And I know I always used to worry if I looked pissed off or annoyed even though I wanted to be relaxed and happy...The way I dealt with it was mirtazapine and then learning not to care and eventually I started to forget about things and now Im less socially anxious...Im not cured but I am a great deal better
I know exactly how it is...I lived on uni campus!! I had the exact stomach tension...its impossible to relax it. Always being on alert and worrying about interaction with people...being aware of how you react or how others act and worrying about being nervous...trying to controlling your breath making you more nervous...so many other things...its a nightmare..
there is hope though! what treatments have you tried? hope you find success
That is what I don't get, all these people in who'm society would deem as average to above average looking having anxiety. I have years of bullying and social isolation to to remember as proof that my looks are subpar if not considered ugly which is a major contributor to my severe shyness. Also experiencing childhood neglect can also bring about social anxiety.
@cheekygirl07 I have tried therapy for almost 2 years and it has not done anything for me. The issue is you have to find what is the root cause, and then fix the root cause. However, there is a quirk in me in which I feel may help eliminate my anxiety, but it involves putting myself in precarious situations while ski mountaineering. I know it doesn't make sense, but people have noticed a difference in my energy output after doing such endeavors.
I just want to thank you. It's funny how in a world filled with billions and billions of people, we can still feel as if we're all alone. Videos of like your's show me that it is possible to take back your life from SAD.
lol people with social anxiety have week powers ones they look into other peoples eye they get cought in a genjutsu which peralizez them you need to grow more and draw out more power from your inner self and in order to gain more power you must feel pain your lifes are to boring or to sad so your brain never botherd to get any powers or even grow so yea do new expreancise like go to africa or asia specially africa coz people there dont know about social anxiety and they dont give eye contact
LOOK PEOPLE IN THEIR EYES no one gave you SAD, not even you did. its just are bodies reaction to things we dont wanna say or do...when u care too much of what people say YOU ARE GIVING THEM POWER THEY DONT DESERVE. just bounce back, and i promise the biggest thing that will help and helped me. look people in their eyes, i know its uncomfortable but you will notice they are doing the same thing to you..eye contact..simple and effective, you will notice yourself connecting, a wonderful feeling..
@Posthuman7 do you have social anxiety post human? I dont think you do and are just out to belittle and undermine people because you have nothing better to do
am i the only person who gets lets say 100 compliments about looks, performance ect but also gets like 3 or 4 bad comments and takes the bad comments seriously but disregards the good compliments please reply to me
it sometimes help knowing ur not alone in this world. that there still a lot of people having same personality as you. but i'm thankful because, little by little, im recovering from social anxiety by the help of myself. i realized that we are the only ones that can help ourselves and no other. i realized that the problem is in me, in my mind itself since i usually think of the negative side..
@danielletracyann it sometimes help knowing ur not alone in this world. that there still a lot of people having same personality as you. but i'm thankful because, little by little, im recovering from social anxiety by the help of myself. i realized that we are the only ones that can help ourselves and no other. i realized that the problem is in me, in my mind itself since i usually think of the negative side..
i know, by the end of the day you have so many thoughts and it's so stressful and painful to deal with. Your mind won't shut up. It feels like you need to take a week off to deal with those thoughts.
SA robbs you're personality and you feel lost and you don't know who the hell you are.
ps, I can relate to ALL your comments, I too get the stomach pains, which eventually became unbearable, until I got a good doc who gave me 'merbentyl' for it, which helps a LOT! (especially if I take it an hour BEFORE a stressful situation!)
The samba band sounds AMAZING btw...I LOVE samba music!! Becoming part of the folk music sessions in Irvine (near Glasgow..) is about the only social group I feel comfortable in. LONG LIVE MUSIC :P AND Y
HEY BOBBY,,BRILL VIDEO!!! WELL DONE for making these!! YOu are a GOOD looking guy btw :)
I agree with favourites11 about it being the LOOKING at them which makes them feel uncomfortable, rather than 'us' (as if they might wonder what WE are looking at..if that makes any sense...)
I've found recently if i go out when my mind is busy with 'eg shopping' list or thinking of what I have to do..then I walk past people without bothering, and they don't bother either, which is a HUGE relief!!! Lx:o)
i can so relate :D nd working with people like what ur doing will help so much... with my course that im doing we have to do role plays and talk in front of the class all the time it sux but it helps a little bit
I always have this fear that if I say something, ppl's responses to it is interpreted as negative. But I feel that it is true because I know that their motive is negative towards me. I find maintaining relationships with ppl who do not necessarily want to like you, immensely difficult to deal with.
Hi Bobby, Liked your video thanks for sharing you story, I used to look at people when going past to see how they react to me and to me I think they change their expression on their face or feel uncomfortable because they think its rude to look, i've noticed normal people don't look or worry about others so I've started copying them and feel better going past people now, I've been told i'm serious too, I don't mean to be so its good to see other feel like me. thanks.
yeah great vid! can relate to all that espesh walking past people and thinkin they are scowling at u or having a head full of stuff that wont shut up. can relate to it all,every piece of it.its a really tough thing to cope with. and spiffyrich's vids are great too. i love how some SA sufferers like u found the courage to make a vid. i wonder if you all know how much it helps , it really really helps us cope
I can relate to almost of everything you said in your video. I'm now in my last semester at university and I can assure you... it was a really difficult time for me... Always trying to avoid situations, 95% of the time anxious, having to face situations...
I'm still fighting against this irrational phobia, but watching people like you, with the same stories as mine, it really helps me to keep going on. Thanks!
I especially can relate to the first impression thing. When you are around the same people for some time like in a class people get labels and a person with SA will get labeled as the "shy, unsecure non-speaker" and that for me is the worst thing about it because, as you said, if you try to joke around, and break free from that then you are actually just acting unexpectedly to the others and that will draw a lot of attention and weird stares to you = anxiety! Arh!
Sorry about the comment I made earlier about taking acting classes for dealing with Social Anxiety. I made it before I fully understood what it was. Note to self: Listen more. Talk less. Have a good day bobby1000000.
you are very eloquent in your clip, thankyou for posting it. I think people with social phobia can be the most beautiful gifted people but noone ever sees since we are so withdrawn. I thought it was normal to be this way. I was given a xanax once and for the first time in my life, I experienced what it would be like to not think the way we do, do what people do everyday without these desctructive thoughts, Ofcourse, medication isn't the answer but it gave me a basis for the where I want to be
Kind sir, have you ever thought about taking acting classes?? 'Cause people can't actually see what's going on inside you even though it may feel like it. When you meet someone new they have no idea what you're like. You're a blank slate. Fake it till you make it baby! Plus. Have you ever thought about taking up a new hobby that can quiet your hyperactive, intelligent mind?? Like maybe meditation?? Personally some of my favorite people are shy and intense.
I also agree that it's hard to change when you've already established yourself as "the weird quiet guy" or just "the creepy weirdo". I also believe that deep breathing draws attention and can make you more slef-conscious (it's never helped me).
yes....that thing...about how people first see you...and not being able to be different...has been something that I have really struggled with...I am changing with people and it's hard when they comment..but I keep telling myself everyone has moods...and loads of people are shy when they first meet people...and people do change... good video!
And also, first impressions. Very true. When you meet someone new, you're a bit nervous so they get the impression that you're shy and unfriendly. And that makes it harder to loosen up because you've already set your reputation...and changing that would be a huge attention-drawer. Ah, the frustrations of social anxiety...haha
hey thanks a lot for the response! you made great points throughout the video.
you said deep breathing sometimes makes you feel worse...that's funny because I told my therapist the same thing when she recommended it. It's like you're trying to stop panicking, but you don't because the breathing makes you think about it more.
You kind of look like Robert Pattison
LizzieLuvsLogan 2 months ago
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now tell me the truth if you ever have an awkward smile from time to time
im like you in a way
rockwitchdrunk 3 months ago
And I know I always used to worry if I looked pissed off or annoyed even though I wanted to be relaxed and happy...The way I dealt with it was mirtazapine and then learning not to care and eventually I started to forget about things and now Im less socially anxious...Im not cured but I am a great deal better
Joe100284 4 months ago
I know exactly how it is...I lived on uni campus!! I had the exact stomach tension...its impossible to relax it. Always being on alert and worrying about interaction with people...being aware of how you react or how others act and worrying about being nervous...trying to controlling your breath making you more nervous...so many other things...its a nightmare..
there is hope though! what treatments have you tried? hope you find success
Joe100284 4 months ago
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stripthatfatweightlo 4 months ago
That is what I don't get, all these people in who'm society would deem as average to above average looking having anxiety. I have years of bullying and social isolation to to remember as proof that my looks are subpar if not considered ugly which is a major contributor to my severe shyness. Also experiencing childhood neglect can also bring about social anxiety.
RB902050 9 months ago
I think have social anxiety myself and don't know what to do. Did you get any professional help for your anxiety or did you do it yourself?
cheekygirl07 10 months ago
@cheekygirl07 I have tried therapy for almost 2 years and it has not done anything for me. The issue is you have to find what is the root cause, and then fix the root cause. However, there is a quirk in me in which I feel may help eliminate my anxiety, but it involves putting myself in precarious situations while ski mountaineering. I know it doesn't make sense, but people have noticed a difference in my energy output after doing such endeavors.
RB902050 9 months ago
I just want to thank you. It's funny how in a world filled with billions and billions of people, we can still feel as if we're all alone. Videos of like your's show me that it is possible to take back your life from SAD.
tinybubblesinhawaii 11 months ago
lol people with social anxiety have week powers ones they look into other peoples eye they get cought in a genjutsu which peralizez them you need to grow more and draw out more power from your inner self and in order to gain more power you must feel pain your lifes are to boring or to sad so your brain never botherd to get any powers or even grow so yea do new expreancise like go to africa or asia specially africa coz people there dont know about social anxiety and they dont give eye contact
ShynessTv 11 months ago
Hey, i dont know if you read your comments, can you message me some time? Tara x
Tarahastingshassan 11 months ago
delusional thinking makes you think of yourself very negatevly
Stolichnaya9 1 year ago
awk u are so cute lol :D
chrisbartley88 1 year ago
@chrisbartley88 and im hyper sensitive and over emtional tooo
chrisbartley88 1 year ago
are you taking the piss? s.a.d is not a joke, and it is serious. you should actually be ashamed.
elisabethansell 1 year ago
...ok im actually shocked. youre like, really hot. i wouldnt have expected that considering the topic of this video...
xbegx1 1 year ago
@xbegx1 It shouldn't shock you if you are familiar with SA, it doesn't abide by any logical rules.
EbsNhexz 1 year ago
Been fighting sa for years.. im 29 here... i never goes... its a life ruiner ..
RealUFOs2009 1 year ago
@RealUFOs2009 That didn't happen to me.... i guess it proves your words are not a rule
viviane5572 1 year ago
LOOK PEOPLE IN THEIR EYES no one gave you SAD, not even you did. its just are bodies reaction to things we dont wanna say or do...when u care too much of what people say YOU ARE GIVING THEM POWER THEY DONT DESERVE. just bounce back, and i promise the biggest thing that will help and helped me. look people in their eyes, i know its uncomfortable but you will notice they are doing the same thing to you..eye contact..simple and effective, you will notice yourself connecting, a wonderful feeling..
EWalk131 1 year ago
@Posthuman7 do you have social anxiety post human? I dont think you do and are just out to belittle and undermine people because you have nothing better to do
bobby1000000 1 year ago
@Posthuman7 I do have social anxiety, what makes you think I do?
bobby1000000 1 year ago
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Posthuman7 1 year ago
am i the only person who gets lets say 100 compliments about looks, performance ect but also gets like 3 or 4 bad comments and takes the bad comments seriously but disregards the good compliments please reply to me
seankinsellasean 1 year ago
i can relate very much
auroral 1 year ago
you're funny
emmalillianrossi 1 year ago
it sometimes help knowing ur not alone in this world. that there still a lot of people having same personality as you. but i'm thankful because, little by little, im recovering from social anxiety by the help of myself. i realized that we are the only ones that can help ourselves and no other. i realized that the problem is in me, in my mind itself since i usually think of the negative side..
danielbrodeth1 1 year ago
i am just like you..........
danielletracyann 1 year ago
@danielletracyann it sometimes help knowing ur not alone in this world. that there still a lot of people having same personality as you. but i'm thankful because, little by little, im recovering from social anxiety by the help of myself. i realized that we are the only ones that can help ourselves and no other. i realized that the problem is in me, in my mind itself since i usually think of the negative side..
danielbrodeth1 1 year ago
No offense but i feel more depressed watching this video, because I look but ugly and fat compared to you.
mcreary91 1 year ago 2
@mcreary91 i agree, this guy makes me feel even worst!
candietwist 1 year ago
Yea bro, thats how i feel. People tell me loosen up and smile more .. URGG pisses me off.
But its the truth they dont seem to want to talk to a serious bitter looking kind of guys..
BLAH I HATE IT ..
Great Video either way man
powerstuffup 2 years ago
I love your accent!!
(and you're gorgeous)..
Great videos - ive a lotta respect for SA-ers who can make YouTube videos!
AnArtisticMess 2 years ago 3
i know, by the end of the day you have so many thoughts and it's so stressful and painful to deal with. Your mind won't shut up. It feels like you need to take a week off to deal with those thoughts.
SA robbs you're personality and you feel lost and you don't know who the hell you are.
I think you are on your way.
bigbitchification 2 years ago
Good luck with your thoughts. If you put the work in it will work.
HardeyLeone 2 years ago
Hi :), you're nice
gretaloveparadee 2 years ago
How can anyone not like you? You're such a cutie i just want to give you a hug!
13BAMF 2 years ago 10
@13BAM it has nothing to do with looks, im an attractive guy with the same problem...we dont see ourselves the way others do, and thats the problem
EWalk131 1 year ago
ps, I can relate to ALL your comments, I too get the stomach pains, which eventually became unbearable, until I got a good doc who gave me 'merbentyl' for it, which helps a LOT! (especially if I take it an hour BEFORE a stressful situation!)
The samba band sounds AMAZING btw...I LOVE samba music!! Becoming part of the folk music sessions in Irvine (near Glasgow..) is about the only social group I feel comfortable in. LONG LIVE MUSIC :P AND Y
Enuf4all 2 years ago
HEY BOBBY,,BRILL VIDEO!!! WELL DONE for making these!! YOu are a GOOD looking guy btw :)
I agree with favourites11 about it being the LOOKING at them which makes them feel uncomfortable, rather than 'us' (as if they might wonder what WE are looking at..if that makes any sense...)
I've found recently if i go out when my mind is busy with 'eg shopping' list or thinking of what I have to do..then I walk past people without bothering, and they don't bother either, which is a HUGE relief!!! Lx:o)
Enuf4all 2 years ago
In your eyes, well said.
Your mind is making it up and even if its true, your mind is generating it to find more evidence that its true.
Thanks a lot
EpirotFiqi 2 years ago
i can so relate :D nd working with people like what ur doing will help so much... with my course that im doing we have to do role plays and talk in front of the class all the time it sux but it helps a little bit
TheClairey 2 years ago
I always have this fear that if I say something, ppl's responses to it is interpreted as negative. But I feel that it is true because I know that their motive is negative towards me. I find maintaining relationships with ppl who do not necessarily want to like you, immensely difficult to deal with.
LittleMonster18 3 years ago
great video. we're the same, you and i :)
acekingie 3 years ago
Hi Bobby, Liked your video thanks for sharing you story, I used to look at people when going past to see how they react to me and to me I think they change their expression on their face or feel uncomfortable because they think its rude to look, i've noticed normal people don't look or worry about others so I've started copying them and feel better going past people now, I've been told i'm serious too, I don't mean to be so its good to see other feel like me. thanks.
favourites11 3 years ago 2
yeah great vid! can relate to all that espesh walking past people and thinkin they are scowling at u or having a head full of stuff that wont shut up. can relate to it all,every piece of it.its a really tough thing to cope with. and spiffyrich's vids are great too. i love how some SA sufferers like u found the courage to make a vid. i wonder if you all know how much it helps , it really really helps us cope
mikamika10 3 years ago 2
great vid dude. i think u nailed it on the head.
m001900 3 years ago
I can relate to almost of everything you said in your video. I'm now in my last semester at university and I can assure you... it was a really difficult time for me... Always trying to avoid situations, 95% of the time anxious, having to face situations...
I'm still fighting against this irrational phobia, but watching people like you, with the same stories as mine, it really helps me to keep going on. Thanks!
braziliaan 3 years ago
You are so right!
I especially can relate to the first impression thing. When you are around the same people for some time like in a class people get labels and a person with SA will get labeled as the "shy, unsecure non-speaker" and that for me is the worst thing about it because, as you said, if you try to joke around, and break free from that then you are actually just acting unexpectedly to the others and that will draw a lot of attention and weird stares to you = anxiety! Arh!
80Cetbal08 3 years ago 4
Sorry about the comment I made earlier about taking acting classes for dealing with Social Anxiety. I made it before I fully understood what it was. Note to self: Listen more. Talk less. Have a good day bobby1000000.
riveter412 3 years ago
Good video.
HappyMarilena 3 years ago
u are REALLY good-looking
minimal08 3 years ago 18
ahaha... exactly wt i ws thnkn....
dragontears007 3 years ago
you are very eloquent in your clip, thankyou for posting it. I think people with social phobia can be the most beautiful gifted people but noone ever sees since we are so withdrawn. I thought it was normal to be this way. I was given a xanax once and for the first time in my life, I experienced what it would be like to not think the way we do, do what people do everyday without these desctructive thoughts, Ofcourse, medication isn't the answer but it gave me a basis for the where I want to be
kuipervoid 3 years ago 2
Kind sir, have you ever thought about taking acting classes?? 'Cause people can't actually see what's going on inside you even though it may feel like it. When you meet someone new they have no idea what you're like. You're a blank slate. Fake it till you make it baby! Plus. Have you ever thought about taking up a new hobby that can quiet your hyperactive, intelligent mind?? Like maybe meditation?? Personally some of my favorite people are shy and intense.
riveter412 3 years ago
ah you are so sympathic no reason to have social anxiety ;)
nebenanx 3 years ago
Good video man, I relate a lot with what you are experiencing, what an utter frustration.
cosmanthony21 3 years ago
I also agree that it's hard to change when you've already established yourself as "the weird quiet guy" or just "the creepy weirdo". I also believe that deep breathing draws attention and can make you more slef-conscious (it's never helped me).
StealthyBob 3 years ago 3
yes....that thing...about how people first see you...and not being able to be different...has been something that I have really struggled with...I am changing with people and it's hard when they comment..but I keep telling myself everyone has moods...and loads of people are shy when they first meet people...and people do change... good video!
stillshy40ish 3 years ago
And also, first impressions. Very true. When you meet someone new, you're a bit nervous so they get the impression that you're shy and unfriendly. And that makes it harder to loosen up because you've already set your reputation...and changing that would be a huge attention-drawer. Ah, the frustrations of social anxiety...haha
spiffyrich 3 years ago
hey thanks a lot for the response! you made great points throughout the video.
you said deep breathing sometimes makes you feel worse...that's funny because I told my therapist the same thing when she recommended it. It's like you're trying to stop panicking, but you don't because the breathing makes you think about it more.
spiffyrich 3 years ago