key. The more you name it and out the shape and form the less places it can hide.

    You have made and lit a torch of clarity and understanding for yourself and others from your tenacious

    inner vision. Well done. Light always outs dark and now the path for the journey is no longer murky but illuminated by your design. Pass the matches wouldja.????? With ya girl.!!! Eyes to the sky....Chris

  • @HeidiJoanne34 Getting tested for what life dishes out, and what the individual's personality delivers? This is the downside of the reductive approach to pathologizing everyday life. There are those who turn to literature to find answers to problems in living and social conflict, while others turn to god or gods. Then, there are those who turn to the inscrutable nature of psychiatric mysticism.

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  • @HeidiJoanne34 I suggest you visit WWWdotLuminositydotCOM web site.There you will find cognitive excercises that train brain regions associated with attention and impulse control.In this way you will get rid of ADHD once and for all.And I also advise you to avoid alcohol and have plenty of sleep because alcohol and sleep deprivation only worsen ADHD.

  • @trackohbeast

    I always get annoyed by people with AD(h)D boo hooing about having the abilities that they have. It's almost like someone with photographic memory complaining about how remembering every detail is terrible. The issue isn't that ADD, or more Appropriately, HAC (Hyper Associative Cognition ) is a disorder, but rather it's that those with it can not, or will not, accept the fact that they are different. Those who embrace it are geniuses, while those who hide from it have disorders.

  • @trackohbeast I always get annoyed by people with AD(h)D boo hooing about having the abilities that they have. It's almost like someone with photographic memory complaining about how remembering every detail is terrible. The issue isn't that ADD, or more Appropriately, HAC (Hyper Associative Cognition ) is a disorder, but rather it's that those with it can not, or will not, accept the fact that they are different. Those who embrace it are geniuses, while those who hide from it are disordered.

  • @trackohbeast I thought i had ADD, went to the doctor, got tested positive... on medication now and i feel better. A lot better.

  • @trackohbeast try this one, it made me decide to see my doctor ;)

    psychcentra and choose quizzes and then Adult ADD Screening Test (i did mine in dutch btw)

  • @trackohbeast

    your parents are both stupid!

  • @trackohbeast Of course you are fine- to them you are perfect. Don't worry I have had the same experience with my parents. There is also a potential guilt feeling for not doing best for you which is stupid but parents do that. Trying to convince anybody about having ADD is tough. The only person who thought me going to a doctor was good was one friend who is the most positive and successful person I know. Why? Because that's what he would do - act on a problem .

  • cont'd... people drink alcohol because they are low on sugar because the adrenals regulate blood/ sugar glucose levels. people drink alcohol because that is what there body is telling them to do NOT because they are emotionally weak. its not ur fault!!!! u are a beautiful, beautiful woman. doctors have failed u! read about dr james wilson. ur problems may come down to lacking one very fundamental hormone. thanks for listening!

  • cont'd.... i was on medication for adhd, acid reflux, nasal polyps, back problems, and bad asthma, and everything came down to one hormone my body was not producing enough of.. cortisol. my adrenal glands were under constant stress and became fatigued and didn't produce enough of this natural hormone.

  • hello Heidi. this is my 3rd time i have commented on ur video, i don't mean to see like such a stalker hahaha. but i feel an obligation to share my research with u. the vulnerabilty of ur video really touched a nerve, you are a beautifully articulate human being who is needlessly sufferring. let me say again,you are the female version of me! please, please, please look into adrenal fatigue. the symptoms may surprise you. some people are born with weak adrenal glands.

  • ...i feel so hard to accpet this..but i dont know i have add...your really strong..

  • I commend you for your Courage !!!

    Peace & Blessings !

  • Thanks for this video. I decided to get online and look up videos about ADHD because i have been curios wether i got adhd or not. Thank you for this video it backed up what i thought about me having adhd but no one ever explained it and i kno exactly how they feel.

  • Hey girl just ran in to your video.... Your not alone ..... Iv had it when i was a child Im 36 now and not taking any pills because of money cost .. But Im also diabetic had a stroke and heart attack last year...and to top it off i have inziaty attacks and have to take prozac and zanex Can't go back to work and trying to do the school thing but hard to do with my add.. Would like to know how u handle it more .. Im on Facebook tuggy@charter.net

  • Hi Heidi,

    I also have adhd, i'm 23 years now, they diagnosed adhd at my 17 Years.

    I took ritalin , but i couldn't eat and sleep good, and felt really depressed, i don't take it anymore. But i want to say, stay srong, i know it isn't easy to live with it.

    I had drug problems, i survived 4 coma's . Now i am clean for about 1 and a half years. I feel lot of the time lonely, even when they are friends and family around me. But i know there lot of people with adhd, who live a happy life.

    Grts Belgium

  • but.........the worst part of having adhd is when ppl hurts you, you get sort of tre to ten times as hurt psykisk in youre mind,and it dont have to be something big ether,and it goes and tormenting youre mind ,tepending on how mutch it hurts,but it helps to talk to other ppl,that understand you to get it of youre back,so iff u feel like sending mgs to me,i would be happy to support you d(n_n)b

  • thx 4 sharing youre feelings and emotions,i got adhd and i really know what you are going through,and i know its not easy,belive me,but it can also be a gift having adhd if u put all of youre imagenation into and advantage,and use it for good it can be good,but.........to be continue =>

  • Heidi, here's something. The world is a mean and cruel place but there is nothing that you cant conquer in this world. The first step is that you have to believe in yourself. I didn't know I had ADHD until I confirmed that I had most of the systems. I fought it overtime. And I did it through developing control over mind and body. I did it through descipline, yoga, and martial arts, among other things. So go find yourself. There's always light at the end of the tunnel.

  • My thanks to you Heidi for your video. Since I was recently diagnosed AD/HD (Inattentive type), I've been able to finally "find myself"; that is, make sense of my life and myself. I take medication for it, which I don't tolerate very well but nevertheless do best over all being on it. Anyway, I appreciated your video as it gave me a glimpse that I'm not the only case of AD/HD who finds this condition makes life difficult in ways beyond what the bare clinical description of AD/HD would suggest.

  • Hang in there. I just found out that I have adult ADD. I completely empathize with you. Many people don't believe it exists at all including some doctors. I have done a great deal of research and am sold by the fact that we have so many things in common it can't possibly be a coincidence. It's just a relief to know you have it. To know the cause. It has ravaged my life but what of it? That is in the past. There are of lot of things you can do to remedy the symptoms. See a good doctor. Chin Up!

  • Just DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE and do not be embarassed or ashamed if you are suffering inside, because it will eventually ruin your life on the outside. There is hope for all of us, & his serious condition of ADD- inattentive or ADHD- hyperactive is crucial to treat for the well being of your life. It should be understood a lot more, but the brain is soo complicated. Just be thankful you CAN do something about it bc it can torment you after years. Like she said, many won't understand. THANK YOU <3

  • And now tonight I am getting on a plane to go someplace that will help me treat my alcoholism and get me on the proper medication for my ADHD, which was just diagnosed earlier this year at 23. I am feeling hopeless, my boyfriend finally kicked me out bc I have no life anymore and no motivation to make one. But it's the best thing that could have happened BC I am finally doing something about my sickness. I know its SO HARD to find the right drs and sometimes family will never undestand...

  • Thank you SO MUCH.... this is an answer to a prayer to come across. I am SO frustrated that this disorder is not acknowledged more often. :( I have had problems my entire life, in and out of psyc visits, even hospitalized. I became the black sheep of my entire family, . I use to be SO PROUD of my creativity, w/ time my quirkiness was no longer "cute" and just rejected. Now I have such low self esteem, I don't even recognize myself anymore. I've quit college, quit my job, had eating dis....

  • We certainly are a pretty lot with ADHD :) 34 wow and i though i looked good at 33! lol

  • ive been the same path as you :( it not very nice but it makes us stronger

  • top respect for doing this, i feel for you i really

  • sorry about crappy people that put you down . (but welcom to the club )and your not a lone dont worry it will be ok

  • @virtualmark theres no such expression as 'shoving it down your face'. from my perspective it looks like a defensive ignorant jackass who wants sympathy because his daddy thought he was a sissy growing up and called him slurs like fa**ot and cant slow down and proof read to make sure he's reading this right.

  • @virtualmark im shoving your words in your face. its called sarcasm.

  • @virtualmark You have no idea what i am saying because your symptoms are kicking in. See, the thing about me is that im not focus-retarded like you, so i actually know how to interpret what is being said to me, you on the other hand will read everything i say and continuously explain your disorder to me because, if i have a problem with something someone with ADHD says then it must be because they have ADHD. Also i should mention that im racist because i have criticised black people before too.

  • Why don't you just start a meditation regimen? By meditating daily, you'll be off all meds in no time, and you'll eventually not even "need" to meditate anymore.

    Neuroscience shows that the brain is "plastic": so ultimately ADHD can be temporary, and you'll go through the rest of your life without any mental problems whatsoever.

  • are you single? im gonna start my medication tomorrow so i kinda didnt pay attention at all :)

  • i feel the same way too

    :)

  • Oh and if you dont mind me asking, what drugs did they put you on?

  • Hey I just made a new ADHD video, I am also 33. Every doctor in the world has said that I have an extreme case of ADHD, I want you to watch my video please, I know it will sound crazy at 1st, but please watch the follow up videos and how to correct it without drugs, even though I make drugs.

  • I love this woman.

  • i have ADHD, anxiety and depression. People call me weird, loud and stupid. No Meds!!! Don't take meds. They damage the kidneys. And then totally go on dialysis. It's way better to have ADHD than to take meds that explode your kidneys. Sorry you feel like shit. Get better. You take care, HeidiJoanne34. You are not your diagnosis. God loves YOU!!!!!!

  • If you don't mind me asking...what meds are you on and are they helping you? I've been winging all of my life with ADD without meds. "Fake it till you make it" is my motto. Instead of someone thinking that I may be an airhead at times, I instead joke, laugh, flirt, whatever I have to do to mask the struggle of conversation, instruction, concentration, etc. Quite frankly, ADD sucks and I wish I didn't have it....

  • @jebby16 Hi - I don't know if you are asking me but I will answer anyway. I take immediate release dexamphetamine . Stimulants tend to be less effective for inattentive adhd but they work for me in a big way. I like the immediate release cause you can more easily vary dosage to a degree. I am a pharmacist and wouldn't take a med if it wasn't necessary. If a med makes you feel worse - stop takin it- simple. Does not mean others will have the same effect . Beware of uneducated clowns

  • hi - I posted 3 months ago and have now been of med for 5 months. For me I need it . If others can get by without meds thats awesome I wish i could . Last night I made a list of improvements in my life and I got to ten. Most important one is that I am happier. One thing I have learnt though is meds aren't a cure they are a tool . You have to use them to make changes. You have to work at things - but now you CAN work thats the difference

  • I have ADD/Bipolar and life is a struggle every day. My last employer found out I had it and told me it was okay, then fired me :(

  • i have a.d.d pi i was diagnosed with a.d.d. as a child but i think i have pi because i daydream back in middle school to now. i cant remember whole conversations just visual and some parts of a conversation.i cant focus and im lazy.

  • @idbigod You might not be able to focus but you are not lazy. Well...the way I look at it is this- if you don't do things you should and don't care then you are lazy . If it makes you feel bad cause you don't get stuff done then its not laziness its something else

  • After my investigation on the matter of labeling I have come to the conclusion that the one thing they all have in common is there visual sensory thinkers and not to say there are not issues to work on but being that they are the minority in the population and the lack of awarness the majority seems to view the difference as a disorder. I believe there needs to be more communication amoung the visual thinkers to combat the social injustice by the social standards set by the majority. Do Comment

  • you should tell your sis to go to a different doc. sounds like the guy is not well educated.. i think the majority of the kids that get diagnosed are boys who can't sit still in their desks and disrupt the class. they are the 'squeky wheels' so to speak. i talked alot in class and daydreamed and looked out the window but i wasn't a 'problem student' so my diagnoses like alot of other women's went diagnosed until this year. i am 34 too, and i can relate to what you are saying.

  • your hot!!

  • I really admire you for having the courage to express your feelings about ADD.

  • Why don't we have a community ? And why do we act like immortals from Highlander , so distant to one another . Attention is a big part of cognition so it's hard for us to see the distance we often use to protect ourselves so that's why we often need support groups . That I could never get use to , but at lest we have hyper-focus " that's the creativity we get from stimulating activities , the more excited we become the more amazing we are ", like a gift. ~_^ Good luck 2 all my gifted family

  • I know how ya feel, I was put in a psych ward 6 times and am JUST NOW filing for my disability and medical. I've tried filing over the past 2 years since I was 5150'd. I can't do shit and have done every drug under the sun. It seems I never sleep and live day to day with no hope for the next.

  • Working Memory. When we perform a task and get distracted by the phone, we answer and the return to the task. This is the essence of adhd's failure. The back of the bran contains the skills (which there are nothing wrong with), while the front contains the tools (planning, perception of time, prioritize, etc.) to execute those skills. I see you sometimes lose attention to something on your left, but after some collection of thought return to the task. Glad to see your treatment is working Well.

  • My life is falling apart. Thanks for making me feel less alone.

  • Heidi, i feel the exact same way as you, im 18 and im awaiting diagnosis of ADHD, pretty sure its subtype-inattentive. i know exactly what you mean with what you say, all my life i've wondered, and everyone opressed me and put me down for something i was born with. people say it's not real, they're not the ones with this thing, theyll never understand. a good example is when people think of adhd they think of hyper kids - thats not the case in many sufferers. i feel your pain.

  • @13377r3331f why don't you take the time to help someone rather than spend time hating on those that are actually trying to do just that..:) If you knew me it would be different, but you do not. You do not know my life, my experiences, my thoughts, my feelings. I am no victim, just trying to figure life out like everyone else. Peace...:)

  • @HeidiJoanne34 see, i dont hate you. Im not that bored.

  • Hello, hope you fell better now, Paola from spain 40, i am the same but now with a happy life.

    wish you the best, work hard

  • @HeidiJoanne34 Hi. Thank you so much for adding this video. I'm 39 and waiting for diagnosis. It's helped so much that my experiences suddenly make sense and to know that other people go through what I do. I may not get the treatment I need because it's hard to sort out in England, but just knowing is a huge relief for me.

  • @HeidiJoanne34: Hey, congratulations on your diagnosis. I also have ADHD and female. One things that I have started working on recently is trying to get some of the environmental toxins out of my life. Especially Fluorine. It is helping some. : ) I know and feel your pain. It is so hard because people don't understand and it makes you feel unloved, because you are not somehow "normal" whatever "normal" is. Peace to you.

  • @13377r3331f Life is hard for everyone? First of all; speak for yourself. And second of all. That being said; it makes me wonder how you found this video, labeled "Adult Adhd", in the first place. Is it maybe because you feel like a victim yourself? And in search of that something that makes you feel your life is hard, typed in the words "(Adult) Adhd"? I sincerely hope you figure it out soon, and maybe even come te realise that 'Santa Claus' actually can exist in one's head. Literally. Godspeed

  • @TheVirgo1978 i cant reply, because all of you who have these symptoms obviously have a closed minded bias and will flag this negatively rather than face this as a serious criticism. im not saying that life isnt harder for her than someone like myself who has your 'average' struggles. call me a normy.

  • @13377r3331f Ok, you have made your point. And it has not been negatively flagged (yet). So maybe 'we' do not (all) have a closed minded bias when it comes to facing 'serious criticism'. I think the negative flagging of your recent comment has more to do with the way you choose your words. As the French say: "C'est le ton qui fait la musique." Between the lines it really looks like you are just ventilating your frustration by judging her on her appearance only. Speaking of a closed minded bias.

  • @13377r3331f your a fucking knob head, you need to get an educatipon you fucking prick, you think its a fucking cry for help??? or fucking attenetion??? ive had it my whole life and its pretty clear that some people have it if you look, you a fucking knob, i want you to come and say that shit to my face, cus it'll be the last thing you do u fucking dumb cunt, swear to god i could kill fucking twats like you

  • @TrimTrimmer I think you're getting all fired up about the way you want it to sound, but on the contrary i am implying nothing more than i have literally stated here. Last time i checked raging episodes werent a symptom of ADHD, you are in the wrong channel and need to seek help for your violent tendencies before you get yourself or others injured.

  • @13377r3331f ive got adhd, and ive always had it. im just sick off dickheads like saying shit like 'im sure you just didnt get enough attention as a child' do u no how narrow minded people like you are. Funny how your comments been removed because of to many negative votes, it seems not many people agree with your stupid opinion.

  • @13377r3331f - Emotional overreaction. Someone with ADHD may lose his or her temper easily, leading to major misunderstandings and sometimes, big blowout fights. Arguments can quickly spiral out of control because the person with ADHD is unable to talk through issues calmly. ---> 13377r3331f Dude... get a life and stop hating on us.

  • @13377r3331f : ADHD is real. It is difficult. Thing is you can't see it. You wouldn't tell a person who doesn't have legs to just get up and run. You would make ramps on your house or business so they could use a wheel chair. You are just uneducated and do not understand this condition. It is sad. The woman in this video just found out that she has ADHD and is beginning to understand why she's different. It is like a person finding out they are about to loose their arm. It's hard.

  • hello. I felt the need to comment again on your video. Since the last comment I have read the Davinci Method. This book has forever changed my life. I highly recommend it. You will look at yourself in a whole new light. This world is not set up for people like us. Basically the depression, anxiety, substance abuse is related to supressing our creative geniuses. when we try to live like everyone else we get frustrated and depressed. We are not normal. People like us are brilliant in our own way.

  • @vlogerrhea Read it too. Good, bit drawn out and dances around getting to the point. A lot of repetition. I would recommend it though.

  • @vlogerrhea I would be very sceptical towards that book, since by definition, psychiatric and neuropsychiatric disorders cannot be diagnosed post mortem. They rely on subjective behavior, and how the patient percieves his or her problems. May be a good read, but be critical. The line between science and psudoscience can be difficult to distinguish.

  • @vlogerrhea i would say the society we live in is not set up for us. Dep,anx and sub abuse related to suppressing our geniuses? Rubbish its because we are put in and work situations where we can't perform to the same degree as most others despite our intelligence. We over react to perceived threat and perform tasks in a disorganised manner increasing stress. We are emotionally volatile which also inteferes with work and relationships. I do think we are brilliant though I know I am ;)

  • @vlogerrhea yup we are brilliant, creative, muti-talented and all the fancy stuff.

    But all of these things won't do any good if we can't use them in work!

  • @AbuZamaan I Agree with you.

  • @vlogerrhea Well Said !

  • i fucking hate ADHD it ruined my life to this point... i tried to asked my doctor if they could test me and i dont think she believes in it i cant get tratment cos "i don't have it" fuck them why dont you try and live in my mind for a day"

  • @edktpo I work within the field of neuropsychiatry diseases/disorders and I will try to clarify this issue for you. I'm not from an english speaking country, but I will try to state my point clear and simple.

    ADHD has clear diagnostic deficits. It is not, as most would believe and the name suggests, solely an attention disorder. You have to "fail" at very specific parts of tests for it to be ADHD and not, say, SCT, anxiety disorder or bipolar.

  • @peterwrang80 I went to a shrink for first time about this they think i have raised anxiety and depression which they suspect my have been bought on by having ADHD... but we will see where it goes from here..

  • im 16 and ivebeen called dumb lazy stubborn and all those stuff.. my whole family consists of A+ student and im an F student... even though i know im smart.. my cloose friends can tell i am... but my parents think its silly to get diagnosed and checked... my grandfather still thinks im an A+ student.. and i keep avoiding telling and and avoiding lying.. ive told some of my friends about this and they think its silly.. the only one whos on board with me is my sister

  • @FlippyMyFloppy The reason you are having this reaction is because people that don't experience it don't have a clue as to how it affects you, your feelings, your day to day life, your thoughts and emotions. Get yourself checked out for you. At 16 i'm sure you have a pretty good feel for the fact that something doesnt seem right or maybe off. I'm sure your family loves you very much, but they just don't have the tools to understand if they dont have similar experiences. yay for sister!

  • @FlippyMyFloppy you sound exactly like me when i was 16. If you read the Davinci method it will explain everything. I feel like for the first time someone(the author) understands me. You are probably the smartest one in your family, you just have to learn how to control your powerful brain. Not alot of people understand, and that really sucks. School was very difficult for me. feel free to message me anytime I know what u are going through

  • @FlippyMyFloppy Of course you are smart - you have the insight to know your performance is hugely below you potential. Believe me getting F is a blessing . I always managed to pass and delayed my diagnosis 20 years

  • Hey,i bumped on to your video again.the longer i am in therapy and have quit using medication,realy the better i am feeling stil.it is a personal story,but i wouldent recomend anybody medication or at least not as a first step after the"diagnose" .i wish you all the best.

  • @SpacedTrooper I am happy to hear that things are getting better for you. It takes time and effort but worth every second when you start seeing the light and most importantly start to feel better about you as a person and your experiences in life! I am doing much better as well....thanks for the well wishes..:)

  • @SpacedTrooper medication can be best for most people. Some who don't take it tend to have a holier than thou attitude. Not saying that about you spacetrooper , just prompted to say it when read your comment.

  • @SpacedTrooper you and i disagree, i found medication really helped but i think every individual needs to make this decision for temself, i wonldt discount medication, people need to work out whats best for them, so be prepared for anything i think

  • @TrimTrimmer true,about the medication its a personal thing.what do you mean be prepared for anything i think?

  • Hello Heidi. Oh my goodness you could be my long lost sister, we have so much in common LOL.. I feel your pain, I hope your doing well. You could be like me and have the "inattentive" version of ADD. Low energy, low self esteem, in my opinion its much worse because it is hard to recognize when someone has this. I feel like I have been living in my own private prison my whole life. I'm a horrible binge drinker also, I know I gotta change that!

  • @vlogerrhea I'm pretty sure you are right about me having the "inattentive" version of ADD. It definitely fits me. I did the drinking thing to extremes from 16 to 32 and finally stopped as it was making things ten times worse than they already where. Luckily I was able to see this and have the strength to stop. The private prison I understand as well sooooo well but it all gets better with time spent on looking within and figuring out just who we really are and stop beating ourselves up!

  • Hi Heidi, doctors had me on meds for depression, and bipolar disorder (by the way no meds worked for me) while I was signing up for college I saw a mag w/ADHD on it a little apprehensive I read the article and was stunned. OMGosh that sounds exactly like me. For years I could not fig out why I was not fitting in w/ my job, schooling, or family. Twice I tried to kill myself because I lost two jobs over not paying attention. I credit God for showing me the mag. Now I can get tested. God Bless

  • to heidi and any other women ...do your self and loved ones a favvor and read "women with attention deficit disorder" by sari solden.....u will be amazed!!

    ps.i believe adhd IS a disorder...because brain is not working on order!! that is simple to undersand...

  • 3:20 is what so many docs say when they do not brush up their knowlege...

  • You are HOT 

  • Cheers, I'm new to this as well. I don't think it really matters what others think. As long as we have made the discovery about ourselves and we can do something to fix our lives that's the important thing. There will always be naysayers but I look at it this way, They are ill as well. I think to a degree we are all a bit off. I mean, what is normal? One culture will have it's opinion, another culture will have another opinion. I guess normal is whatever is socially acceptable to that culture.

  • Thanks so much for your video. I'm going through the exact same emotions you're describing and it's really hard to know where to go. People try to talk me out of it or tell me it's not real. It's real, its hard. I'm almost through a PhD program in engineering, but I cannot grocery shop or clean my house. I have faced MAJOR consequences for being chronically late, forgetful and unorganized. If I could have learned or changed this, I would have. Thanks for helping people understand.

  • It is shit having this disorder, especially not knowing about it and thinking what is wrong with u everyday, thinking everyone is normal around but not u.. Life is just the same or worse not getting any better in ur head, it just drives u insane because u feel like u are. Going around circles not doing what u want because u feel like u cant handle any task, never finish, start or get on with anything that u want to do. Its like jail, just never truly happy with yourself :,(

  • @FaceofYas I understand this comment so well......I was there and still have days where i'm there. Let me give you the good news.....:) It can and does get better.

  • @HeidiJoanne34 Thank you very much for giving me hope that it will get better, I never really felt like it can. I just hope for the best :)

  • If you have ADHD / ADD i think you may not be able to concentrate enough to read a bok

    book. Anyone agree!?

  • @nemesis76689 I have never managed to finish one without it being an audiobook which is just about do-able - but have never come close by reading it myself. I was diagnosed after being diagnosed with Dyslexia, where the screening highlighted ADD concentration and memory problems.

  • I commend you for doing this. I know what it feels like to feel so different and alone. I highly recommend the book - Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain. The Dr that wrote it has ADHD and it is fantastic. I recommend getting the audiobook of it as I find it so much easier to get through books on my iPod than physically reading them. I also find listening to audio books helps me get through tedious/boring tasks by giving me something else to focus on.

  • Funny how everything is better on meds. How are you different from anybody else? Everybody has trouble focusing on tasks they don't want to do. Everybody has thoughts racing through their head. Maybe you need a hobby?

  • @thompsonalex We are able to think about more than one thing at once, making us smarter than the norm. I am proud to have ADD, and I am proud to help explain what its like. You will never know what its like to be me, and I will never know what it is like to be you.

  • Hello Heidi, do you like rock and metal?

  • Thanks, your video helps people! continue please,

  • Hi, I would just like to say that add/adhd is not in no way a disorder. there is nothing wrong with you! i was diagnosed with this so called add/adhd and luckly for only one day i had to suffer thinking i had a disorder. if you go to your local library and get a book called.. "attention deficit disorder - a different perception" by Thom Hartmann you will discover something incredible it is not a disorder it is your species. Einstein,Edison,martin luther king,benjamin franklin & many more had it.