Ladies: Stroke It DON'T Choke it- TonyaTko MAN WEEK: Egos

[Sandbar136]

I get such a kick out of you. You're truthful, insightful, funny and sweet... :)

[6wasuri2]

awesome advice, new subscriber, love you Sis, just love you.

[TheJamel709]

i don't feel appreciated by women i always get rejected

[MrIndeeply]

damn you sounds like a good woman where are you ?

[mookerighteous]

I am feeling this beautiful woman too

[pageman001]

i am in love.... you rock Tonya

[henkboorsma33]

You are such a lovely woman!

[mrc12cc]

Step yo pussy up

[HiRoader11]

haircuts, cars, jobs, quality time,my hero, WTF... (whrere's the ring?)

[rumbleinthejungle800]

Where is your husband, Somebody needs to snatch your pretty self up!

[nebmar369]

great vid. very encouraging

[20wsmith]

can you do a video on how to make a woman feel special

[capcom101you]

Exceptional insights into "la difference'"

[phil8888]

You have permission to post videos of any size, but have taken 8 or 10 minute videos and stretched them into 35 minute ones.

[Foenetik]

wimmin. sensitive to tweeters. got it!

[prayze1]

Tonya, I would like for you to talk about foot fetish and I would love to see your feet.

[kemckn]

This is one of the best videos you have made by far! You have given all the secrets away about us! lol I love it and if more women praised their man, more women would get anything they want.

[BlissableBuddha]

How can I build up your clits ego?

[BlissableBuddha]

I have a 1" cock once hard. How the fuck would any woman stroke that tiny shit lol

[lopunny5]

@BlissableBuddha hi

[Dirky1979]

you really understand men, as much a woman can.

[Stallion575]

Great video Tonya!!! Thank you for putiing that information out there, cause there are only a handful of women out here that understand, and know how to impliment what your video is about!!! Alot of women out there think that men don't need compliments. And alot of women don't understand the power of their feminity!! But they have no problem letting him know when he does something she doesn't like, or just being plan bossy. Thanks And keep showing it!!!

[CocoaLife]

This is so funny but I am learning too. Thanks!

[ikkinnikk]

The driving in circles thing. I witnessed that. Now I get it.

[chriztinalori]

you inspire me so much. i hope my videos reach others like yours do! :] you really help and make a difference in lives. all your videos are so informative..why i am commenting on this video....well i had male issues hahaha but you help in all areas! go tonyatko :]

[MrMannM1]

Ms. Tonya you are a very "Ravishing" woman. I simply love your energy and your passion. Nice vid also.

[joshuaofjericho]

I like this video b/c itz honest!

[thepaola101]

I STILL DNT REALLY GET

WHAT STROKE IT DONT CHOKE IT MEAN!!!

CAN YHU EXPLAIN ABOUT THE CHOKING PART????

[Feisty3790]

i am so happy that i ran across this video...honey write a BOOK

[Thefiftieschick1]

After all I've been through, I feel sorry for the men that cross my path.

[MalaikaQ]

you look beautiful!

[azmildman]

Oh, Man Week, I must attend that one. Men in their full glory. Let me see, performance anxiety, E.D., stubborness, and EGOs? Ha! Men are sensitive in some areas and women are sensitive in others. Knuckles dragging? I don't know what kind of guys you go out with. Thanks for the warning though.

[vivey623]

Nice house!

Love that orange and Thank you so VERY MUCH!

You have mos def been a great support for me.

Heart ya

-V

[manofsteel33]

Great vid Tonya! We guy's appreciate complements as well! Those of us that go through great lengths to keep ourselves, our cars, and our wardrobe "tight", thank you!

[ShiekUrBooty]

Size only matters to men who don't know how to work the woman properly.

[msnoirepetite]

interesting

[msnoirepetite]

interesting

[killking37]

My issue is a lot of woman watch these movies and have an unrealistic view on romance.

[Perowala]

3 words: You are crazy !! :)) in the good way

[four4shoes]

You wouldn't take dental advice from a toothless person, so why listen to

relationship advice from a woman who doesn't have anyone.

[ReneeArnold]

@four4shoes ... well u can learn from someone's mistakes... a toothless person can tell u what they did.. like didn't brush.. ate too many sweets... so he can advise you on how to learn from his mistakes. Stop being mean, she had some really good points in the video. 'Don't throw the baby out with the bath water'.

[Jstarquest]

young lady you look nice 

[flyeagles24]

Tko can you say hi to me, itd make my year!

[Jstarquest]

Girl you look beautiful

[MJayB26]

I love you, Tonya! Thank you! And, please, more vids! :)

[stremybrandy]

i see why they call you t.k.o.

[mushulushu]

I LOVE YOUR FLOWER. its soo pretty . whats up with you and the gloss? lol your putting it on all passionatly. lol awesome.. your all sazzed up today cute!

[wakanu7]

HA!HA!HA! Tonya you are a rare jewel, and the extra emphasis is rrrrow wow.

You are just sensational in your approach to journalism.

[saltyeggs71]

You're laughter changed my day!!! I wish you could see my big smile.

[bdrmbulli]

This broad seems kind of dumb, she need alot of work to really grasp the audience. Over-exagerating face expressions. Weird, i can't watch this, i'm trying to get passed 3:50 without wanting to say get to the point. She feeling herself too much. Oh well. Nice outfit. The bully.

[TheTombonater007]

@TonyaTko Thanks for the response Tonya, i'll keep that in mind! :)

[sonebone7]

Some of these men dont deserve to be stroked and catered in the bedroom, no disrespect, what about the women that is not being satisfied in the bedroom or what have you, some of these men are TAKERS not GIVERS, they are out for themselves, not being arrogant and all, im tired of stroking a man and giving in the bedroom, my time, my affections and not getting the same in return, secrets for a man? They dont even know how to talk or communicate with women, its all about control....

[Rageman26]

Tonya you are one beautiful woman.

[TheTombonater007]

Thanks for the great and informative video TonyaTko, but I was wondering does this apply for gay men too? And also, who decides the directions in a car?! Haha, thanks Tonya, kisses xxxx

[TonyaTko]

@TheTombonater007 Its never good for anyone to be a "backseat driver" barking out orders esp. if you both don't know. If u both have cars &he is driving its bcz he wants to take care of you. So let him. There are ways to feel out a situation and see how a person feels abt receiving information: DO they find it helpful or hurtful? If a person is open, go for it. If not, Nothin will go thru anyway. Leave it alone. Just sit back and be pretty, relax. let someone else take care of the trouble

-Tko

[nikknikk19]

@TonyaTko ppreciate this video for far more than myself, but on the behalf of many sistahs who are so obsessed w/ independence/strong black woman-ness that they have alot of brothas damaged and bitter. So this video sheds alot of light and is very resourceful in helping us be better partners by providing balance

[nikknikk19]

@nikknikk19 i appreciate

[TheTombonater007]

@TonyaTko When it comes to men getting their hair trimmed or styled, I think that they did it, originally FOR women but now I think with most men it's BECAUSE of women that they do it. Many men like to get their hair cut nowadays because they think they look nice(which I'm glad about) and I think the same goes for make-up although I doubt that was ever for women... it was probably because of them or other males(generally homosexuals) who looked good with it on and other men wanted to too.

[AshikaMetisse]

Tonya auntie, I love your non-verbal communication gestures. You talk like you're celebrating feminity 24/7. Thanx for the advice.

-Aïcha

[RomiEzzo]

I listen to Destiny's Child here and there... and one of my favorite songs is "Cater to You". You know exactly what you're talking about when you say, "Men love to be nurtured."

[tompettygoddess]

Tonya, you're always so beautiful!

[earlwms]

Nice Video.....funny and insightful...keep up the good work Tonya

[zacatetas]

can u deal with precum issues? Like I spooge all over myself when ever I watch BET

[2damnfunny]

Regarding the sex....how do you stop him from doing something that hurts like HELL!!!!!

[TonyaTko]

@2damnfunny Um. Scream out OUCH! And cower at the corner of the bed and begin shaking... look at him with wide doe eyes and start trembling leading up to large convulsions!

What do you mean how do you stop him from doing something which hurts like hell? The body has a natural reaction to pain. If something hurts, recoil and stop it. It should not hurt... if it does, STOP immediately... this is not about ego, this is about reproductive health. Something could be wrong down there...

-Tko

[TheGoddessNetworks]

I think I have posted enough on this board..lol I dont want to take up all the space. Hey if this works for you ladies fine, Evidence shows, it doesn't. BW have catered to the male ego for eons and it has not gotten us anywhere. My dad went and bought a house for my mom, and set her up a bank account PRIOR TO MARRIAGE. Why? BECAUSE SHE REQUIRED IT and so did my GRANDFATHER require it of my Dad. No around the bush talk, just "if you want to marry my daughter you must do such and such.

[donaldsyd24]

Can it be too long?

[Faysalaaa]

Women always want us men to complimet them on every single thing and if we dont its a disaster even on simple things like if she gets a haircut and we dont recodnise it :P lol but they never compliment us on anything!

[YurgesBitch]

i love you tonya tko x

[TonyaTko]

@YurgesBitch HEY! Where have you BEEN! Its been too long

-Tko

[YurgesBitch]

@TonyaTko i know honey but iv been away for a long time with school and all and im glad to see u still making video love your work xxxx

[TheFPF422]

Just one thing, when I had my SLK, it was for the driving pleasure, didn't care to attract chicks with it... never mentioned it when going out and I changed my Pirelli's (OEM) for Goodyears as they where much better in traction and road noise LOL

[TonyaTko]

@TheFPF422 LOL! Youre so cute. How old were you when you had your SLK? And whether it was for "your driving pleasure" or not, I'm sure you noticed it attracted women. And that extra "noise" you heard on the road was probably the tires bursting as the Goodyears have been known not to hold up as well as the Pirelli's... THANK Goodness you werent transporting women around in that! ;-) Can't have any precious girls getting hurt in your MadMax Mobile LOL. I'm just ribbing you man.

-Tko

[TheFPF422]

@TheFPF422 On Tonya's request, here is a little fact... The GoodYear tyres have 3 level of quality... the best being reserved for Europe, the second for Asia and the worst for the Americas... How do I know that? I worked for Pirelli Tyres and it was a point of... lets say, incomprehension for the marketing people (and other departments)

[TheFPF422]

Part 1 The first SLK I got was the first model, the R170 and I got that one at 34 but the real good one the following model R171 I was 39 (I'm now 45)

You first have to know that I was working for Pirelli Tyres Benelux, the official branch for Pirelli Milano in Belgium, Holland and Luxemburg and I was a real fan of the product.

The R171 was a SLK350 7G that came with the Pirelli P-Zero System as OEM.

[TheFPF422]

Part 2 I had the car modified by Mercedes to up the output to 300bhp with 400 Nm of torque and I found out that the Pirellis couldn't handle that torque and were wearing out fast so I changed the tyres to GoodYears F1, much better tyres and giving me the double mileage... You have also to know GoodYear has 3 quality of tyres, the best being reserved for Europe, the second for Asia and the Worst for the Americas (don't know why, but it's a fact)

[TheFPF422]

Part 3 As for attracting women, honestly, I didn't notice, I never used my car as a perk when meeting ladies and true that it was a head turner but for men as women as the special exhaust line fitted by Mercedes was giving a low very enjoyable rumble to a very racy high pitched engine note in full charge (0 to 60 mph in 5,4 seconds)

[TheFPF422]

@TheFPF422 The modifications were the airbox and filters, the exhaust line and a new injection cartography... As the car had already the sport chassis and suspension and the bigger brakes, that's all what was needed... but if you start from scratch with a normal car, those things need to be upgraded too

[TheFPF422]

@TheFPF422 Light rims will make your car more responsive and give a better road handling... as the non suspended weight is reduced. Low profile tyres are used to make fast cornering safer and faster but be careful because the car will be a bit less comfortable and as they are in general wider, more prone to aquaplaning on wet road surfaces

[amazingracepp]

I haven't watched the video yet but i'm going to get my popcorn :-D

[Alphasuede]

Nice

[Alphasuede]

Nice



[lildwayne21]

There's something about this shit that freaks me out. Maybe its the voice.

[TonyaTko]

@soragirl6 Thank you Sora... I'm thinking of doing meditation videos soon too :)

-Tko

[wiwut]

Wow I havent even started watching and already people are fired up on here... The title is such a eye opener...cant wait to see what the ranting all about.

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@reddbrotha7 this is my last post to you. You have proved my point. All the ego stoking does not produce industrious men, if left unchecked. Just more men who want to go to the strip club and take the money he should be building his family with, and put it into fantasy.

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@reddbrotha7 You are just making this easy..ROFL! So your dad taught you to go to strip clubs to get your ego stroked by women who you will never have AND subsequently spend your money (take it from your home) and give it to other women. So build the bank account of others for "sexual dreams" all the while subtracting from your bank account. WOW WHAT A WONDERFUL WISE MAN OF A FATHER YOU HAD! ROFL!!!! My point exactly. Apparently YOUR MOM DID NOT CHECK THIS FUCKED UP BEHAVIOUR.

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@reddbrotha7 This emotional rant just proved MY POINT! Nuff Said..LMAO!!!!

Men are so predictable. FYI. A women brought you into the world, she nurtured you and sustained your life force. WOMEN are the only ones qualified to critize her own creation. So that "women dont know about men" OR "women cant tell a man shyt" excuse is BS. A WOMEN MAKES THE MAN, be it a slack ass women or a powerful one. MEN in general are products of their MOTHER.

[KingWyn]

You're so fine Tonya, I'm losin my mind over here!

[blahblahblahman]

I've never been on a date with a man who even took the time to make sure that his car was clean and nice looking. I even went on a date with a man who had a condom on his fucking dashboard.

I'm in a relationship now, so it doesn't matter, but men don't go through half as much as women do when it comes to the whole "mating ritual". Men are generally lazy and don't give a shit. Especially my generation...there is no such thing as "courtship" anymore.

[TonyaTko]

@blahblahblahman Youre a WOMAN? All of this time I thought you were a guy! But seriously, you have never been out on a date with a man who thought enough of you to clean the car before you got in it? And youre in a relationship? I hear you saying that women do twice as much as men. I have a feeling youre not in a happy union. There are a lot of men out there who WANT To treat a woman right. You dont have to put up with that. Seriously

-Tko

[blahblahblahman]

@TonyaTko

My generation is just LAZY! Seriously. This is why I now try to date older men (as if it will be so much better lol), because guys in their early 20's just don't get it. They don't know what "courtship" is. That's like a foreign concept to them. They want everything easy; they want the women to go to THEM. My relationship now is the best I've been in, in my short life. Of course it's not PERFECT, but I'm happy.

I'm curious though, is there a lucky guy who is dating TonyaTko now? :D

[OverXposedKC91]

thanks for this video, i see i've been doing WRONG!

[lavinder11]

@TonyaTko

Yeah, I did it to myself, but it really was the right size, I just didn't mention it until later. Forgot to say your comment about respect and confidence. That should be the basis of every relationship because feeling like your man has your back means you can trust him.

It seems like my friend is having this problem. Because of his track record, she doesn't trust him in anything, so she solves ALL the problems in the relationship and second guesses (rightfully most of the time) him.

[lavinder11]

I'm at the beginning of the video, but the title brings a smile to my face. I was complimenting my boyfriend (in my mind) but it turned out to be an insult to him. We were watching something and this Jamaican guy had a huge schlong.

-Yeah, and women say size doesn't matter.

-Of course it does. I hate big penises, they hurt.

-(face drop) What are you trying to say

-I don't like big penises

-So mine isn't big?

-Um... no. I mean, what? It's the right size, honey.

-Wow

-Really, it is...

lol

[lavinder11]

His honestly was the right size.

[lavinder11]

"We cannot be strong in the same way he's strong"

Meh. Sometimes, that kind of personality cannot be tamed no matter how many steps one takes to 'feminize' oneself. I think an understanding woman could be able to appreciate a man's struggle more if they witnessed them in women's studies classes. The ladies' reactions to the few guys in the class made me feel really bad for them (except one). It seems like the guilt-driven study of shafted groups leaves the majority (sometimes unfairly) behind.

[lavinder11]

@lavinder11

Even though all your points are valid, these are too many points for me. I attract very direct and blunt guys. In my experience I was usually told when I was hurting his feelings.

[cherryz88]

@lavinder11 <<< amen, i'm glad i'm not the only one who doesn't like a big ass schlong rippin my hole and tearing up my walls lol

[lavinder11]

@cherryz88

The question is, how do you complement a man in that regard without saying he's small? Because a lot of them do ask, eventually...

[TonyaTko]

@lavinder11 Wow Lavinder... You set yourself up for that one. LOL! :-P You need to have penis blinders on, just like men must have blinders on when big breasted bimbos walk by. If your man's penis is not larger than the one on screen, pretend you cant see it. His penis is so amazing that you are blind to ALLL other crippled c*cks. If you must comment comment on how your man's looks harder or more virile... but best thing is to see and not see. LOL.

-Tko

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@reddbrotha7 It will work for a man mature enough in his emotions not to be lead my a womens mere words. Hell do you know how many women tell men what they want to hear only to sneak out and fuck the next door neighbor. YOU MEN BETTER GROW UP AND GET OUT OF THAT LOW EGO MESS.

Those women in the strip club get PAID while he is going BROKE dreaming of something he will never have. Is that a good investment?

[dratman]

This is great ... a lot of truth here. Wonderful.

[ifyoumustknowask]

Is this a training on how to get a thug or a man?

[TonyaTko]

@ifyoumustknowask This is not a video about how to "Get" anyone... this is a video about giving compliments to acknowledge the things which different men do & pay attention to. Please let me know which part of this video you felt was directed towards who you are labeling as a "Thug" & Making the differentiation between him and a "man?" You must elaborate on what you found off-base

-Tko

[ifyoumustknowask]

@TonyaTko Well, lets start with the Rim and Woofer "admiration" portion of the lecture. It appears to me you are used to a certain type of man who possesses or likes those things. Most men I know as well as myself stopped caring about those things back in high school. You by "appreciating" those things, are encouraging those types of trivial behaviors by caving in to those adolescent behaviors and habits.

I used the word "thug" to desc. of a "Grown Boy" who believes that his car is the end all.

[TonyaTko]

@ifyoumustknowask Oh Okay, I see what youre saying, but I'm not really sure what rims and great sound system has to do with thugs. And do remember when I make videos I make them for a wide assortment of people, and everybody won't like the same thing. The avg age of a woman watching my video is 25. There were of course, lots of things I left out: Complimenting his home, intelligence, physique. But the basic sentiment is to Compliment the man. If you have some to add, please do

-Tko

[TonyaTko]

@ifyoumustknowask And yes Im glad you pointed that out, bcz the average age of a woman watching my vid is 25 I had to remember back to what the guys were really concerned with back then, and it is of course different now for a 40 year old man. I think its unfair for you to label a man who may be different from you as a thug. I could have added more compliment categories, I just hope the women get the drift. Its already a 40 min video, I cannot include Everything. But youre right, I left out alot

[ifyoumustknowask]

@TonyaTko Even 25 is kinda too old. Thats college finished age. What's up with us that we are pushing the adolescent age from 18 to 30. Pretty soon it will be 40. you know what I mean?

[TonyaTko]

@ifyoumustknowask First of all, I think you are judgmental and out of touch. Since when did buying rims for your car make you an adolescent? See past your own prejudice against rap videos to know wealthy men are not riding around on factory rims & hubcaps. They customize their cars w/high-end beauty. And what is ignorant or thuggish about liking good sound? A discerning gentleman appreciates high fidelity. & Even I still love that sultry low bass which stirs yur loins. Poor Sound is unrefined

[ifyoumustknowask]

@TonyaTko As you stated earlier your audience's average age is 25. Its more likely that they are not wealthy. Why are you talking about what they cant afford then. Its more likely that they are spending the majority of their money on these things you are promoting as "refined". Thats why the majority of us are broke.

[amazingracepp]

@ifyoumustknowask If you're "broke", i'm sure you do not wish to remain so for the rest of your life. Thus, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being informed for the future. If you plan on staying "broke" for the rest of your life, your issues go beyond this video.

[Ethioness]

@amazingracepp Its not about being broke. You don't even get the jist of what he was responding to.

[Sumfera]

I LOVE you for knowing our egos so well. You know exactly what's going on in the male head.

[TonyaTko]

@Sumfera Why thank you, there were so many things I left out... so I appreciate your support

-Tko

[Sumfera]

@TonyaTko How did you even come across all that knowledge? Really, you're perfect.

[jamaalb]

your awesome ;)

[peepopo236]

I LIKE YOUR VIDEOS...MY WIFE NEEDS TO WATCH THIS...

[lavinder11]

@peepopo236

Or you could just tell her.

[TonyaTko]

@peepopo236 LOL! Send her a link ;-)

-Tko

[PrettiestPinkGun]

Great advice!

[shaostyle]

I like your videos for the female perspective, but honestly, if you think about, we man learn to become fake to be able to attract women. To go through all this to attract women, me as a male, has learn not to take women to seriously, we are not stupid, instead of having someone to appreciate us as we are at the moment, we alter our personalities to attract women that we eventually learn to see as objects. Man reading this, improve for no one but yourselves.

[Unonanahah]

my husband likes his ego stroked...ican tell...and his ego can be off the charts at times,lol

[chrissys31]

oh Jesus everytime I hear your vids it makes perfect sense to me what Im doing wrong and how I do deserve better. The father of my kids of 16 yrs isnt doing his job as a man and is gettin emotionally abusive and the light is shedding as I watch your vids! Take care your vids are appreciated.

[TonyaTko]

@chrissys31 Wow... Im so happy Chris, but also confused as to how this compliment video made you feel your man is not doing his job. Is it that you cant compliment him? Just curious

-Tko

[chrissys31]

@TonyaTko sorry didnt explain better but yes as you are talking about how a man carries himself or should Im thinking of how I cant compliment him because he doesnt do the things he should to get those compliments! Your so right thou with what your saying ego boosting n making each other feel good goes both ways.

[MissDestynee]

Do u have a man or did u interview men 4 this and if u do have 1 r these things u've use with ur man

[TonyaTko]

@MissDestynee I dont kiss and tell Destynee... but please do trust that ALL men need reassurance. The things I speak about abt the car are Geared towards men who make special emphasis on enhancing his car. All men don't. Some men are more cerebral. Complement him on how smart he is. This list is comprised of only some of the things I have done over the years.& Yes, I compliment strangers Daily. Next week's vids will go into MORE Depth. A GOOD man needs to be appreciated, a bad man let go

-Tko

[gamoonbat]

Is that cup coordinated with the color of her dress?

[TonyaTko]

@gamoonbat LOL. Um... is the cup coordinated with my dress? No :-P

The cup is beige.

-Tko

[gamoonbat]

@TonyaTko - That is something men are not very good at, I guess.

[bmhamixc]

Tonya I can definitely relate to this video and the men and cars and egos. Great video

[DutcHHouSeLoVeR59]

damn u're an attractive mature thick woman ...

[dizzybeats]

nice tits

[nikamiw]

Awesome video, love you Tonya! I'm so excited you're doing another one of your "week" series ^_^ And I love that quote at the end, it's soo true and something we should keep in the back of our minds!

[UKangel18]

loved this video thank goodness for big sister tonya lol xx

[dreadheadrasta19]

tonya hearing u address this topic was like verbal porn...... u awredy know u look certified. i hope these ladies learn from ya tactics though. stand tall miss. i salute ya

[Luckey2007]

Get your man girl, You are looking FIERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRCEEEEE!!

[renthal971]

One time ,this girl i was dating complemented my tires, I thought she was weird. But now I know>>>>

[LadyFlameSniper]

Really enjoyed this one. :)

[PalmOliveSoap]

hi Tonya it has been a long time since i had he chance to watch your world i have been in another country working and had no internet boo hoo, thank you for being you

luv from BG

SPRINKLES

[zheahra]

Gone, Tonya,

My fav colors. Great title for vid. They (men) worship their egos. When he is comfortable with himself and knows who he is all he wants you to do is appreciate his many attributes.

Zheahra

[HomerBong]

just keep it real T. this why theres no trust in relationships anymore.

[TheNoleboo]

I love this vid - thanks!! I'm one of your biggest fan :-)

[TheGoddessNetworks]

All the stroking is why men dont grow up. Stroking is the same as Manipulating. Hey I dont have a problem with that, but lets call it what it is. Grown men dont need to be coddled all the time, babies do. To many women coddle to the ego of men. These same men in turn use these women and mistreat them.TELL THEM WHAT YOU LIKE.You dont have to coddle all the time.Some appreciate you just being UPFRONT. Still alwasys SHOW APPRECIATION. Men must grow up emotionally

[TonyaTko]

@TheGoddessNetworks I've done a lot of thinking about what you say, and I must counteract; Bad BOYS are Immature... If you have a Good MAN on your Team he MUST be appreciated. This video is not about stroking a man who is abusing you, plz listen again. And You are free to do whatever you like; if you would like to tell your man he's on your top 5 list of best lovers, and that you've seen Bigger Penises, go right head. This vid is for women who WANT To. & If u got everything u need. Fine.

-Tko

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@TonyaTko @TonyaTko Sistar lets be REAL. Its not about Men vs Bad Boys. GROWN MEN ACT LIKE CHILDREN. Some Bad Boys are more responsible than some other Men. There should be no titles put on men based on behaviour in these discussions. I listened again, what I am saying TKO is coddling leads to immaturity. That is why men are immature now. To much Stroking. Eventually sis men have to get over their emotional ego trauma, just like women do.

[TonyaTko]

@TheGoddessNetworks "SiStar" I like that. We are ALL Grown children. But men are FORCED to secede the natural tendencies of a child MUCH earlier on, forcing them into premature 'adulthood.' Im sorry to say, but I think a lot of what you're saying comes from some internal distaste you have for men in general. Please point to which sentiment of 'complimenting' did you perceive as 'coddling?' I merely say If a man is doing something RIGHT, compliment him on what you like and you'll get more of that

[TonyaTko]

@TheGoddessNetworks and yes, there Most definitely should be titles of differentiation placed on men, ESPECIALLY in these discussions, bcz ALL Men are NOT created equal. You have Good Men who deserve accolades, and Bad Men who do not. The problem is the RIGHT men are NOT being adored & complimented Enough. When a woman has a good man he should be told so, and given All the love that woman can muster for that man handling business the RIGHT WAY. All to often the Good Guy Goes Ignored.

-Tko

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@TonyaTko Titles dont work in this discussion because every women has a diff defination for Good or Bad.What is good to you,maybe bad for another sister. Thats my point.We are talking about the emotional and mental behaviour of men. Understanding it,so we can "stroke it" to get what we want. NOTHING to go with good or bad men.ANY WOMEN can get what she wants from ANY MAN,if she is skilled in the art of communication, seduction and sexuality.This is not about good guys vs bad guys.

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@TonyaTko Oh Sistar and its not about a "big dick"

The Men I asked told me they want a women to TELL HIM HOW TO PLEASE HER. He did not want to be coddled. He wanted to know if he was "hitting it right"

I am not disagreeing totally with your vid. I have just seen the negative effects of to much ego stroking. Sometimes sisters need to just tell the men what she likes and does not like.



[TonyaTko]

@TheGoddessNetworks On a last note you have to be VERY careful how you criticize someone's sexual performance. Say it wrong &you have ostracized/ demoralized them. Instead of saying "I Hate those shallow strokes" Say "I Love those deep strokes." This is Life and this type of gesture requires consideration & tact. Blurting out critiques off the cuff is not only lazy, its moot, and this extends FAR beyond just Men. This involves Everyone you know and how you choose to express what needs changing.

[TheGoddessNetworks]

@TonyaTko I NEVER said to be rude. I find it interesting that being upfront is equated with "rudeness". No it is called EFFECTIVE ADULT COMMUNICATION. I am saying dont tip toe around the bush. Alot of time is wasted in catering to the male ego when he just needs to be told or shown, what you like and dislike.

[MakeupFreak1990]

lol you're loking good:D

you're hella funny too

[79candyland]

Dear Tonya,

I LOOOOOve your videos! Omg they are helping me so so much. Please continue with these dating videos! Please keep up with videos on self worth and what women should put up with! LOL You are an Angel!

Love and light

Best Wishes

[TonyaTko]

@79candyland Thanks I definitely have to do more Self Worth Videos. I'm thinking about saving the relationship stuff for the live tours... seems some ppl are resistant when they dont want the message. So I may save them for people who DO. Thnks for the love

-Tko

[ChiiSakura]

Love you TKo, this 20-year old girl adores you!