I don't think I would get on very well at one of her dinners. The first thing I always like to do when I arrive for dinner is take a huge shit in the middle of the table, and i'm often on my mobile phone when I do.
If it IS an important call I'm sure it won't be a drama if you just politely excuse yourself from the table and say it's an important call that you must take.
@morgained4 People hardly ever have true emergencies (unless you're next on the list for a kidney transplant). Ditch the cell phone; if it's an emergency, have the sitter call the restaurant for you. Many times, it's the kids calling to "tell" each other.
@singaporeshithead If you are so ill that you are suffering a heart attack you probably shouldn't be at a social gathering. Also, go to the restroom to take the medicine. Not so hard.
And also, don't get the urge to take your medication at the table. Why not excusing yourself and leaving the table for a minute to take your medication? I don't think it's that difficult.
I'm not American but I found this really helpful. I just don't get why NOT-answring your phone is considered so weird by some people?? It's not any different from being in a classroom, delivering a speech, being in a meeting, doing an operation, being in the movies/ theatre/ opera etc. You wouldn't reach for your phone and make/take a call in those situations either now would you
Fantastic video series. Probably the best etiquette instruction I have seen (and I have watched hundreds of videos and read many, many different books). Individuals who watch this video and criticize using formal dining etiquette lack the understanding that in a formal setting, protocol should be followed. Following protocol prevents embarressment. This completely seperate from good manners. People need to appreciate the instructive tools provided by Ms. Mitchell.instead of being critical.
Why are there a ton of foreigners trolling on this board? If you disagree, fine. This is about Western dining etiquette, and apply to FORMAL DINING-black or white tie affairs, business lunches, and upscale restaurants.
You can take your medicine before or after the meal, or excuse yourself and do it in a private area. There's also a thing called voicemail, texts and email now so you don't take a call at the table. Excuse yourself and check then.
sorry Nancy, BUT I WUD DEFINITELY LOOK AT MY PHONE TO SEE WHO'S CALLING N TAKE THE CALL IF ITS IMPORTANT, I DNT CARE WHO FINDS IT OFFENDING. N YES, I WUD TAKE MY MEDICINE AS WELL, I WUD FIND PPL VERY OFFENDING WHO WUD FIND ME OFFENDING FOR DOING SO!
like these videos.... BUT asking not to even look at ur phone is HORRIBLE expectation, what if there's an emergency!!?? somebody keeps calling u n u turn it off, dont even know someone continuily calling u, n its not just emergency, some calls can be important, i dont believe in 2 things here, not even looking at who's calling n taking an important call n not taking medicine, IN FACT IT IS OFFENSIVE TO FIND THESE OFFENSIVE!!!
not letting ppl take their medicine on the table is so offensive! the doctor himself says take the medicine in between meals , wat do u do then?? n if there's conversation going on before or after meal , would u not take ur medicine ?? or if u excuse urself saying i need to tak e med, why wudnt u rather just take it there?? this is bullshit, sorry.
I know someone who always ask me for some of my food when we are at fancy dinner. I feel so embarrased when she does that! I should just stop hanging out with her. <3
Very good videos, but what about if there is an emergency, hence the mobile phone call? For example a child of one of the diners is involved in an accident or something?
@Brigitt3Babe Emergency just happens. When it is emergency then you do whatever you can to mitigate it or resolve or act upon it and other things become secondary. I guess, risk management is a topic for a different discussion.
@Brigitt3Babe -its not just abt an emergency, some calls can be important, i dont believe in 2 things here, not even looking at who's calling n taking an important call n not taking medicine, IN FACT IT IS OFFENSIVE TO FIND THESE OFFENSIVE!!! otherwise like these videos.
What kind of idiot clicks on a video entitled 'basic dining etiquette' and then proceeds to complain about how asinine it is or make fun of how the presenter is? Go watch wrestling or something.
Totally with her on the cell phone issue. Not so with her on the doggie bag. I can see why it might traditionally have been considered a bad reflection on your image to ask to take the extra food home with you, but it would be nice if you didn't have to waste food to make a good impression. There are so many people who don't have enough, and if you can save yourself a meal, that's one more meal you can give to someone else.
Who in this day and age is really bothered with such pretentious posturing and posing? What an asinine video, although I do give this schoolmarm props for laying the smackdown on rude cellphone users.
She didn't make up these "rules". So if you have a problem with something that you chose to watch at least be polite about expressing your thoughts and opinions.
I don't care if it was a $200 filet miignon, you watch the waiter take it away and you like it. Then watch those starving african world vision commercials and laugh.
@Silmacar what's so disgusting about a doggy bag? I would imagine that "doggy" being in the name doesn't help, but aside from that what's so wrong with it? I'm starting to feel there's a fine line between proper dining etiquette and bourgeoisie nonsense.
Having dinner with friends or family should be the same. Being civilized is what you want to achieve. Manners is being considerate of others around you.
@SueInTracy I disagree. I personally think these rules are useful, but it makes the whole thing very stiff. When I'm surrounded by the right company, such as friends or family, I don't think you should be worried about etiquette. Those are the people that know you, flaws and all. I can easily ask them for a bite of their food, without them taking offense to it.
yes in the bathroom. its just not pretty to watch a girl applying makeup at a table. she would probably look better if has a larger mirror and can take her time. you can use a toothpick at a chinese rest provided you must cover your mouth
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Found all other videos great but dont agree on medication and mobile phone. A person who is not well should be allowed to hv medication anywhere. And in case of mobile phone one should be allowed to check who is calling. What if it is a very important/emergency call? You cannot just shut it off.
@rishonline I assume that the lady in this video expects the viewers to have enough common sense to know that awaiting an emergency call is the exempt to the cell phone rule. Of course, if you receive an emergency call and you tell your hosts and fellow guests that it is just that -- an emergency -- they will understand. Otherwise, if you are not expecting any important calls, it's terribly rude to have your cell phone interrupt a formal dinner.
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I've seen people share food at those things all the time. What if they wanna taste what your having. And they say, Oh wow I gotta get that next time! Being told how to eat is stupid. Yes eat politely but you shouldn't be told how to eat that way! This lady is old anyway! shes prolly 57 yrs old! She wouldn't know a fun meal if she went to one! Eating at a chinese place is nicer to apply this kinda of thing to!
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How can I look like an idiot to people if they don't know what I look like huh? Formal dinners are a pain in the ass! It's more fun to make a mess! And her food looks all dried out and over cooked! And it's wasting too! Americans waste more food than any other country.
As an American I was somewhat offended by your generalization. While I am very disappointed to say there are many among us who honestly don't care how much food they consume, rest assured there are more than enough of us who eat only what we need...perhaps a snack, but nothing gluttonous.
Sadly, in America as well as Europe, much of the old etiquette that was second nature to our parents & grandparents is virtually extinct. Yes, it is a hassle, but worth learning!
Unless you're a complete idiot, you'll forgive somebody for taking medication at a table. They aren't hooking up an IV drip during the meal, they're swallowing a pill that can be taken without anybody ever noticing. If it comes between your health and other people being "uncomfortable", fuck the other people, they don't have to live in your body. Take care of yourself. It's nowhere near as uncomfortable to watch somebody take a pill as to watch somebody die or something. Think about it.
I think she means that if you make it obvious that you are taking medication that is rude... if you need medication...take it while no one is watching or do it so that people cannot tell that is what you are doing.
No one cares that you take medication but of course they will want to ask if you are OK if they see you taking medication.
Yeah the medication thing is silly. You should take medication when you need it. I need to take medication with food. I don't give a damn what anyone thinks, if the people can't handle you doing something you need to do and it does no harm to them, they are not people worth being in the company of. They shouldn't even try to pretend to act like their high and mighty because shunning the weak and vulnerable is disgusting, in any society.
She's teaching us how to lie! LOL
"if your phone rings, get it and turn it off, and say 'im sorry i thought i had it off'"
babynavy771 3 weeks ago 2
I don't think I would get on very well at one of her dinners. The first thing I always like to do when I arrive for dinner is take a huge shit in the middle of the table, and i'm often on my mobile phone when I do.
ninjahendo 3 weeks ago
My Gawd!!! I'm not going to a dinner ever
h2dude69 1 month ago
I always do the exact oppostite and pround of it
edwardd6681 1 month ago
Haha first time I've seen a Razr in awhile
JamesCornelisonMusic 2 months ago
Strangely enough, most of the mannerisms explained here apply to the movies as well.
(hint, hint cell phone users)
lighth4zard 3 months ago
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nytquil1 4 months ago
If it IS an important call I'm sure it won't be a drama if you just politely excuse yourself from the table and say it's an important call that you must take.
Angel6765 4 months ago
And if the person calling is/could be more important the ppl calling? For instance, your child or child's babysitter in the case of an emergency?
morgained4 4 months ago
@morgained4 People hardly ever have true emergencies (unless you're next on the list for a kidney transplant). Ditch the cell phone; if it's an emergency, have the sitter call the restaurant for you. Many times, it's the kids calling to "tell" each other.
bizminute 3 months ago
@singaporeshithead If you are so ill that you are suffering a heart attack you probably shouldn't be at a social gathering. Also, go to the restroom to take the medicine. Not so hard.
MamaLaw66 5 months ago
Beautifully explained .... this is what a kid has to learn right from the beginning to have a more etiquette table manner when they grow up...
TheKavichris 5 months ago
And also, don't get the urge to take your medication at the table. Why not excusing yourself and leaving the table for a minute to take your medication? I don't think it's that difficult.
9Equinox 5 months ago
I'm not American but I found this really helpful. I just don't get why NOT-answring your phone is considered so weird by some people?? It's not any different from being in a classroom, delivering a speech, being in a meeting, doing an operation, being in the movies/ theatre/ opera etc. You wouldn't reach for your phone and make/take a call in those situations either now would you
9Equinox 5 months ago
Holy cannoli! I could only make it through the first 1:16. What's next? "Do not wipe your ass with the table cloth."?
If any of this is NEWS to anyone watching this video...no offense, but it's a good thing that you're watching this video!
usagoodbyeisayhello 5 months ago
Fantastic video series. Probably the best etiquette instruction I have seen (and I have watched hundreds of videos and read many, many different books). Individuals who watch this video and criticize using formal dining etiquette lack the understanding that in a formal setting, protocol should be followed. Following protocol prevents embarressment. This completely seperate from good manners. People need to appreciate the instructive tools provided by Ms. Mitchell.instead of being critical.
maddypuppy 5 months ago
Why are there a ton of foreigners trolling on this board? If you disagree, fine. This is about Western dining etiquette, and apply to FORMAL DINING-black or white tie affairs, business lunches, and upscale restaurants.
You can take your medicine before or after the meal, or excuse yourself and do it in a private area. There's also a thing called voicemail, texts and email now so you don't take a call at the table. Excuse yourself and check then.
Utopia19 6 months ago
sorry Nancy, BUT I WUD DEFINITELY LOOK AT MY PHONE TO SEE WHO'S CALLING N TAKE THE CALL IF ITS IMPORTANT, I DNT CARE WHO FINDS IT OFFENDING. N YES, I WUD TAKE MY MEDICINE AS WELL, I WUD FIND PPL VERY OFFENDING WHO WUD FIND ME OFFENDING FOR DOING SO!
euphoria156 6 months ago
like these videos.... BUT asking not to even look at ur phone is HORRIBLE expectation, what if there's an emergency!!?? somebody keeps calling u n u turn it off, dont even know someone continuily calling u, n its not just emergency, some calls can be important, i dont believe in 2 things here, not even looking at who's calling n taking an important call n not taking medicine, IN FACT IT IS OFFENSIVE TO FIND THESE OFFENSIVE!!!
euphoria156 6 months ago
not letting ppl take their medicine on the table is so offensive! the doctor himself says take the medicine in between meals , wat do u do then?? n if there's conversation going on before or after meal , would u not take ur medicine ?? or if u excuse urself saying i need to tak e med, why wudnt u rather just take it there?? this is bullshit, sorry.
euphoria156 6 months ago
If I'm paying for the dinner , then I'm boss , I do as I wish .
azyaninvasion 7 months ago
I'd be more uncomfortable seeing someone drop dead at the table then see them take their meds... just sayin' lol
julieg1985 8 months ago
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julieg1985 8 months ago
OMG! I'd never seen myself of being so monkeyish till I saw this video.
Cryonne 8 months ago
I know someone who always ask me for some of my food when we are at fancy dinner. I feel so embarrased when she does that! I should just stop hanging out with her. <3
Hannahand4everMiley 9 months ago
Can I take an aspirin at the table if I'm having a heart attack?
Cyrix166 9 months ago
Very good videos, but what about if there is an emergency, hence the mobile phone call? For example a child of one of the diners is involved in an accident or something?
Brigitt3Babe 10 months ago
@Brigitt3Babe Emergency just happens. When it is emergency then you do whatever you can to mitigate it or resolve or act upon it and other things become secondary. I guess, risk management is a topic for a different discussion.
Dimitriusf 6 months ago
@Brigitt3Babe -its not just abt an emergency, some calls can be important, i dont believe in 2 things here, not even looking at who's calling n taking an important call n not taking medicine, IN FACT IT IS OFFENSIVE TO FIND THESE OFFENSIVE!!! otherwise like these videos.
euphoria156 6 months ago
Yeah when anyone uses a toothpick I am soooo offended, I immediately end friendship right there and doggy bags eww who are these discusting creatures
shthd84 10 months ago
What kind of idiot clicks on a video entitled 'basic dining etiquette' and then proceeds to complain about how asinine it is or make fun of how the presenter is? Go watch wrestling or something.
auaaron11 10 months ago 2
Totally with her on the cell phone issue. Not so with her on the doggie bag. I can see why it might traditionally have been considered a bad reflection on your image to ask to take the extra food home with you, but it would be nice if you didn't have to waste food to make a good impression. There are so many people who don't have enough, and if you can save yourself a meal, that's one more meal you can give to someone else.
Sarandib22 10 months ago
@Sarandib22 very true.. cannot waste food with millions starving everyday
srp112 3 months ago
haha! Wow, so I've done all of the above..
69nuz69 11 months ago
doggie bags help prevent food waste
muxz0r 11 months ago
this is a very helpful video!
soespra123 11 months ago
Manners are always acceptable be it with friends, family, or a formal setting. So why not practice them at all times.
RWM734 1 year ago
don't forget eating with your mouth open and slurping your soup :>
Supermegaman5 1 year ago
thank you... very informative
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hemikalalanika 1 year ago
Who in this day and age is really bothered with such pretentious posturing and posing? What an asinine video, although I do give this schoolmarm props for laying the smackdown on rude cellphone users.
cascadejacques 1 year ago
Really. Why do we as human beings create this silly ass rules. Just eat and shut up
kadejah19 1 year ago
She didn't make up these "rules". So if you have a problem with something that you chose to watch at least be polite about expressing your thoughts and opinions.
invisiblepumpkin 1 year ago 6
1:18 "you can not use a finger to get food out of your teeth.." lol
gellegbs 1 year ago
Simply put, have your dinner naturally the way you want, without offending others.
Too much rules spoil the appetite which is essential for a meal.
Akaliko 1 year ago
Also, no Mexicans, Niggers, and Chinks.
Don't forget to also swear allegiance to the royal crown.
Erich745 1 year ago
No doggy bag? Even if I didn't finish the filet mignon???
Jenna83184 1 year ago
@Jenna83184
I don't care if it was a $200 filet miignon, you watch the waiter take it away and you like it. Then watch those starving african world vision commercials and laugh.
ab0rtion 1 year ago
@Jenna83184 the "doggy bag" is one of the most disgusting habits ever.
you eat all you've ordered/been served. simple.
Silmacar 1 year ago
@Silmacar what's so disgusting about a doggy bag? I would imagine that "doggy" being in the name doesn't help, but aside from that what's so wrong with it? I'm starting to feel there's a fine line between proper dining etiquette and bourgeoisie nonsense.
Jenna83184 1 year ago
Having dinner with friends or family should be the same. Being civilized is what you want to achieve. Manners is being considerate of others around you.
SueInTracy 1 year ago 31
@SueInTracy Absolutely!
2009galactica 1 year ago
@SueInTracy I disagree. I personally think these rules are useful, but it makes the whole thing very stiff. When I'm surrounded by the right company, such as friends or family, I don't think you should be worried about etiquette. Those are the people that know you, flaws and all. I can easily ask them for a bite of their food, without them taking offense to it.
LisaMentamir 6 months ago
@LisaMentamir
I agree with you. Also I don't think the we eat our food demonstrates how civilized we are.
tjxkid 6 months ago
@SueInTracy. Thank you very much for your civilized comment. Protocol should be our second skin.
maluisa3 3 months ago
@SueInTracy
Proper behaviour is not limited to dealing with strangers. Respecting your friends and family should be second nature.
angelface22322 2 months ago
if we can't apply lipstick and use the toothpick at the table, when should we do it? in the restroom?
makesmewonder007 2 years ago
yes in the bathroom. its just not pretty to watch a girl applying makeup at a table. she would probably look better if has a larger mirror and can take her time. you can use a toothpick at a chinese rest provided you must cover your mouth
PandaBaby51 2 years ago
cheers. :)
makesmewonder007 2 years ago
this is old fashion etiquette!
nunobelo 2 years ago
@nunobelo
Not that it's old fashioned. This is for fine dining not normal meals
desmondwkyip 1 year ago
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Found all other videos great but dont agree on medication and mobile phone. A person who is not well should be allowed to hv medication anywhere. And in case of mobile phone one should be allowed to check who is calling. What if it is a very important/emergency call? You cannot just shut it off.
rishonline 2 years ago
I totally agree!
FASSY524 2 years ago
@rishonline I assume that the lady in this video expects the viewers to have enough common sense to know that awaiting an emergency call is the exempt to the cell phone rule. Of course, if you receive an emergency call and you tell your hosts and fellow guests that it is just that -- an emergency -- they will understand. Otherwise, if you are not expecting any important calls, it's terribly rude to have your cell phone interrupt a formal dinner.
polarisedelectrons 1 year ago
Sharing bites of food freaks me out and fingering the food, what make people do that?
Jagdtoq 2 years ago
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I've seen people share food at those things all the time. What if they wanna taste what your having. And they say, Oh wow I gotta get that next time! Being told how to eat is stupid. Yes eat politely but you shouldn't be told how to eat that way! This lady is old anyway! shes prolly 57 yrs old! She wouldn't know a fun meal if she went to one! Eating at a chinese place is nicer to apply this kinda of thing to!
FASSY524 2 years ago
She talks about formal dinner, not about having your meal with friends or family. And by the way, pointing out her age makes you look like an idiot.
Whynicht 2 years ago 42
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How can I look like an idiot to people if they don't know what I look like huh? Formal dinners are a pain in the ass! It's more fun to make a mess! And her food looks all dried out and over cooked! And it's wasting too! Americans waste more food than any other country.
FASSY524 2 years ago
FASSY524,
As an American I was somewhat offended by your generalization. While I am very disappointed to say there are many among us who honestly don't care how much food they consume, rest assured there are more than enough of us who eat only what we need...perhaps a snack, but nothing gluttonous.
Sadly, in America as well as Europe, much of the old etiquette that was second nature to our parents & grandparents is virtually extinct. Yes, it is a hassle, but worth learning!
SanguivorousRevenant 2 years ago 6
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Why don't you just, GO FLOAT IN THE TRASH!!!!!!!!
FASSY524 2 years ago
@Whynicht Because You Are!
2009galactica 1 year ago
The other day i was dining and someone took his pills and it disturbed me to no end, i couldn't sleep.
JODQ11 2 years ago
Unless you're a complete idiot, you'll forgive somebody for taking medication at a table. They aren't hooking up an IV drip during the meal, they're swallowing a pill that can be taken without anybody ever noticing. If it comes between your health and other people being "uncomfortable", fuck the other people, they don't have to live in your body. Take care of yourself. It's nowhere near as uncomfortable to watch somebody take a pill as to watch somebody die or something. Think about it.
prettyinpunk666 2 years ago 5
I think she means that if you make it obvious that you are taking medication that is rude... if you need medication...take it while no one is watching or do it so that people cannot tell that is what you are doing.
No one cares that you take medication but of course they will want to ask if you are OK if they see you taking medication.
emailchan11 2 years ago
hell yeah...
cobysoccer 2 years ago
Yeah the medication thing is silly. You should take medication when you need it. I need to take medication with food. I don't give a damn what anyone thinks, if the people can't handle you doing something you need to do and it does no harm to them, they are not people worth being in the company of. They shouldn't even try to pretend to act like their high and mighty because shunning the weak and vulnerable is disgusting, in any society.
gundamWWW 1 year ago 6