I live near to where teenager Scott Turner ran off to his death on a motorway in 2010 after a quarrel with his father (who was divorced from Scott's mother and had recently remarried). Have wondered just how much the Turners' divorce led ultimately to their son's fate. At the inquest the coroner stated that for Scott school had been a sanctuary from home and also that the his death had been distressing not least for Scott himself. WHAT DOES THAT TELL US?
If parents thought more about the impact of their divorce on their children there would not be so many unhappy youngsters around. To say that parents always have their kids best interests at heart is just a myth. Very often it is the parent who needs disciplining when they make such an infantile mess of their divorce.
my parents generation honestly are a bunch of spoiled sluts.... i hate my parents for getting divorced.... they are such god awful parents...especially my dad who i see once a year and then they say things like " we only want the best for you"...FUCK YOU assholes! you want to do whatever is easiest. I swear never to put my kids through any of that shit.
@wrathofme03 Some of these parents ARE spoiled sluts aren't they and also many adults (and adults in general) are very two faced when dealing with their children. And they say that your parents always know what is best for you! Try telling that to some of the youngsters in this world!!! People often go on about disciplining children. How about disciplining some adults out there?
regular divorced families should just suck it up try dealing with military divorce. the kid in the ordinary divorced family he or she gets to see the separated family member maybe every weekend, or once a month or once every other month. a military divorced family goes through much more because the child in the family only gets to see their mom or dad a few times a year due to the active duty parent moving depending on their orders. or they are deployed
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Some divorces are necessary and for the best but I think a lot of parents could be more informed about what might happen with their children please take a look at my petition search yellow light on divorce on change.org
Why get married, only to get a divorce. It effects your children more then you realize. And people wonder wy americas kids make bad decisions and are so angry. Why dont parents step back and take a look? Only marry somebody you know will never let you down, or loose interest. Maybe if people did, the world would improve, just a bit. but your childs world, would turn around:).
@Jadababada People change though. Who you are now isn't who you'll be 10 years from now. Divorce is better than a child living in a house with two parents who can't stand each other.
@Tocxica I think people change...but as they're changing they're growing closer together or further apart. I don't know how much change has to do with causing a separation, but if two ppl don't try to know each other anymore...what is keeping them together? The kid? Bc that kid is NOT happy when he sees his two parents not love each other. so sad...
@Tocxica However, something brought them together in the first place - with commitment and some therapy they can learn to bring it back. The problem is therapy is expensive - but then again - so is divorce - in more ways than one. As long as there is no abuse or illegal activity parents should do everything in their power to stay together for the children.
This video is completely true. Me and my younger brother are going through the same thing. we have trouble understanding everything and it effects our lives more than i thought. Sometimes i dont know what to think.
all those years trying to be a good wife to a man that could so easily throw his child.. the only reason I was still with him... away. Just know kids, that divorce isn't easy for us. For the one leaving, or the one staying.. and sometimes it really is for the best. It hurts... but we know it hurts. Knowing that one day I'll have to explain to my son why I left his father... it brings tears to my eyes even now...
And I have spent 2 years being married to a man I no longer loved. I have put it on scales.. I was put on medication for deep depression, I lost all self respect and self esteem. I felt like a horrible mother, and a horrible person every single day... but I stayed because I wanted my son to have his father. When I knew it was get out or do something horrible to myself, I got out. I asked his father if he wanted to be a part of his son's life... he said no. Now I wonder why I wasted
Seeing this breaks my heart... I've had such a hard time making the decision to leave my husband. He cheated on me during my pregnancy, and left with the woman for 6 months without a phone call or an email to me or his 6 month old son. I was stranded with no home, no car, and no family because I was in a completely different state than where my family was. After 6 months he came back, and I tried very hard to forgive and forget... but one affair after another... I am now 21, my son is now 3
im 13 and ive been in a divorce 3 time the recent one was when i was 11 now my mom and birth dad are trying to gain coustudy over me agian i feel like its all my fault
@glyn710 No matter what you say or do it isn't your fault. You may have said some stuff out of anger but you have every right to have your opinions heard.
My Wife Left Me, Commited Adultery With Some Guy Who Was Throwing It Up In My Face Online, Lied In The Divorce Papers, Became A Witch and Now She Stalks Me Online Now. Shes The WORST Person I Ever Met... And The Biggest Liar I Knew. I Wish Her and Her Coke Snorting Daddy Well. I dont know what her deal Is But I have GREAT Sympathy For Anyone Who Has Suffered Thru A Divorce.
My Wife Left Me, Commit Adultery With Some Guy Who Was Throwing It Up In My Face Online, Lied In The Divorce Papers, Became A Witch and Now She Stalkes Me Online Now. I dont know what her deal Is But I have GREAT Sympathy For Anyone Who Has Suffered Thru A Divorce. I Found Your Video Very Enlightening. Please Keep Doing What You Do and Be Blessed.
multiple families of mine have been destroyed because of divorce. and i've been moved 2,000 miles away from home. you made a video, i wrote an article, either way, divorce ruins things.
...If their no longer happy its probably their best decsion to make their however long life a joyful one,so dont take what you have for granted and be happy for every moment you have with with your parents together or not and with or without both parents in your life. My parents staying together was one of the worst decsions they made!
Can be just as hard if they aren't happy but stay together for the kids. People continue to change all through their life which has a big effect on relationships.
Last night my Mother found out my dad was cheating on my her. I dont know what to feel like, i love both my parents and my Dad may be my step Dad but hes more my Dad then my Blood Dad ever was. He took me in as his own when i was five. Im worried about both of them and what they are going to do.
My parents divorced when I was 11. My dad was an alcoholic and needed help but wouldent get any. My mother couldent take it, and they filed for divorce.
Hes clean now, not a drop of alcohol in over 2 years. But I still hate this.
They never talk to each other, or anything.
I know im lucky to have two biological parents that love me, but I would give anything to see them atleast become friends. I miss seeing them happy with each other...
our daughter and he was wanting to stay with us!! We are still together but, unfortunately, I don't feel anything for him.. This love we had at the first times is gone and I am just confused about the future.. Thanx anyone for reading my story, it's been a long time since I have to talk to someone.. Thanx again and sorry for the huge text!
@MultiTata80 All marriages get like that. The romance and butterflies eventually go away and things get really boring. It happens to every marriage but shouldn't be a reason for divorce. Some people thrive off the chemical feeling of being in love, and when that goes away, they seek a new love affair to experience the rush one more time, even at their children's expense.
After this my husbant was on her side for months, he was telling me lies that his mother is avery good woman and she loves me!!!! We had fights for a long time because I was realizing that he couldn't stay away of his mother and on the other side, I was trying to keep my family alone, for the second time... So, one day I told him to get divorce, to go and live with his mother and live me in my peace. I was sooo tired, guys!! He started crying, like a child, telling me that he loves me and
talk to me like that!! Even his mother! She was veeeeeeery offensive, in many ways!! When she was finding the ''right timing'', she was attacking me with rude words and offences!! So, one day, after the birth of my daughter, I was ''in the red'', my nerves were broken and I was just expecting her... when she came to she the baby, I kicked her out of my house, in front of my husbant!! That's it!! I was called to solve this problem alone, without a single help from my husbant!
She became a crazy old bitch, she wanted the things to go according to her plans, like a spoilt child who wants it all and now!! Apart from that, she had a strong influence on her son, my husbant!! It was very sad, while I was pregnant to have this -ugly in the soul- 70 years old woman, to talk to me very bad in front of other people, many times and my husbant, never even a single time, didn't tell her to SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!! I was his wife, I was pregnant and nobody had the right to
@MultiTata80 Mother-in-laws can be very evil and a cause for many divorce. The problem is some see wives as competition that needs to be beat. They can't let go of the fact that their son is a grown man with a life seperate from their own. It's kind of sick actually.
When I first met my husbant, I wanted him to be my partner in life, to have family together. I was sooo in love with him!! Then, when I got pregnant, his mother got involved in everything!! She wanted to stay with us into the same house, to look after the baby ONLY her, what names we MUST give to the baby, if it is a boy or a girl, what clothes MUST wear the baby, etc!!! When I politely, denied all these creepy things, to get into MY family, my mother in law became seriously, ''monster in law'
about every day i miss my mom, my parents got divorced when i was 1 and I know she loves me but I don't really get to see her that much probably like every other month or something. But its hard even when they got divorced when I was little it still hurts.
Let Me Ask You Something , Example , If you put a 1 dollar coin into the machine and the drinks comes out , so who does the drinks goes to ? the machine or the coin ?
I'm a loving father of 3 kids, I haven't seen them in 4 months.....they are ages 4, 7, 8 the youngest is daddies girl....I want people to know out there that being a dad is the best thing that ever happened to me. I was in the military and deployed often to Iraq and other areas. I was able to be there for all of their births because I volunteered to go at times. You can get charged with domestic violence for anything and your life turns upside down. Women get away with so much...it's unfair.
@BIGNED1976 I agree 100%, women get away with alot. I love my daughter more than anything, and one domestic arguement later and I'm in jail. Almost cost me my military career, my parental rights, and all of my personal belongings. I've hugged and kissed my daughter everyday before work, and now I'm going through a divorce and she took my daughter away from me. From one father to another...god bless you and your children
@hjjbjbjbjb I feel your pain. My first wife knows the attachment I have to our kids and she use that against me. My kids sometimes treat me differently. Women think different. For some reason they justify certain actions just because their emotions are involved. I don't understand them and I never will. The second is just as looney as the first woman. They all get this way after the first couple years. I just hate the kids have to suffer for her emotional weirdness.
@MasterCSX All women aren't unstable crazies..you seem to be attracting that type. We look for mates that resemble our parents. It's human nature to seek out the familiar.
the other day my father told me my life would of been different if my parents wouldn't have split up. Not a day goes by where I wonder what my life could of been like. would i of been happier? stronger? smarter? more social? less angrier? I am pissed off that it happened, i love my parents but the divorce has affected me in ways i dont even understand, and i dont think i ever will. I hate people, i hate letting people get close to me, and i get angry. my diagnosis is the divorce.
men if you look ok fine but if your loaded GREAT!!! Woman love cash. If they get bored of you they get divorced then they take everything. 20% of all children are fathered by a man outside the marriage. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 75% of all divorces are started by women. Get the pussy but do not marry them!!! Surely women have taught you this!!!! pay back time!! PUMP PUSSY AND RUN!! LOL
my parents divorced 3 days ago,but i dont care.its not that im heartless or whatever, its just that it was the best thing to do. no one told me "its gonna be alright" or like i said "its for the best",it was just my thinking and being mature about it i suppose.no matter how much you love your mom or dad, if they dont want to be together anymore and giving eachother hell in the outcome of you telling or begging them not to,thats pretty selfless in my opinoin.Im 12 almost 13 by the way.
@JIZZYcookieMONSTER my parents divorced when i was 2, and tommorow im turning 16.. after 14 years im living the same nightmare, the 2 families hating each other and all.. my father re-married when i was 11, and when i was 12 i found myself with a little sister, mary. right now my father, his wife and my sister are on vacation, and my mother just came back from a business trip to Amsterdam. you know, my parents were always so busy, and as a result i was practically raised by my grandparents
@Johnkarnias in my case,my baby sister and i were practically raised by our mom.i was starting to feel resentment towards my dad after years of hearing neverending fights with my mother that could have even lasted days.i had even resorted to praying for them to stop.but nothing helpled.so the day finally came where all my parents wanted to end,but to my surprise i didnt feel anger,happiness,not even sadness.i even actually said "whatever i dont care." the people who cared were my mom and sister
@JIZZYcookieMONSTER there has been a thing thats been killing me all those years.. when i quarrel with my dad, he says things like, "you are just like your mother, that crazy b**ch!" and after that, in a fight with my mom later-on, she says, "you are an as***hole just like your father!!". THAT'S killing me. i ended up not knowing who i really am, and my anger and hate for them grew and grew stronger. now i just want to become an adult, so i can finally go somewhere they"ll never find me.. :(
@Johnkarnias - I feel so sad and sorry for you. Please know that your parents are emotionally sick individuals and it has nothing to do with you. I encourage you today to give your life to the Lord. He is our Saviour and if you have a very close relationship with our Heavenly Father and the Holy Spirit lives in your heart, you will experience the most amazing peace - peace that is beyond this world. You can give all your sorrows over to the Lord. He is waiting for you to let him in! Good luck!
I want to know what I can do to get them back together the age group things are all correct 100%. My dad is looking for a house I am going to trade back and forth between houses.
All I know for sure is it won't be my parents keeping me from hating myself it will be my friends :'(
@theanimalhouse101 Hey i just read your post and the last sentence grabbed me.., if you want to chat let me know about your situation, i might be able to shed some experience off, given my parents divorced 9 years ago and its been a grande detour...
Hey people, I'm 21 an my Parents got divorced when I was 12. it was a dark deep lonely place for many years and now I am living a bright life.. I'm here to say that Family Breakdown is NOT OK and it doesn;t have to be that way!!
I dicovered a program that my friends parents went to called "the next program" its in Toronto , but they said it was the best thing they ever did in life... anyways thought id share Life is beautiful, You only live once.- 3MBl3M55 *
My parents aren't legally divorced or legally separated. My dad jus up & decided 1 day he was leaving & then a week later told me. It took me weeks to stop being angry at him, to be ok with going to his house. I'm not going to be the kid who blames 1 parent over the other, but it's evident he didn't care much and still doesnt because instead of trying to fix whats wrong in their relationship my dad's waiting for this coming Oct, so he'd be out of the house a yr and they can legally be divorced.
this isnt religious and it certainly isnt BS. Divorce ruinf my life growing up. So much so that I almost killed myself once. Let me ask you something. I do not want to get involved in your life so dont answer me back. But, why is your wife screaming all the time? Why do you feel the need to call her names? Is it her own actions, or are your own actions involved somewhere in the frustration?
Even if she is yelling and screaming and trying to hit you. Let her get of her chest what is weighing her down. Then you take your turn. Talk to each other and try to solve the problems between yourselves. If you have children, for GOD's sake don't yell or argue in front of them. Do it outside when they're in bed. Or when they're at school away from home. But please not in front of them. And what ever your do. Do NOT hit your wife.
My Parents have been divorced for only 1 year. But I'm still feeling the pain. My mom keeps on telling me how I should live with her. But my dad says that when I'll get older I'll get to pick. I don't know who to live with. I love both of them. My dad says that my mom drives him crazy. I cry when my mom tells me who to live with. My mom yells at me but my dad doesn't. I am mostly with my dad during the weekdays. I like my dad more but I want my mom too. I never thought this day would come. Help.
@238Sadness do not let them tare you apart or pick!!!! my parents did that to me and it really screwed me up. tell them that if they love you, they souldn't make you choose who you love more or who you want moor. no one should have to make that kind of choice. you didn't do anything wrong. don't ever believe any different! they are the ones that split up, not you. good luck and i'm so sorry you have to go through this.
I feel sad... That some people are so dumb that they put mean comments when some peoples parents are divorced!!!!! But ya I'm 10 my parents got in the main fight on thanksgiving.. They divorced on thanksgiving... My dad left and I miss him so if you post those ugly comments I will find out where you live and hurt you. But dad if you read this I miss you. A lot so can you like call me sometime if you get the chance..:'(
I don't know about anybody in here, but I DISLIKE both my parents with a passion. I TRULY wish they were divorced years and years ago.
They're VERY unappreciative and there's Too much emotional turmoil involved. There's never any food in my house and if there is, it's garbage. Thank GOD I'm having this Memorial Day Weekend to myself.
im not argueing with u but my parents might get a divorse it is both of their fault but mostly my dads cuz he always takes theese little thing and makes them into a big deal! plz no harsh reply because this realy hurts :''(
@football950 Haha :) I found that someone, too. We were best friends for two years and we dated for five months. I was horrible. I was so awful to her... I miss her so much. I still love her. She taught me how to love again after the divorce made me forget what love was. She made it all better. I love her...I miss her... She was...is...amazing... I hope she finds it in her heart to give me another chance one day...
It is never better for a child to be part of divorce. If there is some extreme circumstance where abuse is present then separation is required but a child will always be better off having two biological parents present. My children don't want the divorce anymore than I do and their feelings or concerns aren't even considered. When a spouse chooses divorce who are they choosing divorce for? Pride, selfishness, bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, and hard heartedness equals divorce
It is never better for a child to be part of divorce. If there is some extremem circumstance where abuse is present then separation is required but a child will always be better off having two biological parents present. My children don't want the divorce anymore than I do and their feelings or concerns aren't even considered. When a spouse chooses divorce who are they choosing divorce for? Pride, selfishness, bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, and hard heartedness equals divorce
I think the main issue in understanding that divorce effects children is that while the decision for divorce may benefit one or both of the parents it does not benefit the child(ren). Children are caught in the middle as the decision is made by the parent(s) while they don't really have a voice in the matter.
First of all divorce affects everyone in the family, second in a lot of cases its better to get divorce so the child wont suffer a lot more with both parents arguing or the mother or father been depress all the time. In many cases depression kills. And third! i know many people that got divorce and got remarried and they are fine in fact my friend is more normal than me and i grow up with both of my parents.
@owensandrea09 have u ever been through a divorce well ive been through two and its not better i blam myself everynight even if i dont have to i would give anything to have a tight family but those are just a fanticy
@boone09660 I've been through two as well. One when I was three and one when I was thirteen. This video was right when it said how each age group would be affected. I'm sixteen now, and my anger, fear of separation or losing someone, being fearful of my own relationships, angry outbursts, etc. ruined the best thing that has ever happened to me... And now it's too late. I dated my best friend of two years for five months and it ended horribly because I was such a damn night mare... I miss Bethany
my parents sat down with me and my brother last night. And told us that they're getting a divorce. It was shocking and i didnt want to believe it. When i woke up today i thought it was all a dream but then i saw my mom packing and then i realized its real. Its going to be hard and im scared.
my parents have just recently been through divorce; im 15years old &blame myself for everthng , i cried myself to sleep th whole time ths was happening and i have twins little sistes (4years) and theyr always askng wher their daddy is ; they dont understand ;i try tel them thd hes gone away for a little while and they start to cry, i carnt even think to imagine what they would do if they found out their daddy isnt coming back at all . i hate it . its too hard :'(
it is normal.... i stopped living with my dad when i was 6 and at that point i said it was ok.... but now i relize i shouldnt of said something to stop it...... cuz now they are divorced and im only 12....
Please!!! I need help my parents told me there getting a divorce 1 hour agp and althought I'm 13 I'm screaming and crying is this normal I'm just so scared!!!
@football950 Yes it is normal to feel all of those emotions. Look to your support systems and find someone who you can talk to. Keep your head up and just remember to talk to someone.
This video makes me cry .my mom and dad got divorced 8/12/8
When my mum told me it was a shocker I begged my mum and dad ,I felt like it was all my fault ,I was crying my eyes out , that year in school kids who got their parents divorced that year had to go to the consulor ,it made me kinda fell better cuz there where so many kids that year(well not so many like 6) just to let u know , I still cry somtimes
She commits adultery and gets the kids and house; he pays for her and the kids and has to live elsewhere. She makes a false abuse allegation and he's cut off from seeing them while she gets a new man. He kills her and people ask why?
My parents aren't divorced yet, they are just living in separate houses. I found out yesterday and I almost cried. I have an little brother in 3rd grade and a sister who hasn't even started preschool yet :'(
I 100% agree that divorce affects kids, you would have to be selfish and ignorant to deny that.
Sometimes divorce is necessary though, and in rare cases it is better for the child. I have heard people say it was a reliefe that their parents divorced.
My parents fight daily but they think it's better to stay together for the kids. My siblings and I have wanted them to divorce for years.
Couples need to try and WORK PROBLEMS OUT, not just for themselves but for the best interest of the children
In my case I wanted my child after returning from Iraq and after my wife had slept with over 20 men and made videos of these encounters that I found. She blew all of our $600,000.00 that I earned during my sacrifice to better my family in Iraq. The courts gave her the home and everything in it forcing me to the street. My son wants to be with me having witnessed this behavior. But I now am homeless on disability and hungry do to amount of child support. My crime, surviving Iraq and coming home.
i don't unsterstand how you can love someone so much that you marry them and have kids with them. Then one day just say i'm done and file a divorce. I'm 13 and my parents got diorced when i was 6 and for a while i had a good relationship with my dad. Then he went to jail for child support. then 2 years later went off with another girl wich he lives with now and had a little boy. He calls me every once in a while. But i miss him soo much and can't go a moment not thinking about him.
@lissat22 I totally understand you. Im 13 too, but my parents divorced when I was 4. It's just the saddest thing on earth (after death xd), my mom was a single mom with me and my brother, then she got a boyfriend, who she got a little girl with, and then seperated about 1-2 years ago. I hate it when my friends who their parents are still married/together, just brag about it. They don't know how sad and depressing it could be. They don't know how much you can cry. They're life is just so perfect.
Im sorry to hear that about your life. I know how you feel. My parents divorced when I was 4. My moms family got involved and turned her against my dad. Plus, my mom was raped as a young woman, so that made things difficult as well. Im 22 now, and I still have massive affects from growing up in a seperated life. Honestly, I still don't know who did what to who. My mom blames my dad, and my dad defends himself with stories. I don't know who is telling the truth.
But let me tell you how I got thru 14 years of divorce. Even though it hurt, I did all I could and used all my will power to stop focusing and reflecting on that part of my past, and more on my present and future. And I was able to get by.
If your parents start talking negatively about each other to or around you, leave the room. Excuse yourself politley and leave. If they ask you where youre going, say whatever you feel is best. But at some time, you will have to let them know you want no part in hearing about their troubled past.
I know I've said a lot, but take heed to what I have said. Divorce is so hard on a child. And still hard on an adult. But your life is yours. Not your parents. Do NOT let them run it.
Last year my wife left me for some asshole guy. It makes no sense at all- I’m a CEO and he’s an office admin douchebag content to earn $60k a year!
At the end of the day if she wants to waste her time with filth, that’s up to her, but I don’t want him infecting my kids with his lazy-ass attitude to life. Already I can see them being less ambitious in school. It’s so unfair & I’m so cut up about it I’m now in counselling- I just don’t know what to do about the situation…
@SuperTruth77 bahahah you are a fucking idiot. You are a fool to money obviously.. You think money buys happyness though you have been proven wrong... Wake up dickhead
@tomkkkkk hey man, you need to shut the fuck up. ok, so the guy was being kind of ignorant taking the piss out of the other guy because he earns less money- but jeez, he's just come out of his marriage. take your head out of your ass and learn how to be more respectful, idiot.
You can't ask a child to choose with wich 1 of their parents it wants to stay. Thats like... the same as asking som1 to pick between hotel california or stairway to heaven :S it's just not fair!
@DoDsaami I agree that parents should make that choice, not the kids. However, I disagree with those who seem to say that parents should lie to their kids by pretending wrong doers did not do wrong. Adultery is a sin that used to be punishable by death, and until a single generation ago meant jail time. It still should be. The most important thing for parents to be with their kids is honest.
this is pathetic. if having divorced parents is your biggest problem in life, then SHUT THE FUCK UP. there are billions of people in the world who don't have enough food to feed their families, so stop being a spoiled little bitch
@EndWesternTyranny Shame on you for calling a child such vile names. Divorce without cause is akin to murder and if adultery is involved, should definitely involve jail time. Mave Christ has mercy on your disobedient soul and lead you back to life.
@RobertMOdell adultery should involve jailtime? are you insane? should jay walking result in jail time too? christ is as real as the easter bunny. you have been brainwashed by a book. christianity is just a slightly more modern version of older religions which are themselves based on the stars
@EndWesternTyranny Your opinion isn't going to help you much when you face God after your death. The Bible is a collection of events over thousands of years all testimonies of the very same creator. Adultery is not only a sin before God, but a crime against spouses and children. Yes, adultery should at the very least involve jail time if not capital punishment. It should certainly not be any less severe than the punishment for child abduction or child abandonment.
@EndWesternTyranny re: "christ is as real as the easter bunny". There is more historic evidence of the life of Jesus Christ than there is evidence of the life of Julius Caesar. And even if there had been no historical documents left, how do you explain the reality of His presence today? How are you going to explain that away?
@RobertMOdell there is no reality of "His" presence today. you are gullible and have been brainwashed by a book written by people who didnt even know what bacteria was, or that the earth was round
@EndWesternTyranny Jesus isn't found in any book. He is a living God whose presence is everywhere. You have only yourself to blame if you have pulled your heart away from your creator and decided to follow a life of sin for your own whimsical pleasures and lusts instead. God already made himself known in your heart when you were young. You should return to Him. He is real and He can save you sin that means to destroy you.
i cried watching this video...i dntt want to seperate from my husband but if i dnt who knows which one of us will see 2012...i wish we didnt have any kids because i would have been left....
my life is fucked up, i do drugs, drink , extremly agressive, not able to love a girl, not good at relations, i am extrmely sensitve, everything anybody says i can suddenly feel like they talk to me even if thats not th case,i lost 100 % al my friends
i just want to bring an end to my life, i really do, the pain i feel is inthinkable, it will never end, it feels like my life is already ruin, i feel so upset because things went like they went, no more for godsake, no more
my life is fucked up, i do drugs, drink , extremly agressive, not able to love a girl, not good at relations, i am extrmely sensitve, everything anybody says i can suddenly feel like they talk to me even if thats not th case,i lost 100 % al my friends
i just want to bring an end to my life, i really do, the pain i feel is inthinkable, it will never end, it feels like my life is already ruin, i feel so upset because things went like they went, no more for godsake, no more
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears.
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears....
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears.
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears.
Sometimes it's better when the man leaves and lets the mother raise her children without him. My children are everything to me, they are nothing to the dad who only needs them for tax credit, yet the court ordered to share the children equally. I never wanted a divorce and many children are caught in the middle and sometimes there is no good solution. I wish my children were with me more, my life is meaningless without them.
@44krysia I am sorry about your ongoing loss. I hope you can begin to find meaning during your week away from your kids. I know your situation well, but from the opposite direction. Peace.
I hate how people always blame the father. Mom can have some blame too, sometimes all the blame. And why should woman get the children? Men can love their children just as much as woman!
And guess what? I'm a girl! I know my father loves me just as much as my mom does.
im not argueing with u but my parents might get a divorse it is both of their fault but mostly my dads cuz he always takes theese little thing and makes them into a big deal! plz no harsh reply because this realy hurts :''(.
@OneAgainstMarriage You really need to go to church. You are so caught up in against marriage. I have seen people getting married and many have been living happily for more than 60 years sometimes 75. You think marriage is so bad then leave those who happily married alone.
Marriage is a LIE and a con job. Always was. You are told marriage "protects you." You are told marriage "protects the kids." Fact: People cheat, beat, rape, and murder each other and their children before, during, and after marriage. Marriage is filthy con job to make money for the churches and keep the lawyers, judges, and divorce courts going.
@OneAgainstMarriage It is not marriage that is the problem, it is the people and their lack of self love and respect. They don't understand that what they put out comes back to them 10 fold. They want good things in their lives, then do mean things to someone else. Then wonder why their lives are so messed up. What one puts out in the world one will recieve back. What do you want more negativitiy, with this negative statement you will get exactly what you are looking for more negativity.
@pigpenthecat Youre right in alot of ways. But im certainly not looking for anything "positive" about marriage. On the contrary im looking to warn as many people as possible about the pitfalls of marriage and ask why anyone would want to get married in the first place. Peoples lives are destroyed thru this vile contract. You can put all the "love" you want into your marriage but if you've married a con artist they'll take you down and OUT and take your money along with them.
whats this song called and by who ?
nishatahm123 6 days ago
I live near to where teenager Scott Turner ran off to his death on a motorway in 2010 after a quarrel with his father (who was divorced from Scott's mother and had recently remarried). Have wondered just how much the Turners' divorce led ultimately to their son's fate. At the inquest the coroner stated that for Scott school had been a sanctuary from home and also that the his death had been distressing not least for Scott himself. WHAT DOES THAT TELL US?
MrBabies123 1 week ago
If parents thought more about the impact of their divorce on their children there would not be so many unhappy youngsters around. To say that parents always have their kids best interests at heart is just a myth. Very often it is the parent who needs disciplining when they make such an infantile mess of their divorce.
MrBabies123 1 week ago
my parents generation honestly are a bunch of spoiled sluts.... i hate my parents for getting divorced.... they are such god awful parents...especially my dad who i see once a year and then they say things like " we only want the best for you"...FUCK YOU assholes! you want to do whatever is easiest. I swear never to put my kids through any of that shit.
wrathofme03 1 week ago
@wrathofme03 Some of these parents ARE spoiled sluts aren't they and also many adults (and adults in general) are very two faced when dealing with their children. And they say that your parents always know what is best for you! Try telling that to some of the youngsters in this world!!! People often go on about disciplining children. How about disciplining some adults out there?
MrBabies123 1 week ago
Mamma just got her fourth divorce :(..
emocoreXsunshine 1 week ago
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tanism1264 2 weeks ago
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foulmarkgreetings 2 weeks ago
The effects are actually worst on the husband, They turn into middle aged teenagers that don't know who they are. =)
ScreaMaskFetish 3 weeks ago
regular divorced families should just suck it up try dealing with military divorce. the kid in the ordinary divorced family he or she gets to see the separated family member maybe every weekend, or once a month or once every other month. a military divorced family goes through much more because the child in the family only gets to see their mom or dad a few times a year due to the active duty parent moving depending on their orders. or they are deployed
sinkbass 3 weeks ago
Any form of divorce is painful.
lovea7xsyn 3 weeks ago
It's not my fault, it's not my fault, it's not my fault, it's not my fault, it's not my fault...... I don't believe those words. Yes it is.
lovea7xsyn 3 weeks ago
Are those facts Canadian?
VinaBaby21 1 month ago
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MenWinningDivorce 1 month ago
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Fyeagass16 1 month ago
Some divorces are necessary and for the best but I think a lot of parents could be more informed about what might happen with their children please take a look at my petition search yellow light on divorce on change.org
kcr2121 1 month ago
Divorce is sad.. but i don't think this song was necessary for this video.
RaquelleZ 3 months ago
Why get married, only to get a divorce. It effects your children more then you realize. And people wonder wy americas kids make bad decisions and are so angry. Why dont parents step back and take a look? Only marry somebody you know will never let you down, or loose interest. Maybe if people did, the world would improve, just a bit. but your childs world, would turn around:).
Jadababada 3 months ago
@Jadababada People change though. Who you are now isn't who you'll be 10 years from now. Divorce is better than a child living in a house with two parents who can't stand each other.
Tocxica 2 months ago
@Tocxica I think people change...but as they're changing they're growing closer together or further apart. I don't know how much change has to do with causing a separation, but if two ppl don't try to know each other anymore...what is keeping them together? The kid? Bc that kid is NOT happy when he sees his two parents not love each other. so sad...
hearts12ish 2 months ago
@Tocxica However, something brought them together in the first place - with commitment and some therapy they can learn to bring it back. The problem is therapy is expensive - but then again - so is divorce - in more ways than one. As long as there is no abuse or illegal activity parents should do everything in their power to stay together for the children.
imabusysinglemom 2 weeks ago
This video is completely true. Me and my younger brother are going through the same thing. we have trouble understanding everything and it effects our lives more than i thought. Sometimes i dont know what to think.
Jadababada 3 months ago
sad video sadly true stuff :(
iSpamSolutions 3 months ago
all those years trying to be a good wife to a man that could so easily throw his child.. the only reason I was still with him... away. Just know kids, that divorce isn't easy for us. For the one leaving, or the one staying.. and sometimes it really is for the best. It hurts... but we know it hurts. Knowing that one day I'll have to explain to my son why I left his father... it brings tears to my eyes even now...
MommyNeva 3 months ago
And I have spent 2 years being married to a man I no longer loved. I have put it on scales.. I was put on medication for deep depression, I lost all self respect and self esteem. I felt like a horrible mother, and a horrible person every single day... but I stayed because I wanted my son to have his father. When I knew it was get out or do something horrible to myself, I got out. I asked his father if he wanted to be a part of his son's life... he said no. Now I wonder why I wasted
MommyNeva 3 months ago
Seeing this breaks my heart... I've had such a hard time making the decision to leave my husband. He cheated on me during my pregnancy, and left with the woman for 6 months without a phone call or an email to me or his 6 month old son. I was stranded with no home, no car, and no family because I was in a completely different state than where my family was. After 6 months he came back, and I tried very hard to forgive and forget... but one affair after another... I am now 21, my son is now 3
MommyNeva 3 months ago
im 13 and ive been in a divorce 3 time the recent one was when i was 11 now my mom and birth dad are trying to gain coustudy over me agian i feel like its all my fault
glyn710 4 months ago
@glyn710 No matter what you say or do it isn't your fault. You may have said some stuff out of anger but you have every right to have your opinions heard.
BurningMountin 1 week ago
my parents are getting a divorce and im crying now why cant they just stay together?:(
jjjjjager98 4 months ago
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My Wife Left Me, Commited Adultery With Some Guy Who Was Throwing It Up In My Face Online, Lied In The Divorce Papers, Became A Witch and Now She Stalks Me Online Now. Shes The WORST Person I Ever Met... And The Biggest Liar I Knew. I Wish Her and Her Coke Snorting Daddy Well. I dont know what her deal Is But I have GREAT Sympathy For Anyone Who Has Suffered Thru A Divorce.
KyngMegz 4 months ago
My Wife Left Me, Commit Adultery With Some Guy Who Was Throwing It Up In My Face Online, Lied In The Divorce Papers, Became A Witch and Now She Stalkes Me Online Now. I dont know what her deal Is But I have GREAT Sympathy For Anyone Who Has Suffered Thru A Divorce. I Found Your Video Very Enlightening. Please Keep Doing What You Do and Be Blessed.
KyngMegz 4 months ago
multiple families of mine have been destroyed because of divorce. and i've been moved 2,000 miles away from home. you made a video, i wrote an article, either way, divorce ruins things.
taylorlueck.hubpages.com/hub/The-Product-of-Divorce
chaselucker 4 months ago
...If their no longer happy its probably their best decsion to make their however long life a joyful one,so dont take what you have for granted and be happy for every moment you have with with your parents together or not and with or without both parents in your life. My parents staying together was one of the worst decsions they made!
ChaynaRea 4 months ago
Can be just as hard if they aren't happy but stay together for the kids. People continue to change all through their life which has a big effect on relationships.
ChaynaRea 4 months ago
my parents got divorced and didn't affect me at all
TripleA900 4 months ago
my parents hav been divorced since i was 2 years old itz been affecting my life greatly......:'(my lifes failed....
steeeeevenlooong 5 months ago
Last night my Mother found out my dad was cheating on my her. I dont know what to feel like, i love both my parents and my Dad may be my step Dad but hes more my Dad then my Blood Dad ever was. He took me in as his own when i was five. Im worried about both of them and what they are going to do.
wowzinger 5 months ago
My parents divorced when I was 11. My dad was an alcoholic and needed help but wouldent get any. My mother couldent take it, and they filed for divorce.
Hes clean now, not a drop of alcohol in over 2 years. But I still hate this.
They never talk to each other, or anything.
I know im lucky to have two biological parents that love me, but I would give anything to see them atleast become friends. I miss seeing them happy with each other...
TheInsaneJaguar 5 months ago
our daughter and he was wanting to stay with us!! We are still together but, unfortunately, I don't feel anything for him.. This love we had at the first times is gone and I am just confused about the future.. Thanx anyone for reading my story, it's been a long time since I have to talk to someone.. Thanx again and sorry for the huge text!
MultiTata80 5 months ago
@MultiTata80 All marriages get like that. The romance and butterflies eventually go away and things get really boring. It happens to every marriage but shouldn't be a reason for divorce. Some people thrive off the chemical feeling of being in love, and when that goes away, they seek a new love affair to experience the rush one more time, even at their children's expense.
BurningMountin 1 week ago
After this my husbant was on her side for months, he was telling me lies that his mother is avery good woman and she loves me!!!! We had fights for a long time because I was realizing that he couldn't stay away of his mother and on the other side, I was trying to keep my family alone, for the second time... So, one day I told him to get divorce, to go and live with his mother and live me in my peace. I was sooo tired, guys!! He started crying, like a child, telling me that he loves me and
MultiTata80 5 months ago
talk to me like that!! Even his mother! She was veeeeeeery offensive, in many ways!! When she was finding the ''right timing'', she was attacking me with rude words and offences!! So, one day, after the birth of my daughter, I was ''in the red'', my nerves were broken and I was just expecting her... when she came to she the baby, I kicked her out of my house, in front of my husbant!! That's it!! I was called to solve this problem alone, without a single help from my husbant!
MultiTata80 5 months ago
She became a crazy old bitch, she wanted the things to go according to her plans, like a spoilt child who wants it all and now!! Apart from that, she had a strong influence on her son, my husbant!! It was very sad, while I was pregnant to have this -ugly in the soul- 70 years old woman, to talk to me very bad in front of other people, many times and my husbant, never even a single time, didn't tell her to SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!! I was his wife, I was pregnant and nobody had the right to
MultiTata80 5 months ago
@MultiTata80 Mother-in-laws can be very evil and a cause for many divorce. The problem is some see wives as competition that needs to be beat. They can't let go of the fact that their son is a grown man with a life seperate from their own. It's kind of sick actually.
BurningMountin 1 week ago
When I first met my husbant, I wanted him to be my partner in life, to have family together. I was sooo in love with him!! Then, when I got pregnant, his mother got involved in everything!! She wanted to stay with us into the same house, to look after the baby ONLY her, what names we MUST give to the baby, if it is a boy or a girl, what clothes MUST wear the baby, etc!!! When I politely, denied all these creepy things, to get into MY family, my mother in law became seriously, ''monster in law'
MultiTata80 5 months ago
about every day i miss my mom, my parents got divorced when i was 1 and I know she loves me but I don't really get to see her that much probably like every other month or something. But its hard even when they got divorced when I was little it still hurts.
AARlover66 5 months ago
Let Me Ask You Something , Example , If you put a 1 dollar coin into the machine and the drinks comes out , so who does the drinks goes to ? the machine or the coin ?
chandarryl 6 months ago
I'm a loving father of 3 kids, I haven't seen them in 4 months.....they are ages 4, 7, 8 the youngest is daddies girl....I want people to know out there that being a dad is the best thing that ever happened to me. I was in the military and deployed often to Iraq and other areas. I was able to be there for all of their births because I volunteered to go at times. You can get charged with domestic violence for anything and your life turns upside down. Women get away with so much...it's unfair.
BIGNED1976 6 months ago
@BIGNED1976 I agree 100%, women get away with alot. I love my daughter more than anything, and one domestic arguement later and I'm in jail. Almost cost me my military career, my parental rights, and all of my personal belongings. I've hugged and kissed my daughter everyday before work, and now I'm going through a divorce and she took my daughter away from me. From one father to another...god bless you and your children
hjjbjbjbjb 5 months ago
@hjjbjbjbjb I feel your pain. My first wife knows the attachment I have to our kids and she use that against me. My kids sometimes treat me differently. Women think different. For some reason they justify certain actions just because their emotions are involved. I don't understand them and I never will. The second is just as looney as the first woman. They all get this way after the first couple years. I just hate the kids have to suffer for her emotional weirdness.
MasterCSX 5 months ago
@MasterCSX All women aren't unstable crazies..you seem to be attracting that type. We look for mates that resemble our parents. It's human nature to seek out the familiar.
BurningMountin 1 week ago
the other day my father told me my life would of been different if my parents wouldn't have split up. Not a day goes by where I wonder what my life could of been like. would i of been happier? stronger? smarter? more social? less angrier? I am pissed off that it happened, i love my parents but the divorce has affected me in ways i dont even understand, and i dont think i ever will. I hate people, i hate letting people get close to me, and i get angry. my diagnosis is the divorce.
L2rsSwc 6 months ago
men if you look ok fine but if your loaded GREAT!!! Woman love cash. If they get bored of you they get divorced then they take everything. 20% of all children are fathered by a man outside the marriage. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 75% of all divorces are started by women. Get the pussy but do not marry them!!! Surely women have taught you this!!!! pay back time!! PUMP PUSSY AND RUN!! LOL
mesmerizeme 6 months ago
my parents divorced 3 days ago,but i dont care.its not that im heartless or whatever, its just that it was the best thing to do. no one told me "its gonna be alright" or like i said "its for the best",it was just my thinking and being mature about it i suppose.no matter how much you love your mom or dad, if they dont want to be together anymore and giving eachother hell in the outcome of you telling or begging them not to,thats pretty selfless in my opinoin.Im 12 almost 13 by the way.
JIZZYcookieMONSTER 6 months ago
@JIZZYcookieMONSTER my parents divorced when i was 2, and tommorow im turning 16.. after 14 years im living the same nightmare, the 2 families hating each other and all.. my father re-married when i was 11, and when i was 12 i found myself with a little sister, mary. right now my father, his wife and my sister are on vacation, and my mother just came back from a business trip to Amsterdam. you know, my parents were always so busy, and as a result i was practically raised by my grandparents
Johnkarnias 6 months ago
@Johnkarnias in my case,my baby sister and i were practically raised by our mom.i was starting to feel resentment towards my dad after years of hearing neverending fights with my mother that could have even lasted days.i had even resorted to praying for them to stop.but nothing helpled.so the day finally came where all my parents wanted to end,but to my surprise i didnt feel anger,happiness,not even sadness.i even actually said "whatever i dont care." the people who cared were my mom and sister
JIZZYcookieMONSTER 6 months ago
@JIZZYcookieMONSTER there has been a thing thats been killing me all those years.. when i quarrel with my dad, he says things like, "you are just like your mother, that crazy b**ch!" and after that, in a fight with my mom later-on, she says, "you are an as***hole just like your father!!". THAT'S killing me. i ended up not knowing who i really am, and my anger and hate for them grew and grew stronger. now i just want to become an adult, so i can finally go somewhere they"ll never find me.. :(
Johnkarnias 6 months ago
@Johnkarnias - I feel so sad and sorry for you. Please know that your parents are emotionally sick individuals and it has nothing to do with you. I encourage you today to give your life to the Lord. He is our Saviour and if you have a very close relationship with our Heavenly Father and the Holy Spirit lives in your heart, you will experience the most amazing peace - peace that is beyond this world. You can give all your sorrows over to the Lord. He is waiting for you to let him in! Good luck!
kobuslouw1970 5 months ago
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3:04 I'm living proof :(
MrsAlexGoot 6 months ago
I am going through something like this
My parents told me today I feel a little sick
I want to know what I can do to get them back together the age group things are all correct 100%. My dad is looking for a house I am going to trade back and forth between houses.
All I know for sure is it won't be my parents keeping me from hating myself it will be my friends :'(
theanimalhouse101 7 months ago
@theanimalhouse101 Hey i just read your post and the last sentence grabbed me.., if you want to chat let me know about your situation, i might be able to shed some experience off, given my parents divorced 9 years ago and its been a grande detour...
Cheers- 3MBl3M55
3MBl3M55 6 months ago
1:15 thats me alright
thesimpsons1614 7 months ago
Hey people, I'm 21 an my Parents got divorced when I was 12. it was a dark deep lonely place for many years and now I am living a bright life.. I'm here to say that Family Breakdown is NOT OK and it doesn;t have to be that way!!
I dicovered a program that my friends parents went to called "the next program" its in Toronto , but they said it was the best thing they ever did in life... anyways thought id share Life is beautiful, You only live once.- 3MBl3M55 *
3MBl3M55 7 months ago
It should be MANDATORY for couples who plan to marry to watch videos like this.
Spadadiforza 7 months ago
my parents r divorced and now i cry every time i see Family Portriat
and i now always have my guard up. i dont let my gaurd down so i never get hurt again
loner314 7 months ago
My parents aren't legally divorced or legally separated. My dad jus up & decided 1 day he was leaving & then a week later told me. It took me weeks to stop being angry at him, to be ok with going to his house. I'm not going to be the kid who blames 1 parent over the other, but it's evident he didn't care much and still doesnt because instead of trying to fix whats wrong in their relationship my dad's waiting for this coming Oct, so he'd be out of the house a yr and they can legally be divorced.
alleyw95 7 months ago
When i watched this video just looking at the families being me cry. I couldnt even watch the full video i was crying so hard.
Shawty0105 7 months ago
Looks and sounds like more feminist, religious BS. Marriage has been the worst thing in my life. My wife is a screaming, demanding little B.
parkesme 8 months ago
@parkesme
this isnt religious and it certainly isnt BS. Divorce ruinf my life growing up. So much so that I almost killed myself once. Let me ask you something. I do not want to get involved in your life so dont answer me back. But, why is your wife screaming all the time? Why do you feel the need to call her names? Is it her own actions, or are your own actions involved somewhere in the frustration?
Talk to her, let her spill the beans.
JustinBlottin 7 months ago
@parkesme
Even if she is yelling and screaming and trying to hit you. Let her get of her chest what is weighing her down. Then you take your turn. Talk to each other and try to solve the problems between yourselves. If you have children, for GOD's sake don't yell or argue in front of them. Do it outside when they're in bed. Or when they're at school away from home. But please not in front of them. And what ever your do. Do NOT hit your wife.
Remeber, for better or worse. And beyond that to.
JustinBlottin 7 months ago
My Parents have been divorced for only 1 year. But I'm still feeling the pain. My mom keeps on telling me how I should live with her. But my dad says that when I'll get older I'll get to pick. I don't know who to live with. I love both of them. My dad says that my mom drives him crazy. I cry when my mom tells me who to live with. My mom yells at me but my dad doesn't. I am mostly with my dad during the weekdays. I like my dad more but I want my mom too. I never thought this day would come. Help.
238Sadness 8 months ago
@238Sadness do not let them tare you apart or pick!!!! my parents did that to me and it really screwed me up. tell them that if they love you, they souldn't make you choose who you love more or who you want moor. no one should have to make that kind of choice. you didn't do anything wrong. don't ever believe any different! they are the ones that split up, not you. good luck and i'm so sorry you have to go through this.
undecided2919 7 months ago
I feel sad... That some people are so dumb that they put mean comments when some peoples parents are divorced!!!!! But ya I'm 10 my parents got in the main fight on thanksgiving.. They divorced on thanksgiving... My dad left and I miss him so if you post those ugly comments I will find out where you live and hurt you. But dad if you read this I miss you. A lot so can you like call me sometime if you get the chance..:'(
shannonmaggie1 8 months ago
I don't know about anybody in here, but I DISLIKE both my parents with a passion. I TRULY wish they were divorced years and years ago.
They're VERY unappreciative and there's Too much emotional turmoil involved. There's never any food in my house and if there is, it's garbage. Thank GOD I'm having this Memorial Day Weekend to myself.
FashionRawkz 8 months ago
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FashionRawkz 8 months ago
You suck at spelling. Good video though.
smilebig34 9 months ago
I hate divorce my parents r and this Is like great depression all over again. No love no family no happiness :(
shannonmaggie1 9 months ago
@Emusmithy .,,, I felt the same when I saw the video
nightshadow7451 9 months ago
im not argueing with u but my parents might get a divorse it is both of their fault but mostly my dads cuz he always takes theese little thing and makes them into a big deal! plz no harsh reply because this realy hurts :''(
DaBeanable 9 months ago
my dad, told me mommy doesnt love me anymore.
when i was 4.
im 13 now and i called her along time ago told her i loved her and i want to see her.
she didnt say anything and i never got to see her.
she's been married 3 other times now.
i think about her alot..and wish she actually cared.
And now im scared of falling in love when im older.
im scared of divorce.
hardcorefunny 9 months ago
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hardcorefunny 9 months ago
While watching this I started crying. I think my parents are going to get a divorce and I dint want to end up like that
EmuSmithy 9 months ago
Bethany, I'm so sorry. I hope you understand now... I love you, sweetie.
Alphastyx7 9 months ago
@andea1688 ty so much i found someone and now we just talk all day :) and i feel much better about it :)))))))
football950 10 months ago
@football950 Haha :) I found that someone, too. We were best friends for two years and we dated for five months. I was horrible. I was so awful to her... I miss her so much. I still love her. She taught me how to love again after the divorce made me forget what love was. She made it all better. I love her...I miss her... She was...is...amazing... I hope she finds it in her heart to give me another chance one day...
Alphastyx7 9 months ago
I'm 12 years old.
Five minutes ago, my
Daddi walked out of this house.
My mom said she didn't love him.
And though he left with tears, he promised
He would call my brother and I everyday.
I will miss my family.
I can't stop crying though...
My new life awaits....
Amairani2561 10 months ago
It is never better for a child to be part of divorce. If there is some extreme circumstance where abuse is present then separation is required but a child will always be better off having two biological parents present. My children don't want the divorce anymore than I do and their feelings or concerns aren't even considered. When a spouse chooses divorce who are they choosing divorce for? Pride, selfishness, bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, and hard heartedness equals divorce
supersportrsz28 10 months ago
It is never better for a child to be part of divorce. If there is some extremem circumstance where abuse is present then separation is required but a child will always be better off having two biological parents present. My children don't want the divorce anymore than I do and their feelings or concerns aren't even considered. When a spouse chooses divorce who are they choosing divorce for? Pride, selfishness, bitterness, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, and hard heartedness equals divorce
supersportrsz28 10 months ago
I think the main issue in understanding that divorce effects children is that while the decision for divorce may benefit one or both of the parents it does not benefit the child(ren). Children are caught in the middle as the decision is made by the parent(s) while they don't really have a voice in the matter.
SlimTimber 10 months ago
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Starcraft2Rogue 10 months ago
First of all divorce affects everyone in the family, second in a lot of cases its better to get divorce so the child wont suffer a lot more with both parents arguing or the mother or father been depress all the time. In many cases depression kills. And third! i know many people that got divorce and got remarried and they are fine in fact my friend is more normal than me and i grow up with both of my parents.
owensandrea09 10 months ago
@owensandrea09 have u ever been through a divorce well ive been through two and its not better i blam myself everynight even if i dont have to i would give anything to have a tight family but those are just a fanticy
boone09660 10 months ago
@boone09660 I've been through two as well. One when I was three and one when I was thirteen. This video was right when it said how each age group would be affected. I'm sixteen now, and my anger, fear of separation or losing someone, being fearful of my own relationships, angry outbursts, etc. ruined the best thing that has ever happened to me... And now it's too late. I dated my best friend of two years for five months and it ended horribly because I was such a damn night mare... I miss Bethany
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WanaBeUnderstood 10 months ago
my parents sat down with me and my brother last night. And told us that they're getting a divorce. It was shocking and i didnt want to believe it. When i woke up today i thought it was all a dream but then i saw my mom packing and then i realized its real. Its going to be hard and im scared.
The775 10 months ago
my parents have just recently been through divorce; im 15years old &blame myself for everthng , i cried myself to sleep th whole time ths was happening and i have twins little sistes (4years) and theyr always askng wher their daddy is ; they dont understand ;i try tel them thd hes gone away for a little while and they start to cry, i carnt even think to imagine what they would do if they found out their daddy isnt coming back at all . i hate it . its too hard :'(
mstubby100 10 months ago
it is normal.... i stopped living with my dad when i was 6 and at that point i said it was ok.... but now i relize i shouldnt of said something to stop it...... cuz now they are divorced and im only 12....
lissat22 10 months ago
Please!!! I need help my parents told me there getting a divorce 1 hour agp and althought I'm 13 I'm screaming and crying is this normal I'm just so scared!!!
football950 11 months ago
@football950 Yes it is normal to feel all of those emotions. Look to your support systems and find someone who you can talk to. Keep your head up and just remember to talk to someone.
andea1688 10 months ago
You know what is sad, that almost everyone thinks that if there is no money, there is no love.
1AngelSolo 11 months ago
This video makes me cry .my mom and dad got divorced 8/12/8
When my mum told me it was a shocker I begged my mum and dad ,I felt like it was all my fault ,I was crying my eyes out , that year in school kids who got their parents divorced that year had to go to the consulor ,it made me kinda fell better cuz there where so many kids that year(well not so many like 6) just to let u know , I still cry somtimes
stfuxmrsdavidhenrey 11 months ago
This is why husbands kill their ex-wives
She commits adultery and gets the kids and house; he pays for her and the kids and has to live elsewhere. She makes a false abuse allegation and he's cut off from seeing them while she gets a new man. He kills her and people ask why?
edd77 11 months ago
My parents aren't divorced yet, they are just living in separate houses. I found out yesterday and I almost cried. I have an little brother in 3rd grade and a sister who hasn't even started preschool yet :'(
dimentioluigi123 11 months ago
my parents are divorced every other weekend i get to see my dad
ultimate5gamer 11 months ago
I 100% agree that divorce affects kids, you would have to be selfish and ignorant to deny that.
Sometimes divorce is necessary though, and in rare cases it is better for the child. I have heard people say it was a reliefe that their parents divorced.
My parents fight daily but they think it's better to stay together for the kids. My siblings and I have wanted them to divorce for years.
Couples need to try and WORK PROBLEMS OUT, not just for themselves but for the best interest of the children
jow781 11 months ago
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In my case I wanted my child after returning from Iraq and after my wife had slept with over 20 men and made videos of these encounters that I found. She blew all of our $600,000.00 that I earned during my sacrifice to better my family in Iraq. The courts gave her the home and everything in it forcing me to the street. My son wants to be with me having witnessed this behavior. But I now am homeless on disability and hungry do to amount of child support. My crime, surviving Iraq and coming home.
militaryvetandfather 1 year ago
i don't unsterstand how you can love someone so much that you marry them and have kids with them. Then one day just say i'm done and file a divorce. I'm 13 and my parents got diorced when i was 6 and for a while i had a good relationship with my dad. Then he went to jail for child support. then 2 years later went off with another girl wich he lives with now and had a little boy. He calls me every once in a while. But i miss him soo much and can't go a moment not thinking about him.
lissat22 1 year ago 22
@lissat22 sorry to hear that...by the way why is it that your profile says you r 35 years old ???
leon1st 11 months ago
@lissat22 I totally understand you. Im 13 too, but my parents divorced when I was 4. It's just the saddest thing on earth (after death xd), my mom was a single mom with me and my brother, then she got a boyfriend, who she got a little girl with, and then seperated about 1-2 years ago. I hate it when my friends who their parents are still married/together, just brag about it. They don't know how sad and depressing it could be. They don't know how much you can cry. They're life is just so perfect.
NaomiIsSoAwesome98 10 months ago
@lissat22
Im sorry to hear that about your life. I know how you feel. My parents divorced when I was 4. My moms family got involved and turned her against my dad. Plus, my mom was raped as a young woman, so that made things difficult as well. Im 22 now, and I still have massive affects from growing up in a seperated life. Honestly, I still don't know who did what to who. My mom blames my dad, and my dad defends himself with stories. I don't know who is telling the truth.
JustinBlottin 7 months ago
@lissat22
But let me tell you how I got thru 14 years of divorce. Even though it hurt, I did all I could and used all my will power to stop focusing and reflecting on that part of my past, and more on my present and future. And I was able to get by.
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@lissat22
If your parents start talking negatively about each other to or around you, leave the room. Excuse yourself politley and leave. If they ask you where youre going, say whatever you feel is best. But at some time, you will have to let them know you want no part in hearing about their troubled past.
I know I've said a lot, but take heed to what I have said. Divorce is so hard on a child. And still hard on an adult. But your life is yours. Not your parents. Do NOT let them run it.
JustinBlottin 7 months ago
Last year my wife left me for some asshole guy. It makes no sense at all- I’m a CEO and he’s an office admin douchebag content to earn $60k a year!
At the end of the day if she wants to waste her time with filth, that’s up to her, but I don’t want him infecting my kids with his lazy-ass attitude to life. Already I can see them being less ambitious in school. It’s so unfair & I’m so cut up about it I’m now in counselling- I just don’t know what to do about the situation…
SuperTruth77 1 year ago
@SuperTruth77 bahahah you are a fucking idiot. You are a fool to money obviously.. You think money buys happyness though you have been proven wrong... Wake up dickhead
tomkkkkk 11 months ago
@tomkkkkk hey man, you need to shut the fuck up. ok, so the guy was being kind of ignorant taking the piss out of the other guy because he earns less money- but jeez, he's just come out of his marriage. take your head out of your ass and learn how to be more respectful, idiot.
4StringMuthaPlucker 11 months ago
You can't ask a child to choose with wich 1 of their parents it wants to stay. Thats like... the same as asking som1 to pick between hotel california or stairway to heaven :S it's just not fair!
DoDsaami 1 year ago
@DoDsaami I agree that parents should make that choice, not the kids. However, I disagree with those who seem to say that parents should lie to their kids by pretending wrong doers did not do wrong. Adultery is a sin that used to be punishable by death, and until a single generation ago meant jail time. It still should be. The most important thing for parents to be with their kids is honest.
RobertMOdell 1 year ago
this is pathetic. if having divorced parents is your biggest problem in life, then SHUT THE FUCK UP. there are billions of people in the world who don't have enough food to feed their families, so stop being a spoiled little bitch
EndWesternTyranny 1 year ago
@EndWesternTyranny Shame on you for calling a child such vile names. Divorce without cause is akin to murder and if adultery is involved, should definitely involve jail time. Mave Christ has mercy on your disobedient soul and lead you back to life.
RobertMOdell 1 year ago
@RobertMOdell adultery should involve jailtime? are you insane? should jay walking result in jail time too? christ is as real as the easter bunny. you have been brainwashed by a book. christianity is just a slightly more modern version of older religions which are themselves based on the stars
EndWesternTyranny 1 year ago
@EndWesternTyranny Your opinion isn't going to help you much when you face God after your death. The Bible is a collection of events over thousands of years all testimonies of the very same creator. Adultery is not only a sin before God, but a crime against spouses and children. Yes, adultery should at the very least involve jail time if not capital punishment. It should certainly not be any less severe than the punishment for child abduction or child abandonment.
RobertMOdell 1 year ago
@EndWesternTyranny re: "christ is as real as the easter bunny". There is more historic evidence of the life of Jesus Christ than there is evidence of the life of Julius Caesar. And even if there had been no historical documents left, how do you explain the reality of His presence today? How are you going to explain that away?
RobertMOdell 1 year ago
@RobertMOdell there is no reality of "His" presence today. you are gullible and have been brainwashed by a book written by people who didnt even know what bacteria was, or that the earth was round
EndWesternTyranny 1 year ago
@EndWesternTyranny Jesus isn't found in any book. He is a living God whose presence is everywhere. You have only yourself to blame if you have pulled your heart away from your creator and decided to follow a life of sin for your own whimsical pleasures and lusts instead. God already made himself known in your heart when you were young. You should return to Him. He is real and He can save you sin that means to destroy you.
RobertMOdell 1 year ago
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@RobertMOdell keep telling yourself that
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andrew49848 1 year ago
i cried watching this video...i dntt want to seperate from my husband but if i dnt who knows which one of us will see 2012...i wish we didnt have any kids because i would have been left....
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andrew49848 1 year ago
i am 23,a `young men`
my life is fucked up, i do drugs, drink , extremly agressive, not able to love a girl, not good at relations, i am extrmely sensitve, everything anybody says i can suddenly feel like they talk to me even if thats not th case,i lost 100 % al my friends
i just want to bring an end to my life, i really do, the pain i feel is inthinkable, it will never end, it feels like my life is already ruin, i feel so upset because things went like they went, no more for godsake, no more
mijnshit 1 year ago
i am 23,a `young men`
my life is fucked up, i do drugs, drink , extremly agressive, not able to love a girl, not good at relations, i am extrmely sensitve, everything anybody says i can suddenly feel like they talk to me even if thats not th case,i lost 100 % al my friends
i just want to bring an end to my life, i really do, the pain i feel is inthinkable, it will never end, it feels like my life is already ruin, i feel so upset because things went like they went, no more for godsake, no more
mijnshit 1 year ago
i am a 23 old,`young men`
but i drink, do drugs, no gf (bad at maintaining relations)
scared , no confidence (but i can hide it good)
lost 100 % of my friends , ( i was very popular)
exrtemly agressive (hurts me because i say stupid things when i am angy)
no controle over my life and ctions anymore
i gets angry in 2 sec (i have extremly long toes)
lost my compassion
sometimes i just want to end my life because the pain i feel is unthinkable, it will never end, it ent like it went (tear)
mijnshit 1 year ago
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im 23 , a `young men`
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears
mijnshit 1 year ago
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im 23 , a `young men`
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears.
mijnshit 1 year ago
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im 23 , a `young men`
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears....
mijnshit 1 year ago
im 23 , a `young men`
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears.
mijnshit 1 year ago
im 23 , a `young men`
i drink, do drugs, no gf (i am verry bad at maintaining realitonships)
scared, no confidence (but i can hide it good)
not many friends anymore, extremly agressive (hurts me, because i say some hard things when i am angry)
i get angry in a sec.
it looks like i lost my compassion,
i lost also my LIFE
sometimes i really want to end my life because i have so much pain man, its unthinkable, i feel so upset because things went like they went, even now i have tears.
mijnshit 1 year ago
When its nessassry it has to be done. Abuse should never be tolorated.
genagin 1 year ago
Sometimes it's better when the man leaves and lets the mother raise her children without him. My children are everything to me, they are nothing to the dad who only needs them for tax credit, yet the court ordered to share the children equally. I never wanted a divorce and many children are caught in the middle and sometimes there is no good solution. I wish my children were with me more, my life is meaningless without them.
44krysia 1 year ago
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andrew49848 1 year ago
@44krysia I am sorry about your ongoing loss. I hope you can begin to find meaning during your week away from your kids. I know your situation well, but from the opposite direction. Peace.
RobertMOdell 1 year ago
@44krysia
I hate how people always blame the father. Mom can have some blame too, sometimes all the blame. And why should woman get the children? Men can love their children just as much as woman!
And guess what? I'm a girl! I know my father loves me just as much as my mom does.
Jerricax0x0 11 months ago 39
im not argueing with u but my parents might get a divorse it is both of their fault but mostly my dads cuz he always takes theese little thing and makes them into a big deal! plz no harsh reply because this realy hurts :''(.
DaBeanable 9 months ago
@Jerricax0x0
yes im a dad going thure this and hate every mim of it.
thank you
pangoe 7 months ago
@Jerricax0x0 You can't blame a person who hardly see's his children due to an irrational ex wife.
CpsLock3 7 months ago
@Jerricax0x0 well my dad cheated on my mom so...
Creamsodagirl11 6 months ago
@Creamsodagirl11 That is one failed relationship out of millions, it doesn't prove anything.
jayc342009 5 months ago
@Jerricax0x0 ...Thank you for acknowledging that ...What you said may not be popular in our culture...but it is altogether true !
katzndogs1 4 months ago
@Jerricax0x0 my mom can never find the "right" man so that efects me 3 divorce suck and now i never will be able to warm up to the man she marrys
glyn710 3 months ago
A Married man is not always a good man
Leekduck 1 year ago
my mom stormed out of the house last night saying shes going to spend her vacation finding somewhere else to live
mkkhayter101 1 year ago
3:05 is true..im 14 and i have a boyfriend that i love alot.. but i dont want to fall in-love with him just incase he..breaks my heart
avifan2 1 year ago
divorce realy sucks .
mstubby100 1 year ago
the worst part..... when they ask you who would you go with.
xXPTRAYXx 1 year ago
3:04 explains everything.
BLyons8888 1 year ago
@OneAgainstMarriage You really need to go to church. You are so caught up in against marriage. I have seen people getting married and many have been living happily for more than 60 years sometimes 75. You think marriage is so bad then leave those who happily married alone.
Kyle95USA 1 year ago
Fml
RyanKeefe21 1 year ago
Marriage is a LIE and a con job. Always was. You are told marriage "protects you." You are told marriage "protects the kids." Fact: People cheat, beat, rape, and murder each other and their children before, during, and after marriage. Marriage is filthy con job to make money for the churches and keep the lawyers, judges, and divorce courts going.
OneAgainstMarriage 1 year ago
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pigpenthecat 1 year ago
@OneAgainstMarriage It is not marriage that is the problem, it is the people and their lack of self love and respect. They don't understand that what they put out comes back to them 10 fold. They want good things in their lives, then do mean things to someone else. Then wonder why their lives are so messed up. What one puts out in the world one will recieve back. What do you want more negativitiy, with this negative statement you will get exactly what you are looking for more negativity.
pigpenthecat 1 year ago
@pigpenthecat Youre right in alot of ways. But im certainly not looking for anything "positive" about marriage. On the contrary im looking to warn as many people as possible about the pitfalls of marriage and ask why anyone would want to get married in the first place. Peoples lives are destroyed thru this vile contract. You can put all the "love" you want into your marriage but if you've married a con artist they'll take you down and OUT and take your money along with them.
OneAgainstMarriage 1 year ago