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  • this guy is so smooth he probably fucked your mother and your girlfriend...

  • Yo, you're the man!.. Very articulate, very simple tips-- things that I know, but then in the situation; I turn into this guy that should cater to her every need-- f's me up everytime- I do & say too much, further & I know I'm a good-looking guy! Yet, I've f'd up every single one of my last 4 dates-- tonight, I'm sitting by myself drinking whisky- it's a horrendous feeling!..

  • Dude u gIIve the Beztt ADvIIZE!!!!!

  • thx man.ur vedios are very straight away and helpful.

  • thx man.ur vedios are very straight away and helpful/

  • Skyy John has a better theory: When talking to a hot chick just imagine she is an ugly unattractive woman.

  • 19 and never had a girlfriend.

    -Completely honest

    -Confident.... women are not so attracted to it though.

    -Nice at first, unless you piss me off, then I'm cocky.

    -Successful and hard working.

  • i find that all women likes a guy that looks good and dressed that way they take u seriously good looks embody confidence and shit. though smart helps too but ur way is really typical

  • your views, attitude and social behaviour limits you to those who are either equal or less to your views, attitude and social behaviour.

    Do not expect those who have better attitude and behaviour to be attracted to you unless they see good in you.

    Change yourself to be a better person everyday for yourself first, not to outshine though you will be shinning and inturn you will meet people who you and everypne admires to be with.

  • yup

  • LOL So true. I've had people try to impress me... those ones get rejected real fast.

  • you want to know what attracts women.....other women. women want what they CAN'T have. here's a free one boys, to catch that girl you want, let her catch you with a few other beautiful girls. she will wonder why the other girls want you, and when she comes over to find out, you take her down

  • how came you dont talk about woman atracting man or understanding what they want with a woman or what they think of us

  • @maiara70 Thanks, I have quite a few videos and articles for women and am working on making more.

  • thank you for the help 5 stars

  • It looks like modesty is the answer here.

  • this is so true! (-;

  • woww....5 starss*****

  • Most girls can't tell the difference between real and fake confidence.....but while they claim they want a confident guy, they really just want something that feels like real confidence. Regardless of substance.

    The most confident guys I know are humble, modest, and are mistakenly thought of as being shy. Truly confident, nice guys don't get a lot of women because they usually don't go out of their way to meet girls. Let's be honest, the average college girl is a drunken whore.

  • so true man

  • Agreed.

  • ur right man ! "dont try impress a woman if u want be impressive"!

  • Listen to this guy it's all the truth I'm a female and I'm hardly attracted to any male and from what he said the guy I'm in love with today was completely and totally comfortable with himself. Trying too hard just makes us feel uncomfortable we want more of a mystery and a way to work our way to catch you.

  • Also good grooming is really a turn on. Knowing what looks good on you and being clean will catch her eye. Then she won't be afraid to talk to you.

  • This is good advice he gives.

    Bragging is a total turn off. That doesn't mean you can't let her know you do something well or that you did something you were proud of. If a topic casually comes up in the conversation you can let her know you did something but get back to something you are both interested in quickly.

  • good video

  • yes it is 99,99999% correct. try to impress to much and you seem totally desperate. if you don't try it means you don't need because you are already good enough :P

  • quality womens D:

  • seriusly man, you are helping me a lot!I've seen a lots of you videoes

  • What exactly do you mean by this??

  • hurray for euro training lol

  • I dont have a problem meeting girls and getting #s, i have a proble when it comes to calling them, they either dont pick up or dont want to get out to different places, what can i do :(?

  • he is reading something

  • Everything in this world is so connected to each other. Just like martial arts, I mean Bruce Lee said "Use no way, as a way". Same here, with girls "Impress her, by not impressing her at all"

  • iam very shy

    thats the problem

  • THIS REALLY WORKS ON ME THE WHOLE TIME

  • this is the best clear and perfectly explains my feelings. im a gurl n i really appreciate these advise. at last sumone who could understd! =]

  • Not that I want to rain on this guy's parade or anything but I believe that everything he said was sheer common sense, and not some fantastic words of wisdom.

    The point is that a girl has to be interested in who you are and not in who you're trying to be.

  • thanks man

  • right on brotha

  • why does it seem like these euro dudes have all the answers on dating?

  • you have a point but he has a point i got like 17 girls thanx to him

  • 'euro dudes' lol

  • so true. but funny that American men are rated the second most romantic in the world. But i know exactly what your talking about.

  • THANK YOU!!!! Oh my GOSH is it annoying when guys try too hard to be impressive. I was worried that this video would say "show off this" or "say that", but it actually gave a GOOD TIP!! Well done :D A huge part of it is that we like honesty, and if the guy is showing off, then they're kinda "acting"... like someone in a play or a movie, they're not showing who they are.

  • I love how women contradict the shit out of themselves. "We like honesty", as they put on makeup to hide every blemish they can find, hypocrites.

    I challenege you to go a month with no makeup and go out to meet guys. Then you get a taste of what we deal with that leads to over impressing. Especially when the norm of us are competing against Ed the juice bag guido.

    The point here is to be yourself but you still have to sell yourself.

  • wow hey, this is really helpful info, even though im in school an i showboat cuz im on the soccer team, so i get an ample amount of girls, but i think i want to try this technique cuz it makes a lot of sense an my dad has been telling me this. but umm i have a request, how do i approach a girl?? like after i go up to her an starta conversation, what should i do to keep her interested? this is for say if i meet a girl in the mall or something. video response?

  • hey men....what if a woman did not talk to you or not approach you for a week...and i think she dont have a reason to do that to me.....what do you think i my do for our closeness to came back again..........

  • This is simple and accurate advice.

    Although being well dressed and smelling wonderful also helps.

  • hey! you're right! haha. i get turned off when a guy is really needy too :x

  • Me and my girlfriend have been together for 10 months today :D

  • why havent i heard this method before? this seems like the best way to impress a woman, great advice

  • !!!...TRUE!

  • I think overall this guy gives the best dating advice i have ever heard.

  • I recently took a girl to see the latest harry potter movie. She was actually getting to like me (I met her 4 days previously) but during that whole movie I just couldn't stop flatulating - I tried to act as though nothing was happening but I could clearly see that she wasn't impressed. I'm pretty sure that turned her off because when I call or text her she either doesn't answer or says she's busy.

    Can anyone help me out??

  • Brianswathey

    .......and the point of this funny story is.....??

  • dont ever call her back or text her..dont wait for her your wasting your time..

  • Depends on her "type" I guess. I know a lot of girls who would get mad over something like that... like you could control it or something. I guess my best suggestion, since you only knew her for a few days anyway, is to forget about her, and go for someone more practical. Good luck, I'm so sorry that there are types of girls like that that give the rest of us a bad name :(

  • i'm a girl and this is true.

  • Ya he needs a video that shows us a sample of his closet so I can get an idea of what shirts to buy

  • haha fashion model thought you were gonna say fag...ahhah good very well video btw 5/5

  • Finally! someone who gets it! If you boys would just be cool and be yourself we will notice you. We girls like men who we can introduce to our girlfriends and our family and not worry about what they will think:) Showing off to us will make you look desperate and we don't like that.

  • omg that is so true

    thanks sooo much for ur advice

    cause i was going to take her the best place on the 1st date to try impress her....

    thx so much for tips

  • amen! gah. guys just seem cocky when they show off.

  • nice video tips and advice

  • he's right when men show off so much u look so stupid when u just act urself we LOVE it b/c we know we are getting to know the REAL you ... but u know put in SOME effort

  • nice shirt

  • What he said is absolutely TRUE. The same thing should apply to both men AND women. Simply put, BE YOURSELF. If the person does not accept you for who you are, criticizes you, questions everything that you do, and makes you feel inadequate, then that is THEIR problem and not yours and that person is NOT the right person for you. You should cease all contact as it is not healthy to have that kind of person in your life. This also applies to friends as well. Thanks alot for sharing arkady39 :D

  • yea he's right .. don't try to impress us too much lol..

    We like natural fun guys.

  • Great question. You should have your own unique style that works for you. And the only reason you might perceive me as effeminate is because of the very local standard of "masculinity" that you compare me to. As you probably know, masculinity is expressed in very different ways around the world and what's consider masculine in the US or some parts of the US is considered unpolished and sloppy in other areas (of the world) so it's all relative.

  • haha LOL

    he's alright with most of it... just a bit of advice to those guys out there... dont show off to the girl u like, most girls will think ur a dickhead if you do but just casually try to make her smile. Not by telling jokes but by asking this "Where's that beautiful smile of yours?" It usually works on me! So hav a go and try it out. Good Luck!

  • oh man haha

    these videos are interesting

    but i laugh

  • correct

  • thats pretty natural.

    its not about talking about who you are and what you've done. Its about being the who you are.

  • Hi, I'm Gary Brodsky I sell books and CD's on picking up women, I knock most guys who call themselves dating guru's - But this guy is excellent- I salute you

  • Thanks a lot.

  • hi arkady do you have any video tips if you done mistake to the girl that you want to know just like you were like stalking her? plss help me in this.

  • Great advice as always.

  • Learn how to dance; you can be yourself and someone she wants to dance with.

  • krasav4ik :D

  • how does this guy know so much!?! he's sooo right. He's hot.

  • its the science

  • hes italian! he knows everything!

  • arkady39. Is this valid for teen girls? i'm 16 and interested in a girl same age. i can play the guitar and what should i do besides looking confident? should i show off a bit or should I try not impressing her like you said?

  • man u shuold definitely talk to her.

  • dont try to impress....

  • dont try to impress her right off like your showing off, try to make it seem special like it was personally for her maybe in a private setting.

  • He's got it. If your a normal then be yourself like you were around your boys. Just watch your mouth and dont act stupid. It's all about the alfa male. Confidence. Your not cocky, but you're the shit!

  • Be Yourself ! A++ vids

  • Straight Up!

  • Honest, I wonder which girls he gets?

  • so fucking true and our subconscious knows that !

  • I always act like myself. It hasn't worked at all. :(

  • Is it normal for a girl to offer you a massage? If she is only your friend. I was injured after martial arts. I told her. She went is there anything i can do for you, tea, food, massage. After she said massage she was like omg i can't believe i just offered that. What does that mean?

  • Basically you mean just be yourself and try not to be someone your not.. Women love a guy who does not try to be someone... They want to see who YOU are and what YOU are all about I do not have much dating experience myself but I know how some of the aspects work... Very well done buddie 5 stars!!!!

  • 1:52, it turns women off that men try too hard? im pretty sure thats all women do.

  • FUCK U MAN THANX 4 THE FUKIN SHIT

  • probs french

  • im a woman and i say FINALLY a man who gets it! lol

  • I like this guy, he is like Ross from friends,, he looks and talks like he is very insecure, but he gets all the girls in the show.

  • LOL, this is so true. I end up attracting a bunch of other women by behaving normally yet the girl I'm going after I end up overworking it.

  • wtf... i understand. THIS GUY IS BLOODY GOD!!!

  • "hey man, i sent this girl i like this message on myspace, and did not get a reply back, any way i can get some help"

    If you didnt build attraction or interest enough she will probabaly ignore you forever. Send her another message telling her how busy you are and how much fun you have been having and take the piss out of her not responding (in a jokey NOT bitter way)!! Dont feel bad about sending another message you can do what you want because your better than her!!

  • my god ur jesus

  • chirayut dude ive nerdy w/o muscles etc it doesnt matter if u think to yourself im the shit w/o putting it on speaker phone and make her feel ur better than her youll be great

  • this makes good sense

  • This man is 100% right. The most important thing in the game is the confidence. Women smells it, sees it. You cannot avoid it so you have to be self-confident. A little bit arrogant too, and the second most important thing is the humor. be funny and you'll get succed

  • lol wtf.....this makes sense haha

  • You make perfect sense.  I love your accent, by the way. Where are you from?

  • probably love land lol hes an expert.

  • Hmm.. Do you mean that to be humble yet confident is the best way to impress a woman? Does it imply on teenagers???

  • It applies to quality women. Period. Likewise, it will attract quality teenagers.

  • not most teenager girls, but the good ones yes, and those are the ones who are worth it.

  • If your a teenager and your hitting on teenagers. One thing I noticed from when I was younger and as I've gotten older is that teenagers often lack the confidence adults do so it changes the game a bit. Teenage girls often want to be shown that you like them cause teenage girls have lower self esteem. But if you are going to approach a confident adult, graveling will get you nowhere. For teenagers it will depend on the girl. What worked for me in high school is be sweet and smart.

  • YOu got some real shyt in your head bruh... good stuff I like you,

  • Dude, how am I supposed to be confident when I am so negative? I am not tall, muscular, with great hair and skin. Sure I am smart as hell, but it is a fact that women will rather like jocks than nerds.

  • not always, i like nerdy guys sometimes if they are confident, i liked his one guy who was in my math class at the time, he wasn't the best looking, and he had blemishes and he was a lil shorter than I was and he had glasses, but he always confident in his school work or talking to someone that it was like wow i want that or i want to be around him, confidence just draws a girl in

  • be confident tha way you are..  believe me there is ppl worse then u n hv full confident.. u gain confident mantly n u can do that thru meditating and other skills luk for some vids if u need more help holla at me.. n mostly start bein positive no matter what u do n u wl feel that power..

  • nice shirt!

  • u know ur shit man!!!thanks for sharing

  • dead on. i wish there were more dudes who knew this. they also need to know, to keep em hooked, show interest but not TOO much interest.. don't always be available at the drop of a dime, you kinda gotta make it a chase. it's soo much more thrilling & attractive to me.

  • 3 words-IM VERY NERVOUS

  • OMG HE IS SOOOO RIGHT.

  • its like your awnsering the questions i didnt even think of asking.

    your at the top of your game man!

  • True as far as I'm concerned. If a guy tries to be impressive it makes me wonder what he is trying to make up for.

  • Only works when you're interesting in the first place.

    Naturally interesting>uninteresting>tryi­ng to be interesting

    Naturally impressive>unimpressive=trying to impress

  • Wow guys talk about girls as if they are tonnes complicated. We aren'ttt. I say if guys wanna know about girls ask one!

  • I've been watching your vids for about an hour, and i'm hooked dude!!

    Keep up the good work Arkady, u rock :)

  • i agree

  • ROFLMAO HES RIGHT

  • Dude you are really starting to help me even though I just watched two of your vids.

  • your a very nice guy im going to try that from now on. talk to her like you deserve to have a conversation with her

  • Thats what i did wrong.

    and she went off with another guy..

    nice video man..

  • very nice. thank u

  • You know When I saw You for the first time, I did'nt like you at all man, You seems like like the tipycal AFC guy, now I like you better.

    everything you say make sence.

    Mazz-

  • so true

  • I agree...lol

  • You r right on. The same is true of a woman who is too nice. You know where it's at. Good job.

  • nice video man, very nice. i lack confidence a lot and it's kinna hard because my heart beats to fast trying to talk to this girl. what's a great way to build up confidence?

  • How do you know all this stuff? scary. you read women's minds!!!

  • isn't that a contradiction impressing her by not impressing her....

  • it true, it is a contradiction but it is also realistic. women can sense when a man is trying to impress her. better yet, have u ever seen a dude wearing just a little too much jewellery? it looks too much, dont it! well thats the visual equivalent of impresing her.

  • more of a paradox

  • you are sooooooooooooooooooo right i hate it this boy was like putting random facts about his richness and i was thinking "show off ugh" biggest turn off ever keep doing wat you do man

  • very true

  • great advice

  • I don't like confidence in men. They're cuter when they're blushing, fidgiting, scratching their heads, & in the end let you do all the thinking for them, provided they're at least confident drivers. They can warm up to you latter, when they find out you're into video games & comic books.

  • thank u 1,000,000 times

  • you right thats all i have to say

  • I'm A Girl, And It's True..I Get Impressed When Guys Are Just Down To Earth And Don't Try To Impress Or Try Too Hard In Everything...All Guys Should Be Like This..It Will Work.. :D

  • LOVE GURU?

  • Man where did you learn all of this stuff? Did you go to the budhist temple? Asian styles...lol

  • dude ur like the best

    all this stuff u say really works

    thanks man

  • intelligent observation

  • dude u are good!

  • Not trying to impress sounds useful... unless you're Homer Simpson.

  • This guy gets so much @ss!

  • Very well said.

  • unpretentiousness - the 'new' confidence?

  • thanks for a great advice!

  • i bet you can get any girls that you like ;P

    -great video

  • this dude lolololol he knows wats he talking about hes right all the way

  • This guy is a G

    True Ladies Man!

  • lol

  • I have anxiety :( that's why I'm shy *CRIES*

  • hi arkady,i have a question. i really like this girl whos very friendly and genuine.for the first time i didnt care about a girls looks. but she is very pretty indeed and me,well its kind of different. i really lack confidence to talk to her. we are friends though,could u help?

  • Be comfortable, relax and friendly? Talk about little things first?

  • so true. confidence is the best asset.

  • arkady i suscribed... man you r a genius

  • Thanks, you are too kind.

  • hey, i know how to impress a woman, just subscribe to my internet site and pay me money. = fraud

  • Access to my site is absolutely free, so.... you must be talking about someone else. :)

  • briangesser you just got pwned.

    akady39 your vids are great dont listen to that peice of trash.

  • hey man, i sent this girl i like this message on myspace, and did not get a reply back, any way i can get some help?

  • no if you sent her a messege and she didn't reply back, she is not interested.

  • (rocklee770) maybe (just maybe) myspace isn't the best way to pick up girls. seriously when you are a complete stranger online and ask for someone's number...

  • hey, would you mind calling me, or having me call you. i would much rather here your voice than sit here and msg back and forth

    and i was being dramatic when i sent that msg...its kinda embarassing.

    so ya, can i have a home number or something i can call you on?

    after i sent the girl i like this message, i got nothing in return. any advice?

  • Because you wrote that and she didn't answer, I'm guessing you two are just starting out. Why?