Dr. Cheryl: How Men And Women Communicate

[newton2day]

gr8!!!!! true

[skudaarkaat1]

The only way to keep a woman happy is to agree with her on anything and everything and give her her way all the time. No wonder there are so many male fags in the world!

[VindictiveVigilante]

shutup lady you dont get laid.

[lolohia6565]

YOU FUCKING FAGGOT!!!!! and bitch this is a waste of time

[lolohia6565]

@lolohia6565 so true

[lolohia6565]

@lolohia6565 stop telling us how to live in marriage

[Shorty15c4007]

Xbox Kinect? xD

[itubeyoublah]

women talk to connect - men could care less; men have sex to connect - women, who knows? so if you want husband to listen, tell him you'll connect his way after your blabbing

[blackmichael75]

oversimplified generalised stereotypical roles= bullshit. 

[Moosixman]

A woman as a psychologist, what a fucking disaster!

[Shaghayegh11]

@Moosixman a man who's sexist what a fucking common disaster

[Iyoossaev]

@Shaghayegh11 People trolling on YT, what a fucking disaster!

[kbarry87]

So, women speak just to speak.

Men speak in order to find a solution.

Which one makes more sense? I'll let all of you be the judge.

[pricelesspam]

@kbarry87 They dont just talk to speak.They use speach to feel connected and close to their spouse.

[kbarry87]

@pricelesspam speech*

[GeeWhizWhat]

Here is another woman telling guys to shut up -- literally (3:29). The arrogance of it! When he starts to communicate feelings and becomes "sensitive," then he is a wuss; however, when she berates and talks a man to death with aimless, disjointed thoughts and gossip without ever getting a grip on herself, men are supposed to just take it lying down. This does not work. When both listen actively with humility and compassion, then we may begin to enjoy each other's company, not until then.

[1337DementedOne]

shut up and keep saying "mhmm"? sry, when women talk about nothing, i can't do that. "BLOW IT OUT YOUR ASS" comes to mind first

[Typhoon792]

I never thought that was possible. I never understood this whole issue. Deep within my heart I sit there listening and trying to think of everything possible to help and it always ended bad. I'm sorry but that's just dumb. I'm transferring the emotions to myself and trying to deal with them and the metaphorical she thinks I don't care about here emotions. I don't know if I'll be able to obtain the capacity and sit there with a phony face and say "mhmm mhmm". That doesn't come off as ignorant?..

[bucko60]

women should start thinking logically and quit thinking with their emotions. or when i hear, "do you know what cindy said to me at work today? that bitch....blah blah" how about, "who gives a shit? deal with it."

[XxTheMadamXx]

Men don't want an outcome and fix a problem when a woman talks to him! He just says "You'll be okay." Is simply saying, I'm just saying this so you don't bother me again about your problems.

[gorgeouslinda]

With my husband it's hard to communicate.

[lolohia6565]

@gorgeouslinda thats because your not gorgeous linda your just linda

[rosskay]

uhh, I guess that makes me a masculine thinker and communicator? : /

[fayeeminfee]

This video is interesting, but also a little disturbing. Men and women communicate differently, but one of my biggest pet peeves is when one refers to it as "universal". It is not universal. The studies conducted for this video took place in the United States, and American's (male or female) communicate differently from other cultures. Communication styles and patterns are not universal, they never will be either.

[sam5757]

Where did you get that information to make that judgement?

[rosskay]

Thats true, I find women from eastern europe to be more " masculine" in ways of communicating than I do in america and western europe. Communication styles are learned not innate

[EuroInvicta]

Hey, that's interesting because I'm Bulgarian-American, and I've always thought the same thing about myself. It's hard for me to relate to other American women and I think this has something to do with it....

[rosskay]

thats cool, my parents are from the former yugoslavia. the truth about good relationships has less to do with how to learn how to fight and communicate better. its a lot simpler :around 80 percent of successful relationships comes from EMT (emotionally focused therapy) and couples that know how to navigate each other emotionally. I highly reccomend the book " hold me tight" by sue johnson for some insight on research of what love really is, and why we evolved to need it.

[rosskay]

nice belly dancing btw! can you teach me? :)

[luckyvet]

Absolutely!!!

Westerners (in general) have been indoctrinated by media & political systems.

This study is far from Universal.

[lindseyjunebug]

i disagree, i think women in America at heart are more masculine then they pretend to be around other people. personally and most of my friends are the same way.. when we talk about problems we search for solutions too! i think there are times when both men and women just want to talk about things and other times when we just want to solve things..

[OCJoker2009]

Very relavant indeed and true. When you and your girls try to solve problems, you do it for the soul purpose of security, I garentee it, when we go out to search for a reason or solve a problem, we want to gain something from it, we LOVE to know where we stand. We don't need a solution so do speak, rather then just being reasured of the future. Women are good fighers emotionally, without a doubt. The movie was more of American point of view true. I"m more feminine in the social aspect I admit.

[cambam117]

@fayeeminfee maybe this was intended for americans

[ProtoCosmos]

So in other words, when women are talking,be as mindlessly sympathetic and vapid as possible. That's like saying; "I want to have a conversation with you, but please withhold your opinions or points of view because I basically just want to express myself while you listen avidly and nod in agreement until I'm satisfied with the sound of my own voice.

Gee,what fun.

[videomaster2210]

Women talk to make sense of it better? If you have a problem, dont you wanna fix it? That doesnt make sense. Why emphasize on a problem? Just find the solution. You may understand the problem more, but its solving..... So we are more realistic and women more Imaginative? Its like having a math class, you know how to do everything but you dont do it and fail the class. You may Ace the tests but you failed the class.

[RequiemxLilitu]

then by this logic i am the guy and my boyfriend is the girl.. -_-'

[cavemanmanman]

This is not good advice in my experience. First I am told to shut up, then I should let my spouse tell me how to do things that I can do myself and would rather do myself???!?

Better advice is for men to listen more, and women to be more adventurous.

[Keiji555]

@cavemanmanman Nah... that would be worst advice, as it seems like the men need to do more work in this fashion than women...

[YiuTeub]

I can say ya ah ha that sounds tough like she teaches in the video. And all I hear is your not listening. Doing the ah ya that sounds tough thing implies I understand what the hell shes saying. Then if she actually wants an opinion im screwed.

[LliasiAsbi]

This video is absolutely correct

The problem with this is that since we all have a sex, we all have an innate bias. Men thinking women are silly for the way they communicate, and women thinking men are base for the way they communicate. Everyone needs to keep in mind the differences between the genders does not mean one is inferior to the other. Men really do try, and we often are not patient enough, since our verbal skills are better developed. Learning how to communicate is a compromise.

[kbarry87]

lol, did you really just say women have better verbal skills.

wow, you're actually completely lost. =(

[thebertness]

only problem with being like " uhhuh yea mmhmm that sounds tough" is that they might think you dont care and your just saying that as a response

[aritheeagle]

As the doctor says...."....its not universally true....."

[salsaybaile]

Good advise and an eye opener for me

[SolitudeDemise]

it is mentioned

[likinapita]

it should probably be mentioned that this isn't true for all men and women!