a lot of social interactions involves the attitude you bring into it... i've found...i'm still trying to learn how to talk to people...but the worst thing that you can do...is start off a conversation with the thought that you will sabotage it...it will come off in your body language unconsciously and people may misinterpret it for something negative...idk...that's what I found...the best thing you can do is ignore your fears and be positive about talking to people...
You are so beautiful! I admire how you deal ith rude people that throw their anger at you. You are so gorgeous and nice. That is hard to find. I wish I knew you personally. I would marry you in a heartbeat.
This describes me perfectly and because of this, I have no life and no friends. I don't exist to anyone and I think I'm better off dead tbh. so yeah it's kinda hard for me to think positive.
My name is felix and I have social anxiety. When i stand outside class waiting to be let in, i get nervous about others standing alogn and i always get paranoid about what they think of me and my bp rises off the roof and my ears get all red. This makes me even more nervous and causing me to be even more anxious where every second feels like a minute and I almost feel like a hear attack. I just want to stay at home with the internet and get food and stuff delivered to me all my life.
Don't judge yourself so hard sweet heart. Maybe you're not that funny, so what. People who are naturally funny need people who are laughers or people who they can be funny with so be one of those. Nothing wrong with being serious, some of the greatest people ever were serious.
The way to positive enlightenment is to be with people that would not judge u, accept u, and would encourage u. That was a rare thing when I had my social anxiety. My mind was my own enemy and there was no one intelligent to encourage me but judge me and think Im weird..
It is a hard thing to get over but u will thanks to the help of ignorant ppl. They make u want to prove them wrong and they make u stronger.
i hate it when i finally let myself loose and i eavesdrop a negative comment about me... it's completely shattering and cripples me for the rest of the day, possibly week, or even month...
so when she says you cant trust yourself im thinking.....umm if you cant trust yourself then who do you trust when you cant trust anyboy else?? i mean i know she means well but still lets get real
Wait, epiphany!!! Don't be afraid to laugh AT YOURSELF!!! Not funny enough? Moping around thinking about how much you suck? Well then go out and be terrible. Enjoy yourself, laugh at yourself and have others laugh with you.
Okay, first. If you are good looking, people are more likely to feel shy or uncomfortable than laugh at what you say. Secondly, being a bit mad doesn't hurt your chances, and it helps to understand what kind of things the people around you laugh at. Thirdly, don't be afraid to be creepy, when you exaggerate certain things or make a sly fleeting comment, certain people will react differently, some bad and good. And finally, don't be anxious to look like an idiot. People will respect your guts :)
I'm VERY funny and the funniest in my group of friends and ima girl :D I'm also outgoing and everything but sometimes I'm to serious and think I'm being judged a lot in public.. xD But still yeah I'm pretty outgoing when with friends
Firstly, no one cares if women are funny or witty. Sure its a plus but very rare in women. Secondly, even if you are not funny when you are young you may get funny with age. Hang out with funny people and it will rub off on you.
You shuldnt hate yourself :( let me say it as it is: Your beautfiful, you have a wonderful voice' your funny, your problaly smart'' and your really worth watching on youtube :).
I'm a schizoid I really want to work on expressing my emotions in a more obvious way. for the rare instances when I do socialize it is a better experience for the other person. I speak very much like you and am unable to feel true anger, surprise or passion. If I can get the words out I can be funny though, provided it's dry dark humor that doesn't depend on delivery.
I am satisfied with who I am, but I feel I am held back sometimes.
well i am boring :P ,i thought many of my acquaintances were kind of evil because many know where i live and they didn't visit me,i was so exigent, but one day i visited one classmate (because i wanted an explanation of accountancy) and then i heard his conversation with more people and i saw how common people talk, so different from me, i am quite sad but not as much as many years ago,maybe i am tired of be sad and i accept it now,but now i love watching asian popular culture,alone in my house
@NoSocialAnxiety Hi there Emily. Just wanted to tell you that I would die a happy man if I was friends with a lovely girl like you for even 10 minutes. I guess pretty girls have their share of problems too... :( If anyone tells you you're not funny or too boring, PLEASE don't listen to them.
@Emadov12121 You just had to throw in a insult before a compliment didn't you? :-/ Oh well...I think her videos are beautiful!! AND she is a beautiful person!! 2 positives! YAYYAYAY!!
Serious, not serious, boring or funny. Those are just simple words. The thing is who tells it to you. I often heard that I am too serious, boring and not funny, but then other people just love me for who I am and know that I am totally the opposite of what others say. In my oppinion, you might be serious, boring and not funny to some kids of your age, but to me you seem really mature and that is nothing to be ashamed of. People who call you boring and so on, are just not on your mental level!
@NoSocialAnxiety I'd rather you didn't make assumptions about my character. Sorry about the first comment, it was unreasonably rude. I was just angry at the time because I find it insulting to have crippling problems simplified by - lets face it - ignorant people. You are obviously well meaning but you know nothing. You don't threaten me, you frustrate me. You reinforce my belief that there really is no solution to the social inadequacy with which some of us are burdoned.
@Piccadillyo You're right it was probably not totally fair to make an assumption about your character. Well it's true there are many areas I am ignorant in. You're right that Maybe I am an ignorant person.
thanks to pieces of advice,i tell you a 99.9 social axiety disorder,its simply you cannot smile you look awkward,i like serious things why because this day i dont like happy conversation even i like talking spiritual thinks,now i thing i have bi polar disorder but i dont like medication,now anyone tell me if you have an awkward smile
...I just wish I was like those jerks who laugh at people and stuff... They're terrible people, but they are happy and people like them (even though I see no reason why...)
And I'm really glad there are other people like me. Not that I want them to suffer as well, but it's good to relate to someone (I hope you know what I mean). So thank you for making these videos. =)
By the way, you are beautiful! (I don't just throw it around like some people, I mean it. ;)
I also have social anxiety disorder. It's totally the same with me! When I try to talk to people, I ususally say like two sentences and then I don't know wht else to say. So I'm quiet. And I don't understand at all how all those people can talk and talk and talk... It kills me watching everyone laugh together or hanging out, when I just sit there by myself, having noone to understand me...
I agree with @papayakidd. You are a very likeable person. Watching this video made me want to encourage you to dissipate this fears, and doubts that are really all in your head. But if you don't overcome these believes they become a self-fulfilling prophecy, when you are being social. Take it from me.
Are you a teenager who is looking to find success and happiness in your life? I am too so come check out my Channel. I offer a lot of valueable advice and help you go beyond "Just Potential"
Don't feel bad... Girls are incapable of being funny, taking a joke, playing sports, keeping friends, driving, defending themselves, holding their liquro, haning out and not whining and bitching about everything or having a good time! So, really... You're lack of a sense of humor is the very LEAST of your worries.
Thank you so much for this video! What you are describing is so familiar to me which is very relieving. I am very impressed of you for being so brave and share this here - as someone else said - I am sure that this is helping many others who are feeling low and unworthy and breaks up their isolation. Thank you, I think you are great!
It is true that you don't have to be funny when talking to people. When I'm talking to guys, I don't really give a shit if I make them laugh or not. When I'm talking to women, It feels like I'm boring them if I'm not funny. It sucks... but thanks for making this video. I now realize that not being funny doesn't really matter :)
Did you just go in circles for 4 minutes talking about the same subject over and over or maybe i didn't pay enough attention? anyway, not everyone can be funny and make everyone laugh and attract everyone, or tell jokes and make everyone laugh (i'm very bad at telling jokes), but you don't need to be funny to be interesting, while others attract friends by being clowns you can attract ppl with mature, interesting and important conversations. Sorry for the long post.
Wtf? You remind me myself, Just don't make too much fuss about it , Become a little Arrogant for just one second or two, let your emotions out, show them what you think about them and Don't be so timid, it sucks , the world ain't so discipline as you think it is , that i have learned at first hand and one person shooter :)
So, I'm making YouTube videos now, but they're not me trying to be funny like everyone else on youtube. I'm actually really serious and not funny at all. To be honest, I'm trying to make a difference in the lives of people who are unsuccessful by giving advice. I wish I wasn't so serious though.
hard to believe someone is so much of an idiot to tell you you're boring or not funny enough. He or she does not worth being taken seriously. You worry about something you should not be conscious about.
i have some advise...gtfoi GET THE FUCK OVER IT!!! ur not funny...well ok nobody cares....just show ur boobs and shut up...and MAYBE people would like u
good video and positive answers to a not so good situation. I have the exact thoughts your talking about and think to much into things which can be annoying.
Are you clear now of social anxiety, I am on my way up now just coming out of depression and now i just have to work on my social anxiety kind of phobia now. Thanks and hope you are good now :)
sometimes i found serious people more interesting. we can discuss something and we share our thought, and sometimes we laugh together.
i'm in college now and have friends who like to jokes around. they like it and always laugh but sometimes i don't get it. which part is funny?? they laugh at a same thing over and over again. and their joke is just too much. at first, i thought maybe i was too serious but ALL people around me said that my friends are just like a children.
I feel most of us social phobics are very deep thinkers. It benefits us that it keeps us out of trouble or getting sucked into cons, but it also keeps us from living an everyday life, because we overanalyize even the smallest of things in a negative fashion, aka "paranoia"
Hey, you know what works to appear funny from time to time? This is what i do. Get all the hate for others and self-loathing that runs in your mind. Even stuff you try your best to suppress. Think of the most insane stupid ignorant things to say that you may not even believe. It will be so off the wall that AT LEAST it will make you laugh. AND when you laugh people will be inclined to either fuck off or laugh with you. If they fuck off then good, they are a waste of time. It works though.
Have you tried meditation, yoga or mental exercises? They might be able to reduce anxiety, insecurity or anxiety. Google them or contact me as a last resort! God it's depressing to see so many people who think deep in pain.
Have you tried meditation, yoga or mental exercises? They might be able to reduce anxiety, insecurity or anxiety. Google them or contact me as a last resort!
your too hot to have social anxiety! lol I have SAD too, I used to think that the only way i could get a G.F is to find one that has my problem (SAD or shyness) but after thinking about it, that would be twice the problem because we'd be scared of each other!lol Boy I got to unlearn this bad habit (SAD), I really hope you do too : )
Has anyone suggested the scientific approach? A Neurofeedback specialist can analyze the problem by looking at the brain activity. If you have severe activity causing your thoughts to race this will cause severe anxiety. Neurofeedback can unlock the brain. My son has had 26 sessions and is feeling extremely better.
This is the fault of western culture. It makes you feel worthless if you do not conform to certain things. Be this, be that, don't be this, don't be that. There's is no such thing as boring in the east. People accept you as you are.
Where there's love, there's no comparison. Don't compare yourself to anyone in social behavior. It does not matter if you are serious. I personally, like the serious type of people. I also find serious women more attractive. Everyone has something to contribute.
@celtic4ever18 exactly. Thinking too much about some issues more or less important is just not good. Just be yourself, laugh when you want, be silent when you want. If you have some serious issues and stuff going through your mind, try to write it down, or just create a new idea, even poem, painting, drawing, listen to music.
Dont analyze situations too much....or write a detective story instead:-)
@celtic4ever18 So how can we stop thinking too much? Thats my biggest problem and I'm honest enough to admit that I'm letting it ruin my life. I would like to go out make some new friends and stuff but my anxiety keeps wrecking my confidence.
Thank you for putting yourself out there like this- for taking a risk like that- with the hope of reaching and helping people like me. I am here because I am seeking support, and I feel I have found it.
Please read the books: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not understand this, and only offer extrovert solutions, like talking to others about it. Please read the books and get your answers from someone who is like you. I am proud to be an introvert and highly sensitive person now that I know the truth about why and how to handle it.
I am just about to start cognitive behavioural therapy, or CBT, on the NHS in the U.K for social anxiety and depression. If anyone is interested in what its like and what it can do, i would be happy to make a video diary of my progess, so let me know if people are interested.
Cheers guys, and good luck, we're all gonna get through this.
@LastNYCHero If you want to see one of us live going through our natural process im guessing you should visit a university lecture and observe those who sit at the back; cause that's where I usually sit...
wow your so boringgggg but its not like im watching this video for entertainment anyway, no watching this video for information i don't expect an exciting video
You know what? I don't think you're too serious or boring. There was something about you that made me want to stay and watch this video til the very end :) And even though this video is just of you talking, to me it's definitely more attention-grabbing than some other videos with a lot loud voices and special effects. I think that you're real and that you're not faking what you're saying. Something about your shyness makes people want to hang onto your every word :) Keep keepin' it real. :)
its gruops of people especially gruops of random people that youve never met before that really makes the anxiety kick in your right about wanting to be accepted by other people and usualy your the only one that wont accept yourself ... but if its just your really close friends you can act how u normally would because of your comfortable environment and you know they accept you obviously because they're your close friends. i guess im saying i understand
Everyone has the capacity to be funny, some peoples timing is just off, or they have a warped sense of humor that other people wouldnt understand, im just lucky to have a good friends where i actually CAN be fun and funny around, everyone has it, just find someone like you... Also great insights =) love and peace
I have been told I'm too serious. I'm 33 years old and I still struggle with my shyness. I am only myself around people I'm comfortable with. I have recently come across a motivational speaker named Les Brown, you should listen to some of his vids. He'll change the way you think. You can change, I'm shy but I still know how to have fun. If you don't change, your life will pass you buy. It's all about personal developement. You can do it!! Don't let anyone's opinion of you become your reality.
Read Joyce Meyer's book called Power thoughts. If you think that you are too serious, boring and not funny enough then it will manifest itself in reality. Seriously read this book and change the way you think about yourself. She gives 12 power thoughts to meditate on. It's a process changing negative/wrong thinking patterns, but it's definitely worth it. It's working for me.
your better than most people i would assume at describeing how you feal being honest with yourself must have gave you a better understanding in accepting what is out of place.
im not funny :/ i am though, kinda when im drunk. when im not worrying about what people think, its like my social anxiety isnt there. well it is, but not really. im not saying to get drunk. im saying, i feel boring too. i know exactly what youre talking about. it takes time to TRULY realize this, but being yourself and accepting yourself fixes this. good luck and remember youre not alone.
Don't be so hard on yourself. If one of your friends wasn't funny, I'm sure you would find good in them. You have so much to offer. Look for the good in yourself, I'm sure you'll be amazed with what you find.
@vipmousasi People with social anxiety are socially weak point. But since we all have strenghts and weaknesses, they probably are stronger than you in other aspects of life. Most probably intelligence for exemple since you dont seem to have alot to post something like that, I'd rather be more intelligent and understand more things in this world than to be a good clown and bully like you ^^
@vipmousasi thats such an ignorant view of things. you dont put people down for being physically unwell so whats the difference with being mentally unwell?? clearly you arent speaking from any sort of experience or teaching so what gives you any authority to judge people??
It's soo annoying that some people only get to see the boring serious me! Only people I feel comfortable around see the real me, I wish there was some medication for SA that actually worked!
yeah it sucks i'm a good looking guy and my anxiety gets in the way of me living it up. my mouth gets dry. i feel dizzy and worst is i feel like throwing up and that makes me even more scared. Than i start feeling really weak.
I feel like serious people actually think about things in a deeper way than most, and because the others don't understand it becomes unpleasant for them or something, either way it's not your responsibility to entertain anyone with simplistic thinking.
@movadoband I disagree; from what I've seen/heard it seems the people of great intelligence don't take themselves or life too seriously.
Above average intellects will discover nihilism, but really intelligent people will realize that nihilism in its deepest form means life is no more than a game; so you may as well dance.
The funny thing is... Recently one guy I was on vacation with told me I was a very funny and relaxed guy... And when SA kicked in some days and he experienced that, he told me I was too stiff and boring. So I know that my true self (emerging when relaxed and around the right people) is funny, but SA tries to cover my true self. So fighting SA is like defending my true personality from an illness.
people who don't suffer from social disorder are not mature and i won't make friends with these people because i only make friends with people who are mature and understand one another .
WE ARE HAPPY AND WE SMILE AND WE LAUGH AT FUN THINGS
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SOCIAL ANXIETY PEOPLE WILL YOU MATURE OR WILL YOU GET DRUNK ON BEER AND FIGHT ONE ANOTHER ?
I too feel I can be too serious alot of times. I don't think a person needs to be considered funny to fit in with most people. Everybody I think can be funny in their own sort of way you just need to find the right kinda people to hang around with. I do think alot of people use humor though as a way to kinda break the ice with someone they have just met. I think you are beautiful just the way you are.
Even Though I Knew From The Beginning That I,m Not a very attractive person and no body like to hang with me now im 16 still suffering from Social anxiety i want to heal and taking steps i can't actually look in the eyes of a girl and my mind becomes blank wen i m facing a girl bcoz im not satisfied by my body language nd expresions. my expresions kinda go away and my eyes move in random directions and if i say something to her later i think that wat i've said to her DAMN!! i should'nt hve.
Hey, I think your videos are excellent! You must have a lot of courage to make them--something I certainly don't have.
Social anxiety/avoidance personality disorders are quite nasty. They sap your confidence and therefore promote isolation, which further deteriorates your social skills in a seemingly unending cycle. While I haven't been able to overcome my social issues, your videos are a welcome inspiration. :) Keep them coming.
@Lordtks What people say doesn't equal the truth. What is the real truth? Are you a cold perosn? Or is coldness possibly just a symptom of the real issue? If so you are not a cold person! And why should you feel bad for other peoples lack of understanding and knowlege?
Great Video !!!
SubConCrusher 1 day ago
u should try to crack a few kokes once and awhile and lighten up on your tone. =) people would like u more and your social life might be better
merfola21 1 day ago
a lot of social interactions involves the attitude you bring into it... i've found...i'm still trying to learn how to talk to people...but the worst thing that you can do...is start off a conversation with the thought that you will sabotage it...it will come off in your body language unconsciously and people may misinterpret it for something negative...idk...that's what I found...the best thing you can do is ignore your fears and be positive about talking to people...
6stringplaya77 4 days ago
You are so beautiful! I admire how you deal ith rude people that throw their anger at you. You are so gorgeous and nice. That is hard to find. I wish I knew you personally. I would marry you in a heartbeat.
TheRealStinkyface 1 week ago
This describes me perfectly and because of this, I have no life and no friends. I don't exist to anyone and I think I'm better off dead tbh. so yeah it's kinda hard for me to think positive.
Demonsword92 1 week ago
i would still bang you
blackraider777 1 week ago
Thank you for your videos. I am trying to get over social anxiety myself
felixthemaster1 2 weeks ago
why the fuck are u so fucking quiet????!?!!!
Aalnasser1996 3 weeks ago
how is that even a problem when you're 1.) a girl and 2.) hot?
vassillioss 3 weeks ago
wuh....feeling...
tachibana190 3 weeks ago
This sounds like me. I really feel like I may have social anxiety disorder.
WHOAitssusan 4 weeks ago
I find you utterly fascinating , & intend to study all of your videos & I think there is a hidden comedian lurking deep w/ in you !
steveyboy3333 4 weeks ago in playlist More videos from NoSocialAnxiety
ive got avoidant personality but gurl just be u cuz i get the same treatment damn she sexy 2 me holla at me all women like this
Zman3185 1 month ago
why sooo serious?
aquateenman3 1 month ago
My name is felix and I have social anxiety. When i stand outside class waiting to be let in, i get nervous about others standing alogn and i always get paranoid about what they think of me and my bp rises off the roof and my ears get all red. This makes me even more nervous and causing me to be even more anxious where every second feels like a minute and I almost feel like a hear attack. I just want to stay at home with the internet and get food and stuff delivered to me all my life.
felixthemaster1 1 month ago
Don't judge yourself so hard sweet heart. Maybe you're not that funny, so what. People who are naturally funny need people who are laughers or people who they can be funny with so be one of those. Nothing wrong with being serious, some of the greatest people ever were serious.
richeybee 1 month ago
The way to positive enlightenment is to be with people that would not judge u, accept u, and would encourage u. That was a rare thing when I had my social anxiety. My mind was my own enemy and there was no one intelligent to encourage me but judge me and think Im weird..
It is a hard thing to get over but u will thanks to the help of ignorant ppl. They make u want to prove them wrong and they make u stronger.
txl43n 1 month ago
Cute girls with social anxiety turn me on
cartotonist 1 month ago 10
i hate it when i finally let myself loose and i eavesdrop a negative comment about me... it's completely shattering and cripples me for the rest of the day, possibly week, or even month...
sigur95 1 month ago
i love u
alsahri055 1 month ago
so when she says you cant trust yourself im thinking.....umm if you cant trust yourself then who do you trust when you cant trust anyboy else?? i mean i know she means well but still lets get real
bongo613 1 month ago
Wait, epiphany!!! Don't be afraid to laugh AT YOURSELF!!! Not funny enough? Moping around thinking about how much you suck? Well then go out and be terrible. Enjoy yourself, laugh at yourself and have others laugh with you.
MrJJ4000 1 month ago
Okay, first. If you are good looking, people are more likely to feel shy or uncomfortable than laugh at what you say. Secondly, being a bit mad doesn't hurt your chances, and it helps to understand what kind of things the people around you laugh at. Thirdly, don't be afraid to be creepy, when you exaggerate certain things or make a sly fleeting comment, certain people will react differently, some bad and good. And finally, don't be anxious to look like an idiot. People will respect your guts :)
MrJJ4000 1 month ago
I'm VERY funny and the funniest in my group of friends and ima girl :D I'm also outgoing and everything but sometimes I'm to serious and think I'm being judged a lot in public.. xD But still yeah I'm pretty outgoing when with friends
MusikkIzMiLiffee 1 month ago
Firstly, no one cares if women are funny or witty. Sure its a plus but very rare in women. Secondly, even if you are not funny when you are young you may get funny with age. Hang out with funny people and it will rub off on you.
needparalegal 1 month ago
You shuldnt hate yourself :( let me say it as it is: Your beautfiful, you have a wonderful voice' your funny, your problaly smart'' and your really worth watching on youtube :).
Have an amazing week:b.
j0ach1m2 1 month ago
Watched it only cuz ur pretty :D
FuryC0oly 1 month ago
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villaen1 1 month ago
you cant be serious
sadsawdas2 1 month ago
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WickedKnight07 2 months ago
OH my God ......you are so beautiful
I am tired
obaid90888 2 months ago
spaghett
mgtoadski 2 months ago
Yup it is true. I'm too serious and I'm boring and I'm not a funny guy.
pugs321 2 months ago
I'm a schizoid I really want to work on expressing my emotions in a more obvious way. for the rare instances when I do socialize it is a better experience for the other person. I speak very much like you and am unable to feel true anger, surprise or passion. If I can get the words out I can be funny though, provided it's dry dark humor that doesn't depend on delivery.
I am satisfied with who I am, but I feel I am held back sometimes.
spitfiremanlizerd 2 months ago
well i am boring :P ,i thought many of my acquaintances were kind of evil because many know where i live and they didn't visit me,i was so exigent, but one day i visited one classmate (because i wanted an explanation of accountancy) and then i heard his conversation with more people and i saw how common people talk, so different from me, i am quite sad but not as much as many years ago,maybe i am tired of be sad and i accept it now,but now i love watching asian popular culture,alone in my house
kyonsuzumiyakim 2 months ago
*ding* giggety!
zomygawd78 2 months ago
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kyonsuzumiyakim 2 months ago
i read this title and thought - "that's SO ME" hehe:)
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id fuck the shit out of you bitch and blow my load all ova your face
andyfa123van 2 months ago
y so serious?
AnubisEye009 3 months ago
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Stupid... But f**ken hot
Emadov12121 3 months ago
@Emadov12121 Stupid comment, but I like the person behind it.
NoSocialAnxiety 2 months ago 6
@NoSocialAnxiety Hi there Emily. Just wanted to tell you that I would die a happy man if I was friends with a lovely girl like you for even 10 minutes. I guess pretty girls have their share of problems too... :( If anyone tells you you're not funny or too boring, PLEASE don't listen to them.
ThiXtreme1 2 weeks ago
@Emadov12121 You just had to throw in a insult before a compliment didn't you? :-/ Oh well...I think her videos are beautiful!! AND she is a beautiful person!! 2 positives! YAYYAYAY!!
agrl20 2 months ago
HOT MOUTH
Marwan1994A 3 months ago
Serious, not serious, boring or funny. Those are just simple words. The thing is who tells it to you. I often heard that I am too serious, boring and not funny, but then other people just love me for who I am and know that I am totally the opposite of what others say. In my oppinion, you might be serious, boring and not funny to some kids of your age, but to me you seem really mature and that is nothing to be ashamed of. People who call you boring and so on, are just not on your mental level!
<3
AkiAnanas 3 months ago
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my god you are so stupid. sorry to piss on your perfect self esteem but it's true.
Piccadillyo 3 months ago
At least she's smarter than you. Sorry, but it's true.
yic17 3 months ago
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@yic17 yeah, that's why I'm one of the best students at one of the top universities my country. You know nothing about me; go to hell.
Piccadillyo 3 months ago
@Piccadillyo my god you are so afraid, very insecure, and threatened by other people, and un-compassionate. So who and what made you that way?
NoSocialAnxiety 2 months ago 3
@NoSocialAnxiety I'd rather you didn't make assumptions about my character. Sorry about the first comment, it was unreasonably rude. I was just angry at the time because I find it insulting to have crippling problems simplified by - lets face it - ignorant people. You are obviously well meaning but you know nothing. You don't threaten me, you frustrate me. You reinforce my belief that there really is no solution to the social inadequacy with which some of us are burdoned.
Piccadillyo 2 months ago
@Piccadillyo You're right it was probably not totally fair to make an assumption about your character. Well it's true there are many areas I am ignorant in. You're right that Maybe I am an ignorant person.
NoSocialAnxiety 2 months ago
@NoSocialAnxiety i can understand that bcz i was also suffering in disorder last ten years bcz of my father
ComputerScienceLec 2 weeks ago
@Piccadillyo BOOOOO thumbs down for you!!
agrl20 2 months ago
thanks to pieces of advice,i tell you a 99.9 social axiety disorder,its simply you cannot smile you look awkward,i like serious things why because this day i dont like happy conversation even i like talking spiritual thinks,now i thing i have bi polar disorder but i dont like medication,now anyone tell me if you have an awkward smile
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rockwitchdrunk 3 months ago
Sorry, it didn't fit in the limit:
...I just wish I was like those jerks who laugh at people and stuff... They're terrible people, but they are happy and people like them (even though I see no reason why...)
And I'm really glad there are other people like me. Not that I want them to suffer as well, but it's good to relate to someone (I hope you know what I mean). So thank you for making these videos. =)
By the way, you are beautiful! (I don't just throw it around like some people, I mean it. ;)
Vojife 3 months ago
I also have social anxiety disorder. It's totally the same with me! When I try to talk to people, I ususally say like two sentences and then I don't know wht else to say. So I'm quiet. And I don't understand at all how all those people can talk and talk and talk... It kills me watching everyone laugh together or hanging out, when I just sit there by myself, having noone to understand me...
Vojife 3 months ago
This is really inspiring! Thanks
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afreakenmartian 4 months ago
I agree with @papayakidd. You are a very likeable person. Watching this video made me want to encourage you to dissipate this fears, and doubts that are really all in your head. But if you don't overcome these believes they become a self-fulfilling prophecy, when you are being social. Take it from me.
Peace out!
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Don't feel bad... Girls are incapable of being funny, taking a joke, playing sports, keeping friends, driving, defending themselves, holding their liquro, haning out and not whining and bitching about everything or having a good time! So, really... You're lack of a sense of humor is the very LEAST of your worries.
BurlesonTony 4 months ago
@BurlesonTony Dude, I don't think that helps.
Vojife 3 months ago
@Vojife Yeah, I still don't care. All of that shit is true.
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fize34 4 months ago
Thank you so much for this video! What you are describing is so familiar to me which is very relieving. I am very impressed of you for being so brave and share this here - as someone else said - I am sure that this is helping many others who are feeling low and unworthy and breaks up their isolation. Thank you, I think you are great!
yourchoice13 4 months ago
Girl, you're simply amazing <3
ledzeppize 4 months ago
It is true that you don't have to be funny when talking to people. When I'm talking to guys, I don't really give a shit if I make them laugh or not. When I'm talking to women, It feels like I'm boring them if I'm not funny. It sucks... but thanks for making this video. I now realize that not being funny doesn't really matter :)
chocomuffins69 5 months ago
Give an example of something you find funny. What makes you laugh?
wondergundy 5 months ago
You're so pretty *-*
emptysoul3 5 months ago
Did you just go in circles for 4 minutes talking about the same subject over and over or maybe i didn't pay enough attention? anyway, not everyone can be funny and make everyone laugh and attract everyone, or tell jokes and make everyone laugh (i'm very bad at telling jokes), but you don't need to be funny to be interesting, while others attract friends by being clowns you can attract ppl with mature, interesting and important conversations. Sorry for the long post.
Thegoodlol 5 months ago
Wtf? You remind me myself, Just don't make too much fuss about it , Become a little Arrogant for just one second or two, let your emotions out, show them what you think about them and Don't be so timid, it sucks , the world ain't so discipline as you think it is , that i have learned at first hand and one person shooter :)
FUCK THOSE NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERDSSSSS!!!!
Jechtvssephiroth 6 months ago
So, I'm making YouTube videos now, but they're not me trying to be funny like everyone else on youtube. I'm actually really serious and not funny at all. To be honest, I'm trying to make a difference in the lives of people who are unsuccessful by giving advice. I wish I wasn't so serious though.
Time4Talking 6 months ago
yeah im gorgeous looking i been told i have beautiful icy blue eyes but im too shy i was overprotected as a child by my parents and grandparents
celtic4ever18 7 months ago 9
hard to believe someone is so much of an idiot to tell you you're boring or not funny enough. He or she does not worth being taken seriously. You worry about something you should not be conscious about.
parsizaban 7 months ago
i have some advise...gtfoi GET THE FUCK OVER IT!!! ur not funny...well ok nobody cares....just show ur boobs and shut up...and MAYBE people would like u
nemoteththehorrid 7 months ago
@nemoteththehorrid Obvious troll, If you're trying to be a successful troll then try to hide your profile.
Pivotman1 7 months ago
good video and positive answers to a not so good situation. I have the exact thoughts your talking about and think to much into things which can be annoying.
Are you clear now of social anxiety, I am on my way up now just coming out of depression and now i just have to work on my social anxiety kind of phobia now. Thanks and hope you are good now :)
kenty011985 7 months ago
sometimes i found serious people more interesting. we can discuss something and we share our thought, and sometimes we laugh together.
i'm in college now and have friends who like to jokes around. they like it and always laugh but sometimes i don't get it. which part is funny?? they laugh at a same thing over and over again. and their joke is just too much. at first, i thought maybe i was too serious but ALL people around me said that my friends are just like a children.
SasanyChan 7 months ago
you made some really good points in this video.
I also think you're really attractive.
alehax27 7 months ago
I feel most of us social phobics are very deep thinkers. It benefits us that it keeps us out of trouble or getting sucked into cons, but it also keeps us from living an everyday life, because we overanalyize even the smallest of things in a negative fashion, aka "paranoia"
TempleOfInanna2 7 months ago
Hey, you know what works to appear funny from time to time? This is what i do. Get all the hate for others and self-loathing that runs in your mind. Even stuff you try your best to suppress. Think of the most insane stupid ignorant things to say that you may not even believe. It will be so off the wall that AT LEAST it will make you laugh. AND when you laugh people will be inclined to either fuck off or laugh with you. If they fuck off then good, they are a waste of time. It works though.
xollyeux 8 months ago
Have you tried meditation, yoga or mental exercises? They might be able to reduce anxiety, insecurity or anxiety. Google them or contact me as a last resort! God it's depressing to see so many people who think deep in pain.
crudhousefull 8 months ago
Have you tried meditation, yoga or mental exercises? They might be able to reduce anxiety, insecurity or anxiety. Google them or contact me as a last resort!
crudhousefull 8 months ago
good advice may be to don't over exaggerate every thoughts in your mind. just don't think at all if possible..
preciousmuysic 8 months ago
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Time4Talking 8 months ago
your too hot to have social anxiety! lol I have SAD too, I used to think that the only way i could get a G.F is to find one that has my problem (SAD or shyness) but after thinking about it, that would be twice the problem because we'd be scared of each other!lol Boy I got to unlearn this bad habit (SAD), I really hope you do too : )
938608 8 months ago
Hi, i had many times such feelings about myself, so thank you for speeking out loud about this, and i want to tell you that you are beautiful
BNO3OBAD 9 months ago
Uhhhh, ok. You're not funny...most people aren't. Get over it. Move on.
kayem25 9 months ago
i am so not funny..i couldn't think of a clever comment.
jayswears 9 months ago
Has anyone suggested the scientific approach? A Neurofeedback specialist can analyze the problem by looking at the brain activity. If you have severe activity causing your thoughts to race this will cause severe anxiety. Neurofeedback can unlock the brain. My son has had 26 sessions and is feeling extremely better.
Diane9773 9 months ago
This is the fault of western culture. It makes you feel worthless if you do not conform to certain things. Be this, be that, don't be this, don't be that. There's is no such thing as boring in the east. People accept you as you are.
Where there's love, there's no comparison. Don't compare yourself to anyone in social behavior. It does not matter if you are serious. I personally, like the serious type of people. I also find serious women more attractive. Everyone has something to contribute.
parsizaban 9 months ago
i could fall in love with a girl like you :)
lickmyfurrytoes 9 months ago
our problem is that we think too much
celtic4ever18 9 months ago 36
@celtic4ever18 exactly. Thinking too much about some issues more or less important is just not good. Just be yourself, laugh when you want, be silent when you want. If you have some serious issues and stuff going through your mind, try to write it down, or just create a new idea, even poem, painting, drawing, listen to music.
Dont analyze situations too much....or write a detective story instead:-)
girishka10 4 months ago
@celtic4ever18
Yes, but do we think too much by choice or do we have these racing thoughts because there is something wrong in our brain ?
Metsada007 2 months ago
@celtic4ever18 So how can we stop thinking too much? Thats my biggest problem and I'm honest enough to admit that I'm letting it ruin my life. I would like to go out make some new friends and stuff but my anxiety keeps wrecking my confidence.
WickedKnight07 2 months ago
hi you are gorgeous its not fair for gorgeous people like us to suffer this
celtic4ever18 9 months ago
Your pretty :)
KrazieSkillz 9 months ago
Thank you for putting yourself out there like this- for taking a risk like that- with the hope of reaching and helping people like me. I am here because I am seeking support, and I feel I have found it.
YeredEtan 9 months ago
"funny to an ok level" was funny. good vid ;)
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ReverendMotherISIS 10 months ago
Thanks for this video. I've started following you on Twitter as well. :)
YouBeingSerious 10 months ago
"Everyone else is funny..." They just think they are. in fact, they aren't.
BluR3B3LLi0N 10 months ago
ur funny by justvsaying ur notv funny and are u british
Yannabelle79 11 months ago
I am just about to start cognitive behavioural therapy, or CBT, on the NHS in the U.K for social anxiety and depression. If anyone is interested in what its like and what it can do, i would be happy to make a video diary of my progess, so let me know if people are interested.
Cheers guys, and good luck, we're all gonna get through this.
88M8A8X88 11 months ago
@88M8A8X88 I would def be interested to see the process in action.
LastNYCHero 8 months ago
@LastNYCHero If you want to see one of us live going through our natural process im guessing you should visit a university lecture and observe those who sit at the back; cause that's where I usually sit...
938608 8 months ago
ur hella monotone.its boring and making me sleepy.u needa put more energy when u talk...or maybe u just need a new mic
hotsuma4 11 months ago
wow your so boringgggg but its not like im watching this video for entertainment anyway, no watching this video for information i don't expect an exciting video
hyeknock 11 months ago
U are 1 sexy girl. Just so u know
TheLoneRooster 11 months ago
i know exactly what you are saying. negative self thought ...it sucks big time!
italiaguy77 1 year ago
What the fuck is she trying to say, I couldn't follow it.
ThoseOfOurBlood 1 year ago
holy shit im not fun to....well i am, but i dont put myself out there
maidwithluv 1 year ago
i love your accent =) but i have social anxiety, i always think someone is talking about me
deedee777 1 year ago
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wat should i do im always shy and low confident infront of my new friends??
perezcalibre03 1 year ago
wat should i do im always shy and low confident infront of my new friends??
perezcalibre03 1 year ago
You know what? I don't think you're too serious or boring. There was something about you that made me want to stay and watch this video til the very end :) And even though this video is just of you talking, to me it's definitely more attention-grabbing than some other videos with a lot loud voices and special effects. I think that you're real and that you're not faking what you're saying. Something about your shyness makes people want to hang onto your every word :) Keep keepin' it real. :)
papayakidd 1 year ago 7
its gruops of people especially gruops of random people that youve never met before that really makes the anxiety kick in your right about wanting to be accepted by other people and usualy your the only one that wont accept yourself ... but if its just your really close friends you can act how u normally would because of your comfortable environment and you know they accept you obviously because they're your close friends. i guess im saying i understand
theycallmed1ck 1 year ago
Everyone has the capacity to be funny, some peoples timing is just off, or they have a warped sense of humor that other people wouldnt understand, im just lucky to have a good friends where i actually CAN be fun and funny around, everyone has it, just find someone like you... Also great insights =) love and peace
lysergicpixel 1 year ago
I have been told I'm too serious. I'm 33 years old and I still struggle with my shyness. I am only myself around people I'm comfortable with. I have recently come across a motivational speaker named Les Brown, you should listen to some of his vids. He'll change the way you think. You can change, I'm shy but I still know how to have fun. If you don't change, your life will pass you buy. It's all about personal developement. You can do it!! Don't let anyone's opinion of you become your reality.
axj77 1 year ago
wooooooowwwww, those are the *EXACT* things that keep going through my head. i have never heard anybody say the exact same things in my entire life
angenette17 1 year ago
great videos for us..
58mohit 1 year ago
There's only one thing in the world that EVERYONE likes - a hundred dollar bill! I am not a 100 bucks bill, so I don't have to please everyone :)
mohinav 1 year ago
Read Joyce Meyer's book called Power thoughts. If you think that you are too serious, boring and not funny enough then it will manifest itself in reality. Seriously read this book and change the way you think about yourself. She gives 12 power thoughts to meditate on. It's a process changing negative/wrong thinking patterns, but it's definitely worth it. It's working for me.
lightbrownpoop 1 year ago
your better than most people i would assume at describeing how you feal being honest with yourself must have gave you a better understanding in accepting what is out of place.
good video
gazskull 1 year ago
im not funny :/ i am though, kinda when im drunk. when im not worrying about what people think, its like my social anxiety isnt there. well it is, but not really. im not saying to get drunk. im saying, i feel boring too. i know exactly what youre talking about. it takes time to TRULY realize this, but being yourself and accepting yourself fixes this. good luck and remember youre not alone.
kosuna90 1 year ago
you dont need to be funny your really hot
funymaggot12 1 year ago
You're over thinking this .tell Yourself you don't have to d this the only thing yo're doing is feeding the illness causing mor anxiety.
if57 1 year ago
Don't be so hard on yourself. If one of your friends wasn't funny, I'm sure you would find good in them. You have so much to offer. Look for the good in yourself, I'm sure you'll be amazed with what you find.
Mischa285 1 year ago
You seem to have a kind heart.
TuanDinhVu 1 year ago
marry me..
bboyzuel 1 year ago
i hate corny funny people
engeljakob 1 year ago
At least your hot, I'd do you.
Reqrezentin 1 year ago
People with social anxiety are so weak
vipmousasi 1 year ago
@vipmousasi idiotic child, shut your fucking mouth. everyone has their own personal weaknesses. what is yours?
NihilisticSliceshow 1 year ago 4
@vipmousasi People with social anxiety are socially weak point. But since we all have strenghts and weaknesses, they probably are stronger than you in other aspects of life. Most probably intelligence for exemple since you dont seem to have alot to post something like that, I'd rather be more intelligent and understand more things in this world than to be a good clown and bully like you ^^
2CSST2 1 year ago
@vipmousasi thats such an ignorant view of things. you dont put people down for being physically unwell so whats the difference with being mentally unwell?? clearly you arent speaking from any sort of experience or teaching so what gives you any authority to judge people??
TheWeemarie07 1 year ago
It's soo annoying that some people only get to see the boring serious me! Only people I feel comfortable around see the real me, I wish there was some medication for SA that actually worked!
yousurfer2 1 year ago
yeah it sucks i'm a good looking guy and my anxiety gets in the way of me living it up. my mouth gets dry. i feel dizzy and worst is i feel like throwing up and that makes me even more scared. Than i start feeling really weak.
BruceIsSoCool 1 year ago
I feel like serious people actually think about things in a deeper way than most, and because the others don't understand it becomes unpleasant for them or something, either way it's not your responsibility to entertain anyone with simplistic thinking.
movadoband 1 year ago 32
@movadoband I disagree; from what I've seen/heard it seems the people of great intelligence don't take themselves or life too seriously.
Above average intellects will discover nihilism, but really intelligent people will realize that nihilism in its deepest form means life is no more than a game; so you may as well dance.
TwistedLemniscate 9 months ago
@TwistedLemniscate everyone has an opinion eh?
movadoband 9 months ago
@movadoband Yes. It seems in the battle of who's more intelligent you'd pick Gell-man, and I'd side with Feynman. Neither should be considered wrong.
TwistedLemniscate 9 months ago
There is great truth in your words :)
The funny thing is... Recently one guy I was on vacation with told me I was a very funny and relaxed guy... And when SA kicked in some days and he experienced that, he told me I was too stiff and boring. So I know that my true self (emerging when relaxed and around the right people) is funny, but SA tries to cover my true self. So fighting SA is like defending my true personality from an illness.
In short: Great vid, and keep fighting!
ken42b 1 year ago
Thank you so much for trying to help people who are feeling depressed and unworthy and perhaps you are also saving lives. Thanks
conqueso62 1 year ago 19
@conqueso62 You're welcome. Thank you. =)
~peace and well-being
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
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gazskull 1 year ago
As cute as you are, you don't need to be funny.
philochristos 1 year ago 28
@philochristos Thank-you! As wonderful as you are, you don't need to be funny either! =)
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
@NoSocialAnxiety haha that was funny (:
morts18 1 year ago
@NoSocialAnxiety
playful people are dangerous and they talk about shit
and they have no time to understand one another .
i have social anxiety and i get jealous people are being playful and dangerous and talking shit .
ukgreaterlondon 6 months ago
@NoSocialAnxiety
people who don't suffer from social disorder are not mature and i won't make friends with these people because i only make friends with people who are mature and understand one another .
WE ARE HAPPY AND WE SMILE AND WE LAUGH AT FUN THINGS
SO ALL YOU
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SOCIAL ANXIETY PEOPLE WILL YOU MATURE OR WILL YOU GET DRUNK ON BEER AND FIGHT ONE ANOTHER ?
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felipepiresrj 1 year ago
that's actually a GREAT point, that the voice in your head telling you these things is irrational and you can't trust it.
Hanserific 1 year ago
@Hanserific Thank you for your comment. =)
~peace and well-being
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
I too feel I can be too serious alot of times. I don't think a person needs to be considered funny to fit in with most people. Everybody I think can be funny in their own sort of way you just need to find the right kinda people to hang around with. I do think alot of people use humor though as a way to kinda break the ice with someone they have just met. I think you are beautiful just the way you are.
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AimeebabyUK 1 year ago
Even Though I Knew From The Beginning That I,m Not a very attractive person and no body like to hang with me now im 16 still suffering from Social anxiety i want to heal and taking steps i can't actually look in the eyes of a girl and my mind becomes blank wen i m facing a girl bcoz im not satisfied by my body language nd expresions. my expresions kinda go away and my eyes move in random directions and if i say something to her later i think that wat i've said to her DAMN!! i should'nt hve.
Sajeelax 1 year ago
u dont need to be funny...
N1ck1Sk123 1 year ago
not even the kangaroo's like you sister, you need help
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dishonesttAbe 1 year ago
Hey, I think your videos are excellent! You must have a lot of courage to make them--something I certainly don't have.
Social anxiety/avoidance personality disorders are quite nasty. They sap your confidence and therefore promote isolation, which further deteriorates your social skills in a seemingly unending cycle. While I haven't been able to overcome my social issues, your videos are a welcome inspiration. :) Keep them coming.
dishonesttAbe 1 year ago
@dishonesttAbe Thank you :) You will keep getting better and better.
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
I know what you mean People say i'm a cold person
Lordtks 1 year ago
@Lordtks What people say doesn't equal the truth. What is the real truth? Are you a cold perosn? Or is coldness possibly just a symptom of the real issue? If so you are not a cold person! And why should you feel bad for other peoples lack of understanding and knowlege?
NoSocialAnxiety 1 year ago
maybe you should say... you used to have social anxiety
themaniusedtob 1 year ago
Not everyone can be a comedian, serious is ok. The boring bit is why your going on and on about being serious and boring.
vincentos21 1 year ago
The best way to have people like you when you don't feel social is to laugh about THEIR jokes. Everyone appreciates that.
DoomNoMore 1 year ago
social anxiety really sucks the life out of you, doesn´t it?