i identify as a bisexual, find one of these and they might find you hot as hell as a man, and will not mind going down on you 'transgenitalia' as one of the ftm friends calls it :P
cont. It will be pretty hard for anyone like us to find girlfriends/boyfriends though and right now that's really tough for me to deal with, despite the lack of personal bodily dysphoria that other transpeople have. Especially transsexuals. Unless you were to date a transwoman, it's definately not easy to come across someone that fully understands these issues, however it's not impossible. There's really nothing one can do about sexual function/attraction though because that's just nature. =-[
This sounds like a Greek tradgety. :( It is sad and depressing-people commit suicide because of this all the time. The fact of the matter is though, is that once you look past your body, it's okay to be different and everyone has insecurities. Personally, it took me years to accept myself. Now when I look in the mirror, I don't feel like a boy in a "girl's body." Because it's not a girl's body, it's mine and I'm a boy. Although, I don't really feel dysphoria very much. To me it's just genitles.
I feel the same way. I have to somehow explain this stuff to my best friend, as I am attracted to her and I get jealous of other men she pays a** loads of attention to. I keep starting fights with them to get them off her. I know I can't compete with them for the lack of a dick. Its not good, and I'm not looking forward to the conversation. So d*mn depressing and angering.
Dude, I know exactly how you feel. My ex swore up and down she loved me, but after a year and a half she left because I don't have what bio guys have.
I don't want to minimize your experience or how you are feeling about nothaving a penis. But something jumped out to me while watching this video. Around 4:20 you said something along the lines of "you know in your head it would be the end of the relationship" the fact that you are so concerned about having to compete and that you have yourself convinced while in the relationship that this issue will be the end of the relationship...Maybe it's becoming a self fulfilling prophecy?
As a women who really likes sex a penis is overrated. I am married to a man and it's great, but I've had really hot sex without penis's being involved. I'm just saying... Maybe you should try dating a bisexual girl. I think you are a hot guy, and it's not just how you look. Your voice is amazing. You share your heart in these videos. You seem all guy to me, even the way you talk (and I'm not talking about the voice). Thank you for sharing a part of yourself in these videos! ...
I found your vids when I started looking on info about transition. I have a friend who is going through transition and I just wanted to get an idea of what he is facing. I am totally intrigued with you and I have watched a lot of your stuff on here. So anyways... I have dated both men and woman, I guess you could label me as bi, but for me it's not about the sexual anatomy that the other person has. It's the person I'm in to, and I've been in to people with all kinds of anatomy...
as far as hand jobs and blow jobs go...they dont call it a job for nothing! lol. Its definitely not my favorite item on the sexual menu to order. Its just one of those things that you have to work out with your partner like any sexual relationship.
bro let me tell you som, Im a straight guy, hear me out. you know I've been with a lotta woman and girls I cant rememberem all but one thing am sure of is if you think your a man like I do be a player thats what a real single man do for fun cause for that promissing girl you want? the more popular you r the more she'l last in your life cause she will never want another girl to evn talk 2 u only her,"live life to the fullest" and build your name first bro hope that helps
you just need to date & have fun/sex with people who are attracted to you for you!
if you are with the right person it will open your eyes... for afterall you can have a hand or a blow job. plus if your partner and you communicate what feels good, while it is being done, you both will know how great it feels!
sometimes i get frustrated because i don't think i am "enough"...but when i hear that's: fucking amazing, don't stop, oww my you've got it, you're going to make me cum.. i know that i
you just need to date & have fun/sex with people who are attracted to you for you!
if you are with the right person it will open your eyes... for afterall you can have a hand or a blow job. plus if your partner and you communicate what feels good, while it is being done, you both will know how great it feels!
sometimes i get frustrated because i don't think i am "enough"...but when i hear that's: fucking amazing, don't stop, oww my you've got it, you're going to make me cum.. i know that it
very Passable beuitiful mtf transwomen:D we totally understand and are open to anything lol mtf and ftms are like to puzzle peaces totally opposite but fit exactly together
All these insecurities are in your head; it's not about who you can have a good relationship with, right? Nobody can change your believes but yourself. If you come to terms with what you want, you will find someone who will be happy with it.
I am very glad I do not have to deal with this. But at same time I really envy you the concrete situation you deal with. At least you know the back to front of your problem.
The people that only see someone based on what they have down the bottom.
Are the ones that aren't worth being with. The ones that are worth being with, are the ones that won't matter what gender you are and will still love you no matter what. I mean, when you find the right person and they fall in love with you, they won't care. They will love you for who you are and not for the anatomy.
When True love actually approaches, all will come naturally and no stress will be involved. However, when people go out looking for the destined person for them, that is when relationships break up, or people get divorced. Since Patience, can only one day bring the true person that is your destined other half. I've always told myself, patience serves best! Since, only then you will find the person you were meant to be with from the beginning. : P
I just came across your videos tonight and I've enjoyed watching them and getting to know you. I think that everyone in one way or another has insecurities about themselves. I think that for me it doesnt matter whats gender a person is and whats between their legs, to me its their personality and whats in their heart. I believe that you will find someone that will love you for you. I truly think that you are very cute.
I honestly don't think love is all about sex and if someone really love's you they'll give up there sexual life for you and I wouldn't worry about bio guys because like I said if that one person weather it be a lesbian or a straight women like's or love's you there will be no competition. - love Dimarii
how can you expect somebody to love you when you have so much insecurities about your self... love you and you will find the write woman..your an amazing person
Thanks for the videos man. You'll find a girl that digs you for you and doesn't care if you have a dick or not. I'm not trying to blow sunshine up your ass, I'm serious. Give it time, it'll work itself out.
Maybe you could try dating a transwoman? You would know what it feels like to be in each other's shoes that way; it could be a more understanding relationship.
Are you willing to give a piece of your arm for it? You can get a phalloplasty... and then, man.... bio guys can't compete at all. Why? Cause phalloplasty gives you an internal pump to keep it up. and NO bioguy can keep it up at will. Hahah. I'm a gay FTM I like guys. I like gay guys. Gay guys can be open, but they too also place a lot of emphasis on whether or not you have a dick. I will give a piece of my arm to have one, because being in a normal relationship with a gay guy is worth it.
cont: ive never though of myself being andrpogynous because im just the run of the mill normal looking guy. people mistake me for a 16 year old pre pubescent boy but its dosent matter naymore. thats why i prefer not to go on T anymore. I have girls who are lesbians flocking. at least with my experience. they like the fact that you dont have a dick but are masculine loooking, etc. straight girls youre always going to have competetion with the cis/bio males unfortanatley. I know how it is..
yeah dude i can relate im a ftm. havent had full T tretment and dont plan on it because of my health. im actually happy with just my top surgery. but i can relate to this. I tend to get more lesbians my way than straight girls. mainly because a lot of straight chicks obviously want a dick.one girl i managed to turn i guess lesbian said she didnt care about it.I honestly prefer dating lesbians which is why i dont care if people see me a s a straight guy or butch dyke lol ive come to accept this.
It's really hard for us girls that date trans guy openly and honestly are secure in the relationship. We do everything to make you feel as much like a bio male as well. Its going to be a struggle for everyone involved but I do have to say that when dating a trans guy and he is ALWAYS making comments about how he isn't good enough it makes it harder for us to make you feel like you are.
(cont.) I always just found that even though we may have had to work a little harder for sex, that just made it even more worth it! I hope you're feeling better about yourself and your situation. You shouldn't have to constantly feel like you have to compete with anybody. You're such a great guy! In every way!
How are you feeling about these issues now? Have things improved? Any revelations on the subject? When I was dating my trans boyfriend, he expressed the same frustrations to me. And while I will admit I did get a little sad from time to time that we may never have been able to have sexual relations like a biological heterosexual couple, where we were both able to be fulfilled at the same time, I still always loved and completely enjoyed being with him in every way.
I always just found that even though we may have had to work a little harder for sex, that just made it even more worth it! I hope you're feeling better about yourself and your situation. You shouldn't have to constantly feel like you have to compete with anybody. You're such a great guy! In every way!
I always just found that even though we may have had to work a little harder for sex, that just made it even more worth it! I hope you're feeling better about yourself and your situation. You shouldn't have to constantly feel like you have to compete with anybody. You're such a great guy! In every way!
I am a bio-woman, and just for the record, I think you are not only really sweet, but also really hot and I would totally go out with you. Sex should only be one part of an awesome relationship, and there's so much more to a person than anatomy.
let love come on its own. u fall for someone, u dont pick girls u like and try it, u know who the good ones r when they come around, and u wont wanna breathe without them, thats how its suppose to be. and ure a super friggin hot guy, and u seem nicer than any other, and luggage makes ppl better, so it will come around for u.
i kinda agree with different things here. u will never feel quite good enough, does not matter who u r, or which sex u came out. u make it in this world getting comfortable with ure self, and i honestly believe that life is valued in the people who loves u for who u are, so i vote u be ure self, and wait til u find someone.
and i read the comments about bi girls, i get it, we dont care whats downstairs, we fall for u, we fall for who u r, thats just the way it is, but dont go looking mak.
hey just wait for the right woman to come along who loves u for whom you are. iam lesbian, but I love trans men, lesbians understand more than straight woman. i am tara from MI. I like your videos, your super cute.
you should just date whoever you are comfortable with.. dont worry about what you think you are lacking. Although saying you wont date an entire group of women is kind of dumb too. Thats like the lesbians who swear off bisexual girls.. you could just date whatever women you are attracted to and get along with.
I'm a "bio guy", what you describe seems normal as part of the male experience. We all feel like we can't compete sometimes. You might say "wow, I feel soooo sorry for you, at least you have a dick", but people are never happy. Why do you think guys act macho, show off, buy cars, join gangs, or try to make money. If you had a dick, or if I had a 10 inch dick, we'd find something else to feel inadequate about. Also, things could be worse - I may as well not have a dick as it has never been used.
This is really going to come off cliche but try to see the intent behind the words. In order to really truly love someone else regardless of gender/sex/age or whatever. You have to love yourself first. You are right in that it is going to be difficult to do that until you are able to get the quality of bottom surgery you'd like. But here's the thing...if you could learn to love yourself in whatever form you are you'd be that much more ahead of the game when you finally get it.
Im 16 your old and im transgender born a boy but trapped in this female body and i just wanna say that all your vids that you have uploaed have helped and i know how you feel about having to comptee with bio men i feel that same way thanks for posting these viedos..and dont worry aout the jackasses that post rude comment they wont ever understand
Like I'm bisexual and personally it wouldn't bother me. Maybe it is because I like the most women think about someone's feeling. I don't know. I say you should give it a shot with a bisexual girl though.
ultimately, these words like lesbian, straight, etc. are to describe a persons tendencies but are not the final word on a persons identity. if a girl is with you, she is with you not just the textbook idea of a man. it is entirely possible for a straight girl to see you as a man and want to give you head and not have a problem with it. now the trick is finding those girls LOL.
you said you "can't expect" a straight girl to give you oral sex because she's straight and likes dick... but honestly, you should expect her to to the same extent you "expect"anyone to. (obviously nobody should feel like they HAVE to) most girls don't suck dick cause they like the feeling of it in their mouth, they like to make the guy feel good. this isn't to say i am not self conscious or scared, and honestly haven't had sex since starting t. but if a girl wants you, she gets the whole pkg.
dude i know ur issue my ex was like 'no no i love the way you are' im still a FTM i wanna go thru the transition u went thru im only 16 but im dying over here how did you do it? and just keep ur chin up man. things will go great soon. thats what i say to ma self every mornin cuz thats how i feel =[ love your hair and your voice btw =]]
There are some good options about bottom surgery, may be you can look over it. i found a plastic surgeon in Greece called Theodore Voukides and his work seems really interesting. msg me if you wanna know more
dude, maybe you should date bisexual girls. it might relieve some of the stress of not having the "right" parts, and they'd still view you as a guy, regardless of what bits sit between your legs :)
alternatively, there are some pieces of "equipment" that can allow the "giver" to also feel pleasure. The decent ones are pretty expensive and some of them claim to do that but are actually useless, but meh.
either way, chip up :) you'll find the right option for surgery soon.
God, man... I swear I've had all those things go through my mind countless times before and be bothered by it too. I've had those same depressing days. Bottom surgery these days is too sketchy for me too, so yes I am still dealing with it. It's hard to deal with, but ultimately youll meet a girl open minded enough to have you and stick with you. That's more valuable than finding a shallow girl who's selfish and just wants to grab something. Just hand her her keys and tell her to get out, lol.
and i would like to add that i feel a lot like you do about the same things and just that straight girls are the way to go, you will meet the right one.
@colormequeer Wow, I've never heard of any trans person address this issue before. I have felt this way a lot of times. The issue hasn't actively come up yet, because I'm pre-T and don't feel comfortable showing my body to anyone, even my fiancee, although I'll be happy to do anything I can for him in the way of handjobs, blowjobs, etc. I feel your pain, bro, but here's a solution that won't solve everything but it'll help a lot. Date a bisexual or pansexual woman.
alright im a little late but i thought of this shit in and out for a loooong long did i say long time lol,it came to this i only went for bi-sexual girls or lesbian women who have dated men but like to fuck women .im not gonna lie and tell you its gonna be great dating a straight woman cause for some its hard to adjust to you getting up switching dicks and etc.bi girls or women who are pan sexual or have dated men in there past but "consider"themselves lesbians are the best to genetic males.
U r SO cute & adorable that I'm sure u'll find the right person. IF u r at all bi- or pan-sexual urself, then u might want to try a bi- or pan-sexual *guy*, especially one who can really appreciate a bi- or pan-sexual FTM! He'd prolly adore u! That said, if u're more-or-less exclusively (or at least primarily) into females, then, yeah, I think u can find one who'll come to appreciate u, whether or not she's initially pansexual or not (cf. KickMyBucket's comment...). Affection & best wishes!
I dated bi girls for awhile...it helped with insecurites...those girls were bitches and unfaithful...not because they were bi....they just had no heart...the girl i love is straight and understanding....you'll find the right girl.
So in short although you may feel like your lacking and she is only wanted you to feel better by comforting you with "it doesnt bother me" in acutality it really may not matter...just think about it. It helps me
we may lack the cismale penis; however we have seen a side of women most men never get to see. It may not feel like it but to some degree we have the upper hand its just finding a women open minded enough. 3) I always remind myself that yes she may identify as being straight but so did a lot of women i dated as a lesbian. I also see straight women now identifying as queer. They didnt just wake up one morning and decide to try it, they fell for someone and it made them realize it. So in
hey bro i think the insecurites you experience is something all transmen go through of missing/lacking something regardless of the others sexual orientation. 1) you cant let those insecurities affect your relationship. Ive been with a couple girls who wanted nothing to do with a transman simply bc in their prior experience he wasnt comfortable with himself! No one wants to date someone whose constantly self conscience. 2) try to focus more on what you do have and less on what you dont
My fiance is a bio male. I don't know how it is with straight guys, but for us we're both identified bi-sexual/pan-sexual. He's dated more men than women and dated trans too. I've dated more men than women. Try and find someone whose bi/pan-sexual maybe? My fiance told me he wanted to date me because he liked me, no matter what I looked like. We're both satisfied because we're totally open about everything we wanted in a relationship. Good luck Mak. Really man, you've been an inspiration to me.
.... ever thought of dateing a bi chick?? just saying cuz i am bisexual and honestly most can understand your issue and would have no prob helping with it er well at least the ones i know
am not being rude or anything coz im a ftm and only date gay girls but if the straight girls are going out with someone who doesnt have a penis doesnt that make them gay ??
nothing anyone can say will make you feel better you have to believe in yourself. all the best pep talks can be given to you and none of that will make a difference. trust in yourself and believing that the past girls weren't good enough for you.
Coming from a pansexual woman's point of view here, when I was with my ex, he was in FTM transition solely on T, no top or bottom surgery done. Though you're not alone in insecurities.. he was SO insecure at first.. but it was soon learned that it doesn't matter HOW you love each other, as long as you love each other, our relationship ended because he moved. Try looking for people with a more pansexual perspective on things. :) The act of love is performed in endless ways, if you meet the one!
Having a penis won't magically make you find love and it won't make the insecurity go away either. Honestly it sounds like you are your worst enemy here. Reality=Finding a love is hard for a lot of us, whatever our gender is! You might also want to stop making "rules" for yourself like saying you will only date gay, straight or whatever kind of woman. Just like it shouldn't matter if you have a penis or not, it should not matter if a woman is gay or straight as long as she loves you!
~what about a MTF woman who is castrated and fully secure with having a penis and no testicles and being completely 'the girl'? You are awesome, just sayin- I'd be interested.. and it kinda makes sense in a weird way. Have you considered anything like that? I obviously have and can understand what you are saying about not having exactly what a partner might be wanting or expecting.. and yeah it sucks, but there could be alternatives. Keep yer eyes open, one day the answer might walk up n say HI
i have a penis and you have a vagina... you want a penis and i want a vagina... i think surgeons could transplant.... if thats the right word... sorry for my english...
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I'm sorry you feel like this sometimes . At least you agknowledge (sorry i know its spelled wrong lol) your feelings and have thought about them but wish you the best of luck !
There is someone for everyone out there, just like gender queers, lesbians etc knowone likes to be labelled but there are people who just like you for you.....just don't get so desperate to find them. If a girl really likes you then she would know the body you come in is mearly a shell for what's inside....which ulitmately is what counts. I just think the girls you have been dating are just not so opened minded, girls like that you should just get rid. You don't need that negativity and BS!
Being in a relationship is not the be all and end all of everything, you need to deal with your own insecurties and make yourself happy before you enter such a partnership. Otherwise the only possible outcome is turning everything to shit. You may not be able to compete with a bio male, but that goes both ways. These girls you have been dating that have dumped you must be really shallow and to be honest as thick as pig shit. As what do they expect you to have in your pants if you're FTM???
mak ... 2 of them told me ' i love you for who you are , you are so special and nice and kiiiiind...'' blah blah this blah blah that and guess what, they all dumped me because i couldnt f@ck them. i totally understand you but for all i know, that wont bring me down to me knees and im not gonna whine about it coz i know i worth a lot and i know my qualities. im not gonna lie im still sometimes down about it but then i just look at the mirror and see a guy ive always been and then im happy :)
I don't know if this will really mean anything, but i wanted to share my feelings. I am a straight, biological female. To me a man doesn't have to have a penis to be a man. To me, maleness is something I can feel coming from inside a person, something natural and internal in their being. If I can feel that coming from him and feel that he is comfortable with his nature that is extremely sexy and it doesn't matter what his genitals look like.
Dude you sound exactly like me. I have this fear that even after I get on T, even after I get top surgery... I won't be completely happy until I have what a bioguy has. So it's like how long do I gotta wait to be happy?! 10 years is a long fuckin time! especially when you realize bioguys were BORN that way and were able to grow up that way.... it's like, the longer I have to wait, the more I have wasted time ust thinking about how unhappy I am. you know? I hope science catches up soon.
You'd be surprised how many "straight" women are curious about transmen. I think unless you're dating someone who is completely comfortable with having sex with both genders, the sexual experience with anyone is going to be lacking.
Hey man, I find I am going through the exact same feeling right now and I am 18 months on "T". I also get very frustrated and insecure when it come to talking to straight girls because I am also thinking in my brain that as soon as they know I don't have a penis they will run.
I know its easier going after Bisexual girls because we are the best of both worlds for them. Anyway man I understand you and I hope you can come to a comfort place within yourself with this situation, as I will try to.
I didn't know any other guys felt the same way I do. It's frustrating and its made me shy away from relationships right now. I might get over it eventually but right now, I'm just gonna work and not think about it.
I think you're amazing and inspiring. As our physical bodies require constant upkeep and maintenance so does our spirit. I hope you are able to find a way to balance what you need with what you want and find your happiness.
I c growth as a micropenis. I ignore everything else dwn there. I have sex like a bioguy. I get bjs, hjs & penetrate vag. make sure girl has some "O's" b4 slide in@ that point size doesn't matter. I do str8 girls. They love givin head. They feel me get hard. Try & let shit go so it doesnt weigh on the relationship. I stop messin' around with girls all together til I found a way to view my "junk" positively. Not that I don't get wicked dysphoria sometimes but just take a step back and regroup.
Dude just relax if a girl doesn't care about you and she just wants a penis then she is a whore and she doesn't love you and you also shouldn't date her , but if you really want to have sex and want the girl to be satisfied and you also want to be "the man " then go date a bisexual one .
i really feel this video man...i have the same frustrations but i think you just have to figure out what you enjoy sexually and communicate with your partner about it..the right girl won't mind it..i may not me huge down there but i have some inches and to me i just feel like i am small and neutered lol...but i like a hand job and a blow job and when i meet a girl and we get to that level it can't hurt to ask if she would do that
I think you are asking to much of yourself you need to understand and accept that you are a gurl moving into a guy's world... and for that you have done enough and you should be happy ur not a guy because you would understand the needs of a women a thing that a real man would never know... plus why not date lesbians?? we are women as straight women are.. you need to stop asking to much about yourself and others and enjoy what you got and learn how to use it...
Im M2F, and ive dated Gay' and Straight's, and like you say with dating lesbian's i feel like im a girl but im not a regular girl, and if i date Straight guy's there alway's like oh it dont matter to me i like you so much and it always ends up horribly, it hurt's alot, but i wouldnt change my position in my life, becuase i will find someone out there that love's me for me, hopefully. i will be most likely having the Surgery sometime in the future. just hang in there, btw your SO Stunning love:]
hey man, yeah i'm in the same sorta position as you. i always date straight girls, and atm theres this girl who i reallllyyy like, and she likes me back. i've done stuff to her, and i dont expect/want stuff back, cos to me in a non bio body it doesnt feel right :/ and i've avoided full sexual relations, but i know she expects them and i dont wanna let her down, and it does get you down and make you worry but at the end of the day if they cant acccept it, they're not worth it :)
hey man the bio boys can't "compete" with us either! chin up man! i''ve never had a problem with girls that way and i have always been with 'straight'girls. you'll know when you meet the right one it is frustrating not to have a penis but maybe one day the medical science will be better and we willl. its all good you gotta figure out a way to find security in yourself.
@colormequeer i know bro i feel ya but thats why we're here for each other right?i got alot of info i can share if you're interested or just to talk anytime we're all in this together!
listen guy did u know that theyre people right between lesbian and straight theyll treat like a guy and still want to give u oral and ithink thats best for ur situation
It seems to me like you'll *never* be satisfied as long as you judge the value of your body and your experience against heteronormative constructs. There's a reason queers fight heteronormativity; it makes everyone feel necessarily incomplete and dissatisfied. I think the challenge is to stop making comparisons and adjudications based on a heteronormative worldview. Your screenname is colormequeer--but are you seeing your own life through queer-colored glasses? Its particular, queer beauty?
Have you talked to the straight girls you've dated about oral sex? If a girl is open enough to date a trans-man, she's probably open enough to at least consider oral sex with you.
I completely agree with what you said about the surgery options...they really aren't that good =/ I don't think they'd work well for what I want either...And it is dissapointing to have to wait BUT...think about it this way; maybe some new awsome advance in the field will come up. I'm always looking for that.
i'm a hetero female, and always have been, currently dating trans guy. first non-bio male i've ever been exposed to, much less dated. as far as the oral sex thing goes, yeah it took me a while to get comfortable with it, but to be completely honest now i like it better than giving oral to a bio guy. and i don't think you should categorize what type of girls your after - just find a girl you like and go from there, regardless of her sexual orientation. good luck =]
Have you considered women who identify as femme (not ("just") lesbian or straight)? I'm a transboy and my girlfriend is femme. There are many femmes out there who are attracted to transguys and their bodies, including every part. And I'm certain a lot of women identify as straight because they are into men, and not to penises per se.If someone is open-mided they'll realize that it is mainly to do with what you are used to as "male genitalia".
Im a straight girl who has never dated a lesbian or a transman and I just want to say that I want a nice, awesome guy to hang out with not just a penis
hey man i know i said a comment earlier about bi girls and i stick by it however, i totally understand about not having the junk they are looking for. Like it is hard to be who you want to be with out a penis :( I know because i feel the same way you do. I mean it is possible dont get me wrong alot of guys can survive with out it but i get pretty depressed about it to. Just wait till a girl finds you!
hey man i know i said a comment earlier about bi girls and i stick by it however, i totally understand about not having the junk they are looking for. Like it is hard to be who you want to be with out a penis :( I know because i feel the same way you do. I mean it is possible dont get me wrong alot of guys can survive with out it but i get pretty depressed about it to. Just wait till a girl finds you!
i completely understand where you are coming from and it blows because I want to give a straight girl what she wants. Dealing with straight women are better than dealing with lesbian women because straight women treat me more as if the past didnt matter. It really blows especially when a woman wants to give you a blowjob and you lack the equipment to recieve it.
i can completely understand where u are coming from. trans men do not have a dick. how are we going to have a relationship (sexually) with a female? i understand ur frustration.
Wow and i thought i was the only one with this problem. I haven't started t and already i' am having these same problems as you. I had a lesbian girlfriend and it matter much to her that i am a trans boi. She wanted me to stay as a physical female, Things didn't work out, so i 'am currently dating a straight girl and she tells me the same thing It doesn't matter but it does because i have no penis. It's depressing
my girlfriend was bi when we first got together, but she has started to identify more as a lesbian these days. i almost wish she was more into guys like before, because i feel like i can compete with guys WAY better than with girls. so now that shes accepted that shes a lesbian and is not into men at all, im sitting here kind of like uhh... well what about me? so i dont know dude, im kind of stuck in the same boat.
hey mak. I think u dont need get frustrated with that. surely, some people like it. I speak for myself, quite honestly, I think u re very atracttive. mainly because u ve already been a woman..and also cause of your mentality. But now you are a real man! and no matter if u ve a dick or not. there are other ways to give pleasure. excuse my candor, but u are the perfect man..! u know exactly where to touch a woman sexually.
my girlfriend had never dated trans-men before me. nor has she dated a lesbian. we talk about sexism a lot. sexist, insecure non-trans men sometimes make a big deal about having a dick. but 99% of the straight women i've talked to could care less. the media would like us to believe that the penis is all that matters. but
a lot of the media is dominated by non-trans men. its not what you have. its how you use it.
forget the lesbians.....there r st8 girls who will stick with u when they get to know u and fall in love with u and your parts. its not a bio size dick but a cute mini dick and she just may get to love it just like she loves u! no worries dude. not alot of st8 ladies wanna get rammed by a pipe!!!
Mak: It was good to see another video from you, but I am sorry that you are having so much trouble. I think that several good suggestions have been mentioned. I would like to call your attention to the one made by Toby. Look for women with similar interests and compatable personalities and you will find some that are not fixiated on performing sex in the sexual binary (in other words, one who is flexible). Good luck, brother. Oh, and ditch the cigarettes!
really bro, you just have to find a girl that is just open to your needs. when you find the right girl it won't matter.i understand that it sucks about not have a bio dick, but we have to find a way to get past it. there are women out there for men like us..it just feels like they are tucked away on the moon. more and more ive been more comfortable with the thought of being with another trans guy, we know how to treat one another. i think you just need to be around more strait women that date us
Hey man, I know what you're saying about the whole oral sex thing. I mean I have a wonderful girlfriend and I still can't expect that from here, even if we've been together for awhile. But what I can say is I think you need to relax. You know the right girl will come along that will understand and work with you, even if its not perfect right away everything will come together. Believe me just give it time. And enjoy what you have now.
Have you considered online dating? You can lay it all out there on an internet profile to a bunch of strangers and see what comes up. Some claim to have found true love on it.
But anyway, you also seem frustrated mentally so maybe you should also take up mediation, do some yoga, etc, to calm the mind. Might seem silly but I think it'll have some positive results and its a good way to channel that repressed sexual energy into something beneficial.
my god, you're so hot!
i identify as a bisexual, find one of these and they might find you hot as hell as a man, and will not mind going down on you 'transgenitalia' as one of the ftm friends calls it :P
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Oh! Just had an idea, other than transwoman bisexual woman would be a good match for transdudes. See, there's a loop hole for everything. x]
TheSnowyice 2 months ago
cont. It will be pretty hard for anyone like us to find girlfriends/boyfriends though and right now that's really tough for me to deal with, despite the lack of personal bodily dysphoria that other transpeople have. Especially transsexuals. Unless you were to date a transwoman, it's definately not easy to come across someone that fully understands these issues, however it's not impossible. There's really nothing one can do about sexual function/attraction though because that's just nature. =-[
TheSnowyice 2 months ago
This sounds like a Greek tradgety. :( It is sad and depressing-people commit suicide because of this all the time. The fact of the matter is though, is that once you look past your body, it's okay to be different and everyone has insecurities. Personally, it took me years to accept myself. Now when I look in the mirror, I don't feel like a boy in a "girl's body." Because it's not a girl's body, it's mine and I'm a boy. Although, I don't really feel dysphoria very much. To me it's just genitles.
TheSnowyice 2 months ago
I feel the same way. I have to somehow explain this stuff to my best friend, as I am attracted to her and I get jealous of other men she pays a** loads of attention to. I keep starting fights with them to get them off her. I know I can't compete with them for the lack of a dick. Its not good, and I'm not looking forward to the conversation. So d*mn depressing and angering.
-Kyle
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kayla748 3 months ago
Dude, I know exactly how you feel. My ex swore up and down she loved me, but after a year and a half she left because I don't have what bio guys have.
spin036 3 months ago
btw, NINJA TURTLES POSTER FOR THE WIN
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i fucking admire you man
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where Did ur DIck go ??? the toilet ???
nabakoful 6 months ago
I agree! You should date a bi girl! *Points to self* Eh??
Haha... no. But seriously.
pnkrk1039 6 months ago
Hey Mak,
I don't want to minimize your experience or how you are feeling about nothaving a penis. But something jumped out to me while watching this video. Around 4:20 you said something along the lines of "you know in your head it would be the end of the relationship" the fact that you are so concerned about having to compete and that you have yourself convinced while in the relationship that this issue will be the end of the relationship...Maybe it's becoming a self fulfilling prophecy?
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I really hope you find happiness!
Valkyrieroller 7 months ago
As a women who really likes sex a penis is overrated. I am married to a man and it's great, but I've had really hot sex without penis's being involved. I'm just saying... Maybe you should try dating a bisexual girl. I think you are a hot guy, and it's not just how you look. Your voice is amazing. You share your heart in these videos. You seem all guy to me, even the way you talk (and I'm not talking about the voice). Thank you for sharing a part of yourself in these videos! ...
Valkyrieroller 7 months ago 3
I found your vids when I started looking on info about transition. I have a friend who is going through transition and I just wanted to get an idea of what he is facing. I am totally intrigued with you and I have watched a lot of your stuff on here. So anyways... I have dated both men and woman, I guess you could label me as bi, but for me it's not about the sexual anatomy that the other person has. It's the person I'm in to, and I've been in to people with all kinds of anatomy...
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Wow dont you love how these people think our lifestyle is so wrong but yet they take time out of there day just to bash us!
xxhunterkadexx 8 months ago
Wow dont you love how these people think our lifestyle is so wrong but yet they take time out of there day just to bash us!
xxhunterkadexx 8 months ago 2
as far as hand jobs and blow jobs go...they dont call it a job for nothing! lol. Its definitely not my favorite item on the sexual menu to order. Its just one of those things that you have to work out with your partner like any sexual relationship.
jessicalynnstrom 8 months ago
Have you tried pumping or cream?
MrSmitherz22 9 months ago
bro let me tell you som, Im a straight guy, hear me out. you know I've been with a lotta woman and girls I cant rememberem all but one thing am sure of is if you think your a man like I do be a player thats what a real single man do for fun cause for that promissing girl you want? the more popular you r the more she'l last in your life cause she will never want another girl to evn talk 2 u only her,"live life to the fullest" and build your name first bro hope that helps
johnson12379 9 months ago
Penis or no penis, youre the cutest guy Ive seen in a long while <3
LovexMoixDead 10 months ago 4
@LovexMoixDead i second that motion. lol
jessicalynnstrom 8 months ago
What about bisexual or pansexual women?
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you just need to date & have fun/sex with people who are attracted to you for you!
if you are with the right person it will open your eyes... for afterall you can have a hand or a blow job. plus if your partner and you communicate what feels good, while it is being done, you both will know how great it feels!
sometimes i get frustrated because i don't think i am "enough"...but when i hear that's: fucking amazing, don't stop, oww my you've got it, you're going to make me cum.. i know that i
unclassifiedca 10 months ago
you just need to date & have fun/sex with people who are attracted to you for you!
if you are with the right person it will open your eyes... for afterall you can have a hand or a blow job. plus if your partner and you communicate what feels good, while it is being done, you both will know how great it feels!
sometimes i get frustrated because i don't think i am "enough"...but when i hear that's: fucking amazing, don't stop, oww my you've got it, you're going to make me cum.. i know that it
unclassifiedca 10 months ago 3
Your frickin sexy no matter what down there looks like
MakaylaxXxMassakre 10 months ago 2
I would be totally into you!
Maybe you should try daiting
very Passable beuitiful mtf transwomen:D we totally understand and are open to anything lol mtf and ftms are like to puzzle peaces totally opposite but fit exactly together
QueiTann 11 months ago
All these insecurities are in your head; it's not about who you can have a good relationship with, right? Nobody can change your believes but yourself. If you come to terms with what you want, you will find someone who will be happy with it.
dudess4rent 11 months ago
I am very glad I do not have to deal with this. But at same time I really envy you the concrete situation you deal with. At least you know the back to front of your problem.
Dovenpeis 11 months ago
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The people that only see someone based on what they have down the bottom.
Are the ones that aren't worth being with. The ones that are worth being with, are the ones that won't matter what gender you are and will still love you no matter what. I mean, when you find the right person and they fall in love with you, they won't care. They will love you for who you are and not for the anatomy.
Jazzy4lyf 1 year ago
When True love actually approaches, all will come naturally and no stress will be involved. However, when people go out looking for the destined person for them, that is when relationships break up, or people get divorced. Since Patience, can only one day bring the true person that is your destined other half. I've always told myself, patience serves best! Since, only then you will find the person you were meant to be with from the beginning. : P
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Jazzy4lyf 1 year ago
i feel u man... my gf IS bi and i'm a lez, i can only pleasure her with oral sex but i still think she want more.. i feel ur insecurities man...
katyperrymalsiaFAN91 1 year ago
@katyperrymalsiaFAN91 why dont u use a strap on?
polishboyw12 7 months ago
i feel u man...
katyperrymalsiaFAN91 1 year ago
I just came across your videos tonight and I've enjoyed watching them and getting to know you. I think that everyone in one way or another has insecurities about themselves. I think that for me it doesnt matter whats gender a person is and whats between their legs, to me its their personality and whats in their heart. I believe that you will find someone that will love you for you. I truly think that you are very cute.
angelbaby19771 1 year ago
I honestly don't think love is all about sex and if someone really love's you they'll give up there sexual life for you and I wouldn't worry about bio guys because like I said if that one person weather it be a lesbian or a straight women like's or love's you there will be no competition. - love Dimarii
MegaBeautiful1997 1 year ago
how can you expect somebody to love you when you have so much insecurities about your self... love you and you will find the write woman..your an amazing person
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i think you are fucking hot
edhel21 1 year ago
Dude, I'm a queer female (too lazy to actually try to squeeze into a single label) and I find you extremely attractive. A penis doesn't make a man.
LadySpyke 1 year ago
Thanks for the videos man. You'll find a girl that digs you for you and doesn't care if you have a dick or not. I'm not trying to blow sunshine up your ass, I'm serious. Give it time, it'll work itself out.
centsofblake 1 year ago
Maybe you could try dating a transwoman? You would know what it feels like to be in each other's shoes that way; it could be a more understanding relationship.
Wraithpaw 1 year ago
Are you willing to give a piece of your arm for it? You can get a phalloplasty... and then, man.... bio guys can't compete at all. Why? Cause phalloplasty gives you an internal pump to keep it up. and NO bioguy can keep it up at will. Hahah. I'm a gay FTM I like guys. I like gay guys. Gay guys can be open, but they too also place a lot of emphasis on whether or not you have a dick. I will give a piece of my arm to have one, because being in a normal relationship with a gay guy is worth it.
Manacle180 1 year ago
cont: ive never though of myself being andrpogynous because im just the run of the mill normal looking guy. people mistake me for a 16 year old pre pubescent boy but its dosent matter naymore. thats why i prefer not to go on T anymore. I have girls who are lesbians flocking. at least with my experience. they like the fact that you dont have a dick but are masculine loooking, etc. straight girls youre always going to have competetion with the cis/bio males unfortanatley. I know how it is..
oblongfan1 1 year ago
yeah dude i can relate im a ftm. havent had full T tretment and dont plan on it because of my health. im actually happy with just my top surgery. but i can relate to this. I tend to get more lesbians my way than straight girls. mainly because a lot of straight chicks obviously want a dick.one girl i managed to turn i guess lesbian said she didnt care about it.I honestly prefer dating lesbians which is why i dont care if people see me a s a straight guy or butch dyke lol ive come to accept this.
oblongfan1 1 year ago
It's really hard for us girls that date trans guy openly and honestly are secure in the relationship. We do everything to make you feel as much like a bio male as well. Its going to be a struggle for everyone involved but I do have to say that when dating a trans guy and he is ALWAYS making comments about how he isn't good enough it makes it harder for us to make you feel like you are.
Tattoosandeyeliner 1 year ago
(cont.) I always just found that even though we may have had to work a little harder for sex, that just made it even more worth it! I hope you're feeling better about yourself and your situation. You shouldn't have to constantly feel like you have to compete with anybody. You're such a great guy! In every way!
alicielio 1 year ago
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alicielio 1 year ago
How are you feeling about these issues now? Have things improved? Any revelations on the subject? When I was dating my trans boyfriend, he expressed the same frustrations to me. And while I will admit I did get a little sad from time to time that we may never have been able to have sexual relations like a biological heterosexual couple, where we were both able to be fulfilled at the same time, I still always loved and completely enjoyed being with him in every way.
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I always just found that even though we may have had to work a little harder for sex, that just made it even more worth it! I hope you're feeling better about yourself and your situation. You shouldn't have to constantly feel like you have to compete with anybody. You're such a great guy! In every way!
alicielio 1 year ago
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I always just found that even though we may have had to work a little harder for sex, that just made it even more worth it! I hope you're feeling better about yourself and your situation. You shouldn't have to constantly feel like you have to compete with anybody. You're such a great guy! In every way!
alicielio 1 year ago
I sent you a message about my thoughts on this video. I hope it helps. If you have any other questions your welcome to write me back. :)
heidinicole1 1 year ago
I just sent you a message about my thoughts on this video. I hope that it helps.
heidinicole1 1 year ago
What about dating a bi girl. That way she doesn't care either way. She could see you as a guy and give you oral sex. =D
DeathNoteFann 1 year ago
I am a bio-woman, and just for the record, I think you are not only really sweet, but also really hot and I would totally go out with you. Sex should only be one part of an awesome relationship, and there's so much more to a person than anatomy.
yogagirlstacey 1 year ago
let love come on its own. u fall for someone, u dont pick girls u like and try it, u know who the good ones r when they come around, and u wont wanna breathe without them, thats how its suppose to be. and ure a super friggin hot guy, and u seem nicer than any other, and luggage makes ppl better, so it will come around for u.
gollje 1 year ago
i kinda agree with different things here. u will never feel quite good enough, does not matter who u r, or which sex u came out. u make it in this world getting comfortable with ure self, and i honestly believe that life is valued in the people who loves u for who u are, so i vote u be ure self, and wait til u find someone.
and i read the comments about bi girls, i get it, we dont care whats downstairs, we fall for u, we fall for who u r, thats just the way it is, but dont go looking mak.
gollje 1 year ago 2
hey just wait for the right woman to come along who loves u for whom you are. iam lesbian, but I love trans men, lesbians understand more than straight woman. i am tara from MI. I like your videos, your super cute.
ShaneCounts 1 year ago
you should date a bisexual girl. she can treat you like a guy and be happy giving you an oral
loonygrl21 1 year ago
you should just date whoever you are comfortable with.. dont worry about what you think you are lacking. Although saying you wont date an entire group of women is kind of dumb too. Thats like the lesbians who swear off bisexual girls.. you could just date whatever women you are attracted to and get along with.
YourLoveLetter 1 year ago
I'm a "bio guy", what you describe seems normal as part of the male experience. We all feel like we can't compete sometimes. You might say "wow, I feel soooo sorry for you, at least you have a dick", but people are never happy. Why do you think guys act macho, show off, buy cars, join gangs, or try to make money. If you had a dick, or if I had a 10 inch dick, we'd find something else to feel inadequate about. Also, things could be worse - I may as well not have a dick as it has never been used.
tosgem 1 year ago 22
have you ever thought about dating a trans woman? just throwing it out there.. :) very cutew btw i wouldnt be able to clock you.
melonyvonkruz 1 year ago
This is really going to come off cliche but try to see the intent behind the words. In order to really truly love someone else regardless of gender/sex/age or whatever. You have to love yourself first. You are right in that it is going to be difficult to do that until you are able to get the quality of bottom surgery you'd like. But here's the thing...if you could learn to love yourself in whatever form you are you'd be that much more ahead of the game when you finally get it.
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ShoshieB1 1 year ago
Im 16 your old and im transgender born a boy but trapped in this female body and i just wanna say that all your vids that you have uploaed have helped and i know how you feel about having to comptee with bio men i feel that same way thanks for posting these viedos..and dont worry aout the jackasses that post rude comment they wont ever understand
LovelessNobodyAku 1 year ago
Have you tried dating a bisexual girl?
Like I'm bisexual and personally it wouldn't bother me. Maybe it is because I like the most women think about someone's feeling. I don't know. I say you should give it a shot with a bisexual girl though.
friendlygirlv 1 year ago
ultimately, these words like lesbian, straight, etc. are to describe a persons tendencies but are not the final word on a persons identity. if a girl is with you, she is with you not just the textbook idea of a man. it is entirely possible for a straight girl to see you as a man and want to give you head and not have a problem with it. now the trick is finding those girls LOL.
youcancallmethedude 1 year ago
you said you "can't expect" a straight girl to give you oral sex because she's straight and likes dick... but honestly, you should expect her to to the same extent you "expect"anyone to. (obviously nobody should feel like they HAVE to) most girls don't suck dick cause they like the feeling of it in their mouth, they like to make the guy feel good. this isn't to say i am not self conscious or scared, and honestly haven't had sex since starting t. but if a girl wants you, she gets the whole pkg.
youcancallmethedude 1 year ago
Can u message me? I need some advice
anonomus1414 1 year ago
dude i know ur issue my ex was like 'no no i love the way you are' im still a FTM i wanna go thru the transition u went thru im only 16 but im dying over here how did you do it? and just keep ur chin up man. things will go great soon. thats what i say to ma self every mornin cuz thats how i feel =[ love your hair and your voice btw =]]
yesimgay123 1 year ago
what about bisexual women?
LiquoriceLexi 1 year ago
Dude u r Awsome :)
anonomus1414 1 year ago
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this is rediculous you should have never taken t ruined your voice face and body...
its your decision now man up lol and stop whining
idk why females take t shots they still look and sound like women...
carlosworldpeace 1 year ago
@carlosworldpeace --- your name has world peace and you slander trans people? EPIC FAIL.
colormequeer 1 year ago 74
@carlosworldpeace no... he looks hot, and you sound dumb.
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polishboyw12 7 months ago
I would go with a transsexual (there are really pretty ones) or bisexual girl.
TheSaintMatt 1 year ago
i miss u broski!
dreadedkadaj 1 year ago
There are some good options about bottom surgery, may be you can look over it. i found a plastic surgeon in Greece called Theodore Voukides and his work seems really interesting. msg me if you wanna know more
dipbluelm 1 year ago
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dipbluelm 1 year ago
Date a pansexual?
LucasW86 1 year ago
dude, maybe you should date bisexual girls. it might relieve some of the stress of not having the "right" parts, and they'd still view you as a guy, regardless of what bits sit between your legs :)
alternatively, there are some pieces of "equipment" that can allow the "giver" to also feel pleasure. The decent ones are pretty expensive and some of them claim to do that but are actually useless, but meh.
either way, chip up :) you'll find the right option for surgery soon.
sacraficialangel7 1 year ago
God, man... I swear I've had all those things go through my mind countless times before and be bothered by it too. I've had those same depressing days. Bottom surgery these days is too sketchy for me too, so yes I am still dealing with it. It's hard to deal with, but ultimately youll meet a girl open minded enough to have you and stick with you. That's more valuable than finding a shallow girl who's selfish and just wants to grab something. Just hand her her keys and tell her to get out, lol.
odorobou 1 year ago
and i would like to add that i feel a lot like you do about the same things and just that straight girls are the way to go, you will meet the right one.
06philly 1 year ago
been with a straight girl for 2 years ... pre t . it does happen. if theyre for you, then they're for you.
06philly 1 year ago
@colormequeer Wow, I've never heard of any trans person address this issue before. I have felt this way a lot of times. The issue hasn't actively come up yet, because I'm pre-T and don't feel comfortable showing my body to anyone, even my fiancee, although I'll be happy to do anything I can for him in the way of handjobs, blowjobs, etc. I feel your pain, bro, but here's a solution that won't solve everything but it'll help a lot. Date a bisexual or pansexual woman.
SaruCharmed 1 year ago
alright im a little late but i thought of this shit in and out for a loooong long did i say long time lol,it came to this i only went for bi-sexual girls or lesbian women who have dated men but like to fuck women .im not gonna lie and tell you its gonna be great dating a straight woman cause for some its hard to adjust to you getting up switching dicks and etc.bi girls or women who are pan sexual or have dated men in there past but "consider"themselves lesbians are the best to genetic males.
camdenclipperhands 1 year ago
U r SO cute & adorable that I'm sure u'll find the right person. IF u r at all bi- or pan-sexual urself, then u might want to try a bi- or pan-sexual *guy*, especially one who can really appreciate a bi- or pan-sexual FTM! He'd prolly adore u! That said, if u're more-or-less exclusively (or at least primarily) into females, then, yeah, I think u can find one who'll come to appreciate u, whether or not she's initially pansexual or not (cf. KickMyBucket's comment...). Affection & best wishes!
MCP2012 1 year ago
I understand where you are coming from. Let's face it, sex is a huge thing, but just finding the right people who want to be with is hard.
sorachick26 1 year ago
@kareenlomax1993 It;s very expensive and very risky to get it done. If they mess up one detail, you won't feel a thing.
sorachick26 1 year ago
I dated bi girls for awhile...it helped with insecurites...those girls were bitches and unfaithful...not because they were bi....they just had no heart...the girl i love is straight and understanding....you'll find the right girl.
KellykaLynn 1 year ago
been long time since you updated u doing ok?
Uniteme 1 year ago
How about dating a pansexual girl?
peacefulguitar38 1 year ago 2
So in short although you may feel like your lacking and she is only wanted you to feel better by comforting you with "it doesnt bother me" in acutality it really may not matter...just think about it. It helps me
BrydenCohen 1 year ago
we may lack the cismale penis; however we have seen a side of women most men never get to see. It may not feel like it but to some degree we have the upper hand its just finding a women open minded enough. 3) I always remind myself that yes she may identify as being straight but so did a lot of women i dated as a lesbian. I also see straight women now identifying as queer. They didnt just wake up one morning and decide to try it, they fell for someone and it made them realize it. So in
BrydenCohen 1 year ago
hey bro i think the insecurites you experience is something all transmen go through of missing/lacking something regardless of the others sexual orientation. 1) you cant let those insecurities affect your relationship. Ive been with a couple girls who wanted nothing to do with a transman simply bc in their prior experience he wasnt comfortable with himself! No one wants to date someone whose constantly self conscience. 2) try to focus more on what you do have and less on what you dont
BrydenCohen 1 year ago
My fiance is a bio male. I don't know how it is with straight guys, but for us we're both identified bi-sexual/pan-sexual. He's dated more men than women and dated trans too. I've dated more men than women. Try and find someone whose bi/pan-sexual maybe? My fiance told me he wanted to date me because he liked me, no matter what I looked like. We're both satisfied because we're totally open about everything we wanted in a relationship. Good luck Mak. Really man, you've been an inspiration to me.
0t0ku 1 year ago
well I think you are very hot :) haha just wanted to throw that out there. I'm sure any girl would be lucky to be with a cool guy like you.
squeegybeckinhyme 1 year ago
oh shit r u the cute guy from before?
sahooq 1 year ago
.... ever thought of dateing a bi chick?? just saying cuz i am bisexual and honestly most can understand your issue and would have no prob helping with it er well at least the ones i know
ramneater12 1 year ago
am not being rude or anything coz im a ftm and only date gay girls but if the straight girls are going out with someone who doesnt have a penis doesnt that make them gay ??
DylanJamesAkaSavD 1 year ago
nothing anyone can say will make you feel better you have to believe in yourself. all the best pep talks can be given to you and none of that will make a difference. trust in yourself and believing that the past girls weren't good enough for you.
dragonrider276 1 year ago
Coming from a pansexual woman's point of view here, when I was with my ex, he was in FTM transition solely on T, no top or bottom surgery done. Though you're not alone in insecurities.. he was SO insecure at first.. but it was soon learned that it doesn't matter HOW you love each other, as long as you love each other, our relationship ended because he moved. Try looking for people with a more pansexual perspective on things. :) The act of love is performed in endless ways, if you meet the one!
EndlessEyesOfFate 1 year ago
Having a penis won't magically make you find love and it won't make the insecurity go away either. Honestly it sounds like you are your worst enemy here. Reality=Finding a love is hard for a lot of us, whatever our gender is! You might also want to stop making "rules" for yourself like saying you will only date gay, straight or whatever kind of woman. Just like it shouldn't matter if you have a penis or not, it should not matter if a woman is gay or straight as long as she loves you!
OneRandomBlonde 1 year ago
~what about a MTF woman who is castrated and fully secure with having a penis and no testicles and being completely 'the girl'? You are awesome, just sayin- I'd be interested.. and it kinda makes sense in a weird way. Have you considered anything like that? I obviously have and can understand what you are saying about not having exactly what a partner might be wanting or expecting.. and yeah it sucks, but there could be alternatives. Keep yer eyes open, one day the answer might walk up n say HI
lostdollbaby 1 year ago
i have a penis and you have a vagina... you want a penis and i want a vagina... i think surgeons could transplant.... if thats the right word... sorry for my english...
itsGagaBitch 1 year ago
how do you get your testosterone?
ROBINMEADONTOP 1 year ago
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rawjoedallas 1 year ago
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Lorca125 1 year ago
you need a QUEER girl :) and yeah, that's an offer!! xx
Lorca125 1 year ago
I'm sorry you feel like this sometimes . At least you agknowledge (sorry i know its spelled wrong lol) your feelings and have thought about them but wish you the best of luck !
idkdude97 1 year ago
There is someone for everyone out there, just like gender queers, lesbians etc knowone likes to be labelled but there are people who just like you for you.....just don't get so desperate to find them. If a girl really likes you then she would know the body you come in is mearly a shell for what's inside....which ulitmately is what counts. I just think the girls you have been dating are just not so opened minded, girls like that you should just get rid. You don't need that negativity and BS!
actiongirl5 1 year ago
Being in a relationship is not the be all and end all of everything, you need to deal with your own insecurties and make yourself happy before you enter such a partnership. Otherwise the only possible outcome is turning everything to shit. You may not be able to compete with a bio male, but that goes both ways. These girls you have been dating that have dumped you must be really shallow and to be honest as thick as pig shit. As what do they expect you to have in your pants if you're FTM???
actiongirl5 1 year ago
mak ... 2 of them told me ' i love you for who you are , you are so special and nice and kiiiiind...'' blah blah this blah blah that and guess what, they all dumped me because i couldnt f@ck them. i totally understand you but for all i know, that wont bring me down to me knees and im not gonna whine about it coz i know i worth a lot and i know my qualities. im not gonna lie im still sometimes down about it but then i just look at the mirror and see a guy ive always been and then im happy :)
ottribe 1 year ago
why don't you just have the surgery?
scotcandy2001 1 year ago
@scotcandy2001 why dont you just give him 40.000 bucks, and even if you do, its not gonna work like 'normal' penis ya know?
ottribe 1 year ago 2
I don't know if this will really mean anything, but i wanted to share my feelings. I am a straight, biological female. To me a man doesn't have to have a penis to be a man. To me, maleness is something I can feel coming from inside a person, something natural and internal in their being. If I can feel that coming from him and feel that he is comfortable with his nature that is extremely sexy and it doesn't matter what his genitals look like.
BlankParty 1 year ago 20
Dude you sound exactly like me. I have this fear that even after I get on T, even after I get top surgery... I won't be completely happy until I have what a bioguy has. So it's like how long do I gotta wait to be happy?! 10 years is a long fuckin time! especially when you realize bioguys were BORN that way and were able to grow up that way.... it's like, the longer I have to wait, the more I have wasted time ust thinking about how unhappy I am. you know? I hope science catches up soon.
MyGenesis122 1 year ago
You'd be surprised how many "straight" women are curious about transmen. I think unless you're dating someone who is completely comfortable with having sex with both genders, the sexual experience with anyone is going to be lacking.
SDAG 1 year ago
Hey man, I find I am going through the exact same feeling right now and I am 18 months on "T". I also get very frustrated and insecure when it come to talking to straight girls because I am also thinking in my brain that as soon as they know I don't have a penis they will run.
I know its easier going after Bisexual girls because we are the best of both worlds for them. Anyway man I understand you and I hope you can come to a comfort place within yourself with this situation, as I will try to.
MaTrIx1912 1 year ago
dude you're looking great!
transboychris 1 year ago
I didn't know any other guys felt the same way I do. It's frustrating and its made me shy away from relationships right now. I might get over it eventually but right now, I'm just gonna work and not think about it.
Amenat 1 year ago
I think you're amazing and inspiring. As our physical bodies require constant upkeep and maintenance so does our spirit. I hope you are able to find a way to balance what you need with what you want and find your happiness.
sadubone 1 year ago
I c growth as a micropenis. I ignore everything else dwn there. I have sex like a bioguy. I get bjs, hjs & penetrate vag. make sure girl has some "O's" b4 slide in@ that point size doesn't matter. I do str8 girls. They love givin head. They feel me get hard. Try & let shit go so it doesnt weigh on the relationship. I stop messin' around with girls all together til I found a way to view my "junk" positively. Not that I don't get wicked dysphoria sometimes but just take a step back and regroup.
noisewhat 1 year ago
Why is this gay guy talking about getting with girls??????
fuqqedup 1 year ago
@fuqqedup he isn't gay lol
Skylerdlc 1 year ago
Dude just relax if a girl doesn't care about you and she just wants a penis then she is a whore and she doesn't love you and you also shouldn't date her , but if you really want to have sex and want the girl to be satisfied and you also want to be "the man " then go date a bisexual one .
TheAssesKicker 1 year ago
i really feel this video man...i have the same frustrations but i think you just have to figure out what you enjoy sexually and communicate with your partner about it..the right girl won't mind it..i may not me huge down there but i have some inches and to me i just feel like i am small and neutered lol...but i like a hand job and a blow job and when i meet a girl and we get to that level it can't hurt to ask if she would do that
ThatPunkBrent 1 year ago
thats real rough dude, thanks for sharing and being so honest.
vrock913 1 year ago
I think you are asking to much of yourself you need to understand and accept that you are a gurl moving into a guy's world... and for that you have done enough and you should be happy ur not a guy because you would understand the needs of a women a thing that a real man would never know... plus why not date lesbians?? we are women as straight women are.. you need to stop asking to much about yourself and others and enjoy what you got and learn how to use it...
liza2000us2001 1 year ago
Im M2F, and ive dated Gay' and Straight's, and like you say with dating lesbian's i feel like im a girl but im not a regular girl, and if i date Straight guy's there alway's like oh it dont matter to me i like you so much and it always ends up horribly, it hurt's alot, but i wouldnt change my position in my life, becuase i will find someone out there that love's me for me, hopefully. i will be most likely having the Surgery sometime in the future. just hang in there, btw your SO Stunning love:]
stilettosexlust 1 year ago
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stilettosexlust 1 year ago
you just said everything i feel.
ANFjace 1 year ago
hey man, yeah i'm in the same sorta position as you. i always date straight girls, and atm theres this girl who i reallllyyy like, and she likes me back. i've done stuff to her, and i dont expect/want stuff back, cos to me in a non bio body it doesnt feel right :/ and i've avoided full sexual relations, but i know she expects them and i dont wanna let her down, and it does get you down and make you worry but at the end of the day if they cant acccept it, they're not worth it :)
TheEdman93 1 year ago
hey man the bio boys can't "compete" with us either! chin up man! i''ve never had a problem with girls that way and i have always been with 'straight'girls. you'll know when you meet the right one it is frustrating not to have a penis but maybe one day the medical science will be better and we willl. its all good you gotta figure out a way to find security in yourself.
bizicki 1 year ago 5
@bizicki yeah... finding security within myself is what i'm working on right now.. some days are better than others, ya know?
colormequeer 1 year ago 10
@colormequeer i know bro i feel ya but thats why we're here for each other right?i got alot of info i can share if you're interested or just to talk anytime we're all in this together!
bizicki 1 year ago
i don't know if this is an option which makes sense or is in any way at all satisfying for you, but how about bisexual girls?
exxxorcistor 1 year ago
listen guy did u know that theyre people right between lesbian and straight theyll treat like a guy and still want to give u oral and ithink thats best for ur situation
benderbang48 1 year ago
@benderbang48 im bisexual and i agree 100%
vrock913 1 year ago
It seems to me like you'll *never* be satisfied as long as you judge the value of your body and your experience against heteronormative constructs. There's a reason queers fight heteronormativity; it makes everyone feel necessarily incomplete and dissatisfied. I think the challenge is to stop making comparisons and adjudications based on a heteronormative worldview. Your screenname is colormequeer--but are you seeing your own life through queer-colored glasses? Its particular, queer beauty?
riotpoof82 1 year ago 3
So, I'm confused. Why isn't bottom surgery really an option at the moment? *sigh* I have so much to learn.
chocolatepieisyummy 1 year ago
That's gotta suck. =[
Have you talked to the straight girls you've dated about oral sex? If a girl is open enough to date a trans-man, she's probably open enough to at least consider oral sex with you.
lunabell14 1 year ago
I completely agree with what you said about the surgery options...they really aren't that good =/ I don't think they'd work well for what I want either...And it is dissapointing to have to wait BUT...think about it this way; maybe some new awsome advance in the field will come up. I'm always looking for that.
RinChan36 1 year ago
i'm a hetero female, and always have been, currently dating trans guy. first non-bio male i've ever been exposed to, much less dated. as far as the oral sex thing goes, yeah it took me a while to get comfortable with it, but to be completely honest now i like it better than giving oral to a bio guy. and i don't think you should categorize what type of girls your after - just find a girl you like and go from there, regardless of her sexual orientation. good luck =]
KickMyBucket 1 year ago 19
Have you considered women who identify as femme (not ("just") lesbian or straight)? I'm a transboy and my girlfriend is femme. There are many femmes out there who are attracted to transguys and their bodies, including every part. And I'm certain a lot of women identify as straight because they are into men, and not to penises per se.If someone is open-mided they'll realize that it is mainly to do with what you are used to as "male genitalia".
TNiuzai 1 year ago
Im a straight girl who has never dated a lesbian or a transman and I just want to say that I want a nice, awesome guy to hang out with not just a penis
simplayaj 1 year ago
hey man i know i said a comment earlier about bi girls and i stick by it however, i totally understand about not having the junk they are looking for. Like it is hard to be who you want to be with out a penis :( I know because i feel the same way you do. I mean it is possible dont get me wrong alot of guys can survive with out it but i get pretty depressed about it to. Just wait till a girl finds you!
Mitch1692010 1 year ago
hey man i know i said a comment earlier about bi girls and i stick by it however, i totally understand about not having the junk they are looking for. Like it is hard to be who you want to be with out a penis :( I know because i feel the same way you do. I mean it is possible dont get me wrong alot of guys can survive with out it but i get pretty depressed about it to. Just wait till a girl finds you!
Mitch1692010 1 year ago
i completely understand where you are coming from and it blows because I want to give a straight girl what she wants. Dealing with straight women are better than dealing with lesbian women because straight women treat me more as if the past didnt matter. It really blows especially when a woman wants to give you a blowjob and you lack the equipment to recieve it.
IamMeCG 1 year ago
i can completely understand where u are coming from. trans men do not have a dick. how are we going to have a relationship (sexually) with a female? i understand ur frustration.
ALionsFears 1 year ago
Wow and i thought i was the only one with this problem. I haven't started t and already i' am having these same problems as you. I had a lesbian girlfriend and it matter much to her that i am a trans boi. She wanted me to stay as a physical female, Things didn't work out, so i 'am currently dating a straight girl and she tells me the same thing It doesn't matter but it does because i have no penis. It's depressing
Transskullkiller1 1 year ago
you're a real man bro, dick or not.
Xrabbite 1 year ago
my girlfriend was bi when we first got together, but she has started to identify more as a lesbian these days. i almost wish she was more into guys like before, because i feel like i can compete with guys WAY better than with girls. so now that shes accepted that shes a lesbian and is not into men at all, im sitting here kind of like uhh... well what about me? so i dont know dude, im kind of stuck in the same boat.
CSULB15 1 year ago
i have the same prob i get it dude!
54321mrshane 1 year ago
hey mak. I think u dont need get frustrated with that. surely, some people like it. I speak for myself, quite honestly, I think u re very atracttive. mainly because u ve already been a woman..and also cause of your mentality. But now you are a real man! and no matter if u ve a dick or not. there are other ways to give pleasure. excuse my candor, but u are the perfect man..! u know exactly where to touch a woman sexually.
bevilive69 1 year ago
my girlfriend had never dated trans-men before me. nor has she dated a lesbian. we talk about sexism a lot. sexist, insecure non-trans men sometimes make a big deal about having a dick. but 99% of the straight women i've talked to could care less. the media would like us to believe that the penis is all that matters. but
a lot of the media is dominated by non-trans men. its not what you have. its how you use it.
AviatorJurieu 1 year ago 34
forget the lesbians.....there r st8 girls who will stick with u when they get to know u and fall in love with u and your parts. its not a bio size dick but a cute mini dick and she just may get to love it just like she loves u! no worries dude. not alot of st8 ladies wanna get rammed by a pipe!!!
cubecalirican 1 year ago
Mak: It was good to see another video from you, but I am sorry that you are having so much trouble. I think that several good suggestions have been mentioned. I would like to call your attention to the one made by Toby. Look for women with similar interests and compatable personalities and you will find some that are not fixiated on performing sex in the sexual binary (in other words, one who is flexible). Good luck, brother. Oh, and ditch the cigarettes!
Johnson210000 1 year ago
really bro, you just have to find a girl that is just open to your needs. when you find the right girl it won't matter.i understand that it sucks about not have a bio dick, but we have to find a way to get past it. there are women out there for men like us..it just feels like they are tucked away on the moon. more and more ive been more comfortable with the thought of being with another trans guy, we know how to treat one another. i think you just need to be around more strait women that date us
dreadedkadaj 1 year ago
Hey man, I know what you're saying about the whole oral sex thing. I mean I have a wonderful girlfriend and I still can't expect that from here, even if we've been together for awhile. But what I can say is I think you need to relax. You know the right girl will come along that will understand and work with you, even if its not perfect right away everything will come together. Believe me just give it time. And enjoy what you have now.
shorty5ftnothing 1 year ago
I've been dealing with the exact same feelings and insecurities lately, Mak. I know how fucking awful the feeling is, man.
evanrauhanen 1 year ago
Have you considered online dating? You can lay it all out there on an internet profile to a bunch of strangers and see what comes up. Some claim to have found true love on it.
But anyway, you also seem frustrated mentally so maybe you should also take up mediation, do some yoga, etc, to calm the mind. Might seem silly but I think it'll have some positive results and its a good way to channel that repressed sexual energy into something beneficial.
idonttan 1 year ago
Hey Mak! I've been wondering when we'd get to see another video from you. Sorry you're having such a tough time! :/
Popeslave 1 year ago