@TheYipedo Those people also had a choice and still do. They just don't realize it because they've been psychologically manipulated into thinking that they were born that way. It's very complicated and hard for me to explain as I'm not english.
But as I said before, everyone's born pure. The brain is pure. Nobody's born with knowledge.
@MareksGregs Yeah, so how do you know everyone's born hetero? Even other species have homosexual members. It's a naturally occurring phenomenon.We never chose our sexuality just as you never chose yours. EVER. There are Saudi and Iranians who turn out to be gay despite their country being extremely homophobic, despite the fact that if caught, they'd probably be hanged whatsoever. Who would want to be gay? Shunned by society and treated as sub-human in most countries. Use your logic.
A person born with a male private is born male, and a person born with a female private is born female. Being Gay are being Straight is something you must do because it's not a noun.. It's a verb. You are not born out of your mommas womb being Gay, but born a Male or Female. You believe the lie that people are born being "Gay" when you believe "being gay" is a noun. The Devil made them believe that a verb was a noun and that they are born gay but have been educated that way.
there's always an attraction to a certain gender even from a young age, like Darren says. it's the same for straight people as it is for gay people. just think back early enough and you'll see it.
I always knew there was something different about me, the other girls never really wanted to be my friend because there was something so obviously different, even if we didn't know what it was. I never wanted to be around boys or even be friends with boys, I always made strong attachments (maybe early crushes?) with girls. The thought I was gay first came to me when I was 9, and it scared me so much I just suppressed it, only letting it re-surface when I was about 14.
No, I totally understand what you mean. When i was younger i played with dolls with my cousin and wanted to. I also had a crush on this boy in kindergarten and boys all through elementary school in that puppy-love way, and always looked up tot he women in movies: all funny because I am not effeminate now. But i am positive i was born gay. 100% positive.
Read Anne-Fausto Sterling's Sexing the Body. So good. On the other hand, I don't think this question is productive. It doesn't matter whether people choose to be gay or not (even though I think people don't choose). We shouldn't treat people differently based on whether or not they choose something (unless they choose to be mean). This question is silly too: if you look at a finished cake, you don't ask whether or not it was nature or nurture. o_O It's impossible to answer.
I remember back all the way to kindergarden when girls were supposed to have cooties, it was the opposite for me. I would always hang around the girls and stay away from the boys. I would always play with moms clothes and make up till I was about 10. I hated getting dirty. I do remember having boy crushes when I was really young too. I believe that most of us are born gay.
I was 7 when I saw my father naked. While this may be disturbing, the truth is I liked what I saw. And I made sure to see him nude again as often as I could. He eventually realized something was up and started wearing underwear on his trip to the shower.
Yeah, I'm a big believer in being born gay. 7 year old's don't really make a conscious decision regarding their sexuality at that age. It was instinctual I think...something that's just a part of who I am.
I definitely knew from when I was about 4 years old. It's like you just know that you are not like the other kids in some way. I was in love with Julie Andrews at that age... I still am haha
Among serious scientists, "born gay" as a concept is settled science. The precise mechanism is still being worked out, but we do know it involves hormones around the 7th week of pregnancy, and maybe some sort of genetic trigger. Statistically, the number of non-heterosexuals has remained fairly constant over time, which proves that it is a naturally occuring phenomenon - a normal variation. It seems to plot well as a standard bell curve.
They were born gay as I was born straight. I don't know why this is up for discussion. I don't even understand why there has to be a law saying whether or not they can marry or adopt....we have a long ways to go
@iAtmospheric Actually, no. The evidence against this idea is actually pretty strong. We used to think the same thing about gender identity, but some really horrible experiments and much research have proven beyond any reasonable doubt that the sense of who we are, male, female, or something in between, is inborn and unchangeable.
While I do know that I was born gay, I don't necessarily think it matters. A lot of people think that if it IS choice then it's wrong but I believe that whether being gay is something you're born with or even a choice (although I really don't believe it's a choice) because at the end of the day it's YOUR life and nobody has the right to tell you you're wrong for living it the way you want to.
@das5jbb I agree with you totally. But in order for it to be a sin - it MUST be a choice- therefore to some religious people it IS a choice. Also, if it is not a choice you could not repent and choose to be "Normal" again. Wish they would focus on their own sins before deciding what my sins are. I had a crush on a boy in 5th grade. I tried dating girls but was attracted more to their brothers. I am who I am - always have been - always will be, and God loves me too.
I know someone who lived in a very sheltered lifestyle with very strict relgious parents and he is gay. Whereas my parents were always like, you're allowed to like girls or boys we don't mind either way and I'm straight
So I guess it back fires on some of the older generations views on it's how the parents raise you. Homophobic parents won't be able to "make" their children straight through rules and religion, just like my parents didn't "make" me gay by allowing me to experiment.
I belive in the research thats has concluded that it is to do with ressesive genes, in the same way a woman can has 10 bastard kids and all the guys have dark hair like her but one of them can turn ginger
born or not, I don't think it matters either way. what pisses me off are the countless stereotypes, type casting, and the notion people seem to have regarding sexuality as a choice...
I think people are born not being attracted to any sex or both sexes, and as you grow up and you reach sexual maturity, you become attracted to a specific group and that's why there's all different kinds of sexual orientations out there.
However - We are OBVIOUSLY* unnatural and are sinners for how we were created. We should be punished for love and have less rights that those who deem themselves Normal and Holy)
- What a load of shit. - I have had these said to me and I wish we would not have this sort of bullying and ignorance in our world. I want a world where we are just like anyone else. We are HUMAN. no matter of our differences. - I love this week's theme. Give more themes similar to this please.
I am Gay. from my experiences going far back as i can remember i have never been attracted too or been interested in the opposite sex. I remember going through denial and claiming to like girls so that i would not feel an outcast. Growing up with 2 brothers is difficult when they are both checking out girls and I was more interested in the guy holding her hand. I believe i was born to be gay. Just as i was born with my genetics of my parents. I am gay. and nothing will ever change that.
I do believe you're born with the preferences as well. I remember when my friend and I were about 10 and not too far off from puberty and we were interested in womens' bodies for some reason. I continue to favor guys but for some reason even to this day I still can find myself turned on by a woman. Did I choose this? No, it's just who I am.
I've liked boys as far back as I can remember, which is 4 years old. I was attracted to girls also and that continued until I hit puberty. After that, it was 100% attraction to guys. So I guess I was born bi and puberty made me who I was destined to be. As cheesy as that sounds lol.
I was differently born a homosexual. Again like you say I was of an early age, around seven when I found my self closer to guys than girls and around age nine when I was able to identify as gay. I didn't really give it much thought again until I started high school where it became an issue. When people say it is a choice they have verbal diarrhoea. On the flip side if some one gave me the choice via a "magic" pill to be a Homo or Hetro now I would stay as I am.
Can't remember much of my early childhood. But I know in the 5th grade I had a real crush on a boy. Tried the dating scene because it was expected of me but my attraction was always to guys so yes - I think I was born this way.
I'm totally sure I was born gay. I remember being awkward with guy friends in kindergarten and elementary school cuz I didn't want to do what they were doing. I started to find guys attractive when I was like 10! Wayyy before I knew what sexuality actually was. Yeah baby, I WAS BORN THIS WAY!
I think people are born gay but I think there's also definitely things/experiences that could effect a persons sexuality if they weren't born that way.
I don't believe that people are born gay but I do think people are born with a stronger attraction to one gender over the other and can sometimes be the same gender.
personally, I think being gay,straight ,etc. is just social/cultural expression of person's inherent sexuality. This expression is not limited to 'gay' or straight' but also 'bisexuality' and 'asexuality' .So to me a person is not born gay or born straight; they are just born sexual.
Even though I just recently started accepting the fact that I like guys I agree with you and think people are born gay. Don't remember quite as far back as you do, but I do remember in elementary school at recess and gravitating towards girls...not because I 'liked' them but because i felt closer to them or similar to them in some way.
Well science claims that most people are born gay due to certain factors. As a religious person I would disagree. But either way, whatever makes you happy, do it!
I totally think we're born this way, even though from 5-12 I had mad crushes on the opposite sex. I think it has something to do with hormones in the womb, which has mostly been proven already and I think it also kinda proves why women are more prone to be more fluid about sexuality then men.
I've read that the hormones you are exposed to as a fetus in your mothers womb determine your sexuality. I've always been feminine and my mother tells me all the time that i said i wanted two things when i grow up: to be a girl or a white boy XD (I'm mixed and i don't see my other family so i wanted to feel more like my actual family). I was also exposed to sex early on. So I was aware before i should've been and I know I've always liked guys.
I think being gay is certainly a multifactorial trait. There are probably genetic and environmental factors that contribute to being gay, but ultimately I don't think knowing how homosexuality happens is all that important. What's most important is that people start accepting it as something natural.
So... Since I was little, I've been liking girls, nit when I was super little, but when I'm going through puberty, I'd get curious about a girls body instead of a guy even though I'm a girl. But I'm happy with my bf now, so I guess that's what counts. Even if I'm still cinfudpsed but I'm sure I love him with all my heart and I am attracted to him. Oh I love gays, you guys are like my soul mates -3333
For as long as I could remember, I knew I was gay but I just didn't know the term when I was younger. I remember being 5 years old and "admiring" male underwear packages (the box...). When I grew up, learned the term, accepted it and started coming out and meeting other LGBT people, I was surprised that they "found out" and didn't know until they were in their teens. I don't know if it could be genetic or environmental because I've heard so much but I just wanted to add in my experience.
If the minds of are children were not indoctrinated too think gay was different than gay individuals growing up would not feel diffrent cus ur not diffrent ur all human. its just a sexual preference and the way u feel and who u love. Gay is just a label were all human and normal. but we are all diffrent cus of r personalitys which makes us unique!
I remember being highly infatuated with a boy in kindergarten, same thing happened in 1st grade. I can still remember the two guys. I remember calling one of them my lover in my head! That even bothered me back then. I denied these feelings for 15 years. I also thought I liked girls till puberty hit. I was definitely born gay.
All I know is that my being gay happened on a subconscious level. If that means I was born this way or if it means I subconsciously absorbed due to something in my environment or a mixture of the two doesn't really matter in my mind. I have a gut feeling I was born gay, but I also have a bisexual sister so the environmental theory could be happening here too. At the end of the day being gay is an unchangeable trait in me same as my brown eyes and brown hair.
@gardenofholliess Everything is learned for the most part. I agree that its just a feeling we cant be born something we dont know. Imagine a baby talking about sexual intercourse! they dont even know english yet lol! ppl amaze me when they say ur born gay or straight! a gay gene has not been proven! I agree wit ur point.
I don't know if you are born gay, not saying you are born straight but I don't think your born with any sexual preference necessarily. I think as you grow just come to a self conclusion of what gender you prefer. Being born with something makes me think there is dna involved and I don't think there is a straight or gay dna.
After the Human Genome Project was completed and as studies of the individual genes expanded and continued - they found a genetic connection to sexuality. So - we are definately proven to be born gay and individual development (educational, sociatial, education and physical and brain development) determine when we realize our sexuality. But We Are Born That Way and God made man in his own image so what did the "Bible" really mean in correct context ??? Pondering yet ???
As a fag hag/ fruit fly(do ppl really use fruit fly), I believe we r born this way. My really awkward parents did not show any affection towards each other and I wasnt allowed to watch tv until I was 13- so no exposure to love and stuff and I'm just attracted to guys. Love is not a science to be dissected and studied and questioned and theorized. Love is love is love is love is love is love is love for all. #EQUALITY4ALL
Gender/sexual identity develops starting around three years of age. I believe that gay individuals are born with a predisposition to androstadienone the male pheromone and sometimes it triggers and sometimes it doesn't (could also explain late bloomers-homosexually speaking). As for earliest memories of homosexuality... When I was 4 yrs old I hid from a scary movie under the t-shirt of a young man and I distinctly remember liking his smell, maybe a little too much, because I went in twice! LOL
Darren you're so well spoken :] You were able to put into words pretty much how I feel I was as child. Also your intro made me really happy for some reason xD
i believe you are born gay(if you are gay) . Like if gay people get so much crap for likeing the same sex and it was a chose dont you think they would choose to like oppsite.
so i am gay and my personal belief is that we are born gay because of overpopulation. basicly rhinoes and a lot of other animals produce less sperm when they're overpopulated and we do the same thing except we produce more gays instead to stop overpopulation and thats why there are more and more gays with each generation because the amount of ppl has rose tremendously. idk just a theory
You could be born straight but be fucked up by a girl so bad or traumatized by one that you turn gay... or u might just see a rele gross ugly vagina and THEN turn gay
@ilovemidna222 i dont think that happens O.O and if it does, VERY rarely. cause im gay, always have been, and ive seen a some pretty disgusting penises, yet i am stilll attracted to men =)
Just saying, I'm not gay but some of my guy friends are. I 100% agree with this that gay people are born being gay. Most people would ague saying they chose to be that way. But where are the scientific facts? And I think it was Luan who said this, and I quote : "Go up to any gay person. They will tell you that they did not choose" And if they did choose to be gay, that means you must have chose to be straight. And when exactly did you choose to be straight? .. I rest my case.
@kristakayx21 I completely agree. My best friend is gay and a couple years ago I had a really close friend of mine hide the fact she was gay because her girlfriend's parents found out and things just got rough. People these days give other people such a hard time for being a little different...why would ANYONE choose to be gay if they knew that some people are so horrible?
Well the science suggests that you are indeed born gay - Over the last 20 years there has been a significant increase in research at molecular genetics level - these data show that sexual orientation is determined by a combination of genetics interacting with hormones in the womb - Upbringing, childhood experience and personal choice have little or nothing to do with it.
I'm positive that I was born gay. I've always known since I was 4 that I liked the same gender. Actually when I came out to my mom, she gave me a GIGANTIC list of people in the family who are also gay.
i believe u are born w/ your sexual preference. its not like one day I woke up and decided to like guys. ive always like them. i do think there are few instances where things in a person's past steer them towards a different sexuality. i know a couple females who were raped/abused by men when they were younger and therefore they learned to distrust men and ended up being lesbians. but i think for the most part you are born gay or whatever
I don't really know/care whether people are born gay or not. That may have came out as sort of mean, but I didn't want it to sound like that. I just think that the only thing that matters is your character and whether or not it continues to grow as you get older.
Sexuality, gender, race, etc have nothing to do with your character.
Indeed ppl can be born gay just as ppl can be born bi ..... It's not a choice to most but rather just who they are... I should know. But either way it should not matter choice or not ppl should be treated equally no matter who they love
I know for sure that I was BORN gay. I mean why and how would a child choose to feel attraction for the same sex? When you're that young you're not even exposed or even know what same sex attraction is or know that it exists. I've always felt different, and always felt that "connection" to boys, in a way that I don't feel for girls. Always been this way, always will be.
I'm of the opinion that this is a mute argument. Whether we are born gay or not, it shouldn't matter. I'm not saying this is how you are using it, but some gays use the "I'm born this way" as an excuse; it can come off as if they're saying "I can't help it." I know this is nit-picky, but it's an unproductive message. However I became this way, I am gay. Dwelling on the cause is a distraction from excepting it and moving on with my life.
@CalebWandering Well, geez, if you thank me for that, what will say when its "a distraction from ACCEPTING it" :P Sorry, I swear I'm not a grammar nazi, but I did use to be a teacher (science). It's a hard habit to get out of.
@dafttool Understandable. And critique away. I won't take it personally. It's cathartic to write comments and spell incorrectly. A good reprieve from my job. I'll do it more often and give you something to look forward to on AGAD videos.
I think people are born gay. Just like I was born straight. I always have liked guys, and I always will. I'm never going to like girls like that. I can't change that.
I try not to question whether or not I was born gay. Because really, whether I'm genetically gay or whether it was caused by something in my environment, what difference does it make? I'm gay either way, and there's nothing I can do to change it (if I wanted to).
@DoctorSpaceman89 This is pretty much exactly how I feel. I mean I can guess that I was born gay, but whether I'm right or not doesn't change the fact that I am in fact gay and that can't be changed.
I notice a lot of people who say there is no gay gene in our DNA. but humans have glands that can go astray, brains are wired before birth, and other medical factors enter into our orientation. So yes I believe we can be born gay.
Idk... Cause I was raised by only females and never had a father figure. So it's hard to think if I was born this way or taught to be this way.. But whatever, I don't think anybody really knows.
I'm gay and when I was a little boy I felt a "connection" to my male peers that I didn't feel towards my female peers. My first "crush" was in first grade. He was new to the school and when I first saw him on the first day of school I felt an excitement that I had never experienced before.
@GeminiSecret: haha, well my brother wanted to be a pink power ranger 1 year but my parents told 'em he couldnt be. he's older than me (so I just kno the story, don't actually remember), but still. My bro's not gay though. And I know this might sound stereotypical, but he can "look" gay. I mean, he doesn't wear feminine clothing but i think a lotta skinny guys who wear sweaters or something can "look" gay. I dunno how to explain it, but if my brother actually were gay...u could see it. O.o
I think it's biological. Adults who know me since I was little (i.e. family, teachers, etc.) say they've always known since I was a little kid. It's always been there.
And also, if nurture would be a factor, how do we explain the gay people who grow up in environments saying being gay is wrong? Like in very strict Christian circles. The person might repress his feelings, because he's learned that it's "wrong", but he's still going to be gay and know it deep down. It's just something within us.
I'm sure I was born gay because I was never attracted by girls, all my friends were boys and I think a had a few crushes on my straight friends. But all this happened at a time I still didn't know I was gay. There happened so many things over the time I didn't understand which now makes sense to me. When walking around I always looked at the good looking boys but didn't know why. I grew up in a very homobphic/religious surrounding and didn't match any of these typical stereotypes I know about.
i definitely relate to this rendition of how one is born gay......because, i can honestly say, that this is exactly how it was for me as well. one exception in my case worth mentioning though, even at that very young age, i had an overwhelming fondness for feet......and of course, to this day, i find nice looking feet on cute guys totally HOT ! :)
yeah i know some guys who knew they were gay when they were like 5... i think i knew when i was about 11-12.. cant remember that far behind really, lol x
You're my favorite GAD, but if you said that you guys have been criticized for not having any LGBT themes, don't you think your first one in a while should have been a little bit longer? Not counting the technical stuff about the days being rearranged, you really only talked about this fora minute.
I last read that it was to do with hormones whilst in the womb. I definitely don't believe it is a choice because like you I can remember liking guys from a very young age. Always watching films and just noticing the cute blonde guys more than any other aspect
What a coincidence! We're just talking about stuff like this in my anthro, psych, and soc class. Not homosexuality specifically, but nature vs nurture... I believed it before that but now even moreso that we are born gay. It's encoded in our DNA. Things like hatred and how to be a parent are taught, but our sexuality happens to be one of the many things that we're born with.
@Simzak8168 There is no "gay" gene. This same misconception is what leads alot of the homophobes to justify calling us abnormal or freaks of nature. You cannont have homosexuality, heterosexuality, bisexuality, pansexuality etc. in your DNA. Not saying its a choice its just not a genetic thing.
@hender112233 Have you heard of any twin studies? Identical twins, who share DNA, were separated at birth, grew up to lead lives that were virtually the same, with the same interests, similar jobs, family life etc. I like to believe that we make our own decisions and have some element of choice in our life. But there's more and more evidence pointing towards a lot of it being in our DNA. If it influences so many other aspects of our lives. Why not our sexual preference?
@hender112233 according to twin studies (identical, not fraternal), if one is gay, there is a 52% the other is as well. DNA is not the sole cause of sexuality, in fact, no one knows for sure. if you take psychology, you learn that everything is not the cause of one thing but of multiple factors (not nature vs nurture, but nature AND nurture). so to say that it doesn't have any influence is wrong.
I ask most of my gay friends this question simply because I am curious. Have you ever been romantically involved with a girl? some of my friends have and some havent. I would love to hear your take on this :)
@cehewa i know you're asking simon, but i just want to offer my personal story and opinion. I've never been romantically involved with a girl. I've definitely thought about asking a girl out, but just to fit in, because everyone at my school was hooking up, i didn't want to be left out. but for me, i just knew. i know some people have to 'experiment', but it's as concrete as i am a male or as concrete as you are straight. you just know
@cehewa I had a girlfriend when I was 14 and have had some physical encounters with girls over the years (never anything serious, never done much more than kiss one). I've never had the same kind of emotional connection with a girl that I've had with a guy, though.
I know I was born this way. Not because I had feelings from when I was really young, but because I had feelings when I hit puberty and my sexual drive began to develop. I remember never being actually attracted to girls, although I tried to fool myself that I was, but rather that I was always looking at the other boys very differently.
I think it's a combination of factors that take place while you're developing, from being in the womb to, say, age 2. Your environment can do a lot of shaping when you're a tyke, but I think the sexuality shaping stops before you start retaining memories. It's definitely not a choice, but I don't think it's solely a born this way thing. I'm a bisexual guy, bi the way.
i think i can understand your experience because i had a similar experience. the earliest memory i have is when i was in kindergarten, wanting to hold a boy's hand and feeling extremely sad when rejected because he was holding a girl's hand! so yes, i do believe that we are born this way, for now, but i also believe it would be ignorant to ignore other possible factors, and only time will tell.
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SpazyLexi1 6 days ago
Aaah "born this way"... The pedophiles excuse too...
brindabellaoffroad 2 weeks ago
@TheYipedo Those people also had a choice and still do. They just don't realize it because they've been psychologically manipulated into thinking that they were born that way. It's very complicated and hard for me to explain as I'm not english.
But as I said before, everyone's born pure. The brain is pure. Nobody's born with knowledge.
MareksGregs 3 weeks ago
I don't hate on homosexuals. But please don't give everyone that "Born this way" crap.
Everyone's born pure. It's either person's choice to be homosexual or they have become one because of different factors in their lives.
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@MareksGregs Yeah, so how do you know everyone's born hetero? Even other species have homosexual members. It's a naturally occurring phenomenon.We never chose our sexuality just as you never chose yours. EVER. There are Saudi and Iranians who turn out to be gay despite their country being extremely homophobic, despite the fact that if caught, they'd probably be hanged whatsoever. Who would want to be gay? Shunned by society and treated as sub-human in most countries. Use your logic.
TheYipedo 3 weeks ago
The most recent comment is quite depressing so I'm gonna answer the videos question... Yes, we are.
Jammanto 2 months ago
A person born with a male private is born male, and a person born with a female private is born female. Being Gay are being Straight is something you must do because it's not a noun.. It's a verb. You are not born out of your mommas womb being Gay, but born a Male or Female. You believe the lie that people are born being "Gay" when you believe "being gay" is a noun. The Devil made them believe that a verb was a noun and that they are born gay but have been educated that way.
blackonblueful 2 months ago
@blackonblueful umm.. what?
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there is no question about it. you are born gay.
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VanesaIsaura 4 months ago
there's always an attraction to a certain gender even from a young age, like Darren says. it's the same for straight people as it is for gay people. just think back early enough and you'll see it.
awkward8anna 4 months ago
I always knew there was something different about me, the other girls never really wanted to be my friend because there was something so obviously different, even if we didn't know what it was. I never wanted to be around boys or even be friends with boys, I always made strong attachments (maybe early crushes?) with girls. The thought I was gay first came to me when I was 9, and it scared me so much I just suppressed it, only letting it re-surface when I was about 14.
MIRIAMesther1 4 months ago
I believe I was born gay. It really don't matter to me, though, because I know I am. Now on with the rest of life!
TheCynedd 4 months ago 3
No, I totally understand what you mean. When i was younger i played with dolls with my cousin and wanted to. I also had a crush on this boy in kindergarten and boys all through elementary school in that puppy-love way, and always looked up tot he women in movies: all funny because I am not effeminate now. But i am positive i was born gay. 100% positive.
vazqal10 4 months ago
We came here on a meteorite, didn't you guys know? duh.
IceWolfCoven 5 months ago 4
Read Anne-Fausto Sterling's Sexing the Body. So good. On the other hand, I don't think this question is productive. It doesn't matter whether people choose to be gay or not (even though I think people don't choose). We shouldn't treat people differently based on whether or not they choose something (unless they choose to be mean). This question is silly too: if you look at a finished cake, you don't ask whether or not it was nature or nurture. o_O It's impossible to answer.
DanEMO592 5 months ago
im bi but still a total sissy. i didn't really have anything like that i was to busy coloring and thinking and play video games by the time i was 5
CollegialResemblance 5 months ago
i know i was born gay
johndarkearth 5 months ago
you always kill it. no matter what.
you're so great.
hprum17 5 months ago
Are we born gay? How do we have gayness thrust upon us? (Wicked Quote FTW) xo
NatoRCT 5 months ago
I remember back all the way to kindergarden when girls were supposed to have cooties, it was the opposite for me. I would always hang around the girls and stay away from the boys. I would always play with moms clothes and make up till I was about 10. I hated getting dirty. I do remember having boy crushes when I was really young too. I believe that most of us are born gay.
SceneKidsOfPSL 5 months ago
Darren, you were born fabulous.
sighmoansays 5 months ago 7
I was 7 when I saw my father naked. While this may be disturbing, the truth is I liked what I saw. And I made sure to see him nude again as often as I could. He eventually realized something was up and started wearing underwear on his trip to the shower.
Yeah, I'm a big believer in being born gay. 7 year old's don't really make a conscious decision regarding their sexuality at that age. It was instinctual I think...something that's just a part of who I am.
Pedigru 5 months ago
I recall having similar feelings to what you described at at least age 7 though I do recall a few questionable events before that.
ItovaSythr 5 months ago
I definitely knew from when I was about 4 years old. It's like you just know that you are not like the other kids in some way. I was in love with Julie Andrews at that age... I still am haha
krolitabm 5 months ago
my cousin used to ask me to play barbies with him when he was already in middle school :D does that mean that he was also born gay? :x
when he came out to our family, the ones that were close to him (including myself) just laughed and said "we know!" :3
analivita 5 months ago
I wasn't born.
MHN8 5 months ago
I think everyone is different... Some are probably born some are probably not
MHN8 5 months ago
i was born bald.. :D still am n proud of it. ;p
14ikan11 5 months ago
Among serious scientists, "born gay" as a concept is settled science. The precise mechanism is still being worked out, but we do know it involves hormones around the 7th week of pregnancy, and maybe some sort of genetic trigger. Statistically, the number of non-heterosexuals has remained fairly constant over time, which proves that it is a naturally occuring phenomenon - a normal variation. It seems to plot well as a standard bell curve.
ProFriend 5 months ago
They were born gay as I was born straight. I don't know why this is up for discussion. I don't even understand why there has to be a law saying whether or not they can marry or adopt....we have a long ways to go
bambabi15 5 months ago 78
We could tell my brother was gay when he was little. He used to run around the house in my moms pink leather jacket and heels....
sostarstruckkxoxo 5 months ago
Sexuality is fluid... people are born without any attraction at all.
iAtmospheric 5 months ago
@iAtmospheric Actually, no. The evidence against this idea is actually pretty strong. We used to think the same thing about gender identity, but some really horrible experiments and much research have proven beyond any reasonable doubt that the sense of who we are, male, female, or something in between, is inborn and unchangeable.
ProFriend 5 months ago
wow your white shirt really makes your teeth pop
... ? ...
I'm amazed
mitchumsport 5 months ago
@mitchumsport omg it does.... I love his teeth and smile (random sidenote) :P
ScarletCharmz 5 months ago
I think that people are born gay.. but that culture and environment can also affect this.
xoxColleenMurrayxox 5 months ago
i personally think its a combination of genetic/prenatal/environmental/cultural factors. and that it shouldn't matter at all :D
thegreyeyedmonster 5 months ago
OMG I felt the same way growing up. Thank you for sharing your story.
JamirC18 5 months ago
am i the only person in the world that doesnt remember being 3?!
thatboon 5 months ago
While I do know that I was born gay, I don't necessarily think it matters. A lot of people think that if it IS choice then it's wrong but I believe that whether being gay is something you're born with or even a choice (although I really don't believe it's a choice) because at the end of the day it's YOUR life and nobody has the right to tell you you're wrong for living it the way you want to.
das5jbb 5 months ago
@das5jbb I agree with you totally. But in order for it to be a sin - it MUST be a choice- therefore to some religious people it IS a choice. Also, if it is not a choice you could not repent and choose to be "Normal" again. Wish they would focus on their own sins before deciding what my sins are. I had a crush on a boy in 5th grade. I tried dating girls but was attracted more to their brothers. I am who I am - always have been - always will be, and God loves me too.
Jedd20 4 months ago
I know someone who lived in a very sheltered lifestyle with very strict relgious parents and he is gay. Whereas my parents were always like, you're allowed to like girls or boys we don't mind either way and I'm straight
So I guess it back fires on some of the older generations views on it's how the parents raise you. Homophobic parents won't be able to "make" their children straight through rules and religion, just like my parents didn't "make" me gay by allowing me to experiment.
<3
lucyjdx 5 months ago 49
@lucyjdx I'm gay and my parents are dead like that?
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lucyjdx 5 months ago
I belive in the research thats has concluded that it is to do with ressesive genes, in the same way a woman can has 10 bastard kids and all the guys have dark hair like her but one of them can turn ginger
trekie210 5 months ago
I fall in love with whoever I fall in love. It's in your mind. You were born with that mind.
LegendEntertainment1 5 months ago
born or not, I don't think it matters either way. what pisses me off are the countless stereotypes, type casting, and the notion people seem to have regarding sexuality as a choice...
29Proteus 5 months ago
I think people are born not being attracted to any sex or both sexes, and as you grow up and you reach sexual maturity, you become attracted to a specific group and that's why there's all different kinds of sexual orientations out there.
thejesscen 5 months ago
However - We are OBVIOUSLY* unnatural and are sinners for how we were created. We should be punished for love and have less rights that those who deem themselves Normal and Holy)
- What a load of shit. - I have had these said to me and I wish we would not have this sort of bullying and ignorance in our world. I want a world where we are just like anyone else. We are HUMAN. no matter of our differences. - I love this week's theme. Give more themes similar to this please.
SunnyOldSpice 5 months ago
I am Gay. from my experiences going far back as i can remember i have never been attracted too or been interested in the opposite sex. I remember going through denial and claiming to like girls so that i would not feel an outcast. Growing up with 2 brothers is difficult when they are both checking out girls and I was more interested in the guy holding her hand. I believe i was born to be gay. Just as i was born with my genetics of my parents. I am gay. and nothing will ever change that.
SunnyOldSpice 5 months ago
Straight people can identify with that feeling you had for boys, they just had it for the opposite sex :)
NileSings 5 months ago
We all have overbearing mothers and distant fathers obviously..... *facepalm*
danfromuk 5 months ago
I do believe you're born with the preferences as well. I remember when my friend and I were about 10 and not too far off from puberty and we were interested in womens' bodies for some reason. I continue to favor guys but for some reason even to this day I still can find myself turned on by a woman. Did I choose this? No, it's just who I am.
EarlyBirdie82 5 months ago
I've liked boys as far back as I can remember, which is 4 years old. I was attracted to girls also and that continued until I hit puberty. After that, it was 100% attraction to guys. So I guess I was born bi and puberty made me who I was destined to be. As cheesy as that sounds lol.
TheThunderDragoon 5 months ago
I was differently born a homosexual. Again like you say I was of an early age, around seven when I found my self closer to guys than girls and around age nine when I was able to identify as gay. I didn't really give it much thought again until I started high school where it became an issue. When people say it is a choice they have verbal diarrhoea. On the flip side if some one gave me the choice via a "magic" pill to be a Homo or Hetro now I would stay as I am.
TardisMikey 5 months ago
Can't remember much of my early childhood. But I know in the 5th grade I had a real crush on a boy. Tried the dating scene because it was expected of me but my attraction was always to guys so yes - I think I was born this way.
Jedd20 5 months ago
me too... exactly the same feelings at the same age! born this way!
dlyc4714 5 months ago
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Its a very complicated thing to discuss. Male and female sexuality is thought to affected differently to each other.
redsmas 5 months ago
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redsmas 5 months ago
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I was born this way~
emoXanimeXpsychoX 5 months ago
I cant speak for anyone else but I have had atraction to males as far back as I can remember 3or 4 yrs old ...peace:)
79peace2u2 5 months ago
I'm totally sure I was born gay. I remember being awkward with guy friends in kindergarten and elementary school cuz I didn't want to do what they were doing. I started to find guys attractive when I was like 10! Wayyy before I knew what sexuality actually was. Yeah baby, I WAS BORN THIS WAY!
ilovepop91 5 months ago
I WAS BORN ME. :)
annesmiless 5 months ago
I think people are born gay but I think there's also definitely things/experiences that could effect a persons sexuality if they weren't born that way.
abbyhoneywaffles 5 months ago
I don't believe that people are born gay but I do think people are born with a stronger attraction to one gender over the other and can sometimes be the same gender.
wilburfudd 5 months ago
I greatly appreciate the use of "jackin my swag", so I don't care that this week's a little mixed up
unophishal 5 months ago
personally, I think being gay,straight ,etc. is just social/cultural expression of person's inherent sexuality. This expression is not limited to 'gay' or straight' but also 'bisexuality' and 'asexuality' .So to me a person is not born gay or born straight; they are just born sexual.
blackfeatherdownhere 5 months ago
Even though I just recently started accepting the fact that I like guys I agree with you and think people are born gay. Don't remember quite as far back as you do, but I do remember in elementary school at recess and gravitating towards girls...not because I 'liked' them but because i felt closer to them or similar to them in some way.
MysticRed1 5 months ago
Well science claims that most people are born gay due to certain factors. As a religious person I would disagree. But either way, whatever makes you happy, do it!
lavendertwilight08 5 months ago
I totally think we're born this way, even though from 5-12 I had mad crushes on the opposite sex. I think it has something to do with hormones in the womb, which has mostly been proven already and I think it also kinda proves why women are more prone to be more fluid about sexuality then men.
ntcssj 5 months ago
I think, people are born gay.(:
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Yes! Absolutely born this way!
thekcski 5 months ago
Born gay...I know what you mean, I felt that same "connection" with boys and men on TV so I agree
Alfie729 5 months ago
I've read that the hormones you are exposed to as a fetus in your mothers womb determine your sexuality. I've always been feminine and my mother tells me all the time that i said i wanted two things when i grow up: to be a girl or a white boy XD (I'm mixed and i don't see my other family so i wanted to feel more like my actual family). I was also exposed to sex early on. So I was aware before i should've been and I know I've always liked guys.
AadenIgnition 5 months ago
@AadenIgnition
i heard the same thing and it would make a lot more sence then it being a ginetic thing because i have a strate twin brother (we r identical)
mjm7615 5 months ago
great video!
sethorlando 5 months ago
I think being gay is certainly a multifactorial trait. There are probably genetic and environmental factors that contribute to being gay, but ultimately I don't think knowing how homosexuality happens is all that important. What's most important is that people start accepting it as something natural.
P.S. Darren you look very cute today :)
mike0982 5 months ago 2
i think its a mutation in genes so yes you were born this way <3
1simplysub 5 months ago
So... Since I was little, I've been liking girls, nit when I was super little, but when I'm going through puberty, I'd get curious about a girls body instead of a guy even though I'm a girl. But I'm happy with my bf now, so I guess that's what counts. Even if I'm still cinfudpsed but I'm sure I love him with all my heart and I am attracted to him. Oh I love gays, you guys are like my soul mates -3333
jennisarahyeung 5 months ago
For those looking for a biological reason, it has been shown that
Hypothalamus (part of the brain that controls hunger and sex) and the
Corpus Callosum (part of the brain that controls communication between each side of the brain)
are larger in homosexual males compared to herto
and is comparable to the female brain counterparts...
Now the reason for this is debatable whether the timing of the introduction of testosterone during development or something else...
Either way I'm glad I'm Gay :)
sendinthelove 5 months ago
LOL, "so he doesn't jack my swag" haha
GIGIBG02 5 months ago
For as long as I could remember, I knew I was gay but I just didn't know the term when I was younger. I remember being 5 years old and "admiring" male underwear packages (the box...). When I grew up, learned the term, accepted it and started coming out and meeting other LGBT people, I was surprised that they "found out" and didn't know until they were in their teens. I don't know if it could be genetic or environmental because I've heard so much but I just wanted to add in my experience.
TuxedoComplex 5 months ago
I believe that people are born gay, because it's just part of who they are :)
aliceinz0mbieland 5 months ago
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I was born this way
frankumms05 5 months ago
If the minds of are children were not indoctrinated too think gay was different than gay individuals growing up would not feel diffrent cus ur not diffrent ur all human. its just a sexual preference and the way u feel and who u love. Gay is just a label were all human and normal. but we are all diffrent cus of r personalitys which makes us unique!
kurakai18 5 months ago
I remember being highly infatuated with a boy in kindergarten, same thing happened in 1st grade. I can still remember the two guys. I remember calling one of them my lover in my head! That even bothered me back then. I denied these feelings for 15 years. I also thought I liked girls till puberty hit. I was definitely born gay.
OldYellowBrickss 5 months ago
All I know is that my being gay happened on a subconscious level. If that means I was born this way or if it means I subconsciously absorbed due to something in my environment or a mixture of the two doesn't really matter in my mind. I have a gut feeling I was born gay, but I also have a bisexual sister so the environmental theory could be happening here too. At the end of the day being gay is an unchangeable trait in me same as my brown eyes and brown hair.
HughtheManatee 5 months ago
@gardenofholliess Everything is learned for the most part. I agree that its just a feeling we cant be born something we dont know. Imagine a baby talking about sexual intercourse! they dont even know english yet lol! ppl amaze me when they say ur born gay or straight! a gay gene has not been proven! I agree wit ur point.
kurakai18 5 months ago
@kurakai18 hellow
112clowns 5 months ago
Excellent video! You described the feelings/experience that many of us have very well. Thanks!
mjhenry123 5 months ago
...yeah i was born gay too Darren :)
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I don't know if you are born gay, not saying you are born straight but I don't think your born with any sexual preference necessarily. I think as you grow just come to a self conclusion of what gender you prefer. Being born with something makes me think there is dna involved and I don't think there is a straight or gay dna.
gardenofholliess 5 months ago
After the Human Genome Project was completed and as studies of the individual genes expanded and continued - they found a genetic connection to sexuality. So - we are definately proven to be born gay and individual development (educational, sociatial, education and physical and brain development) determine when we realize our sexuality. But We Are Born That Way and God made man in his own image so what did the "Bible" really mean in correct context ??? Pondering yet ???
mpmikemp 5 months ago
As a fag hag/ fruit fly(do ppl really use fruit fly), I believe we r born this way. My really awkward parents did not show any affection towards each other and I wasnt allowed to watch tv until I was 13- so no exposure to love and stuff and I'm just attracted to guys. Love is not a science to be dissected and studied and questioned and theorized. Love is love is love is love is love is love is love for all. #EQUALITY4ALL
MizMostLikelyToFail 5 months ago
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I do NOT think people are born gay or lesbian.. etc. :)
EmoChickHidden 5 months ago
Gender/sexual identity develops starting around three years of age. I believe that gay individuals are born with a predisposition to androstadienone the male pheromone and sometimes it triggers and sometimes it doesn't (could also explain late bloomers-homosexually speaking). As for earliest memories of homosexuality... When I was 4 yrs old I hid from a scary movie under the t-shirt of a young man and I distinctly remember liking his smell, maybe a little too much, because I went in twice! LOL
Habesha4life 5 months ago
Oh Darren, nobody could ever jack your swag.
melancholicfantasy 5 months ago
I love Simon :D
DreamByTheFire 5 months ago
Darren you're so well spoken :] You were able to put into words pretty much how I feel I was as child. Also your intro made me really happy for some reason xD
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i believe you are born gay(if you are gay) . Like if gay people get so much crap for likeing the same sex and it was a chose dont you think they would choose to like oppsite.
gotskinnyjeans 5 months ago
I like what sarahr0407 said - we're "born fabulous . . . work it and be damn proud of it."
As for me, it's been part of me for as long as I've been conscious of being. But I did a helluva job of hiding it for years.
trisshandy 5 months ago
so i am gay and my personal belief is that we are born gay because of overpopulation. basicly rhinoes and a lot of other animals produce less sperm when they're overpopulated and we do the same thing except we produce more gays instead to stop overpopulation and thats why there are more and more gays with each generation because the amount of ppl has rose tremendously. idk just a theory
poop71894 5 months ago
You could be born straight but be fucked up by a girl so bad or traumatized by one that you turn gay... or u might just see a rele gross ugly vagina and THEN turn gay
ilovemidna222 5 months ago
@ilovemidna222 i dont think that happens O.O and if it does, VERY rarely. cause im gay, always have been, and ive seen a some pretty disgusting penises, yet i am stilll attracted to men =)
Yci 5 months ago
@ilovemidna222 yah ur right...it was supposed to be a bad joke from the pits of my twisted mind :D
ilovemidna222 5 months ago
Just saying, I'm not gay but some of my guy friends are. I 100% agree with this that gay people are born being gay. Most people would ague saying they chose to be that way. But where are the scientific facts? And I think it was Luan who said this, and I quote : "Go up to any gay person. They will tell you that they did not choose" And if they did choose to be gay, that means you must have chose to be straight. And when exactly did you choose to be straight? .. I rest my case.
kristakayx21 5 months ago
@kristakayx21 I completely agree. My best friend is gay and a couple years ago I had a really close friend of mine hide the fact she was gay because her girlfriend's parents found out and things just got rough. People these days give other people such a hard time for being a little different...why would ANYONE choose to be gay if they knew that some people are so horrible?
xLITTLEMISSMONSTERx 5 months ago
i remember having crushes on all the boys my sis "dated" when we were young XD
norlack89 5 months ago
Well the science suggests that you are indeed born gay - Over the last 20 years there has been a significant increase in research at molecular genetics level - these data show that sexual orientation is determined by a combination of genetics interacting with hormones in the womb - Upbringing, childhood experience and personal choice have little or nothing to do with it.
hispid1 5 months ago
Yeah, we're born gay and there's nothing anyone can do to change it. There's no "becoming" gay, there's no "used to be gay". In my opinion.
JaylaCucu 5 months ago
what if it's the next stage in human evolution/development/whatever you want to call it. hmm?
greenafy 5 months ago
In retrospect, yes I was always Gay; but living in rural Ohio, I was not aware that it was POSSIBLE to be gay.
CatotheCensor1 5 months ago
I'm positive that I was born gay. I've always known since I was 4 that I liked the same gender. Actually when I came out to my mom, she gave me a GIGANTIC list of people in the family who are also gay.
Guess it can also be genetic lol
YoitevsKira 5 months ago
I was born naked... yep and that is how I'm going to stay ;)
oritreesan 5 months ago 53
i agree with you
We were all born with the propensity for cock
dogbhae 5 months ago
oh darren, its impossible for anyone to jack ur swag <3
MegaMusiclover321 5 months ago
I think people are born fabulous. Whatever the hell you may be, work it and be damn proud of it.
sarahr0407 5 months ago 75
@sarahr0407 Best comment ever.
JollyGreen303 5 months ago
jack my swagg???
MY JEANS MY JEANS MY JEANS!
CalmYourMuffin 5 months ago
i believe u are born w/ your sexual preference. its not like one day I woke up and decided to like guys. ive always like them. i do think there are few instances where things in a person's past steer them towards a different sexuality. i know a couple females who were raped/abused by men when they were younger and therefore they learned to distrust men and ended up being lesbians. but i think for the most part you are born gay or whatever
jbarum 5 months ago
I don't really know/care whether people are born gay or not. That may have came out as sort of mean, but I didn't want it to sound like that. I just think that the only thing that matters is your character and whether or not it continues to grow as you get older.
Sexuality, gender, race, etc have nothing to do with your character.
LenasLosingSleep 5 months ago
Indeed ppl can be born gay just as ppl can be born bi ..... It's not a choice to most but rather just who they are... I should know. But either way it should not matter choice or not ppl should be treated equally no matter who they love
Myregularasslife 5 months ago
I believe I was born gay or bi. whatever the fuck i am, I have nothing to be ashamed and/or afraid of
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I believe gay people were born gay. :)
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I know for sure that I was BORN gay. I mean why and how would a child choose to feel attraction for the same sex? When you're that young you're not even exposed or even know what same sex attraction is or know that it exists. I've always felt different, and always felt that "connection" to boys, in a way that I don't feel for girls. Always been this way, always will be.
spirit2fusion 5 months ago 2
I'm of the opinion that this is a mute argument. Whether we are born gay or not, it shouldn't matter. I'm not saying this is how you are using it, but some gays use the "I'm born this way" as an excuse; it can come off as if they're saying "I can't help it." I know this is nit-picky, but it's an unproductive message. However I became this way, I am gay. Dwelling on the cause is a distraction from excepting it and moving on with my life.
CalebWandering 5 months ago 3
@CalebWandering I know this is nit-picky, but it's "moot argument." I used to make that same mistake until somebody set me straight...so to speak ;)
dafttool 5 months ago
@dafttool Damn! Thanks for pointing that out. And would you believe I edit other people's writing for a living? #karma
CalebWandering 5 months ago
@CalebWandering Well, geez, if you thank me for that, what will say when its "a distraction from ACCEPTING it" :P Sorry, I swear I'm not a grammar nazi, but I did use to be a teacher (science). It's a hard habit to get out of.
dafttool 5 months ago
@dafttool oops...it's not its. See, nobody's perfect.
dafttool 5 months ago
@dafttool Understandable. And critique away. I won't take it personally. It's cathartic to write comments and spell incorrectly. A good reprieve from my job. I'll do it more often and give you something to look forward to on AGAD videos.
CalebWandering 5 months ago
Both my sister and my mother told me they've known I was gay since I was little - apparently I was a flaming queen ever since I came out of the womb.
gregvstheuniverse 5 months ago 2
I think people are born gay. Just like I was born straight. I always have liked guys, and I always will. I'm never going to like girls like that. I can't change that.
corporalgiroro96 5 months ago 2
@corporalgiroro96 what??? u i think u said that wrong...
Hector95100 5 months ago
I was. I knew I was gay before I knew the word for it. True story.
dafttool 5 months ago 3
wooooooot
claireee1231 5 months ago
Love the Haircut <3
AlecTheIntern 5 months ago
I try not to question whether or not I was born gay. Because really, whether I'm genetically gay or whether it was caused by something in my environment, what difference does it make? I'm gay either way, and there's nothing I can do to change it (if I wanted to).
DoctorSpaceman89 5 months ago 42
@DoctorSpaceman89 This is pretty much exactly how I feel. I mean I can guess that I was born gay, but whether I'm right or not doesn't change the fact that I am in fact gay and that can't be changed.
You're my spirit animal.
JollyGreen303 5 months ago
I notice a lot of people who say there is no gay gene in our DNA. but humans have glands that can go astray, brains are wired before birth, and other medical factors enter into our orientation. So yes I believe we can be born gay.
megictx 5 months ago
Idk... Cause I was raised by only females and never had a father figure. So it's hard to think if I was born this way or taught to be this way.. But whatever, I don't think anybody really knows.
kevinskater11 5 months ago
I'm gay and when I was a little boy I felt a "connection" to my male peers that I didn't feel towards my female peers. My first "crush" was in first grade. He was new to the school and when I first saw him on the first day of school I felt an excitement that I had never experienced before.
GayGoth919 5 months ago
i was born gay for sure. every halloween, pink power ranger.
GeminiSecret 5 months ago 6
@GeminiSecret: haha, well my brother wanted to be a pink power ranger 1 year but my parents told 'em he couldnt be. he's older than me (so I just kno the story, don't actually remember), but still. My bro's not gay though. And I know this might sound stereotypical, but he can "look" gay. I mean, he doesn't wear feminine clothing but i think a lotta skinny guys who wear sweaters or something can "look" gay. I dunno how to explain it, but if my brother actually were gay...u could see it. O.o
Insaneymaney2 5 months ago
I think it's biological. Adults who know me since I was little (i.e. family, teachers, etc.) say they've always known since I was a little kid. It's always been there.
And also, if nurture would be a factor, how do we explain the gay people who grow up in environments saying being gay is wrong? Like in very strict Christian circles. The person might repress his feelings, because he's learned that it's "wrong", but he's still going to be gay and know it deep down. It's just something within us.
Goten1992 5 months ago
*ponders typing content* *opinions to long for comment... considers making video...*
alegitproduction 5 months ago
I'm sure I was born gay because I was never attracted by girls, all my friends were boys and I think a had a few crushes on my straight friends. But all this happened at a time I still didn't know I was gay. There happened so many things over the time I didn't understand which now makes sense to me. When walking around I always looked at the good looking boys but didn't know why. I grew up in a very homobphic/religious surrounding and didn't match any of these typical stereotypes I know about.
rschuerer 5 months ago
i definitely relate to this rendition of how one is born gay......because, i can honestly say, that this is exactly how it was for me as well. one exception in my case worth mentioning though, even at that very young age, i had an overwhelming fondness for feet......and of course, to this day, i find nice looking feet on cute guys totally HOT ! :)
excellent video and great topic!
smurfit24 5 months ago
yeah i know some guys who knew they were gay when they were like 5... i think i knew when i was about 11-12.. cant remember that far behind really, lol x
GORDONCAMPBELL 5 months ago
You're my favorite GAD, but if you said that you guys have been criticized for not having any LGBT themes, don't you think your first one in a while should have been a little bit longer? Not counting the technical stuff about the days being rearranged, you really only talked about this fora minute.
Fell4Ever 5 months ago
I last read that it was to do with hormones whilst in the womb. I definitely don't believe it is a choice because like you I can remember liking guys from a very young age. Always watching films and just noticing the cute blonde guys more than any other aspect
MrTwentington 5 months ago
What a coincidence! We're just talking about stuff like this in my anthro, psych, and soc class. Not homosexuality specifically, but nature vs nurture... I believed it before that but now even moreso that we are born gay. It's encoded in our DNA. Things like hatred and how to be a parent are taught, but our sexuality happens to be one of the many things that we're born with.
Simzak8168 5 months ago
@Simzak8168 There is no "gay" gene. This same misconception is what leads alot of the homophobes to justify calling us abnormal or freaks of nature. You cannont have homosexuality, heterosexuality, bisexuality, pansexuality etc. in your DNA. Not saying its a choice its just not a genetic thing.
hender112233 5 months ago
@hender112233 Have you heard of any twin studies? Identical twins, who share DNA, were separated at birth, grew up to lead lives that were virtually the same, with the same interests, similar jobs, family life etc. I like to believe that we make our own decisions and have some element of choice in our life. But there's more and more evidence pointing towards a lot of it being in our DNA. If it influences so many other aspects of our lives. Why not our sexual preference?
Simzak8168 5 months ago
@hender112233 Not saying either of us are right or wrong. It just happens to be what I'm learning in school and what I believe :)
Simzak8168 5 months ago
@hender112233 according to twin studies (identical, not fraternal), if one is gay, there is a 52% the other is as well. DNA is not the sole cause of sexuality, in fact, no one knows for sure. if you take psychology, you learn that everything is not the cause of one thing but of multiple factors (not nature vs nurture, but nature AND nurture). so to say that it doesn't have any influence is wrong.
albertchang2011 5 months ago
I ask most of my gay friends this question simply because I am curious. Have you ever been romantically involved with a girl? some of my friends have and some havent. I would love to hear your take on this :)
cehewa 5 months ago
@cehewa i know you're asking simon, but i just want to offer my personal story and opinion. I've never been romantically involved with a girl. I've definitely thought about asking a girl out, but just to fit in, because everyone at my school was hooking up, i didn't want to be left out. but for me, i just knew. i know some people have to 'experiment', but it's as concrete as i am a male or as concrete as you are straight. you just know
albertchang2011 5 months ago
@albertchang2011 lol im so sorry, didn't mean simon, i meant darren! <3 you darren
albertchang2011 5 months ago
@cehewa I had a girlfriend when I was 14 and have had some physical encounters with girls over the years (never anything serious, never done much more than kiss one). I've never had the same kind of emotional connection with a girl that I've had with a guy, though.
JollyGreen303 5 months ago
Need you ask?
videocrack246 5 months ago
Of course we were born gay. Sexuality may be a bit complicated, but honestly, it's only as complicated as we make it.
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I know I was born this way. Not because I had feelings from when I was really young, but because I had feelings when I hit puberty and my sexual drive began to develop. I remember never being actually attracted to girls, although I tried to fool myself that I was, but rather that I was always looking at the other boys very differently.
Centro256 5 months ago
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I think it's a combination of factors that take place while you're developing, from being in the womb to, say, age 2. Your environment can do a lot of shaping when you're a tyke, but I think the sexuality shaping stops before you start retaining memories. It's definitely not a choice, but I don't think it's solely a born this way thing. I'm a bisexual guy, bi the way.
TheWoozyFloozy 5 months ago
i think i can understand your experience because i had a similar experience. the earliest memory i have is when i was in kindergarten, wanting to hold a boy's hand and feeling extremely sad when rejected because he was holding a girl's hand! so yes, i do believe that we are born this way, for now, but i also believe it would be ignorant to ignore other possible factors, and only time will tell.
albertchang2011 5 months ago
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