Dan Savage at Manitoba - The key ingredients to successfully navigating an open relationship?

[jonjuan92]

"... and you can't be at that place in two months." oooh. dan just schooled me.

[sillykatz]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! i agree so much with this, not everybody is meant to be in a monogamous relationship, or be in relationships period. everybody, gay straight bi, all must make up their own boundries. i'm cool with my dude, or lady;), looking at nude women/men as long as they don't touch. they can have crushes on people and if a certain sexual thing that would never happen in a milllion years happens(sex with a victoria secret model) i will turn a blind eye!

[tshorse]

a good excuse for not being bonded in a good married relationship. these people have no scrupples and just want sex and more excitement. you always hurt somebody when you go out of the marriage. no, i could not even think of my georgeouse wife boning some dork and him disrupting the family and texting sweet nothing and making out with her and being a "friend" and always calling to make sure she is still avathingtil in his black book. these people usually dont believe in God so anything goes

[DaReegz]

@tshorse First of all: you misspelled 'gorgeous'.

Second: obviously, an open-relationship wouldn't work for you. You're too jealous and possessive. But, you're not everyone. Some people are totally fine with their partner going outside of the relationship, as long as they stick within certain parameters.

Also, please leave 'God' out of this. You'd be surprised how many religious people are actually the 'deviant' ones (however, to the rest of us, there isn't anything 'deviant' about it).

[AlwaysChaotic]

so no goats? LOL

[Tra1n3rfromH3ll]

I want to hug this man, buy him coffee and thank him for this level of intellectual bullshit destruction. I'm a straight man with a girlfriend.

[plutogirllovekj]

And these are the people who want to get married....

[HOPSCOTCHPIRATE]

Dan Savage is the Chicken Soup for the Relationship-and-Sexual Soul.

[mythicalhell]

I think lying and secrets is the best advice to a married couple!

[fons666]

DAN SAVAGE IS THE PROPHET OF LOVE!!!

[Taopuppy]

I like something Dan Savage said once about the difference between gays and straights when it comes to sex, "Straight men would if they could, but they can't because women won't".

[progpowerfan]

I'd like to ask the person who "hates" the gay world how many heterosexual relationships they know that aren't formed out of convenience. I'd also like to ask them how many of these relationships are based on open communication and trust like Dan savage's is.

Not many I'm sure. Because thats not what we are taught. People like this person are afraid that the storybook romance we have been force fed since we are little isn't remotely realistic. Love means a million different things to a millio

[wph1138]

Here is what i think about this. If I was with someone that wanted to BE with another person ( And I have been ) then its just a relationship of convenience. If I love someone then I do not want to be with anyone else. I think this is an excuse for a couple to cheat on each other and this is why i hate the gay world. Its so cheep and seedy it makes real love sound worthless. This is why AIDS is so rampid. I dont feel bad for any of the cuz thay all know better..

[Goobian]

@wph1138 And there aren't slutty straight people? Is that what you mean? Because I have heard of and met plenty of them. And the first guy that accidentally gets one of them pregnant marries them out of doing the right thing. That has been going on for decades. Most lesbians want a long term monogamous relationship not a one night stand. And a lot of gay guys want that too, they want a family. So don't lump us into a stereotype.

[wph1138]

@Goobian ? most str8 guys are sluts meaning they like to sleep around. Im not sure were you are going with this but I have been in EVERY outloet of sexuality and I can say. str8 guys want to have fun.

[Goobian]

@wph1138 From what I read in your previous comment you said "This is why I hate the gay world. It's so cheap and seedy and it makes real love sound worthless" A lot of younger people in general it doesn't matter what sexual orientation make mistakes and then they are mature later and realize that is not how you treat people that you love. Not just gay people, all people.

[CaraIain]

@wph1138 aaand how old are you? cos after twenty years of the same person, your answer might change.

[Aeonhem]

Lol you look so much like a guy i dated.

[benthediceman1]

Good advice

[locopuff]

Right on, Dan!