Why Shack?...You are Worth More Than That.

[LivLrg]

Good stuff! Thanks

[LibertineDeSade]

I'm over women being called sluts and whores because they like sex. I don't agree with sleeping around, but I don't have anything against women who do. Why are women expected to be virtuous and marry? Because of this way of thinking any woman, like myself, who chooses to focus on school and having a career is called whore. You must be a whore if you aren't settled down and MARRIED. As a woman you should be virtuous and marry ASAP or remain a virgin for eternity. That's really unfair.

[SeekerNLife]

Shacking up is bad business.

Looks bad on your resume.

A girl might as well put a tattoo on her forehead that says "I'm Easy".

If you don't have respect for yourself, no man is going to.

Great video.

[RestrainedNoMore]

you are amazing. thank you for speaking the truth. i see so many women and young girls selling themselves short. They have been so deceived by the feminists movement. we need to teach our young girls to respect themselves and mothers and fathers need to show how precious their young girls are and teach their young men to repsect

[Carletta09]

Good video....look at the cover of the book...There is no way you could live in sin and not get burned....open The Good Book.....The only way you could shack and not be in sin is to not have sex while shacking..yeah right....women want to say that they have a man so bad....they abuse misuse their bodies and minds..(weak)...I was there once..but God is good and I know my worth...women do you know yours!!!!! Great video!!!

[carriacou9]

good video. very well put. i'm sure this message will cause some women & girls to look at things differently

[miznatacha]

Wow! This is so true. Given the fact that we now have a 70% illegitimacy rate in our community, our young boys and girls need to hear this. Thanks for always keeping it real.

[LUVJONZ99]

I agree with you on the shacking up, but we also need to focus on how to choose the right partner to marry. Putting a wedding ring on someone's finger does not make the union correct, I know married people who married on paper and shaking in spirit!

[nancydrew5]

Good idea, I'd love for Tmot to do a video on how to choose quality mates for marriage. Still the first step in choosing a quality mate is to treat them like quality and that is to marry the person and not shack up with them.

[magirecords2004]

A hendrix poem in the beginning.Nice!

I have never shacked in my 39 yrs.

5 stars

Shalam,

K.

[Evens1]

TMOT, I almost always agree with you but you made an error.

A dowry (also known as trousseau or tocher) is the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings to her husband in marriage.[1] Compare bride price, which is paid to the bride's parents, and dower, which is property settled on the bride herself by the groom at the time of marriage. The same culture may simultaneously practice both dowry and bride price. The dowry is an ancient custom, and its existence may well predate records of it.

[QuartuvLarry]

TMOT, this country may go through a rough future very soon, perhaps a great moral purging in our time. Just remember that in the dark times, the light of good men & women will shine all the brighter. Let them know that shadows aren't to be feared because those shadows only exist because of the light nearby

[nancydrew5]

It is a shame though. I'm grateful for my guy but I have single friends who complain all of the time. My lady friends have standards and woudn't dare shack, but these guys have gotten so spoiled that they could care less about rising to meet the standards of a 'quality woman'. They figure they'll just go 'round the corner to easy jane and sally ho who'll lay down on 'their terms'. Women have lowered their standards and shot themselves in the foot.

[tmotofga]

I am pleased to see your comment. I hope all is well with thee and thine family. Peace and One Love, TMOT.

[kambridge967]

Good video! The girls/women these days dont value any thing they dont care who they sleep with as long as they get that good sexual pleasure. But on another note shouldnt this apply to men also the way the video goes is seems as if its just applying to the female gender.

[tmotofga]

Of course it can apply to men. None the less, the message was for women.

[RestrainedNoMore]

i think it is more than just gaining sexual pleasure, i think they deep down are searching for love and acceptance. and they have been taught by the femi-nazis that they are not valuable. Our young ones-both male and female have been deceived.

[Evens1]

That is a great truth nancydrew! Do you think that it Is possible to reverse this? Females, now, are used to this independent age. How can we tell them to now close their legs & stop shacking up? Can it work?

[nancydrew5]

Evens, Just like there was a feminist movement I wonder if there can be a movement where women collectively on a given date, agree to up the ante, up their standards. Somehow a movement has to start. But I guess things have to get so bad that people will want to do this. The feminist movement and suffrage movement and civil rights movements, all of those things happened when things were unbearable and people got tired of tolerating.

[nancydrew5]

The ills that were done to them by society as a whole. Women have to collectively stand together and say no. But I doubt this will happen. Too many women chasing in behind other women's hubbies, engaging in sex with men they barely know, celebrity lifestyles fuel the fire and sends the message that certain behaviors are OK. The horse has flown from the barn and is too far down the road to catch. I don't know what women can do to reverse this. Other than what Tmot does, which is each one

[nancydrew5]

teach one. Parents raise their daughters with better self esteem so that they value themselves and not settle for demeaning behavior. So that they know that they are worthy and worth more than settling for a piece of a man. If they settle for a piece of a man, that's all they'll ever get.

[Evens1]

"The horse has flown from the barn and is too far down the road to catch."

Pt1 - It appears to me that this horse must be caught. It is good to see a woman who understands that the "new freedoms" given to females in the last 40 plus years is really a curse.

So now, how do we go about catching the horse. I believe that it can be done, but there are some terrible problems that have to be solved to do it.

[nancydrew5]

" I believe that it can be done, but there are some terrible problems that have to be solved to do it.

Ev what are the problems to be solved and how can we catch the horse racing towards the finish line in the derby. LOL

[TheMeekShallInherit]

Very true.... You are absolutely right. That is exactly what may need to take place.

[janschild]

Things sure have changed--and not for the better,either.

[ReviveUK]

For real...in every area of life...I like to keep a step back from it all...too many people runnin too fast and headin for brick walls ;0(

[BmyCelph]

TMOT...stop cock-blocking bra. J/K lol. You're right though, and people if you're into cohabitation. Understand the rules and LAWS of the game.

[AuShawster]

Which cultures would they be? I checked it out on Google. The brides parents paying for the wedding is a carry over from the days of paying dowry.

[tmotofga]

Jacob worked for 7 years for one Bride, was tricked and worked another seven for the second. Labor in lieu of cash.

[LooMinn]

An excellent application of Jimi Hendrix' "Room Full of Mirrors" in your opening.

Thanks. May you continue to be blessed by God.

[tmotofga]

Thank you for noting. Peace.

[spiritualseeker02]

this is a great and informative vid brother people would take what you saying as old fashion but it is all true what you are sating

[mpenny226]

A side note: ladies listen to TMOT. He know what he is talking about!! I am in my 40's and made a lot of mistakes that I cannot take back. I did not listen to people telling me what I should and should not do. I know that you may not always do the right thing, but let's not continue to do the wrong thing and wonder why we are living in the same cycle of hurt. Fellas should watch this one too. Good Vid TMOT.

[caffeinequeen89]

Wow, that book looks absolutely horrible!

Thanks for making this vid! You're awesome!

[tmotofga]

Thank you.

[AuShawster]

Isn't it the woman's father who has to pay the dowry?

[caffeinequeen89]

I think it depended. Like where you were and that such, because I've studied it as both ways.

[Vindaturk]

I can support anybody who makes our young brothas and sistas be more responsible.

[beaut4brns]

TMOT, I absoloutely love this video. Ladies please listen...Shacking gets you nowhere!

[Jabbaro123]

Women should stop selling sex period. Sex is not a profit it's a discussion and a agreement.

[tmotofga]

I never asked you to, nor I am. It was merely advice for anyone who wanted to take it.

[tmotofga]

As far as Judging goes:

People have so misquoted that scripture from the Bible that it makes me sick.

Proverbs 31:9

Open your mouth, judge righteously, And defend the rights of the afflicted and needy.

John 7:24

Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.

How else is a person to know what is wrong if we DON'T JUDGE.

Key is Righteously Judging.

Shacking gets you nothing. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

[TheMeekShallInherit]

Excellent!

[G0dspelronin]

Preach that! You are not asking anyone to do anything harmful or self destructive. Weigh it up people. You got nothing to lose by being smart or calculated.

[micjone]

No shacking here! These days if you are living with a man, and providing wifely duties (cooking, cleaning his house, sex, etc), what does he need to marry you for?

[buttaluv10]

Tmot,your videos are truly a breath of fresh air on Youtube and I thank you.I absolutely LOVE this video! I've had the mindset that if a man is worthy of me bearing his children then he should be worthy of me living and spending the rest of my life with considering I would be willing to share that special responsibility with him.

LADIES:Please listen to Father TMOT! I'm married and I KNOW that w/holding ur goods until marriage will be worth it and that much more sweeter!

[Evens1]

Butta! Married Already?

Where the heck are you guys? When are you going to come visit Sue and I??

OH! I got so excited that I forgot...

CONGRATULATIONS!

EV

[tmotofga]

Stop picking EV. Good to hear from you.

[Evens1]

Elder TMOT

Good to hear from you too! Please keep up the good works!

EV

[Evens1]

No picking here Brother.

Butta & her husband are my YT friends. I've been hoping for more than a year that they would find eachother... and they did! I knew they were getting married soon, but I didn't know when.

EV

[tmotofga]

Congratulate them for me. That is good news.

[jassyraesnewlife]

wonderful video

[chanlately]

whose book is this a cover of?

is it available?

[tmotofga]

It is just an image I found. I don't know who wrote it. Thanks for dropping by.

[chanlately]

I LOVE THIS VIDEO,T!

THANK YOU

[IONENABILLION]

A man is less likely to marry a woman he shacks with and if he does he's most likely gonna drag the engagement out as long as possible. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

[WONDAWOMAN]

That's right. No shackin.. I always looked forward to walking into my new home with my new husband and having new beginnings and FIRSTS for being a married couple. I will NOT sell myself short or abandon my standards and sell myself short of that wonderful new beginning and special experience by Playing house. No sir.. not worth it.

[FallenSoSik]

good im proud of you =)

[TheMeekShallInherit]

That's great sis...