omg ladies she is not lying!!! I learned it the hard way my freshmen year in college.,,I had a bf but this guy who i really didn't like would always try to spit game at me and so one day he's like can i come chill with u? Yo my dumb behind gone let him in my dorm (knowing I didn't really know dude) long story short he almost raped me!!!! So take it from me DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LET A DUDE U DNT KNOW IN YOUR HOME-U MAY GET RAPED OR WORSE
I so agree with this subject, I am 27 so I'm getting up in that age to where I want to have something out of life and I want someone who wants the same things. I'm in school, I'm determined and driven to make something out of myself and I want someone that I can grow and build my future with, and most of the men these days really don't want to do that anything, they don't want to have anything, and just don't care about having anything. I just hope that one will come along & be that man I need!
I just told my guy tonight, that I can't do this/whatever we supposedly have going on here' anymore. You know what, on my way driving home, I thought I would have been crying, but it is like 5+ hours or so later and I have not shed one tear....yet.
I know when I do find or when the right guy for me comes into my life, I am going to be so pissed at myself for wasting all this time with this guy.
I am so with you on the things you were saying. You should not compromise when it comes to dating. Stand you ground no matter how long it takes to find the right one. Love u girl.
I feel you Teasa...I'm also "old fashioned" in my view about dating, and in addition, I feel like if a man really wants you, he will do what it takes, within reason, to have you. Paying for a date shouldn't be a problem. We're not talking about him paying your rent and utilities..lol really dawg, you have to come with it.
Yessssssss teasa!!!!! "wen we gne chill?" is lke the new wack pickup line! Dude we can chill wen i knw u!...mayb! Lol seriously tho the men today r jus wack and actually i used the wrd men toooo losely nt every guy ova the age of 20 fit the description! Grreatt video teasa! Couldnt hav said it beta myself!
Stay firm on what you want. I was engaged 3 times before I met my husband. He was well worth the wait. Like you, I felt that my ideal mate would be ambitious and have extremely high goals and that's what I have now. God is putting all these others in your life so you can hone in on what you can tolerate and what you can't. Remember your guy won't be perfect but he will have most if not all of what you are looking for. So expect the unexpected.
I respect everything you said on this vid. Its getting REAL hard to date in this day of age. I'm not going to only target men, there are some females out there also bt people mindset on dating have been screwed up, I'm not sure if its from the media or whatever, but its not on the correct path. Men/Women are not respecting each other. Some feel that it is OK to get to 2nd/3rd base without knowing each other personality. And also I don't consider that "old fashion" I see that as a mature quality.
HA HA HA HA HA HA so funny but SO true! I absolutely love this, went through the same things (...living with mom, no cars, no secure jobs....) It like you spoke to me before the video LOL! Much love!
i will be doing a video response to this video because this don't make since for women to think they have to take care of a man don't you know men will not have respect for you they will just take advantage of you and try to get what they can get .well guess what im not taking no damn pain case closed and cased dismissed !
a man don't want no broke women... how are you gonna have anything with a broke man it takes two people to have something in life..50/50 who wants a Tommy off of MARTIN... WOMEN GET YOUR SELF ESTEEM up and stop settling for anything men wouldn't be how they are today, if us as women put our foot down and stop giving them stilettos shoes to wear now as long as the man is trying that's different im not gonna knock him but a man that sit at home and play Xbox all day hell no !
great video sis ... the problem is this right here we have to many women that are taking care of these men... and that's why they are softies.. while the women go out and break their back for a man who don't give a damn about them ! A real man will not i repeat let you pick up the tab ... ...and i don't see nothing wrong with online dating,,, do you know the man when you meet them at the club... i think women should have higher standards and these problems wouldn't exists... who wants a broke
Where are you meeting these people? I mean lets be honest your not gonna find a gentleman at the bar or a "friend hooking you up" NO I think thats so played out. Go to places you would find guys you are looking for such as business affairs, make friends at major car dealerships. Research places you would find men your type you are looking for. There are god men out there you just have to go out there and find them at the right places.
being young and single at these times were are living in is hard and many of the things you said were on point. I am African and many of the issues you mentioned I only experienced dating the black guys here in America not african ones.
That was exactly what I needed I am 24 and thinking I should be married with kids.....no. I just broke up with my boyfriend I knew it was gonna be hard finding somebody but I will not settle. You inspire me !!!!! Keep with the single lady talks we need it it's super hard out there no matter where you live #st.Louis
I feel you Teasa, I'm 25 and I don't go for that type of nonsense talking about can I come to your house and chill and u cook up a lil something...n***a get on with that bull...I don't know what these men are drinking now a days
@Dallasgurl214318 so real..these new age guys..all pull that.."let me come over or you come over here and we can cook something" No let me take you some place nice..That what you've described is like the "new" date. hellz nawl..the only reason this must be so prevalent is bc women fall for the shit so the guy be like "so what you think you too good to that?" My ans: hellz yes I do.
@buttrfly504 Girlllllll I'm saying I'm going to need some of these women to step their game up...I promise every time a guy ask me that I stop talking to him immediately, I be like didn't your mother or father, or whoever raised u teach you how to approach a lady that right there will not fly it my book..
1. Yes it's becoming more common for a woman to OFFER to pick up the tip, but most self-respecting men won't let you actually pay it. When I ask men about this they say they want to know that you are WILLING to pay it--that's all. I know...men.
2. DO NOT SETTLE LADIES!!! 20's, 30's and beyond...don't do it. Love yourself enough to stick to your standards. God will provide. PROMISE.
(man's voice) "Hello gurl you so fine, can you come swoop me in a hour and chill at your house gurl"....... HEEEEELLLLLSSSSS NO! Gurl PREACH! Im not sure what the men are on these days but im 25 and im just not gonna deal with it! I feel the EXACT same way hun! LOVED THIS VIDEO!
I've been having these kind of issues with today's Men in America.In other cultures Men are not cheap like this. I like my American Men but damn, and online dating is not a good idea.
Nice vid girl! All I have to say is....Women stand ur ground! If u know what u want stick to it....if a guy is bringing something u don't, cut it off! Whatever u do, don't settle for anything. More than anything.....pray and ask the Lord for guidance on a potential mate and ask Him to show u who this person is (as far as character) before proceeding with anything. And REAL MEN not boys....pay for and do the tipping no matter what! Its not about what "society" say!
Great video! But the on-line dating Im not sure of..just old fashion in that respect. Just tell the Lord what your desire is within a mate and most importantly ask the Lord to send the person HE deems fit for you. Trust me, He will!
Keep your standards and don't settle, I mean if His place is being renovated or his car is in the shop or something temporary I can see but if at 32 all a man owns can fit in one room in someones house then He's surely not the man for me or u. I'm 35 and I never accepted less than the 3 I listed bec I bring a total package to the table and expect the same.
We as women deserve that man that wants to pay for the meal and the tip and to treat us like the queen thats we are. Love your channel!
If a man isn't in a position to provide for himself with an income or a job How can a women expect him to provide for you.
If He doesn't have a car, How does He get around... to work..to you. I do not want to be a be the taxi cab for a man.If u want anything u have to be able to go out and get it and certainly not having his own place means He's limited to what He can do. He will expect to be at your place all the time bec he can't do what He wants at his "Mama's House"
The things that u have mentioned are so true. My rules are simple.
1. I have heard nothing about the woman picking up the tip..He asked to take you out to get to know you& t's the first date, rule of thumb He pays and leaves the tip. Women are comprimising with these men when it comes to money..He pays.
2. He must have his own place, his own vehicle and a job. Automatically, if a man doesn't have these things, I do not proceed with getting to know him bec issues will come up
I totally agree with you! I am only 21, but i still expect a man to be a gentlemen. I'm not saying he must pay EVERY time we go out, but particularly the first date, is a point at which he should at least OFFER to pay. I don't think that's too much to ask. And it's nothing to do with age. I set my standards and so far have kept to them. I have been in a relationship for 3 years, and i waited for a gentlemen. All your standards are correct. I totally agree with you.
i stand in agreement with you ,on this subject,i dont feel like anyone should be involved in anything, that they're not happy with, you made very valid points also .So i pose a question,if a man is what you're looking for as a person, but just isnt where you are economically, he may be striving but he may never be able to come up to your level, but he does his best,NOT sittin doing nothing ,striving, working hard at it now he can take care of himself,but just cant get to where you are would you
omg ladies she is not lying!!! I learned it the hard way my freshmen year in college.,,I had a bf but this guy who i really didn't like would always try to spit game at me and so one day he's like can i come chill with u? Yo my dumb behind gone let him in my dorm (knowing I didn't really know dude) long story short he almost raped me!!!! So take it from me DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LET A DUDE U DNT KNOW IN YOUR HOME-U MAY GET RAPED OR WORSE
lolosofli 6 months ago
this is a great video, i just dumped my drug--dealing boyfriend last night; haven't shed a tear yet.
SEXCIFINE 6 months ago
I so agree with this subject, I am 27 so I'm getting up in that age to where I want to have something out of life and I want someone who wants the same things. I'm in school, I'm determined and driven to make something out of myself and I want someone that I can grow and build my future with, and most of the men these days really don't want to do that anything, they don't want to have anything, and just don't care about having anything. I just hope that one will come along & be that man I need!
MzKenyaKaramel 6 months ago
I really needed to watch this video. Thank you.
I just told my guy tonight, that I can't do this/whatever we supposedly have going on here' anymore. You know what, on my way driving home, I thought I would have been crying, but it is like 5+ hours or so later and I have not shed one tear....yet.
I know when I do find or when the right guy for me comes into my life, I am going to be so pissed at myself for wasting all this time with this guy.
Thanks again for this video.
TaShar16 6 months ago
I am so with you on the things you were saying. You should not compromise when it comes to dating. Stand you ground no matter how long it takes to find the right one. Love u girl.
tia0120 6 months ago
I feel you on this there is no one in Detroit for me, I am moving!
drellicle 7 months ago
I feel you Teasa...I'm also "old fashioned" in my view about dating, and in addition, I feel like if a man really wants you, he will do what it takes, within reason, to have you. Paying for a date shouldn't be a problem. We're not talking about him paying your rent and utilities..lol really dawg, you have to come with it.
luvmydimplez 7 months ago
nice vid. u made sum good points. nuthin wrong with taking nuthin less than u want.
passionatereader77 7 months ago
Yessssssss teasa!!!!! "wen we gne chill?" is lke the new wack pickup line! Dude we can chill wen i knw u!...mayb! Lol seriously tho the men today r jus wack and actually i used the wrd men toooo losely nt every guy ova the age of 20 fit the description! Grreatt video teasa! Couldnt hav said it beta myself!
1babytee1 7 months ago
Stay firm on what you want. I was engaged 3 times before I met my husband. He was well worth the wait. Like you, I felt that my ideal mate would be ambitious and have extremely high goals and that's what I have now. God is putting all these others in your life so you can hone in on what you can tolerate and what you can't. Remember your guy won't be perfect but he will have most if not all of what you are looking for. So expect the unexpected.
spiritualprincess1 7 months ago
I respect everything you said on this vid. Its getting REAL hard to date in this day of age. I'm not going to only target men, there are some females out there also bt people mindset on dating have been screwed up, I'm not sure if its from the media or whatever, but its not on the correct path. Men/Women are not respecting each other. Some feel that it is OK to get to 2nd/3rd base without knowing each other personality. And also I don't consider that "old fashion" I see that as a mature quality.
KTwist411 7 months ago
I'm am feeling this video what ur saying Teasa is sooo true!!! Men y'all need to step the F up!!
afcisthebest 7 months ago
i understand how you feel, i'm going through the exact situation
terricas1 7 months ago
HA HA HA HA HA HA so funny but SO true! I absolutely love this, went through the same things (...living with mom, no cars, no secure jobs....) It like you spoke to me before the video LOL! Much love!
Jesusislove150 7 months ago
i will be doing a video response to this video because this don't make since for women to think they have to take care of a man don't you know men will not have respect for you they will just take advantage of you and try to get what they can get .well guess what im not taking no damn pain case closed and cased dismissed !
hairtrends4u 7 months ago
a man don't want no broke women... how are you gonna have anything with a broke man it takes two people to have something in life..50/50 who wants a Tommy off of MARTIN... WOMEN GET YOUR SELF ESTEEM up and stop settling for anything men wouldn't be how they are today, if us as women put our foot down and stop giving them stilettos shoes to wear now as long as the man is trying that's different im not gonna knock him but a man that sit at home and play Xbox all day hell no !
hairtrends4u 7 months ago 4
@hairtrends4u.....say that!!! I wish my family member would get a clue...you know who I'm talking about...
MsLaRue1 7 months ago
great video sis ... the problem is this right here we have to many women that are taking care of these men... and that's why they are softies.. while the women go out and break their back for a man who don't give a damn about them ! A real man will not i repeat let you pick up the tab ... ...and i don't see nothing wrong with online dating,,, do you know the man when you meet them at the club... i think women should have higher standards and these problems wouldn't exists... who wants a broke
hairtrends4u 7 months ago
Where are you meeting these people? I mean lets be honest your not gonna find a gentleman at the bar or a "friend hooking you up" NO I think thats so played out. Go to places you would find guys you are looking for such as business affairs, make friends at major car dealerships. Research places you would find men your type you are looking for. There are god men out there you just have to go out there and find them at the right places.
gat455 7 months ago
What else is the problem besides financial obligations?
Amberpaige94 7 months ago
being young and single at these times were are living in is hard and many of the things you said were on point. I am African and many of the issues you mentioned I only experienced dating the black guys here in America not african ones.
kenyagirl2009 7 months ago
That was exactly what I needed I am 24 and thinking I should be married with kids.....no. I just broke up with my boyfriend I knew it was gonna be hard finding somebody but I will not settle. You inspire me !!!!! Keep with the single lady talks we need it it's super hard out there no matter where you live #st.Louis
rajohnson4s 7 months ago
I feel you Teasa, I'm 25 and I don't go for that type of nonsense talking about can I come to your house and chill and u cook up a lil something...n***a get on with that bull...I don't know what these men are drinking now a days
Dallasgurl214318 7 months ago
@Dallasgurl214318 so real..these new age guys..all pull that.."let me come over or you come over here and we can cook something" No let me take you some place nice..That what you've described is like the "new" date. hellz nawl..the only reason this must be so prevalent is bc women fall for the shit so the guy be like "so what you think you too good to that?" My ans: hellz yes I do.
buttrfly504 7 months ago
@buttrfly504 Girlllllll I'm saying I'm going to need some of these women to step their game up...I promise every time a guy ask me that I stop talking to him immediately, I be like didn't your mother or father, or whoever raised u teach you how to approach a lady that right there will not fly it my book..
Dallasgurl214318 7 months ago
I've missed you Jewel!
1. Yes it's becoming more common for a woman to OFFER to pick up the tip, but most self-respecting men won't let you actually pay it. When I ask men about this they say they want to know that you are WILLING to pay it--that's all. I know...men.
2. DO NOT SETTLE LADIES!!! 20's, 30's and beyond...don't do it. Love yourself enough to stick to your standards. God will provide. PROMISE.
mehonesty 7 months ago 2
(man's voice) "Hello gurl you so fine, can you come swoop me in a hour and chill at your house gurl"....... HEEEEELLLLLSSSSS NO! Gurl PREACH! Im not sure what the men are on these days but im 25 and im just not gonna deal with it! I feel the EXACT same way hun! LOVED THIS VIDEO!
FiercelyChocolate 7 months ago
I have been out all of 2011!!!!!!!!!!!!!:(
buttrfly504 7 months ago
I've been having these kind of issues with today's Men in America.In other cultures Men are not cheap like this. I like my American Men but damn, and online dating is not a good idea.
77deerose 7 months ago
Nice vid girl! All I have to say is....Women stand ur ground! If u know what u want stick to it....if a guy is bringing something u don't, cut it off! Whatever u do, don't settle for anything. More than anything.....pray and ask the Lord for guidance on a potential mate and ask Him to show u who this person is (as far as character) before proceeding with anything. And REAL MEN not boys....pay for and do the tipping no matter what! Its not about what "society" say!
darknluvly702 7 months ago
I'm 21 but I think whoever the person is the ask for the date should pay for the date. If a man a ask you HE should pay... prd.
SmartAmerican1 7 months ago
Great video! But the on-line dating Im not sure of..just old fashion in that respect. Just tell the Lord what your desire is within a mate and most importantly ask the Lord to send the person HE deems fit for you. Trust me, He will!
MeNoi38 7 months ago
@MeNoi38 I whole heartedly agree!!
CetteBelleChevelure 7 months ago
Keep your standards and don't settle, I mean if His place is being renovated or his car is in the shop or something temporary I can see but if at 32 all a man owns can fit in one room in someones house then He's surely not the man for me or u. I'm 35 and I never accepted less than the 3 I listed bec I bring a total package to the table and expect the same.
We as women deserve that man that wants to pay for the meal and the tip and to treat us like the queen thats we are. Love your channel!
LadyDawn1001 7 months ago
If a man isn't in a position to provide for himself with an income or a job How can a women expect him to provide for you.
If He doesn't have a car, How does He get around... to work..to you. I do not want to be a be the taxi cab for a man.If u want anything u have to be able to go out and get it and certainly not having his own place means He's limited to what He can do. He will expect to be at your place all the time bec he can't do what He wants at his "Mama's House"
LadyDawn1001 7 months ago
The things that u have mentioned are so true. My rules are simple.
1. I have heard nothing about the woman picking up the tip..He asked to take you out to get to know you& t's the first date, rule of thumb He pays and leaves the tip. Women are comprimising with these men when it comes to money..He pays.
2. He must have his own place, his own vehicle and a job. Automatically, if a man doesn't have these things, I do not proceed with getting to know him bec issues will come up
.
LadyDawn1001 7 months ago
I've missed you!
fgrogan 7 months ago
Great vid.
livinmybestlife 7 months ago
I totally agree with you! I am only 21, but i still expect a man to be a gentlemen. I'm not saying he must pay EVERY time we go out, but particularly the first date, is a point at which he should at least OFFER to pay. I don't think that's too much to ask. And it's nothing to do with age. I set my standards and so far have kept to them. I have been in a relationship for 3 years, and i waited for a gentlemen. All your standards are correct. I totally agree with you.
kraven2113 7 months ago
i stand in agreement with you ,on this subject,i dont feel like anyone should be involved in anything, that they're not happy with, you made very valid points also .So i pose a question,if a man is what you're looking for as a person, but just isnt where you are economically, he may be striving but he may never be able to come up to your level, but he does his best,NOT sittin doing nothing ,striving, working hard at it now he can take care of himself,but just cant get to where you are would you
BLACKWARDZ 7 months ago 2