Causes of Divorce - The Top 10 Reasons People Divorce

[Tohellwithoursouls]

All the above problems can easily be put right if as a couple you are working every hour to fight off crippling debts month after month but are still constantly broke with no light at the end of the tunnel. Just finding enough money to eat and heat is so hard, and the biggest heartache is snapping at the kids when you are tired and stressed about making the next payment. I expect the make of the video does not have money worries and has a nice little income selling marriage advice.

[Yahairaxxx]

Omg i guess im te problem 8 out of 10 its me

[MrKeldoMills]

Does anyone think that marriage is worth the troubles that come with it? I'm not married but I'm starting to wonder if it really is worth it.

[KidsNeedParentsEqual]

#1 cause - FAILING TO FORGIVE

why? narcissism. get help for yourself first

[jeniusjj]

@KidsNeedParentsEqual You are too right.

[MissTiff10100]

uummmm kids say no no mommy or daddy dont get divorced no no!! well i want em to isick of dat acholic daddy

[confettistar]

Are you even old enough to get married. You sound 14.

[Jeorney]

A lot of these reasons comes from the imbalance caused by feminist idealogy. Especially the extreme radical forms. Men & women are not opposites. Even in the word, "opposite", seems to suggest "to oppose". I prefer apposite sex, as its closer to describing mutually enhancing differences.

[ZenonOne]

wow I didn't tick any of the boxes. Guess we're f*cked...

[Farbeyondwasted54]

my dad needs to read this BIG time

[PixelPariah]

Divorce is bad, mmmkay.

[tinytim721]

tmudd, I just want to say that it isn't marriage that is the leading cause of divorce. True you do get married before divorcing; however, divorce is caused by selfishness and unforgiveness. Also, if two immature people who aren't ready to commit and take those vows seriously, then they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.  Before getting married, go take serious spiritual/christian counseling.

[Mystrym]

lol..preety petty list for causes of divorce..even i can think of better and have witnessed better reasons lol..jus check the leading causes of divorce and see what i mean

[Ptanmay]

i want divorce.... married 5 days ago... just because of parents... but i want ... i want reasons and help.... please... i cant stay with my spouse anymore

[tinytim721]

@Ptanmay Don't divorce your wife, I understand that she may piss you off and get on your nerves, but give your marriage a chance. Pray and ask God to show you how to deal with your problems and situation. I guarantee he will give u the best answer. Divorce is painful and isn't healthy. Read 1 Corinthians 13 in the Bible on love, think about it, if Jesus could take all of our sins and not get fed up with us, u can survive your wife.  Get christian counseling, Jesus is strong for this problem

[PhilJonesIII]

Funny how as you get older you see these hopefuls starting out and you seem to know they just wont make it.....except in your own case of course. Also bizarre how any pair of clowns can get married with no real counsel or support yet there will be an army of layers beating a path to the door the moment divorce is mentioned.

Divorce sucks big time.

[josephrl82]

Why force yourself to stay in a marriage you are not happy in. I say just get it over with. You'r not going to change and your spouse is not either. Don't waste another year or five years when you know it will not work. You have one chance on this planet don't live in missery, you will both survive and be happier bacause of it.

[NickInMesa]

@josephrl82 You are right. 12 years in and I don't have feelings for my spouse anymore. What can I say? I cannot force myself. I am not even cheating. I don't have a girlfriend or believe I can settle with a 20 year-old chick. Issue is my spouse has done and said terrible things to me and failed to support me emotionally when we went through hard times. In-laws have given her poor advice. She aborted our third child without asking me. She hasn't had a job since I married her. Can't fix this.

[josephrl82]

@NickInMesa Sorry man, I feel your pain. I have only been married 2 years, but I can already tell that we will not work out in the long run. I just can't get up the courage to do it yet. When I do I know it will be like the weight of the universe will be lifted off my shoulders.

[tinytim721]

@josephrl82 Pray and it will get better, I know from personal experience. My spouse nagged me all the time and even did horrible things to me, but once I gave my burden (the spouse) to Jesus Christ, he changed her heart and her attitude. My spouse is the most beautiful creation now because I see the change not only in her, but myself as well. When you try to solve your problems on your own, you can't, it seems hopeless and divorce is knocking at the door like a disease. Stop, and trust God!

[josephrl82]

@tinytim721 Why don't I just have Santa Clause be my marriage counselor while where dealing with real world problems using imaginary figures.

[MrKeldoMills]

@NickInMesa If it were me, I would have ran off with another woman that didn't say terrible things, didn't fail to support me, and especially if she didn't abort my 3 children. I would have divorced my spouse regardless if I found someone else before divorce or after. All of that stuff you said justifies cheating on her. If you cheated on her, it would actually be her fault.

[Stingercam21]

Women don't have limits on asking too much to their partners, always everything is not enough. And obviously they get tired of the same person, so never will work with a woman.

[tinytim721]

@Stingercam21 Definitely been through this, and my spouse was notorious, but God changed all that. So glad I didn't succumb to the darkness of divorce. Divorce is just like a sickness, it effects the heart, mind, and soul, and kills all joy and happiness. My spouse and I thought divorce was the answer, but it would only kill what dreams we had. God Bless you all, and hope all works out in your marriage and relationship. Remember we can't change people, only God can, Trust HIM!

[PageofLegend]

@tinytim721 god does not exist, it's all just a fairy tale. It is an excuse to be weak. Why do you have to think some huge guy is looking out for you? why can't you believe in your own strength? Don't be a tool.

[tinytim721]

@PageofLegend Keep ya head up to the sky. God is real, I would like for you to read Roman 5:1-5 in the Bible for proof. In fact your very being is proof that God is real. Also find you a church to visit and seek some spiritual counseling. You owe it to yourself to know the truth and have your captives set free. Knowing God is freedom from all regrets and sins. He loves you so much. You're loved. Believe it :)

[PageofLegend]

@tinytim721 actually, my number one argument against the existence of a loving god is rape and murder. If you were all powerful, would you ever let that happen to anyone you loved if you could stop it all with a waive of your hand?

[tinytim721]

@PageofLegend I know that it's upsetting to believe in God especially when sin consumes our world. Yes, God can stop anything, I agree, but according deuteronomy 30:11-15 and I John 5:1, God gave everyone a free will. He doesn't force himself on anyone because he gave everyone a choice to serve Him. According to His word, those who choose sin will be destroyed. Though you may not think or even see those abusers being dealt with, believe me, their day of judgement and punishment is coming.

[tinytim721]

@PageofLegend Rape and murder are horrible experiences, but know that it wasn't God's intention.Not only is there a God but there is also a devil "satan." I really would like for you to read the book of Revelations in the Bible, google it, but be careful of your internet sources, prefer for you to read an actual Bible and ask a Christian counselor to explain. I know those topics hurt our society, but know that God will win in the end.I personally know about abuse, but my faith has brought me far

[StickedJJ]

The reason my parents isnt up there

[Alexander67212]

Nothing you can do when the person you spent 12 yrs with never really loved you. Lol How the F&^K do you remedy that? For all others reading, divorce is extremely painfull.. Regret is the WORST feeling to live with. Do your best to love your partner and if it does not work, you will have no personal regrets.

[tmudd24]

marriage is the leading cause of divorce

[tinytim721]

@tmudd24 Marriage is beautiful and not the leading cause of divorce. Selfishness and unforgiveness is the true reason for failed marriages. If you were to link every problem that someone is having within the marriage, I'm sure it can be linked to the roots of selfishness and unforgivness. Read 1 Corinthian chapter 7 in the BIBLE, if need clarification, try reading from a life application BIBLE for understanding or get someone to explain to you (christian minister).

[tmudd24]

@tinytim721 i tell ya what, show me a couple that got divorced without first getting married and i will resend my original comment. 

[DiaShanti]

@tmudd24 Marriage is a 3 ring circus... first, you have the engagement ring, then there is the wedding ring and finally...there is suffer-ring.

[MsPingu112]

@tmudd24 no.. its personality problems that cause divorce. why did they get married in the first place? its their fault, dont blame it on the institution

[tmudd24]

@MsPingu112 name me one couple that has divorced without first being married.

[GrowABrainstem]

PrettyFreakinWise is pretty freaking wise.

Most men have fairly even temperament for the most part. We have to, or we can't fix our problems or progress in life, or successfully support a family. Women don't get this, and often do nothing but push mens' buttons. When they introduce a bunch of emotional and psychological drama that is completely unnecessary, they will eventually bring out the anger and frustration. Hence the fucking divorce rate.

[PrettyFreakinWise]

You are just another psuedo-psychological moron. You speak of controlling emotions and temper through anger management but the statistics prove that this is ill effective in all situations. We are all humans and we can only take so much BS before we need to release, based on our individuality. Holding in anger is destructive to yourself and, according to scientific study, can kill you. I am not suggesting violence. I am suggesting leeting go of what makes you angry...Forever.

[PrettyFreakinWise]

What if your partner is the cause of your temper problems? What if your partner is to prideful to see their own mistakes? Divorce is not fun but it may be a relief.

[jasontta]

Excellent points, but some people are too stuborn to change. Do your assessment , and If you need to walk, walk, Sometimes, being single and happy is better than being married and miserable.

[EnglishNowTV]

You know, I recognise these problems and more in my own marriage, on BOTH sides. We're going through some stuff right now, but at least we have the desire to do so. If it turns out it's too late, then in the words of Bruce Lee "Walk on my friend, walk on!" (Said to his Japanese friend Taka when Taka's wife of 27 years left him suddenly). Easier said than done, but NEVER let depression get you down or things will seem much worse!!

[ThatGamesGuy]

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