I think you would find Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) very helpful. There is no normal. Everybody has strengths and weaknesses. You have strengths; concentrate on your strengths. Never judge your self-worth in regards to the material objects you have, or do not have. Find something in life that you are passionate about and give yourself to that. Nobody has any MORAL authority to tell you how you SHOULD behave. You are free to create your own value system. Keep your chin up.
Yeah! It seems that most outgoing people like to listen to more current events and drama these days, most outgoing people that I've met love small talk, and they really do not delve into meaningful intelligent conversations...they like to talk about what Sally is doing, dogs, breakups, typical work related drama, Jersey Shore, etc.
All I can say is be yourself and don't be like anyone else because you're unique...stick true to yourself, and someone will come along and understand who you are. :)
I couldn't pay attention to the video at all.. How you spelled weird as 'wierd' just stuck to me throughout the entire video somehow... But you did spell it right in the comment section. Are you doing this on purpose? This is your way of tormenting your viewers? I was very uncomfortable to say the least.
I hate S.A.D :/ Im a 12 yr old girl (almost 13) and i have no friends whatsoever. I seee no hope for me as each day my S.A.D gets worse :( Im homeschooled and my family does nothing to help me. My grandmother always pressures me to talk which makes it worse :/ Can someone giv me advice or can i talk to someone about it.?
Panic attacks, loss of appetite, the feeling of living life outside your body,the feeling of living in a dream, continuous negative thoughts, troubling and obsessive thoughts, excessive stress and worry, trouble sleeping. You are not alone. There are many others who have these experiences. I USE TO, but NO longer have them. I found what worked. I am NOT SELLING anything, I just want to share the process that freed me of anxiety. Please watch my intro. video for more info! Stay positive!
Whata. Dont care of others. If youre weird (special i mean:) you will propably go the weird way in life. Oh yeah, special. One thing I believe is important: do NOT focus on others! I know how bad that sounds, but if i have a problem, its me who has to solve it. Why should i care what others thing. not their life :). Greeting heard of europe
This is one of the most despicably obvious troll channels I've ever seen.
This is what happens when you have a culture of people who rely solely on mannerisms and people pleasing delusions instead of forming philosophies with actual CONTENT. It's like: you fill your head with bullshit and then take a dump on everyone constantly, and if they call you out for your bs you just act hysterical and go: OMG HE'S NEGATIVE OMG OMG OMG!!
Have fun with your empty compliments, ya crazy bitch.
thankyou for ur video and u look really pretty! :) i have SA too i'm only starting to realize the lies its being telling me all these years! (((hugs)))
If someone feels uncomfortable around you (or anyone else, for that matter), THEY are the ones with social problems. A mentally healthy person should be able to be around anyone (unless that person is a rapist, or murderer, or child molester, or something). One of my pet peeves is people who complain about "awkward" silences. I understand where they're coming from, I used to feel the same way, but I think it's a trait of insecure people.
@MegaCANAM800 NOT TRUE!!!! No one is too "weird looking" to make friends, everyone is beautiful and valuable, you are an irreplaceable commodity just because you are you. If you need someone to talk to about anything, you can message me any time.
I can relate to you 100% but I just recently started getting better. Now my anxiety is starting to subside and I can feel people starting to warm up to me (and visa versa) much more easily than before, thank you so much for sharing this with youtube and good luck
I scare people, and for the most part it's a good thing, because they leave me alone. On the other hand, those that are around me for a while realize I'm not going to kill them or try to, it takes time but works out usually.
You have helped me through the most difficult times. You're an inspiration. Thank you. For me social anxiety fluctuates. It must be maintained. Between times of total relaxed, effortless conversation and happiness, I sometimes go through times where I feel like I can't relate to my friends or people in general. I just don't feel right. I need a little help to ease my way out of it. To hear your story and to relate to you brings me back to myself again.
i know exactly what you mean about the making other people feel uncomfortable, ive had sa for a while but when that started to happen with the uncomfortable thing i just stopped going out, ive lost all my mates and my job now i just stay in and get pissed out of me head to kill the boredomm and depressive thoughts, the only time i get out is to walk my dog im sick of all this bollocks.
people think bad things of me VERY BAD things but I made it like this its a big fun how people look at me even when they don`t know me or how people ignore or mock me and I just laugh at them or tell them how sick and rearded they are but the biggest fun is when they are afraid of you I even told them that I`m a satanist. I`m not very far but those fuckers think I praise fuckin Satan! I feel hardcore ;D so what I`m saying is you schouldn`t care about such things live your own life not others`
I know exactly how you feel. sometimes when I'm around people I just don't know what to say. Then the moment get awkward. I don't feel comfortable about myself or who I am. I know what you feel.
@joegarridon Asking questions and telling personal stories that you know are at least some what interesting/funny works.I use ether of those when I have noting else to say "So ya.....How was that bike you and your dad were working on?What happened with that guy you talked about last time?I use to do bike ride but the reason I stopped was ,because of this so and so,etc.".How,when,why,where helps a lot,also improvising classes are good and practice,practice,practice.
@Oppland29 That's true there is a lot of destructive and unnecessarily superificiality. I think since everyone is worthy and important, there is no choice but to try and fit in with it, but still know it's wrong, just fake and pretend. You have more influence when you're successful. But people that choose to not try and fit in for noble values, that is so brave and wonderful! :`). For example when someone said someone was not very pretty, I disagreed. "I think she is beautiful."
I hope I am your first you are beautiful be my cyber wife my confidence will boost just thinking I have a girlfriend hot like you so sexy voice and looks
Since I was 6 years old I'm 29 now So if the god damn secret "works so well" why I'm still alive?! Isnt it all about becoming what you think ?. (sorry about grammar/spelling English is not my first language)
@MARSBELLA1 you are soooooo right I mean I do think that a positive thinking helps to bring good stuff to your Life But for Many of Us Like me is not that simple and when ppl tells me "oh just be positive" makes me feel even worse! Cause they say it like is so simple like is your own desition to be depressed or you just simply deserve to be sad just cause you are not "smart enough or whatever " to control your mind.. The thought about wanting to Die pops In my mind several Times a DaY since I
I cant stand people going on about the stupid "the secret" what a load of bull. That totally diminishes what people with mental health problems are going trough, and in doing so makes them feel worse, do you really think - if it was that simple people wouldnt be able to stop how they feel? I think the secret is for really simple minded people. Id take the celestine prophecy over that anyday. "just think your a millionare and you will be" what a joke. positive thinking is good, but it is no
awesome. thank you for making me smile. i often make other women "uncomfortable"... and its so refreshing to hear someone like you, so pretty and sweet, say its ok. thanks. you kinda made my day.
I Have same problem n m Alone with No friends no Love Life,i become anxious n crowd n like to remain in room..i fewl lik Doing Sucide..I feel LIKE killing myself s da only solution yo dis thing..I am convincing myself yo kill myself to gt over with this life....HELP ME...
@megasuperock Hey I ve had SA for years now - it will get easier I promise you - I have it since I was 19, Im 27 now - over the past three years, I would say I have got 80% better. I used to think of killing myself all the time, It seemed like it made total sense, but Im so glad I didnt, I think you have to feel it yourself, but eventually your mind and body will realise its no good and it will stop making youfeel this way - please hold on. I promise it will get better
You think too much, read the book "The Secret" it is about the law of attraction nothing can come into your life that isn't pre meditated from either your subconscious or concuss awareness. Remember this, if you plan for negativity to come into your life the universe WILL put it their, you expect good you'll get good things. This is what has been and what always will be.
@MrQuincychapman that is just so stupid. Im sorry, Im english and I am 27 and I am intelligent. the secret is bull. if you know anything about mental health, you will realise that mental illness, is the inability to CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS. if it was as simple as just think positive, you know thousands of people would not literally kill themselves every year from mental health problems. Infact, when people go on about the secret it makes people feel worse, it diminishes wat they r realy going thru
You know, people deemed "attractive" by the general populace are just as capable of having emotional issues like Avoidance/SAD as those who might not be as such.
Being completely modest here...I get told how "handsome, cute, and hot" I am by adults and girls my age alike often. That coupled with my issues adds pressure to be "normal", because "hot guys shouldn't be so screwed up."
You get what I mean? I'm sure the girl in the video has some stuff going on too. Like everyone else in the world.
@rafale2009 I don't want to sound nosy or something, but I hardly think any girl would respond to that/take that in a good way. I mean... "Ow, how sweet! The guy is ignoring what I say because I look pretty!"... heh, again, I don't think so :P
Is not that I am trying to sound like an expert, I am actually all but good at making up conversations/relationships with people, and of course, more with girls. Anyway, I've realized that EVERY girl wants to be listened. That's all.
@pabloindustries if I try to be, seem, or look beautiful in my videos, it is probably because I'm extremely scared and insecure and using this as a "Defense". It actually only shows I have a flaw, that I'm afraid of not caring about what people think and simply only caring about the truth, being a good person, and being human.
i wish people could be more honest with each other but most people if you just ask them "HEY,do i make you uncomfortable "most of the time just being honest causes them to be more uncomfortable. you cant win in this world :-)
Even if I know I fuck up socially, I just gloss over it or make a joke, If the joke makes it more awkward, oh well. Things would get boring if people got too comfortable.
damm people make me uncomfortable,also people smarter then me make me uncomfortable,scarry peaple make me uncomfortable,ubnocsiose peaple make me uncomfortable,why dont we get allone?
I really don't see how you can make people uncomfortable... To be honest, I would feel very relaxed if I was talking to you. This world doesn't make sense anymore. I like your hair, btw. (I probably wouldn't have the balls to say that to you in real life...)
@MrJonnyboyification Hey brah I have same prob. Im about to start recording myself and creating a log, marking anything I can do to improve and repeat. I also heard that recording yourself, while delaying the audio playback by a few ms can help as well, perhaps these techniques may interest u.
@MrJonnyboyification I use Ableton DAW. check if they have a demo, its mainly for music production, but can do lots of cool audio functions, I think it may have demo. I also found that you can plug a mic into windows, go into sound options, go to properties of your mic, recording, then click listen to device or something along that lines, you will be able to hearyourself with a little delay, only prob is you cant control the delay. PM me for help if you need bro best of luck
narh i was joking, just ease up a bit more, start laughing more, move more, talk more, do things that scare you (but wont kill you) push yourself more, be open minded, ask questions, smile, and if you're still weird after that. Be good at it, and be weirder, people will apreciate you more, because people would rather be around somebody who is openly themselves, than someone who hides away and shows lack of confidence, hope this helps :-)
what triggered my social anxiety is getting picked on and called names and some information being told about my relatives etc...it broke my self esteem and confidence down into a crumble and made me realize how cruel the human mind actually is...thats why i approach people more aggressively although it still doesn't work...it's like its this thing in my head that says "think about what others are thinking of you" and it kills, i can't turn that part of my brain off no matter what...it sucks..
@bigb771 most likely those people arent actually thinking about you that much and they dont care how you act because they are usually thinking about themselves more then anyone else just like you are. People dont spend much time thinking about how bad someone else is unless they actually have self esteem problems themselves and so the only thing holding you back is that you are over analysing everything when in reality it doesnt matter what you do unless your a complete nutcase.
okay i like how you look and what you say but you appear really boring to me... if I would have seen you on the street when I was single I would definitly have talked to you, but you should more behave like a skank, that would maker you hotter.
U dont make me uncomfortable . Actualy I probably would feel very much at ease around you . And that is Hard test to pass couse I have anxiety . Keep up a good work .proud of you . And thanks for sharing it has helped my growth and healing too.
Great video, The major thing I think about the most is that I make people uncomfortable that's why I don't hang out with nobody. Most of the time I feel like crap, I criticize my self and think negative things about myself like I'm so skinny I look like a tooth pick. When I look in the mirror or see myself in a picture I think I look so retarted. There are occasions specially when I'm out in public when I feel like I'm the most insignificant thing, I feel like human waste, piece of fecal matter
I make myself uncomfortable as much as I make others uncomfortable. I hate being an attractive young man in my 20s because people always assume the best (and worst) things about me that. It causes socializing, making friends, and keeping friends on the verge of impossible.
theres a girl that i like a lot but i make her feel uncomfortable with my social anxiety i speak too slow im very cute gorgeous looking but looks aint everything in this life personality is also important
@Slimboyfat1979 that can be true in cases, but not necessarily....people with s.a can have body dysmorphia, so they may struggle with the "reality" that they are hideous and unattractive, no matter what others perceive. It's true that society places unfair, illogical advantages and disadvantages based on the physical appearance people happen to have. this is unfair and illogical because people are not their appearance & "appearancism" like racism, horribly limits human love and potential.
Indeed, its not fair. I am pretty sure that if I was more attractive I would have a lot more confidence and self esteem. I see evidence of people judging me on the way I look all the time. Frankly I have no idea if I am "ugly" or not, but I do feel negatively judged even before I say a word, so the only conclusion I can come too is that I must be unattractive...seeing as they dont even know me. It must be a nice feeling to KNOW you are good looking.
@Slimboyfat1979 but ALL human bodies r pure beauty, pure art. attractiveness isnt a set in stone concept. YOU r the authority of attractiveness about u - attractiveness is a made up concept by humans...& U r a human, therefore U can decide & define urself as attractive exactly as u are - abandon limiting attractiveness ideals of others - they're ignorant of the fact that the world would be a happier better place if we felt genuinely good about ourselves including physically worthy and elevated.
@NoSocialAnxiety I think the basis of self esteem and not thinking you are "ugly" is self acceptance, I know I have that problem. I do believe that beauty and attractiveness is universal. I could never be deemed as good looking. I could, if I was more naive of how people are delude myself and pretend that I am attractive simply to make myself feel OK, but the fact is people who are better looking, generally speaking, have more confidence, more friends, and more success.
@celtic4ever18 Feeling comfortable and happy with your looks is not a bad thing, actually telling people that you are "attractive' is. But that's just my opinion... If you were an ugly freak like me it would make sense.
@celtic4ever18 Feeling comfortable and happy with your looks is not a bad thing, actually telling people that you are "attractive' is. But that's just my opinion... If you were an ugly freak like me it would make sense.
@Slimboyfat1979 The fact that you dont know if you are ugly or not probably means your not as bad as you feel. If you were actually ugly then it would probably be able to see it yourself very easily.
@NoSocialAnxiety your right , but with bad looks its worse , but i was just reading forums about it , A guy who was saying that he is totally hot and so good looking but hasn't got a single gf yet because of this ,Even the girl he liked and she liked him , but still she went out with his best friend , So yeah , SAD sucks , no matter the looks ... I have average looks , some girls called me cute , but well ,I totally fail at getting along socially , and never had a gf -_-
@Slimboyfat1979 Unless you have a horrible personality like me and don't know what to say when someone talks to you. I have no friends because of this reason. I'll be in 11th grade in a few days. :(
I have sa. I always joke that "if there was a job out there where you make people really uncomfortable, I would be the best one for it!' Making people uncomfortable is a constant worry of mine. If i start getting comfortable and talk too much, the conversations always turn to deep or strange things that i find interesting. Even if the people talk as well, i still wonder afterwards if i made them uncomfortable by having that conversation with them. I'm working on having shallower conversations...
first i would like to say that your voice is so relaxing ,and you are very very beautifui ,i suffer from sa and i have to say i never felt that i'm making other people uncomfortable,only that others make me uncomfortable.and i also think about myself that i'm weird and strange ,and that's the only reason people are looking at me, not because they think i'm attractive or something like that
I think you are mindblowingly cool and I'm a bit dissappointed with the people who comment on your looks alone since that really shouldn't be important. You have a pretty heart.
@SpiritDreamsInside SpiritDreamsInside!! Yeah, I'm taken aback at how terrible the situation is. The ugly, sad, shallow obsession people place on peoples appearance when every person is SO MUCH MORE important than appearance!!! EVERY person wants to and needs to have their appearance valued but also people are mostly their personality & communications, not their appearance.
I really agree with the "too big of a leap statement"
Critikills 1 day ago
Well I like You! And I don't think your weird!
codename7000 1 day ago
Well I like You! And I don't think your weird!
codename7000 1 day ago
I've got told I make people uncomfortable, made me upset.. You don't make me uncomfortable, you sound awesome!
HisagiShuhei 2 days ago
I feel so strange right now, kinda scared. I think I'm seeing things and I'm not on drugs lol weird comment I know
jonoce633 2 days ago
I think you would find Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) very helpful. There is no normal. Everybody has strengths and weaknesses. You have strengths; concentrate on your strengths. Never judge your self-worth in regards to the material objects you have, or do not have. Find something in life that you are passionate about and give yourself to that. Nobody has any MORAL authority to tell you how you SHOULD behave. You are free to create your own value system. Keep your chin up.
NIETZSCHEAN14 3 days ago
how does your bra smell?
TheRealStinkyface 4 days ago
@TheRealStinkyface Smells pretty good, why you ask?
jonoce633 2 days ago
Yeah! It seems that most outgoing people like to listen to more current events and drama these days, most outgoing people that I've met love small talk, and they really do not delve into meaningful intelligent conversations...they like to talk about what Sally is doing, dogs, breakups, typical work related drama, Jersey Shore, etc.
All I can say is be yourself and don't be like anyone else because you're unique...stick true to yourself, and someone will come along and understand who you are. :)
EricSchwin22 4 days ago
I couldn't pay attention to the video at all.. How you spelled weird as 'wierd' just stuck to me throughout the entire video somehow... But you did spell it right in the comment section. Are you doing this on purpose? This is your way of tormenting your viewers? I was very uncomfortable to say the least.
bibliotheek357 5 days ago
I hate S.A.D :/ Im a 12 yr old girl (almost 13) and i have no friends whatsoever. I seee no hope for me as each day my S.A.D gets worse :( Im homeschooled and my family does nothing to help me. My grandmother always pressures me to talk which makes it worse :/ Can someone giv me advice or can i talk to someone about it.?
dannyphantomgirlxD 6 days ago
ur hawt
juanarruti 1 week ago
You're a good actor !
HitchHikersBlues 1 week ago
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Panic attacks, loss of appetite, the feeling of living life outside your body,the feeling of living in a dream, continuous negative thoughts, troubling and obsessive thoughts, excessive stress and worry, trouble sleeping. You are not alone. There are many others who have these experiences. I USE TO, but NO longer have them. I found what worked. I am NOT SELLING anything, I just want to share the process that freed me of anxiety. Please watch my intro. video for more info! Stay positive!
Tunein2TLCTV 1 week ago
Un-comf-ta-bowl... so cute ha. Keep up the nice, informative vids.
Cananalope 1 week ago
yes
markycincy3 1 week ago
Whata. Dont care of others. If youre weird (special i mean:) you will propably go the weird way in life. Oh yeah, special. One thing I believe is important: do NOT focus on others! I know how bad that sounds, but if i have a problem, its me who has to solve it. Why should i care what others thing. not their life :). Greeting heard of europe
LEPRASE 1 week ago
No, just don't curse my grandfather and you would never bother me
juiey2 2 weeks ago
This is one of the most despicably obvious troll channels I've ever seen.
This is what happens when you have a culture of people who rely solely on mannerisms and people pleasing delusions instead of forming philosophies with actual CONTENT. It's like: you fill your head with bullshit and then take a dump on everyone constantly, and if they call you out for your bs you just act hysterical and go: OMG HE'S NEGATIVE OMG OMG OMG!!
Have fun with your empty compliments, ya crazy bitch.
katsumorymoto 2 weeks ago
@MegaCANAM800 noooo i bet you are beautiful in evety way possible
dcamren 2 weeks ago
you are truely beatiful inside and out really.
dcamren 2 weeks ago
thankyou for ur video and u look really pretty! :) i have SA too i'm only starting to realize the lies its being telling me all these years! (((hugs)))
kinchou23 3 weeks ago
If someone feels uncomfortable around you (or anyone else, for that matter), THEY are the ones with social problems. A mentally healthy person should be able to be around anyone (unless that person is a rapist, or murderer, or child molester, or something). One of my pet peeves is people who complain about "awkward" silences. I understand where they're coming from, I used to feel the same way, but I think it's a trait of insecure people.
KayBeeEee1983 3 weeks ago
dont care what poeple think about you you are beautiful and trust me i aleo suffer alot under social anxiety disorder (sad:(
Theanielas 1 month ago
Look in the mirror you are a beautiful person I have social phobia but I am wierd looking so I can never make friends, you are perfect
MegaCANAM800 1 month ago
@MegaCANAM800 NOT TRUE!!!! No one is too "weird looking" to make friends, everyone is beautiful and valuable, you are an irreplaceable commodity just because you are you. If you need someone to talk to about anything, you can message me any time.
Symphonious7 4 weeks ago
@MegaCANAM800 aww that not true, you can make friends coz u sound like a nice person :)
kinchou23 3 weeks ago
thank you for being such a nice person, you who wrote these nice comment to me, it makes me really like you & care about you so much!!!!!
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago 3
I can relate to you 100% but I just recently started getting better. Now my anxiety is starting to subside and I can feel people starting to warm up to me (and visa versa) much more easily than before, thank you so much for sharing this with youtube and good luck
MrTuuc 1 month ago
I scare people, and for the most part it's a good thing, because they leave me alone. On the other hand, those that are around me for a while realize I'm not going to kill them or try to, it takes time but works out usually.
seniorjohnl 1 month ago
@seniorjohnl Same here.
mistique137 3 weeks ago
You have helped me through the most difficult times. You're an inspiration. Thank you. For me social anxiety fluctuates. It must be maintained. Between times of total relaxed, effortless conversation and happiness, I sometimes go through times where I feel like I can't relate to my friends or people in general. I just don't feel right. I need a little help to ease my way out of it. To hear your story and to relate to you brings me back to myself again.
supercreativename 1 month ago
@supercreativename supercreativename you're the best, I really like your words to me, thank you :)
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
beautiful and positive in the inside so she's even more beautiful
madjunir 1 month ago
@madjunir madjunir, thank you, I really like you, you're so nice :)
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
my pants are so uncomfortable right now!
SLef3d 1 month ago
i know exactly what you mean about the making other people feel uncomfortable, ive had sa for a while but when that started to happen with the uncomfortable thing i just stopped going out, ive lost all my mates and my job now i just stay in and get pissed out of me head to kill the boredomm and depressive thoughts, the only time i get out is to walk my dog im sick of all this bollocks.
TheT33g 1 month ago
you are so beautiful miss'
indigomage 1 month ago
beautiful
indigomage 1 month ago
Beautiful :D
Shadowcontheoriginal 1 month ago
people think bad things of me VERY BAD things but I made it like this its a big fun how people look at me even when they don`t know me or how people ignore or mock me and I just laugh at them or tell them how sick and rearded they are but the biggest fun is when they are afraid of you I even told them that I`m a satanist. I`m not very far but those fuckers think I praise fuckin Satan! I feel hardcore ;D so what I`m saying is you schouldn`t care about such things live your own life not others`
BlackMetalInferno 1 month ago
I know exactly how you feel. sometimes when I'm around people I just don't know what to say. Then the moment get awkward. I don't feel comfortable about myself or who I am. I know what you feel.
joegarridon 1 month ago
@joegarridon Asking questions and telling personal stories that you know are at least some what interesting/funny works.I use ether of those when I have noting else to say "So ya.....How was that bike you and your dad were working on?What happened with that guy you talked about last time?I use to do bike ride but the reason I stopped was ,because of this so and so,etc.".How,when,why,where helps a lot,also improvising classes are good and practice,practice,practice.
Blankname101 1 month ago
@CMPunkLiddell4LifeO9 CMPunkLiddell!!! awww. Thank you :) I want you to know You are unbelievably valuable, important, and awesome as a person.
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
@Oppland29 That's true there is a lot of destructive and unnecessarily superificiality. I think since everyone is worthy and important, there is no choice but to try and fit in with it, but still know it's wrong, just fake and pretend. You have more influence when you're successful. But people that choose to not try and fit in for noble values, that is so brave and wonderful! :`). For example when someone said someone was not very pretty, I disagreed. "I think she is beautiful."
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
australian accent, right? with a little europian?
bunny1866 1 month ago
I hope I am your first you are beautiful be my cyber wife my confidence will boost just thinking I have a girlfriend hot like you so sexy voice and looks
Nickatimes 2 months ago
People put me down and tell me "You make me uncomfortable" ...... -_- I'm I guess I stay quiet and not socialize anymore. IHATEPEOPLE.
pugs321 2 months ago
@pugs321 IHATEPEOPLE 2 lol
nuclearshadow12 2 months ago
@pugs321 If someone tells you that he's an asshole! It's alright to be different, and when you feel better about yourself, you improve naturally.
TheBlackStar999 2 months ago
Lol i've been uncomfortable in most social situations... I can only hope i'm making others feel that way 2 :D
When I dont see my friends for an extended period of time, i can even make them uncomfortable.
DataSe7en 2 months ago
i mak people uncomfortable an akward
2012XF3 2 months ago
Since I was 6 years old I'm 29 now So if the god damn secret "works so well" why I'm still alive?! Isnt it all about becoming what you think ?. (sorry about grammar/spelling English is not my first language)
ANNA7171493 2 months ago
@MARSBELLA1 you are soooooo right I mean I do think that a positive thinking helps to bring good stuff to your Life But for Many of Us Like me is not that simple and when ppl tells me "oh just be positive" makes me feel even worse! Cause they say it like is so simple like is your own desition to be depressed or you just simply deserve to be sad just cause you are not "smart enough or whatever " to control your mind.. The thought about wanting to Die pops In my mind several Times a DaY since I
ANNA7171493 2 months ago
You sound like a pretty bright person – which may make dumb people feel uncomfortable. Just take it all with a sense of humor.
lawshorizon 2 months ago
I never get tired of watching your vids, Jimmy
dogman75 3 months ago
you look like you could be a bitch if you werent shy or anxious.
MaCe313 3 months ago
miracle.
MARSBELLA1 3 months ago
I cant stand people going on about the stupid "the secret" what a load of bull. That totally diminishes what people with mental health problems are going trough, and in doing so makes them feel worse, do you really think - if it was that simple people wouldnt be able to stop how they feel? I think the secret is for really simple minded people. Id take the celestine prophecy over that anyday. "just think your a millionare and you will be" what a joke. positive thinking is good, but it is no
MARSBELLA1 3 months ago
u is wearing LIPGLOSS bitch - u KNOW u LOOK good but u is a SNOOT BITCH n that IS very ANNOYING : ( ogh i HATE u
alifelesscritic 3 months ago
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I want to ride you up to the highest mountain and cum on your face :) True Story
gawaian 3 months ago
awesome. thank you for making me smile. i often make other women "uncomfortable"... and its so refreshing to hear someone like you, so pretty and sweet, say its ok. thanks. you kinda made my day.
lyttav 3 months ago
I Have same problem n m Alone with No friends no Love Life,i become anxious n crowd n like to remain in room..i fewl lik Doing Sucide..I feel LIKE killing myself s da only solution yo dis thing..I am convincing myself yo kill myself to gt over with this life....HELP ME...
megasuperock 3 months ago
@megasuperock Hey I ve had SA for years now - it will get easier I promise you - I have it since I was 19, Im 27 now - over the past three years, I would say I have got 80% better. I used to think of killing myself all the time, It seemed like it made total sense, but Im so glad I didnt, I think you have to feel it yourself, but eventually your mind and body will realise its no good and it will stop making youfeel this way - please hold on. I promise it will get better
MARSBELLA1 3 months ago
Can I take you out to the movies sometime?
HolaMexty 3 months ago
you're beautiful! i'm in love :)
jungledrumnbass4ever 3 months ago
What kind of foreign are you? Because it's a good foreign. A hot foreign.
StraightUpBadass 4 months ago 14
You think too much, read the book "The Secret" it is about the law of attraction nothing can come into your life that isn't pre meditated from either your subconscious or concuss awareness. Remember this, if you plan for negativity to come into your life the universe WILL put it their, you expect good you'll get good things. This is what has been and what always will be.
MrQuincychapman 4 months ago
@MrQuincychapman that is just so stupid. Im sorry, Im english and I am 27 and I am intelligent. the secret is bull. if you know anything about mental health, you will realise that mental illness, is the inability to CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS. if it was as simple as just think positive, you know thousands of people would not literally kill themselves every year from mental health problems. Infact, when people go on about the secret it makes people feel worse, it diminishes wat they r realy going thru
MARSBELLA1 3 months ago
You know, people deemed "attractive" by the general populace are just as capable of having emotional issues like Avoidance/SAD as those who might not be as such.
Being completely modest here...I get told how "handsome, cute, and hot" I am by adults and girls my age alike often. That coupled with my issues adds pressure to be "normal", because "hot guys shouldn't be so screwed up."
You get what I mean? I'm sure the girl in the video has some stuff going on too. Like everyone else in the world.
KingIchigo 4 months ago
You are not weird, you are the prettiest thing on earth and i wanna marry you if I was lucky enough.
frescobaldi100 4 months ago
i dont hear anything im just watching this beauty ^^
rafale2009 4 months ago
@rafale2009 I don't want to sound nosy or something, but I hardly think any girl would respond to that/take that in a good way. I mean... "Ow, how sweet! The guy is ignoring what I say because I look pretty!"... heh, again, I don't think so :P
Is not that I am trying to sound like an expert, I am actually all but good at making up conversations/relationships with people, and of course, more with girls. Anyway, I've realized that EVERY girl wants to be listened. That's all.
Just think about it :)
pabloindustries 4 months ago 8
@pabloindustries if I try to be, seem, or look beautiful in my videos, it is probably because I'm extremely scared and insecure and using this as a "Defense". It actually only shows I have a flaw, that I'm afraid of not caring about what people think and simply only caring about the truth, being a good person, and being human.
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
i love your voice, so calming.
winstonmisha 4 months ago
i wish people could be more honest with each other but most people if you just ask them "HEY,do i make you uncomfortable "most of the time just being honest causes them to be more uncomfortable. you cant win in this world :-)
jayluv4204life 4 months ago
i hope things are going well for you :)
rflood89 4 months ago
I don't get it? Is she talking about herself?
gxrcix525 4 months ago
Haha. I got social anxiety because I noticed stores always assumed i was going to rob them.
Now i assume ppl assume I'm going to rob them. : /
pleeeeep 4 months ago
Even if I know I fuck up socially, I just gloss over it or make a joke, If the joke makes it more awkward, oh well. Things would get boring if people got too comfortable.
JNathanK2011 5 months ago
I worship Satan. That's how I deal with my social anxiety. Hail Satan! ;)
Half those people are probably dicks anyway, so fuck them. Its not always on you.
JNathanK2011 5 months ago
@JNathanK2011 Your fucked in the head
Confinedhornet8 4 months ago
@Confinedhornet8 It was a joke! In reality, i worship pussy though. All hail the bearded clam!
The sun rocks too, always givin' me sunshine and shit.
JNathanK2011 4 months ago
@JNathanK2011 I'm a twenty four years old and I'm waiting til I get married
Confinedhornet8 4 months ago
damm people make me uncomfortable,also people smarter then me make me uncomfortable,scarry peaple make me uncomfortable,ubnocsiose peaple make me uncomfortable,why dont we get allone?
soska247 5 months ago
fact if you ignorent,bully and narrow minded,its easy in life,rather then gental and sensitive loving person.
soska247 5 months ago
I think I make people uncomfortable with my social anxiety
SuperBeherenow 5 months ago
I really don't see how you can make people uncomfortable... To be honest, I would feel very relaxed if I was talking to you. This world doesn't make sense anymore. I like your hair, btw. (I probably wouldn't have the balls to say that to you in real life...)
chocomuffins69 5 months ago
ME AND I FUCKING HATE IT, I FEEL LIKE A FUCKING ALIEN
malis96 5 months ago
I hate the sound of my own voice , what can i do about that ? it makes me feel really down if i ever hear a recording of my voice played back :--(
MrJonnyboyification 5 months ago
@MrJonnyboyification Hey brah I have same prob. Im about to start recording myself and creating a log, marking anything I can do to improve and repeat. I also heard that recording yourself, while delaying the audio playback by a few ms can help as well, perhaps these techniques may interest u.
ZeusAlvarado2009 5 months ago
@ZeusAlvarado2009 thanks for your suggestions but i wouldnt know how to delay the audio ?
MrJonnyboyification 5 months ago
@MrJonnyboyification I use Ableton DAW. check if they have a demo, its mainly for music production, but can do lots of cool audio functions, I think it may have demo. I also found that you can plug a mic into windows, go into sound options, go to properties of your mic, recording, then click listen to device or something along that lines, you will be able to hearyourself with a little delay, only prob is you cant control the delay. PM me for help if you need bro best of luck
ZeusAlvarado2009 5 months ago
@MrJonnyboyification
No offense, but you have to get your mind off of yourself. Do something you enjoy, or have somebody
teach you something if you don't know how to do it.
SuperBeherenow 5 months ago
You don't make me uncomfortable, you're totally hot! ;)
CleverDjembe 5 months ago
I just finished watching your video and I am writing to tell you how uncomfortable I now feel for having watched it. Thank you.
removetheflesh 6 months ago
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can i have your phone number???
OneManArmy144 6 months ago
How do you do this? make a video and not worry of people judging you.
MsDia123456789 6 months ago
I need help, I have no friends
pugs321 6 months ago
@pugs321 hi
drandoma 6 months ago
@drandoma why did you just say that?
pugs321 3 months ago
this chick is sexy!
babyboiiiii19 6 months ago
Hello, how about a few skype sessions with you the uploader to help with my SA? Just joking. Good videos. Thank you.
HalloFusilli 6 months ago
you're unique - not weird and strange - and I bet people feel nice being around you.
swampzoid 6 months ago
narh i was joking, just ease up a bit more, start laughing more, move more, talk more, do things that scare you (but wont kill you) push yourself more, be open minded, ask questions, smile, and if you're still weird after that. Be good at it, and be weirder, people will apreciate you more, because people would rather be around somebody who is openly themselves, than someone who hides away and shows lack of confidence, hope this helps :-)
murdernumber222 7 months ago
you make me feel very extremely uncomfortable
murdernumber222 7 months ago
I know for sure that if I met you I would feel more comfortable then anyone.
stewielove101 7 months ago
you have a very soothing voice! what a sweetheart!
eej1993 7 months ago 2
@eej1993 eej hi! :)) really? do a lot of people think my voice is soothing?
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
i am a very handsome guy with Social Anxiety
drunkenp0t 7 months ago
@drunkenp0t haha this made me giggle:)
Sustanaelle 7 months ago
what triggered my social anxiety is getting picked on and called names and some information being told about my relatives etc...it broke my self esteem and confidence down into a crumble and made me realize how cruel the human mind actually is...thats why i approach people more aggressively although it still doesn't work...it's like its this thing in my head that says "think about what others are thinking of you" and it kills, i can't turn that part of my brain off no matter what...it sucks..
bigb771 7 months ago
@bigb771 most likely those people arent actually thinking about you that much and they dont care how you act because they are usually thinking about themselves more then anyone else just like you are. People dont spend much time thinking about how bad someone else is unless they actually have self esteem problems themselves and so the only thing holding you back is that you are over analysing everything when in reality it doesnt matter what you do unless your a complete nutcase.
PooeyBum11 7 months ago
okay i like how you look and what you say but you appear really boring to me... if I would have seen you on the street when I was single I would definitly have talked to you, but you should more behave like a skank, that would maker you hotter.
LabcabinPhiladelphia 7 months ago
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LabcabinPhiladelphia 7 months ago
U dont make me uncomfortable . Actualy I probably would feel very much at ease around you . And that is Hard test to pass couse I have anxiety . Keep up a good work .proud of you . And thanks for sharing it has helped my growth and healing too.
volshebstvos2006 7 months ago
Yes you annoy me xD no kidding you´re cool !!
LabcabinPhiladelphia 7 months ago
Great video, The major thing I think about the most is that I make people uncomfortable that's why I don't hang out with nobody. Most of the time I feel like crap, I criticize my self and think negative things about myself like I'm so skinny I look like a tooth pick. When I look in the mirror or see myself in a picture I think I look so retarted. There are occasions specially when I'm out in public when I feel like I'm the most insignificant thing, I feel like human waste, piece of fecal matter
Mistykal2000 7 months ago
I make myself uncomfortable as much as I make others uncomfortable. I hate being an attractive young man in my 20s because people always assume the best (and worst) things about me that. It causes socializing, making friends, and keeping friends on the verge of impossible.
kucoru16 8 months ago
theres a girl that i like a lot but i make her feel uncomfortable with my social anxiety i speak too slow im very cute gorgeous looking but looks aint everything in this life personality is also important
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
Social anxiety is easier if you are totally hot.. not an ugly bastard like me.
Slimboyfat1979 8 months ago 55
@Slimboyfat1979 that can be true in cases, but not necessarily....people with s.a can have body dysmorphia, so they may struggle with the "reality" that they are hideous and unattractive, no matter what others perceive. It's true that society places unfair, illogical advantages and disadvantages based on the physical appearance people happen to have. this is unfair and illogical because people are not their appearance & "appearancism" like racism, horribly limits human love and potential.
NoSocialAnxiety 8 months ago 16
@NoSocialAnxiety
Indeed, its not fair. I am pretty sure that if I was more attractive I would have a lot more confidence and self esteem. I see evidence of people judging me on the way I look all the time. Frankly I have no idea if I am "ugly" or not, but I do feel negatively judged even before I say a word, so the only conclusion I can come too is that I must be unattractive...seeing as they dont even know me. It must be a nice feeling to KNOW you are good looking.
Slimboyfat1979 8 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 but ALL human bodies r pure beauty, pure art. attractiveness isnt a set in stone concept. YOU r the authority of attractiveness about u - attractiveness is a made up concept by humans...& U r a human, therefore U can decide & define urself as attractive exactly as u are - abandon limiting attractiveness ideals of others - they're ignorant of the fact that the world would be a happier better place if we felt genuinely good about ourselves including physically worthy and elevated.
NoSocialAnxiety 8 months ago 8
@NoSocialAnxiety I think the basis of self esteem and not thinking you are "ugly" is self acceptance, I know I have that problem. I do believe that beauty and attractiveness is universal. I could never be deemed as good looking. I could, if I was more naive of how people are delude myself and pretend that I am attractive simply to make myself feel OK, but the fact is people who are better looking, generally speaking, have more confidence, more friends, and more success.
Sorry if I sound bitter.
Slimboyfat1979 8 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 thats not true im very attractive and i feel bad inside :(
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
@celtic4ever18 Do you know whats not attractive? Telling people that you are.
Slimboyfat1979 8 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 i speak the truth its not a bad thing
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
@celtic4ever18 Feeling comfortable and happy with your looks is not a bad thing, actually telling people that you are "attractive' is. But that's just my opinion... If you were an ugly freak like me it would make sense.
Slimboyfat1979 8 months ago
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@celtic4ever18 Feeling comfortable and happy with your looks is not a bad thing, actually telling people that you are "attractive' is. But that's just my opinion... If you were an ugly freak like me it would make sense.
Slimboyfat1979 8 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 The fact that you dont know if you are ugly or not probably means your not as bad as you feel. If you were actually ugly then it would probably be able to see it yourself very easily.
PooeyBum11 7 months ago
@NoSocialAnxiety yeah thats me i been told im very cute and gorgeous but i see myself unattractive i improved thanks to your videos :)
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
@NoSocialAnxiety your right , but with bad looks its worse , but i was just reading forums about it , A guy who was saying that he is totally hot and so good looking but hasn't got a single gf yet because of this ,Even the girl he liked and she liked him , but still she went out with his best friend , So yeah , SAD sucks , no matter the looks ... I have average looks , some girls called me cute , but well ,I totally fail at getting along socially , and never had a gf -_-
djay00009 4 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 well im very cute hot guy and i suffer a little from dysmorphia also social anxiety
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 hey u should grow confidence... when you do u'll feel great
HLB285 8 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 I've been told I'm beautiful all my life but I'm still pretty sure I have the world's worst case of avoidant personality disorder.
EsperTinaVI 5 months ago
@EsperTinaVI yes, but it must be nice anyway to have people want to know you because you are attractive.
Slimboyfat1979 5 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 Unless you have a horrible personality like me and don't know what to say when someone talks to you. I have no friends because of this reason. I'll be in 11th grade in a few days. :(
EsperTinaVI 5 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 you are awesome dude, let's be youtube friends.
nounever 5 months ago
@nounever lets not
Slimboyfat1979 5 months ago
@Slimboyfat1979 Ha! I've been feeling that way too. All the girls with SA on youtube are fucking gorgeous. How is it possible for them to have SA?
Flamestar1989 4 months ago
dutch
sarabower1 9 months ago
how do you not cry when you make these videos? i would start bawling with memories...
hallecutie 9 months ago
You have the hottest accent I've ever heard! Is it an Australian, American mix or something??
HoopiesGoThrough 9 months ago
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OneManArmy144 9 months ago
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HLB285 9 months ago
@HLB285 fucking weirdo
sarabower1 9 months ago
@sarabower1 now what did ur parents say about cursing young fella
HLB285 8 months ago
BE YOUR SELF! SCREW WHAT OTHERS THINK!
shouaxx 9 months ago
@shouaxx i wish i could do that,that would really change my life ,not to give a fuck about what other people think of me
n01231 9 months ago
@shouaxx calm down
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
Creepy, u don't even know the girl
WhatsHappening783402 10 months ago
I have sa. I always joke that "if there was a job out there where you make people really uncomfortable, I would be the best one for it!' Making people uncomfortable is a constant worry of mine. If i start getting comfortable and talk too much, the conversations always turn to deep or strange things that i find interesting. Even if the people talk as well, i still wonder afterwards if i made them uncomfortable by having that conversation with them. I'm working on having shallower conversations...
amarena489 10 months ago
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celtic4ever18 8 months ago
first i would like to say that your voice is so relaxing ,and you are very very beautifui ,i suffer from sa and i have to say i never felt that i'm making other people uncomfortable,only that others make me uncomfortable.and i also think about myself that i'm weird and strange ,and that's the only reason people are looking at me, not because they think i'm attractive or something like that
n01231 10 months ago
@n01231 the real beauty is inside the personality in my case i have both
celtic4ever18 8 months ago
@celtic4ever18 good for you,but what's that got to do with what i said?
n01231 8 months ago
psycho bitch ...it is a big deal .. you are strange and weird .. you also stutter
usmankhizer 10 months ago
You don't need makeup :o You are so pretty!!!
Loopsyy 10 months ago
you look like you have a very lovely heart;) i love watching your vids:)
tubeuser314 11 months ago
I really really want to hug you.
TrollAnonymous 11 months ago 4
@TrollAnonymous TrollAnonymous!! *hug* :)
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
you are very very very very beautiful..
Arnold34251 11 months ago
You make me uncomfortable because you are outrageously attractive
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bumzurvaj 11 months ago
you're a beautiful young lady, inside and out. thank you for your thoughts here.
snootylittlecutie 11 months ago 2
I think you are mindblowingly cool and I'm a bit dissappointed with the people who comment on your looks alone since that really shouldn't be important. You have a pretty heart.
SpiritDreamsInside 11 months ago 2
@SpiritDreamsInside SpiritDreamsInside!! Yeah, I'm taken aback at how terrible the situation is. The ugly, sad, shallow obsession people place on peoples appearance when every person is SO MUCH MORE important than appearance!!! EVERY person wants to and needs to have their appearance valued but also people are mostly their personality & communications, not their appearance.
NoSocialAnxiety 1 month ago
You are so pretty!!
newmoon10184 1 year ago
hey i think i can help you out on this reach me at my id that is reamanu@live.com
rex4204 1 year ago
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jumanballout 1 year ago