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  • Yes Romantic Comedies do destroy relationships, that’s why I write science fiction check out my novel Truth Godspeed

  • @MrGraffitiAmsterdam There's a good woman in every corner of the world. Unfortunately, the world is round. LOL

  • "He should already know what's on my mind without me telling them" - I hate , I HATE this line so much more than anything else.When a woman gives me this one...christ.

    THIS IS NOT A MOVIE , IT'S REAL LIFE ! I CAN'T READ YOUR MESSED UP MIND AND I DON'T HAVE A FUCKING SCRIPT !

  • I don't think that it's completly true. But romantic comedies and movies\tv shows in general DO give out the wrong idea of what real relationships are. It's just a matter of not being so naive about life.

    It's pretty ironic to talk about a movie right now, but have you ever seen "500 Days Of Summer"? The guy was so convinced love was what the industry said it was that when he had his first real relationship things didn't go as he expected it.

  • Ugh Romcoms... I HATE those.

  • I watch Anime. Now I'm waiting for an alien girl to crash land in my yard and live with me while she tries to repair it, or a vampire girl to keep me as a food source. Why can't there be relationships like that?

  • The best romantic movie is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. One of the most accurate portrayals of a movie couple I've ever seen.

  • I would so take Ana skydiving.

  • Harriet Watt University? Sounds kinda like Hairy Twat. Wonder if they did that on purpose.. lol

  • saçmalamayın bee. yok öle bişey. ROMANTIC COMEDIES FOR EVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR­RRRRRR!!!

  • 2:08 LMAO

    Cenk is the best

  • "Guy movies" are the same as this. Why? because they will think all women have long blode hair, blue eyes, a nice ass, and afalt stomach, will have sex with tem THEN pull out their guns from their booty short back pocket, and kill some guys.

    Ohh yeah, that is soo realistic!

  • @musiclovinggurl123 The difference is we don't expect that from a normal girl. Guys expect what they see in movies from a normal guy.

  • Amen

  • Wow, Ana Kasparian just gained +50 points to her hotness factor when she said:

    "You have to tell a man exactly what you're thinking and exactly what you want or else you're NOT going to get what you want"

    Why don't other women think like this?! Bah.

    Preach it Ana.

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  • Romantic comedies destroy relationships?

    There are answers to this question, either............

    For example... No they don't, or..... who gives a damn anyway, or....... good!!!

    More importantly, romantic comedies destroy brain cells, waste time (the time spent viewing them) and are toxic viewing to self-respecting men who don't fancy the prospect of being witness to the female supremacist, misandric content.

    Entertainment for the plebeian, moronic masses.

  • Food Network destroys dinners.

  • Cenk's reaction at 2:10 = classic.

  • romantic comedies ruin everything. i hate them.

  • ahahahahahha

  • Whats the difference in men wanting women to look like these modles and tv/movie stars? None of it is realistic. Nor is any of it far to you or your partner.

  • i think and i personal know as a guy , guys only want and attractive woman to them which isn't that difficult but girls these days want the absolute perfect guy with the perfect height and life in America at least because these woman's movies give wrong and false expectations

  • the difference is man want but not expect and if they cant get they would say oh whatever. But as for girls they expect man to know and they keep their mouth shut to problems leading to breakups

  • I agree that romantic comedies make us expect too much out of a relationship. Both men and women expect unrealistic things out of their partner. We all need to realize a little more in this age of fantasy that TV and books have nothing to do with real life.

  • i hate action movies they are unrealalistic

  • To Anna: instead of moaning about why your man isn't taking YOU places he probably cant afford, why dont YOU come up with the cash and take HIM there? Your idea isn't it? Put your cash and some effort where your mouth is.

  • Er. I think she's joking. Anyway.

  • my ex girlfriend had code words for EVERYTHING and wouldnt tell me what they ment, but she would get angry for me not knowing??? its like what?? I could never tell what to do.. so i just gave up

  • They are movies, not documentaries. Please understand that this is entertainment not real life situations, entertainment is an escape from reality. If it was real we wouldn't be so amused by them. Before you make a big deal about something remember the whole reason why it exists. Now stop making a big hype about boycotting movies and stop looking for Hogwarts on a map (sorry to break it to those of you who thought Harry Potter was based off a true story).

  • When people watch enough of these movies though, they become psychologically and subconsciously affected. They think that THIS how things should be (i.e. romantic, perfect, etc) and become disappointed when it doesn't happen. I think that rom coms DO affect women's expectations.

  • Yeah, too bad women can't tell the difference between fiction and reality >_>

  • Women do have more unrealistic expectations in relationships...However Porn/Sex Culture may be causing men to catch up with the unrealistic expectations.

  • what a load of bullshit ....14 years and still going

  • High expectations are good. I have been married for five years and my husband is wonderful and our story was magical. I love all of those movies!!

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  • Yeah 5 years, your constant demands for romantic crap is sapping the energy out of the marriage and you're killing the poor guy. Call us in a few years and tell us if its still so rosy.

  • haha you havn't reached the seven year itch yet

  • romantic comedies ruined my life :(

  • Look here you Republician dumb shit! Obama will withdraw troops from iraq AND cut the tax hike as of 1992, his pre-economic stance of 2015 is not to be in effect until the co-rebilious bill of rights is chartered to say: You inbred hicks of Nonononton will have to deal with the bus of motherphockers

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  • Im sorry anybody who believes love is like romantic comedy they need to be buy themselves

  • euh "buy themselves"? ...

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  • lol <3 ana

  • People are just people. If you have a good woman or a good man, be patient, be tolerant. We are just human beings, and no man will speak perfectly to a woman. Some women expect that, and it's not realistic. Women don't talk perfectly either.

  • Morons, it isn't movies that destroy relationships. Normal people can't watch those movies that made for retarded nations, where is every whore knows she is beautiful and deserves everything, and every woman is Goddess. And if anything doesn't fit it, that the men who are guilty - because they sexist, abuser, rapist, cheater and so on. So screw that culture - it's culture of retards and for retards. So if you don't like american culture it's just very likely you are not a moron.

  • Actually, there are women like that all over the world, not just in America. I think is many women have changed, but men haven't, and there is not enough of a balance for both. Both men and women have more problems and have unrealistic expectations.

  • Everything changes because of pollution. Both have changed nowday. Women changed more because:

    1. Hormones beeing digested with foods make them more men. That's most noticable in USA - very thick nation mentally and physically. USA is finished - it will collapse within 5-10 years.

    2. Women brain less able to learn science. There is about 100 male scientists to 1 female. Women are more street smart - why take a hard road when you can just marry rich man (sometimes a few) to get rich.

  • I had to research your women/scientist claim. You're definitely wrong. Not just about that, either.

  • Hey I'll tell you whats actually ruined women : men. If less and less men adored women, hit on them constantly and treated them like angels , women wouldn't get so big headed and everyone would be better of. When a chick acts to good for you,dont hate on her, hate the guys that have made her feel that way

  • that's could true and false

  • alright smarty pants

  • feminism has ruined hollywood and women all together

  • haha...very true

  • Oh Cenk I love you man. When you die at the end it's the best haha.

  • Aaah... yeah ladies, Cenk and Ana just hit on one of the big "ones" (relationship issues)! This clip is worth a replay if you missed what they were talking about, and before I go further, I love you all to death!

    The day that you can expect a man to just know what you are thinking, is too far in the future. It's not going to happen in your lifetime. You've got to tell us what you want, then if we don't (if not eventually) get it, then we deserve to suffer the consequences!

  • another reason to say fuck Hollywood :0

  • there is no true love. There is only a mate you can live with that will help you produce children and get some sex in a regular basis.

  • its not just "romantic comedies" its movies and tv shows in general

  • and fairy tales.....

  • if ur relationship is insecure, then some things will come into question, because someone outside of the relationship noticed it! that makes u say "i dont really know u", when someone outside the relationship tells u something u think is true

  • It's spelled why oh u, you. How can you even write like that and not write the word you properly?

  • cuz u not my momma!U just need to understand the message, u scold ur kids, dont waste ur time trying to correct me on the internet!

  • Why don't you just relax and let me decide how I want to waste my time, hm?

    No, I don't need to understand the message, there's an ocean of dickheads around you with the exact same one, but you were the one who didn't even bother to type two extra characters in order to form a proper word. What amazes me is that you got every single word besides "you" correct!

  • yeah, these movies always have some big shot dude with a mercedes, a $25000 wedding and a huge house.....then the bitch comes back down to reality and shit, gotta pay those bills....i think soap operas screw up women's heads too and you tell them how stupid they are and they totally agree that they are, but watch them anyway

  • This is a great review of "Romantic Comedies." Thanks for posting! I always wondered the same thing. Now, many years later, I finally know better! LOL

  • i wont even go too much into the irony of you spelling ignorant wrong. are you suggesting that there is a reasonable sizeable market for female porn? porn is, in the vast majority, a male phenomenon. I dont need forgiveness from a moron, thanks.

  • Emotional/psychological romanticism is the other side of sex from the physical, men tend toward the physical side, women tend toward the emo/psycho side, though exceptions and halfways abound, essentially, romanticism is to female as pornography is to females.

  • What's the last Romantic Comedy you saw where the women did what the MAN wants?

  • very rarely! because romantic comedies are aimed at women. In much the same way as porn is aimed at men and only really cater for male desires.

  • you got your ass backwards with that comment.

    Porn is not aimed at men. Male oriented porn is aimed at men.

    Female oriented porn is aimed at women.

    but you're igonorant, you only know what you've seen so i forgive you

  • Good thinking.

  • Porn causes men to have unrealistic expectations of women!

  • no cuz the porn women are still women

  • I'm sure u had a point, but yr statement did not make sense...So men in romantic movies are women?

  • i need to see the rest of this vid 1st

  • I agree, but bon't worry I'll take U skydiving girl, and much more.

  • Ok. I'll check it out.

  • Ah, sweet Ana. I will take you "muff diving" my delicious sweet Ana! LOL

  • hahaha a rational woman :) rare...

  • i've been saying this for years

  • me too. ive been saying american woman based their relationships on movies - magical movies.

  • I disagree. Women should higher their expectations, since they too often sell themselves too short.

  • blackunigryphon- i agree that women should have good expectations

    however there's no perfect man out there

    like mr.darcy or prince charming

  • The women who sell themselves too short are the unromantic ones. The ones who don't respect themselves enough to dream up something realistic, yet of exceptional meaning and value.

  • BTW, if you want to see REAL romance watch "Pride of the Yankees" w/ Gary Cooper and Teresa Wright. It blows any other "romantic" movie away with realistic passion and idealism.

  • women are delusional goofballs.

    point blank period.

    movies give women their

    ideals and thoughts.

    sad. :)

  • And what they seem to forget is most of those stories were written by men, who in some cases can't satisfy their own wives, but can please the world through story-telling. Ironic?

  • good point Depp!

  • most my relationships failed under the influence of poooorrrnnn

  • Not realistic? I have a relationship like that. In 3 years, I have only made her cry 4 times. For me that's magical!

  • people read love / romance novels and expect someone exciting to come along and take them away from their mundane lives. today its quicker to watch romantic comedies and still develop unrealistc expectations.the only realistic parts in the movies are the conflicts - but in real life its ongoing - gotta keep workin at the relationship

  • yep.

  • this is so true! And it affects guys as well. It always made me wonder whether things were supposed to be "meant to be" and whether there was supposed to be a "sign" or something. True about porn, too... good point.

    Ben Franklin, no, they don't expect it to be like transformers. But throughout history our government has attempted to censor what images of war we see. No coffins, no bloody dead soldiers. Back in WWII they even made propaganda films making war look glorious to boost recruitment.

  • They're just movies... geeze lol

  • lol.

  • Those movies are all the same. They meet, one of them is a total jerk who ends up kind of having a heart of gold. Somebody, probably the guy absolutely screws up at some point. Then at the end they rectify everything. And through 99 percent of the movie any rational person watching it is trying not to throw up in their mouth.

    Some are fun enough, you just can't take them serious at all. They're fluff, it's like going to McDonald's, all empy calories.

  • I like romantic comedies but it's all good.

  • Yeah, women are stupid...

    Well, at least from the day you tell them "I love you" or "I want to spend the rest of my life with you"

  • lol. women live in fantasyland.

  • Good observation - methinks that sophistocated people who have mature relationships don't watch romantic comedies to feel fulfilled. The national 2 week vacation standard is more damaging to relationships - household bankruptcy - come on - romantic comedies... sheesh.

  • I'm a guy and romantic comedies always depress me because it shows this incredible fantasy of love that I feel I'm never going to have, but that I "should" have.

  • Check out Cenk's reaction after he hears about "Sky-diving"...... Hilarious! I love Cenk's Sarcasm !

  • I've seen a couple of these types of movies and it doesn't really seem like the perfect relationships anyway. The girl is usually dating another guy at first of something; not a good way to start a relationship. If anything these types of movies probably encourage cheating or something lol.

  • I completely AGREE! I'm a woman and I do watch "that crap" sometimes, but the whole idea of "the one" and synchronicity etc drives me crazy when people try to take it into their real lives. And men fall for this too! They want perpetual infatuation. Real relationships take work and understanding and good communications, as Ana says.

  • Ana's all bundled up like she's freezing here. TURN UP THE HEAT IN THERE, TURKS!

  • Hello, this is a man technique for nipple reaction.

  • who watches that crap anyway?

  • its true

  • Romantic comedies; porn for women?

  • movies are meant to be propaganda for control.

  • One of the main reasons why I'll never be a fan of "romantic comedies." They're JUST.  NOT. FUNNY.

  • to be honest, this isnt just girl, or isnt just chick flick. the media manipulate our mind to one view of life. and we see this as a perfect lives.

  • That was my first thought too. I agree romcoms are bad in that respect but commercials for example are much much worse at raising our unrealistic expectations in general.

    Then again we could just blame the people dumb enough to let themselves be manipulated ;)

  • A girl stupid enough to base her expectations and compare a relationship from a romantic comedy, does not deserve to be in one, a relationship i mean ^^ haha btw not just women, anyone really.

  • women based their entire life from their first memory until present on unrealistic expectations based on movies, romance, songs, celebrity life styles, romeo and juliets childhood story. females are stupid. and they mask their stupidity by claiming they are so dern intelligent and all wise. its comical to sit and watch women talk about themselves and how smart they are when they are really simple and many times overemotional and stupid.

  • like the view. lol perfect example.

  • The problem is the people in these movies have no real money issues and a ton of free time. no mortgages, kids, student loan repayments, crappy job, the list goes on and on. must be nice!!!!

  • this is one of the best Young Turks Videos. The world needs to promote this video more.

  • A quick question: Who compares romantic comedies to real life relationships....I mean besides middle school girls?

  • A quick answer: It's not a conscious process. All sane women will think that they don't compare "romantic comedies to real life relationships" but they more they watch and adore these type of movies the more it reinforces unrealistic expectations on a subconscious level.

  • Worst movie genre EVER. I LOATHE them. I hear "romantic comedy" and I run in abject terror!! :P

  • You must have serious baggage and not just carry on but full on check baggage...LMAO. You run from entertainment? I'm still laughing.

  • "full on check baggage"... lol myself... yes, yes I do - don't we all? ;-) I dont have alot of relationship baggage, actually, tho - which is, in point of fact why I find that sort of movie so annnoying, beacuse THEY do. So, no, I don't run from entertainment, I run from 2 hrs of WHINING and lala-land.hahahaha

  • amen!

  • i came up with this conclusion a long time ago and put it in my 'real woman' wish list.

    it's nice to see anna have her head screwed on straight with this.

  • The media is has a negative effect on people.

  • Wanna see a good comedy? His Girl Friday!

  • Haha

    Never seen any of those movies he listed!

    My lady always spared me the chick flicks.

  • I resent that women are downing pornos. Pornos are an accurate representation of how a sex life should be! If a man wants to call over his very best friend and take tunrs ,jac-hammering, a girlfriend-then thats the way it should be;) Now, romantaic comedies are just shameful!

  • LMAO!Jac hammering his girlfriend!

    this is all true though...

  • hellll no

    the whole destinity thing maybe but

    what anna said about finding a guy that comes with crazy stuff like going skydying or something i think its possible. you just have to find someone that loves doing fun things if you like to do fun things

  • You can blame entertainment in general in ruining relationships. I mean you got Desperate Housewives basically saying go out and cheat you'll like it, you got romantics that are too good, I mean everything on television is hyped up to ruin relationships, because if they act like us in real life they wouldn't get an audience.

  • She's right, women have to tell what they are thinking and what they want. We're not mind readers..

  • About time someone points this out=O This is why alot of people don't make it in relationships. They're expecting to find the "One" but u have to work for a relationship to work=O. Media is so lame=O. And people believe it -_-. As for a rational woman=O, BEING A woman we are not rational at all and unfortunetly for me i took me like 8 years to realize this=o WAKE UP GIRLS! This is y i HATE romantic MOVIES! (twilight is the ONLY acceptionXD)

  • Rational Woman? isnt that kind of an oxymoron?

  • hahahha yes, very true.

  • Fact.

  • Do not take life lessons from hit songs or movies, how dumb are you to mix reality and the Entertainment Industry.

    All relationship do not have to be as conventional as what you see on tv.

  • You are so right! Cenk.

  • Yeah the really do. Theres so many dumb azz women, that take these films as reality. They all have the same plot and storyline and the scripts are just recycled. Drew Barrymore said that she doesnt even want to do anymore.

  • ummmmm nowe dont and YOUR calling US dumb asses.

  • porno does the same thing, only from the male point of view.

  • unless you think about female domination porno

  • I blame Disney too. Complete romantic brainwahing when you're young to believe that love just happens like that and it's happily ever after. No work necessary. Throw in fairy tales too!

  • this is the best kept secret to why we are screwed up.

  • I blame the average person. They're idiots.

  • that study just proves that people are brain washed by what they see and only know what is reality if they are told... it's sad really that people need to be told what is normal.

  • i blame Disney too

  • I am a woman that HATES romantic comedies, pretty much for the reasons they listed. I always end up feeling like shit toward the end. Like the women are so lucky in these movies, and I am just unlucky or something.

    That said... I think romantic comedies ruin relationships as much as porn does. Men have unrealistic ideas of what sex is supposed to be like, and think we walk around horny all the time.

  • no, we know you don't. But we'd like you to at least pretend

  • My Biology teacher says Twilight destroys young girls expectations about men.

  • So does this mean we can start blaming the high rate of divorce on womens high expectations or are we still going with the reasons of infidelity and financial problems? LOL jk ;P

  • Nice one

  • So this is what it means when some single women say they "won't settle." What they mean is they won't settle for anything less than one of these fantasy Hollywood romantic relationships.

    Ha Ha that's pretty sad...

  • very interesting study and i do think there is some reason to the madness

  • to be fair they'd have to study men's movies where the women are all compliant sex-kittens with no problems except how best to please a man.

    my biggest beef with chick movies is how the women are usually kinda nuts but they find a very indulgent man that will allow them to keep acting emotionally retarded instead of challenging them to change.

    some kind of protection/enabling fantasy i guess.

  • Agree with you 100% my friend.

  • I agree with the Turks 99.99999%. My 0.001% of disagreement has to do with who to 'blame' and I believe the blame goes to the viewers more than the movies. Only half-wits seriously take their reality cues from movies and movies merely reflect the cultural dyfunction already present among viewers.

  • That's why I dont watch that shit it annoying and fake.

  • amen

    I will show this to my gf, since she's been trying to get me to watch that shitfest Mama Mia.

  • mine saw that and sex in the city... yeah

  • boo handom85!

    love uu!!

  • mama mia isnt even a romantic movie like they are talking about in the video.

    its a musical about a 20 year old girl trying to find her father before her wedding.

    and its set to abba songs.

    it is definitely more of a comedy than romance.

  • Yes, I know that.

    But it's still a chick flick and I refuse to watch it

  • The biggest problem is women looking for 100% man when the best you may get is a 80% man, and women letting there gal pals getting in there head, but the biggest problem is women expecting men to know what on there minds or to just know whats wrong.

  • That is so true, Preach!

  • "The biggest problem is women looking for 100% man when the best you may get is a 80% man, "

    Let's be honest; most of us men are maybe only 60% but so are most women.