How To Embrace Your Inner Geek And Still Get The Girl!

[UserName0043]

karl sounds like a total geek wad

[SuperBraydon1423]

help me plz ....----------> how do i get a girl if im the biggest loser in my class no one in my class likes me plz help me and im grade 6 and im 12 im braydon harp plz help

[hawkshe]

@SuperBraydon1423 I have an idea, don't post twice.

[SuperBraydon1423]

help me plz ....----------> how do i get a girl if im the biggest loser in my class no one in my class likes me plz help me and im grade 6 and im 12

[potpolima]

what if you don't have money???forget this video.

[merkur32123]

@potpolima Get a good job!

[broadcastmyass4u]

People are dumb

[JSMyst]

Geeks are awesome dude ........ women love money enough said :D

Geek=smart=makes alot of money

[lumpyfishful]

im in an all boy school and im only 13 and i have some real good friends like in the beginning of secondry i was super fat but now im done over 4 trousers sizes and my friends never commented when i was bigger so i have good friends but i dont have much friends who are girls so what do i do?

[TheIntelexual]

He looks at her more than the damn camera. It's irritating!

[ChaosControl1997]

Not all but some. Like you see a nerdy type guy asking out the cheerleader, or the strange girl asking out the jock. I am an old soul an unusual, I always had crushes on the popular hot guys, but I had nothing in common with them, so I started looking at the nerdy guys they were cute and I found my soul mate in one, so instead of shooting for the hot cheerleader type, why not shoot for the girl who is just as cute and you have more in common with there are plenty of us diffrent girls out there.

[Agent1W]

@ChaosControl1997 It's gotten so bad for me that the only girl I'll have a chance with is one that is made in MY image, or "likeness". I've come across many girls across the social, cultural, and economic spectrums and none of those interests worked out.

In theory, if I don't find this kind of girl, I will keep getting a lot of potential romantic interests that will not work out. It's okay. I think I'm past my 16th or 17th one.

[ChaosControl1997]

@Agent1W Honey, there is someone for everyone I believe, do you know how many guys turned me down? I am overweight and a odd ball, not something guys go for. I got to the point many times of giving up, but I was 25 before I found someone and even now I still worry he will go because I'm not perfect. If you want to give up then try to be content living alone, but if you truly want your mate wait for her, try to forget your looking and I'm sure she'll come along, don't try so hard.

[Agent1W]

@ChaosControl1997 I never said I gave up. It's just that many girls are not going to make the cut. Dating would just be a time-consuming and expensive process. Many guys recommend being a womanizer loving on the run, but I'm not like that. I believe women deserve better than that, even if that's just my opinion.

I'm uncertain of how long I'll expect to live and whether my mate will come along in time. Nothing I should be too worried about. > | )

[MrNemitri]

I lioke Dan and Jenn, they make me laugh, but they give good advice every now and then yay! but Dan what if I have a charisma score of 8 :( ?

[lumpyfishful]

@MrNemitri is that from dungeons and dragons?

[chazkm]

haha. he said sell out. Thats golden

[Dawnstar42]

I LOVE GEEKS!

[surfista584]

I don't buy that last part!

You should stick to your friends, be yourself and be around people who aprecciate you and make you feel good about yourself. Society (and by society I mean women) wants you to be this and that... Fuck them! If they don't like that's their problem...

Bros before hoes!

[dasheefo]

@surfista584 YES u stick to ur freinds they should mature 2 exept if ur freinds are fags

[TheCastellan]

@surfista584

Eh....one gets enough of bros and want a ho.

[griffinclick99]

@surfista584 no its hoes before bros lol

[kodomonochikan]

@surfista584

That's assuming you have good, open-minded friends though. If your friends are actively stunting your growth as a person (I've had friends like that, too jealous to be happy for me) you're better off ignoring their opinion and cutting them out of your life if need be. Your direction in life shouldn't be decided by your peers. Not talking about women in this particular case, but I think the guy's point was relevant in more ways than the subject at hand.

[Dawnstar42]

I LOVE GEEKS!!!

[TheCastellan]

@Dawnstar42

Pity no girls said that when i was a high schooler in the 90's.

[Dawnstar42]

yeah you have to just find the right type of girl ... they are few and far between

[TheCastellan]

ESPECIALLY in Michigan and the Midwest.

[happyness1957]

I will accept myself as an intelligent funny guy. watch out here come the women....

Sounds too easy. Oh i need a job and good mental health too noone likes crazy people yet better to be gay!

[strongyang]

The last part of the video about friends is awesome. When I change the talk I talk, or look, friends are the obstacles from my personal point of views. Now, someone has just affirmed and strengthened me..fantastic ;P

[Thisnamekills]

friends are more important than hot girls. Bitches come and go they're a dime a dozen but real friends will always be there.

[TheCastellan]

@Thisnamekills

But friends never wanna date, that's like so 'taboo' these days. :P

[c00lwatter]

@TheCastellan

Correction. Female friends never wanna date their friends and male friends usually can't get up the balls to ask.

[TheCastellan]

Why do female find dating friends such a stigma?

And I always ask the friends out, I got balls and to spare.

[c00lwatter]

Too many answers to that one question, but what it comes down too is SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX.

[Arbiter6]

@TheCastellan Coz once you're in the "FRIEND" group you can't be in the LOVER group. At least not in that order.

[TheCastellan]

@Arbiter6

Which makes no sense, because I prefer my lovers to have been long time friends.

~Awaits gasps of shock from people~

[Arbiter6]

@TheCastellan are you a woman ?

[TheCastellan]

@Arbiter6

No, I'm simply saying I prefer the chicks I go with to be someone I've known for a long time. I'm not into just going for someone one just met in a bar or something....and that seems to be what most people, males and females, prefer these days.....someone they just met.

Do I need to explain more?

[Arbiter6]

@TheCastellan there is a difference between long-term acquaintance and friends... Sorry but i thought it was common knowledge that "Let's just be friends" is another sentence for "Leave me alone dude" when a chick says it. You don't have to marry a chick you met yesterday, but even your long term friends were strangers once i guess. Well I can't know what you're looknig for though :p

[TheCastellan]

@Arbiter6

I'm talking about someone that I've been friends with for years.

You getting any of this, yet?

[Arbiter6]

@TheCastellan Oh i understand. what you're so desperately trying to convey, what i don't understand is why you're acting like such a dick.

I'm telling you how the female mind works, You don't like it, you open a vein and let the world roll quietly (as it will wether or not you're here)

[TheCastellan]

@Arbiter6

Unless you're a chick yourself, I'd suggest you do the same something with your veins. ;)

[Arbiter6]

@TheCastellan what if i AM a chick ?

[BeHereNow21]

nr1. Stop thinking that confidence should be dependant on ANYTHING. not clothes, not money, not stuf, it should be there anyway. Needing to esteem yourself is an illusion.

nr2. Be Selfish. Read "The virtue of selfishness" by Ayn Rand and realize that you only have the moral obligation to be free and pursue your own happiness in whatever way you want. Selfishness is good! Of course you don´t wnat to be an ass to others, cause that would Not be of your best selfish interest!

Halfway there

[witch500]

...but if she actually has some charakter traits you like than maybe she doesn't notice you because you don't make yourself be notices? please don't get mad if i misjudged you or her because really all i can do is guessing

i had a 'geek-boyfriend' (his family moved to toronto :-( ). he had an average face and his posture was aweful but he was funny, intelligent and he didn't give a f**k what people were thinking of him. he was one of the most amazing, most sexy guys i ever dated...

[witch500]

first of all if this is a double post i'm sorry but i can not see my comment so im retyping it...

@ 'the carl'

i agree with ladyLobotomy!

maybe you should think about what you like about the girl that is "too busy fucking shoe shopping and drooling over male celebs" to notice you...if you just like her because she's pretty or sexy or whatever that maybe it's a good thing you're not dating because you seem pretty intelligent and i'm sure she would annoy the hell out of you after two weeks...

[miluziana]

lol to tell girls u love them online its really fun i meet some VERY HOT girls wile playing and i talk with most of em everyday i even saw em and they saw me and its fun haha real life is a harsh place

[floss16]

last part is true i've been there i use to be in the loaner group with one to no hot girls and i started to do things to make me comfortable with my self and a lot more girls started to respond positivly

[lumpyfishful]

@floss16 what do you mean?

[Minan3]

if i had to choose my friends. i'd ditch the popular and go for my friends. who wants to live under control of someone who only pretends to love you?

[Chipdip25]

is there a good way to ask out someone online?

[b3aub3auxD]

hey there,,you serius or muckin round??

let me know. :D

[Chipdip25]

im serious

there's this girl i know at school, but i dont feel comfortable going to her at school, how can i ask her out online?

[kdlehel]

well not realy is a good idea. to ask someone out online. better send a mail not email like love letters. or invent some other stuff. yes one more thing ovid that kind of girls who want to use you as a tool. find out this and if you see this stuff than let him go.

I know are alot of girls and they are friend just when they need something from you. not sex of corse.

[darkheart220982]

ok...they say that is ok to sell your friends for a woman...just to get laid? those people accept you just the way you are. you don't have to do anything, you don't have to change yourself just to get laid.

[bannermanG]

Sell out, it's worth it.... now that was hilarious, i'm still laughing as I type.

[crazy69moose]

i know im commenting... as i watch all of your videos... but as u said there.. and as i commented last time...fuck! im never guna get the girl im an ugly fucking peice of shit.. i dont even know what to do anymore. fuck!!!!!! pardon my french.

[ladyLobotomy]

Hey now. Lil trooper. You calm your madness. Not all females strive for a smooth talking buff long haired man with an accent. Some self-respecting women like a taste of personality. So just get some confidence. Embrace whoever the fuck you are. :)

[RedneckYachtClubber]

RIIIIIIGHT, i've been embracing it, where the fuck is my girl? yeah, too busy fucking shoe shopping and drooling over male celebs to even notice me, yeah, confidence is only good if you know the girl likes you back...

[ladyLobotomy]

I hate shoes. And celebrities are ignorant cuntbags. You're obviously not looking in the right direction for the right girl. And not all are the same. I generally see that if you're hunting for a girl with a harpoon, you'll get a catch you think you like, but they're crazy control freaks. And you're 'too in love' to see it. I think you should just let life happen until you stumble upon the golden ticket.

[ladyLobotomy]

I've dated my boyfriend for two years now, and he's the biggest nerd. Videogames all the time. He tried to get me to watch Star Trek today, it was cute.

Some chicks think nerds are hawt.

:)

[Quake2815]

Hope that happens to me.

[RedneckYachtClubber]

yeah no need to lie, you probably sold his x-box and told him to get a football like a "real man"

[ladyLobotomy]

I play X-Box with him. I hate football. Not all women totally suck, bro. : )

[chirayut]

you gotta be freakin kidding me...what happened to 90% of women liking big and tall jocks rather than the smart, short nerd.

[floss16]

they aren't necessarily lying those girls could be shallow, or like they said they are confident wit themselves.

[hammad23ijaz]

he just keeps looking back at the girl ... surely does look like he was a geek when he was younger :|

[7e3625]

how can u feel and portray confidence if you're someone who can't addapt to any confidence?

[7e3625]

Fuck society.... P:)

[Mpua24]

this is really funny that this guy knocks pick up artists and then they go and make this vid that preaches almost EXACTLY what pick up artists teach. we call this inner game.

[RedneckYachtClubber]

thanks again Dan and Jenn, pretty much hit the nail on the head, but what if the girl i ask out finds out i'm and nerd and completely ditches my butt, what do i do then?

[ladyLobotomy]

Then she's a cuntbag? ;D Just kidding. You can't win 'em all buddy. Her loss.

[ChaosControl1997]

Find a new girl who isn't a shallow bitch, not all of us girls are giggly, dumb, hairspray using, fingernail painting, girly girls.

[lumpyfishful]

@ChaosControl1997 really ? :D

[RedneckYachtClubber]

it's me, The CARL!!!!

[RedneckYachtClubber]

i'm a total geek, and i admit it ^_^

[thewhile]

i have no self confidence what so ever, i used to, idk what happenend..lol..

[kici2133]

same.. thumbs up lol

[shadrumman]

it's okay to be a nerd, as long as your a confident nerd. it's allll about the confidence.

[suckmydickbitch99]

i love reading these comments when ppl grief themselves calling themselves nerds

[santanissen]

they are right!!! i am a geek, big time. i am not the most butifull pearson in the world, i dont have the best social skills. but to get a good date, thats no problem. nice shirt groom my hair and a nice perfume. wolla reddy for town. one thing that they did not mention is good maners, it never hurts to be a gentle man.

btw: about your friends. it often helps to make them grow along with you. but enventualy life is hard. you get some and you loose some.

[Seabrook78in]

Hmm..

[ShinKariya]

"Sell out... it's worth it"

Someone should inform his friends incase he gets single again <_<.

So they tell geeks basicly to do better  hygene and dress "better". Excuse me, but what makes a clothing style better? Diffrent clothes appeal to diffrent women, same goes for the shaving. There are girls that like side burns and vice versa so WTF:S. If you want to attract a girl that does not like side burns...then shave, and vice versa. Very simple.

[RedneckYachtClubber]

yeah, i'm Carl, and i have a collection of hawaiian shirts that i LOVE...i feel as though i have to burn those in order to get the girl, i refuse to conform, i want to be me and i want people to like the fact that i have a 17th level Wookiee Tech Specialist or i rock Sonic The Hedgehog...kinda hard when women oggle celebs and pretty boys

[Sandact6]

I agree with most of the video aside from the friend stuff. Yea it would be nice to go out with a girl, but to give a cold shoulder to your best friend of five years?

[Antichrys]

if he/she continually holds you back and doesn't understand what you're going through (some friend)...sure.

[hoodmilk]

I think nerds are hot, but they have to like who are they are. They're right.

[Bobzeaux]

If they didn't like who they are, they'd take more steps to NOT be nerds.

[hoodmilk]

Completely untrue. You can't just not be a nerd, unless you like living a lie.....first of all. Secondly, plenty of people don't like themselves regardless of whether they're a "geek" or a "jock" or whatever. I meant liking yourself in many dimensions.

[Bobzeaux]

"You can't just not be a nerd, unless you like living a lie"

Sure you can. If you don't like something about yourself, why not change it? Isn't that why AA exists?

[hoodmilk]

Being an addict is not the same. Anyway, when people are in AA they're alcoholics they didn't used to be. They are. Once you're in AA it's pretty much for life because you can't change what you really are.

[Bobzeaux]

If you can't change what you are, then why do these sort of videos (as well as books, TV shows, seminars, etc.) exist? Love/sex/dating advice of any kind says that you need to change some things about yourself if you ever want any sort of success(aside from advising to be yourself, which is the first in many contradictions that arise in the theory and practice of wooing).

[hoodmilk]

okay, well I understand what you're saying, but I still just completely believe that you are what you are.

[LORDEZE7]

A geeky nerd trying to get a girl? Wow I didn't know they liked real women. If this guy is a geek he should know that that if one wants to truly pwn, the one must pwn in all games of life. Including the chase for a girl.

[RedneckYachtClubber]

lol thanks man

[Bobzeaux]

Don't lecture me on basic hygiene and grooming. I may be single, but I'm not stupid.

[Bobzeaux]

1. Confidence- Completely meaningless. Confidence is all I project when approaching women, and my results are embarassing.

2. Public Perception- This destroys the idea of confidence being the aphrodesiac it supposedly is. Wearing t-shirts and shorts makes you somehow feel less confident? If that's the case, why don't I just walk around every day like I'm going out on a hot date? That's going to be percieved as DESPERATE.

[armytype77]

If you want some real advice. When you're approaching and talking to a girl you're interested, forget about being logical(smart men's mistake). Be very emotional. If you don't know what that means, pick up a dang puppy and hold it for a while. Men's biggest mistake when asking out a woman is being logical.  Many don't want to hear 5-2=3. They want to "hear" your emotions.

[Bobzeaux]

I know what it's like to hold a puppy, and I know how to express emotions. However, it seems that women don't want to hear about my emotions, otherwise they wouldn't run away in terror when I reveal than I like them more than as a friend.

And then I'm accused of being "too emotional" when expressing frustration over my latest failure, so it's pretty much a lose-lose situation.

[ItsBinary]

O.k. Here is my take.

Be emotionally unaffected and totally un-needy. You talk to other people because its fun for you, not because you want a girl.

If you see a girl you like, treat her like your bratty sister by teasing her, while making sure you are always pushing the interaction forward through touching, hugging, kissing e.t.c. (displaying confidence, again).

And remember, in your mind, she has to win you over, not the other way around.

[armytype77]

ItsBinary got it. I don't mean tell them your emotional feelings, but say things that make you feel an emotion, but don't "tell about your emotions or what you're feeling." And yeah essentially talk to a girl just to talk not to pick her up. If you hook up then you do. If you don't then you don't.

[Bobzeaux]

I say things that make ME feel the emotion? Emotions come from external stimuli, not internal.

If you talk to her just to talk to her, what drives you to continue talking to her? Without a goal, there's no drive. I can talk to women just for the sake of talking with them, and because I don't try, it automatically doesn't go anywhere.

[wilsonreport]

More good advice from Dan and Jenn

[aaronmp2003]

HAHAHA, Dan! Sell out - it's worth it!

Good advice, but it still cracked me up. :)

[farhancobra]

being a geek for 10 years now, you have literally saved ma life

and i was having the same problems with my fiancee as well, on the same issue

thanks a million once again..

[Crcodila]

Thank you!! You save my life!!!

[doug47130]

Great advice