My Name Is Chris

[jdl1992justin]

@menspeakout Thanks I can't say anything else.

[KarenSacandy]

I appreciate every man who tells his story of boyhood abuse, because every one of them tells me something about it a little differently, or a little different, than the other men have told me. Describing the need for approval as a drug was a new take on themes I have heard before.

Many thanks for shedding more light on the inner life of survivors of boyhood abuse.

Karen

[XsoEmiXD]

You are very brave and courageous ! Wow , and yeah I experience panic attacks , but it is just because I'm pretty sensitive , and things get to me very easily .... but this is a very inspiring story and I wish all luck to you ...

[webrooter57]

Hello Chris;

My name too is Chris. Incredible courageous video that's heartfelt. I cried when I watched this. Your so very lucky too have a loving compassionate wife to help sustain you. I've lived for 33 years as a Asexual/Heterosexual man living the aftermath of a horrid gang-rape & torture at gunpoint. Strange though I still feel like a victim rather than a survivor. Your video is profoundly reflective. Much appreciation. Fraternally; Chris

[nancydahlhauser]

After watching Chris's video, I was inspired to make my own. It was an amazing experience. Very theraputic. Thank you, Chris and Ophelia. Wishing you peace of mind on your journeys of healing.

[lalaland1435]

Thank you for making this video. It had been so hard for me. I was afraid to tell. Menspeakout, if you would like to watch the video about my story, I made a video response. If anyone is being abused, you're not alone. Tell someone. God bless you Chris. :)

[AdiaGirl]

It's so hard to speak out and tell the world your story. I understand this (having gone through it myself), and I commend you. Please know that when you get past the anger, you are truly free... it took Me 38 years to get to that point, and only now I am free. I wish you all the best on your journey. Love, laugh, be happy.

[shevacross]

thankyou for the video, and speaking out, and encouraging and empowering others to do the same, i,m sharing this thru my groups

[cheekypants321]

is anyone else here because of kelly?

[ritta87]

thanks for you video. I am survivor too.

[NissaLotus]

Thank you Chris for your bravery and for sharing your courageous, healing story!

[youthfulheart]

YOUR NOT ALONE ANYMORE.. Hi, I am youthfulheart. Still working on my journey. I have been to five survivor retreats. I belong to a mens group of survivors that meet every other weekends... I also was invited to the Oprah Show and stood with 199 other brothers... to end the insanity... Julian

[GabrielleCarbonneau]

You are a brave, beautiful man and it sounds like you have an amazing wife. You deserve happiness. I'm a survivor too and I thank you for posting this. God bless!

[JarrodNoftsger]

Thanks for the inspiration Chris.

[keithsmithnj]

Break the Silence. At age 14, I was abducted, beaten and sexually assaulted by a previously convicted pedophile. He never went to trial because he was brutally beaten to death in the streets of Providence, RI in 1975. No one has been charged with his murder. For 34 years, less than a dozen people knew my story. Now the story of my abduction, beating and sexual assault followed by the unsolved brutal murder of my assailant is a novel. Men in My Town by Keith Smith available now at Amazon.

[note4mark]

THANK YOU for sharing yourself! I'm dumbstruck with the beauty of your presentation, and the truth you have voiced.

I also am a sexual abuse survivor, of maternal incest. I'm 40; for most of my working life I have been a teacher. I am being led to still educate, but this time about the unseen, soul-killing plague of incest that has decimated and twisted so many, many lives in our world.I want to spend the rest of my life reaching out to others, particularly those who want to just end it all.

[MsJehni]

amazing :)

[secretsofwar10]

congrats man, your strong

[joannekaminski]

You rock!! Things like this are not easy to do and I applaud you for stepping out there and doing it.

[mjodat1]

brings up emotion awareness of the struggle to recover from this abuse

[bensonevans]

Incredible, poignant, moving, informative, empowering, and very much needed. Thank you for being open and sharing. Men can survive, be strong, and live a wonderful life. But, we need to teach our sons that this can happen. Beware!

[saintgail]

Thanks for sharing your courageous video.

[cheekyleopard]

Wow, i get upset everytime i watch this video.

Upset that you didnt get the childhood you deserved. Im sorry.

Yet whatever i do .....i cant find that same compassion for myself, however hard i try.

Ive never been once upset that my whole life has been (and will be) destroyed by my abuse as a child,

Stay strong.

[mrchloe]

lets hear it for the guys. :-) there is life after recovery. if only the rest of the world could recover too....

[Rossdhu16]

This was such a moving video. You did a wonderful job. Thank you for posting this very important message. I am also a survivor, please check out Marital Sexual Assault on my channel. God Bless you.

[agooddame]

i watch this every so often. i love how it addresses many aspects, including how the world sees survivors, the global scale of the problem, and the hope. thanks much.

[smo1765]

everytime i watch this video i cry it hits too close to home

[dutchkevin90]

I love this video so much.

It gives me hope, thank you.

[1212lacoma]

I never told until I proposed to my wife. I debated for a week and finally decided to let her know all of who I am. She took my hand and pulled me close and said whatever you need, whoever you are she would be there to share and support. Im 26 and have been married for 3 years. Life is sweet when you let go and give in to love. Time may heal but love will change you.

[menspeakout]

Thank you for posting this, for sharing and giving others hope. So glad that you are healing on your journey.

-Ophelia

[EdM021]

Thank you for sharing.

[IrelandRingAw]

oh god..this made me cry, i dont even have words to describe this cause it's so beautiful yet sad at the same time...thanks for posting this, i'm 15 and i really feel stronger with this vid you showed me there's something else out there and that we all have a happy life ahead. no matter what happened to us. thank you

[c15art]

Thanks

[keithsmithnj]

Break the Silence. At age 14, I was abducted, beaten and sexually assaulted by a previously convicted pedophile. He never went to trial because he was brutally beaten to death in the streets of Providence, RI in 1975. No one has been charged with his murder. For 34 years, less than a dozen people knew my story. Now the story of my abduction, beating and sexual assault followed by the unsolved brutal murder of my assailant is a novel. Men in My Town by Keith Smith available now at Amazon

[sisterelena]

Dear Chris,

Thank you for your courage and strength in standing up, speaking out and breaking the silence. You are doing your bit to make the world a better place. Thank you for speaking out about the after-effects too. I am also a survivor and have struggled with serious mental health issues throughout my life on account of the abuse. I would like to say "but that is not all I am". However, I do feel damaged and defined by the abusive childhood experiences. The pain lives on and life is tough.

[LittleStarShineMyr]

i am survivior....BUT THAT IS NOT ALL I AM

thank you

[oribear]

I'm not much of a man when it comes to emotional stuff but this made me sad & teary eyed. You are without a doubt one of the bravest men I have ever come across. You have my full respect.

[Ritercrazy]

Wow you're strong, brave man, Chris. so very brave. I'm crying, seeing the photos of you hurt. My throat tightens up just writing this. I'm so glad you can smile, and see more to yourself than the abuse.

I was sexually tortured as a 9 yr old girl. I understand the horror you suffered thru; I understand how it was for me.

It's good you tell others there's a light at the end of the tunnel. A good light, one that won't hurt them, nor run them over. Thank you for your bravery.

[steom888]

sexual abuse is the murder of the soul, I am dead on the inside.

[pumpkins189]

Abuse is ...... hard to deal with. I was abused by my father, mother, and older sister. I'm only now looking in the direction of healing, and it looks like an extremely scary road.

[atozinco]

It's a disturbing, very unsettling video - yet I loved also how you put holiday/happy pictures on it near the end. Well done. Thank you for sharing this video.

[menspeakout]

Thank you for your comment. The pictures at the end were a way of showing that my abuse does not define who I am. There is help for those who have experienced abuse and light at the end of the tunnel. We are not alone.

[cluedout]

Wonderful!

[willastro06]

Great video. I believe that one of the debilitating factors of being sexual abused is the feeling of loneliness and isolation. You feel that no one understand what you've been through and you suffer alone. It is important that male victims of sexual abuse speak out and share their survival stories. It would help in the healing process. May God bless you and all victims of sexual abuse. Sexual abusers must be stopped and victims must learn to recover.

[IAmTheTragedy]

Serious respect for posting this vid. Male and female survivors should not be viewed differently, we all hurt and we all need help and support. I really hope you are doing well

[Dhirasanta]

This film is life enriching and changing and it inspires me and gives me hope. Survivors need to speak out, come out and share that we are entitled to process our pain and hurt and that we are intolerant of a world which somehow relegates child abuse as a problem thats not as bad as it is. It is!

[jcubmsp]

This is a great video! As someone who was abused, i feel comfort in watching this

[survivoroftrauma]

i feel less alone when watching this!

[jcubmsp]

Your not alone. I was abused too.

[mariporraloka]

This is so beautiful. Thank you

[TissueRejection]

I can totally relate, thanks for making this.

[koalastephanie]

You are very courageous and brave. Love this video:)

[kressrises]

thank you, you helped me

[julianamercy]

OMG, what a beautiful thing you did! God bless you!

[fuckyourunning4040]

The feelings are right on the spot man great job....i just need to share my story now which is hard to do....and i dont think i can do it......thank you for the video though

[soulardbill]

Thank you !

[cptait101]

Thankyou.

Peace and love.

xoxo

:-)

[vloom00]

Powerful, moving and hopeful. Words cannot express. Thank you.

[iamheok]

Thank you for sharing your story so others can find healing. It is a hard and brave act. I was the first person my husband ever told of his sexual abuse. It had been 28 yrs. since his abuse first began that he shared this. He is healing. It is a painful process, but he is finding freedom hes never known before. Thank you again.

[ladysongbird32]

excellent video!!!!

[jesmalu]

wow what an amazing video. so strong with those words.

[HOURGLASSCORSETLASS]

It's so sad that there are so many that have been sexually abused. I am female, but the feelings you shared...well, I felt them too! I admire your courage & bravery in sharing your experience with others. I am so sorry you had to endure these things in your life. My thoughts are with you. Warmest regards.

[menspeakout]

I think often about men and women who have been abused and how sometimes we feel like we need to separate ourselves from each other to find peace. The first time I stood up on a stage and told of my abuse was after seeing a line of brave women tell their story. I was inspired and I felt so much like they did. We are too much alike to heal apart. So we should heal together.

[Ithica87]

I admire your courage. That's a really good point, we should heal together.

[slimgirl9]

great video

[reVerse2bfree]

Very well conveyed difficult topic. Well done.

Thanks for sharing. Have faved

[cacofonico74]

anger, rage explosions, outburst of obscenities, panic attacks, shame feelings, suicide fantasies, masochist fantasies, sense of being worthless, inadequacy, claustrophoby, agoraphobia, my sexuality is dirty and to be avoided

[menspeakout]

I see in myself most of the things you mentioned and many things you didn't. We avoid our sexuality because it is so closely linked to our trauma. It can and will change when we decide to speak out about our abuse. Therapy has been very useful for me. Thank you for being so honest about your feelings. It is a first step.

[MyOwnStickFigure]

What a beautiful response and so spot on true. I came here to thank Chris for the courage it took to make this video. What you are doing, speaking up, is great. We can't heal until we acknowledge what is real and with time comes change... I can relate to this video. I needed to see this tonight, thank you.

[ThisGuyWhichIsMe]

I don't know what more I can sey to You.

God Bless You. Be Brave.

[mi pur english]

[cheekyleopard]

Thats very brave to put a video on you-tube.

Respect to you.I can relate.

[bdr1977]

You're a hero, bro. Great vid

[iraqidolphin]

It's great. Thank you.

[seanetal]

You are also a hero...

I am a male survivor of sexual abuse.

[menspeakout]

Thank you.

[silentscars024]

good for you for speaking out!

thank you. and good luck to you<3

[YTPedophileAlert]

Thank you so much for this. It explained so much to me.

[menspeakout]

Thanks everyone for all the great comments! It was hard to put out, but worth it. Cheers.

Chris

[nikeeweston]

pure love at the end...thank you...peace love happiness chris xxxxxx liz

[VioletLeaves]

Thanks for making this! Yes we must break the silence!

[Boredmonkey]

Incredible and powerful video. Thanks for sharing Chris.

[Lunaintheclouds]

A very moving video and well done.

[dreamtravel101]

How inspiring!

Thanx Chris for sharing.

[letalotchit]

Thank you Chris, this is inspiring.

[notasouthernbelle]

Oh Chris, thank you for sharing! You (and Ophelia) mean so much to me and you did a wonderful job putting this video together. I admit I cried tears of empathy but this may help others to come forward and share. <3

[sexyrican28]

This was a very touching video.I'm sorry that happened to you.I'm a girl and it happened to me too.You are so courageous to share this with others and breaking the silence is the only way to help others and slowly heal.Thank You

[natureconspires]

How beautiful.

It's time to break the silence everyone.

Time to LIVE.

<3

Thank you for sharing this.

[karbunkledude]

thanks for sharing this