Is My Girlfriend Using Me Or Is Her Love Real?

[Cap285]

Using you.

Next question.

[jjtiojohn12]

I was in that same situation, only she couldnt stop talking about how her ex cheated on her. but I stayed around and comforted her as a friend and told her i was there when she needs me but I had to set those bounderies too! so that i didnt get the broken end of the stick! just stick it out! and she will realize she has a true man on her hands! and she will love you even more simply because you stuck around and helped her deal with her loss.

[Sean021122]

@jjtiojohn12 That's where you made your mistake. don't ever let her continue to talk about a past relationship. Change the subject and do not become that emotional safety blanket. Otherwise what follows you aren't going to like much or escape anytime soon :P You need to help her focus on 'you' and not any one from the past. Just the fact she is so hyperfocused on others is a hrash reminder she doesn't feel enough or anything for you.

[jjtiojohn12]

I was in that same situation, only she couldnt stop talking about how her ex cheated on her. but I stayed around and comforted her as a friend and told her i was there when she needs me but I had to set those bounderies too so that i didnt get the broken end of the stick! just stick it out! and she will realize she has a true man on her hands! and she will love you even more simply because you stuck around and helped her deal with her loss.

[klined]

Typical erratic female behavior. None of this matters if you just hit it and go about your business.

[Sean021122]

@klined Nothing matters for you because you are forever going to be a sexist idiot who fools himself into thinking he is whole and complete. But will inevitably feel empty and meaningless when faced with the reality of never experiencing true love.

[jacjaccherry]

the "arthur" or author? immediately you are moronic.

[zxcvbnmjhgfdsa1]

@jacjaccherry she said it correctly. People have to show they have real emotions because serious people are boring. Have you never seen Arthur, its probably the most popular kids show of all time.

[Marlowann]

If someone's love is genuine then it will cause them to behave consistently, because love is consistent. Anything less consistent is just affection and attraction. There's a difference between love and affection.

Mixed signals is never a good thing.

[zxcvbnmjhgfdsa1]

@Marlowann Love is consistent but people never are which is why couples without living together, money or time problems still fight.

[Marlowann]

That's a very good point. I suppose I should specify that people who have genuine love will behave *more* consistently.

[MysteriousDrella]

To not lose the other one... it's hard to understand, if u never been with a depressed person, or suffered from depression. Also depression makes people doubt about things, they can't stay focused, they feel ugly,... and no matter what other people say, they will not believe a boyfriend who gives compliments. they need therapy and time and medication

[MysteriousDrella]

it's another thing... if she has a depression, like Jen said. Depression is mostly:not feeling any feelings, feeling alone, not feeling loved and u don't love yourself as well.People say: if u don't love yourself, u can't love others.And usually a depression will make her to want to be alone,to not want him take part of her problems. because, be fair, most guys don't want a girl with a depression/psychiatric problems.People with depression can't enjoy sex usually,they do it to please the other.

[zxcvbnmjhgfdsa1]

@MysteriousDrella you mean they cant enjoy sex when their depressed or all the time

[HoratioNel]

Is he just a utensil or is it the real McCoy? Now let's take the Clintons as a case in point. Well, we don't know exactly whether she constantly kicks HIM out or vice versa. And where does the kick impact? So, I've been observing his front side and her backside. Kicks usually land there. Neither he nor she is flat on the respective location. So their love IS real! By the way, "frogicus" is right. What the blazes ARE Jenn & Dan sipping? Bile can be green or yellow..

All the best,

Horatio Nelson

[Tylmarande14]

just fuck the hell out of her all she wants is a fuckbuddy..er and,..uhm..just fuck her..

[frogicus]

What are they drinking...?Windex? As for the guys "problem" I'll play a small violin for the guy complaining about a "f^*k buddy"...what a douche.The chick obviously just wants some action.Nail her or tell her to pound sand if you want more and she doesn't. And also why is he asking the people drinking windex?

[3sweetangels09]

I love this shit! finally the roles are switched for once!! LOL

[Sproeikoei]

Haha you´re pathetic. Because girls whine about every ex and say: He used me, just because girls want attention. Doesn't mean guys REALLY get used. You girls always want US to pay everything, do everything for you.

If there's one thing i've learned, then it's certainly:

If girls ask you to do something for them, remind them of emancipation. They wanted rights to do the same as males. Then let them.

[bjackrose]

This guy who wrote in is a complete pussy. Bone that ho and get the hell out. Don't stick with a broad very long unless you enjoy an aging, saggy boobs, crow's feet, turkey necked woman. Men of means only take young and hot women.

[Marlowann]

Until you're about 65. Then you'd have to pay for them. Right?

You're pathetic. A true man is not so carnally minded, but rather he thinks and acts in righteousness; you think about sex so much that you've let it turn you into an animal, and animals are lowly and, as I said before, pathetic.

[bjackrose]

I can tell a "woman" wrote this. Truth hurts.

[Marlowann]

LOL!! What the hell are you talking about, I'm a dude!

Seriously, I wonder what people like you do when you get old, while the rest of us make something profound out of our lives and don't live off of sex.

[zxcvbnmjhgfdsa1]

@Marlowann no free sex consenting sex from a lover might as well tell your sister never to eat chocolate.

[Murphator]

YOU"RE WATING YOUR TIME!!!!! see if she feels for you and if not, get back to YOU"RE life, and if you don't have a life, go over when it's convenient FOR YOU!

[ace1two2]

Just fuck the girl and dont bother to ask. If you both enjoy it, then who cares?

[noggin1234567890]

lmfaoo

[fantasyformyman]

well all she wants is a fuck buddy thats it

[michellehunter13]

hey have they kissed dan and jen they look like a cute cupple ha

[adamrain12346]

consider the term narsstic npd or using other guys too (serch npd on google if u dono)

[supercomet32]

most likely she's using you...two ways you can tell one she has tits and two she's breathing...if she is either or both of these chances are your being used

[Njoydancing]

Damned Skippy Bro!!!

[j4gwire]

Hard for guys to do. Heh heh, you got that right.

[mischatal]

Just using you until Mr right comes along. She might even like you enough to feel guilty at times.

[cherrylips07]

I asked the same Q about my x.

[Orion8888]

can't trust women. that's that.

[Astiria1]

Very cynical. Some women are trust worthy.

[gossamerwindweb]

I really hope that you end up happy. This sounds like a very frustrating situation and I'm sorry :(

[Synbios459]

Sounds like a psycho clingy chick, stay the fuck away!

[Antichrys]

agreed....stay the fuck away. It will eventually become a living hell! (yes I realize the irony of my sn)

[KevinQ]

Lol this was an interesting topic. But maybe you guys forgot that maybe she really does like him but is just scared of commitment due to some past problems. The guy should try and find the source of that problem before he stops the spontaneous nightly visits in my opinion.

[DanAndJenn]

Yeah... She's obviously got issues. I can speak to this from experience. I've been that girl and I really hurt a really nice guy. I just couldn't commit because I was hung up on a past relationship.

She's needs to get past here issues and be honest with him.

Maybe he can help her - but only if she wants help.

[TsarObezyanka]

Are you too a married a couple Dan and Jennifer? Like you to married to each other?.

[Sean021122]

@DanAndJenn Girls hung up on past relationships = doomed to fail future ones.

[Sean021122]

@KevinQ My experience is when a girl appears to be afraid of committment, it is more a sign of her not being totally sure of th eperson she is trying to committ to. Not as much an indication of he rpast experiences. Moreso a blatant reminder that if you don't continue to elicit the 'right feelings' in her all these 'fears' and problems will rear their ugly head.