4 Year Old Breakdown:WARNING:Child having a meltdown

[TheKristy243]

its so funny but sad and cute



[DRnikkiH0USE]

Aww the baby wanted to be video taped too

[Shannindhall]

@DRnikkiH0USE :)

[wayneljm]

with our first boy he would continue on like this because we always pushed the issue and hung on it to "teach" the lesson, and as time went on i learned of a wicked technique which i borrowed from my step mom that used distraction of the child's mind to get them to move on very quickly and effectively to the next thought they may have either from memory or imagination. afterward once the emotion is gone and control is regained then resume the lesson, otherwise who knows what will come out.

[Shannindhall]

@wayneljm Great advice, thanks for sharing:)

[Shannindhall]

@lolextraM Then all you have to do is click that lil' x on the screen. Its a great feature.

[PACMANnot]

The last time I remember having a tantrum like this was when I was thirteen. Don't think me as a baby at the time because around that time we found out that I had a problem with my back(turned out to be degenerative disc disease). At the time I had tried to get my grades up and the teacher refused to let me take a test I missed due to therapy saying it was 'going to cut into his coaching'. When I told my mom this she didn't believe me, and I got in trouble for it. I got angry and emotional-

[PACMANnot]

@PACMANnot

And screamed at her for not listening to me, she popped me in the mouth THEN went to email the teacher about this, who confirmed he didn't give me the test for those reasons. My mom got upset at the teacher and found out that our counselor didn't send out the notice to all the teachers about my disability and therapy and she got in trouble for it to.

You handled this situation well, I just wished my mom handled ours differently. You seem like a good mother and I applaud you for that.

[PACMANnot]

@PACMANnot

Not that my mom isn't, just sayin'.

[kristenclg]

Perfect way to handle this situation. Bravo mama!

[Shannindhall]

@kristenclg Thank you so much, Kristen for the encouragement. One day at a time..one day at a time:)

[primerodimus1]

I usually give angry lectures to parents who post videos that show their children upset because I feel that the videos embarrass the children. However, I just watched one of your other videos and I saw how cute and attractive you are, so there is no way that I can criticize you now. Are you a teacher? You look very scholarly. You would be an excellent grade school teacher because, with your daughter, you are firm but fair.

[Shannindhall]

@primerodimus1 I'm not a teacher & I'm sorry that you find it embarrassing for the child. Now, granted when she turns 8+ and ever came across this video, I'm sure she would find it a bit humiliating, but never-the-less its life & its true. I believe if your going to share the ups & downs of parenting you must show all aspects of parenting. Peyton {and all of our children} are very much loved & cheerished, but they are still children..living & learning:)

[UtubeDuDeDuh]

@Shannindhall I don't think she'll find it embarressing. Everyone that i knew who had been video taped as a toddler in timeout/tantrums laughed later in life when reviewing it. This video is hilarious btw because i know exactly how you feel LOL. I was painting my nails while listening to ''MOM I WANT YOU TO TALK TO ME'' and by the 8th time i started laughing out loud. Your doing a good job don't listen to any nutjobs on youtube. Goodluck!!

[primerodimus1]

@UtubeDuDeDuh Depending on the situation, I maybe would laugh if it were merely filmed. But I would be calling my lawyer if my parents had posted it on the internet.

[Shannindhall]

@primerodimus1 If she chooses to contact an attorney when shes older than we shall discuss it then.

[Shannindhall]

@UtubeDuDeDuh Thank you for the support. I'm used to having mixed emotions about pretty much every video I've posted. Whether it be, my tone, my approach, my opinions or any other hand full of things. I just think ultimately what would be the point with sharing if I molded to what everyone else's view of what I should be..right. This is me & our family. I've raised a 13yro. and now Peyton is coming up in the ranks .. its life. Good & bad..and I love every second of it.

[primerodimus1]

@Shannindhall You have good intentions, but posting this could have negative consequences for her. If other kids at her school ever happen to come across this video, it could cause her to be bullied. Kids can be very mean and they will exploit every weakness that they can get their hands on. There's even a possibility that this video could affect her standing with future employers, teachers, and college admission officers; you'll be surprised over what people will hold against each other.

[primerodimus1]

@Shannindhall Also, ask yourself this: How would you feel if you were this upset over something and someone filmed you and posted it on the web so that everyone could see it? Anyway, your video isn't as bad as other ones that I have seen. During a meltdown, some parents actually chase and follow their children around the house and provoke them even when their children are clearly trying to hide and avoid the camera. And luckily, you're not getting any of those ignorant, "beat her ass comments."

[Shannindhall]

@primerodimus1 Can completely understand that part of the argument & if & when that day comes she can discuss it with me & ultimately if she would like me to remove the video, than no questions asked it would be gone But, never-the-less Peyton is loved & respected even as a 5yro. & her opinion will always be considered.

[michelledemarsh]

Id use planned ignoring tell her 1x then ignor her until she is calm, basically what you did! Its perfect to be honest! The tantrum time will decrease each time!

[mosesMATRIXyeon]

Ahh I remember back when I used to do that. That little girl is lucky! I woulda gotten soap in my mouth

[primerodimus1]

@mosesMATRIXyeon Putting soap in a child's mouth is abuse. Nuff' said!

[Shannindhall]

@mosesMATRIXyeon My mom's parenting style was "if it came out of your mouth, thats where you get the punishment" in other words we would get popped in our mouths. So, I can completely relate with having harder more "hands on" punishments.

[primerodimus1]

@Shannindhall I used to hit my parents back and get into physical fights with them where we would be rolling around on the floor beating the crap out of each other.

[Shannindhall]

@primerodimus1 I did not spank Peyton during this? Nor did I even see a moment where I needed to spank her.

[primerodimus1]

@Shannindhall And that's why spanking doesn't work, especially with a highly defiant child. It becomes a parent-child fight--one that the parent, even with superior size and strength, may not win.

[MrDZWest]

Lol, in about 12 years this is going to be the other way around.

[Shannindhall]

@MrDZWest I sure hope not ;)

[Shannindhall]

@SuperNonBelieber Awe, thank you. Its one of those situations to where anyone could show improvement, yano.

[vidmasterx7]

im not udging your parenting but the tone of voice you were suing while she was crying i get used on all the time with my tutor and it just pisses me off personally like i do not know if that has the same effect with your child but im just saying have u ever liek tryed loweing the town in a more calm tone then stern

[Shannindhall]

@vidmasterx7 Oh, I don't feel judged at all..no worries. I'm sure every parenting technique ALWAYS has room for improvement..definitely. Thank you for your input.

[UtubeDuDeDuh]

@vidmasterx7 She's doing it absoloutly correct. You're soppose to have a 'stern' voice when you're talking to a kid that's in timeout/in trouble. Even the experts say it. Unless it's a toddler around two-ish. But this girl is around 5 or 6 i assume so the mother is doing it absoloutly right. You seem younger though (by your spelling) so you'll understand when you get older.

[EosMom]

I totally appreciate this! I have to do the same thing to my daughter! I will not acknowledge her wants, or "demands" until we can TALK without screaming and whining, or crying! VERY WELL DONE MOMMA!!! Don't give in...and I LOVE THE WAY you talked afterwards! GOOD MOMMY! :) LOVE IT!

[primerodimus1]

@EosMom Screaming and whining can be controlled, but crying is an instantaneous emotional response. You should cut you daughter some slack in that area.

[Shannindhall]

@newbiejessica Haha, maybe so :)

[AlwaysAnAngel123]

That must have been a "temper tantrum day" because my oldest video taped my 3yr old having a huge temper tantrum in the Walmart parking lot the same day. lol Fun age(s)

[MommaBeiler]

2:32 almost makes me want to cry lol

[Shannindhall]

@MommaBeiler It only breaks my heart that she gets so angry.

[MommaBeiler]

@Shannindhall yeah your right! thanks for sharing this video! now i did fast forward a bit... how do u get her to calm down enough to talk?

[Shannindhall]

@MommaBeiler Ultimately to be honest I don't address her untill shes calmed down. Thats where the patience on our behalf begins. Cause she can be on the stool for 30 seconds or 1 hour. Just depends on her. When the temper flairs I simply kneal down to her eye level explain I'm not going to talk with her while shes yelling or screaming and she will sit on the time-out stool still shes able to speak with me without screaming or yelling.

[MommaBeiler]

@Shannindhall thank you for the tips! :)

[Launderlife]

Wow, I hope your hubby appreciated your hard day. Poor Peyton had a hard day too! You handled it perfectly though. Thank you for sharing this vid. :)

[Shannindhall]

@Launderlife Oh, yes.. I let him watch it and he just kept saying. "oh momma I'm sorry"..lol. It sounds and looks so horrible, but hey this is life. God gave us the trust to raise these little humans, I'm okay :)

[elisam34]

She sounds just like my 4 yr old, it's a hard age isn't it?

[Shannindhall]

@elisam34 Yes, by far 4 years old is the toughest age...

[BaileyandPypersmom]

You handled that like a pro :)

[Shannindhall]

@BaileyandPypersmom Thank you so much for the support :D

[Babyfullable]

glad im having a boy lol girls are so different my younger sister used to act like this lol

[Shannindhall]

@Babyfullable Don't jinx yourself...I have a few friends that their little guys have caused premature grey hairs..lol. Now, I did get lucky with Lee..his personality is exact opposite of Peyton's:)

[Babyfullable]

@Shannindhall hahha so true but kids will be kids lol (:

[sechurch619]

You are a great mama, this reminds me of our 10 year old. When she was 5-8 she would throw fits like this. One day I put her in her room because she was kicking and screaming at everyone. Just breathe. Girls are something else I tell ya, You did an great job at the way you handle this.

[Shannindhall]

@sechurch619 Thank you so much for the support :) I have to believe that if this determination is put to a proper direction shes going to be very successful in any challenge thats placed in her way..lol :D

[sechurch619]

@Shannindhall I agree.

[smleblanc1]

Your a good mama!! :)

[Shannindhall]

@smleblanc1 Thank you, Shannon..ditto:D

[koehlerfamilync]

I think you handled that so well thanks so much for sharing!

[Shannindhall]

@koehlerfamilync Thank you so much for the support :)

[misstiav8581]

Thanks for sharing, it takes me sooooo much longer to calm my 4 year old. You handled that great!

[Shannindhall]

@misstiav8581 Awe, thank you for the support. Trust me...I think the longest a tantrum lasted was an hour and a half...keep up the great work momma!

[ljewkes]

how the heck do you get her to stay on the chair, I can't get olivia to stay there in time out! she is not afraid at all, she throws things, kicks the walls and screams it's the worst! any suggestions, tricks!?

[Shannindhall]

@ljewkes Shear determination on my behalf..honestly. She used to test the limit and get up, run off, but I would walk her back or one time carried her back to the stool. Trust me ... we've had a session last an hour & half so I know how you feel. Ultimately we can break the pattern..they only learn by consistancy..its tough, but its a must.

[ljewkes]

oh how fun! I would record Olivia's melt downs so that she could watch herself, she was a lot worse than this!

[Shannindhall]

@ljewkes I haven't shown Peyton simply because I don't want to give the tantrum any attention to be honest, buuuttt I did tell Wes we're going to burn it to disc and when shes a grown woman I'm going to wrap it as a gift & pass it on to her..lol

[MommaPiano]

You handled that so well, thanks for posting. It's nice to see everyone goes through it at some point;0)

[Shannindhall]

@MommaPiano One of those "true life" moments :D

[mommiesblessing5]

My 4 year old daughter had those kind of melt downs all the time.

[Shannindhall]

@mommiesblessing5 Well, then you understand. Its a tough moment in mommy world :)

[8minaa8]

excellent!

[Shannindhall]

@8minaa8 I know .. right?!

[alandamandamama]

You are such a great mom!! I love how you talk her through talking about the emotion instead of screaming.

[Shannindhall]

@alandamandamama Thank you for the great support, Amanda! Yes, definitly .. I'm trying to teach her that shes allowed to be angry or upset, but the screaming & shouting is not the way to express it.

[JSSmith4273]

Great parenting skills Shannon. My oldest never did this but I am waiting to see how Nik will do. :)

[Shannindhall]

@JSSmith4273 I'm going to stay hopeful that you don't have to experience this :) Thanks for the support!

[Megan1O2O]

My daughter is the same way. She will be 5 in a few months. My friends tell me the "terrible 4's" only get worse...... nice, right?

[Shannindhall]

@Megan1O2O Well, we're just going to speak in into exsistance..I'm BELIEVING that Peyton will learn to cope properly as she matures (wishful think..lol, but never-the-less a momma can pray..right?!)

[Megan1O2O]

@Shannindhall Oh Momma - I understand. I pray often that my daughter grows and can cope with her emotions properly. She starts preschool in a few weeks..... whew, it's going to be fun. Best wishes. :)

[MissLea922]

Sounds like my kids. I know what your going through. I have a 4 year old and 2 year old. Just as I am watching this video guess what my 2 year old did? She smashed the livingroom lamp and broke a picture on the wall. I almost lost it...lol.

[Shannindhall]

@MissLea922 1st off my heart goes out to ya:) I've learned with Peyton the less emotional I become during the moment the most receptive she is. It may take her a bit..but she learns that I am not going to address her during these moments of lost control.

[MissLea922]

@Shannindhall I agree...you did a good job. Thats how I would have handled it too.

[danielle002599]

This is such a true moment...almost every mom has to go through this at one time or another, I'm sure some mom out there will learn something from this video, Thanks for posting :)

[Shannindhall]

@danielle002599 Thank you so much for the awesome support. Its the kind of moment we hate to admit, but never the less all experience at some degree:)

[lizseibert2436]

glad im not the only one that shows all the aspects...some ppl will hate, but they will get over it...keep being a great mommy :)

[Shannindhall]

@lizseibert2436 Awe, thank you:) I figured it that parenting embodies all aspects..even complete meltdowns..right :) Thanks for the support.

[mrsed10]

She is a cutie. I definitely can wait for this as well.

[Shannindhall]

@mrsed10 I hope you don't have to experience one of these extreme meltdowns, but if you do know your not alone!

[MBShrewsbury]

So very REAL!! Love this.. And I love how you explain to her about not getting loud and yelling. Great job mom!!! 5 STARS!!!

[Shannindhall]

@MBShrewsbury Thank you, Britney!  Shes only had a hand full of these extreme melt downs, but I literally have to say silent prayers to myself to stay calm, since in those moments shes wanting any type of attention..even negative attention and I just refuse to acknowledge it.

[kaityykid]

LOL... I think I can wait for this :P

[Shannindhall]

@kaityykid Hopefully you won't have to experience this..lol. Every kiddo is different. Lee never had complete melt downs, now don't get me wrong he had his moments, but Peyton is a very determined, spirited little girl. I just pray her determination makes her very successful in life :)

[kaityykid]

@Shannindhall Hahaha I hope so too :) She's still cute though and I love that she brought the chocolate milk outside lol!