It's nothing respectable in being 'normal'. Sometimes, people who suffer from so called 'delusions' see things from a different perspective. It's funny how we always try to force someone into changing just because he/she doesn't fit in 'The Pattern'. We're trying to build a global nation full of robots who think, act, dress, talk the same way (normal people) ...
@gummynumberone Well, my father is what we'd call ''normal'' (actually, a normal idiot). Ruined my life and almost ruined my education, too! So you shut the fuck up, stop being sorry for yourself and stop complaining! It's not narcissists who fucked up this world, it's idiocracy... ;)
The narcissist is usually not liked by many they meet. Their arogance around people make it very hard for them. The one I knew had no friends, even though he has many family members he was never invited to their homes. These empty souls go anywhere seeking for any kind of attention. Even if it is with strangers most of the time. They are doomed to live a very lonely life, and maybe they like it that way.
The first minute of this video were my EXACT thoughts. I thought I would be the one to show him true love and heal him since his mom abandoned him as an infant. It still saddens me to see him as a professional alcoholic. But maybe he will get the help he needs one day. I know after this relationship which I just ended I will need some counseling to help me find my inner strenght again.
I was married to one for 22 years. You can't change them, I know I tried. Now I look back on it and wonder how could I have been so stupid. 22 years and I never got one compromise with her. There is only one way and that is her way. If it is not her way, it is all your fault. I could not think, say or do anything right. Walked on eggshells, no matter how hard I tried to please her, it was not possible. She had me believing that I was Satan himself.
@ACharm Yes it is hair raising. It's like stepping into the twilight zone. I made a wrong turn at albequrque and stepped into the fourth dimension. I am friends with a narc. I sometimes am captivated by him...I can't wait to see what he will do and say next. His mind is like a many layered onion. I never met this type before and I am mesmerized...like some new species of man I found in the amazon LOL. I got burned before but now I know what he is and how to deal with him,
A narcissist wants you to love him/her unconditionally. Of course, because they have these huge faults. The drug addict analogy is very good. Do you love a cocaine addict by accepting him unconditionally? Is it good for the cocaine addict or for you? Will the addict change that way? The only way an addict changes is if you stop giving him/her their drug of choice or enabling them. Unfortunately, their drug is people and there is an infinite supply of them and most are unaware of the disorder.
And finally, they're just jerks. You can't relate to them emotionally. You can't relate to them intellectually. You can't make a meaningful connection to them at all, therefore you can't ACTUALLY love them, even in one direction. You only love an illusion, even recognizing they are a narcissist, you are still loving a false image. This guy is a self-aware narcissist, and he HASN'T CHANGED. Knowing he is a narcissist, hasn't made him not a narcissist. They are broken people.
There is no reason a sane, normal person would want to love a narcissist. Period. A sane, normal person realizes they deserve love as much as the narcissist and will dump the loser and go find someone who treats them as an equal. Narcissists are psychopaths, gods in their own minds. They can only use people who don't recognize what they are and are deluded into believing they have a core goodness that love will bring out. They don't. Once you accept this hard truth, leave them alone.
@MsCartman74 no ur wrong.i know many people who have stuck with them.especially sfter being de valued and put down so much,they feel they cant go anywhere else and r convinced theyre partner is now the best.altho they r extremely depressed in actual fact
@gummynumberone it's similar to the analogy of a drug addiction. People continue to use the narcissist to supply them with their own need to feel devalued, but what they fail to realize is that the narcissist IS the reason they have that need. Once the narcissist is gone, you wonder what you got from them in the first place. Just because a person needs something doesn't mean what they need is good for them. A heroin addict needs heroin, but that doesn't mean heroin is healthy.
@gummynumberone you look at a a drug addict and you can see that the drug is killing them, yet they can't live without it. a narcissist is, a drug. Because they treat people badly, they need people who WANT to be treated badly. because the person has been manipulated to believe they deserve that, they actually want and desire it. The solution is to remove the drug (the narcissist) and it becomes clear that that reality is solely a creation of the narcissist's mental illness.
There is no point in loving a narcissist. A narcissist will accept your love, but they won't reciprocate it. They will drain you, and eventually become unsatisfied with what you give them, wanting more and more like a drug addict. They will drain you and never return anything, similar to a vampire, then leave in search of fresh supply. Anyone who wants to love a predator, go adopt a scorpion and shower it with affection and see if it changes into something else. Same scenario.
maybe i missed it,but you don't really answer the question, at least if a NORMAL person can rescue a narcissist?u talked about 2 different types of narcissists having a happy relationship....if a narcissist refuses to go to therapy/can't afford it,then wat?u cant just let them be,just like u wouldnt let a drug addict be!
Why would you want to love somebody who wont reciprocate?
LuathHans 3 weeks ago
It's nothing respectable in being 'normal'. Sometimes, people who suffer from so called 'delusions' see things from a different perspective. It's funny how we always try to force someone into changing just because he/she doesn't fit in 'The Pattern'. We're trying to build a global nation full of robots who think, act, dress, talk the same way (normal people) ...
slim240293 1 month ago
@slim240293 my fathers a narc.ruined my life.so shut the fuck up
gummynumberone 1 week ago
@gummynumberone Well, my father is what we'd call ''normal'' (actually, a normal idiot). Ruined my life and almost ruined my education, too! So you shut the fuck up, stop being sorry for yourself and stop complaining! It's not narcissists who fucked up this world, it's idiocracy... ;)
slim240293 6 days ago
The narcissist is usually not liked by many they meet. Their arogance around people make it very hard for them. The one I knew had no friends, even though he has many family members he was never invited to their homes. These empty souls go anywhere seeking for any kind of attention. Even if it is with strangers most of the time. They are doomed to live a very lonely life, and maybe they like it that way.
MyLaura999 1 month ago
@MyLaura999 no i think they fesr v much being slone actually.but they cannot help theyre behaviour
gummynumberone 1 week ago
The first minute of this video were my EXACT thoughts. I thought I would be the one to show him true love and heal him since his mom abandoned him as an infant. It still saddens me to see him as a professional alcoholic. But maybe he will get the help he needs one day. I know after this relationship which I just ended I will need some counseling to help me find my inner strenght again.
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I was married to one for 22 years. You can't change them, I know I tried. Now I look back on it and wonder how could I have been so stupid. 22 years and I never got one compromise with her. There is only one way and that is her way. If it is not her way, it is all your fault. I could not think, say or do anything right. Walked on eggshells, no matter how hard I tried to please her, it was not possible. She had me believing that I was Satan himself.
charkee1 2 months ago
This is hair-raising.
ACharm 4 months ago
@ACharm Yes it is hair raising. It's like stepping into the twilight zone. I made a wrong turn at albequrque and stepped into the fourth dimension. I am friends with a narc. I sometimes am captivated by him...I can't wait to see what he will do and say next. His mind is like a many layered onion. I never met this type before and I am mesmerized...like some new species of man I found in the amazon LOL. I got burned before but now I know what he is and how to deal with him,
BlissfulMary 3 months ago
@BlissfulMary what narc behaviour did he show?
gummynumberone 1 week ago
People in general usually stay away from people who has chronic mental issues. The problem is that most people don't even know the word psychology.
tkathryyn 6 months ago
A narcissist wants you to love him/her unconditionally. Of course, because they have these huge faults. The drug addict analogy is very good. Do you love a cocaine addict by accepting him unconditionally? Is it good for the cocaine addict or for you? Will the addict change that way? The only way an addict changes is if you stop giving him/her their drug of choice or enabling them. Unfortunately, their drug is people and there is an infinite supply of them and most are unaware of the disorder.
MsCartman74 6 months ago
And finally, they're just jerks. You can't relate to them emotionally. You can't relate to them intellectually. You can't make a meaningful connection to them at all, therefore you can't ACTUALLY love them, even in one direction. You only love an illusion, even recognizing they are a narcissist, you are still loving a false image. This guy is a self-aware narcissist, and he HASN'T CHANGED. Knowing he is a narcissist, hasn't made him not a narcissist. They are broken people.
MsCartman74 6 months ago
There is no reason a sane, normal person would want to love a narcissist. Period. A sane, normal person realizes they deserve love as much as the narcissist and will dump the loser and go find someone who treats them as an equal. Narcissists are psychopaths, gods in their own minds. They can only use people who don't recognize what they are and are deluded into believing they have a core goodness that love will bring out. They don't. Once you accept this hard truth, leave them alone.
MsCartman74 6 months ago 6
@MsCartman74 no ur wrong.i know many people who have stuck with them.especially sfter being de valued and put down so much,they feel they cant go anywhere else and r convinced theyre partner is now the best.altho they r extremely depressed in actual fact
gummynumberone 1 week ago
@gummynumberone it's similar to the analogy of a drug addiction. People continue to use the narcissist to supply them with their own need to feel devalued, but what they fail to realize is that the narcissist IS the reason they have that need. Once the narcissist is gone, you wonder what you got from them in the first place. Just because a person needs something doesn't mean what they need is good for them. A heroin addict needs heroin, but that doesn't mean heroin is healthy.
MsCartman74 6 days ago
@gummynumberone you look at a a drug addict and you can see that the drug is killing them, yet they can't live without it. a narcissist is, a drug. Because they treat people badly, they need people who WANT to be treated badly. because the person has been manipulated to believe they deserve that, they actually want and desire it. The solution is to remove the drug (the narcissist) and it becomes clear that that reality is solely a creation of the narcissist's mental illness.
MsCartman74 6 days ago
There is no point in loving a narcissist. A narcissist will accept your love, but they won't reciprocate it. They will drain you, and eventually become unsatisfied with what you give them, wanting more and more like a drug addict. They will drain you and never return anything, similar to a vampire, then leave in search of fresh supply. Anyone who wants to love a predator, go adopt a scorpion and shower it with affection and see if it changes into something else. Same scenario.
MsCartman74 6 months ago 3
Narcissists are also psychopaths and sociopaths - evil b'stards, sickos
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MikaShelley99 1 year ago
maybe i missed it,but you don't really answer the question, at least if a NORMAL person can rescue a narcissist?u talked about 2 different types of narcissists having a happy relationship....if a narcissist refuses to go to therapy/can't afford it,then wat?u cant just let them be,just like u wouldnt let a drug addict be!
HelenaChristensen 1 year ago
This is ridiculous. He's describing a psychopath. or a criminal behavior
Ethioness 1 year ago
@Ethioness Narcissists are psychopaths, why is it ridiculous?
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