I am a victim of abuse here to raise ABUSE AWARENESS., My abuse video is on my channel, watch it and comment to help me fight to raise abuse awareness. If any of you need to talk or need help because you've been a victim, message me immediately.
I refuse to be destroyed by him, I will no longer let his harsh criticisms effect the way I feel because I remember how many loving people I had in my life before him. I know I can have friends again because I used to be a social butterfly and almost everyone liked me. However, I cannot let what he has done go unpunished. There must be some form of retribution because he is an A class pig who deserves to get his ego crushed.
My boyfriend is an emotionally abusive piece of shit. He has hurt me so fucking bad and he never apologizes sincerely for anything he does. I have to remind him to apologize, yet I must apologize 6 and 7 times for the same thing. The only reason why I'm with him still is because I want to cheat on him and crush his disgusting ego, he is very jealous and possessive so I know it will hurt his feelings really bad.
My dad is...*sigh* i always end up just saying im sorry and crying and that makes him angrier.......i want to talk to someone about it but i cant...my teachers they wont listeb..... pff they say tell a trusted adult...my entire family would just say im being bad.....what should i do?
I was in a relationship like this one for 4 years. I finally found the strength and courage to leave. Looking back, it's hard to believe I stayed in it for 5 minutes, let alone 4 years. Getting out was one of the hardest things I ever did, I cried and cried for two weeks. But there was hope and freedom at the end of that pain and tears. Now I'm dating a great guy and my life is radically different.
this is not only for woman I think any kind of abusive relationship would make you have towards the abuser this kind of signs of abuse on you. Even abusive women or parents towards men can have similar effects, but the problem is that men are like more allowed to be judged which is all right since they are abusive but everyone should be judged like that whenever bocomes an abusive person.
I feel there is no way out too.. I have bipolar depression as well, so my husband blames that a lot. but I feel my mood would lift dramatically if I did leave - it's just getting the courage to actually do it. I also have a teenage son..
If you are in, know someone in or think you are in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, Chicken Nachos is a must read! Change the laws to protect the innocent and help protect the victims as they free themselves from the abuse.
I put my hand out for help after four years of abuse, i am slowly recovering, there is a way out. There is help. I am a mere figment of the woman i used to be but i am FREE.
my family is a broken family.... sometimes i get along with them, my sister is starting to change a bit to see my side more which is ok. more than rather we get on each other nerves but sometimes my mom is enmotional abusive.
@firefwi If your family is there for you go to them with the truth reach out even to one person,there are people out there that are good too. Churches,nuns phone lines,internet,you can do it.
@firefwi If you can, start saving up money. Get enough for a bond and a couple of weeks rent money. Pack a bag, to have on standby, just in case. Get counseling from a local support organisation, or even call a helpline for the times you need courage to keep going with your plan. If you're not working, find a job. If you are, find another one, so he doesn't know where you work. Change your mobile number when you leave. watch the movie 'Sleeping with the enemy' with Julia Roberts for motivation.
@KGBLily your response made me cry.. thank you! I do watch Sleeping with the Enemy probably have it memorized!! It's so difficult because altho I do not have kids I have started a cat shelter here and if I leave it means leaving them too and I have searched high and low for a place to take them. No one will take them, not even shelters.. unless you are taking them to get euthanized and it is literally impossible to transport 13 cats to a new location which is probably going to be an apt cont..
@firefwi I am sorry for this dilema. I am in a similar situation in that my guy has bought 3 dogs that I am now attached to, but could not possibly take with me. For me though, as much as i love them, the question becomes, "do i stay for them, or get out out and save my sanity and future?". Although with you it's harder because its a shelter you've set up. Maybe there are some older people in the neighbourhood who could use a new little friend?It's a tough one. Hope everything works out. Best wi
@KGBLily so I'm left with quite a moral dilemma and if you have animals you know they can become your best friends , especially in this situation .. when he abuses me they seem to know and always comfort me. I actually adopted out 3 cats the past week and that gave me hope I could find homes for the others but I'm not sure if my will and strength can wait till that time.. only time will tell. Thank you again for all your wisdom and care! I appreciate it more than you know...
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I don't know if I think this music was appropriate for the theme of the video. But I respect that you're trying to make people more knowledgeable about abuse
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Im stuck, my boyfriend is everything said here. And I have to fess up I stupidly play into some of these to. I even been to jail because I was so fed up with his accusations and cussing I just snapped but even after all that I went to jail for my first time for Domestic Violence. I admitted my part but did he? And still I stayed. I followed the advice from Counseling just walk away to diffuse the situation. I did and I come back to him saying "so did u fuck'em?" I was like "what!?!" Im lost
There is no explanation why we stay. I always thought myself a strong willed person. Friends and family would describe me the same. But I believed the words, I answered to the horrible names, I closed out my family and friends. I lived by his rules. I lost my identity and became the person he wanted me to be. And I was scared to think how life would be without him. I am alive today, living my own life, never looking back, because that is where the nightmares are found.
My bf emotional abuses me. My last conversation was when he made me cry. He says things are 'my fault; yet he still wants to go out with me. He gets annoyed with things like I can't find my train tickets, he complains that I have restrictions because of my generalised anxiety disorder, now if I was an alcoholic etc, then he has something to really complain!
This is very good and informative. I was in an abusive marriage for 17 years..and could not envision a way out, although I knew it was wrong to be in this relationship. I felt less than dirt. many of these signs were an every day occurence at our house. the kids even wanted out and blamed me..but I was verbally threatened that he would harm us and my family..so I tried to manage. Thank goodness to improved domestic abuse police conduct, we were resurected from the dungeon that was our life.
This video is a great dummy down version for emotional abuse... many women out there experience with with their partners and its really because of something that has not healed yet in their past... or vice versa, gentlemen. Stalking the Soul is a great book to read regarding this matter!
I feel terrible and digusted with myself , i have emotionally abused my girl frnd and god shud punish me for that,she has already by breaking up with me.
Hmmmmm, supporting most family violence while pretending to do the opposite??? It is documented that actually Women commit the most DV of all, especially against children whom they abuse AND kill at twice the rate fathers do. Women are actually abused least, They initiate nearly twice as much partner violence as men as well... Why no concern there? Free pass? Supremacy is fine then? Double standards are the greatest violence of all.
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Mental abuse damages from inside don't allow it to happen, don't be shy to tell other's what's going on if it's about you or you know about someone else being abused. You and yourself are all you need don't believe your oppressor that you're worthless You can do it perfectly without that person! You utterly and completely deserve love and kindness
@choonyauw What she is doing is wearing you down so you feel you don't deserve anybody better, and that's just as evil and just as abusive as what a male abuser does to his victim. Considering that she's treating you so badly, I thought you might want to hear from a woman who also does not accept abusive treatment from other women as acceptable.
@radavis76 But you are NOT even a woman! And abuse is your no 1 passion! Just read his posts everybody, abuse, threats, hatred and violence permiate them all! Everybody needs to BEWARE of this evil deceiving LIAR! Please do not be fooled by this coniving dispicable monster!
So good to see people opening this topic for discussion. I too have been in an emotionally abusive relationship...my former husband was a porn addict to boot and he continually made me feel terrible about myself. In the end we split and I wrote a book about this.
I am so glad people are becoming aware that domestic violence is not just about hitting.
@indiemuzochick yes this is so true.. Society forgets about where this Domestic Violence begins. Like the soaking frog, slowly the fire gets turned up.. the frog, unaware adjusts to the temperature, as the water becomes hotter to the point of becoming boiled.
my friends used to say your moms always mad at you.i just remember her grinding her teeth in anger poking me in the forehead i dont even know what for.i was a good kid.was this emotional abuse?idk all i know is i dislike her and well never be close.when i played a song for her i wrote she told me i guess i have to say its good cuz im your mom.
My dad is an emotional abuser and a control freak. I live with my parents because I'm developmentally disabled and require living assistance. At the moment, I don't have anywhere to go, but someday I hope to get out and be on my own so that I can be independent and happy. I'd love to live a life where I can live without fear or of having to hide things, and I can just be me for a change. I'm working on that right now, but sometimes I feel hopeless and stuck, like I'm never getting out of here.
@DollMommy10 You have my prayers and my emotional support during this difficult time. What your father is doing is wrong and you are NOT to blame for his abusive behavior. If you have to find at least part-time work for you and hide your earnings so they can't steal your money, that's a start. And no matter what, do NOT allow yourself to be isolated because abuse spreads out of control when isolation is in the picture!
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my father has been emotionaly nd phically abusing me for the past 14 years( my whole life) umm the worst thing he does is when i dont answer the phone he kicks me
I was in an abusive relationship with my ex girlfriend for 9 years. She slept around on me from the beginning, threw things at me when she got mad, embarrassed me in front of my friends and family, and made fun of the way I dressed. It was horrible. To be honest I knew something was wrong from the beginning and tried to leave but stayed because she threatened to commit suicide if I left. I wish I would've known the kind of person she really was.
This is 100% what to look for. Too many people telling you what to do. How would they know? The hardest is I will not talk to you until you leave. Oct. 2007 was the last time i have stepped foot in my parents house. He won , I fought for years, now ... what ever. Leaving for me is NOT a possibility! NOT one, my choices were taken away by myself. I am sur eI will get some down talk. I just understand real life.
i believe there are just as many female abusers, including mothers. think of all the "well meaning mothers" that are not in tune with their child, and that crush their souls, getting away with it as "sweet or poor mothers". read alice miller.
For 7 years I had domestic violence. I endured all and more of what this video is showing and he exhibited all and more of the signs you should watch for . He is now abusing someone else and NOT me . In domestic violent relationships you are not special to him ... you are just another fool who tolerates his behaviour. Go to someone elses funeral .. not your own.
Good video. I have been in an abusive relationship for three years with a narcissistic girlfriend. The punishments they give are so psychologically damaging that when you look back on your relationship, it is clear as day how much they were doing to control you, it is nearly humorous. Do not let these emotional vampires suck the life out of you. Stay strong, get out, get help.
@benpetrofsky Hey, thanks so much for mentioning the guy side of things. I think that emotional abuse perpetrated by females is far, FAR more common than people really know or recognize. And more tolerated, as well. Thanks for spreading the word.
I was bullied an threatened relentlessly by an emotionally abusive father for eighteen years - have had two emotionally abusive relationships with girls who become angry aggressive and violent. I always though it was my fault. My last girlfriend left two years ago a week after I lost my job of ten years. Nobody takes this seriously in men. There is nowhere to go for support. Even this video contributes to the perception that it is only men who are the abusers in relationships.
@DJSpinoza You say that nobody takes domestic violence seriously when it involves male victims. I don't accept any form of domestic violence as acceptable, and that includes what you've endured. No matter what, you may be emotionally scarred, but you're not damaged goods. If that were the case, you wouldn't be able to tell your story here. I wish you all the best in finding somebody who will treat you as the precious person you are.
The words in this video were good - the visuals sent a different message - do the same words and same message but change the visuals - take the words away and just play the visuals and ask what its saying. Think you will see what I'm saying maybe !!
Im not sure if anyone else commented on this but, the abuser could also be a woman. i know some one who emotionally abuses her child....she (my friend) got help and now lives with her dad
honestly this video is really true, its hard because i do feel like im in denial. the guy ive been with never hit me, but sometimes i feel like im manipulated. and its hard to breakaway sometimes..it really is. but at the same time its all about trust and once they win over your trust, your basically screwed.
I am a man and, with only one or two exceptions, I can relate to everything that is said here. The woman who emotionally abuses me is a family member (not a spouse).
I am a ma, who experienced this same a buse from a wome in ways I can not describe the pain and I can relate to every thing said on here. This song is awsome to.
I wish I had seen something like this a year ago or some one had told me about these signs. He had me convinced that I was just a drama queen, overly sensitive, and that I knew nothing. He hated women, believed men to be far superior, and I felt like I was always walking on egg shells, trying to keep him from having an outburst. It took him trying to strangle me to finally leave, and I still went back once before finally cutting the tie. It's especially hard because you lose yourself in him.
@emmalise -yes it is the constant feeling of walking on eggshells and often not knowing the 'correct' words to say.I have put ,my mobile off so my bf can't speak to me.
You get the picture...?? DON'T let someone make you suffer for that long. I seperated from him. I'm letting himself change, but He is not changing, I'm thinking of divorcing because he screams on the phone, five feet away my friends can here him yelling at me. So I think that I have shown I have been faithful enough to give him the time to show everyone. I'm writing this so others can get the encouragement to seek for help GET out, don't let someone hurt you!
I've been married for 2.5 years. I have a husband who is emotionally, verbally, and psychologically abusive. He got Jealous and he was like an air horn to me. Literally that loud. He got into my face and he is A TOUGH guy. I said that was the last call for me. I felt that if he had an weapons in his hands that night I would have been.....
I am with this man right now. I have wnated to leave for over a year. We have two children, one 14 yrs. old and one 13 yrs. old What do I do? How do I tell him to leave? Help me! I am Dying!!!!!
Hurtful to watch because of the memories t brings back ever time.....I'm so glad it's over and hate every tear I shed when I'm reminded of what he did to me..
I;m Emotinally aused by my mom everyyy night....Out of home i'm happy..It's when i get home i feel sad and just want to runaway. She hits me sometimes if i don't do exactley what she says..or if i don't understand homework...it will become a big arument and she calls me "stupid" and "retarded" and..in the morning before school she says "get the fuck on the buss and get out of here little bitch." occasinally she will hit me really hard. shes pregnat to...
My reply to all minors (teens and kids) is that you can seek help through your local Department of Children and Families or other similar agencies in your communities. You will be assigned a social worker who will help you stop emotional and/or phisycal abuse.
I mean,women tend to bad mouth,use & manipulate much more commonly.I think men physically abuse more,but I think thats a reaction to verbal & emotional abuse.
Hell,women abuse men they dont even know.You say a simple "Hi" to a woman,she completely ignores you or looks at you like the scum of the Earth.Thats abuse.
@gangsterpathan -my bf is emotional abusing me, but I agree that some women are bad. Actually it is the petty things both sexes go mad about ie no cap on toothpaste etc
what your mom is doing is wrong and there is NO EXCUSE....yes maybe things arew not goin good in her life but thats...NOT YOUR FAULT.....PLEASE FIND HELP FOR YOU....and am sure your not stupid maybe your mom cant understand your homework an cant help but thats no excuse for name calling
@hi2437878 But women get a free pass here, don't you know that, even though they commit6 most family and dating violence - documented: See: abusegate investigate
Sorry, they usually will not help the victims of women who can do no wrong. My kids were abused terribly by their mother and grandmother, and it was fine with authorities, counsellors, etc, as ussuall.
Why no compaign to raise awareness for the majority of invisilbe abuse - committed BY women??
@hi2437878 : I feel so terribly for you. I hope you can see that you define yourself. Repeat over and over that your Mother is terrible at parenting and that you can only be defined by her as a bitch if you decide to believe it. No good parent would damage their child like this. You Mother must have her own issues.
im emotionaly abused by my father..the thing is i dont have signs for people to point at. He doesnt always do it..its just the odd "fuck off" and stuff but some times it gets really bad not too long ago he pushed me so hard i flew off my bed and hit my draws. I'm a very happy girl when im out with my friends and at home until my dad shouts at me calls me horrible names "speccy four eyes, cunt, ugly bitch" there the words i cant stand. my father was abused and i think its his temper i love my dad
you father may have problems ..BUT.....thats no excuse for treating you this way...you are a valid and worthwile human being that has alot to offer the world..please find someone to talk to that will support an understand you...what he is doing is wrong and CANNOT BE EXCUSED.....whatever his reasons....please get help
i'm 14 and i am not stupid cos i have a gr8 mum who will support me if i have trouble. I hope other girls are as lucky me cos it maks me sad when they don't have some one to turn too. :-((
That little note at the begining does nothing to neutralize or excuse the gynocentric sexist propaganda of the rest of this video.
Conflating mean spiritedness and conflict in a relationship with abuse in the first place is the foundation of the problem here.
It is USELESS to suggest that victims suffer from self blame, and that abusers lie, manipulate, and pose as victims. I say this because the task of figuring out who is the real abuser is the most important, but also the most difficult.
The only principled means of figuring out which partner is the main problem in a relationship, and who should bear the bulk of the blame for conflict and dysfunction in a relationship, is if one partner has a history of nasty dysfunctional relationships, and the other has a long history of great relationships with only that one exception. Otherwise, you can not identify the victim with collected subjective anecdotes and biased testimony. And the radical activist "experts" are no help either.
I use to think women were crazy for staying in relationships that were abusive..that is, until I became a victim of abuse myself. Although not as harsh as some women exp. I didn't realize until the entire ordeal was over that I had exp. abuse by a guy I thought loved and cared about me. I didn't know much about emotional and mental abuse if any. I was familar with physical, and I exp. that on about two occassions, where he bit my arm with his teeth and left a nasty bruise. He never said "sorry."
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This is such sexist bullshit. Women are always categorized as victims and never are guilty of anything. It's always the fault of men.
Women want equality...this is inequality. Women want inequality because they want more rights and more perceived innocence than men. Getting sick of it...
I agree on some level but I wouldn't say "always the fault of men" but simply more often. I think the media is partly to blame, all abuse stories I've heard on the news the men have been the abusers.
I think it should have been noted that women can also be the abusers.
Hello Golden Gal, yes, you are absolutely right, abusers can be either men or women, if you check our websites (especially our social network) you'll see we have many male members who have been abused by their wives or other women in their lives.
some say the problem is like attracts like, what I can not handle and what this does not address is that when someone is an abused child they grow up to be abusive, but what happens when you are in a relationship with them is that you become abusive yourself. control freaks either create a submissive person or another control freak. by the way I am male and i can tell you it definitely happens both ways.
Thanks for your comment, you are absolutely right, there are lots of female abusers and male victims too. It happens both ways. Thanks again for pointing it out.
Married for 10 years, always thinking I was the one that was messed up, until I saw this....wow. Hits hard...deja vu.
Working on the next step - have to do it. Tried three times already and could not stay away for more than two days, he then called them 'weekend getaways'
I've been in a relationship like this for the last 10 months. We broke up but he's still trying to contact me. I've changed my phone numbers, but he tracked me down on a dating site and emailed me today from it, spouting evil stuff. I blocked him and later today he found another email account on Outlook I use and this time was all nice in his email. I feel hunted down and the police can't do anything because he hasn't technically threated me! but he can curse me out via text/email/phone whenever
He is clearly a person with a personality disorder, just like most controlling people are. Check our website for Dr. Carver's articles, they will give you very good tips to get rid of him
Parents usually abuse their children in many ways, like belittling them or expecting one of their children to play the role of the other partner (read about disfunctional families.) Also, by having very expectations on their children or neglecting their emotional needs. For more information, check our main site and our network.
Ive been separated from my EX for over 1 1/2 yrs. I'm learning that verbal/emotional abuse is not illegal or even considered harassment. And even though I have given up everything Ive acquired during our relationship he can still make all the claims he wants to and keep me tied up in the legal system. And if I avoid him I risk him making any outrageous claim and getting it uncontested because I supposedly" Dodged service".
In some places (very few, unfortunately) it is considered a form of domestic violence, even if your partner does not beat you up. For instance, the Department of Children and Families in CT, USA, may remove children from their parents' care if their parents are verbally abusing them
It was hard telling me exboyfriend my worries about the relationship he told me he loved me and said it was what i wanted to hear all asked was to be honest! Why do males do that?
I talked to guy for almost 6 months and we met up and this helps me a lot to realize all the lies and manipulation i went through and didnt even realize it at the time. this helps and i think everyone should be aware of it
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DerangedLucidity0 2 weeks ago
It doesn't matter what sexual orientation a person is, abuse is abuse!!!!
And it's true, men and women both can be abused no matter what the relationship consists of.
iglpole84 1 month ago
Hmm. Almost everyresponse here is directed at the males???
Go lesbo and stfu!
honour123 1 month ago
I refuse to be destroyed by him, I will no longer let his harsh criticisms effect the way I feel because I remember how many loving people I had in my life before him. I know I can have friends again because I used to be a social butterfly and almost everyone liked me. However, I cannot let what he has done go unpunished. There must be some form of retribution because he is an A class pig who deserves to get his ego crushed.
MissJeanette69 1 month ago
My boyfriend is an emotionally abusive piece of shit. He has hurt me so fucking bad and he never apologizes sincerely for anything he does. I have to remind him to apologize, yet I must apologize 6 and 7 times for the same thing. The only reason why I'm with him still is because I want to cheat on him and crush his disgusting ego, he is very jealous and possessive so I know it will hurt his feelings really bad.
MissJeanette69 1 month ago
My dad is...*sigh* i always end up just saying im sorry and crying and that makes him angrier.......i want to talk to someone about it but i cant...my teachers they wont listeb..... pff they say tell a trusted adult...my entire family would just say im being bad.....what should i do?
111axa1 4 months ago
I was in a relationship like this one for 4 years. I finally found the strength and courage to leave. Looking back, it's hard to believe I stayed in it for 5 minutes, let alone 4 years. Getting out was one of the hardest things I ever did, I cried and cried for two weeks. But there was hope and freedom at the end of that pain and tears. Now I'm dating a great guy and my life is radically different.
starwarsgirl1977 5 months ago
Why 'him' ? Girls are as good at abusing people too
KaiSiJoAmos24 5 months ago 2
@KaiSiJoAmos24 I was just about to make that same comment.
willowtreephoto 4 months ago
The video shows have the abuser has a problem, but certainly, a person who allows that to happen has a bigger problem.
Anatye 8 months ago
this is not only for woman I think any kind of abusive relationship would make you have towards the abuser this kind of signs of abuse on you. Even abusive women or parents towards men can have similar effects, but the problem is that men are like more allowed to be judged which is all right since they are abusive but everyone should be judged like that whenever bocomes an abusive person.
beastbubblegum 8 months ago
There has to be resouces out there to help women get away and get on their own feet..
tiffyj85 8 months ago
I feel there is no way out too.. I have bipolar depression as well, so my husband blames that a lot. but I feel my mood would lift dramatically if I did leave - it's just getting the courage to actually do it. I also have a teenage son..
aliscalli23 9 months ago
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ChickenNachosPG 9 months ago
I put my hand out for help after four years of abuse, i am slowly recovering, there is a way out. There is help. I am a mere figment of the woman i used to be but i am FREE.
x3keekee 10 months ago 2
You know what....i am going to kick my girlfriends ass if she tries to emotionally abuse me anymore. Thanks for the inspiration!
jpeete 1 year ago
the sexual bias in this video undercuts its loving intent.
dainismichel 1 year ago
what i dont like is why it says him and not them. I think men emotionally abusing women is awful but women are just as likely to be guilty of it.
h60562 1 year ago
women are the skillful emotional abusers!
fonafan 1 year ago
my family is a broken family.... sometimes i get along with them, my sister is starting to change a bit to see my side more which is ok. more than rather we get on each other nerves but sometimes my mom is enmotional abusive.
Cin884eva 1 year ago
what if he has taken you away from all family and friends and have no where to go? not even a womens shelter near you.. what then?
firefwi 1 year ago
@firefwi If your family is there for you go to them with the truth reach out even to one person,there are people out there that are good too. Churches,nuns phone lines,internet,you can do it.
lupia39 1 year ago
@lupia39 thanks a ton.. unfortunately where I am in my life right now there really isn't anywhere to turn
firefwi 11 months ago
@firefwi If you can, start saving up money. Get enough for a bond and a couple of weeks rent money. Pack a bag, to have on standby, just in case. Get counseling from a local support organisation, or even call a helpline for the times you need courage to keep going with your plan. If you're not working, find a job. If you are, find another one, so he doesn't know where you work. Change your mobile number when you leave. watch the movie 'Sleeping with the enemy' with Julia Roberts for motivation.
KGBLily 8 months ago
@KGBLily your response made me cry.. thank you! I do watch Sleeping with the Enemy probably have it memorized!! It's so difficult because altho I do not have kids I have started a cat shelter here and if I leave it means leaving them too and I have searched high and low for a place to take them. No one will take them, not even shelters.. unless you are taking them to get euthanized and it is literally impossible to transport 13 cats to a new location which is probably going to be an apt cont..
firefwi 8 months ago
@firefwi I am sorry for this dilema. I am in a similar situation in that my guy has bought 3 dogs that I am now attached to, but could not possibly take with me. For me though, as much as i love them, the question becomes, "do i stay for them, or get out out and save my sanity and future?". Although with you it's harder because its a shelter you've set up. Maybe there are some older people in the neighbourhood who could use a new little friend?It's a tough one. Hope everything works out. Best wi
KGBLily 8 months ago
@KGBLily Just take the dogs and move far away. Or get new dogs. You're life isn't going to get better while you stay in an abusive relationship.
acr08807 6 months ago
@KGBLily so I'm left with quite a moral dilemma and if you have animals you know they can become your best friends , especially in this situation .. when he abuses me they seem to know and always comfort me. I actually adopted out 3 cats the past week and that gave me hope I could find homes for the others but I'm not sure if my will and strength can wait till that time.. only time will tell. Thank you again for all your wisdom and care! I appreciate it more than you know...
firefwi 8 months ago
PS: apply for a credit card with at least a $2000 limit - to be used for emergency funds. Take your name off any joint bank accounts. If renting, once you're gone, call the rental agency, explain why you've left, and tell them to take your name off the lease. If you own the house, leave and later get a solicitor to communicate on your behalf. In your new suburb, join a local group - whether church, volunteering. Confide, in time, in someone, in the event that something happens to you.
KGBLily 8 months ago
I don't know if I think this music was appropriate for the theme of the video. But I respect that you're trying to make people more knowledgeable about abuse
DiamondNotch 1 year ago
women can abuse men aswell, dnt just say he he he.
tetao123 1 year ago
are women more likely to be emotiaonlly abusive than men? thats the impression i get
Liam2621 1 year ago
well he ticks all them boxes-no wonder you all think im nuts-he made me that way :(
thanks for the support "friends"
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Who sent me this?
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Im stuck, my boyfriend is everything said here. And I have to fess up I stupidly play into some of these to. I even been to jail because I was so fed up with his accusations and cussing I just snapped but even after all that I went to jail for my first time for Domestic Violence. I admitted my part but did he? And still I stayed. I followed the advice from Counseling just walk away to diffuse the situation. I did and I come back to him saying "so did u fuck'em?" I was like "what!?!" Im lost
moznico 1 year ago
There is no explanation why we stay. I always thought myself a strong willed person. Friends and family would describe me the same. But I believed the words, I answered to the horrible names, I closed out my family and friends. I lived by his rules. I lost my identity and became the person he wanted me to be. And I was scared to think how life would be without him. I am alive today, living my own life, never looking back, because that is where the nightmares are found.
jbiseau 1 year ago
My bf emotional abuses me. My last conversation was when he made me cry. He says things are 'my fault; yet he still wants to go out with me. He gets annoyed with things like I can't find my train tickets, he complains that I have restrictions because of my generalised anxiety disorder, now if I was an alcoholic etc, then he has something to really complain!
evascrafts 1 year ago
This is very good and informative. I was in an abusive marriage for 17 years..and could not envision a way out, although I knew it was wrong to be in this relationship. I felt less than dirt. many of these signs were an every day occurence at our house. the kids even wanted out and blamed me..but I was verbally threatened that he would harm us and my family..so I tried to manage. Thank goodness to improved domestic abuse police conduct, we were resurected from the dungeon that was our life.
Parmesana 1 year ago
This video is a great dummy down version for emotional abuse... many women out there experience with with their partners and its really because of something that has not healed yet in their past... or vice versa, gentlemen. Stalking the Soul is a great book to read regarding this matter!
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lynnemccarthysa 1 year ago
ended my relationship!But if took me 20yrs to realize I was a victim!
justonekissgoodnight 1 year ago
this just taught me I'm being emotionally abused by my dad. :(
lolipopPrincess 1 year ago
I feel terrible and digusted with myself , i have emotionally abused my girl frnd and god shud punish me for that,she has already by breaking up with me.
snagar86 1 year ago
@snagar86 - thank you for your comments. Sometimes we don't realise we are doing it.
evascrafts 1 year ago
@evascrafts i want her back, i m ready to do anything. my life is terrible without her. she was girl of my dreams:(
snagar86 1 year ago
i need to send this to my daughter but am scared
skycladwow 1 year ago
@skycladwow then send it!
TheTravelfool 1 year ago
@TheTravelfool I sent it, she defends her partner, can only be here for her :)
skycladwow 1 year ago
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Hmmmmm, supporting most family violence while pretending to do the opposite??? It is documented that actually Women commit the most DV of all, especially against children whom they abuse AND kill at twice the rate fathers do. Women are actually abused least, They initiate nearly twice as much partner violence as men as well... Why no concern there? Free pass? Supremacy is fine then? Double standards are the greatest violence of all.
See: abusegate investigate
addvoc8 1 year ago
i was verbally abused by my family when I was a kid it was so bad I start taking it out on the animals, really makes me sad .
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ilresqunow 1 year ago
Thank You For The Video....
carmendecor 1 year ago
Mental abuse damages from inside don't allow it to happen, don't be shy to tell other's what's going on if it's about you or you know about someone else being abused. You and yourself are all you need don't believe your oppressor that you're worthless You can do it perfectly without that person! You utterly and completely deserve love and kindness
Sanaaliciouss 1 year ago
I'm a guy . and i treated by my partner exactly what you mentioned in the video . I really love her . I can't let her go . Help .
choonyauw 1 year ago
@choonyauw What she is doing is wearing you down so you feel you don't deserve anybody better, and that's just as evil and just as abusive as what a male abuser does to his victim. Considering that she's treating you so badly, I thought you might want to hear from a woman who also does not accept abusive treatment from other women as acceptable.
radavis76 1 year ago
@radavis76 But you are NOT even a woman! And abuse is your no 1 passion! Just read his posts everybody, abuse, threats, hatred and violence permiate them all! Everybody needs to BEWARE of this evil deceiving LIAR! Please do not be fooled by this coniving dispicable monster!
xenaphobe73 1 year ago
So good to see people opening this topic for discussion. I too have been in an emotionally abusive relationship...my former husband was a porn addict to boot and he continually made me feel terrible about myself. In the end we split and I wrote a book about this.
I am so glad people are becoming aware that domestic violence is not just about hitting.
indiemuzochick 1 year ago 13
@indiemuzochick
Thank you for your comment. If possible, please post a link to your book or its title here, so other people can buy it and learn more about this.
mariana2062 1 year ago 3
@mariana2062 The book about emotional abuse is called Soul Crushers. Click on the following link to preview or purchase.
indiemuzochick 1 year ago
@indiemuzochick ... look at soulcrushersbookdotcom for copy of soul crushers book
indiemuzochick 1 year ago
@ indiemuzochick - Thank you!
mariana2062 1 year ago
@indiemuzochick yes this is so true.. Society forgets about where this Domestic Violence begins. Like the soaking frog, slowly the fire gets turned up.. the frog, unaware adjusts to the temperature, as the water becomes hotter to the point of becoming boiled.
bssmart1118 1 year ago
my friends used to say your moms always mad at you.i just remember her grinding her teeth in anger poking me in the forehead i dont even know what for.i was a good kid.was this emotional abuse?idk all i know is i dislike her and well never be close.when i played a song for her i wrote she told me i guess i have to say its good cuz im your mom.
rippedonchronic 1 year ago
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prophetshrek 1 year ago
My dad is an emotional abuser and a control freak. I live with my parents because I'm developmentally disabled and require living assistance. At the moment, I don't have anywhere to go, but someday I hope to get out and be on my own so that I can be independent and happy. I'd love to live a life where I can live without fear or of having to hide things, and I can just be me for a change. I'm working on that right now, but sometimes I feel hopeless and stuck, like I'm never getting out of here.
DollMommy10 1 year ago
@DollMommy10 You have my prayers and my emotional support during this difficult time. What your father is doing is wrong and you are NOT to blame for his abusive behavior. If you have to find at least part-time work for you and hide your earnings so they can't steal your money, that's a start. And no matter what, do NOT allow yourself to be isolated because abuse spreads out of control when isolation is in the picture!
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RUInternational 1 year ago
my father has been emotionaly nd phically abusing me for the past 14 years( my whole life) umm the worst thing he does is when i dont answer the phone he kicks me
unicorn16 1 year ago
I was in an abusive relationship with my ex girlfriend for 9 years. She slept around on me from the beginning, threw things at me when she got mad, embarrassed me in front of my friends and family, and made fun of the way I dressed. It was horrible. To be honest I knew something was wrong from the beginning and tried to leave but stayed because she threatened to commit suicide if I left. I wish I would've known the kind of person she really was.
superbiggable 1 year ago 2
@superbiggable - yes, the suicide blackmail is another thing they do, and they try to do it infront of you.
evascrafts 1 year ago
this is great information but it's assuming that only women go through emotional abuse and what cause it is a male character (him)
also it doesn't have to be a bf gf relationship cause thats what im thinking from this video
tomboy895 1 year ago
This is 100% what to look for. Too many people telling you what to do. How would they know? The hardest is I will not talk to you until you leave. Oct. 2007 was the last time i have stepped foot in my parents house. He won , I fought for years, now ... what ever. Leaving for me is NOT a possibility! NOT one, my choices were taken away by myself. I am sur eI will get some down talk. I just understand real life.
2meheavensentmusic 2 years ago
i believe there are just as many female abusers, including mothers. think of all the "well meaning mothers" that are not in tune with their child, and that crush their souls, getting away with it as "sweet or poor mothers". read alice miller.
coldfreshair 2 years ago 2
@coldfreshair - completely agree that some mothers crush their kids souls and often they are 'christians too' and go to church.
evascrafts 1 year ago
this abuser was my dad,
did this to my mom and i,
needless to say my mom left him.
Then he killed himself after he stole/took and sold everything he could. then we all live better off ish.
sick and twisted but weird and good all in the same mannor.
i just wish i would have learned more and gotten out earlyer let me tell you that
good video though
decibelchild 2 years ago
For 7 years I had domestic violence. I endured all and more of what this video is showing and he exhibited all and more of the signs you should watch for . He is now abusing someone else and NOT me . In domestic violent relationships you are not special to him ... you are just another fool who tolerates his behaviour. Go to someone elses funeral .. not your own.
JOOLZBRUTNELL 2 years ago
Good video. I have been in an abusive relationship for three years with a narcissistic girlfriend. The punishments they give are so psychologically damaging that when you look back on your relationship, it is clear as day how much they were doing to control you, it is nearly humorous. Do not let these emotional vampires suck the life out of you. Stay strong, get out, get help.
benpetrofsky 2 years ago 9
@benpetrofsky Hey, thanks so much for mentioning the guy side of things. I think that emotional abuse perpetrated by females is far, FAR more common than people really know or recognize. And more tolerated, as well. Thanks for spreading the word.
Trystera 2 years ago 2
I was bullied an threatened relentlessly by an emotionally abusive father for eighteen years - have had two emotionally abusive relationships with girls who become angry aggressive and violent. I always though it was my fault. My last girlfriend left two years ago a week after I lost my job of ten years. Nobody takes this seriously in men. There is nowhere to go for support. Even this video contributes to the perception that it is only men who are the abusers in relationships.
DJSpinoza 1 year ago
@DJSpinoza You say that nobody takes domestic violence seriously when it involves male victims. I don't accept any form of domestic violence as acceptable, and that includes what you've endured. No matter what, you may be emotionally scarred, but you're not damaged goods. If that were the case, you wouldn't be able to tell your story here. I wish you all the best in finding somebody who will treat you as the precious person you are.
radavis76 1 year ago
@DJSpinoza - my friend's wife was abusive. It was so bad he tape recorded her. She sounded like something from the supernatural.
evascrafts 1 year ago
@benpetrofsky I totally went through that with my ex it still affects me today
mmtna 1 year ago
@benpetrofsky - my mother is narcissistic and they are hell to live with.
evascrafts 1 year ago
The words in this video were good - the visuals sent a different message - do the same words and same message but change the visuals - take the words away and just play the visuals and ask what its saying. Think you will see what I'm saying maybe !!
Shesnoin 2 years ago
Im not sure if anyone else commented on this but, the abuser could also be a woman. i know some one who emotionally abuses her child....she (my friend) got help and now lives with her dad
Smoreofwhat2 2 years ago
Good video.....
MissBeinspired 2 years ago
honestly this video is really true, its hard because i do feel like im in denial. the guy ive been with never hit me, but sometimes i feel like im manipulated. and its hard to breakaway sometimes..it really is. but at the same time its all about trust and once they win over your trust, your basically screwed.
laragarnett 2 years ago 3
All the things about what to watch for in a guy are all true about my boyfriend...
and he has hit me, once. and always talks bad to my friends.
And im a complete emotional wreck..l
AnastasiaXApocolypse 2 years ago
That's why hw hates Enya!:)
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prettylyricsmarie 2 years ago
what is the title of this song?
prettylyricsmarie 2 years ago
"Now we are free" :) from the soundtrack of the movie "The Gladiator"
Iberianwildwolf 2 years ago
I wish I'd seen this 30 yrs ago...and 20 yrs ago...and again 10 yrs ago... I'm free of it for now, but I'm an emotional wreck.
TINHET 2 years ago 2
I wish It too. Tho mine was only one year ago. It just ended 2 months ago. I was also an emotional wreck.
LiLi08pbgrl 2 years ago
I am a man and, with only one or two exceptions, I can relate to everything that is said here. The woman who emotionally abuses me is a family member (not a spouse).
chrisman737 2 years ago
I am a ma, who experienced this same a buse from a wome in ways I can not describe the pain and I can relate to every thing said on here. This song is awsome to.
Kevilaire 2 years ago
this video is on point.
Fmurtadi 2 years ago 2
I wish I had seen something like this a year ago or some one had told me about these signs. He had me convinced that I was just a drama queen, overly sensitive, and that I knew nothing. He hated women, believed men to be far superior, and I felt like I was always walking on egg shells, trying to keep him from having an outburst. It took him trying to strangle me to finally leave, and I still went back once before finally cutting the tie. It's especially hard because you lose yourself in him.
emmalise 2 years ago
@emmalise -yes it is the constant feeling of walking on eggshells and often not knowing the 'correct' words to say.I have put ,my mobile off so my bf can't speak to me.
evascrafts 1 year ago
Please don't buy bamboo flutes from Das on youtube he verbally and emtionally abused for two years
magnoliagoddess108 2 years ago
I like the song. Anyone know the name of the song?
carnivalpride 2 years ago
such a sad video
lalalandcrazyful 2 years ago
Bye Grace God loves you, he would never want anyone to live in abuse! seek help and pray..pray pray pray, he will tell you what to do!
rosefroggie13 2 years ago 2
You get the picture...?? DON'T let someone make you suffer for that long. I seperated from him. I'm letting himself change, but He is not changing, I'm thinking of divorcing because he screams on the phone, five feet away my friends can here him yelling at me. So I think that I have shown I have been faithful enough to give him the time to show everyone. I'm writing this so others can get the encouragement to seek for help GET out, don't let someone hurt you!
rosefroggie13 2 years ago
I've been married for 2.5 years. I have a husband who is emotionally, verbally, and psychologically abusive. He got Jealous and he was like an air horn to me. Literally that loud. He got into my face and he is A TOUGH guy. I said that was the last call for me. I felt that if he had an weapons in his hands that night I would have been.....
rosefroggie13 2 years ago
I am with this man right now. I have wnated to leave for over a year. We have two children, one 14 yrs. old and one 13 yrs. old What do I do? How do I tell him to leave? Help me! I am Dying!!!!!
ivienance 2 years ago
If you feel like you can't live without him? ...Seriously?
TheAdorabelle 2 years ago
music by Lisa Gerard and Hans Zimmer -- not Enya.
dusteroo 2 years ago
Hurtful to watch because of the memories t brings back ever time.....I'm so glad it's over and hate every tear I shed when I'm reminded of what he did to me..
XxXEsotericx 2 years ago
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womon are to blame, Why would thay get into a relastionship if it wasent right its all in there head
CottonmouthMovies 2 years ago
I;m Emotinally aused by my mom everyyy night....Out of home i'm happy..It's when i get home i feel sad and just want to runaway. She hits me sometimes if i don't do exactley what she says..or if i don't understand homework...it will become a big arument and she calls me "stupid" and "retarded" and..in the morning before school she says "get the fuck on the buss and get out of here little bitch." occasinally she will hit me really hard. shes pregnat to...
hi2437878 2 years ago 4
My reply to all minors (teens and kids) is that you can seek help through your local Department of Children and Families or other similar agencies in your communities. You will be assigned a social worker who will help you stop emotional and/or phisycal abuse.
mariana2062 2 years ago
Please seek help, you dont deserve to be treated like this.
loravbetts 2 years ago
I think this video is gender biased & kinda decieving.I think there are FAR MORE female emotional abusers than men.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
I mean,women tend to bad mouth,use & manipulate much more commonly.I think men physically abuse more,but I think thats a reaction to verbal & emotional abuse.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
Hell,women abuse men they dont even know.You say a simple "Hi" to a woman,she completely ignores you or looks at you like the scum of the Earth.Thats abuse.
thegreatcrates 2 years ago
you sir are right women are more of emotional abusers then men ,,, men can be physical abusers but women are better at emotional abuse !!
gangsterpathan 2 years ago 9
Maybe to you
julzeatspu 2 years ago
yes !! every one tells his own experiances...
gangsterpathan 2 years ago
all I can say is i feel really sorry for anyone whose been in an abusive relationship.
julzeatspu 2 years ago
@gangsterpathan -my bf is emotional abusing me, but I agree that some women are bad. Actually it is the petty things both sexes go mad about ie no cap on toothpaste etc
evascrafts 1 year ago
what your mom is doing is wrong and there is NO EXCUSE....yes maybe things arew not goin good in her life but thats...NOT YOUR FAULT.....PLEASE FIND HELP FOR YOU....and am sure your not stupid maybe your mom cant understand your homework an cant help but thats no excuse for name calling
lovemainz 2 years ago
@hi2437878 omg my mom is the same way...God bless u ..i truly feel ur pain..i wish i could help..
patriciacarrasco 1 year ago
@hi2437878 But women get a free pass here, don't you know that, even though they commit6 most family and dating violence - documented: See: abusegate investigate
Sorry, they usually will not help the victims of women who can do no wrong. My kids were abused terribly by their mother and grandmother, and it was fine with authorities, counsellors, etc, as ussuall.
Why no compaign to raise awareness for the majority of invisilbe abuse - committed BY women??
addvoc8 1 year ago
@hi2437878 : I feel so terribly for you. I hope you can see that you define yourself. Repeat over and over that your Mother is terrible at parenting and that you can only be defined by her as a bitch if you decide to believe it. No good parent would damage their child like this. You Mother must have her own issues.
Sunshine100 1 year ago
im emotionaly abused by my father..the thing is i dont have signs for people to point at. He doesnt always do it..its just the odd "fuck off" and stuff but some times it gets really bad not too long ago he pushed me so hard i flew off my bed and hit my draws. I'm a very happy girl when im out with my friends and at home until my dad shouts at me calls me horrible names "speccy four eyes, cunt, ugly bitch" there the words i cant stand. my father was abused and i think its his temper i love my dad
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Please seek help, you dont deserve to be treated like this
loravbetts 2 years ago
you father may have problems ..BUT.....thats no excuse for treating you this way...you are a valid and worthwile human being that has alot to offer the world..please find someone to talk to that will support an understand you...what he is doing is wrong and CANNOT BE EXCUSED.....whatever his reasons....please get help
lovemainz 2 years ago
i'm 14 and i am not stupid cos i have a gr8 mum who will support me if i have trouble. I hope other girls are as lucky me cos it maks me sad when they don't have some one to turn too. :-((
KASEproductions 2 years ago
That little note at the begining does nothing to neutralize or excuse the gynocentric sexist propaganda of the rest of this video.
Conflating mean spiritedness and conflict in a relationship with abuse in the first place is the foundation of the problem here.
It is USELESS to suggest that victims suffer from self blame, and that abusers lie, manipulate, and pose as victims. I say this because the task of figuring out who is the real abuser is the most important, but also the most difficult.
St37One 2 years ago
The only principled means of figuring out which partner is the main problem in a relationship, and who should bear the bulk of the blame for conflict and dysfunction in a relationship, is if one partner has a history of nasty dysfunctional relationships, and the other has a long history of great relationships with only that one exception. Otherwise, you can not identify the victim with collected subjective anecdotes and biased testimony. And the radical activist "experts" are no help either.
St37One 2 years ago
I use to think women were crazy for staying in relationships that were abusive..that is, until I became a victim of abuse myself. Although not as harsh as some women exp. I didn't realize until the entire ordeal was over that I had exp. abuse by a guy I thought loved and cared about me. I didn't know much about emotional and mental abuse if any. I was familar with physical, and I exp. that on about two occassions, where he bit my arm with his teeth and left a nasty bruise. He never said "sorry."
Annazayla 2 years ago 2
I am a survivor as well.
pomfan07 2 years ago 2
Thank you so much ! I`m a survivor as well...
missydeluxe 2 years ago
As a survivor may I mirror this video with your permission?
AsheIsTheRaven 2 years ago
Yes, please, feel free to do so. Thanks for your comment!
mariana2062 2 years ago
i agree so much about all this this my life!!!!!
324547867 2 years ago
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This is such sexist bullshit. Women are always categorized as victims and never are guilty of anything. It's always the fault of men.
Women want equality...this is inequality. Women want inequality because they want more rights and more perceived innocence than men. Getting sick of it...
MMcGuire5 2 years ago
I agree on some level but I wouldn't say "always the fault of men" but simply more often. I think the media is partly to blame, all abuse stories I've heard on the news the men have been the abusers.
I think it should have been noted that women can also be the abusers.
GoldenGal42 2 years ago 3
Hello Golden Gal, yes, you are absolutely right, abusers can be either men or women, if you check our websites (especially our social network) you'll see we have many male members who have been abused by their wives or other women in their lives.
mariana2062 2 years ago
i agree that women could be abusers too. VerbALLY, mentally emotionally, and physically, we can be.
nadiel42 2 years ago
it was noted. at the beginning of the video.
ntiego 2 years ago
... I don't remember that being there before. It might have been because I turn off the annotations when I watch videos.
GoldenGal42 2 years ago
No, it wasn't there, I added it because a lot of people think the video implies abuse only works one way. Thanks for pointing it out :)
mariana2062 2 years ago
some say the problem is like attracts like, what I can not handle and what this does not address is that when someone is an abused child they grow up to be abusive, but what happens when you are in a relationship with them is that you become abusive yourself. control freaks either create a submissive person or another control freak. by the way I am male and i can tell you it definitely happens both ways.
lyntonio 2 years ago
Hi lyntonio,
Thanks for your comment, you are absolutely right, there are lots of female abusers and male victims too. It happens both ways. Thanks again for pointing it out.
mariana2062 2 years ago
Married for 10 years, always thinking I was the one that was messed up, until I saw this....wow. Hits hard...deja vu.
Working on the next step - have to do it. Tried three times already and could not stay away for more than two days, he then called them 'weekend getaways'
Great vid! Thanks ;D
KositaQ 2 years ago
You're welcome, KositaQ. And thanks all of you for your comments!
mariana2062 2 years ago
great video thanks for making it
TheEmotionalAbuse 2 years ago
I've been in a relationship like this for the last 10 months. We broke up but he's still trying to contact me. I've changed my phone numbers, but he tracked me down on a dating site and emailed me today from it, spouting evil stuff. I blocked him and later today he found another email account on Outlook I use and this time was all nice in his email. I feel hunted down and the police can't do anything because he hasn't technically threated me! but he can curse me out via text/email/phone whenever
maraskywalker 2 years ago
He is clearly a person with a personality disorder, just like most controlling people are. Check our website for Dr. Carver's articles, they will give you very good tips to get rid of him
mariana2062 2 years ago
the website is in spanish
maraskywalker 2 years ago
this is good and all, but only for a relationship. What about a situation where its father abusing son, what are the signs?
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mariana2062 2 years ago
Ive been separated from my EX for over 1 1/2 yrs. I'm learning that verbal/emotional abuse is not illegal or even considered harassment. And even though I have given up everything Ive acquired during our relationship he can still make all the claims he wants to and keep me tied up in the legal system. And if I avoid him I risk him making any outrageous claim and getting it uncontested because I supposedly" Dodged service".
rainchild41 2 years ago
In some places (very few, unfortunately) it is considered a form of domestic violence, even if your partner does not beat you up. For instance, the Department of Children and Families in CT, USA, may remove children from their parents' care if their parents are verbally abusing them
mariana2062 2 years ago
Thanks for that video <3
it really helps.
I started to cry
im glad u put this on youtube
SweetCakeJuJu 2 years ago
You're welcome
mariana2062 2 years ago
It was hard telling me exboyfriend my worries about the relationship he told me he loved me and said it was what i wanted to hear all asked was to be honest! Why do males do that?
gothdolly84 2 years ago
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nikki51572 2 years ago
I talked to guy for almost 6 months and we met up and this helps me a lot to realize all the lies and manipulation i went through and didnt even realize it at the time. this helps and i think everyone should be aware of it
laragarnett 2 years ago
It's good that you realized what was going on, it's never too late to change direction :)
mariana2062 2 years ago