I agree with your points and circumstances about why a gay person should keep their sexuality a secret. I'd like to add that although age and maturity can make coming out a more confident and comfortable experience, there are situations that can force a gay person to go back "in the closet". I think a highlight is how you address honesty in relation to this issue.
Seems to me that the expectation surrounding whether one should or should not "come out" assumes an obligation or responsibility to someone else. If you're content with myself and comfortable with my sexual identity, does it need to be banners, bells, whistles, and announcements. Sometimes all of that is in an effort to help the individual be okay and thereby conforming the environment to help them accept. LIVE out loud is the position I take regarding my faith,Don't mind telling if asked either
@seabradley78 its only your responsibility to someone when youre interacting with certain relationships. I believe it is imperative to share this information if one dates a heterosexual on the longterm. If they date another bisexual/homosexual who IS already out it only adds pressure to the relationship because either the one person has to be MORE secretive or the said person has to come out. If one chooses to be secretive they are better suited alone or dating others in the closet
@fratbrotha I guess that's perhaps where I'm having the CHALLENGE. Secret to who?Is it often that heterosexuals are found announcing their sexual preference? I think if you're dating a heterosexual it is more than appropriate, but not your obligation any more than it is your responsibility to indicate the individuals that you have dated or been sexually intimate with! Perhaps that is and would cause the prevalence of STDS to decrease.I also agree that within the relationship it should be decided
Hey Montre - xypowerpop is one of my very favorite youtubers - but I think you make the better points on this one. I think lgbt people once they get into their 20's owe it to themselves - not to 'the community' - to come out. I do not mean you have to walk up to people and announce that you're gay. But hiding your orientation invariably implicates you in a thousand little lies and ends up corroding your soul. And, as you say, it does affect (hurt) others. I've been around long enough to know.
@trisshandy exactly when youre out you start seeing the little nuances that people do to keep from rocking the boat. And youre right its not about "anouncing it" nor is it about going out your way to hide it but just living life as anyone else would.
you're so theatrical from the start, Montre, I love it. Why have I not been subscribed to you?
I never even factored age into the equation with coming out. you make some REALLY good points. "it also has everything to do with who you relate to" - so true. That's why I brought up the marriage thing, because it affects another person's life and one is being deceptive.
Thanks so much for making this video response! +fav
@xypowerpop You mean a year ago you had a revelation that you do not examine issues from multiple perspectives. You still spew hateful narrow-minded uneducated rhetoric, hence your "racism in the gay community" and "screw str8 acting" videos. You need a BREAKTHROUGH.
It's funny because, it was like...umm, Saturday, I was talking to a friend of mine about making a video on this topic. Only because, I have my own opinion (coming from a straight male) about my philosophy on deciding if you should or should not come out of the closet. I know it's going to be weird since I'm not homosexual but I've helped several of my homosexual friends and family members come out.
I agree with your points and circumstances about why a gay person should keep their sexuality a secret. I'd like to add that although age and maturity can make coming out a more confident and comfortable experience, there are situations that can force a gay person to go back "in the closet". I think a highlight is how you address honesty in relation to this issue.
galacticmode 6 months ago
Seems to me that the expectation surrounding whether one should or should not "come out" assumes an obligation or responsibility to someone else. If you're content with myself and comfortable with my sexual identity, does it need to be banners, bells, whistles, and announcements. Sometimes all of that is in an effort to help the individual be okay and thereby conforming the environment to help them accept. LIVE out loud is the position I take regarding my faith,Don't mind telling if asked either
seabradley78 1 year ago
@seabradley78 its only your responsibility to someone when youre interacting with certain relationships. I believe it is imperative to share this information if one dates a heterosexual on the longterm. If they date another bisexual/homosexual who IS already out it only adds pressure to the relationship because either the one person has to be MORE secretive or the said person has to come out. If one chooses to be secretive they are better suited alone or dating others in the closet
fratbrotha 1 year ago
@fratbrotha I guess that's perhaps where I'm having the CHALLENGE. Secret to who?Is it often that heterosexuals are found announcing their sexual preference? I think if you're dating a heterosexual it is more than appropriate, but not your obligation any more than it is your responsibility to indicate the individuals that you have dated or been sexually intimate with! Perhaps that is and would cause the prevalence of STDS to decrease.I also agree that within the relationship it should be decided
seabradley78 1 year ago
That's a pretty well-balanced point of view. 2 thumbs up!
palaviye 1 year ago
Hey Montre - xypowerpop is one of my very favorite youtubers - but I think you make the better points on this one. I think lgbt people once they get into their 20's owe it to themselves - not to 'the community' - to come out. I do not mean you have to walk up to people and announce that you're gay. But hiding your orientation invariably implicates you in a thousand little lies and ends up corroding your soul. And, as you say, it does affect (hurt) others. I've been around long enough to know.
trisshandy 1 year ago
@trisshandy exactly when youre out you start seeing the little nuances that people do to keep from rocking the boat. And youre right its not about "anouncing it" nor is it about going out your way to hide it but just living life as anyone else would.
fratbrotha 1 year ago
you're so theatrical from the start, Montre, I love it. Why have I not been subscribed to you?
I never even factored age into the equation with coming out. you make some REALLY good points. "it also has everything to do with who you relate to" - so true. That's why I brought up the marriage thing, because it affects another person's life and one is being deceptive.
Thanks so much for making this video response! +fav
xypowerpop 1 year ago
@xypowerpop Thank YOU powerpop for bringin up a good topic to discuss. I like where your mind goes.
fratbrotha 1 year ago
@xypowerpop You mean a year ago you had a revelation that you do not examine issues from multiple perspectives. You still spew hateful narrow-minded uneducated rhetoric, hence your "racism in the gay community" and "screw str8 acting" videos. You need a BREAKTHROUGH.
galacticmode 6 months ago
It's funny because, it was like...umm, Saturday, I was talking to a friend of mine about making a video on this topic. Only because, I have my own opinion (coming from a straight male) about my philosophy on deciding if you should or should not come out of the closet. I know it's going to be weird since I'm not homosexual but I've helped several of my homosexual friends and family members come out.
bettatrey 1 year ago
@bettatrey that would still be a good video ...because of your POV
fratbrotha 1 year ago