i find that if im stressed between poeple my eyes messes up like i dont know where too look i always have the feeling poeple watches me and then they think im weird or whatever they think about me...
your like mu biggest fan right now i feel exactly the same except to walk in front to turn in homework i always hate it but poeple like you helps poeple like me and other social anxiety poeple so thanks for the vidoe you defnintely have more guts than me
wow, i am the exact same, you covered EVERYTHING. every single thing you said is exactly spot on for me. All 8 minutes and 11 seconds, it was like listening to myself explain how i feel. I know i have anxiety, but my face gets REALLY red too. My hands and even feet are always sweaty if im awake (when im asleep my hands are perfectly dry). I have a select few, i think just immediate family, that i can talk to without worry, but for everyone else, I sweat, face red, and heart/adrenaline pumping :(
Anyone tried meds and therapy? Ive had some good success with this combination. Also, all you social anxiety sufferers should come and talk to us other on Mapofmates.
I was the exact same way in elementary and middle school now. Today (24 now) it's not as bad, but I still observe before I decide to approach people and I still stiff up around large crowds of people or when I feel like I'm being watched. Recently, I realize my Musophobia (fear of house mice only) steams from social anxiety because I always saw my room as this safe comfortable indestructible fortress than even Galactus couldn't penetrate and a mouse one day made his way in.
I was the same way in middle school. You're probably a smart guy and deserve better. I'm 16 and have taken medication for a year now. im still a quiet guy, but more relaxed. now i can be a jokester lol. Im Dead Serious I Use To Be Like That Until I Went To A Psychiatrist, Got My Crap And Found A Good Environment (performing arts hs). I Know How You Feel I Sometimes Have Random Anxiety Attacks (fight or flight). Small Steps man! I Know, It Takes Alot of Willpower.
I know how you feel. I haven't been diagnosed but all the symptoms I have. It really makes it hard to go through life when everybody's excelling and we're held back by a stupid mental problem. I'm only in highschool but it makes even the simplest things impossible. Take care.
Just wanted to let you know that nobody of the people you have seen who are being given medicine for the disorder, get's just the medicine, there is always also a psycho therapy going on in treatment as wll, which I would actually suggest to you too...take care
began college after a two long summers alone after graduating high school. I just found out i have this, and getting up and talking is literally the most fucking scary thing in the world for me right now. It makes me so sick that I cannot even speak, breath, or move. My body trembles and and I feel faint like im about to throw up. I hate this sooo much I want to cry.
Silver fillings contain 50% mercury, if you have these in your mouth it is possible that they could be contributing to your symptoms. Many people have cured their depression and anxiety by having these silver amalgams removed and replaced with composites. The reason is, is that mercury really messes up the serotonin, dopamine function in your brain. Other symptoms are brain fog, tiredness. And many many many more.
the thing i hate most about my SAD is that when im at highchool and they release kids to lunch, i go the bathroom and wait it out. id rather not eat then go through that nightmare everyday.
@buklao559 I used to have that same mentality but I decided that I would go in, keep my head up and distract myself with homework. Got me through the year. You need to face your fears at some point... Why not do it now?
i suffer with social anxiety. and i,ve recently been reading a book on phsycology. and i was reading a section explaining that we have two sides of our mind, theres an eperiential side and a rational side. and it made me realise that i,ve been listening to my experential side for so long that it convinced me a whole load of bullshit. and i totally forgot about rational thought. what you got to do is analyse the thoughts that precede your anxiety then with a positive spin you will realise the lie
damn dude your my new best friend! if i made a video about my social anxiety it would be exactly the same! god bless and i hope he cold cure mine and your social anxiety problems
i can't make eye contacts, hate talking to anyone and looking them in the eye, always feel like i look weird or my clothes look weird, i hate when someone looks at me i get panic attacks, sweat alot etc.
i like being alone and it just makes me feel great
Thank you sooo much for sharing that. I feel alot better knowing that i am not alone. I also have social anxiety disorder and have trouble talking to people and going in crowded places. My dads girlfriend and her 2 kids moved in. One of her kids is a year younger then me and i never ever talk to him and still dont and we all have been living in the same house for 2 years now. Almost 3 years. Her other son im pretty okay with though. And i dont talk to my dads girlfriend. So its awkward...
@ASHKtv You should take the time to practice being more social with the people you see everyday at home. It helps take the fear away and get a step closer to speaking to people out in public.
Bro try taking the medication, your fear is hard wired into your brain and its these pills that can rewire it (Laymans terms, it does not "change" how your brain is). Weed is a relaxing agent, you said it helps you, thats just a taste of what medication can do.
@xGHOSTXRECONx Meds may make you feel more confident and less anxious for a few hours but after they wear off, all of those feelings will start to settle back in. After several weeks or even months of taking them, you already would have become so reliant on them that they would be that much more difficult to live without.
Like any drug, they are a crutch. The only tangible cure that actually works is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or any other equal forms of therapy.
@ckkbleev That sounds a little odd considering the medications are meant to take weeks to work. and that the very purpose for them is to tackle the problem with the brain, not to mention I've only heard of one thats addictive and that does not sound appealing as that one does stop being effective the more you take it. You may know more than me, you have most likely tried many treatments and such, I only found out I had it a couple of days ago and I'm trying to go to the doctor.
@xGHOSTXRECONx I'm sorry to hear that you also suffer from this condition. From what I understand, medications are meant to help but you have to keep taking them to feel "normal" and once your body gets used to the dosages, you have to keep on increasing the amount that you take. The only effective form of treatment that I know of is therapy. Medications can give you a false sense of security but therapy can potentially free you from this nightmare.
@ckkbleev I'll see how it goes when I get to the doctor and get diagnosed, at least I might get something to cure the depression. It may just be wishful thinking on my part since medication is the only thing I have not tried yet (I refuse to turn to drugs or allow myself to become a alcoholic), maybe now that I know what I have there might be more options buts its still a little heart breaking to hear that medications may only make things worse.
@xGHOSTXRECONx To me, anything that isn't natural like putting drugs/meds into your body is never a good thing because naturally you start to rely on that kind of stuff too much. Natural things like social interaction, diet, exercise and therapy help to get your mind and body going. But whatever you choose, I wish you the best.
there are two way to overcome social anxiety. One is meditation(sit crosslegged say rising when your stomach rises and falling when it goes back in and instead of fighting for focus if your mind wanders let your mind wander than when the thought is over continue with rising and falling) and the other is constant hard work. examples of this is maintaining good grades in school working out like he said, anything that is a challenge to you. start with small ones nd work your way up. PM me questions
When I was a little little kid, like, 6-9 years old, I used to have half a dozen kids at my house, and whenever other parents wanted to know where their kids are, they just called my mom.
When I was 10, I was put down by idiots on skype video calls and bullies in real life, and always try to avoid people.
I have the same problem as you. I feel like my voice is too high, I might look fat, walk weird, and I always stutter while trying to talk to people.
Hey, I feel awkward doing a lot of stuff also bro. I know what you are going through. I have social anxiety disorder also... you said something about your voice.. I think my voice sounds wierd also... but I can tell you man there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with your voice bro. It sucks having this disorder because you want to do lots of things but its really hard to because everything you do in life involves social interaction. It sucks I know... message me man...I'm trying to defeat this. thx
I'm right there with you 100 percent. Even though this is a mental disorder, it feels like it's killing me. I had a job for a day and quit because it was all too much. Going through it alone is the worst. No one understands and everyone thinks you're just shy. They don't realize it's a debilitating disease that you have no control over.
i wonder how future schools will be...or life in general socializing. i think we should have our own group of buddies we're cooperate with and school with them and them alone..not around 500 students walking down the hall and cafeteria wondering what others think of you. don't adults realize this may be the obstacle preventing their child or student from getting a damn education?
it's really bad. I am starting college this fall and I'm full blown terrified to start simply because I am going to be extremely shy and friendless just like how I was through my 4 years of high school.I never went to a single school event or prom, stopped eating lunch in the cafeteria and hid myself in the school computer lab because of the fear of waiting in the lunch line or walking by the tables with people staring at u , too scared to participate in class, and cant talk to girls. fuck this
Wow, I can really relate to a lot of what you're saying. I've always been shy and introverted. The most simple tasks can be so difficult because of this anxiety. I've missed out on so many opportunities. Simple things like sitting in a class room are torture. Any social setting makes me uneasy, sometimes to the point of upsetting my stomach. It's a terrible way to live. I've never taken drugs..I just deal with it the best I can. Having people that understand you helps. I wish you the best.
Anxiety is crippling. i have social phobia and generalized anxiety disorder for years now and im still not better even when seeking treatment. Zoloft doesnt work at all. This disorder is pure torture
I'm extremely shy and I don't talk to much people 'cause I'm very introverted. I can relate to you so much but I don't know If I have SAD but I feel like I do. I feel like even when I'm around my classmates, they don't want to talk to me because they can see my awkwardness, It sucks so much! My family is no help because instead of encouraging me the right way to socialize, they will ridicule and make fun of me for being this way..
@xoiammaixoify I feel the exact same way when I'm around my co-workers. Sometimes I even start conversations and they continue while I stare in the background. It really does suck.
@ckkbleev i feel u bro tough times. i have this APD thing really bad. Im scared to b around my family.
Scared to look people in the eye. At hoome i dont comunicate with anyone at all. My voice is deep n noone ever understands my words. I have to say things over n over until they get it. Im not a family guy at all. I just seperate my self frm them. If the guys are goin out or smtn, im always seen as the lesser person.
@ThePirateCritic so u look sad in front of people sometimes? i do and its horrible i just dont want them to see like that. i have social anxiety and i been really depressed i had suicide thoughts no appetite no energy i dont feel like to do nothing i wish i can suck it up and be happy but its hard anyway i wish i could have friends like u guys. we would get along so well. i have just 2 friends and they are really getting tired of me, i dont know what im gonna do.
@mrchrmedone I used to get told i look sad, or mad a lot. I sometimes still do. But as i got a little older it's got a little better. And i can relate somewhat of what you're talking about, im sorry to hear that. And i bet we would. Sometimes what i would do is listen to my ipod when i went out and it seemed to help ma a lot. I also was a smoker then, and back then i used to think it was helping me, but in reality it was making me more stressed. I hope all the best for you!
ive had all the same thoughts as you man, its really hard :( its stopping me from living my life, going and getting a job, girlfriend, all that stuff that everyone around me has, i feel trapped and lost
@rx7187 same here. i been depressed later and i have social anxiety i feel so weird around people/ i think theyre all against that they talking crap about me. and i dont want people to see me sad. ive been staying at home a lot today i get to go with a doctor. my bf took me i was so uncortable i wanted to leave the place and just hide somewhere so people wont see me sad i recently had suicide thoughts and its horrible. i just dont know what to do with my life. it sucks
Wow! I'm exactly in the same boat. I just finished my high school and I remember those same situations, like walking into class or eating and thinking how you look...
How's your situation now? I've got better, because I have listened this great audio program of coping SA.
i find it hard to meet or greet new girls in at my age, iam 23, i look fine but i just need to try stepping to a girl, i always pusg myself to a point that i say i have other stuff to do than a girlfriend weil that is not true,
However iam not going to be told i have some disorder, it is called bieng shy i think
Dont you. Just feel weird... And like your all alone in this ? Well your not I am the same exact way... I would like to talk to you and be friends if youd like?
You are still braver than me, I actually fumble when making a video and freze up. So I bought a jason mask and started to make vids with it on. It made me a little more confident but u still eff up. My SA is so bad that I can't hold down a job. Xanax and clanazopem doesn't even work, only hard liquor!
How do we know that this stuff isn't appropriate? Cus other people aren't like this? I guarantee if everyone was like this everyone would feel comforatable around others even with being the same way. But my question is why does everyone have to be a certain way to be accepted? How is this SA inappropriate and not "normal" if we have the obvious ability to think about things or whatever in our heads causes our anxiety?
@dolfan6132 The masses of people who are seen as "normal" outnumber the amount of people who have SA simply because SA sufferers either try not to acknowledge that they have a problem or they know that they have a problem but are too ashamed or afraid to get help. It's not that we strive to become like the masses, it's that the masses have what we want which is comfort, confidence and freedom. That's what we want to achieve.
I have been suffering from social anxiety since i was 10 yrs old and im now 18, it wasnt as bad when i was younger but when i got in middle school and high school, it was really hard for me, but anyway im now out of high school, im not able to leave my house, i want to be able to go places and go to college but because of my social anxiety its really hard for me! So everything u describe in this video is how it is with me!
@hottie14389 It sounds like you've been through quite a bit. I hope that you're able to overcome this anxiety at least to the point where you feel that you could last a few years in college so you would be able to land a great job one day. My mistake is not going to college right out of high school. But there are many different treatment options out there that have been proven to work.
@ckkbleev Yeah i been through alot, im just tired of this, it seems to be getting worse day by day. Im not able to work or anything, its just really bad!
@hottie14389 Watch my video titled "I'm Back..." and in it, I talk about a video that I think all SA sufferers should watch. It pretty much covers everything there is to know about SA.
I think i developed this when I was a toddler. I depended on other's criticism for the way I talked, thought and did things. Sometimes i did things and i didnt know why i was doing them until i realized that i was doing things under the criticism that i listen. I was unaccepting myself but know i accept the fact that im socially anxious. it makes me feel better about myself when i admit it to people. I studied psychology, sociology and NLP on my own to learn why i think this way.
Hi I'm a new subscriber and I really like your videos they always make me smile:) I also have social anxiety disorder. I was bullied in high school by boys I never even talked to, because of this I was afraid to go to college so I took a year off after I graduated from high school. I finally got the courage to tell my doctor about it. I am going to see a therapist next month. I hope therapy helps me before I start my first year of college this September. Getting a job made things worse for me:/
Haha dude! It was like watching myself. Everything you described, every opinion you had, (especially the drug part) were the same as me.. I'm 16, got fired from my first job because of my Social anxiety, and it's also stopping me from doing things like getting my license, doing well in school ect ect. Glad to see someone who has the same experiences. :)
hey i totally get you, i'm 21 right now i still feel that way in college, but right now i have to have faith in myself to get passed that to move on with my life, and hopefully you get passed that as well and good luck with your life's journey toward happiness!
Great video man.. U described me perfect except i blush all the time too even if its around my family.. I cant handle group situations so I always try my hardest to get out of them.. Alcohol helps but I know in the long run im practicly killing myself! HELP ME
Sorry I accidentally posted that without finishing. Wow, you've made HUGE jump in progress from the video I just watched and this one. You are like a totally different person, idk how you could push through all that. I look forward to watching you other videos. I hope all is well. I just can't get over how different you are in this one than the other, in a good way that is.
You are telling the story of my life,,, except i just got fired from the jobs because people thought I was weird, but really it was just the anxiety.......... Mine didn't start until college. But I honestly do not see any reason for you to feel that way you seem awesome!!!!!! take care.
@l0stlin3s it sounds like you have something called "general social anxiety disorder". From what I've read, it usually develops later in life. I'm sure that there is a great job out there for you.
Do you try to hide your anxiety? Do you fight it to feel better? This would make it worse. Let it out and don't be afraid to show it. You're nervous because you worry people learn about it. Show it to them. Let them know about it. Then you won't be nervous or worried in social situations.
I have social anxiety, currently studying Psychology in college. It has gotten better with exposure and therapy. I've decided to specialized in SAD and make the world aware of it. My professors didn't even talk about this when we studied anxiety disorder even though it's in the book.
You're very brave. I have some of your symptoms too, I actually went to a point that I limped lightly, so people couldn't judge how I walk because it looked as if I had an injury, and it became a natural reflex and even now it still happens that I limp when there's too much people. piece of advice: try martial arts, any. Just the fact of going there, trying not to look like a fool is hard, but it gives you a challenge, and you'll gradually get over that, and it'll also charge up your self-esteem
you have trouble in social situations.. but you made a video that got over 30,000 views. does that mean you are now freaking out ;) good video thanks.
Not that long ago, my symptoms were worse. I didn't even know I had the disorder until this year. I feel you, man. I fucking hate this disorder. I blame my parents for being over protective of me as child. Assholes..
Just wanted to tell you that I'm in the same boat. I had to drop out of college, and I can't hold on to a job. I'm trying to work on it but it's a slow process. No drugs for me either. Sending you light and love.
'am i chewing right?'' LOL'd i feel ya, i am the exact same, eating, walking, posture, the way i look, analysing everything i do, unable to keep eye contact, thx 4 the video.
I really wish I had friends that had social anxiety, or maybe a girlfriend that had it. At least someone who was supportive or was supportive in the way of having the same illness. My mom doesn't believe that there is a such thing as social anxiety. She thinks everybody has a level of being nervous about certain social situations. Being nervous about some things is not social anxiety. It doesn't even come close. It just sucks because I feel like i'm in this by myself.
Please read the book: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. A society where people put a smile on and act nice, but the truth is different, and the vibes they send out, you feel. So in reality you are an Empat. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not understand this, and only offer extrovert solutions, like talking to others about it. Read the books and get your own answers.
Ah man, I got some major s.a issues. Sometimes I look at it as a curse and a blessing. I'm a musician and I rely on my s.a to help me write and compose. It's sort of like an advantage. At the same time I have to then deal with the more sinister side of it.
Ya, basically I just pray to the Lord. He gets me through it.
I`m glad you took this video on youtube its good to see that you re not alone. Its a bad thing to have social anxiety cause you can t do the things you really want to do. Its hard but never give up.
I planed to write some longer commnent but than i sow your other videos and you seem much better.
I think the main problem for this is low self confidence. Did you go to some psychotherapy and if you did what did psychotherapist tald you about self confidence.
you did very brave and smart thing when you made htis video.
what's so terrible is that there is a severe lack of awareness about this disorder.....it's not commonly known to people yet it's SO UNBELIEVABLY crippling to those who have it. i couldn't go to college because of it. costing me a ton of missed opportunities and of course the chance to further my education.....
@TheDowntown86 I couldn't agree more. I went straight to work after graduating high school because I didn't want to go through another 2-4 years of presentations, reports, but most importantly, my anxiety. We've both missed out on many, many opportunities.
@TheDowntown86 I have a PhD in psychology and I am working on a video series about how to overcome social anxiety. You should check out my channel. I think you will find it helpful.
@TheDowntown86 I have a PhD in psychology and I am working on a video series about how to overcome social anxiety. You should check out my channel. I think you will find it helpful.
the medication. believe it or not, the medication that is used for disorders such as anxiety, depression, etc., really does change your brain chemistry and thus actually helping to change the way you think. it's an accumalitive process, once you start taking it it just works more and more over time, there's no real temporary about it. so if i had to say one thing, sometimes medicine can be a great solution. i know it worked for me ( i take lexapro). but whatever you decide to do, good luck :)
i TOTALLY know where you're coming from. i have this disorder too and just everything you said about thinking about people watching you and feeling like you're walking wrong or eating wrong, just... you're definetely not alone. but, there is one thing i need to say and correct you on. i started taking prescribed drugs for this in about december of last year and listening to you state all the symptoms of this disorder really made me think about how much i've progressed since starting on (cont)
I'm amazed you found the guts to do a video dude. I suffer from SAD too and I dont even want to appear in family photos or videos let alone upload a video on youtube. Respect to you.
And talking about work, I work through my lunch hour just to avoid mingling with my colleagues and sometimes have pretend conversations on the phone (there is no one on the other end) if I'm at 'risk' of having to interact with people in an unofficial capacity. Thats why i hv my fingers crossed for doomsday next yr.
Man your exactly like me I never expected to find someone so similar. I'm currently suffering from SA/Depression and hiding it from everyone I lost all my friends and my mom went thru the same but doesn't understands that makes me worse because she would call me awful names because of my SA and I been like this for about 10 years and it's gotten worse but your video just made me think things through and have more faith in the lord so thank you.
Did you ever get the feeling of being paranoid all the time. Like when you're walking in a public place you feel like people are looking at you differently or talking about you? I have that feeling all the time. I end up not being confident with myself and my physical appearance. Sometimes it's even hard for me to go out of the house.
I deal with this. I wish I knew someone who would so openly talk about it... I feel alone most of the time. luckily i am married to a wonderful person... but even today my SAD ruined the night for both of us...
You will overcome it Man... Like what you have said... It's all in the mind... You need to go to the mall and challenge your panicky feelings.... And tell yourself by thinking it's all mental and that you can do it.... Believe me after few trials the panicky feeling will die and the mind will just think normal.... Tell yourself and accept that you will feel panicky when you go the mall and this is normal .... and that you will just challenge your feelings .... I recovered without pills man.....
@D3THFAN You have to have faith that things will work out. If you fill your mind with negative things from TV, family or friends or always feel sorry for yourself, things won't change as quickly as you might want them to. If you want to talk about it, just send me a message. Just remember, faith and persistence yields the quickest results.
@ckkbleev i thought about killing myself because of this but my parents have free healthcare so im trying to get pills how are you doing with SAD right now
@noodlez4me I think pills coupled with therapy would help you tremendously with your anxiety. When you start to feel better, tr to wean yourself off of the pills.
I'm doing much better since my new job doesn't require nearly as much face time with customers.
Great video mate, You could not tell you suffer from SA from the way you act, I can relate to most of your examples waiting in lines with people, meeting new people etc Its also got better for me too just remember your just as good as anyone else! And i know its hard keep your head up and wait in that break room and try and chill if it gets too much just headup and walk out! then try again next day dude.!
I really admire your courage for posting this video. I would like to ask how your symptoms have improved since filming this in 2008? Has it improved, gotten worse, or pretty much the same. I have struggled with this for some time & I agree with your point exposing yourself little by little to certain social situations (in your case a grocery store) you can eliminate a lot of the fears because your re-conditioning in your mind gee, that's not so bad, & it becomes easier.
You remind me of myself. Except I don't get nervous when there are a lot of people like in a mall or something but I'll get nervous when ordering food or buying clothes and stuff. Pretty much anything that requires me to say more than a few word response will get me nervous. It really does suck.
I have a friend who is suffering with something similar. Do you have advice for friends of people with SAD? We so want to be there for you. Often times when my friend used to visit he would leave very suddenly, and I know it was because he was very afraid and nervous in front us. Now he doesn't come around anymore, and now I finally understand why. But we miss our friend! I hope you can keep reaching out to people because you seem like an smart, cool, interesting person!
@ladulcemusica Thank you :) It's kind of difficult for me to answer your question because I was always on the other side of the spectrum. But if I had a friend who had SA, I would give them some space but also stress how much I miss hanging out with them. If you want to hang out with them, make sure that it's somewhere small and comfortable, not crowded like a store or mall. Lastly, make sure that they're comfortable with the people that you are both hanging out with.
I honestly use to think i was the only one that had this condition.Because ppl around me don't, so it made me think i was abnormal..On and off i take anti-depressent pills, It helps some but I don't think i want to be taking pills for the rest of my life. I think im getting better but i may once in a while get a little edgy. Basically everything you said reminds me of myself. But no matter what it takes, im not letting this sht try to take over my life anymore.
Your remind of what i was like in high school.I always thought i look werid or always was doing something wrong i never really belived in my self.Dude you look totaly normal you are no different than any one else dont worry about eatting there are people who are meth head who so missed up and they still walk and talk to people.Im telling you there is kids i know that are fat and ugly but they still have friends because they talk and dont worry.I have a lazy eye i really dont want to eye contact.
@megadeth1056 lol you're totally right about the drug addicts. You could definitely tell that they're on something just by looking at them but you wouldn't be able to tell a person with SA apart from the next guy (or girl).
you're awesome man, thank you for saying what i'm afraid of saying in public. i hope to also one day overcome my SADness and feel happy. i'm going to college next year and any advice would be very helpful. i don't want to repeat it the same like in high school.
i can never keep eye contact with people..I feel that people think I'm snobby or rude.
candorpluslove 9 hours ago
U look fine to me
Ryanjamerson 2 days ago
i find that if im stressed between poeple my eyes messes up like i dont know where too look i always have the feeling poeple watches me and then they think im weird or whatever they think about me...
Theanielas 3 days ago
your like mu biggest fan right now i feel exactly the same except to walk in front to turn in homework i always hate it but poeple like you helps poeple like me and other social anxiety poeple so thanks for the vidoe you defnintely have more guts than me
Theanielas 3 days ago
wow, i am the exact same, you covered EVERYTHING. every single thing you said is exactly spot on for me. All 8 minutes and 11 seconds, it was like listening to myself explain how i feel. I know i have anxiety, but my face gets REALLY red too. My hands and even feet are always sweaty if im awake (when im asleep my hands are perfectly dry). I have a select few, i think just immediate family, that i can talk to without worry, but for everyone else, I sweat, face red, and heart/adrenaline pumping :(
Supernova9472 1 week ago
Anyone tried meds and therapy? Ive had some good success with this combination. Also, all you social anxiety sufferers should come and talk to us other on Mapofmates.
belindamcgery 1 week ago 6
I was the exact same way in elementary and middle school now. Today (24 now) it's not as bad, but I still observe before I decide to approach people and I still stiff up around large crowds of people or when I feel like I'm being watched. Recently, I realize my Musophobia (fear of house mice only) steams from social anxiety because I always saw my room as this safe comfortable indestructible fortress than even Galactus couldn't penetrate and a mouse one day made his way in.
Go4br0keV2 2 weeks ago
its hard to comment cuz of this sickness bhah
erygnby 3 weeks ago
i used to have this problem but i conquered it. Good luck to you :)
cupcakesugarx3 3 weeks ago
i totally agree with on the pill things too
PHantasyFreek321ffkh 4 weeks ago
Im the EXACT same way but im worst
PHantasyFreek321ffkh 4 weeks ago
your not alone....i have it too.
SuperFingermonkey 1 month ago
@SuperFingermonkey
Great to be honest.
Jermz1997 3 weeks ago
I feel the same man,i dont hav the balls like u to make my own video
2012XF3 1 month ago 2
Same feelings about SAD man
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thervcaguy 1 month ago
3 years later...but i got mad respect for ya
jerseyshore311 2 months ago
wow ,i have the exact same problems as u!
ubs16 2 months ago
Did you say your very analytical at 1:17?
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You guys should come and talk to us other sufferers on Mapofmates :)
miissmiaa 2 months ago
Yes, I'm 15 and I have quite severe social anxiety. It's a nightmare! I know how you feel.
Vojife 2 months ago
I was the same way in middle school. You're probably a smart guy and deserve better. I'm 16 and have taken medication for a year now. im still a quiet guy, but more relaxed. now i can be a jokester lol. Im Dead Serious I Use To Be Like That Until I Went To A Psychiatrist, Got My Crap And Found A Good Environment (performing arts hs). I Know How You Feel I Sometimes Have Random Anxiety Attacks (fight or flight). Small Steps man! I Know, It Takes Alot of Willpower.
xxcashfl0wxx 2 months ago
Your not alone dude, I'm the same way. I have the same synptoms as you do. We have to be strong!
TheHitsugoshi 2 months ago
I know how you feel. I haven't been diagnosed but all the symptoms I have. It really makes it hard to go through life when everybody's excelling and we're held back by a stupid mental problem. I'm only in highschool but it makes even the simplest things impossible. Take care.
MrVatech96 3 months ago
Just wanted to let you know that nobody of the people you have seen who are being given medicine for the disorder, get's just the medicine, there is always also a psycho therapy going on in treatment as wll, which I would actually suggest to you too...take care
KathleenMeyers63 3 months ago
began college after a two long summers alone after graduating high school. I just found out i have this, and getting up and talking is literally the most fucking scary thing in the world for me right now. It makes me so sick that I cannot even speak, breath, or move. My body trembles and and I feel faint like im about to throw up. I hate this sooo much I want to cry.
boolengleng 3 months ago
Thank you for sharing your story. I've suffered with SAD almost my whole life so I know how you feel!
iluvthejobros9 4 months ago
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crisisofconsciousnes 4 months ago
the thing i hate most about my SAD is that when im at highchool and they release kids to lunch, i go the bathroom and wait it out. id rather not eat then go through that nightmare everyday.
StuntedSnail 4 months ago
see thats y i dont eat lunch at school no more
buklao559 4 months ago
@buklao559 I used to have that same mentality but I decided that I would go in, keep my head up and distract myself with homework. Got me through the year. You need to face your fears at some point... Why not do it now?
jonremache 3 months ago
@jonremache lol
buklao559 3 months ago
i suffer with social anxiety. and i,ve recently been reading a book on phsycology. and i was reading a section explaining that we have two sides of our mind, theres an eperiential side and a rational side. and it made me realise that i,ve been listening to my experential side for so long that it convinced me a whole load of bullshit. and i totally forgot about rational thought. what you got to do is analyse the thoughts that precede your anxiety then with a positive spin you will realise the lie
jimbillinski 4 months ago
i know exactly what u men...i feel the sme way about some of the stuff u said....i think i have social anxiety i think
quanthornton 4 months ago
damn dude your my new best friend! if i made a video about my social anxiety it would be exactly the same! god bless and i hope he cold cure mine and your social anxiety problems
MyKillintime 5 months ago
dude, hope you get better, i have a hard s.a.d.
i can't make eye contacts, hate talking to anyone and looking them in the eye, always feel like i look weird or my clothes look weird, i hate when someone looks at me i get panic attacks, sweat alot etc.
i like being alone and it just makes me feel great
marfg12345 5 months ago
you're hot!
marinlabyrinth 5 months ago
Thank you sooo much for sharing that. I feel alot better knowing that i am not alone. I also have social anxiety disorder and have trouble talking to people and going in crowded places. My dads girlfriend and her 2 kids moved in. One of her kids is a year younger then me and i never ever talk to him and still dont and we all have been living in the same house for 2 years now. Almost 3 years. Her other son im pretty okay with though. And i dont talk to my dads girlfriend. So its awkward...
ASHKtv 5 months ago
@ASHKtv You should take the time to practice being more social with the people you see everyday at home. It helps take the fear away and get a step closer to speaking to people out in public.
jonremache 3 months ago
i know exactly what you mean... thanks for sharing man.
KinoDrummer 5 months ago
I feel your pain
scass5780 5 months ago
you sound like a smart kid. just go to tharopy or stop over looking stuff.
ty99999returns 5 months ago
hats off to you mac. keep up the workouts and positive reinforcement, good things shall happen.
roppasmoka 5 months ago
cheer up bro
Akupuncturist 5 months ago
Bro try taking the medication, your fear is hard wired into your brain and its these pills that can rewire it (Laymans terms, it does not "change" how your brain is). Weed is a relaxing agent, you said it helps you, thats just a taste of what medication can do.
xGHOSTXRECONx 5 months ago
@xGHOSTXRECONx Meds may make you feel more confident and less anxious for a few hours but after they wear off, all of those feelings will start to settle back in. After several weeks or even months of taking them, you already would have become so reliant on them that they would be that much more difficult to live without.
Like any drug, they are a crutch. The only tangible cure that actually works is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or any other equal forms of therapy.
ckkbleev 5 months ago
@ckkbleev That sounds a little odd considering the medications are meant to take weeks to work. and that the very purpose for them is to tackle the problem with the brain, not to mention I've only heard of one thats addictive and that does not sound appealing as that one does stop being effective the more you take it. You may know more than me, you have most likely tried many treatments and such, I only found out I had it a couple of days ago and I'm trying to go to the doctor.
xGHOSTXRECONx 5 months ago
@xGHOSTXRECONx I'm sorry to hear that you also suffer from this condition. From what I understand, medications are meant to help but you have to keep taking them to feel "normal" and once your body gets used to the dosages, you have to keep on increasing the amount that you take. The only effective form of treatment that I know of is therapy. Medications can give you a false sense of security but therapy can potentially free you from this nightmare.
ckkbleev 5 months ago
@ckkbleev I'll see how it goes when I get to the doctor and get diagnosed, at least I might get something to cure the depression. It may just be wishful thinking on my part since medication is the only thing I have not tried yet (I refuse to turn to drugs or allow myself to become a alcoholic), maybe now that I know what I have there might be more options buts its still a little heart breaking to hear that medications may only make things worse.
xGHOSTXRECONx 5 months ago
@xGHOSTXRECONx To me, anything that isn't natural like putting drugs/meds into your body is never a good thing because naturally you start to rely on that kind of stuff too much. Natural things like social interaction, diet, exercise and therapy help to get your mind and body going. But whatever you choose, I wish you the best.
ckkbleev 5 months ago
@ckkbleev is your social anxiety improving at all. Im asking cus I have it
HLB285 5 months ago
@HLB285 It gets better with time. The more you understand how your mind works, the more you will be able to cope with it.
ckkbleev 5 months ago
I dont leave the house I'm to scared to :(
unicornsarerealxo 5 months ago
there are two way to overcome social anxiety. One is meditation(sit crosslegged say rising when your stomach rises and falling when it goes back in and instead of fighting for focus if your mind wanders let your mind wander than when the thought is over continue with rising and falling) and the other is constant hard work. examples of this is maintaining good grades in school working out like he said, anything that is a challenge to you. start with small ones nd work your way up. PM me questions
xlhotlx 5 months ago
Thanks for this.
dezziibabii1223 5 months ago
you are not alone with this..
thanks for sharing this video :)
InnocentBrother 5 months ago
i love that bible verse.
BlueEyedBeautyMakeup 5 months ago
I have it too. It's hell. :/
uglyducklinganthems 5 months ago
I'm 14 and have that S.A.D. thingy. ._.
When I was a little little kid, like, 6-9 years old, I used to have half a dozen kids at my house, and whenever other parents wanted to know where their kids are, they just called my mom.
When I was 10, I was put down by idiots on skype video calls and bullies in real life, and always try to avoid people.
I have the same problem as you. I feel like my voice is too high, I might look fat, walk weird, and I always stutter while trying to talk to people.
coliepolie123 6 months ago
amen brother with your description
xxLilJXxX 6 months ago
Hey, I feel awkward doing a lot of stuff also bro. I know what you are going through. I have social anxiety disorder also... you said something about your voice.. I think my voice sounds wierd also... but I can tell you man there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with your voice bro. It sucks having this disorder because you want to do lots of things but its really hard to because everything you do in life involves social interaction. It sucks I know... message me man...I'm trying to defeat this. thx
gearsofwar2318 6 months ago
I'm exactly the same way bro.
gearsofwar2318 6 months ago
Dude, you just described my life...
phoenixkarby 6 months ago
I'm right there with you 100 percent. Even though this is a mental disorder, it feels like it's killing me. I had a job for a day and quit because it was all too much. Going through it alone is the worst. No one understands and everyone thinks you're just shy. They don't realize it's a debilitating disease that you have no control over.
BNDxx0815 6 months ago
i wonder how future schools will be...or life in general socializing. i think we should have our own group of buddies we're cooperate with and school with them and them alone..not around 500 students walking down the hall and cafeteria wondering what others think of you. don't adults realize this may be the obstacle preventing their child or student from getting a damn education?
bigb771 6 months ago
it's really bad. I am starting college this fall and I'm full blown terrified to start simply because I am going to be extremely shy and friendless just like how I was through my 4 years of high school.I never went to a single school event or prom, stopped eating lunch in the cafeteria and hid myself in the school computer lab because of the fear of waiting in the lunch line or walking by the tables with people staring at u , too scared to participate in class, and cant talk to girls. fuck this
Localonthe8sHD 6 months ago
Wow, I can really relate to a lot of what you're saying. I've always been shy and introverted. The most simple tasks can be so difficult because of this anxiety. I've missed out on so many opportunities. Simple things like sitting in a class room are torture. Any social setting makes me uneasy, sometimes to the point of upsetting my stomach. It's a terrible way to live. I've never taken drugs..I just deal with it the best I can. Having people that understand you helps. I wish you the best.
dalmain77 6 months ago
Anxiety is crippling. i have social phobia and generalized anxiety disorder for years now and im still not better even when seeking treatment. Zoloft doesnt work at all. This disorder is pure torture
JSCMGO 6 months ago
I'm extremely shy and I don't talk to much people 'cause I'm very introverted. I can relate to you so much but I don't know If I have SAD but I feel like I do. I feel like even when I'm around my classmates, they don't want to talk to me because they can see my awkwardness, It sucks so much! My family is no help because instead of encouraging me the right way to socialize, they will ridicule and make fun of me for being this way..
xoiammaixoify 6 months ago
@xoiammaixoify I feel the exact same way when I'm around my co-workers. Sometimes I even start conversations and they continue while I stare in the background. It really does suck.
ckkbleev 6 months ago
@ckkbleev i feel u bro tough times. i have this APD thing really bad. Im scared to b around my family.
Scared to look people in the eye. At hoome i dont comunicate with anyone at all. My voice is deep n noone ever understands my words. I have to say things over n over until they get it. Im not a family guy at all. I just seperate my self frm them. If the guys are goin out or smtn, im always seen as the lesser person.
08BOOGIEMAN 6 months ago
It's crazy how I can relate to this guy almost 85%. Having this problem has truly screwed up my life, and im 21..
ThePirateCritic 6 months ago
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1BlackCotton 6 months ago
@1BlackCotton pfft, there are many "fit" people who have the exact same problem. With social phobia you feel judged no matter what shape you are in.
sega7 6 months ago
@ThePirateCritic so u look sad in front of people sometimes? i do and its horrible i just dont want them to see like that. i have social anxiety and i been really depressed i had suicide thoughts no appetite no energy i dont feel like to do nothing i wish i can suck it up and be happy but its hard anyway i wish i could have friends like u guys. we would get along so well. i have just 2 friends and they are really getting tired of me, i dont know what im gonna do.
mrchrmedone 1 month ago
@mrchrmedone I used to get told i look sad, or mad a lot. I sometimes still do. But as i got a little older it's got a little better. And i can relate somewhat of what you're talking about, im sorry to hear that. And i bet we would. Sometimes what i would do is listen to my ipod when i went out and it seemed to help ma a lot. I also was a smoker then, and back then i used to think it was helping me, but in reality it was making me more stressed. I hope all the best for you!
ThePirateCritic 1 month ago
ive had all the same thoughts as you man, its really hard :( its stopping me from living my life, going and getting a job, girlfriend, all that stuff that everyone around me has, i feel trapped and lost
rx7187 6 months ago
@rx7187 same here. i been depressed later and i have social anxiety i feel so weird around people/ i think theyre all against that they talking crap about me. and i dont want people to see me sad. ive been staying at home a lot today i get to go with a doctor. my bf took me i was so uncortable i wanted to leave the place and just hide somewhere so people wont see me sad i recently had suicide thoughts and its horrible. i just dont know what to do with my life. it sucks
mrchrmedone 1 month ago
I find it easy to talk to people online but out in the real world it is way too hard
farah2619 6 months ago
im 18 just graduated high school and i have social anxiety. you're my hero. thank you so much for sharing your story.
jennabelle47 6 months ago 18
@jennabelle47 Thank you! That really means a lot.
ckkbleev 6 months ago
Wow! I'm exactly in the same boat. I just finished my high school and I remember those same situations, like walking into class or eating and thinking how you look...
How's your situation now? I've got better, because I have listened this great audio program of coping SA.
bastidiaz 6 months ago
@bastidiaz I've been doing much better ever since I started working at my new job. Another thing that helped me is working out.
ckkbleev 6 months ago
i find it hard to meet or greet new girls in at my age, iam 23, i look fine but i just need to try stepping to a girl, i always pusg myself to a point that i say i have other stuff to do than a girlfriend weil that is not true,
However iam not going to be told i have some disorder, it is called bieng shy i think
Roald1988 6 months ago
Dont you. Just feel weird... And like your all alone in this ? Well your not I am the same exact way... I would like to talk to you and be friends if youd like?
Nellz25 6 months ago
You are so.brave for this video! Don't give up your not alone! God bless!
Nellz25 6 months ago
Dont worry im right there with you
marlenessigal 6 months ago
You are still braver than me, I actually fumble when making a video and freze up. So I bought a jason mask and started to make vids with it on. It made me a little more confident but u still eff up. My SA is so bad that I can't hold down a job. Xanax and clanazopem doesn't even work, only hard liquor!
ScientistSoundSytem 7 months ago
How do we know that this stuff isn't appropriate? Cus other people aren't like this? I guarantee if everyone was like this everyone would feel comforatable around others even with being the same way. But my question is why does everyone have to be a certain way to be accepted? How is this SA inappropriate and not "normal" if we have the obvious ability to think about things or whatever in our heads causes our anxiety?
dolfan6132 7 months ago
@dolfan6132 The masses of people who are seen as "normal" outnumber the amount of people who have SA simply because SA sufferers either try not to acknowledge that they have a problem or they know that they have a problem but are too ashamed or afraid to get help. It's not that we strive to become like the masses, it's that the masses have what we want which is comfort, confidence and freedom. That's what we want to achieve.
ckkbleev 7 months ago
hey dude..you're awesome! Great video!
MrGoogj 7 months ago
great video dude. thanks for the upload!
undeadgil 7 months ago
I have been suffering from social anxiety since i was 10 yrs old and im now 18, it wasnt as bad when i was younger but when i got in middle school and high school, it was really hard for me, but anyway im now out of high school, im not able to leave my house, i want to be able to go places and go to college but because of my social anxiety its really hard for me! So everything u describe in this video is how it is with me!
hottie14389 7 months ago
@hottie14389 It sounds like you've been through quite a bit. I hope that you're able to overcome this anxiety at least to the point where you feel that you could last a few years in college so you would be able to land a great job one day. My mistake is not going to college right out of high school. But there are many different treatment options out there that have been proven to work.
ckkbleev 7 months ago
@ckkbleev Yeah i been through alot, im just tired of this, it seems to be getting worse day by day. Im not able to work or anything, its just really bad!
What treatments work? I need help!
hottie14389 7 months ago
@hottie14389 Watch my video titled "I'm Back..." and in it, I talk about a video that I think all SA sufferers should watch. It pretty much covers everything there is to know about SA.
ckkbleev 7 months ago
@ckkbleev
You just need a method,how youre gonna talk to people for example:
1)say hi and your name
2)remember tha people like to talk,so ask them questions,explore their feelings about things,situations,experiences
3)if someone doesnt trust you,start talking about yourself,what you like,hate,want,feel,what makes you laugh-remember you know yourself the best
4)exercise first on people that you know for a long time,like parents,friends
Perpetiel89 7 months ago
I think i developed this when I was a toddler. I depended on other's criticism for the way I talked, thought and did things. Sometimes i did things and i didnt know why i was doing them until i realized that i was doing things under the criticism that i listen. I was unaccepting myself but know i accept the fact that im socially anxious. it makes me feel better about myself when i admit it to people. I studied psychology, sociology and NLP on my own to learn why i think this way.
sphynx105 7 months ago
Hi I'm a new subscriber and I really like your videos they always make me smile:) I also have social anxiety disorder. I was bullied in high school by boys I never even talked to, because of this I was afraid to go to college so I took a year off after I graduated from high school. I finally got the courage to tell my doctor about it. I am going to see a therapist next month. I hope therapy helps me before I start my first year of college this September. Getting a job made things worse for me:/
karla797 7 months ago
Haha dude! It was like watching myself. Everything you described, every opinion you had, (especially the drug part) were the same as me.. I'm 16, got fired from my first job because of my Social anxiety, and it's also stopping me from doing things like getting my license, doing well in school ect ect. Glad to see someone who has the same experiences. :)
zacwashere2007 7 months ago
hey i totally get you, i'm 21 right now i still feel that way in college, but right now i have to have faith in myself to get passed that to move on with my life, and hopefully you get passed that as well and good luck with your life's journey toward happiness!
jaky411 7 months ago
Great video man.. U described me perfect except i blush all the time too even if its around my family.. I cant handle group situations so I always try my hardest to get out of them.. Alcohol helps but I know in the long run im practicly killing myself! HELP ME
doney2008 7 months ago
Sorry I accidentally posted that without finishing. Wow, you've made HUGE jump in progress from the video I just watched and this one. You are like a totally different person, idk how you could push through all that. I look forward to watching you other videos. I hope all is well. I just can't get over how different you are in this one than the other, in a good way that is.
jharvey1234j 7 months ago
Wow, you've made a huge jump,progress
jharvey1234j 7 months ago
You are telling the story of my life,,, except i just got fired from the jobs because people thought I was weird, but really it was just the anxiety.......... Mine didn't start until college. But I honestly do not see any reason for you to feel that way you seem awesome!!!!!! take care.
l0stlin3s 7 months ago
@l0stlin3s it sounds like you have something called "general social anxiety disorder". From what I've read, it usually develops later in life. I'm sure that there is a great job out there for you.
ckkbleev 7 months ago
you look great and sound great
Godminds 7 months ago
@Godminds Thank you for your great comment!
ckkbleev 7 months ago
@ckkbleev Thank you for the video. And it's really inspiring when we see your new ones. It's like seeing a Star Glow brighter and brighter
Godminds 7 months ago
Everything you said, applies to me too. Plus add the additional crying for the most ridiculous reasons since i'm a girl. :(
voldrice 8 months ago
Do you try to hide your anxiety? Do you fight it to feel better? This would make it worse. Let it out and don't be afraid to show it. You're nervous because you worry people learn about it. Show it to them. Let them know about it. Then you won't be nervous or worried in social situations.
parsizaban 8 months ago
I have social anxiety, currently studying Psychology in college. It has gotten better with exposure and therapy. I've decided to specialized in SAD and make the world aware of it. My professors didn't even talk about this when we studied anxiety disorder even though it's in the book.
favm360 8 months ago 17
@favm360 We need more people like you who aren't afraid to take initiative; especially for a cause that isn't widely known.
ckkbleev 8 months ago
@favm360 Thank you for being earnest and blazing the trail...I'm wish you much goodness and love. :)
AnnaRose5225 8 months ago
You're very brave. I have some of your symptoms too, I actually went to a point that I limped lightly, so people couldn't judge how I walk because it looked as if I had an injury, and it became a natural reflex and even now it still happens that I limp when there's too much people. piece of advice: try martial arts, any. Just the fact of going there, trying not to look like a fool is hard, but it gives you a challenge, and you'll gradually get over that, and it'll also charge up your self-esteem
MrTonythegreat 4 months ago
i did not know asians get it :P looks like its worldwide
grownupTv 8 months ago
i get nervous when i have to explain things like i stutter barely speak when im w ppl
xxcupcakepinkxx 8 months ago
same here
xxcupcakepinkxx 8 months ago
you have trouble in social situations.. but you made a video that got over 30,000 views. does that mean you are now freaking out ;) good video thanks.
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guasto47 8 months ago
Not that long ago, my symptoms were worse. I didn't even know I had the disorder until this year. I feel you, man. I fucking hate this disorder. I blame my parents for being over protective of me as child. Assholes..
firemage10101 8 months ago
Just wanted to tell you that I'm in the same boat. I had to drop out of college, and I can't hold on to a job. I'm trying to work on it but it's a slow process. No drugs for me either. Sending you light and love.
workouttred 8 months ago
I'm very glad you don't take pills.
stoogefreaky 8 months ago
'am i chewing right?'' LOL'd i feel ya, i am the exact same, eating, walking, posture, the way i look, analysing everything i do, unable to keep eye contact, thx 4 the video.
moulinyan 8 months ago
@moulinyan Interviews are definitely the worst for me... and don't even mention a presentation lol !
Shane88L 8 months ago
Well done on making the video! You seem like a really nice guy!
youfailme28 8 months ago
forget about it.
raindi100 8 months ago
I really wish I had friends that had social anxiety, or maybe a girlfriend that had it. At least someone who was supportive or was supportive in the way of having the same illness. My mom doesn't believe that there is a such thing as social anxiety. She thinks everybody has a level of being nervous about certain social situations. Being nervous about some things is not social anxiety. It doesn't even come close. It just sucks because I feel like i'm in this by myself.
adradstarcraftduh 8 months ago
I wouldn't even dare to make or post a video like this... respect, man.
dblim6 8 months ago 2
Please read the book: The highly sensitive person and The introvert advantage. There is nothing wrong with you. You live in a society that suppress your personality. A society where people put a smile on and act nice, but the truth is different, and the vibes they send out, you feel. So in reality you are an Empat. Psychiatrist and the extrovert society do not understand this, and only offer extrovert solutions, like talking to others about it. Read the books and get your own answers.
ReverendMotherISIS 8 months ago
great vid, loved every second
bigsteve0999 9 months ago
Ah man, I got some major s.a issues. Sometimes I look at it as a curse and a blessing. I'm a musician and I rely on my s.a to help me write and compose. It's sort of like an advantage. At the same time I have to then deal with the more sinister side of it.
Ya, basically I just pray to the Lord. He gets me through it.
God Bless
Road2Zionman 9 months ago
I`m glad you took this video on youtube its good to see that you re not alone. Its a bad thing to have social anxiety cause you can t do the things you really want to do. Its hard but never give up.
lichterregen1 9 months ago
I planed to write some longer commnent but than i sow your other videos and you seem much better.
I think the main problem for this is low self confidence. Did you go to some psychotherapy and if you did what did psychotherapist tald you about self confidence.
you did very brave and smart thing when you made htis video.
999gost 9 months ago
Your an extremly brave man! Making this video, and having the guts to put it on Youtube. That is just mind blowing, with someone with this disorder.
lebanese996 9 months ago
what's so terrible is that there is a severe lack of awareness about this disorder.....it's not commonly known to people yet it's SO UNBELIEVABLY crippling to those who have it. i couldn't go to college because of it. costing me a ton of missed opportunities and of course the chance to further my education.....
TheDowntown86 9 months ago 17
@TheDowntown86 I couldn't agree more. I went straight to work after graduating high school because I didn't want to go through another 2-4 years of presentations, reports, but most importantly, my anxiety. We've both missed out on many, many opportunities.
ckkbleev 9 months ago
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@TheDowntown86 I have a PhD in psychology and I am working on a video series about how to overcome social anxiety. You should check out my channel. I think you will find it helpful.
SocialAnxietyDr 6 months ago
@TheDowntown86 I have a PhD in psychology and I am working on a video series about how to overcome social anxiety. You should check out my channel. I think you will find it helpful.
SocialAnxietyDr 6 months ago
You seem very genuine. I can totally relate with you. Presentations still scare the crap out of me and I'm 5th year college.
TheJovanist 9 months ago
this video makes me cry. why? you sound just like me
SHiZiN69ONU 9 months ago
the medication. believe it or not, the medication that is used for disorders such as anxiety, depression, etc., really does change your brain chemistry and thus actually helping to change the way you think. it's an accumalitive process, once you start taking it it just works more and more over time, there's no real temporary about it. so if i had to say one thing, sometimes medicine can be a great solution. i know it worked for me ( i take lexapro). but whatever you decide to do, good luck :)
randomxxx35 9 months ago
i TOTALLY know where you're coming from. i have this disorder too and just everything you said about thinking about people watching you and feeling like you're walking wrong or eating wrong, just... you're definetely not alone. but, there is one thing i need to say and correct you on. i started taking prescribed drugs for this in about december of last year and listening to you state all the symptoms of this disorder really made me think about how much i've progressed since starting on (cont)
randomxxx35 9 months ago
I'm amazed you found the guts to do a video dude. I suffer from SAD too and I dont even want to appear in family photos or videos let alone upload a video on youtube. Respect to you.
And talking about work, I work through my lunch hour just to avoid mingling with my colleagues and sometimes have pretend conversations on the phone (there is no one on the other end) if I'm at 'risk' of having to interact with people in an unofficial capacity. Thats why i hv my fingers crossed for doomsday next yr.
puranappu 9 months ago 3
Man your exactly like me I never expected to find someone so similar. I'm currently suffering from SA/Depression and hiding it from everyone I lost all my friends and my mom went thru the same but doesn't understands that makes me worse because she would call me awful names because of my SA and I been like this for about 10 years and it's gotten worse but your video just made me think things through and have more faith in the lord so thank you.
Roxana1713 9 months ago
Did you ever get the feeling of being paranoid all the time. Like when you're walking in a public place you feel like people are looking at you differently or talking about you? I have that feeling all the time. I end up not being confident with myself and my physical appearance. Sometimes it's even hard for me to go out of the house.
gissneric 9 months ago
@gissneric Yeah, exactly that. It's so annoying because I feel like I can't do some things right.
canadia7x 9 months ago
your voice isnt weird, you look normal man. I know cause i can relate to you
azncoolz 9 months ago
I deal with this. I wish I knew someone who would so openly talk about it... I feel alone most of the time. luckily i am married to a wonderful person... but even today my SAD ruined the night for both of us...
agoodflyingbird1 10 months ago
You will overcome it Man... Like what you have said... It's all in the mind... You need to go to the mall and challenge your panicky feelings.... And tell yourself by thinking it's all mental and that you can do it.... Believe me after few trials the panicky feeling will die and the mind will just think normal.... Tell yourself and accept that you will feel panicky when you go the mall and this is normal .... and that you will just challenge your feelings .... I recovered without pills man.....
LugawOne 10 months ago
I have SAD even worse than this guy and I can't afford therapy or medication, I just want to die
D3THFAN 10 months ago
@D3THFAN You have to have faith that things will work out. If you fill your mind with negative things from TV, family or friends or always feel sorry for yourself, things won't change as quickly as you might want them to. If you want to talk about it, just send me a message. Just remember, faith and persistence yields the quickest results.
ckkbleev 10 months ago
@ckkbleev i thought about killing myself because of this but my parents have free healthcare so im trying to get pills how are you doing with SAD right now
noodlez4me 8 months ago
@noodlez4me I think pills coupled with therapy would help you tremendously with your anxiety. When you start to feel better, tr to wean yourself off of the pills.
I'm doing much better since my new job doesn't require nearly as much face time with customers.
ckkbleev 8 months ago
@ckkbleev do you take pills? and whats your job? subbed btw
noodlez4me 8 months ago
@noodlez4me No I don't take any pills and I work as a porter/shuttle driver for a car company.
ckkbleev 8 months ago
@D3THFAN i feel the same way
usernameofyoutub100 10 months ago
Great video mate, You could not tell you suffer from SA from the way you act, I can relate to most of your examples waiting in lines with people, meeting new people etc Its also got better for me too just remember your just as good as anyone else! And i know its hard keep your head up and wait in that break room and try and chill if it gets too much just headup and walk out! then try again next day dude.!
BlueMoneyBalls 10 months ago
I really admire your courage for posting this video. I would like to ask how your symptoms have improved since filming this in 2008? Has it improved, gotten worse, or pretty much the same. I have struggled with this for some time & I agree with your point exposing yourself little by little to certain social situations (in your case a grocery store) you can eliminate a lot of the fears because your re-conditioning in your mind gee, that's not so bad, & it becomes easier.
I wish you much success.
McCartney2012 10 months ago
You remind me of myself. Except I don't get nervous when there are a lot of people like in a mall or something but I'll get nervous when ordering food or buying clothes and stuff. Pretty much anything that requires me to say more than a few word response will get me nervous. It really does suck.
PUAPrivateArchive 10 months ago
psh you're very handsome
qwertyblaaah 10 months ago
I have a friend who is suffering with something similar. Do you have advice for friends of people with SAD? We so want to be there for you. Often times when my friend used to visit he would leave very suddenly, and I know it was because he was very afraid and nervous in front us. Now he doesn't come around anymore, and now I finally understand why. But we miss our friend! I hope you can keep reaching out to people because you seem like an smart, cool, interesting person!
ladulcemusica 10 months ago
@ladulcemusica Thank you :) It's kind of difficult for me to answer your question because I was always on the other side of the spectrum. But if I had a friend who had SA, I would give them some space but also stress how much I miss hanging out with them. If you want to hang out with them, make sure that it's somewhere small and comfortable, not crowded like a store or mall. Lastly, make sure that they're comfortable with the people that you are both hanging out with.
ckkbleev 10 months ago
I honestly use to think i was the only one that had this condition.Because ppl around me don't, so it made me think i was abnormal..On and off i take anti-depressent pills, It helps some but I don't think i want to be taking pills for the rest of my life. I think im getting better but i may once in a while get a little edgy. Basically everything you said reminds me of myself. But no matter what it takes, im not letting this sht try to take over my life anymore.
XVsiLEnT 11 months ago
Much respect man, pray for me to. Social anxiety is the worst shit you can have but believe it or not we can overcome it. Good vid
XVsiLEnT 11 months ago
Charles linden , on ustream, if you want to get rid of anxiety
DaOsman1 11 months ago
Go to ustream and go into The linden method
DaOsman1 11 months ago
Time was a big factor for me to overcome my depression. It took patience
VOYAGINGMONKEY 11 months ago
i just want to put an end to this shit once and for all. that way i can have a more positive attitude and ask a girl out already.
FallofDarkness55 11 months ago
Your remind of what i was like in high school.I always thought i look werid or always was doing something wrong i never really belived in my self.Dude you look totaly normal you are no different than any one else dont worry about eatting there are people who are meth head who so missed up and they still walk and talk to people.Im telling you there is kids i know that are fat and ugly but they still have friends because they talk and dont worry.I have a lazy eye i really dont want to eye contact.
megadeth1056 11 months ago
@megadeth1056 lol you're totally right about the drug addicts. You could definitely tell that they're on something just by looking at them but you wouldn't be able to tell a person with SA apart from the next guy (or girl).
ckkbleev 11 months ago
you're awesome man, thank you for saying what i'm afraid of saying in public. i hope to also one day overcome my SADness and feel happy. i'm going to college next year and any advice would be very helpful. i don't want to repeat it the same like in high school.
ArkimeTyhaen107 11 months ago
be proud of yourself that you were brave enough to make this. be happy about yourself man. i'm in the same boat
hope you see progress.
achung2526 11 months ago