but the smart guys knows that instead of giving that stranger an compliment it should be going to his beautiful woman whose beauty lights up every room.
Now in the guys case, he knows that women take compliments in stride and probably gets them so often that his little compliment was a passing breeze, women also won't aggressively get after him from a mere compliment. He also knows that he's not going to presue her, he was simply giving a compliment, with no intentions or hidden agendas. Which eliminates the whole aggressive guy factor involved in part 1 of my comment, not saying it's right but thats what it is. Guys take compliments& run wit it
Well I'll try to get str8 2 the point an keep it simple as possible, the "guy" doesn't want his girl complimenting other guys because they know how guys are, a guy will take that compliment an run with it, totally disregarding any respect for you and your relationship, and see's how far he can run with it. Now granted, you are able to shut the guy down if necessary if he's goes too far with his advances, but your man doesn't want you to have to even go thru all of that if it can simply B avoided
there are no stupid questions just stupid people stop bothering me i know u hear that a lot. quiet, barefoot, & with child standing in the kitchen please and believe that everything is going to work out and the church said AMEN
I can speak for myself. I was once an idiot when it came to respecting and honoring women. During my formative yrs, there was no one at all to show, teach or talk to me about life's issues. What I know now, it came the hard way, by messing up.
Our young brothers have more examples on how to be superficial than how to be a basic, common and decent man.
A lot of brothers are beating the odds against them, but too many are not.
Honestly, I want to leave a seriously well thought out response to this video, but I'm a lil messed up in the head when it comes to relationships my damn self(I'm just keeping it 100% with ya) so I can't really offer a opinion on the situation that would be fair...but you can message me if you want and I will talk further with you on my views( :
Isn't that the truth,we are all good at giving advice but when it comes to taking our own, no go.Your Question: Some people are genuinely human and are well intentioned but are unable to pull their heads out of their asses...also its just basic all about ME, its ok if I talk to another woman because it makes ME feel good...when you compliment another man, it feels bad to ME...its all about a lack of empathy,got to look at from you partners point a view some times in order to keep things right...
I LOVE YOUR RESPONSE...but another question is how do we get these people to pull their heads out of their own asses?? Or is it so far gone that it cannot be pulled out??
I try to look at all sides in a relationship but I refuse to allow myself to get hurt over someone being selfish...or does that sound selfish in itself??
Good to see you welcome back, its a control game, sista, most brothas want women to be submissive which is according to Yahawa(God), I invite you to come to my channel and watch the playlist titled :"The True Hebrew Israelites"
Thanx its kinda good to be back...I'm more of a writer than a V-blogger so this is new for me to find time to make videos...plus it takes time since I am still learning how to edit them lol....
I will visit your channel I would love all different aspects and inputs on this...this is not a one person has the answer but with everyone's input comes a good answer...
A female in my yahoo group asked the same question a few years ago. She felt she was entitled to do whatever her husband did. She didn't like him talking to other females so what she ends up doing is to sex another guy as revenge.
Questions
1 Does being female ... the mother of future children, have anything to do with this?
2 How easy is it for a female to get pregnant by some other guy then not tell her husband that the kid is not his?
Your talking about a very specific case. Statistically, most women do not cheat and have children out of wedlock. If there are children outside of the marriage, normally they are from the husband's cheating.
It's a horror story, but your example is the exception.
I was trying to get Enjoli to answer the question for herself.
It's my opinion that WOMEN are far more important than men within a relationship. Expectations of males & females in a relationship are not the same no matter what we want.
Males are more protective of the female. That's built into nature.
There is no absolute equality. Enjoli can not expect her BF to do as she would, because she, is the future mother of their kids.
NO it NEVER entitles you to do the same thing!!! 2 wrongs don't make a right...and what she did was WAY worse than what he did...if she wanted to get back at him with his own game then TALK to another guy don't go all the way...that was just an excuse for her....so she can say "he made me do it"
but the smart guys knows that instead of giving that stranger an compliment it should be going to his beautiful woman whose beauty lights up every room.
c4spinn 3 years ago
Now in the guys case, he knows that women take compliments in stride and probably gets them so often that his little compliment was a passing breeze, women also won't aggressively get after him from a mere compliment. He also knows that he's not going to presue her, he was simply giving a compliment, with no intentions or hidden agendas. Which eliminates the whole aggressive guy factor involved in part 1 of my comment, not saying it's right but thats what it is. Guys take compliments& run wit it
c4spinn 3 years ago
Well I'll try to get str8 2 the point an keep it simple as possible, the "guy" doesn't want his girl complimenting other guys because they know how guys are, a guy will take that compliment an run with it, totally disregarding any respect for you and your relationship, and see's how far he can run with it. Now granted, you are able to shut the guy down if necessary if he's goes too far with his advances, but your man doesn't want you to have to even go thru all of that if it can simply B avoided
c4spinn 3 years ago
there are no stupid questions just stupid people stop bothering me i know u hear that a lot. quiet, barefoot, & with child standing in the kitchen please and believe that everything is going to work out and the church said AMEN
nohearing 3 years ago
in response to your question there's a double standard. What's good for the goose ain't necessarily good for the gander.
freek373 3 years ago
... that's all i got to say...cause men seem to have this alpha male complex.. LOL
crazimarie 3 years ago
its hard to explain..but there's a big differents*****
HOLLATYME 3 years ago
TRUST ME!!!! don't I know it....
enjoli1002 3 years ago
Remember a LONG time ago when I called you "Hitch" listen to what you just said... I guess I was right...
Response on the way... :-)
LifeAccording2Chris 3 years ago
HUH??? How am I like Hitch??? What did I say?? lol
enjoli1002 3 years ago
Hitch would help out all those people with their relationships but couldn't apply ANYTHING to his own relationships!!!!!!
LifeAccording2Chris 3 years ago
Ah I see....you caught me..at least I can admit to it though
enjoli1002 3 years ago
Yeah... that is a good thing...
LifeAccording2Chris 3 years ago
sure..its just different..
HOLLATYME 3 years ago
how??
enjoli1002 3 years ago
the man wants power..he wear the pants , so he wants to be king.
HOLLATYME 3 years ago
I wear pants too....does this mean i should be king too??? ;o)
enjoli1002 3 years ago
I can speak for myself. I was once an idiot when it came to respecting and honoring women. During my formative yrs, there was no one at all to show, teach or talk to me about life's issues. What I know now, it came the hard way, by messing up.
Our young brothers have more examples on how to be superficial than how to be a basic, common and decent man.
A lot of brothers are beating the odds against them, but too many are not.
dbrunsonsr 3 years ago
Honestly, I want to leave a seriously well thought out response to this video, but I'm a lil messed up in the head when it comes to relationships my damn self(I'm just keeping it 100% with ya) so I can't really offer a opinion on the situation that would be fair...but you can message me if you want and I will talk further with you on my views( :
chrisdotwynn 3 years ago
Glad that you can be 100% with me lol well if you ever want to talk about anything just leave me a note in my inbox....I will respond ;o)
enjoli1002 3 years ago
cool( :
chrisdotwynn 3 years ago
Isn't that the truth,we are all good at giving advice but when it comes to taking our own, no go.Your Question: Some people are genuinely human and are well intentioned but are unable to pull their heads out of their asses...also its just basic all about ME, its ok if I talk to another woman because it makes ME feel good...when you compliment another man, it feels bad to ME...its all about a lack of empathy,got to look at from you partners point a view some times in order to keep things right...
fingercheese 3 years ago
I LOVE YOUR RESPONSE...but another question is how do we get these people to pull their heads out of their own asses?? Or is it so far gone that it cannot be pulled out??
I try to look at all sides in a relationship but I refuse to allow myself to get hurt over someone being selfish...or does that sound selfish in itself??
enjoli1002 3 years ago
Good to see you welcome back, its a control game, sista, most brothas want women to be submissive which is according to Yahawa(God), I invite you to come to my channel and watch the playlist titled :"The True Hebrew Israelites"
YTPolitics 3 years ago
Thanx its kinda good to be back...I'm more of a writer than a V-blogger so this is new for me to find time to make videos...plus it takes time since I am still learning how to edit them lol....
I will visit your channel I would love all different aspects and inputs on this...this is not a one person has the answer but with everyone's input comes a good answer...
But yea I see where it is a control thing
enjoli1002 3 years ago
I love your honesty off the bat.
Double standards in the relationship are the demise of a relationship.
We are different, but we are also very similar needing love and respect.
sistalinda 3 years ago
Thank you...lol I have no choice but to be honest...I'm not a good liar lol :o)
enjoli1002 3 years ago
Interesting Question
A female in my yahoo group asked the same question a few years ago. She felt she was entitled to do whatever her husband did. She didn't like him talking to other females so what she ends up doing is to sex another guy as revenge.
Questions
1 Does being female ... the mother of future children, have anything to do with this?
2 How easy is it for a female to get pregnant by some other guy then not tell her husband that the kid is not his?
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
Ev.
Your talking about a very specific case. Statistically, most women do not cheat and have children out of wedlock. If there are children outside of the marriage, normally they are from the husband's cheating.
It's a horror story, but your example is the exception.
Revenge is never the answer.
sistalinda 3 years ago
Linda
I was trying to get Enjoli to answer the question for herself.
It's my opinion that WOMEN are far more important than men within a relationship. Expectations of males & females in a relationship are not the same no matter what we want.
Males are more protective of the female. That's built into nature.
There is no absolute equality. Enjoli can not expect her BF to do as she would, because she, is the future mother of their kids.
She must expect him to be honorable.
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
NO it NEVER entitles you to do the same thing!!! 2 wrongs don't make a right...and what she did was WAY worse than what he did...if she wanted to get back at him with his own game then TALK to another guy don't go all the way...that was just an excuse for her....so she can say "he made me do it"
enjoli1002 3 years ago
Enjolis wrote - "that was just an excuse for her....so she can say "he made me do it"
I agree
EV
Evens1 3 years ago