Giving Up On Love?

[DraggAddams]

Love is a fairy tale its sounds beautiful but being realistic, it doesn't exist nowadays thats why we should give up.

[bloodzupkrabzdown]

I really needed to hear this..

[koalakidd0345]

this guy right here in this video is freaking awesome! im a white girl and i can relate to you! that my friend, is fucking kick ass, you are my new hero. i dont care what color skin you have, how you talk, whatever, i think we're all the same inside! and by the way, you give really good advice!

~Haley<3

[DarkExtsy42]

Temple! Happy New Year 2011. I love this video and God Bless you on your endeavors im loving your information

DarkExtsy44

[Nizaria18]

temple thumbs up

[tmq2moo]

Damn! I needed to hear this as lonely as I been lately! Can't give up on love! Thanks

[tmq2moo]

Damn! I needed this video as lonly as I been lately. Love is hard to find but you can't stop looking. Thanks, great vid.

[poet1111]

damn lookin fine honey haha

[dwilliams171]

I love you!! I won't give up boo!

[teestarsince89]

Thank you for this, hopefully you got thru to some men who maybe "blind"

- I haven't given up on love, just tire & need sustenance only God can provide, only then can I love selflessly

[MzLaLaLove]

.. but then get upset when you find out that not only is she a FREAK with you,but also a HOE on the side.. lol... A REAL WOMAN = A LADY in the STREETS,FREAK in the SHEETS + honesty + integrity+ intelligence+ depth+ ALOT OF OTHER GOOD TRAiTS! :)

[MzLaLaLove]

And to the fellas, that applies to you too!! LOVE A WOMAN, a **REAL** woman, not a just human-being with a vagina... LMAO... seriously though. When you love a real woman, she's gonna do you right, do you good, be faithful, support you, let you "lead", do a DAMN GOOD job raising your kids (if you have some with her), make you feel like a "MAN" all the time... im tellin you, some of ya'll be TOO BUSY worried about how SEXY she looks to your homeboys, & ya'll want trophies, want nasty FREAKS...

[MzLaLaLove]

LOVE the one who loves you,supports you,makes you feel good. Love the one who inspires you, understands, and is concerned. When you try to "love" someone because he's driving around in Benz, gots a chisled up body, and/or is on the verge of becoming a millionaire then you are "loving" for the WRONG REASONS, and that's not even REAL LOVE anyways!

[CRAZYKATIE2222]

if you didnt put some of tht exrta talk in there about yourself, you would seem more real. &nd i believe more would watch over and over!

[Young7Prince]

Women are so fuckin shallow. They only vision a man who is bullwet proof with lots of money and material things and good looks. Most women say that they are in love with a man when its really lust and infactuation.

[A1sauce79]

@Young7Prince You meant some women right?

[MzLaLaLove]

@Young7Prince Yeah, that's TRUE to a big point... in 2010 women aren't the same like they used to be back in the day. I, on the contrary ain't too much into the money or material shit, because I can GET iT BY MYSELF... but anyway, I've met ALOT of good men,I can't lie.. I got male-friends trying to be with me, and it sucks because I KNOW im CAPABLE of loving a MAN like hell, but I CAN'T HAVE THEM ALL/LOVE THEM ALL... there is ONLY one of me...and I don't believe in CHEATiNG.

[MzLaLaLove]

@Young7Prince I know ALOT of shallow females, and males... ALL people in general. HUMANiTY is fucked up in 2010............ there is GARBAGE everywhere, walking amongst the REAL PEOPLE! it's sad... but im good. I got my shawty and I love him STRONGLY, but like I said I got other males **heartbroken**,because I chose who I chose... like I said, I WISH I COULD HAVE ALL OF YA'LL! ;) lol

[LipsStickLips1]

Beautiful

[diragurl]

He is a litte on da real side, but I respect his openess, honesty, and his ability to open himself up to being vulnerable. Now that really is a man! Only a real man can admit his faults and fears and don't care what say u say about him.

[tasha1985]

Thank for the positivity on not giving up on love..

But the way these men are these days I'm glad with being alone.

So that why I'm single .. There is nothing as far as men goes .. productive out there.

I'm glad you brought of the destructive world that's what it is..

But I think You are intellectual individual for putting it out there.

[RolandaDene91]

Thank you so much for this. Wish I could have seen the un-edited version lol. I'm only 18 and I feel it. Real talk. I am officially a new subscriber lol

[lionclaw77]

As a 17 year old male I respect your experience and wisdom. You got a message that needs to be heard. I think I needed that. It kinda re-fueled me desire to find what I need most. I wish is wasn't so hard to find that beauty inside but thats life for ya. Never stop speaking the truth. It might hurt, people might criticise you for it, but in the end we'll always need it.

[Avalita07]

he looks totally sneeky like a womanizer

[A1sauce79]

@Avalita07 What?

[kinkytrinibaby]

my fav vid by you

[kinkytrinibaby]

this is my fav video by you. I hope that I am on my way to being one of thoes good women from a man's perspective. I might need to purchase that cd! I listen to this to remind myself of things from time to time.

[socajem]

very heart felt, i would love for you to create a video on what makes a good woman/ a good female. I can't c myself given up on love maybe that's because i'm in love but u no i always got love 4 u.x You should come do a talk in London on relationships.

p.s u sounded British when u said meeting @ 01:48

the tarahtid had me in stitches @ 13:55.

[HoneyBrown2780]

Wow, I truly agree. Well said!

[MrKeepnit100]

yea dude this vid reached me to late im done with the whole thing cant even get a girl to look at me.............

[WJJ1968]

Put me in the 'given up on love' gropu. Dating is cool but if I haven't found a life partner t almost 42, it's a done deal.

[TheArtfulShow]

I have totally given up. Marriage and kids are not in my book, ever. love doesnt exist and relationships dont work.

[mistamac123]

@TheArtfulShow sorry to hear that, but givin up wont get you love.

[PHEOLA1]

lol @ 13:55 "de rahtid"

[SiriHakuoh]

More ppl need to hear this!

[prrettychocolate911]

i needed to hear this!! ;-) HOL UP ! lemme find out u threw a little patoi in there "to rahtid".. mek dem kno how yuh feel baybi!! lol lol i could tell u had alot on ya mind! more videos please, please please!! i wouldnt say i gave up but im jus patiently waiting.. i actually havent found a guy that can i say i was really feeling long enuf to wanna b in a relationship... maybe my standards are too high.. *sigh*... its soo frustrating :-(

[Machelle3200]

this is  a very touching subject..i've given up on love...i really have..im single and celibate...i'm very lonely though..i would love to just have someone to talk to sometimes....but a nice godfearing man is just almost nonexistent....

[mistamac123]

@Machelle3200  we are not nonexistent, you are probably lookin in the wrong places. trust me, my and my boys sit at the table, have drinks, and ask each other where are the good women. The three of us talk about our experiences with bitch women and etc. We are all lookin for that special lady, just gotta search in the right places.

[EvisceratorBand]

That is one cool motherfucker.

[1diamond977]

I subscribed and I enjoy listening to you. Ramble on its good to hear.

[hugandkissme33]

Did you say "to rahtid" for a minute? Sure I heard you said something to that effect. In other words, well said, like always. 5stars

[cooler303]

You speak the truth man, we need more love and respect and loyalty on both the male and female sides and I think its good to talk about.

[AJT2009100]

Love sucks nobody needs it. It is a waste of time and just awful.

[NicNacPTac01]

Ur 17yrs old baby lol, enjoy ur life.

[suckingboobies]

Temple, I'm happy to have found your channel,your views on life and so on are very addictive,I hope to be just as intelligent as you.

[putme2gthr]

I am very strong in my position as an independent but I will never take away from a man his right to stand strong and lead. It is in their DNA and I want my man to feel great about his achievements. To know that he is appreciated for his hard work and never try to rise above him but stand strong by his side and mirror his greatness.

[MIZZAA]

Good talk! You made me die laughin at 13:55 lol

[usernamehere84]

11:27 Church !!!!

[MC0090]

You are always in classic form....brilliant insight as usual I learned something else about myself today I really needed this!!!

[xelegencex]

dont give up!!!

[aLmOnDeYeZzz]

RANDOM QUESTION: Temple, Are you Jamaican???

[MissRoxanneshante]

lol i think so cauuse i heard that " tu rahtid" and i died

[aLmOnDeYeZzz]

lmao... i know right!

[bnmayland]

it's always good to hear a mans perspective on relationships. i have been struggling with young men for the past couple of years and it is good to understand where men are coming from. thanks for not candy coating the reality of relationships. this really enlightened my outlook on love. thanks.

[ernfrn40]

this young man appears to have been through every obstacle of a relationship. His knowledge/thoughts/views, perhaps supported by personal experience, would seem likely to be expressed by a person much older and later in life who has actually "lived" these situations.....does this make sense.lol

[phenomenal17]

I love this!!

[punkkimiko]

ty u so much. i have no guys to talk to about this stuff.

[stepcmpb]

Bravo!! You did it again. Thank You for sharing. Loved it!!!! Beautiful and inspiring.

[QueenLioness84]

Both as a man and a human-being, you are such a breath of fresh air. You speak such truth and wisedom. You are one of the few men that ACTUALLY get it. I appreciate you and what you do soo much. I thank my starts I came across your page. In a sense, you have reinstilled my faith in men and their potential. Than you

[persijente]

love<3

[womanwheart]

Wow! You have me speechless....and I am "never," speechless. (You're very talented Temple, and I sincerely wish you all the best.)

[love7147]

Brilliant!

[1bluejazzykat]

Keep doing what you are doing because some sisters don't have a dad, brothers or male cousins to give them the real deal on relationships. Much success to you. I pray that all your dreams come true.

[1bluejazzykat]

THAT WAS BEAUTIFUL!! Sisters like myself, had to learn through trial and error what is acceptable in the dating world.  It is hard to get a man's point of view on dating, because frankly, they are thinking about sex. Most brothers don't want to state any hard truth about men because of how they could be judged. It is nice to see a round the way brother give the real low down on love and relationships.

[blkberryshake]

thanks for sharing i needed to hear this and you are successful

[402009me]

It has been AMAZING to hear a man have something to say that's worth taking the time to listen! Thank You! I was really starting to think a real conversation was asking way to much of men! You made so many valid points. I will keep you in my prayers may God intertwine peace/goals in your life. Much success to you. And if you say man a million times it"s better than a man saying man once WITH NOTHING MEANING FULL TO SAY! God Bless You Much Success to you. 1luv

[scorpiopatty33]

Very true when you say that women will shit on each other for a dude....VERY TRUE! In most cases...Men are way more loyalty to their male friends than women are to their female friends when it comes to the opposite sex.

[Misstee1089]

I sleep next to my dreams too. I understand your frustration in that area. You will succeed. You should make videos on "Fulfilling Your Dreams". Thanks for the video. I do want to be in love again. Maybe one day!

[LadyDydy]

Wow...Great Talk..Real Talk as Always. Beautiful.

[bevon17]

Its harder for me to get with women when I'm nice to them.

I'm 19 and the girls are so wrapped up in trying to find a lil wayne.

last girl I talked to was a white chick who just wanted to eff me because i was black...

I thought she wanted to date.

she won't even talk to me now that she knows I'm not going to be her sex buddy.

8:25

I needed that.....

[DaisyThorn]

Wow, thats actually fuckin horrible!

Good luck in the future... :S

[SexyRaww]

@bevon17 maybe she doesn't want love because she was dissapointed too many times before...you never know...

[whiteknightofkaos]

Well when you get that old that's what the old folks home is for. I think people need to let God hook them up. Cause he's the one that only knows what's right for you. But when you decide you going to do it yourself. That's how you end up with so many unhappy people that get done wrong by somebody from a relationship. Try God not eharmony

[hahapwnedyouuuuu]

take out all the times he says man and the video would only be 7 mins long

[lovelyleyley]

lmao

[hahapwnedyouuuuu]

man man man man man

[1sweetcanderella]

i didn't assume you were listening... "he says shit to me i need to hear"... i was listening too... ;)

[GurlTalkkTV]

lol....That part was about the frustrations of running a business, not the love part. :) But I do agree you were listening and for that I sincerely say thank you.

1Luv

[tanyatmr]

@GurlTalkkTV I heard you say "To rhaatid"........lol!! Gwaan my bredren talk de tings dem!!! My mother is Jamaican and dad is American.

[1sweetcanderella]

That was some VERY mature advice my friend... Your little old, man friend is a very wise soul... Glad you have listening ears...  Thank you...

[GurlTalkkTV]

your welcome... lol but why would you assume that it was i who was listening? :)

[beennamedIcy]

Great minds think alike!

[AZpomegranate]

Excellent!, this post was excellent and well said. Really appreciate it.

[JOIPLICIMA]

man says man too much man...:)

[Nastassia126]

Already made the decision to leave a relationship, but your vid caused me to have an Epiphany!!!!! Thank You!

[xBlueDahlia89x]

You're really cool. Wonderful video, something I needed to hear :)

[BesmirchedAngel]

Love you Temple! Thanks for bringing up a topic that affects us all and bringing some light to it. Much love

[LaytoyaJ]

Serious topic...i understand u completely! I appreciate you taking time to bless us with this video.

[blackeee1]

Love is like a brick wall...when you are hurt it is like someone keep taking bricks from the bottom. Once you take so many bricks the shit crumbles. There is no structure...and no security with it. When that happens sometimes you just look at the rubble and walk away. So it is hard to build a love wall with the rubble that is around your feet.

[BxFirebird]

I appreciate what you do, Temple. It is very very important. Thank you.

[snowbunnyxiv]

Hey T...i agree w/ you and on the flip it's hard to find a man who is beautiful on the inside and out too:) But i do agree...please people don't give up on love!

[MizchievousDiva]

sounds good...but I am one of the people who have given up on Love. I experienced to last pain I ever want to feel in a relationship. I will spending the rest of my life focusing on me and give my life to God. But I don't ever want to be in another relationship.

[bribay08]

i feel u 100%

[AnnaleishaMae]

I agree with the God bit.

[PoetryGirl]

I agree Temple. Great video!

[msoyekan]

EXACTLY.  There is freedom in pure LOVE.

[dsp7631]

I'm struggling with love. After every relationship my love tank is a little more empty. I try to believe that love is out there for me ,but I'm not getting any younger...... my grip on hope( love) is getting weaker.

[dreadznigga]

man dis is good..good job bro keep it up

[PreCurSeD]

I love love but cant seem to find the right one

[imtang0708]

Don't worry about Dan being white. If Dan's showing ya some love like a mentor, soak it up! Smart people will seek like minds not colors! Maybe At 60, Dan knows a few things about women and people in general. Friends come in all different ages, sizes, races and sexes! You have awesome character (people skills) and people probably see you as someone who's cool to chat with! You'll have many guardian angels in your life so DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL SHIT!!! Life's way too short! Just ask Dan! Relax!

[GurlTalkkTV]

No worries my friend, Dan's color has never concerned me and never will, I think you took the joke out of context or maybe too seriously, but thank you for the positive message nonetheless.

1Luv,

GurlTalkkTV

[PreCurSeD]

Love is another word for revenge

[ncfwhitetigress]

Revenge for what?

[freakyzeek45]

I once heard that Love dont Love nothing but itself. Lol. Somethin I thought was interesting you said was regardin how hard it is in this world nowadays. Dont let no 1 that grew up in the '60's & back hear you say that. Lol

[freakyzeek45]

If women realized that if they made the man that they want an offer he couldnt refuse..... Guess what that'll lead to? LOVE!!!!!

[beaut4brns]

WOW..I love your videos, but this one really hits hard. Thanks for this!

[lynn1916]

righttt...it was EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. It's going to help me alot in the long run

[MakeupOnABudget]

Love this vid! I see you lookin at GQ, get it Temple!

[missenamina]

I'm a new fan... I love all your videos especially this one.I've watched this one a few times already. I'd like to hear more on what exactly a good female is... maybe I'm one of those girls who thinks she's a good woman but really has no idea.

[SepiaBrown]

Thanks for this. I kinda needed this cause I almost gave up last night on the love thing. Seems to hurt more than feel good at times.

[1LoverOfMusic0]

I think people should know that there is a difference between needing and wanting a man. Lets PLEASE stop and think about that. It really irks my nerves that people dont. I NEED food, water, shelter, and the ability to breathe. I WANT success, a man, friends i can count on, etc.

[PreCurSeD]

At least someone realizes.

[GurlTalkkTV]

No you NEED a man, just like a man NEEDS a woman. However, it is our repeated failures, frustrations and bad experiences that we use to convince ourselves and others apparently that (men/women) now belong in the WANT department. Yet from a faith perspective, depending on your personal beliefs men and women were created for each other out of need rather than want.

[bxboo823]

Big up jamaican.... Another good video. u also have to understand when a female or even male been hurt so many times its hard to think that there is love.

[SOCRATES012]

One of your best Temple.

Peace and Love bro

[AlphaMale305]

Every single word you said is exactly how I feel about the situation on love. You just explain better cuz you can edit your video and what your saying on youtube. LOL. Don't give up on love.

[SooDejaVu]

i dont believe its about needing anything...i think its more about having an understandng of what women don't want via the drama and the bullshit they've experieced in previous situations. i dont believe that i need a man, no, but i do know and believe that i want one, i want all the things u mentioned that we need...but i don't feel that i need them...what i need is love and want i want is a man that gives it to me freely unconditionally and unapolegictically.

smooches

SooDejaVu

[trapordie87]

Wow man, this hit me hard. very well presented, and thank you

[alvinaluvsu]

Thank you for showing me that men like you exist. I'm a young lady, and even at my age I've already contemplated giving up on love... but seeing that guys like you are out there inspires me to not give up on the search.

best of wishes.

[blkbutterflii]

Great video!

[DLDipset]

thank you for moving me forward

[mpenny226]

As much as I have been let down and hurt, I will not give up on love. It makes me shake my head when I see brothers with women who don't appreciate them. You have to date for more than just her booty size or her breast size or both. I'm independent but I am looking for a man that I can be a partner to. I love this vid Temple. Thank you for opening up and sharing your own issues. Praying for you baby. I KNOW that you are going to succeed!

[SweeetPrincessa]

PS: Beauty has nothin to do with love. Iam a pretty girl. Maybe to pretty and still i cannot find 'LOVE'. I do suffer of the 'pretty girl syndrome' lol. So i know that really beatuy is just a plus. Nothin more.

[AlphaMale305]

Maybe the reason you cannot find love is because your conceited. This comment alone just shows how conceited you are. No man wants that. The simple fact that you put, "maybe to pretty" was irrelevant to the comment of finding true love. But you just had to put it huh. Then you putting, "pretty girl syndrome" and try to cover it up with an LOL. Maybe once you get over yourself then you can find a good man. Now that's real. No offense.

[DiamondsAreLove]

love the new intro!!! it's fabulous. but great vid as per usual. keep it up...i really hope u get ur own show on tv 1 day : )

[SweeetPrincessa]

Oh TEmp you came for me tonite! Especially when today i just recieved a 'slap', a diss by some guy that i thought that maybe, Maybe we could have been together. After deceptions and more deceptions, i told myself that i would focus on my studies and career.

You came and changed my mind. (Crying). Im still going to believe and stop lookin for love and let love find me. Thank you! God Bless you Temp! You're the best.

[Slylady81]

Wow this is the best advice that I have ever heard in a long time. Thanks for the vid and gratz on the good news :)

[Internetgangstakilla]

in all honesty my nigga i used to blame women on why i couldnt find any rite then i figure out it wasnt them it was somethin about me that drove them away now i have been tryin to find out for YEARS what that was i still dont know what it is even with improving MYSELF physically spiritually emotionally etc....because i get passed up every single day not lookin ffor sympathy just answers

[qmulus1]

Look up "Authentic Man Program."

Shit's a little airy faery, but they're on point about a lotta shit when it comes to men and women.

[sansvirgin]

I was trying really I was...but temple the "man"s and the "like"s were killing me i was trying to concentrate on what you were saying. were you nervous?

[melodramatic]

You're handsome!

[MrUltimateTKO]

Good vid ^__^

[Bxcutie718]

"we get caught about beauty thats on the outside we get caught up about whats on the inside" im a woman and i agree on that quote

[shushannab143]

Thank you

[ktodarling]

I must say I disagree. Being bitter towards love is one thing...but we don't NEED anyone else.

[tffny0689]

i agree with you.

[Khemistry101]

I feel you, Bruh. The whole person concept applies. However, a man MUST be turned on sexually by his woman or it will NOT work. Fortunately, men are a diverse group with various tastes.

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I also believe that women want to be sexually attracted to THEIR mates as well.

[herFLYness79]

hey i wondered what happened to you! i'm so glad you posted this vid, right on time dude!

[newtowireshark]

That made perfect sense Temple. Remember, Dan is in ur life for a reason, i mean thats therapy for free dude. embrace it (white or black). thanks for the video. i luved it

[reddawn770]

great vid!!

[SheSingsLovely]

Your vids are the ONLY videos I will sit and watch 20 minutes of...seriously

[vintagebashment]

mm hmm mi just hear di likkle yaadie peek out.. tuh rahtid

[2smart4u2rtd]

yow mi frighten wen mi hear to...hahaha

[vintagebashment]

lol.... fi real...!

[GurlTalkkTV]

lmao....I'm guilty as charged.

1Luv

[aronaraya23]

he speaks truth this really has me thinkin

[psat21]

we will be able to disitnguish what kind of men are interested in being with you, to the kinds of men that are only interested in being inside of you... at the end of the day a man don't choose a woman a woman chooses a man... so choose better quality men and maybe just maybe you will find love... never lose hope

[PinotNoir1975]

It's about damn time ! Damn !

okay let me watch the video...shhhhhhh

[psat21]

A lot of women complain about men and say shit like "Good men are extinct" but the bullshit aside... If you are in search of Mr. Right, the trick is you should be aspiring to be Mrs. Right... so that Mr. Right will notice you... Ladies we really need to step up our game and start rating ourselves... I see it time and time again of women entering these meaningless relationships and with men that don't even respect you...First we need to start respecting ourselves, and once that is achieved... TBC

[anelbritt2008]

I agree... i really do!

**two thumbs up**

:]

[bigdaddyal888]

wow a lot of stuff you said in this vid has been the same thing I been saying. even the entrepreneur part it's hard for people out here trying to do big things, and even more so when you feel unloved, but people need to stop blaming others, and look into your self for the answer. better your self cause if you never make an effort to more forward you're never going to go anywhere.

[MiliB256]

I'm so glad you said that, I'm so tired of hearing "I won't talk even talk to her if her butt isn't this big, or skin isn't that light, or hair isn't that long" It's good to know some men look inside.

[DukePowell]

Temple, i'm the same way man, i have to deal with my stress. Its all over my Goals and dreams.

Duke

[psat21]

Females need to listen to Jill Scotts 'The fact is I need you'

[camilly4lyfe]

Hey this is really good! U made some excellent points!I've been hurt like everyone else but I never gave up and I wont. Thank U 4 making this video.

[DIRTYDUNNZ]

Sounds good, but unrealistic. For many men, big T&A is our preference. The "as long she has a good heart..." talk sounds poetic, but not realistic when considering the many beautiful women there are in the world. Finding Romeo or Juliet shouldn't be top priority, self-love should be top priority. Finding love so they can be your caretaker when you get old is another bad reason. If you have good family, friends, financial independence, and self-love...the rest is just icing on the cake.

[Pr4dat0r]

so true, but i wouldnt think there'd be so many dum ass niggers looking for pornstars/movie stars for girlfriends

[macaroniandchesse12]

i totally get u on sleeping next to your dream andbeing stressed because you want it to be the best

[MsDewel]

hey temple what about people in europe who want to buy your dvd ? i sent you a mail and i'm still wating!! please answer

[GurlTalkkTV]

check your email luv

[monkichirmon]

i couldn't get over the 'like' and 'man' being used after every other word.

[OhSoExalted]

Perfect as usual...Really needed to here that, Thanks!

[rebeldreadgirl]

Thanks...I needed to hear alot of that!

[LadiiOri]

Love can not be wrong people need to learn to just enjoy the experience and stop putting limits on love or trying to fix love into a box. That's how you set yourself up for failure. My new single experience is going to be a BEAST lol

[GurlTalkkTV]

I'm actually watching it now :)

[LadiiOri]

aww just remember it is entertainment and I am going to tackle some of these ideologies of the "essence reading Oprah watching" women. I am so happy I found your channel again! I sent you an email lol you know I'm crazy so don't pay me any mind lol