Tandem Breastfeeding Vlog 3 - Agitation/Aversion, Nursing Through Illness

[melodicmint]

thank you so much for this video. my daughter, violet, is 20 months old and I feel that uncontrollable urge to stop BF. violet nurses at least once an hour all day and wakes every 3-4 hours (or less) at night (we co-sleep). I love that she has only been sick once in her life and I am into all the benefits but i still feel the urge. i don't know if i could wean her rather than self-wean but i'm not sure how long i can handle it. nevertheless i really appreciate your video. thanks!

[oochygoochygoo]

@melodicmint Hang in there! I'm hoping it will get easier for you. MandeeTheGreat also has done a video on nursing agitation - she is pregnant and nursing a toddler.

[allnaturalmamatobe]

You have such a lovely family. Thanks so much for the info, I plan on tandem nursing when I have my second baby. Zoes dimples are adorable!

[oochygoochygoo]

@allnaturalmamatobe Thank you. I think her dimples are the only resemblance she has to me. Best of luck on your future tandem journey!

[CharleenCC]

It's not uncommon for mothers who are nursing during PG or tandem nursing to experience so-called heebie-jeebies while BF'ing. I have heard from a few tandem nursing moms who said that if they assigned their toddler to one side and always nursed the toddler on that side for every tandem feed that they the heebie-jeebies less. So you may want to try and limit the toddler to one side only but still continue to nurse the baby on both sides and see if that lessen the negative feeling.

[oochygoochygoo]

@CharleenCC Thank you for the suggestion.

[anygiventhursdayx]

zoe is adorable! & you're so strong for pushing through everything & bf'ing anyway. it'll definitely benefit both of you in the long run :)

[oochygoochygoo]

@anygiventhursdayx Thank you! I certainly hope so.

[alandamandamama]

You are a rock star mom!

[oochygoochygoo]

@alandamandamama Dawww, thanks!

[ILoveKindergarten]

Interesting, I have never experienced that with my almost 2-year-old. Although it does bug me when he yanks my other nipple, knees me in the stomach, tries to pull down my shirt, etc. I really need to help him understand that he needs to use manners with mommy. How does Ella do as far as her nursing behavior goes? And do you still NIP with her? I am afraid to at this point because I don't want a negative reaction from others, but my son Jackson still nurses many times a day.

[oochygoochygoo]

@ILoveKindergarten Her nursing manners are pretty good. If she gets too acrobatic I will stop until she holds still. I think she was pretty fidgety around the 2 year mark. I no longer NIP with her unless it is at a LLL meeting, however even there I usually do not. I feel the same way - mostly I want to respect everyone else's comfort level. I nurse her before we go out so that she is less likely to ask.

[OLW2B]

i have nothing constructive to say except look at Zoe's dimples!!! so cute!

[oochygoochygoo]

@OLW2B Awww, thanks! I love her dimples too!

[vancaner]

I myself was BF till 2 yrs old When my mom had my brother I was 4 and I guess she thought I'd be jealous so she told 1 B was for me and 1 was for the baby..So when mom brought him home she offered me the B and I took some n then kindly stated "That's O.K. mommy the baby can have it" So I guess I was a good big sis or my mom was lucky...Just wanted to share best of luck :))

[oochygoochygoo]

@vancaner You're lucky your mom did that for you! I was only nursed for 6 months.

[vancaner]

well maybe when the baby starts solids n nurses less maybe your 2yr old will be less interested.Also u mentioned that every time ur 2 yr old sees u nurse the baby she wants to nurse too I suggest maybe when your husband is home he can give her extra attention something she love to do while u quietly BF baby in another room this might help her to cut down on feeds This is just something I thought of 

[oochygoochygoo]

@vancaner Yes, when my husband is home he spends time with the toddler so that I can have some "me" time. Thank you for the suggestion. Amazing that with three children being alone with 1 baby feels like me time! :)

[JenNTim509]

I had that agitation feeling while nursing my son when he was a newborn and I could never explain to anyone what it was or what it felt like. It was the worst feeling and unfortunately it made me give up on nursing. I hope with baby #2 that does not happen to me again!!

[oochygoochygoo]

@JenNTim509 I can understand why, it's very unsettling! Hopefully this time around you can develop some strategies to cope with it in case it happens again...