The open relationship thing is working for me, and anyone I'm with knows exactly what our agreement is-- which is, it goes both ways, and if they ever want out, there will be no jealousy tantrum. :)
i agree open relationship is another term for approval to cheat. Why have a committed monogamous relationship if you want to sleep with other people that is called being single. What is so hard for gay men or anyone to understand. Sometimes you have to have some boundaries in your relationship or it would not be called a relationship. It would be called a one night stand or a screw buddy. I strongly stand for committed monogamous relationship.
i'm monogamous, and i don't believe everybody should be monogamous, my personal thoughts! non monogamous people need to stay away from those who do want to be monogamous, pretty simple!
Hon..we haven't even got it together with monogamous relationships..with just 1 other person..now how in the hell are we going to get it right with multiple people at the same fucking time?! no way.
wow, $5/hr.... and you say '' I don't know" a lot. It.s all about sex while having a nice house, car,easier life and it's easy to bail when you find that choice meat.
i've always been one to bash open relationships, because i felt like it fueled the stereotypes against homosexuals. but i realized that there are a lot of men who do want sex a lot more than i do, and i'm 19. so while an open relationship would never be beneficial for me, i've accepted that it's ok for others, because they have different needs than i do, and there can be love in that kind of relationship.
The way me and my partner figured out what we both want (we didnt know at the time either!) was just we talked about it for about 5 hours, this vid is right - total honesty is so completely the best policy!
I now have an open relationship and the best relationship i've ever had :D
No particular kind of relationship works for everyone. But I think the concept of an 'open relationship' is a contradiction. Don't use the word relationship. What you've you've basically got is a roommate.
Sheople do closed relationships. Pain and just life ugh. Most people I know only do open relationships. Now if someone will pay the bills so you don't have to go to you're stupid fucking job yes close the relationship. Besides monetary gain
I just read Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny Block, about her open relationship. I like what you had to say about HONESTY in relationships, and the author of Open comes to same conclusion.
you are so magical... o.O i see the shimmering light in your eyes :) ... no really... im not just saying that lol... i do.. there really is a sparkle in your eyes... omg! i was just honest o.O maybe i should watch ur work out vids to become a shirtless homo too! you will be my inspiration! (im very random)
I think he is so wise about what he says. This is exactly what I would say. My bf and I are the most honest relationship ppl you'll ever meet. I met a girl and the three of us feel HARDCORE in love, but she wasn't an honest person so it didnt work out. It is ALL about honesty. so true.
I believe that open relationships are pretty dangerous. Someone always seems to get hurt. Sex with an out -side member in a relationship is hard to take as just a Mechanical action that has no emotional repercussion. also, depending on the severity it's a pretty huge health hazard. A little like Russian Roulette with a sex organ.
I would guess that you've never been in a decent relationship; whereas I do. the point is, it has never hurt me when my gf was telling to me that she had slept with a different girl / boy.
I think is good giving each other's space, being a couple but also being an individual person. Our personal freedom must not be taken for anyone! (I also think the most important thing in a relationship is respect for each other, of course!)
well, it's either that or the glare from the sunlight...
but in every video i have seen of you, you always seem so nonchalantly intelligent and wise, and your relationship advice shows that a lot. you seem like a very nice person :)
watching porno is cheating? wow....so also having fantasies and touching myself too? uhm....so guess I am cheating while reading all this. Uh,, confuse now
I am glad to be married with a very loving woman who understands what bi-sexual means. As long as I'm not messing around with another woman she has no problem with me and men, same to her (although she has much much less same sex activity them me). :D
I think what a lot of people forget is that though humans are beautiful and good, we all are able to the darkest deeds. What defines us 'good' or 'bad' is about how much we are in control.
Having said the above, I think people not being able to keep it in their pants when in a relationship is due to incompetence and 'bad'. Though monogamy no guarantee for a healthy relationship, because there is more to it, an open relationship is a guarantee for an unhealthy relationship and state of hapines
Open relationships come in many shapes and sizes. Regardless of whether you think an open relationship is right for you, you should talk to your partner about how you feel regarding jealousy, and cheating, and falling in love with other people.
Define what cheating means to you, and what it means to your partner and what kind of a commitment you need from them, and they from you. I've been in an open relationship for years, we're very happy so it can work.
Davey seems to have a great grip on the world and most aspects of it. I think we could all learn a lot from him. Maybe not everything Davey says is right for you, but I listen to all of his views and I have started using them in my life and it has made a huge difference already. We need more people like Davey.
So I would just like to say Thank You to Davey, not only for his views but also his presence. You offer so much and ask for nothing in return. The sign of an enlightened person.
Relationship - I'm very into One man for One man...I'm not into more than one...I don't share with anyone else...I think it's wrong. I don't base it on religion, I base it on my own feelings. I can't wrap my mind around the idea that my bf/husband sexually interacting with anyone else...thats gross to me. Anyways, my thoughts.
I believe in monogomy, if you and your partner are truelly in love with each other then you would not even consider having a relationship and the sex is the best ever and it happens every time, especially when you are at the stage of barebacking.
gay men who want open relationships want to stay plugged into the "gay scene" as long as they can. it's obvious a guy who films himself shirtless in his videos would be in favor of non-monogamy. the argument that men are "biologically wired" to be promiscuous is a terrible argument. we're biologically wired to spread our "seed," but our penis doesn't know the difference between a vagina or an ass or a hand. using that as an excuse for non-monogamy is a joke.
Chillier? It ain't even cold yet... I hope you are prepared for WINTER.. Toronto doesn't even get a good Canadian Winter, come up here, and I will show you WINTER.
I think one thing that people need to do in their lives is separate sex and love.. Just cause you have sex with someone, doesn't me you love them.
I have often thought about open relationships and polyamorous ones too, if I could be involved in them. I think I could. But it would depend on the other person...
You know...the idea of an open relationship, for some of you folks who seem a bit over-reactive here, is that it's not -serious-. It's like an upgraded friendship, not a true romance. It's more for the physical aspects than the romantic aspects.
An open relationship isn't for me. Mainly because what I want out of a relationship is mostly emotional. Some one to come home to and who loves me for me. Honesty is definately important though.
Davey, an open relationship is just another name for "room-mate with benefits", which is totally okay if that's all two people need and want from each other. For a successful monogamous committed relationship between two mature people, the only two questions that each person needs to answer to themselves everyday is "what do I add to my partner's life and what do I do every day that makes the bond between us grow stronger. Notice, there is no "me" in the two questions, as there is in open LTRs.
wow. I can't believe that this video is getting such high ratings. sorry. but I can't live without monogamy. if u truly and honestly wanted someone, then they wouldn't be screwing other people. that's crazy. I would never feel satisfied if a girl or guy had other relationships and just use me as a rag.
Wow chpoof, I am jealous of you. Congrats. I feel like I am the only really momogamous minnded gay guy out there. It's hard to find anoyone who is really interested in a long term 1 on 1 relationship. While there is nothing wrong with just having good times through casual sex, I have always felt its hotter being with just one guy, knowing that he is yours and yours alone and having a real emotional bond. Mike
Hang in there MikeOfTheRedwoods, chpoof only confirms the feelings that you have to be true, at least for you. There are other guys out there who think just like you. Have fun shopping around for one. You'll find him.
Mike, please don't give up. There are definitely other gay guys out there who want monogamous relationships. It's just a matter of finding them. We have a dear, close friend who is looking for a monogamous relationship as well. You just have to be patient. I totally agree with your statement about the emotional bond between just two committed partners. It's definitely hotter and much more fulfilling (at least for us).
My partner and I have been together for over 13 years, and we have a completely monogamous relationship. Sure, we both find other guys attractive, but as far as sexual intimacy is concerned, I only want to be with him, and he feels the same way. Some people talk about the passion fading in a relationship over the years, but with us it's actually increased, as our love for each other has grown deeper and deeper. So a committed, faithful relationship is definitely what works for us. :-)
Hey chpoof, great to read your post. My partner and I just hit year 8 and it's like you said, a stonger and deeper bond. It's incredible when you find your best friend and lover! Congratulations to you and yours!
Congrats on 8 years together, OkayFine5! Yes, my partner is unquestionably my best friend, my lover, my soul mate...the whole kit 'n kaboodle. :-)
What's really cool is we threw a party back in 2001, and two friends of ours met there for the first time. They really hit it off, and now, almost 8 years later, they're an established and very happy couple.
I think it's important that one be honest with themselves about what they want. But sometimes we can't have everything that we want. And often in hindsight i think "phew, i'm glad i didn't get what i wanted then" Like it's an awesome fantasy having multiple partners and all that but are the thrills worth the unhappiness they might cause? But i agree it's best to weigh it up in open honesty.
when two people have an exclusive relationship they have fewer chances to catch a disease. It is Not just the emotional damage done by an unfaithful partner. At last count there are somewhere around 23 diseases that you can catch. It does not matter whether you are gay or straight. It is better to be honest and tell your partner what you want than to sneak around behind their back. Get someone that you really want to be with. find out whether you are compatible warts and every thing else.
But generally... until we evolve as a species.. there will likely always be conflict in this area.. if from no where else than those whose 'values' feel violated by the idea.
I am glad you stated "honest" relationship. I'm also glad you indicated that when being honest there may be implications. Needless to say these implications are what cause people to cheat and be dishonest. They know there is a price for everything but yet don't want to pay it. Still, hopefully this message will help some. If nothing else make someone think about what they want and why their relationship is working or not. Oh yeah Ms. Cleo is gonna kick your ass for sure, lol.
Open relationships basically say "I love you but I want to fuck other people. That way it wont be called cheating". However, I can probably deal with someone i'm seeing having sex with other people. What I couldnt deal with is if they loved them or were in love with them. But either way can suck depending on the circumstances and the couple engaging in such a relationhip. I couldnt do it. Too risky in so many ways.
By the way, YOU ARE ADORABLE wikydkewl. Such a cutie.
the idea of an open relationship isn't a relationship...to me. For me...sex is a big part of a connection between two people...and if im with my lover i want to connect with him not random hot guys. i'd be single for that.
hmm this is a really good question for the times because obviously marriage is not working for many couples. the divorce so soon. for instance my own parents just did. what was the cause. cheating. and not going to lie about at least half to more of all my friends from high school have divorced parents now. something has got to change. im not sure how i feel about the open relationship because i have never personally done it or known one,someday if there are positive role models showing it maybe
If someone cheats on you in your relationship, it is because that person feels that they are not receiving one or more of the six basic human needs from you. It would be unfortunate if they felt that they could not talk to you about it before committing infidelity. Sometimes the problem has nothing to do with you.
I think people that cheat fall into two categories. Some get confused between what they want(open relationship)and what society have made them think they want(monogamous relationship).The others cheat because there is something wrong in their current relationship and either feel unloved or uncared for and so look to another person. The former may indeed require an open relationship to be happy and will need to find others of the same. But the latter just aren't with the right person for them.
I think your about the coolest thing since toilet paper (that's a comment BTW) and your my first YT crush! haha..I always feel warm and fuzzy after watching one of your video's. Why cant you live where I live? OMG I would so go for you! haha..Anyway, great video, your completly right with what your saying. Now to find my romeo!!!
jaybird, i am in an open relationship and have been for the past 9.5 years and its still as fresh as the day we got together. We have seen so many friends who have been in closed relationships and they break down within the first few week by cheating. We do not have unsafe sex with anyone and find that it works for us. We even got Civil Partnered on 17/03/2006 on our 7th annaversary. If anything, its made our relationship stronger. It cuts out the "you've cheated" bull.
an open relationship serves absolutely no purpose besides serving base desires of lust. There's no commitment at all it's basically an "i can cheat but since we're open you can't get mad at me for it" setup and no cheaters don't love their partner or they would have some self control and the love they supposedly have for their partner would count for more than the breif carnal pleasure they would get from cheating
Good post. I have several friends in relationships (gay and straight). I have known people in "open" relationships and I have found that people who are in open relationships are usually open to other unhealthy activities. This eventually leads to the relationship breaking up for one reason or another. Personally I think that being in a one on one relationship is enough for me and 90% of people out there.
I relate to this so much. My last boyfriend, whom I cared for so much. The sad thing was that he didn't want the same things I wanted in a relationship. He wanted to kiss every guy in site, and doesn't think kissing is cheating. I am the exact opposite of that. In the end, he was just too slutty for me.
And now I am in search for my soul mate, again :) There is hope..
You frequently mention this topic, Davey Wavey, and I wonder if it is because you are searching for approval as somebody who doesn't believe in monogamy. My opinion is that if you're truly committed to your partner you won't want to act on any sexual attraction you feel towards anyone else. People who try to justify "open relationships" just aren't that committed, or maybe they haven't found the right person. In my opinion open relationships are never acceptable or justifiable.
People often don't know what they REALLY want. They think they want something and espouse it all over the place and then don't want to seem like they were lying. They just don't know. They want what's 'normal'.
What's normal?
3 1/2 year open relationship here and extremely in love.
My boyfriend and I have agreed to establish and open relationship because he is bisexual. But I dont care, we bang all the time in the bathroom stalls at school all the time. He does a good quicky =]]
I love the idea of an open relationship, at the same time I am conflicted by the though of the person I love wanting that as well, lol obviously what is good for the goose .....
the honest relationship I am in now has turned out to be a emotionally monogamous one. We often debate amendments like sharing, and exs. Rules also are important, always play SAFE! LIVE AND LET LIVE!!!
I am one of those pple that thinks that once you decide that you want to open your relationship,what you are really saying is that "you are not completely satisfied" with your current arrangement. And that you are just one more step closers to bringing that relationship to a close. I could never and would never be in an open relationship its not for me. Trust is a MAJOR thing for me & most (I assume),and I don't think you can fully trust someone to always make the right choice in this situation.
Having said all that; I think that if you choose to have an open relationship you must:
1. Establish rulez/boundries.
2. Consequenses for breaking said rulez.
3. Define what "Open" means for each person.
4. The person asking to open the relationship should be able to give a clear and articulate reason for why he/she thinks that it would make for a healtier and happier relationship.
"Just wanting to try something different" is never a reason for an open relationship (in my opinion.)
Davey - you never stated what you want in a relationship yourself. Do you want an open relationship? Have you ever been in an open relationship? Thanks for opening the discussion.
Well I'm GAY, and i think an open relationship is a great thing, that's if your not the jealous type. LOL. I think its the best thing ever, i say that because i am in one right now. it really allows you and your partner to be less stressed.
In my experience, everybody that I have known that has ended up dying of AIDS (+5) were in an open relationship at one point in their lives. Now obviously I'm not saying that an open relationship leads to AIDS or that to have had AIDS you had to have been in an open relationship at one point. I'm only expressing the anecdotal evidence for what I've encountered in my life. People who like to screw outside a primary relationship tend to bring more diseases home than people who don't wander.
but what i wanna say is that, a open relationship is only good if u fully trust each other and u just wanna try someone different NOT if u just wanna cheat and then break up, if u want a open relationship for "that" just end it so u wont hurt nobody, u may hurt but it will be less than if u cheat :(
My intent is to be honest with the person whom I wish to share my life with. I think that the biggest hallmark of our times is that people are too afraid to trust each other, even when already being in a relationship, and thus they don't tell to each other what they would really like and how they would like things to be
Honesty is best.
The open relationship thing is working for me, and anyone I'm with knows exactly what our agreement is-- which is, it goes both ways, and if they ever want out, there will be no jealousy tantrum. :)
RontoYukimaru 2 weeks ago
Honestly is best. Well said
Single4ever4lovesake 2 months ago
i agree open relationship is another term for approval to cheat. Why have a committed monogamous relationship if you want to sleep with other people that is called being single. What is so hard for gay men or anyone to understand. Sometimes you have to have some boundaries in your relationship or it would not be called a relationship. It would be called a one night stand or a screw buddy. I strongly stand for committed monogamous relationship.
marcwebbcareer 4 months ago
i'm monogamous, and i don't believe everybody should be monogamous, my personal thoughts! non monogamous people need to stay away from those who do want to be monogamous, pretty simple!
sillykatz 8 months ago
OMFG i thought it said "Is Open for a Relationship am i Right For You?" xD
XmitchymitchX 8 months ago 3
i hate cheating :(
rnk90913 9 months ago
your eyesssss . <3
in case you haven't noticed...i'm pretty much creeping on all your old videos right now...
hellohello1598 9 months ago
I think you hit the nail on the head buddy. Good vid.
EuphoniousCrunk 9 months ago
Hon..we haven't even got it together with monogamous relationships..with just 1 other person..now how in the hell are we going to get it right with multiple people at the same fucking time?! no way.
asana1973 9 months ago
wow, $5/hr.... and you say '' I don't know" a lot. It.s all about sex while having a nice house, car,easier life and it's easy to bail when you find that choice meat.
tshorse 11 months ago
when you cheat and keep it a secret: OMG y didnt u tell me
when u cheat and u tell: OMG y the hell did u tell me now im fucking upset just keep it to urself next time
when you dont cheat: OMG we r over i need some spacee
When u cheat: why the fuck r u u cheatting we r O-V-E-R over
sk8terboi9011 1 year ago
humans were not meant to be monogamous, fact.
MrEriksalas84 1 year ago
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Kill yourself ... NOW !!!!
topmoviemafia 1 year ago
i know someone identical to davey, hes even got the same eyes...its so weird
TheBluePianist 1 year ago
your hot
ResistanceofLove 1 year ago
In that jacket, u still show ur body :( kill me!! i very love ur mouth, ur sound
linhlinh1808 1 year ago
i've always been one to bash open relationships, because i felt like it fueled the stereotypes against homosexuals. but i realized that there are a lot of men who do want sex a lot more than i do, and i'm 19. so while an open relationship would never be beneficial for me, i've accepted that it's ok for others, because they have different needs than i do, and there can be love in that kind of relationship.
awkwardmoments323 1 year ago
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eggboy1988 1 year ago
hi from mexico y will love to meet u!!
ChristianHerreraQro 2 years ago
hey... i have a question... i don't know what i want... how do u figure out what u want?
4544609 2 years ago
good question - still looking for answers here - why the fuk was I born gay!
shaw20zoo 2 years ago
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Wow what a positive video!
The way me and my partner figured out what we both want (we didnt know at the time either!) was just we talked about it for about 5 hours, this vid is right - total honesty is so completely the best policy!
I now have an open relationship and the best relationship i've ever had :D
eggboy1988 1 year ago
The open relationship has worked for me! Free, honest love is much more beautiful.
kkearney1990 2 years ago
you're cute. :)
ehouston 2 years ago
Wow you look so hot in that jacket. Where do you buy that? i want 1 D:
aNastyCookie 2 years ago
No particular kind of relationship works for everyone. But I think the concept of an 'open relationship' is a contradiction. Don't use the word relationship. What you've you've basically got is a roommate.
meticulum 2 years ago 2
Sheople do closed relationships. Pain and just life ugh. Most people I know only do open relationships. Now if someone will pay the bills so you don't have to go to you're stupid fucking job yes close the relationship. Besides monetary gain
janityy 2 years ago
GO CANADA xD
bzowy07 2 years ago
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seabrc 2 years ago
you're sooooo cute!
jakeisoverrated 2 years ago
At the end you looked like the killer from Urban Legends
159candy159 2 years ago
lol ur gr8 nd so true in wot u said !!!
jessica31827 2 years ago
omfg, you accually wore clothing!
LipGlassImvu 2 years ago 12
Dig the coat.... and the elevator music in the background makes me laugh.... cute
jordanhatch 2 years ago
that coat does look good on Davy.... lol
glitchflame 2 years ago
are you a model?
if not you should be!
loveiyou1 2 years ago
i love that coat on you.
rockkkcandy 2 years ago
mmmm this is not ur best work
paulrichardbebe 2 years ago
Mm...honesty. Sounds like something I should try more (in relationships). :)
Though, on the title: personally, an open relationship could work for me. But at the same time, I know I might get a little jealous. but who knows.
A lack of communication was probably what caused my last relationship to fall apart. Fall & crumble like wet paper.
9Ghostly9Fish9 2 years ago
You remind me of Him the most in this video. Torture! ;-P
c1nico 2 years ago
I just read Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny Block, about her open relationship. I like what you had to say about HONESTY in relationships, and the author of Open comes to same conclusion.
prozim 2 years ago
to bad for women nowdays.... all cute guys turning gay....
ImperialEarthEmpire 2 years ago 2
too bad for men nowadays... all the cute girls are turning gay
; ) oh well more for me
XXRoseWeedXX 2 years ago 2
you are so magical... o.O i see the shimmering light in your eyes :) ... no really... im not just saying that lol... i do.. there really is a sparkle in your eyes... omg! i was just honest o.O maybe i should watch ur work out vids to become a shirtless homo too! you will be my inspiration! (im very random)
tdwire 2 years ago
I think he is so wise about what he says. This is exactly what I would say. My bf and I are the most honest relationship ppl you'll ever meet. I met a girl and the three of us feel HARDCORE in love, but she wasn't an honest person so it didnt work out. It is ALL about honesty. so true.
blue1spiral 2 years ago
I believe that open relationships are pretty dangerous. Someone always seems to get hurt. Sex with an out -side member in a relationship is hard to take as just a Mechanical action that has no emotional repercussion. also, depending on the severity it's a pretty huge health hazard. A little like Russian Roulette with a sex organ.
chaseriffic 2 years ago
I would guess that you've never been in a decent relationship; whereas I do. the point is, it has never hurt me when my gf was telling to me that she had slept with a different girl / boy.
schlecksi69 2 years ago
I think is good giving each other's space, being a couple but also being an individual person. Our personal freedom must not be taken for anyone! (I also think the most important thing in a relationship is respect for each other, of course!)
orgiero 2 years ago
This is full of truth.
bummercucumber 2 years ago
I think open relationships rule. Your so sexy
neatandcool 2 years ago
im in an open relationship with this boy ^_^
coolsteven2 2 years ago
aw you look tired...
well, it's either that or the glare from the sunlight...
but in every video i have seen of you, you always seem so nonchalantly intelligent and wise, and your relationship advice shows that a lot. you seem like a very nice person :)
twiliteXskylite 3 years ago
watching porno is cheating? wow....so also having fantasies and touching myself too? uhm....so guess I am cheating while reading all this. Uh,, confuse now
besebuble2 3 years ago
Wise beyond your years and what amazing advice. Thanks!
spiegs06903 3 years ago
I am glad to be married with a very loving woman who understands what bi-sexual means. As long as I'm not messing around with another woman she has no problem with me and men, same to her (although she has much much less same sex activity them me). :D
echoside2009 3 years ago
AWESOME
mi2c20 3 years ago
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jeaniebaby001 3 years ago
I think what a lot of people forget is that though humans are beautiful and good, we all are able to the darkest deeds. What defines us 'good' or 'bad' is about how much we are in control.
Having said the above, I think people not being able to keep it in their pants when in a relationship is due to incompetence and 'bad'. Though monogamy no guarantee for a healthy relationship, because there is more to it, an open relationship is a guarantee for an unhealthy relationship and state of hapines
Tugrul 3 years ago 2
is he gay? so gayness!
jovobitch7 3 years ago
you are so handsome! :D
freakingpeacee 3 years ago
An open relationship is just a security blanket for people who like to fuck around.
zachariahgriffin 3 years ago 3
I never thought about cheating the way you explained it, thanks though:)
Karoliiinalehtonen 3 years ago
aren't you the one that was saying watching porn was cheating. yes
kellyemu 3 years ago 3
Open relationships come in many shapes and sizes. Regardless of whether you think an open relationship is right for you, you should talk to your partner about how you feel regarding jealousy, and cheating, and falling in love with other people.
Define what cheating means to you, and what it means to your partner and what kind of a commitment you need from them, and they from you. I've been in an open relationship for years, we're very happy so it can work.
o216o 3 years ago
You live a charmed life. You really don't have a relationship until you have tough choices. Until that happens you are just roommates.
BillJuno 3 years ago 14
Ahoj, jsem zvědav dáš li si práci a přeložíš si to :) supr viea :)
CrewWeb 3 years ago
you are such a beautiful person inside and out.... Keep it up !!!
alexx702 3 years ago
chek!!!you are my inspiration
wen2zaspa 3 years ago
Davey seems to have a great grip on the world and most aspects of it. I think we could all learn a lot from him. Maybe not everything Davey says is right for you, but I listen to all of his views and I have started using them in my life and it has made a huge difference already. We need more people like Davey.
So I would just like to say Thank You to Davey, not only for his views but also his presence. You offer so much and ask for nothing in return. The sign of an enlightened person.
jhaynes85 3 years ago 2
i agree
wen2zaspa 3 years ago
How can anyone have a relationship if the other person is screwing around? I would want a guy to be with me only! if I had one!
zakzues 3 years ago 3
Relationship - I'm very into One man for One man...I'm not into more than one...I don't share with anyone else...I think it's wrong. I don't base it on religion, I base it on my own feelings. I can't wrap my mind around the idea that my bf/husband sexually interacting with anyone else...thats gross to me. Anyways, my thoughts.
GreenscapeCowboy 3 years ago 3
For me, no on open relationship - yes on bring in a third... or fourth, or fifth.
As long as you play with each other. :)
jonohaz 3 years ago
lol now you gots me thinking what do i want in a relation ship
tupeni07 3 years ago
You have my coat!!!
VittorioDDV 3 years ago
what is an open relationship?? some one tell me
omgouch9 3 years ago
meaning you know about what your partner is up to all the time. no secrets.
ultimategoobah 3 years ago
I Love You!!!
DEstyler09 3 years ago
no sirrr, no open relationship for benji ^_^
and you are unnaturally attractive. i find it distressing...PEACE <3
WithLove44 3 years ago 3
This comment has received too many negative votes show
This guy is so in love with himself when he has sex with a guy he is jealous of the guy for having him.
jakobfrederik 3 years ago
funny cute guy!
Tony841127 3 years ago
cute guy!
navyblue112 3 years ago
I believe in monogomy, if you and your partner are truelly in love with each other then you would not even consider having a relationship and the sex is the best ever and it happens every time, especially when you are at the stage of barebacking.
aussiexlguy 3 years ago 3
This was uploaded on my bday!
I love Daveyyyy!
missmidnightsky 3 years ago
Open Relationship : Cheating for all!
But its not cheating because its an open relationship!
Not an open Relationship : Normal.
Jacada123 3 years ago
You're wearing one because you're about to do some serial killing, Urban Legend style.
shyguyisshy 3 years ago
gay men who want open relationships want to stay plugged into the "gay scene" as long as they can. it's obvious a guy who films himself shirtless in his videos would be in favor of non-monogamy. the argument that men are "biologically wired" to be promiscuous is a terrible argument. we're biologically wired to spread our "seed," but our penis doesn't know the difference between a vagina or an ass or a hand. using that as an excuse for non-monogamy is a joke.
alainsoir 3 years ago 2
Alainsoir ... VERY WELL SAID.
nobodysclown 3 years ago
Alainsoir, I 2nd nobodysclown's sentiments! Very well said!
OkayFine5 3 years ago
The fact that you bring up that someone is shirless discredits your entire argument. What does that have to do with anything???
And you are wrong...the man's mind is what causes us the desire to spread our seed.
It is mental, not physical, therefore it DOES matter where it goes!
dalman34 3 years ago
You look hot n that jackett Davelicious
felipebbiggi 3 years ago
Chillier? It ain't even cold yet... I hope you are prepared for WINTER.. Toronto doesn't even get a good Canadian Winter, come up here, and I will show you WINTER.
I think one thing that people need to do in their lives is separate sex and love.. Just cause you have sex with someone, doesn't me you love them.
I have often thought about open relationships and polyamorous ones too, if I could be involved in them. I think I could. But it would depend on the other person...
Xiek 3 years ago
Hahah. I love your opening line!!!
awomansmind 3 years ago 2
You know...the idea of an open relationship, for some of you folks who seem a bit over-reactive here, is that it's not -serious-. It's like an upgraded friendship, not a true romance. It's more for the physical aspects than the romantic aspects.
simplecreativity 3 years ago
An open relationship isn't for me. Mainly because what I want out of a relationship is mostly emotional. Some one to come home to and who loves me for me. Honesty is definately important though.
stormsgrace 3 years ago
Davey, an open relationship is just another name for "room-mate with benefits", which is totally okay if that's all two people need and want from each other. For a successful monogamous committed relationship between two mature people, the only two questions that each person needs to answer to themselves everyday is "what do I add to my partner's life and what do I do every day that makes the bond between us grow stronger. Notice, there is no "me" in the two questions, as there is in open LTRs.
OkayFine5 3 years ago 2
hes a very attractive young man
tariq622 3 years ago 2
hell yes he is....
and his name sounds like a type of ice cream
YUMMY!
Monroe22657 3 years ago
wow. I can't believe that this video is getting such high ratings. sorry. but I can't live without monogamy. if u truly and honestly wanted someone, then they wouldn't be screwing other people. that's crazy. I would never feel satisfied if a girl or guy had other relationships and just use me as a rag.
drxclassic2 3 years ago 2
lmao davey, what was that at the beginning?
and you do look good in that jacket :D
HeyYoKimm 3 years ago
Wow chpoof, I am jealous of you. Congrats. I feel like I am the only really momogamous minnded gay guy out there. It's hard to find anoyone who is really interested in a long term 1 on 1 relationship. While there is nothing wrong with just having good times through casual sex, I have always felt its hotter being with just one guy, knowing that he is yours and yours alone and having a real emotional bond. Mike
MikeOfTheRedwoods 3 years ago 14
Hang in there MikeOfTheRedwoods, chpoof only confirms the feelings that you have to be true, at least for you. There are other guys out there who think just like you. Have fun shopping around for one. You'll find him.
OkayFine5 3 years ago
Mike, please don't give up. There are definitely other gay guys out there who want monogamous relationships. It's just a matter of finding them. We have a dear, close friend who is looking for a monogamous relationship as well. You just have to be patient. I totally agree with your statement about the emotional bond between just two committed partners. It's definitely hotter and much more fulfilling (at least for us).
chpoof 3 years ago 3
@MikeOfTheRedwoods ...im not the only one....PLEASE be 17!!!
TheVentusVanitas 1 year ago
My partner and I have been together for over 13 years, and we have a completely monogamous relationship. Sure, we both find other guys attractive, but as far as sexual intimacy is concerned, I only want to be with him, and he feels the same way. Some people talk about the passion fading in a relationship over the years, but with us it's actually increased, as our love for each other has grown deeper and deeper. So a committed, faithful relationship is definitely what works for us. :-)
chpoof 3 years ago 3
Hey chpoof, great to read your post. My partner and I just hit year 8 and it's like you said, a stonger and deeper bond. It's incredible when you find your best friend and lover! Congratulations to you and yours!
OkayFine5 3 years ago
Congrats on 8 years together, OkayFine5! Yes, my partner is unquestionably my best friend, my lover, my soul mate...the whole kit 'n kaboodle. :-)
What's really cool is we threw a party back in 2001, and two friends of ours met there for the first time. They really hit it off, and now, almost 8 years later, they're an established and very happy couple.
chpoof 3 years ago
i like this light approach to lyfe.
+ he's really cute but gay this unattainable.
therefore:
i keep coming back to watch vids.
xdevasmicota 3 years ago
Dave, can you tell me where you got the theme tune thats playin in the background? I think I heard it when I had this DVD game, Parcheesi?
Thank you!
Dain67 3 years ago
I sometimes wonder if he buys his own bull?and yet I still enjoy Sir Davie.
stanley1963261 3 years ago
I think it's important that one be honest with themselves about what they want. But sometimes we can't have everything that we want. And often in hindsight i think "phew, i'm glad i didn't get what i wanted then" Like it's an awesome fantasy having multiple partners and all that but are the thrills worth the unhappiness they might cause? But i agree it's best to weigh it up in open honesty.
mercerdamon 3 years ago
when two people have an exclusive relationship they have fewer chances to catch a disease. It is Not just the emotional damage done by an unfaithful partner. At last count there are somewhere around 23 diseases that you can catch. It does not matter whether you are gay or straight. It is better to be honest and tell your partner what you want than to sneak around behind their back. Get someone that you really want to be with. find out whether you are compatible warts and every thing else.
willfordg 3 years ago
Hey Dave, how can you tell if your gay, idk...help?
j3wgod 3 years ago
Chicken Hawk. Boycott his advertisers!
ChasRTE 3 years ago
Live and let live.. Love and let love..
But generally... until we evolve as a species.. there will likely always be conflict in this area.. if from no where else than those whose 'values' feel violated by the idea.
daveryanis 3 years ago
Doing what on your chest?!
feliciakitten 3 years ago
Saw you jogging along University Avenue on Wednesday morning, mega cute guy :)
asiancolossus 3 years ago
I am glad you stated "honest" relationship. I'm also glad you indicated that when being honest there may be implications. Needless to say these implications are what cause people to cheat and be dishonest. They know there is a price for everything but yet don't want to pay it. Still, hopefully this message will help some. If nothing else make someone think about what they want and why their relationship is working or not. Oh yeah Ms. Cleo is gonna kick your ass for sure, lol.
roblou62 3 years ago
Open relationships basically say "I love you but I want to fuck other people. That way it wont be called cheating". However, I can probably deal with someone i'm seeing having sex with other people. What I couldnt deal with is if they loved them or were in love with them. But either way can suck depending on the circumstances and the couple engaging in such a relationhip. I couldnt do it. Too risky in so many ways.
By the way, YOU ARE ADORABLE wikydkewl. Such a cutie.
MsNum1 3 years ago
Nice jacket.
Ducio1234 3 years ago
the idea of an open relationship isn't a relationship...to me. For me...sex is a big part of a connection between two people...and if im with my lover i want to connect with him not random hot guys. i'd be single for that.
Neoanubis 3 years ago 2
hmm this is a really good question for the times because obviously marriage is not working for many couples. the divorce so soon. for instance my own parents just did. what was the cause. cheating. and not going to lie about at least half to more of all my friends from high school have divorced parents now. something has got to change. im not sure how i feel about the open relationship because i have never personally done it or known one,someday if there are positive role models showing it maybe
blackhamster39 3 years ago
i dont like the idea of an 'open' relationship
thats like giving my bf permission to cheat on me.
deadman00 3 years ago
Open relationships dishonor your partners. They also are sexually risky. Do you want to catch something and give it to the person you "love"?
Rocknrollfashionista 3 years ago
If someone cheats on you in your relationship, it is because that person feels that they are not receiving one or more of the six basic human needs from you. It would be unfortunate if they felt that they could not talk to you about it before committing infidelity. Sometimes the problem has nothing to do with you.
kyi561 3 years ago
typical, self centered, i want, i want, me , me , me, it's all about me, if I cheat it's your fault, fuck you, you lose. on to the next better thing.
EveryonesCritic 3 years ago
Now i've heard enough bull.. satistics on cheating? back it up!!
This clip made me unsubscribe to his channel..
Later
whiterabbit123 3 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
get over it you fuckin homo
metalworshiper123 3 years ago
Rich coming from someone who subscribes to a homosexual's videos ... sit and rotate. :P
whiterabbit123 3 years ago
change your screen name to black and white SKUNK
aussiexlguy 3 years ago
LOL your funny.
whiterabbit123 3 years ago
I think people that cheat fall into two categories. Some get confused between what they want(open relationship)and what society have made them think they want(monogamous relationship).The others cheat because there is something wrong in their current relationship and either feel unloved or uncared for and so look to another person. The former may indeed require an open relationship to be happy and will need to find others of the same. But the latter just aren't with the right person for them.
cfptwenty 3 years ago
are u in a relationship wavey?
tokohis 3 years ago
I think your about the coolest thing since toilet paper (that's a comment BTW) and your my first YT crush! haha..I always feel warm and fuzzy after watching one of your video's. Why cant you live where I live? OMG I would so go for you! haha..Anyway, great video, your completly right with what your saying. Now to find my romeo!!!
pvampire 3 years ago
jaybird, i am in an open relationship and have been for the past 9.5 years and its still as fresh as the day we got together. We have seen so many friends who have been in closed relationships and they break down within the first few week by cheating. We do not have unsafe sex with anyone and find that it works for us. We even got Civil Partnered on 17/03/2006 on our 7th annaversary. If anything, its made our relationship stronger. It cuts out the "you've cheated" bull.
cheshireset35 3 years ago
davey, stay shirtless please?? you have no idea what it does for me... :)
silvershots2 3 years ago
i only need one man.
may it be you, davey wavey!
sneakerjockCA 3 years ago
Is That real Fur?
whambamram 3 years ago
an open relationship serves absolutely no purpose besides serving base desires of lust. There's no commitment at all it's basically an "i can cheat but since we're open you can't get mad at me for it" setup and no cheaters don't love their partner or they would have some self control and the love they supposedly have for their partner would count for more than the breif carnal pleasure they would get from cheating
jaybird62 3 years ago
Good post. I have several friends in relationships (gay and straight). I have known people in "open" relationships and I have found that people who are in open relationships are usually open to other unhealthy activities. This eventually leads to the relationship breaking up for one reason or another. Personally I think that being in a one on one relationship is enough for me and 90% of people out there.
jerseattle 3 years ago 2
why the heavy coat and no shirt? yes ive been having trouble finding a guy that wanted just one on one relationship.
rawbearar 3 years ago
that is so true if u have an honest relationship it will be great
davey i love u
u r so hot :D
romero194 3 years ago
Huge jacket. No shirt.
HappyLittleAlien 3 years ago
P.S. Are there ANY gay teenage boys out there that aren't druggies/substance abusers or a complete sex crazed slut?
Hahhaaha jk.. not really. Yeah.. xD
Foreversoy 3 years ago
I relate to this so much. My last boyfriend, whom I cared for so much. The sad thing was that he didn't want the same things I wanted in a relationship. He wanted to kiss every guy in site, and doesn't think kissing is cheating. I am the exact opposite of that. In the end, he was just too slutty for me.
And now I am in search for my soul mate, again :) There is hope..
Foreversoy 3 years ago
where do u live
takeXthatX 3 years ago
Seattle.
Foreversoy 3 years ago
2nd gayest city in the US
Foreversoy 3 years ago
Nice CANADA GOOSE JACKET!!
lyoshakz 3 years ago
You frequently mention this topic, Davey Wavey, and I wonder if it is because you are searching for approval as somebody who doesn't believe in monogamy. My opinion is that if you're truly committed to your partner you won't want to act on any sexual attraction you feel towards anyone else. People who try to justify "open relationships" just aren't that committed, or maybe they haven't found the right person. In my opinion open relationships are never acceptable or justifiable.
nickasarbata 3 years ago 3
honesty Miss Cleo is the basis for respect. No honesty, means no respect. No respect means no relationship.
thanks for making me think...it is a rare occurance lately...
Shayachern726 3 years ago
People often don't know what they REALLY want. They think they want something and espouse it all over the place and then don't want to seem like they were lying. They just don't know. They want what's 'normal'.
What's normal?
3 1/2 year open relationship here and extremely in love.
robertantonnyc 3 years ago
The best type of relationship a person can have is just to stay single. It's the ultimate freedom.
nasaltla 3 years ago
My boyfriend and I have agreed to establish and open relationship because he is bisexual. But I dont care, we bang all the time in the bathroom stalls at school all the time. He does a good quicky =]]
roxwhal 3 years ago
I love the idea of an open relationship, at the same time I am conflicted by the though of the person I love wanting that as well, lol obviously what is good for the goose .....
the honest relationship I am in now has turned out to be a emotionally monogamous one. We often debate amendments like sharing, and exs. Rules also are important, always play SAFE! LIVE AND LET LIVE!!!
egoMANiac73 3 years ago
I am one of those pple that thinks that once you decide that you want to open your relationship,what you are really saying is that "you are not completely satisfied" with your current arrangement. And that you are just one more step closers to bringing that relationship to a close. I could never and would never be in an open relationship its not for me. Trust is a MAJOR thing for me & most (I assume),and I don't think you can fully trust someone to always make the right choice in this situation.
Gmanchris 3 years ago
Having said all that; I think that if you choose to have an open relationship you must:
1. Establish rulez/boundries.
2. Consequenses for breaking said rulez.
3. Define what "Open" means for each person.
4. The person asking to open the relationship should be able to give a clear and articulate reason for why he/she thinks that it would make for a healtier and happier relationship.
"Just wanting to try something different" is never a reason for an open relationship (in my opinion.)
Gmanchris 3 years ago
100% agree. its like saying - i wanna f someone else now and then.
nicholastomas2 3 years ago 2
Davey - you never stated what you want in a relationship yourself. Do you want an open relationship? Have you ever been in an open relationship? Thanks for opening the discussion.
MIKEYIL72 3 years ago
You have to be very mature & comfortable with yourself to be in an open relationship.
It is not for everyone.
tlege 3 years ago
thats a nice jacket looks like it could fit two under there lol :p
uwishme 3 years ago
DAVEY! You gotta improve the VOLUME!! Pease
:-)
oxforddictonary 3 years ago
Well I'm GAY, and i think an open relationship is a great thing, that's if your not the jealous type. LOL. I think its the best thing ever, i say that because i am in one right now. it really allows you and your partner to be less stressed.
PrinceB16 3 years ago
In my experience, everybody that I have known that has ended up dying of AIDS (+5) were in an open relationship at one point in their lives. Now obviously I'm not saying that an open relationship leads to AIDS or that to have had AIDS you had to have been in an open relationship at one point. I'm only expressing the anecdotal evidence for what I've encountered in my life. People who like to screw outside a primary relationship tend to bring more diseases home than people who don't wander.
dafttool 3 years ago 3
well love the "funny" advertisment loool
but what i wanna say is that, a open relationship is only good if u fully trust each other and u just wanna try someone different NOT if u just wanna cheat and then break up, if u want a open relationship for "that" just end it so u wont hurt nobody, u may hurt but it will be less than if u cheat :(
believe me i know what i say, bad luck in love :(
d4rkman 3 years ago
If it's getting cold, wear a shirt!!
akmusica 3 years ago
hitler liked eva braun to shit on his chest....just though i would anounce that random factoid, seeing as you sorta commented on it
tylermanchesteruntd 3 years ago
HAHA! Thats really funny! Is that true?
broadwaybound4eva 3 years ago
yup. according to what i've read. but actually he prefered to be urinated on..
but of course there are no 100% records of this, only estimates and somewhat valid claims
tylermanchesteruntd 3 years ago
I am just as you said in this video:
My intent is to be honest with the person whom I wish to share my life with. I think that the biggest hallmark of our times is that people are too afraid to trust each other, even when already being in a relationship, and thus they don't tell to each other what they would really like and how they would like things to be
id88viper88id 3 years ago