you fake, fat, funky, bald headed black bitch. you make me sick to the pit of my goddamn stomach. i'd like to fuck the shit out of your worthless ass and then piss on you when i'm done.
truuuust me i understand you.. no more miss nice girl... i was raised in a strict christian home, school & back the end, only child, never dated, we dont talk about the world outside & how to be street wise,was taught everything was a sin.. VERY SHELTERED
its not good... when i went to college it was really hard... ive made so many innocent mistakes.. lost my virginity via rape..... so parents... its good to be precious with your kids but EDUCATE THEM.. i was a crowd pleaser/good girl/sweet SMH
hey this is a great video but i think u beat a deadhorse on the trust thing it was really getting on my nerves! lol but the advice was good just dragged out
I've seen a video about how men can get gorgeous girls but can you make a video on how a girl can GET and KEEP a guy. I'm asking because not every girl has a father or supportive male counterpart that can show a woman what to look for.
What should a girl do if shes somewhat different from most girls, for example: I'm a Tomboy and there's no disputing that, I love being a tomboy and I'm in no mood of changing any time soon but some guys would dismiss my uniqueness. May I have some advice please?
@rayeraye91 As a "TomBoy" you have a unique advantage over "Girly" women bcz your activities will bring you in close proximity with many men who have their dating guards down.
Just do the things you love to do? Video games? Skateboarding? Rapping? Basketball? Whatever floats your boat. Get in good, become friends then POW bust out the tank top two sizes too small. Go for the layup & while he's blocking you, rip your shirt shirt over the bosom & tackle him. He's Already ALLL yours!
Amen Tonya! At minute 15 you start talking about how men have secrets and about how many men like men and learned this the hard way. Two of my bf's were screwing men on the Down low and the first one caught me by surprise but the 2nd one didn't cause after the first one I was on red alert for that shit! And I used some of them snooping tactics to find out what I needed to know and low and behold he was on the DL. And he was as nice and respectful as can be too.
And the part about that women saying we should trust more..screw that. I actually I have a saying..."Trusting is for dummies." Because men are so sick with all their preoccupation with sex that most women have NO CLUE how deep that rabbit hole goes for them. Just today I told a young gf of mine of how I snoop on my bf's to make sure they weren't fucking dudes,l cheating or whatever else these sick fucks are hiding and she called me psychotic! I call it SMART. If I don't protect myself, who will?
I don't even give guys the opportunity to be fake with me in a relationship. Those kind of guys that talk about sex on the first conversation, HUGE turn-off. If they say they love me within the first day or so, I let them know that that's bull. I tell them to not say it until they're ready and it's probably going to be a while before they hear it from me. But Tonya is 100% right on here. U need to ask questions; u don't have to be blunt and ask "are you gay?" but you should ask if they like SOS
This popped up right on time. I made the mistake of trusting a man too soon in a rebound relationship, fortunately it was all protected, but I recently found out he is interested in having a three-some with another man or woman. Not cool. Also, he does not treat me the way I want to be treated. We just moved too fast and I'm counting my loses. I got out of that situation immediately. I'm taking a break from seeing anyone right now to focus on continuing my education.
I now take my time chat 5wks on the phone for & then meet at a public place where we can sit & talk. Taking my time & using my own self to pleasure me if I havetohave sex . he does not get the p*** w/o qualifiers ever again those days R gone & I am Hot (good looking) & know it, If he wants me he will have to wait, if I am interested n sex w/ him, we both go to planparenthood together although protect, if I get pregnant , he will be able to support that child I don't date broke & unstable men.
This popped up right on time. I made the mistake of trusting a man too soon in a rebound relationship, fortunately it was all protected, but I recently found out he is interested in having a three-some with another man or woman. Not cool. I got out of that situation immediately. I'm taking a break from seeing anyone right now to focus on continuing my education.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, and expressing yourself into such deep depth and meaning that I truly know that all you've said is real, I just needed that little push and thank God it was you!
The fetish and fantasy convo is on point....very good however, so you decide that someone is being sneaky by being sneaky and untrusting yourself? bothering peoples personal and private belongings and services? hmmmm.....Sounds hipocritical, maybe thats why you keep attracting these kind of men. Anyway good points and bad points
Well by your standards Martin Luther King Jr., Gandhi, Nelson Mandela were all man of great callings and character...oh i case you didn't know were all "incarcerated". The best way to tell someones character is just a matter of time, patience is the best barometer. Yes your assessments of "some" abusers ARE ACCURATE. Most people who don't trust, aren't trustworthy...this is also FACT. All friends are former strangers. So not talking to strangers is not an option. I very much agree with
wow I don't think I've ever seen you so heated and passionate. Seems as though you're speaking to someone in your personal life. If so, I hope they got the point, you sure delivered your point pretty well! Women need to hear this.
I dont know if you want to ask your guy about what he's really into (im a 21 yr. old guy) alot of guys start looking a porn at a very young age, when it gets boring they start looking at more and more disturbing acts. I thought it was just me until I went to college, we have a computer room that everyone can use ( no filter/blocks) and they look at some nasty stuff. Most of us start having sex and those weird acts are notr neccesary to act out but it may be an issue for some , then they cheat
you are awesome! I have been there and been through, and because of this truth you've put down in this video I can call you a distant friend because you are honest and I've never met you ever but I have mad respect for you for being the truth. Keep doing you. Just awesome.
I learned a lot. I'm 34 yrs old and did not know what strap on services meant :o0 I teach my daughter to be discerning of who she let in her surrounding and set boundaries. For the sake of myself and my daughter, I am glad you are including me in the loop. The only thing I take issue with is the negative labeling of our sisters/women, "accommodating punk women.." This imitates the abuser. Being betrayed in love a.k.a "a fool in love " is not our definitive disposition.
Yes, its unlikely, but it could still happen. Nowadays kids dont just lip kiss, they use their tongues. If you equal that into the equation then it could happen.
Aids is found in seman, blood, breastmilk, and vaginal fluids. Blood is founded in cuts. Bitting your tongue is a cut. That bit tongue goes down another mouth that has a cut. Plus that bit tongue got aids.
Tonya this was a great video!!! 5 stars!!! You gave really good advice that every woman needs to consider. I always believe never trusts too much, look out for yourself and people must earn your trust. Men that are extreme need to be watched. I've read that men that make extreme comments about gays are usually gay themselves.
Take your problem to Jesus, then your layer and then the POLICE! Cemetries are full of "nice girls". If everyone had the same code, men couldn't call some too picky. All men would have to lift their game. If I say no to sex on a first date, but your in the wings waiting for YOUR SOLO and say yes. You undermine me, you and the next girl. Men don't know how to treat us because we don't teach them in unison. Dont undercut the price of pussy...It's suppose to be priceless, God made it.
Young people need to hear this (including myself) People are scared and timid about being upfront and honest about things. But then comes the question: When is it ok to trust? Marriage is destroyed. Love is tainted. Sex is not natural and beautiful anymore. So what's a girl to do? lol Just ignore the feelings you have? What happens when you use a condom, birth control, ask all the questions and are honest about things and you STILL get screwed over?
I think it should be said, that wolves hide out in the church as well. Don't think a lot of amens makes you bullete proof. There are penty of guys in the church having homo relations, watching porn, and are abusers. A lot of guys cruiz churchs thinking they can get a nice girl to screw over. She's not gonna make a big fuss.
The daughters of the women's lib movement have been victims of a lot of back societal backlash. Women now have this idea that they need a man, not the other way around. When you come from a posistion of want/desperation you will settle.
you need to edit your vids better like pop around the screen...It makes it more standable. But you have such a good point. But im a man.....Lol.....But it makes since.
Girl, you are on point. I think exactly the way you do, but my girlfriends won't listen to this type of talk. They would rather take chances that I will not take. Love it!!!!!
9:30 i wish my mom realized that : / i think i was put in that situation so i can learn how to be a man by NOT doing what this person does since he knows how to fool the crowd.
I have to say though, most men won't admit they sleep with other men, because of the stigma people attach to it. I mean, some people are really open, but most men aren't. So having a real conversation about it, won't necessarily unearth the seriously messed up things.
Thanks Tonya and Gigi! Yes he did! This jerk was released a lil under 2 yrs for what he did. Our system failed again, to dish the appropriate punishment for the crime. My sister was scared to death, and to make matters worse his mother was contacting her to drop the charges. Y O Y? We as women have to get it together now, before we not only keep excusing the lil behaviors but begin to lose our perceptive powers of wrong and right all together.
...like crap because I'm like ok why does a guy always want to see me for just my body or my money even as I am not the type to stand around and get played, I just want to be respectedand valued, so I'm trying to teach myself to love myself and value myself, but it's such a challenge because I am always so affected by what others say and do (male and female). I try to avoid it by being a loner, but then I get lonely, how can I be so strong that nothing anyone says can shake me?
...but when it comes to relationships, I like to avoid them because I always end up feeling like I can never get what I want. The best way for me to keep from getting burnt is to KEEP TO MYSELF!!! Right now, I feel like I don't need to be in a relationship until I can get over this low self esteeem, but there is always some guy lurking around who wants to date but you know how you just know a guy is on bullsh*t? Even as I am avoiding or ignoring this type of attention, somehow it makes me feel.
I think you are great and that you give tremendous insight. I just feel like I am so stuck on what I learned growing up, I didn't have sound parents and grew up abused beleiving that I was supposed to be treated like dirt and that it was normal for men to abuse me. I am very successful and have my own home, car, bank accounts, and work at a fortune 500 company, thanks to God instilling in me that I had to use my education to get out of my situation....
Their is an internet Child Predator comming at Children Sexually by the username Potentcokaine flag this man if he sexually assaults your child! I xposed this man and now he's making a rap song using sexual content!! Parents beware i never allow my Child to use the net ever this Child Predator really thought he was talking to a child I flagged him others flagged him
I always had the mind set that if you are really sweet to others i will come full circle. I now make sure I take care of Erica first before making sure everyone else is ok...esp those not worthy of my good energy.
Only a couple flaws. Everything you talking about you can do be polite. Being a nice girl isn't about being a pushover it's about being polite, respectful and ladylike. Too much of anything can be a bad thing true, when understood outside the context of God. (Since he said it) But once something positive (of God; i.e. trust, love, etc.) takes that route it becomes flawed and the truth is IT IS NO LONGER THAT WHICH IT WAS. It becomes something else and being it's not that the rule dont apply.
Honey, you'd do best to do yourself a favor by not believing anyone SAY they are a Christian. You better see it with ACTIONS. Religion is not enough... there are too many false worshipers out there.
I mentioned in the nice guy video that its about being a "GOOD PERSON" be polite yes, but terms like 'ladylike' irk me bcz it implies that there is some sort of behavior 'Ladies' should exhibit and the behavior is usually unassuming, restricted, accommodating & subordinate.
I'm not speaking about false worshippers. I'm simply stating that you can do everything you said without being rude, disrespectful or obsessive. I have four daughters and as a father there are ways a woman should act. The unfortunate trend of today is that women often forget just as men do, that with power even in the regard of personal power comes great responsibility. I don't feel that anything you've said is false, it's very true. Still ladies should ALWAYS conduct themselves respectfully.
I collect porn of Nuns. Freaky, I know. But, I will never have sex with a Nun...Ever. Is it fair to say I can not be trusted around nuns? A women who snoops will misinterpret whatever she finds b/c she already has in her mind nobody can be trusted. If she can't be trusted alone with small things she can't be trusted with valuable things. She will always be a snoop and will lose the best man she ever had or will ever get. Good men are better without insecure destructive women. They Stalkers.
Who cares about nun porn... when you start watching porn of priests and lil boys, THEN its a problem!
Nun porn just indicates that you are drawn to the taboo appeal of forbidden fruit or the eroticism of doing that which you're not supposed to... or many other things I'm sure you would not be too timid to tell or even act out with your mate... on the other hand a man into priest and choir boy porn may not speak of this out loud and this information NEEDS to be discovered.
Huh? I thought you agreed with homosex lifestyle? It's OK as long as you don't date one? Anyway, I was only using Nuns as an example. :) I'm not attracted by taboos.
My only real point is snooping can backfire and you more than your loved one. A harassing gay prank caller could leave explicit message on my voicemail and a snoopy female could think I'm into men Seriously, accidents like that can happen and be misinterpreted by someone who thinks they found the truth. Snooping isn't smart.
U consider a priest sleeping with a boy to be the "Homosexual Lifestyle?" are you kidding me? this is PEDOPHILIA! and I don't care WHO he is or what 'prank' is being played any man with tons of porn on his computer with children in it has a PROBLEM which needs to be outted and addressed!
And you weren't using nun porn as an 'example' that is what you STATED you liked. And only a fool would make up their mind after ONE discovery. This is why I said look at HISTORY & patterns. I stated this
The guy who went to the tranny website, I gave him the benefit of the doubt... until I saw he had a HISTORY of going to these websites, even so much so as to go searching on tranny escort sites in the city he was going2b visiting. Coincidence? I THINK NOT!
AND LYING is what I have a problem with. NOT THE LIFESTYLE, THE LIES, you should probably watch the video b4 commenting. Bcz I stated this. We coulda been friends but if he lied about that what else could he lie about? Couldnt trust him
I'm sorry about your friend. And I agree about the DECIEVING, LYING, PHONY BEHAVIOR.
But how's sneaking in someone place, belongings, and private business any different? I mean you are presenting yourself as an honest person but when they turn their back you are Double Agent. :) Isn't that the LAWS OF ATTRACTION? You get what you put out there? You sneak you attract sneaks.
Maybe just get to know the person better? Spend more time with them? Not telling you how to live. No one can know 4 sure
u r so right abt ppl trusting strangers around their children. that bothers me so much! im like, "are u crazy, he could be a pervert child-molesting murderer!" if i had kids, NO ONE would meet them before 6-12 months of consistent dating.
Brains, Beauty and intense with common sense! Go Gurl! You Knocked em' out Tonya! I agree with all your words. My sister knew a guy for 20 of her 36 years, he asked her out and she said ok (trusting him) and he kidnapped, raped and strangled her unconcious! Tell me we need to trust more!?! Yeah right!!!! We can hardly trust those we know, let alone a stranger. Plezzzzzzzzzzz keep making videos like you do my sista!
See I dont know where to find the perfect balance. I got ppl saying that on a first date we should trust enough to ride in cars, and now this story of your sis... you can't even trust someone you've known 20 years??
now thats crazy! u would think that u know some1 after 20 yrs! i would have trusted him too. its ridiculous that he did that! dude was throwed the hell off! i hope ur sis is ok and that dude is in prison.
Religion abuses logic and truth for "God's Hierarchy". They tend to believe they are for god the higher they get in their hierarchy, but they are actually serving something far more diabolical and are lying their dumb self important asses off and enforcing rules. Hence we have wars where we do wholesale slaughters of one another for "god reasons" It's all bullshit. When decadence recedes, religion recedes.
Abuse is a hierarchal condition. People tend to abuse other creatures utilizing a fabricated sense of superiority that seems to fit. Demonstration of authority is quite often punishment through hierarchy. Excessive punishment for no apparent reason is a agreed upon severity in ordering or predation of inferiors. It is all very simple abusive people want to create a condition of inequity through "punishments" to "inferiors". It just means they are having an on going episode of being "sick ass".
There are all kinds of beaters and abusers in the world. Most are either connected to an organization, or covert and will not allow their behaviors to be witnessed by parties they cannot control. My father was a covert abuser but supported by the local government. My mother was a religious abuser supported by belief and her religion. My first grade teacher was a "patriotic" abuser generally supported by her group or system. She was hugely destructive in a social way. People do this stuff.
Most people are abusers at some level. They will be conncect to and supported by a group a hierarchy or a hierarchal belief system. They will try to bang or punish innocents but will allow them some sanctuary, if they "only belief and obey". Abusers are not self aware, but are only aware of what they can get through gaming or abuse of others. Abusers do not consider themselves to be abusers but more officially sanctioned to keep the degenerated order of the group where they are more important.
tonya i love u sooo much but AIDS came from africa and these men would hun these monkeys who carried aids but were not affected by it and the monkey would bit the men and then it srped around!!!!! men fuking men dont get aid like that!!! iv done my reserch but i also respect ur word becouse u do have more expirance then me! and i trust ur word!
Honey, if you really think AIDS came from Africa with some monkeys biting people and sex etc then you HAVENT done your research.
If you would have came to me and said that AIDS was a laboratory concocted virus for specific purpose of genocidal warfare THEN I could respect that. But regurgitating that old wives tale urban legend about apes in Africa is just soooo passé. I'm sorry but you may need to research AGAIN.
that is an urban legend...this was made up by a rasist...and by spreading this urban legend is spreading rasist not that you mean to....i think you really believe this...but that AIDS come from Africa from apes...is a lie...
y'know? i was telling a few people that, myself, starting a couple years ago: that those Domestic Abusers usually *won't* start off raising red flags. those "first impressions" will not always necessarily be representative of what is the overall reality.
other than that, i am still agreeing with what; it's just a matter of overcoming shyness. and what about information which can be used against you?
i mean, i don't wanna be givin' somebody somethin' that, somehow, can be used to steal my identity. (some states' IDs still put social security numbers on them, last i heard.)
:-).
for *anybody* who deals with men, your advice is quite salient.
also, congratrulations on your First Cussing in a video! even though you were quoting someone else, my ears were burned anyway.
l.o.l.
about the sea salt on the beans i made: i didn't really notice too much a difference; maybe next time.
Some good advice, although I would be defensive if someone asked to do a background check on me, even though I have nothing to hide. It conveys a level of suspicion and distrust that suggests that person may be plagued with paranoia during a relationship, possibly suspecting infidelity regardless of the signals. Loving the impromptu mobile call :D I looked at your channel, how did you manage to travel to so many countries? It's amazing! Keep up the vids.
OMG... Y i have that same ring tone... i was falling out when i heard it.. (Luv Me Sexxxy)... LMAO!!! but on another note... you are speakin the truth.. thanks for the vid and keep them comming my sistah
"Listen" you crack me up when you say that word...You have said some stuff that most people don't think about when it comes to men. Some scary shit but it is so real.
I so wished my mother told me this before I ended up in a failed marriage. I am currently heartbroaken over a 12 older man who won't take care of serious health issues. I jumped in too quickly this time as well. Good grief.
I really hate these women who feel they have to give a man every damn thing they have in order to gain their love. Why should you have to give a man your money, your car, your dignity and change your identity for them to love you? Once you don't have anything else to give what is going to keep them there? I see it all the time and it saddens me, because no real man would want to take from or change you! If you dont put yourself out there you wont feel stupid in the end.
i love watching the first 48.... I enjoy the way you express yourself and say the things that parents need to drill into thier kids. - Tonya you need to go on BET and talk to the youths. you are the bomb!
Tonya thanks again. I have 2 girls they are 28 & 20 years old & often keep them reminding that you say on this video. Keep up yr videos. Hugs & kisses from Greece.
Thank you so much Tonya for posting this video. You are teaching me and my daughter. Please keep posting. These young girls out here need to hear this type of information. Some of these girls do not have anyone to lead and guide them. Thank you Tonyatko.
Hey Ms Tonya TKO!!! I REALLY appreciated this video, I felt you girl! I just hope a lot of our young sistas can take the time out and really listen to what you're talking about! KEEP DOING YOUR THANG! =)
a suh it guh' Tonya..... For real, a lot of peeps have there heads in the clouds and not see things and people for who they are....... I see some rass tings' trust an' believe!
Tonya, speak the truth. Especially when it comes down to sex. Sex is something that is not talked about openly and people enter into sexual relationships with no questions asked or test results being reviewed and taking word of mouth answers about STD/HIV. Saying I'm clean is not sufficient, documentation need to be reviewed. People need to wake up and ask questions. I work in the STD/HIV field and when I tell a person they are positive for an STD or HIV it is not cute/pretty.
@Avalita07 lol, personally I probably wouldnt date you if you bothered to do a background check instead of getting to know me. What if you do a background check, the guy is wonderful, and then he finds out that you sneaking behind his back to check up on him.
He'd dump you cold and call it a day. No one wants to be second guessed, especially when they upfront with they personal.
@robertantonnyc is the PRIME EXAMPLE of someone that wants you to trust HIM and what HE tells you on his word alone. For you younger sistahs with less experience, if he's so got damn wonderful, his background check will confirm that. Its better to be dumped than find out you're HIV positive ANY DAY. No one wants to be "second guessed" huh? I'd laugh if it wasn't so typical of a deceitful individual that expects you to believe they're upfront, just because they've told you they are. RED FLAG 101
@cinnamonstixx34 I guess ppl these days are just jaded and overly suspicious. But I'd like to address something you've brought up. In this day and age, why would a woman have unprotected sex with ANY man they met unless they'd both been tested together? You should not be having it, period.
So if you "find out you're HIV positive" you surely can't blame it on a guy that you slept with before getting to know anything about him or asking him status. AND THEN PROTECTING YOURSELF.
Wolf, I tell ppl all the time to never listen to what I say... to do their own research. Even in this video I said you dont HAVE to listen to me. In fact no body does. I do these videos for the people who WANT the information. Make sense? PPL who dont want it are not going to listen anyhow.
also u should of known the man well before going to santa dimingo with the( police man ). but then again u learn n ppl learn more n more every day!
123minko 2 weeks ago
i love you so much for being such an amazing sister! i couldn't thank you as much as you really deserve! THANK YOU SO MUCH TONYA!
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YO listen your man wants a mate not a mat! lol
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I love how real you lay out the true information. I love your videos! and I always laugh :)
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You can still ask and still get lied to. Some folks are very good at compartmentalizing crucial information. Bottom line: TRUST NO ONE BUT YOURSELF.
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truuuust me i understand you.. no more miss nice girl... i was raised in a strict christian home, school & back the end, only child, never dated, we dont talk about the world outside & how to be street wise,was taught everything was a sin.. VERY SHELTERED
its not good... when i went to college it was really hard... ive made so many innocent mistakes.. lost my virginity via rape..... so parents... its good to be precious with your kids but EDUCATE THEM.. i was a crowd pleaser/good girl/sweet SMH
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TheEditor80 1 year ago
hey this is a great video but i think u beat a deadhorse on the trust thing it was really getting on my nerves! lol but the advice was good just dragged out
1babygirlg 1 year ago
I've seen a video about how men can get gorgeous girls but can you make a video on how a girl can GET and KEEP a guy. I'm asking because not every girl has a father or supportive male counterpart that can show a woman what to look for.
What should a girl do if shes somewhat different from most girls, for example: I'm a Tomboy and there's no disputing that, I love being a tomboy and I'm in no mood of changing any time soon but some guys would dismiss my uniqueness. May I have some advice please?
rayeraye91 1 year ago 2
@rayeraye91 As a "TomBoy" you have a unique advantage over "Girly" women bcz your activities will bring you in close proximity with many men who have their dating guards down.
Just do the things you love to do? Video games? Skateboarding? Rapping? Basketball? Whatever floats your boat. Get in good, become friends then POW bust out the tank top two sizes too small. Go for the layup & while he's blocking you, rip your shirt shirt over the bosom & tackle him. He's Already ALLL yours!
LOL!
-Tko
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Amen Tonya! At minute 15 you start talking about how men have secrets and about how many men like men and learned this the hard way. Two of my bf's were screwing men on the Down low and the first one caught me by surprise but the 2nd one didn't cause after the first one I was on red alert for that shit! And I used some of them snooping tactics to find out what I needed to know and low and behold he was on the DL. And he was as nice and respectful as can be too.
RiotGrrrlLogic 1 year ago
And the part about that women saying we should trust more..screw that. I actually I have a saying..."Trusting is for dummies." Because men are so sick with all their preoccupation with sex that most women have NO CLUE how deep that rabbit hole goes for them. Just today I told a young gf of mine of how I snoop on my bf's to make sure they weren't fucking dudes,l cheating or whatever else these sick fucks are hiding and she called me psychotic! I call it SMART. If I don't protect myself, who will?
RiotGrrrlLogic 1 year ago
omg tonya i love u keep it up
taboolah 1 year ago
I don't even give guys the opportunity to be fake with me in a relationship. Those kind of guys that talk about sex on the first conversation, HUGE turn-off. If they say they love me within the first day or so, I let them know that that's bull. I tell them to not say it until they're ready and it's probably going to be a while before they hear it from me. But Tonya is 100% right on here. U need to ask questions; u don't have to be blunt and ask "are you gay?" but you should ask if they like SOS
Charity17022 1 year ago
This popped up right on time. I made the mistake of trusting a man too soon in a rebound relationship, fortunately it was all protected, but I recently found out he is interested in having a three-some with another man or woman. Not cool. Also, he does not treat me the way I want to be treated. We just moved too fast and I'm counting my loses. I got out of that situation immediately. I'm taking a break from seeing anyone right now to focus on continuing my education.
theorchidstrator 1 year ago
I now take my time chat 5wks on the phone for & then meet at a public place where we can sit & talk. Taking my time & using my own self to pleasure me if I havetohave sex . he does not get the p*** w/o qualifiers ever again those days R gone & I am Hot (good looking) & know it, If he wants me he will have to wait, if I am interested n sex w/ him, we both go to planparenthood together although protect, if I get pregnant , he will be able to support that child I don't date broke & unstable men.
thinkinawink1 1 year ago
This popped up right on time. I made the mistake of trusting a man too soon in a rebound relationship, fortunately it was all protected, but I recently found out he is interested in having a three-some with another man or woman. Not cool. I got out of that situation immediately. I'm taking a break from seeing anyone right now to focus on continuing my education.
theorchidstrator 1 year ago
the truth hurts tonya lol! but its good for us!
ebony66pink 1 year ago
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, and expressing yourself into such deep depth and meaning that I truly know that all you've said is real, I just needed that little push and thank God it was you!
:D Samantha
squirrelpigeon1 1 year ago
The fetish and fantasy convo is on point....very good however, so you decide that someone is being sneaky by being sneaky and untrusting yourself? bothering peoples personal and private belongings and services? hmmmm.....Sounds hipocritical, maybe thats why you keep attracting these kind of men. Anyway good points and bad points
stazandjeve 1 year ago
Well by your standards Martin Luther King Jr., Gandhi, Nelson Mandela were all man of great callings and character...oh i case you didn't know were all "incarcerated". The best way to tell someones character is just a matter of time, patience is the best barometer. Yes your assessments of "some" abusers ARE ACCURATE. Most people who don't trust, aren't trustworthy...this is also FACT. All friends are former strangers. So not talking to strangers is not an option. I very much agree with
stazandjeve 1 year ago
Your Videos are great forget the people who dont want to listen to this!
lizettd1981 1 year ago
wow I don't think I've ever seen you so heated and passionate. Seems as though you're speaking to someone in your personal life. If so, I hope they got the point, you sure delivered your point pretty well! Women need to hear this.
bloodlust347 1 year ago
u better preach women
2531kitty 1 year ago
I like you girl. Keep the smart info flowing :)
jethrodassam 1 year ago
I dont know if you want to ask your guy about what he's really into (im a 21 yr. old guy) alot of guys start looking a porn at a very young age, when it gets boring they start looking at more and more disturbing acts. I thought it was just me until I went to college, we have a computer room that everyone can use ( no filter/blocks) and they look at some nasty stuff. Most of us start having sex and those weird acts are notr neccesary to act out but it may be an issue for some , then they cheat
5959512 2 years ago
@5959512 I would hate to date you.
TrynaGetBacToMyLuv 1 year ago
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5959512 2 years ago
i love you girl :) thanx
lethargiclunacy 2 years ago 2
Love this video just watched it again since a few months ago, needed to hear this again!
Lakishia 2 years ago
you are awesome! I have been there and been through, and because of this truth you've put down in this video I can call you a distant friend because you are honest and I've never met you ever but I have mad respect for you for being the truth. Keep doing you. Just awesome.
nishanorth 2 years ago 4
Every girl, young woman, and grown @zz woman needs to see this video. This information is extremely valuable.
Great video!
fatchickskinny 2 years ago
I learned a lot. I'm 34 yrs old and did not know what strap on services meant :o0 I teach my daughter to be discerning of who she let in her surrounding and set boundaries. For the sake of myself and my daughter, I am glad you are including me in the loop. The only thing I take issue with is the negative labeling of our sisters/women, "accommodating punk women.." This imitates the abuser. Being betrayed in love a.k.a "a fool in love " is not our definitive disposition.
peanutandcocobutter 2 years ago
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you scare me, can I penetrate you
Gandocera 2 years ago
No... But I can BLOCK you Gandocera.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
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Chumps are the men that settle for Black women.
010119782008 2 years ago
i tried to watch the video that was linked at the end. but it says it's private!!! :(
lagatia86 2 years ago
Write ti her and tell her to un-private it
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Yes, its unlikely, but it could still happen. Nowadays kids dont just lip kiss, they use their tongues. If you equal that into the equation then it could happen.
Aids is found in seman, blood, breastmilk, and vaginal fluids. Blood is founded in cuts. Bitting your tongue is a cut. That bit tongue goes down another mouth that has a cut. Plus that bit tongue got aids.
Unlikely but still could happen.
Blacksoljah 2 years ago 4
Yes you can. If both you and your partner have cuts in you guys mouth, you can catch hiv.
And cuts in your mouth are common.
Blacksoljah 2 years ago 12
Tonya this was a great video!!! 5 stars!!! You gave really good advice that every woman needs to consider. I always believe never trusts too much, look out for yourself and people must earn your trust. Men that are extreme need to be watched. I've read that men that make extreme comments about gays are usually gay themselves.
breakofdawn26 2 years ago
Take your problem to Jesus, then your layer and then the POLICE! Cemetries are full of "nice girls". If everyone had the same code, men couldn't call some too picky. All men would have to lift their game. If I say no to sex on a first date, but your in the wings waiting for YOUR SOLO and say yes. You undermine me, you and the next girl. Men don't know how to treat us because we don't teach them in unison. Dont undercut the price of pussy...It's suppose to be priceless, God made it.
Mangapulse 2 years ago
"Cemeteries are full of 'nice girls'". Wow as sad as that sounds it's so true...
Lakishia 2 years ago 5
i wish i had a big sister like you...
patricia1patricia 2 years ago 19
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Better buy a lot of cat food and batteries
whitebitchnigga 2 years ago
Young people need to hear this (including myself) People are scared and timid about being upfront and honest about things. But then comes the question: When is it ok to trust? Marriage is destroyed. Love is tainted. Sex is not natural and beautiful anymore. So what's a girl to do? lol Just ignore the feelings you have? What happens when you use a condom, birth control, ask all the questions and are honest about things and you STILL get screwed over?
NaeofNae 2 years ago
I really needed to hear this this morning girl. THANK YOU.
laoorah 2 years ago 2
AMEN!
carolinesaid 2 years ago
I think it should be said, that wolves hide out in the church as well. Don't think a lot of amens makes you bullete proof. There are penty of guys in the church having homo relations, watching porn, and are abusers. A lot of guys cruiz churchs thinking they can get a nice girl to screw over. She's not gonna make a big fuss.
Mangapulse 2 years ago 5
soo true!
CYaya88 2 years ago
yep
Gumbstew101 2 years ago
The daughters of the women's lib movement have been victims of a lot of back societal backlash. Women now have this idea that they need a man, not the other way around. When you come from a posistion of want/desperation you will settle.
Mangapulse 2 years ago
you are awesome you should write a book I'd buy it : )
missgotaman 2 years ago
good advice for women, im a dude tho
tastyapplekrisp 2 years ago
ummm... sry tonay =[
merob89 2 years ago
amen! i showed this 2 my mom,now she understands me.thnx a lot! vtw,isnt the max minute of a youtube video is 30 mins?
Erika236 2 years ago
Thank you for keeping it real Tonya. I really appreciate you sharing this advice.
mattisdr 2 years ago
you need to edit your vids better like pop around the screen...It makes it more standable. But you have such a good point. But im a man.....Lol.....But it makes since.
vlogandblog 2 years ago
I don't edit my videos hun. I just talk, record, upload. But thank you for noticing. :)
-TKO
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Girl, you are on point. I think exactly the way you do, but my girlfriends won't listen to this type of talk. They would rather take chances that I will not take. Love it!!!!!
chcltsxygrl 2 years ago
I miss the nice girl days!!!
Sniperman1964 2 years ago
Youre right,the nice girl days are over......
Now its the "Bitchy,Lesbian,Bisexual Slut" trend!!!!
Sniperman1964 2 years ago
9:30 i wish my mom realized that : / i think i was put in that situation so i can learn how to be a man by NOT doing what this person does since he knows how to fool the crowd.
Fyrewyrd 2 years ago
I have to say though, most men won't admit they sleep with other men, because of the stigma people attach to it. I mean, some people are really open, but most men aren't. So having a real conversation about it, won't necessarily unearth the seriously messed up things.
SomethingStellar 2 years ago
Seriously. FInd out what their fetishes are.
I found out way later that my boyfriend was way in to beastiality. I'm really open minded, but I have my limits.
SomethingStellar 2 years ago 4
**thanks
spell check. oops
supama8 2 years ago
Thaks Big Sis Tonya .!
supama8 2 years ago
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u r a shame to blk women
blkwomen101 2 years ago
Pls tell why she's a shame to blk women?
aasnaa555 2 years ago
That person is just a troll : / There's no reason to downgrade someone who's trying to properly educate people.
Fyrewyrd 2 years ago 3
I love your booooooobs!!!!! Show a video
on them
me4432 2 years ago
Thanks Tonya and Gigi! Yes he did! This jerk was released a lil under 2 yrs for what he did. Our system failed again, to dish the appropriate punishment for the crime. My sister was scared to death, and to make matters worse his mother was contacting her to drop the charges. Y O Y? We as women have to get it together now, before we not only keep excusing the lil behaviors but begin to lose our perceptive powers of wrong and right all together.
sk8vixen 2 years ago
Im am certain that you would like downright stunning in a nice dress or suit. Without all the unnecessary tit show.
deadarm66 2 years ago
...like crap because I'm like ok why does a guy always want to see me for just my body or my money even as I am not the type to stand around and get played, I just want to be respectedand valued, so I'm trying to teach myself to love myself and value myself, but it's such a challenge because I am always so affected by what others say and do (male and female). I try to avoid it by being a loner, but then I get lonely, how can I be so strong that nothing anyone says can shake me?
ttoyass 2 years ago 3
...but when it comes to relationships, I like to avoid them because I always end up feeling like I can never get what I want. The best way for me to keep from getting burnt is to KEEP TO MYSELF!!! Right now, I feel like I don't need to be in a relationship until I can get over this low self esteeem, but there is always some guy lurking around who wants to date but you know how you just know a guy is on bullsh*t? Even as I am avoiding or ignoring this type of attention, somehow it makes me feel.
ttoyass 2 years ago 2
I think you are great and that you give tremendous insight. I just feel like I am so stuck on what I learned growing up, I didn't have sound parents and grew up abused beleiving that I was supposed to be treated like dirt and that it was normal for men to abuse me. I am very successful and have my own home, car, bank accounts, and work at a fortune 500 company, thanks to God instilling in me that I had to use my education to get out of my situation....
ttoyass 2 years ago
wow this is scary about the downlow brothers
caramelanie 2 years ago
haven't been around in awhile.tonya u look so good so radiant.......
what have u been doing...?
channelNIVEK 2 years ago
Ive been chillaxin... you?
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
I was just kidding, I dont like having to explain myself!! Lets not have this little misunderstanding happen again!
oddballzshow 2 years ago
Their is an internet Child Predator comming at Children Sexually by the username Potentcokaine flag this man if he sexually assaults your child! I xposed this man and now he's making a rap song using sexual content!! Parents beware i never allow my Child to use the net ever this Child Predator really thought he was talking to a child I flagged him others flagged him
livenewartist 2 years ago
I always had the mind set that if you are really sweet to others i will come full circle. I now make sure I take care of Erica first before making sure everyone else is ok...esp those not worthy of my good energy.
cutieerica 2 years ago
thank you big sis.
malulu21 2 years ago
Only a couple flaws. Everything you talking about you can do be polite. Being a nice girl isn't about being a pushover it's about being polite, respectful and ladylike. Too much of anything can be a bad thing true, when understood outside the context of God. (Since he said it) But once something positive (of God; i.e. trust, love, etc.) takes that route it becomes flawed and the truth is IT IS NO LONGER THAT WHICH IT WAS. It becomes something else and being it's not that the rule dont apply.
godbodian 2 years ago
Honey, you'd do best to do yourself a favor by not believing anyone SAY they are a Christian. You better see it with ACTIONS. Religion is not enough... there are too many false worshipers out there.
I mentioned in the nice guy video that its about being a "GOOD PERSON" be polite yes, but terms like 'ladylike' irk me bcz it implies that there is some sort of behavior 'Ladies' should exhibit and the behavior is usually unassuming, restricted, accommodating & subordinate.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
I'm not speaking about false worshippers. I'm simply stating that you can do everything you said without being rude, disrespectful or obsessive. I have four daughters and as a father there are ways a woman should act. The unfortunate trend of today is that women often forget just as men do, that with power even in the regard of personal power comes great responsibility. I don't feel that anything you've said is false, it's very true. Still ladies should ALWAYS conduct themselves respectfully.
godbodian 2 years ago
I collect porn of Nuns. Freaky, I know. But, I will never have sex with a Nun...Ever. Is it fair to say I can not be trusted around nuns? A women who snoops will misinterpret whatever she finds b/c she already has in her mind nobody can be trusted. If she can't be trusted alone with small things she can't be trusted with valuable things. She will always be a snoop and will lose the best man she ever had or will ever get. Good men are better without insecure destructive women. They Stalkers.
AVTPro 2 years ago
Who cares about nun porn... when you start watching porn of priests and lil boys, THEN its a problem!
Nun porn just indicates that you are drawn to the taboo appeal of forbidden fruit or the eroticism of doing that which you're not supposed to... or many other things I'm sure you would not be too timid to tell or even act out with your mate... on the other hand a man into priest and choir boy porn may not speak of this out loud and this information NEEDS to be discovered.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Huh? I thought you agreed with homosex lifestyle? It's OK as long as you don't date one? Anyway, I was only using Nuns as an example. :) I'm not attracted by taboos.
My only real point is snooping can backfire and you more than your loved one. A harassing gay prank caller could leave explicit message on my voicemail and a snoopy female could think I'm into men Seriously, accidents like that can happen and be misinterpreted by someone who thinks they found the truth. Snooping isn't smart.
AVTPro 2 years ago
U consider a priest sleeping with a boy to be the "Homosexual Lifestyle?" are you kidding me? this is PEDOPHILIA! and I don't care WHO he is or what 'prank' is being played any man with tons of porn on his computer with children in it has a PROBLEM which needs to be outted and addressed!
And you weren't using nun porn as an 'example' that is what you STATED you liked. And only a fool would make up their mind after ONE discovery. This is why I said look at HISTORY & patterns. I stated this
TKO
TonyaTko 2 years ago
The guy who went to the tranny website, I gave him the benefit of the doubt... until I saw he had a HISTORY of going to these websites, even so much so as to go searching on tranny escort sites in the city he was going2b visiting. Coincidence? I THINK NOT!
AND LYING is what I have a problem with. NOT THE LIFESTYLE, THE LIES, you should probably watch the video b4 commenting. Bcz I stated this. We coulda been friends but if he lied about that what else could he lie about? Couldnt trust him
TKO
TonyaTko 2 years ago
I'm sorry about your friend. And I agree about the DECIEVING, LYING, PHONY BEHAVIOR.
But how's sneaking in someone place, belongings, and private business any different? I mean you are presenting yourself as an honest person but when they turn their back you are Double Agent. :) Isn't that the LAWS OF ATTRACTION? You get what you put out there? You sneak you attract sneaks.
Maybe just get to know the person better? Spend more time with them? Not telling you how to live. No one can know 4 sure
AVTPro 2 years ago
No. I don't consider homosexual lifestyle. period.
I stop at male+male. Lil boys was irrelevant.
Yes, I was using "Porn" of any type as example to illustrate the point.
Now are I agree. Only a fool would make up their mind with one discovery but many do. That's the problem.
AVTPro 2 years ago
cool
tmacc 2 years ago
u r so right abt ppl trusting strangers around their children. that bothers me so much! im like, "are u crazy, he could be a pervert child-molesting murderer!" if i had kids, NO ONE would meet them before 6-12 months of consistent dating.
GenuinelyGiGi 2 years ago
As usual Tonya, you're speaking the truth!
Thank you sista, for keeping it very real, and on point!
voicechick 2 years ago
I love you Tonya....
queencee1 2 years ago
26:37 My FAVORITE part of the video. Its is soooo Lolz!
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
loved this video1
follow me!
GunzRoses25 2 years ago
Brains, Beauty and intense with common sense! Go Gurl! You Knocked em' out Tonya! I agree with all your words. My sister knew a guy for 20 of her 36 years, he asked her out and she said ok (trusting him) and he kidnapped, raped and strangled her unconcious! Tell me we need to trust more!?! Yeah right!!!! We can hardly trust those we know, let alone a stranger. Plezzzzzzzzzzz keep making videos like you do my sista!
sk8vixen 2 years ago 3
WTF! is this guy serving time???
See I dont know where to find the perfect balance. I got ppl saying that on a first date we should trust enough to ride in cars, and now this story of your sis... you can't even trust someone you've known 20 years??
Good Grief!
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
now thats crazy! u would think that u know some1 after 20 yrs! i would have trusted him too. its ridiculous that he did that! dude was throwed the hell off! i hope ur sis is ok and that dude is in prison.
GenuinelyGiGi 2 years ago
Religion abuses logic and truth for "God's Hierarchy". They tend to believe they are for god the higher they get in their hierarchy, but they are actually serving something far more diabolical and are lying their dumb self important asses off and enforcing rules. Hence we have wars where we do wholesale slaughters of one another for "god reasons" It's all bullshit. When decadence recedes, religion recedes.
hypnofan35 2 years ago
Abuse is a hierarchal condition. People tend to abuse other creatures utilizing a fabricated sense of superiority that seems to fit. Demonstration of authority is quite often punishment through hierarchy. Excessive punishment for no apparent reason is a agreed upon severity in ordering or predation of inferiors. It is all very simple abusive people want to create a condition of inequity through "punishments" to "inferiors". It just means they are having an on going episode of being "sick ass".
hypnofan35 2 years ago
There are all kinds of beaters and abusers in the world. Most are either connected to an organization, or covert and will not allow their behaviors to be witnessed by parties they cannot control. My father was a covert abuser but supported by the local government. My mother was a religious abuser supported by belief and her religion. My first grade teacher was a "patriotic" abuser generally supported by her group or system. She was hugely destructive in a social way. People do this stuff.
hypnofan35 2 years ago
Most people are abusers at some level. They will be conncect to and supported by a group a hierarchy or a hierarchal belief system. They will try to bang or punish innocents but will allow them some sanctuary, if they "only belief and obey". Abusers are not self aware, but are only aware of what they can get through gaming or abuse of others. Abusers do not consider themselves to be abusers but more officially sanctioned to keep the degenerated order of the group where they are more important.
hypnofan35 2 years ago
Very interesting hypnofan... seems like you've seen and witness a LOT.
Thank you for sharing
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
Keep doin what ya doin...
mcgrew123 2 years ago
tonya i love u sooo much but AIDS came from africa and these men would hun these monkeys who carried aids but were not affected by it and the monkey would bit the men and then it srped around!!!!! men fuking men dont get aid like that!!! iv done my reserch but i also respect ur word becouse u do have more expirance then me! and i trust ur word!
YurgesBitch 2 years ago
Honey, if you really think AIDS came from Africa with some monkeys biting people and sex etc then you HAVENT done your research.
If you would have came to me and said that AIDS was a laboratory concocted virus for specific purpose of genocidal warfare THEN I could respect that. But regurgitating that old wives tale urban legend about apes in Africa is just soooo passé. I'm sorry but you may need to research AGAIN.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
that is an urban legend...this was made up by a rasist...and by spreading this urban legend is spreading rasist not that you mean to....i think you really believe this...but that AIDS come from Africa from apes...is a lie...
FantasticPhotos 2 years ago
im glad ur getting more personal and this helps alot!! xoxox
YurgesBitch 2 years ago
(miss tonya!!
i didn't know you had so much Gangster up in you!
that was H-O-T.)
y'know? i was telling a few people that, myself, starting a couple years ago: that those Domestic Abusers usually *won't* start off raising red flags. those "first impressions" will not always necessarily be representative of what is the overall reality.
other than that, i am still agreeing with what; it's just a matter of overcoming shyness. and what about information which can be used against you?
masic88 2 years ago
i mean, i don't wanna be givin' somebody somethin' that, somehow, can be used to steal my identity. (some states' IDs still put social security numbers on them, last i heard.)
:-).
for *anybody* who deals with men, your advice is quite salient.
also, congratrulations on your First Cussing in a video! even though you were quoting someone else, my ears were burned anyway.
l.o.l.
about the sea salt on the beans i made: i didn't really notice too much a difference; maybe next time.
masic88 2 years ago
PREACH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
tmcphatter 2 years ago
Some good advice, although I would be defensive if someone asked to do a background check on me, even though I have nothing to hide. It conveys a level of suspicion and distrust that suggests that person may be plagued with paranoia during a relationship, possibly suspecting infidelity regardless of the signals. Loving the impromptu mobile call :D I looked at your channel, how did you manage to travel to so many countries? It's amazing! Keep up the vids.
TwoTube2 2 years ago
OMG... Y i have that same ring tone... i was falling out when i heard it.. (Luv Me Sexxxy)... LMAO!!! but on another note... you are speakin the truth.. thanks for the vid and keep them comming my sistah
bnrownsugga81 2 years ago
You gets mad RESPECT!!! Tell it like it IS!!
"Listen" you crack me up when you say that word...You have said some stuff that most people don't think about when it comes to men. Some scary shit but it is so real.
unique228 2 years ago
OMG!!!!! where you been, this lecture is a little too late for me.
Im0Just0Saying 2 years ago
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rifIemancod 2 years ago
At 3:13 is funny lol Tonya.
WGChampions 2 years ago
I so wished my mother told me this before I ended up in a failed marriage. I am currently heartbroaken over a 12 older man who won't take care of serious health issues. I jumped in too quickly this time as well. Good grief.
Thank you for this excellent video.
saltyeggs71 2 years ago
THX U SISTER !!! GOD BLESS U
ladycamm 2 years ago
you can make vids that are 30 mins!!!! how do you do that?!
WorldofWarcraftwiz 2 years ago
She was registered a Guru before Youtube changed the limit to 10 minutes.
TymesRhymes 2 years ago
We love you strong, black sistah!
1Chris111 2 years ago 2
I really hate these women who feel they have to give a man every damn thing they have in order to gain their love. Why should you have to give a man your money, your car, your dignity and change your identity for them to love you? Once you don't have anything else to give what is going to keep them there? I see it all the time and it saddens me, because no real man would want to take from or change you! If you dont put yourself out there you wont feel stupid in the end.
Reddz25 2 years ago 3
you are soo right i love your videos
:D
girlfun3 2 years ago
HA HA
tonya i have said some mean things to the snooping video....
but i still love you
Virginialax15 2 years ago
You are sending mixed messages.
romchill35 2 years ago 2
dont be ashamed. u like, uh-oh! =O
merob89 2 years ago
What are you talking about? Can you write in clear non ambiguous English?
romchill35 2 years ago
fuck that! I LIKE TONYA BOOBIES! =)
and her blogs!!2
BOOBIES OR BLOGS!!!!!???
merob89 2 years ago
Block or Stay??
Block or Stay....
Keep playing and see which side you end up on.
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 years ago
i love watching the first 48.... I enjoy the way you express yourself and say the things that parents need to drill into thier kids. - Tonya you need to go on BET and talk to the youths. you are the bomb!
marliestrim 2 years ago 2
lolsz...i LOVE YOU and keep ya head up hiqh
HottieRocknU 2 years ago
It's hard to hear but it needs to be said....thank you Tonya TKO for this video!
Le7Red7Apple 2 years ago
Great vid.
onyxbeauty1988 2 years ago
oh, the jamaican thing - that is too much! I hope your sister was ok
bemaniac2 2 years ago
Tonya thanks again. I have 2 girls they are 28 & 20 years old & often keep them reminding that you say on this video. Keep up yr videos. Hugs & kisses from Greece.
natassaintro 2 years ago
about 90% of street Niggaz have had a prostitute once not fucking but getting some head
skatahman 2 years ago 2
i love you!
ItaliaBella4666 2 years ago 2
Oh and you best believe, even though I dont sleep around, we getting tested...every week.
I mean EVERY WEEK. Shot, I heard you could get aids by kissing. Thats a bullshit way to get aids.
Blacksoljah 2 years ago
Eff that faggot bullshit...and you was doing so well till you got to the faggot
Strap on services...thats a no no. There will be no butt playing...at all.
Anyway people should be abstinence. My doctor said that the safest sex is the best...I mean no sex.
Background checks are ok with me though. If its public...then help yourself. Thats what it's there for.
Blacksoljah 2 years ago
She is 100 ladies on the back ground check, I think men should get background checks on women too. She could be check mating you....
lawani2k 2 years ago
exactly
GunStreets 2 years ago
tonya rulz
thedriz 2 years ago
DAMN!! GIRL UR DEEP!!!! you do tell the truth I've been there myself.
shortdribble 2 years ago
Thank you so much Tonya for posting this video. You are teaching me and my daughter. Please keep posting. These young girls out here need to hear this type of information. Some of these girls do not have anyone to lead and guide them. Thank you Tonyatko.
We love you!
blessone48021 2 years ago
too long
sportstar82cr 2 years ago
nice nice!
lolita513 2 years ago
Thanks!
Sallyakerti 2 years ago
amazing words of wisdom as always!
sylviemc3 2 years ago 2
Hey Ms Tonya TKO!!! I REALLY appreciated this video, I felt you girl! I just hope a lot of our young sistas can take the time out and really listen to what you're talking about! KEEP DOING YOUR THANG! =)
Patrece07 2 years ago
a suh it guh' Tonya..... For real, a lot of peeps have there heads in the clouds and not see things and people for who they are....... I see some rass tings' trust an' believe!
Nuff respect
Moons
NuMoons 2 years ago
Tonya, speak the truth. Especially when it comes down to sex. Sex is something that is not talked about openly and people enter into sexual relationships with no questions asked or test results being reviewed and taking word of mouth answers about STD/HIV. Saying I'm clean is not sufficient, documentation need to be reviewed. People need to wake up and ask questions. I work in the STD/HIV field and when I tell a person they are positive for an STD or HIV it is not cute/pretty.
lostnspace001 2 years ago 3
Everything you're saying is so true about these men out here who's in denial about themselves..
benziebabes 2 years ago
Remember this sage advice
"NO GLOVE....NO LOVE"
lugnuts6 2 years ago 4
I love ya Tonya, but I don't want you doing no background check on me. "It's a thin line..."
robertantonnyc 2 years ago
@robertantonnyc i would def do a background check on you. you must have skeletons to hide. If you didn't, you would have no problem with a BG check!
Avalita07 1 year ago
@Avalita07 lol, personally I probably wouldnt date you if you bothered to do a background check instead of getting to know me. What if you do a background check, the guy is wonderful, and then he finds out that you sneaking behind his back to check up on him.
He'd dump you cold and call it a day. No one wants to be second guessed, especially when they upfront with they personal.
robertantonnyc 1 year ago
@robertantonnyc is the PRIME EXAMPLE of someone that wants you to trust HIM and what HE tells you on his word alone. For you younger sistahs with less experience, if he's so got damn wonderful, his background check will confirm that. Its better to be dumped than find out you're HIV positive ANY DAY. No one wants to be "second guessed" huh? I'd laugh if it wasn't so typical of a deceitful individual that expects you to believe they're upfront, just because they've told you they are. RED FLAG 101
cinnamonstixx34 1 year ago
@cinnamonstixx34 I guess ppl these days are just jaded and overly suspicious. But I'd like to address something you've brought up. In this day and age, why would a woman have unprotected sex with ANY man they met unless they'd both been tested together? You should not be having it, period.
So if you "find out you're HIV positive" you surely can't blame it on a guy that you slept with before getting to know anything about him or asking him status. AND THEN PROTECTING YOURSELF.
robertantonnyc 1 year ago
strap-on service ...damn but shes so right
jazzychickengurl 2 years ago
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zombilika 2 years ago
omg Im so glad you finally talked about hose DL men lol. great video overall!
momodani7 2 years ago
Excellent!
shiz1246 2 years ago
nice video
4go 2 years ago
Wolf, I tell ppl all the time to never listen to what I say... to do their own research. Even in this video I said you dont HAVE to listen to me. In fact no body does. I do these videos for the people who WANT the information. Make sense? PPL who dont want it are not going to listen anyhow.
-TKo
TonyaTko 2 years ago