Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. -Proverbs 22:6 ...Go read some Solomon, get some wisdom, seriously.
Children are children...Parents are adults (you would think). You have a son, you raise him to be a male adult, like wise a daughter to be a female adult. Children are not prepared or equiped with adult knowledge to guide their own actions. Women think it's cute to raise boys like girls...
@Drebln893 I dont think there is anything cute about it. Ive known heterosexualswhos mothers put them in dresses when they were infants for whatever reason and they turned out heterosexual. I think thats strange. Its not adult to tell a person how u feel abturself,if a girl says I love barbies mommy and I want to be a ballerina when I grow up people view it as normal, somehow when a boy says it he's making adult decisions&talking abt things hecouldnt possibly have knowledge abt, really?
@curlmebella ...Please spare me the 'are you a parent' distraction talk. Next you will probably find a way to desperately play the 'are you a woman, have you ever given birth' card. No wonder young western black males of the past decade are an absolute mess. Here is a video I think you should pay attention too before even replying to anything. I'm disgusted by this sickening propaganda. /watch?v=EeORJ0ICnRw
@Drebln893 OMG really? Yes I have a son and I raise him to be the best person he can be. I have no power over him becoming a man,thats genetics, just like if he felt he were a woman, that would be in his genetics as well. We all start out as girls and depending on the bath of hormones we recv in the womb we either remain women or extend a certain organ(if u know what I mean) maybe they should sue the dr. for not providing the right type of prenatal vitamins.lol
@curlmebella -Shame on you. You are a prime example of a woman that thinks it's cute when boys act effeminate. Princess boy garbage. Rather than raising boys skilled at technology, sciences and innovative thinking, you green light putting them in dresses because it's "what he wants". What has genetics got to do with a boy emulating a girl or some imagery he has seen, what nonsense. Children will emulate anything, you..ADULT...set them "straight". Ow the irony...smh!
@Drebln893 I take it u dont have children. People without children have all the answers for all the ills of parenting. Should,Always,Will, wont, just arent in a parents language. You recv a child from God and do the best u can within the context of what u know, what u learn and what the child brings to the table, period.
@curlmebella ..What do you mean "are you serious", I'm dead serious, you want to follow nonsense...follow it through. I repeat, supose this boy decides to start molesting the house pet, isn't that his sexual choice? Why should you correct/INFRINGE the boy if that is how the he wants to express his sexuality? Afterall, there are men and women who have sexual relations with animals. Why do you have a problem with it, if that is how he opts to express his sexuality from a young age?
No one can really say unless they are in that situation. However I'd so want to protect my child as much as I could and only allow him to wear it at home. We can all learn from this story. Three things you said sum it up for me and that was love, acceptance and inclusion!
I felt as if it would be better at home or in a more casual environment, also that the parents should have been protecting him more and not flaunting him around on national tv. But I can see that as you said there is enough hate and harm in the world going on already. No need to battle the child over such a minor thing. If it makes him happy and his school accepts him dressed as a princess boy then it works out for them.
I thank you so much for doing a video on this topic. I don't have children but after watching the video on GMA I had a strong onion. Over time and after looking at the situation from different perspectives I am a bit more open minded. I have always thought that the child's creativity should be encouraged and embraced. I just felt that school was not the appropriate place to allow such attire.
hey Curlmebella, I forgot to mention that I love the "spike" of gray in the front of your hair, it looks very good! I also like that you use your channel to address varying issues/topics for discussion. Keep up the great videos.
Good morning! I've really enjoyed talking to u this weekend. It's been a while. N T Way - I justed wanted to say - your channel - your last word! I really appreciate u going outta your way to share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences and always look forward to what u have to say, whether I agree or not. So thanx for all u do!
I feel like I wouldn't want to have a boy OR girl who wanted to be into girlie girlie stuff! but i agree that you need to let the kid express themselves within appropriate boundaries.
I wonder if this issue has more to do with our ideas about the feminine. I mean why is it ok for a girl to dress and act like a boy at that age (we call them tomboys) but not ok for boys to dress like girls? I wonder if there is this underlying belief that the feminine is inferior to the masculine. I mean, if someone calls u girly or says u do something like a girl...its an insult! Why is being like a girl or dressing like a girl such an insult in our society? That's something to think about.
@curlmebella I meant that parents look the other way when it comes to things that their adult children do. I think that parents should address whatever issues their minor children face. Hopefully, parents will address the issues of their minor children in a manner that will allow the parents to yes, look away, once the children become adults and make their own decisions.
@maximuslyricus Ah but there in lies the rub, alot of parents(and Im not saying u)look the other way when they are young and go into denial abt things they dont want to believe or deal with about their children. Im sure u know, as do I, plenty of families that had little bobby that everyone knew was gay but nobody talked abt it,made excuses for why he never had girlfriends and still hoped and encouraged heterosexual lifestyle to him and then when he brings his male"roommate"to family gatherings
yup.i agree with raising a child to love themselves- which avoids a whole slew of problems as they get older/accepting ur child for who they are and not be in denial
thing parents can do is what most of us have always done - raise our kids according to what we believe is right in general and right for them. Then hope for the best. Thanx for putting yourself out there for a very interesting discussion!
@maximuslyricus - ur absolutely right, that is what most parents do. I just felt this kids parents deserved to be commended instead of ridiculed because they choose to look at their kid head on, acknowledge him, and move fwd as a family as opposed to the usual denial and then look the other way technique.
@maximuslyricus they act like he is just bobby's good friend and make no acknowledgement of the true nature of their relationship even if bobby and his"roommate"have been together for 10yrs or more.lolThats what Im talking abt.I just thought it was great for these parents to reallydeal the reality of the situation as opposed to that whole"we wont stop loving u but we wont acknowledge or accept all of u either" scenario. Im not saying the latter is wrong,I just strive to be like dysons parents:-)
presence, not get into debates about religion with her, and/or etc. In return, at a family gathering, she may look the other way when her child tips a glass of wine to her lips, treat her child's unmarried or homosexual mate respectfully, attend a religious function at her child's religious institution, even though she fundamentally disagrees with the religion, etc etc etc. Point being that in the meantime, the only
they have elements in their lives that their parents dislike. It could be that they are homosexual, or they co-habitate outside of marriage, have kids outside of marriage, drink, don't attend church, attend a certain church - the list goes on and on. I know that in my family, out of respect for our mom, we may not bring alcohol to her home, sleep with our boyfriend in her home, do pda's with our homosexual lover in her
Ok - chick - I know that there are some bad parents in this world. But I'd like to think that most parents have their kids best interests at heart. Even though different parents believe different things, all tend to parent according to their belief system. I come from a big family - 10 kids - so I know from experience that although parents tend to parent as best they can while kids are young, when the kids become adults,
we dont want our kids to be teased so lets ..assimilate?kind of like why some perm their hair...to assimilate. if once every so often someone didnt think *outside* of "group think" -
we'd probably be set back 500 years on some..."massa made it illegal fo us to read so lets stay dis way fo' we get beat...we not suppose to vote so dont think about it...dont think outside of the bible,lest u be burned alive...and on and on..
most parents are sheeps and the childrens of sheep.
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ayoleeon26 1 month ago
Single mom psychology, seeks the spousification of male sons ...GREAT TITLE, says it all.. WATCH HERE: /watch?v=EeORJ0ICnRw
Drebln893 1 month ago
@Drebln893 ur wearing me out. Peace and Love
curlmebella 1 month ago
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SMDH!!! As a black parent..RUN from anything approved by white mainstream American media. RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK
Drebln893 2 months ago
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. -Proverbs 22:6 ...Go read some Solomon, get some wisdom, seriously.
Drebln893 2 months ago
@Drebln893 So ur parents trained u to be heterosexual I take it?
curlmebella 1 month ago
Children are children...Parents are adults (you would think). You have a son, you raise him to be a male adult, like wise a daughter to be a female adult. Children are not prepared or equiped with adult knowledge to guide their own actions. Women think it's cute to raise boys like girls...
Drebln893 7 months ago
@Drebln893 I dont think there is anything cute about it. Ive known heterosexualswhos mothers put them in dresses when they were infants for whatever reason and they turned out heterosexual. I think thats strange. Its not adult to tell a person how u feel abturself,if a girl says I love barbies mommy and I want to be a ballerina when I grow up people view it as normal, somehow when a boy says it he's making adult decisions&talking abt things hecouldnt possibly have knowledge abt, really?
curlmebella 1 month ago
@curlmebella ...Please spare me the 'are you a parent' distraction talk. Next you will probably find a way to desperately play the 'are you a woman, have you ever given birth' card. No wonder young western black males of the past decade are an absolute mess. Here is a video I think you should pay attention too before even replying to anything. I'm disgusted by this sickening propaganda. /watch?v=EeORJ0ICnRw
Drebln893 1 month ago
Bad parenting...period. Supose this child started molesting the house pet...thats the sons choice right?
Drebln893 7 months ago
@Drebln893 OMG really? Yes I have a son and I raise him to be the best person he can be. I have no power over him becoming a man,thats genetics, just like if he felt he were a woman, that would be in his genetics as well. We all start out as girls and depending on the bath of hormones we recv in the womb we either remain women or extend a certain organ(if u know what I mean) maybe they should sue the dr. for not providing the right type of prenatal vitamins.lol
curlmebella 2 months ago
@curlmebella -Shame on you. You are a prime example of a woman that thinks it's cute when boys act effeminate. Princess boy garbage. Rather than raising boys skilled at technology, sciences and innovative thinking, you green light putting them in dresses because it's "what he wants". What has genetics got to do with a boy emulating a girl or some imagery he has seen, what nonsense. Children will emulate anything, you..ADULT...set them "straight". Ow the irony...smh!
Drebln893 2 months ago
@Drebln893 I take it u dont have children. People without children have all the answers for all the ills of parenting. Should,Always,Will, wont, just arent in a parents language. You recv a child from God and do the best u can within the context of what u know, what u learn and what the child brings to the table, period.
curlmebella 1 month ago
@Drebln893 r u serious, cmon
curlmebella 1 month ago
@curlmebella ..What do you mean "are you serious", I'm dead serious, you want to follow nonsense...follow it through. I repeat, supose this boy decides to start molesting the house pet, isn't that his sexual choice? Why should you correct/INFRINGE the boy if that is how the he wants to express his sexuality? Afterall, there are men and women who have sexual relations with animals. Why do you have a problem with it, if that is how he opts to express his sexuality from a young age?
Drebln893 1 month ago
U're such an intelligent person
ieurope 1 year ago
No one can really say unless they are in that situation. However I'd so want to protect my child as much as I could and only allow him to wear it at home. We can all learn from this story. Three things you said sum it up for me and that was love, acceptance and inclusion!
KandieeCurls 1 year ago
I felt as if it would be better at home or in a more casual environment, also that the parents should have been protecting him more and not flaunting him around on national tv. But I can see that as you said there is enough hate and harm in the world going on already. No need to battle the child over such a minor thing. If it makes him happy and his school accepts him dressed as a princess boy then it works out for them.
KandieeCurls 1 year ago
I thank you so much for doing a video on this topic. I don't have children but after watching the video on GMA I had a strong onion. Over time and after looking at the situation from different perspectives I am a bit more open minded. I have always thought that the child's creativity should be encouraged and embraced. I just felt that school was not the appropriate place to allow such attire.
KandieeCurls 1 year ago
hey Curlmebella, I forgot to mention that I love the "spike" of gray in the front of your hair, it looks very good! I also like that you use your channel to address varying issues/topics for discussion. Keep up the great videos.
LandOPhile 1 year ago
Good morning! I've really enjoyed talking to u this weekend. It's been a while. N T Way - I justed wanted to say - your channel - your last word! I really appreciate u going outta your way to share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences and always look forward to what u have to say, whether I agree or not. So thanx for all u do!
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
I feel like I wouldn't want to have a boy OR girl who wanted to be into girlie girlie stuff! but i agree that you need to let the kid express themselves within appropriate boundaries.
olamina 1 year ago
I wonder if this issue has more to do with our ideas about the feminine. I mean why is it ok for a girl to dress and act like a boy at that age (we call them tomboys) but not ok for boys to dress like girls? I wonder if there is this underlying belief that the feminine is inferior to the masculine. I mean, if someone calls u girly or says u do something like a girl...its an insult! Why is being like a girl or dressing like a girl such an insult in our society? That's something to think about.
traviesadelmundo 1 year ago 2
@curlmebella I meant that parents look the other way when it comes to things that their adult children do. I think that parents should address whatever issues their minor children face. Hopefully, parents will address the issues of their minor children in a manner that will allow the parents to yes, look away, once the children become adults and make their own decisions.
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus Ah but there in lies the rub, alot of parents(and Im not saying u)look the other way when they are young and go into denial abt things they dont want to believe or deal with about their children. Im sure u know, as do I, plenty of families that had little bobby that everyone knew was gay but nobody talked abt it,made excuses for why he never had girlfriends and still hoped and encouraged heterosexual lifestyle to him and then when he brings his male"roommate"to family gatherings
curlmebella 1 year ago
yup.i agree with raising a child to love themselves- which avoids a whole slew of problems as they get older/accepting ur child for who they are and not be in denial
RootsRunDeeep 1 year ago
thing parents can do is what most of us have always done - raise our kids according to what we believe is right in general and right for them. Then hope for the best. Thanx for putting yourself out there for a very interesting discussion!
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus - ur absolutely right, that is what most parents do. I just felt this kids parents deserved to be commended instead of ridiculed because they choose to look at their kid head on, acknowledge him, and move fwd as a family as opposed to the usual denial and then look the other way technique.
curlmebella 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus they act like he is just bobby's good friend and make no acknowledgement of the true nature of their relationship even if bobby and his"roommate"have been together for 10yrs or more.lolThats what Im talking abt.I just thought it was great for these parents to reallydeal the reality of the situation as opposed to that whole"we wont stop loving u but we wont acknowledge or accept all of u either" scenario. Im not saying the latter is wrong,I just strive to be like dysons parents:-)
curlmebella 1 year ago
presence, not get into debates about religion with her, and/or etc. In return, at a family gathering, she may look the other way when her child tips a glass of wine to her lips, treat her child's unmarried or homosexual mate respectfully, attend a religious function at her child's religious institution, even though she fundamentally disagrees with the religion, etc etc etc. Point being that in the meantime, the only
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
they have elements in their lives that their parents dislike. It could be that they are homosexual, or they co-habitate outside of marriage, have kids outside of marriage, drink, don't attend church, attend a certain church - the list goes on and on. I know that in my family, out of respect for our mom, we may not bring alcohol to her home, sleep with our boyfriend in her home, do pda's with our homosexual lover in her
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
Ok - chick - I know that there are some bad parents in this world. But I'd like to think that most parents have their kids best interests at heart. Even though different parents believe different things, all tend to parent according to their belief system. I come from a big family - 10 kids - so I know from experience that although parents tend to parent as best they can while kids are young, when the kids become adults,
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
we dont want our kids to be teased so lets ..assimilate?kind of like why some perm their hair...to assimilate. if once every so often someone didnt think *outside* of "group think" -
we'd probably be set back 500 years on some..."massa made it illegal fo us to read so lets stay dis way fo' we get beat...we not suppose to vote so dont think about it...dont think outside of the bible,lest u be burned alive...and on and on..
most parents are sheeps and the childrens of sheep.
*rolls eyes*
RootsRunDeeep 1 year ago
@RootsRunDeeep exactly, Im so happy for thinking outside the box mofo's.lol
curlmebella 1 year ago
"he can't worship satan", i had to lol :) you have expressed yourself and opinions extremely well. i agree with you!
louloumatou 1 year ago
Well Stated!!
Curliegirl71 1 year ago