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  • Dumb turkeys!!!

  • To rise a healthy child one would need to have a clear mind, good education, spare money and a loving partner. How many people can tick all boxes?

  • I'm a 26 year old man and I DON'T WANT ANY FUCKING KIDS!

  • @RyunSharp

    24 year old and I agree completely with you, homie.

    They are going to cost upwards of 300,000 - 400,000 to raise nowadays.

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  • "People derive more satisfaction from shopping than taking care of their children?"They must have handpicked total mental cases for this study.I have to wait on dozens of childless middle aged people on holidays(times when family people are with their kids)& they are miserable, hateful fuckers.Before I reach 40 I'll be married with at 1-3 kids because married/parent life is difficult but the alternative(unless you are amazingly interesting & have tons of money) is pure self centered misery.

  • how many times did this bitch say "it was a good article"

  • yep there are too many fucking people but the baby machines cant seem to quit

  • @paolofanderson pretty much discribes the perfect woman.. :)

  • i don't want a kid, they are annoying. Thinking i am a dude? wrong. i'm 21 and i'm a woman. the world is overpopulated and i think having children is irresponsible.

  • @LarendriaThePagan

    *non-twinkle in eye*

    LarendriaThePagan let's not have kids. *coy smile*

  • Life is a risk. Have kids or don't have kids. Your choice. Live and thrive.

  • Should the people who don't have kids get pensions and other social guarantees when they are old? Don't seem very fair that my 30year old kid would have to pay for your 90year old ass to be honest.

  • Cenk was thinking his nephew was gay.

  • i agree, fuck the Children.  They're highly overrated.

  • @OnThatPowder

    you might want to rethink that statement.... to some people (and me xD) it sounds sorta wrong...

  • @poodie56 you're a pedo just for thinking that. Go watch mr rogers

  • I don't want kids but I'd love to marry a woman who doesn't want to have kids. I think that I can also give her my undivided attention all the time.. But I always think that it's hard to find women who don't want kids.. am I wrong about that?

  • my first marriage was great till we had a kid, then a few months later my wife desided she didn't want to be a mother after all and took off. And futher more any parent that says, "I've never day dreamed what my life would be like without kids." Is a liar. But that's fine one needs to day dream to keep sain.

  • Most of those kids are in China and India thought . . . that's 1/3 of the global population!

  • We are doing the planet a disservice by continuing to pump out little primates at this rate.

  • Not everyone has the same "biological imperative" as one another, and in this educated society we live in not everyone lives only on the basis of their instincts, we've moved beyond being biological robots...well, we're still machines but much more complex, and varied, and we have niches in society, that might put a higher priority on something other than reproducing our own genes... i mean heroin probably has a higher priority to an adict than their kids

  • kids aren't a pain in the ass, they're a drain on the world's resources. Its not america that needs to control its reproduction but people in the developing world. Capitalism is based on the idea that social good can come from selfish motives, so the idea that having kids is selfish isn't an argument fails, as does the idea that parents put their hopes on their kids as i don't see any research to prove a substantial number of parents do this or that it harms the kids.

  • It's just that some people, for economic, psychological or sociological reasons, can't raise children well. Like abortion its not the parent we should care about, its the child, and as with that method of controlling the population, might benefit from not being raised by someone not upto the task.

    We're not all subject to the same biological drives - some want to have sex with the same sex, others with no sex. Some people might just not want kids, you can't generalize your desires to everyone.

  • I would rather NOT have a kid and regret it later than to have a kid and regret it later.

  • Kids require a little patience, and it's just sad that some assholes out there refuse to show the slightest bit for them.

  • The urge to have more and more children is the reason why we have overpopulation. Its about time society started looking at it from a different angle. I myself will probably not have any children. I dont need any. Im fine by myself. And if I ever decide to have a child (unlikley), I would probably adopt one. I would rather give a home to a child without parents then to add my more weight to overpopulation.

  • i agree

  • I'm one of the people who prefers to not have kids. I don't have the ability to handle the stress behind raising another human being, and I don't think I ever will. I think pets will be as far as I can handle in terms of responsibility.

  • @luckstergal too much suffering compared to happyness, why bring someone into this prisonplanet?

  • I agree that having children CAN be more selfish then not. Work in a restaurant, or retail store, and 90% of the clean up, is cleaning up after unattended children. 90% of the common shoplifting (not professional shoplifting) is committed by children.

    As a single person, I pay MORE taxes because I have NO dependents, to pay for local schools I have no need for (single parents have it MADE when taxes are concerned).

    25% of the children in the US are on "Nutrition Assistants" (food stamps).

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  • @MeteGuebo

    There's too many of us here. Why not adopt instead?

  • Kids suck, I don't blame them at all.

  • "John and Katie Plus 8" and the Occto Mom scared everyone out of wanting kids......i dont blame them

  • childless marriages are happier? i honestly don't believe that. happiness in a marriage doesn't depend on how many kids you got. i've seen a lot of childless marriages end in divorce. i think the fools that wrote these articles just can't stand kids in general. i work as a 1st grade TA and i enjoy working with kids. being around them has actually made me want to have kids of my own. i honestly don't understand why some people don't like kids and why they wouldn't want kids.

  • I am so glad that women are stepping out of the ultimate brainwash of acting as breeding cows. Let's face it, there needs to be people who have kids otherwise our species will die off, but we are reaching the 7 billion mark population wise and having 5 kids when you can barely afford to feed one is not a smart decision. There are many reasons not to have children or to have them as well but it should be a choice not a social/spiritual/religious/gen­der mandate.

  • Aaah. Cenk being proud of his nephew is the best! I just got my frist neice :-)

  • there's 6.7 billion people currently on this planet. i think we can safely say having a kid is NOT a miracle.

  • @tomitstube i believe we in the first world should not leave more people than we are as a policy, if you choose to have 3 kids in this day and age your choosing to overpopulate the planet your children are going to have to live in. It shouldn't be illegal but i'm damn tired of tax dollar's that could otherwise go to health or education being used to in a sense subsidize reproduction.

  • @bunkmasterflex Overpopulation is a relativ term. Those in china understand the term way more than someone in IA. People are also dying everyday so it balances out.

  • @kmcl11 We're on route to 9 billion in 2020 it's a simple choice we need less people or much smarter technologies and preservation as well as restoration of our natural recourses like our oceans. We seem to be too lazy as a people to do any of the later, It's obviouilsy not a black and white issue but it's undoubtedly getting much more complicated every single day.

  • @bunkmasterflex In the end in makes no difference. None of will live forever.

  • @kmcl11 Unlike yourself i think of others.

  • @bunkmasterflex Except the children...lol

  • @tomitstube humans have too too much unprotected sex! :o They can use condoms and still enjoy it! :) Please people, lol, let's not add to the existing population! :) If you do, however, be prepared for claustophobic people or people trying to avoid people and maybe space wars, so but, sex is still enjoyable, I'd tell you that! :)

  • @tomitstube its actually a 18 year debt if you kick em out your house early :D

  • @tomitstube Haha, my thinking too. There's no need to bolster the population.

    Don't have a kid, adopt an endangered animal instead. =)

  • @lgarvey1979 ~ exactly, there was a time when procreation was necessary for survival, now it's a detriment.

  • I think people that have kids who say they love them/there's nothing else like it; do it for reasons both because they do & they've been conditioned by society. A example could be gender.

    I can respect choosing not to have kids. A path I might do. Or adoption. Though, if you have kids, do it responsibly. 1 kid is better than 5 you had because "it's God's will." Or something trival like that long run. Reproducing isn't a life requirement. Want to, okay.

  • So simply not wanting kids is not a good enough reason to you? So everyone has to have kids unless there is a good reason not to? To that I say a huge fuck you. Not everyone has kids. Not everyone wants kids. For whatever reason they have, it has no effect on you. The world won't suffer if a couple people don't have kids by choice. Take your arrogant head out your ass. Seriously, children aren't so fucking great.

    Childless by choice, and fucking proud, bitch!

  • @elhayya

    Go to hell, you self righteous prick. Do you know how many neglected/abused/maladjusted children there are? And there are literally millions of children up for adoption which is indicative of the fact that many children are unwanted by thousands of parents. Sure there are exceptions like a kid having dead, impoverished, underage or abusive parents, but let me reiterate, many of this kids are simply unwanted. I'm annoyed by people who can't give me a good reason for reproducing.

  • according to a lot of bible scholars the only reason to get married is to have kids.. otherwise u don't have the right to get married.. that is one way they try to justify forbid gay marriage

  • And the "Bible" is an infallible authority because? And by the way which Bible, the Holy Bible, The Spaghetti Monster Bible, The Satanic Bible, The Bible to how brainwashed you have been by a religious organization Bible??? Ahhh, fundies....!

  • there are lots of bibles out there.. not just one or two.. some nut cases are trying to rewrite the bible to reflect their agenda.. so take ur pick

  • @elenazevetse Heh, the Bible is a bad work of fiction. 

  • i wish they would quit refering to children like item. kids are humam. these guys were both kids at one time. we're all human. if you have kids than these humans will exist and if you don't they won't exist. its the way the world works and how the human race continues.

  • Reports say kids are overrated? How stupid is that? "Kids" are little people,

    they're no different or less important than anyone else. Jeez!

    It's really WHITE women that are having less children. If white people choose

    to not have children then there will be less

    of them! Lol.

    Plus, whites are already going to be outnumbered.

  • and not only that, it was not hate speech, as you liberals like to label anything that a conservative does, they are FACTS.

  • well adults stand by their opinion, don't back down, and arent afraid of being politically correct like liberals. I would know what this brainwashing is, I went to an american university..... the professors there do a great job of not actually teaching, but to state their "intelligent" and "analytical" opinion about conservatives. Yeah, well those lunatics wouldn't have a job if this was the america that it used to be.

  • I am a grown adult and I damn sure know more than you. I have a degree already and you probably live in your basement off welfare, like a typical liberal american.

  • if you are your stated age then you might technically be 'grown' but you definitely are not an adult. you prove that with every other sentence you type. my particular favourite was the indignant rant about 'what liberals teach their kids'. if you are embarking on a lifetime dedicated to hate this early then your parents must have done a sterling job on your upbringing. as any self respecting neo nazi could tell you, brainwashing works best when you get em young.

  • hey super you are 18 years old time to grow up.

  • This is great news. I hope this is a growing trend. We need less people in this over crowded world we are currently living in.

  • unfortunately, your parents didn't share your point of view at the time...

  • Don't say that Son. If it wasn'tfor me fucking your mother while I got your mother drunk. You would never have been born. Be proud of the fact that your mother is a slut. All real men wish all women were as slutty as your mother is. Son, I hope you find a woman just like your mother.

  • I agree we need less people. So why don't you and your family go to the nearest sewer and drown in a pile of shit. Can't wait to hear back your innovative profanity laden shit. Reply as fast as you possibly can you dick head graduate from university of scum.

  • I am lord of the trolls. Thank you for a good laugh. Now I'm off to have sex with your mother son.

  • dude you already used that punch line with some other guy. You were going to fuck his mother too. WHat happened, your profanity tank is running on empty today ? And while you are fucking everyone's mothers don't forget to fuck yours as well.

  • parulkarg, I AM YOUR FATHER!

    My mother loves me sooo much. I bet you wish you could have my mother but you can't because she's alll mine. Go get your own mother you greedy fucker. I won my mother in a horse race.

  • my father is dead. You must be his ghost

  • ohhh, getting all worked up because i suggested you embrace your own advice and remove yourself from the planet?

    by the way: my mother is in fact a transvestite whore and she's got gonorrhea, so if you really fucked her as you claim:

    1) you're gay

    2) you should consult a urologist.

  • You are my daughter an I'll love you son as my wife.

  • test

  • Your test has failed. Now please go fuck yourself.

  • its good to be gay, don't have to deal with kids because of this

  • since when do people need "societies" go ahead to make a major decision? if it makes sense, do it, if it doesnt dont.... dumbass

  • Hahaha, well said!

  • lol, that makes sense?

    so the rednecks sitting around in the red states watching nascar all day have the physique of Greek gods as long as the conservatives run the country?

  • Sorry cenk, but that was by far the worst Eddie Vedder impersonation i've ever heard. Just keepin it real though.

  • hilarious how cenk just wouldnt let anyone else talk this time haha

  • I knew a mother with two sick adult daughters and one son in prison. She was a strong and caring mother; but I have to be honest she was depressed, miserable and had no freedom to go anywhere because she was busy taking care of someone. I don't want kids personally and watching her life made me want them less.

  • This is a slow leaking of Japan's and Germany's problems you chicks need to get out there and grind babies out

  • wow you must have no life, all you do is go on TYT vids and troll

  • Who the hell would shun a woman just because they didn't want to have children? I NEVER met anyone like that, so that's a bunch of bullshit. People that whine about their kids almost always are glad they had them after they moved out and live on they're own. And the childless marriages thing is completely stupid. The only upside to not having kids is the lowered population.

  • Listen.....if you don't want to have kids, go for it!! I just feel bad for the ones that end up wanting to have kids very late in their life(late 30s-40s) and end up regretting not going for it!

    On the other hand, I would love to have kids! Like Cenk, I'm an uncle and I love them all!! I would love to have some of my own with the right one, but I'm not going to judge whoever doesn't want them!

  • Kids Are Overrated? Who Needs Them?

    That is the absolute dumbest fucking thing I have ever heard. Do those stupid couples realized that if their own parents felt the same way as they did, they would not even exist to begin with?

    No procreation = NO HUMANS. It's that simple.

    What do those idiots think you add water and *poof* instant adult? Fucking dumbasses.

    I'm only 21 and I have a little nephew that I love like a son. And I look forward to teaching him everything I know.

  • Wow, you're an ignorant asshole. =D!

    There are two major flaws to your statement. Firstly, you're forcing your thought process on others. There are a lot of children, a population vastly over their limitation.

    The other flaw? What about those who can't? You fault them outright because they are genetically or medically incapable? What kind of a dick are you?

  • Every problem you've stated mostly applies to undeveloped countries. The U.S fertility rate is actually lower than world standards, even for an industrialized country. I said nothing negative about those who are infertile. Why would I fault them if they don't apply idoit?

    So keep the name calling to yourself and go eat something.

  • I suppose I did take a fairly negative stance, and I do apologize, although I'm not sure what you meant 'go eat something'. Regardless, lemme rephrase.

    Are you suggesting that it's stupid for a couple to not want kids because of procreation? What if they don't want kids for financial reasons, because their jobs are too demanding or what have you? The average stance isn't "Who needs them", it's usually "It's not right for us."

    Are most of these folk at fault then?

  • In Europe, their birthrates are so low their actual population is in decline. That's why they made it so easy to have middle easterners immigrate. They need workers & a tax base. Unfortunately, this is destroying Western Europe's culture & national identities. Want of material objects & unmarried living arrangements are listed as the chief reasons by Europe's youth as to why they don't want children. It may also lead the the destabilization of nations.

  • ok listen dont leave angry comments following this because i dont care. ok you are so preoccupied with your money, coffee, enterainment and comfort you have no survival instincts. yes it is stipid not to want to have kids. go ahead, let your race die because you love to be lazy and fat

  • AMISH DON'T HAVE AUTISM.

    Almost no asthma.

    They don't take vaccines.

  • and what is their life span?

  • You know, it's funny. With your kid not having the vaccines, it's your fault that Smallpox is on the rise again, alongside several other diseases that once were gone. Way to go. I love being infected by you, choosing that the .002 percent chance of a negative side effect is going to tear your family asunder is more important than highly contagious, highly infectious and often times fatal diseases going out into the community. You're a cretin. Enjoy.

  • Cretin? Wow, and your a MAGNANIMOUS ASSUMING .....,

    It's well known that being well nourished is what staved off disease. That's why 3rd world kids die when stricken with disease.

    You've been brainwashed into injecting your kids.

    CDC study 2006: 1 in 166 have autism.

    I concede, I would vaccinate my kids against small pox and polio.

    Choke on that.

  • Liberal nonsense, Eugenics at work.

  • I have NEVER wanted kids and NEVER wanted to get married. I used to get so pissed off when people would tell me "Oh, give it 5 (or 10) years, you'll change your mind!" Well, guess what? I have not changed my mind and in fact am more adamant than ever. I love kids and I work with them, but I would never produce my own.

  • Your children are not your children.

    They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

    They come through you but not from you,

    And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

    You may give them your love but not your thoughts,

    For they have their own thoughts.

    You may house their bodies but not their souls,

    For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

    which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

    - Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

  • 99% of couples who get married do so with the intention of having children

    Couples who don't have children usually do so for a reason (willing or otherwise), so there is nothing wrong with not having kids

  • im so surprise that Ana views and reaction is so one sided!! and even more surprise that Cenk was dead on!!! i agree with Cenk 1000%

  • I feel that you people are just agree'ing because of the negitive times from kids, sure they're annoying at times, but think of the econemy they bring, and if too many side with this, well, think what will happen!

  • "I bet she doesn't like her kids"

  • The problem with the example of would a person rather watch monday night football or take care of their kid is that he didn't mention if the Steelers would be playing the monday night game. In that case, we all know what the choice would be. Watch Sixburgh.

  • Many do not want to bring up children now in a society full of the filthy morals and behaviors now present.

    the world is not what it used to be.

  • Yeah kids smoking weed and drinking alcohol as young as 13. Today's society is really fucked up.

  • sry but society has always had problems, its just now we get to see them. nothing has change!!

  • you are a spaaaaaa

  • It is a great idea not to have kids.We are OVERPOPULATING the planet.Soon we will not have enough clean water to drink or irrigate our plants therefore we will die. There should be a new world law.If a couple has zero children then you get a good retirement pension. One pregnancy per couple is free of cost. Second pregnancy will cost both parents half of their annual salary in payments. Third pregnancy, one parent must be killed/euthanized by law. Brought to you by Carl's Jr. Fuck you Im eating.

  • i hope you're joking?

  • I am not joking. We ARE overpopulating the planet. Why not adopt instead. You dont worry about water because you have it right now. Water is not always going to be here and we are polluting ourselves too much with too many humans in the planet already walking. We are now more than 7 billion people. Should we cut more forests to house families of four or is it about time to start asking our governments to make some laws? Seriously man, we have to be fair to ourselves and others.

  • What makes people think they can't raise their kids as a part of their lives, rather than calling a halt to the things they enjoy? The focus should be on creating family systems and society. More than enough time for self after the age of 50.

  • real women want kids

  • ...and real people respect others life choices.

  • yeah sure, i only wish your mother read this article when she was young and maybe change her mind on having kids ohh..but then we wouldnt be having this conversation.

  • Except that my mother deliberately chose to have me..but why can we not respect people who don't wish to have kids?

  • Real women make their own decisions on the matter.

  • Real douchebags think they can pound the gavel on what a real man or a real woman are.

  • if someone doesnt wanna have kids thats fine, but why get married then? why fuck the same bitch everynight? if your happier without kids then you'll be happier single (even less responsibilities) Do you se how stupid their reasoning is? this is a stupid article and i would challenge those so called psychologists any day.

  • A lot of people get married without thinking about having kids. Marriage isn't about having kids.

  • I didnt say it was.

  • Yes you did...

  • my comment is in response to the article. im not saying what marriage is or should be.

  • the end of humanity FTW! hah Jk...

  • All the smart people choice not to have kids, while all the morons pump out kids left and right because they're too dumb to know how to use birth control. Eventually there wont be any smart people.

  • wait wait.. Cenk's nephew hooked up with some girl?? Alright!!!!

  • And mind you even if people decided that they didn't want to have kids. It's not going make groups of people extinct. There's always going to be those to fill that void. But again there are those that are hard wired to want to have kids. So this study may not be of much use to them anyway.

  • This is an interesting topic. As I've run into many women who stated that they either hate kids, don't want kids, the fact that it's selfish. I look at it as a matter of choice. If you want kids fine if you don't then there is nothing wrong with that. Hell, if they want to point that out I've heard some say "marriage" is overrated. The ideology doesn't make you more or less happy if you do or don't. Of course our society makes it difficult to be able to enjoy having children or be free.

  • The worse case is those who have kids and hate them.

  • kids suck!.. everyone struggles with kids..it causes obligations.. plus once they get of school age..then its like u gotta goto school all over again..because u have to wake up early with em

  • abortion is legal....in the future women are gonna abort autistic kids.

  • They should instead abort kids with an IQ below at least a 120!

    We have PLENTY of outright idiots on this planet, and also PLENTY of average simpletons.

    If they're gonna select, I say do it on brains.

  • Ok, that's a little fascist point of view

  • IQ test are biased on social class. Their worthless.

  • I´m not usually a huge admirer of Ana. But is it just me or does she look really hot here?

    BTW they screw up on the vid titles a little too often. ¨Reports Says¨, that´s crappy grammar.

    Just a suggestion. I´m not perfect but they need to check those a little better.

  • having a kid is the most narcissistic thing anyone can ever do. anyway you slice it.

  • seriously? aren't you glad your mom was 'narcissistic'??? while some do it for selfish reasons, I would say for most its just a biological response to wanting to plant a seed and watch it grow. I planted a human seed and am raising my sapplings and not because I was narcissistic.

  • I have a high functioning autistic son, he's 6 in first grade. I love him to death but God, it's so much harder the for the normal parent. I see them with there kids and I can't believe how they don't have to worry about the same things I do. There kids talk to them and they can have real conversations. I'm affrad he'll never be "normal" enough for sociaty. I often teater on the thought of having no kids, but I was never a "baby lover" to begin with.

  • i have nothing against kids but i love spending ALL of my $ on myself. i watched so many of my friends struggle with raising kids. it just made me not want to do it at all. i love spending time with my nephews and watching them play. but as soon as i take them home, i can get back to MEEEE!!** oh yea!!!!

  • I agree. I love kids but I also love having the freedom to spend my money the way that I want. So i'm going to wait to have kids and only have 2 kids- I've seen people with heaps of kids, especially ones with kids close in age and they have gone bonkers.

  • It's a proven biological fact:

    If your parents didn't have any kids

    chances are you won't have any either.

  • If your parents didn't have any kids. You wouldn't be here! Duh.

  • Lol.... we're talking about America here, the fattest european nation on the planet. When you glorify yourself so much why shouldn't you eat another burger?

    I think it takes a lot of maturity to understand the kind of happiness and love that come only from the submission of personal pride and desire - but it's too hard for me to try and convey with a character count.

  • first, who cares if you want to have kids or not (besides, maybe, your parents)? this is article worthy?

    second, why do some people's disinterest in becoming parents suddenly mean that having kids is overrated? there are plenty still adopting, sperm banking, fertility drugging with glee! it's a hard job, and it's not for everybody.

    third, you know what else ruins marriages? time!

  • Does anyone have the link to this article?

  • This fascinates me. Personally, I think there's now room for a world where having kids isn't the norm. Firstly, children are your life and they're not something you deal with while you're not living your own life. They. Are. Your. Life. I think we dangerously understate the responsibility that goes along with having kids and also, it's about population control. We can't all have 2-3 kids, especially in a world where we've become very efficient at preventing 'untimely' death!

  • As someone who's engaged, and both my fiancée and I want to have children, I can say that the findings point out some very real concerns, but solutions they propose are very short-sighted. I'm not looking forward to changing diapers, but I want to see my children grow up, go to school, pursue careers, and have families of their own, so am I willing to put up with a few diaper changes to do that? Sure.

  • IF you think all you will have to deal with is a few diaper changes then you've bit off more than you can chew.

  • Finally it's coming out that all women wanted to be on sex in the city and even the worst looking guys think they can be a playboy for life. The only reason some people find it hard is because they try to do too much cos kids all think they are in Gossip Girl or something.

    Point being we are all living in a movie. If you switch your TVs off you will appreciate humans. Do family stuff and don't feel pressured to spend when you can't afford a holiday. You will start hating yourself.

  • What does Cenk mean when says he doesn't want to be PC about it?

  • PC = Politically Correct

  • thanks

  • What a bunch of morons.

  • I remember Bernie Mac saying kids were boring lol. Then all the high profile silly media cows in England starting saying the same thing as though they invented that sentiment. They didn't Bernie Mac did! I think it's wrong to berate a woman if she doesn't want kids.

  • I've thought kids were overrated too but was afraid to say it because it's not politically correct.

    That said, I do believe kids can be a great part of your life -- but you have to be in the right frame of mind.

    Speaking for myself, and not trying to make myself look good, but just being honest -- I made life more fun for my dad when I was a kid. He liked going places with me & doing things. So in that case a child enriches the parent's life.

    So ultimately it depends on the parent's mindframe

  • I had an English teacher in high school (I'll call him Greaves) who mentioned how he dislikes one of his sons for not producing grandchildren. The son and his wife have two dogs, but no kids.

    Greaves constantly demands more grandchildren and is so scornful toward his son without children; which makes it ironic (I think) that Greaves calls his son the selfish one.

  • I want kids for the reasons Cenk gave, but also it isn't on my to do list..at all. If it happens awesome, I will be ecstatic. But I don't think I will go out of my way to try, at least not at the current point in time.

  • aren't we biologically driven to have kids ? Sexual pleasure is just nature's incentive for us to keep the species going. Just because contraconception is invented doesn't man our eveolutionary psychology can change.

    Parenthood is a bit like sex. It's not always enjoyable especially if you have to do it 24*7. One can easily shun a bad sex partner and people breakup at a drop of hat. But to part ways with a child (no matter how bad he or she is) is million times more difficult, a last resort

  • not really. we are driven to find pleasure. just so happens most of the people who didnt find pleasure in sex died with no offspring to propagate that disposition, so now most find pleasure in "baby making." but really, the overwhelming majority of sexual activity is for recreation only.

  • every life form in nature has only one primary goal, which is to propogate life. Be it unicellular bacteria or an advanced species like mamals and humans. Every activity that we do can ultimately be traced to only one thing, the instinct to survive. . Sex gives pleasure, just like eating does, but that is incidental. Nature evolved us to find pleasure in sex so we can seek it so species survives. Now if somebody doesn't believe in eveolution, thats a whole different debate.

  • no, thats why so many people opt not to have children. that isnt their primary goal. you speak without regard for an organisms conscious decisions. suicide isnt conducive to survival, neither is bungee jumping or smoking, etc. youre ascribing purpose to the process, when there really is none: it shouldnt be find pleasure in sex "so we can," but rather, find pleasure in sex "because..."

  • I am not concerned about "an" organisms decisions. Of course there are freak occurances in nature in all species. But there is a reason not all humanity is sucidal or bungee jumpers. Surival instinct is ingrained in our brains whether you like it or not. At individual level it means things like conciously deciding not to swim in shark infested waters. At macro level (species level) it means the eveolutionary desire to have sex and reproduce. Thats why most people want to have children its nature

  • its not a freak occurrence -- thats assuming there was some plan behind it all. you left out smokers, and countless other nasty habits that are not conducive to survival: overeating, unhealthy eating. contraceptives, blowjobs -- those dont lead to babies. no one is arguing that people arent inclined to survive, but your original statement was: every life form in nature has only one primary goal, which is to propogate life. thats just not true. desire to have sex, yes. reproduce? not so much.

  • I am not trying to leave out anything. I can't list all bad habbits in 500 characters. Sure 10,000 years of civilization have brought about lots of cultural and behavioural changes and what you call "bad habbits",including not having wanting to reproduce. But biologically nothing has changed. Evolution still wants us to reproduce and a overwhelming majority of us are naturally inclined to act that way, what you call "concious decision"