i hope this lady never has a child with asperges syndrome i mean i have autism and well i've had a few melt downs but mainly because a lot of mine is due to huge amounts of stress and pains inside my body from the way i grew up. i grew up getting my whole body broken and destroyed every single day by some stupid gang of kids. when i turned 18 my doctor told me due to the damage my ribs will never heal properly and my life span has been knocked down by about 20 - 30 years.
@Gaslydeath however since then they've left me alone, as i had enough with them and one of these "Meltdowns" ended up with me losing control while they were attacking me, i broke one guys wrist, knocked out another guy and the leader of the group i tied to a lamp post with my belt. then when i had figured out what i had done i rung up the police to hand myself in. they didn't take me however as it was an act of self defence. what i know now is 2 of those guys are in jail
@Gaslydeath I'm 11 and I have aspergers, people don't try attacking me all the time, but sorry about your childhood :( I know how you feel, I have problems with some people, when I was 9 some fucking 17 year old prick came and punched me in the shoulder 4 times, and when I was 7 some mad idiot broke my left arm, now my left arm is weak thanks to those punks >:(
@SaintsBro217 yeah well i always think bad things happen to good people because our government is waay to gentle on the way they deal with bad things. i mean i like in the UK and mr cameron needs to make jail time harder so people don't want to go back rather than give them what they want when they want.. i think the crime in this country is a disgrace
since we use that word as a excuse, how come women can't accept that we are who we are and nothing can change that except for the yelling, we can change that habit. but seriously normal women think we can't be lovable people and we can. i think they need to improve their behavior towards us. god made us for who we are and it's a good thing he did. he did it so others can learn that people can be socially cool and fun to hang with.
@XQUISITEMUSICIAN88 asperges isn't pronounced assburgers here.. where i live is just pronounced as asperges no burger involved.. so far i've only heard americans call it assburgers, so erm yeah don't try forcing others to say it your way.
@XQUISITEMUSICIAN88 she' British, I'm British as well , in Britain we say things differently, do you know anything about other countries? Fuck you asshole >:(
@SaintsBro217 As I said to Gaslydeath... I do apologize for who made that comment. It was not me, I leave my account logged in on my computer. I have deleted the remark.
I will not tell people of my Aspergers when i meet them. I wait until we get to know each other greatly. i feel my personality traits are as much a part of me as my appearance. I was liked for who i was before being diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome and continue to be now. i will not burden people with information of Aspergers,i feel its not a prevision of being friends. some people will like you others will not. Thank you for your time.
I also usually tell people that I can't always tell if something I am saying or doing bothers them somehow, so I ask them to point out any inappropriate behavior I may exhibit so that I won't do it in the future.
@keller654321 lol I can relate to "saying or doing something bothers them somehow" I've on numerous occasions been talking about something and then randomly the other person randomly explodes in rage :S. I don't see why they don't just say something before they get that mad. I didn't even know why they are mad even after it's very obvious I've upset them in some way. people are just crazy and take things too seriously and so easily succumb to there anger and emotions
I don't use it as an excuse but I do usually warn people about it when I'm in the early stages of getting to know someone. For example, I often don't really know what facial expression I am making, so I will warn them that my body language doesn't always coincide with the way I actually feel about something. I really try to make them coincide, but I feel that it may be important for a friend to be aware that I may unconsciously do this on occasion.
Certainly, Asperger's should not be used as an excuse for hurtful interactions. Yes, there are coping skills for behaviors, attitudes, lack of impulse control and/or anxiety overload that an aspie may deem as change worthy. One's joys are often one's troubles unmasked. Still, these skills are the choice of the individual who lives with them and the results. I can't think of any theory that defends self- or socio-destructive behaviors especially when options remain unexhausted. I agree, A-G.
i use Asperger Syndrome as an excuse for being unable to talk to girls, approach them, and get a girlfriend, i feel that no matter how hard i try, i will never learn or get better at approaching and talking to women, which is why i think i'm doomed to be single for the rest of my life
@nobodysperfect06 Okay, my mother says that I have Aspergers. Maybe I do or don't, I have no problem talking to women. I'm the best public speaker I know, talking to women is one of the hardest things to do as a guy, really. Anybody tell you different is a liar, it takes a lot guts to talk to women. I'm not the master of talking to women but respect them as you respect your friend and you'll be fine I think.
@Gaelheretic4 yeah talking to women is difficult, because the male and female brain are different, i would say this, it's not a matter of being scared, having fear, it's a matter of not knowing how!
@nobodysperfect06 Oh man, you talk to the girl you like as if you talk to your mother or aunt, full of respect. Don't go heavy and just make it all about her. That way when she goes to her friends and talks to them about you she's thinking about a stranger. Some girls don't like that but some do. I have a feeling your father or guy figure in your life should be talking to you about this. Don't listen to people on You tube, okay.
@Gaelheretic4 I hate it when people say that there is someone out there for everyone, because you can't say everyone, that is bullshit, seriously, suicide has crossed my mind a couple of times
@nobodysperfect06 To tell the truth, just because there is somebody out there for everyone doesn't mean it's going to be, What do you like doing, there is a video in the suggestions here by TheAnMish, her with blonde hair not the black and she says when we like something our creativity shows. You don't even have to tell me what you like doing but if you focus on that, then you'll be a lot happier even if it doesn't get you a girl.
@nobodysperfect06 You may be right but that does not mean your doing the right thing, being right and doing right can and most of the time be very seperate. I've explained everything I can to stranger I don't know about so all I have to say is good luck and more importantly remember that when you do talk to any girl always make it about her.
@nobodysperfect06 Absolutely, now if she don't like you then move on. Recomendation: Don't pick up any girls in any bars!!!! It is entirely possible that there's a chick out there scared to death of talking to any guy. That's all I can tell you, God Bless and Good Luck.
@Gaelheretic4 Thank You, i want to overcome it, i want to develop the motivation, or get inspiration from someone else who was able to get a girlfriend, there was something on the news a few years ago about an Autistic Couple living together, there names are David Hamrick and Lindsey Nebecker, but what type of Autism do they have? Asperger's? High-Function Autism? or just the standard Autism?
@nobodysperfect06 It's only an excuse if you use it as a reason not to do something you can actually do.
If you do use it as an excuse not to just because you're sure you'll fail, don't be. Trust me, you can get better with practise. It'll help to ease yourself into it so you naturally can move forward while still feeling comfortable. I'm sure there are LOTS of people out there who'd be more than happy to go out with you.
@MentalMaladies what also makes me feel down is that i have attempted, tried Online Dating before but no luck, girls never respond to me, are not interested, i hate having to resort the old-fashioned way by going out, by going outside of my house, because i don't have any real close friends, i don't want to go out alone
@nobodysperfect06 Maybe it would help to ease yourself into going out a little bit at a time? I can't say I'm the greatest at giving advice on going out since I do it only very rarely myself, I'm actually currently in the middle of learning techniques to cope with my anxiety when it comes to this with a therapist since stress has become such a big issue in my life.
@nobodysperfect06 Cont'd: Maybe you're looking in the wrong places? Maybe searching for girls who already have an understanding of your situation would help.
@nobodysperfect06 one way i found is easy to make friends is mountain biking.. i mean i have autism and well i always loved riding my mountain bike everywhere.. and now i really do ride it pretty much everywhere.. in total over a week i cycle about 200 odd miles and well its gotten me some reputation and people seem to like to talk to me or try following me when i go out on my mountain bike. my whole town even knows who i am which is quite creepy seeing as i only know about 10 of them..
lmfao i have apsergers syndrome. i go to a relatively small high school and all my teachers know i have apergers. so when they scream at me ill say stuff like i cant help it i have apsergers syndrome haha
i agree far too many people use it as an excuse, genuine people with any type of autisum have a unique way of learning or re-learning behaviour skills. Our brain have been effected in such a way where it means other areas are ALERT. So we have a passion for information and to learn and to understand... this includes behaviour aswell. For someone with any type of autisum its a lack of emotion rather than "oh i cant help being a prat im special deal with it" lol
I struggle with talking too loudly, etc. I try hard to be more "normal" but i get really tired running through the list of "rules" in my head, and sometimes don't remember.
I think you have many people against this because people with AS don't want to feel like they are not accepted the way that they are. Yes, we can change, and sometimes we want to. But we don't want to FEEL like we have to change in order for people to like us. I don't know about you, or them, but it's the thing I feel most insecure about [my social interactions]. I TRY not to get into my habits, and yes I am responsible, but the hardest part is sometimes you can't change it even though you want
I agree with these points. I have Asperger's but I've had a job for almost a year, and if I'm rude I don't mean to be; I learn from it though. Recently someone on Facebook thought I was using my autism as an excuse for my black-and-white thinking and disagreeing with her opinion. She then called me a condescending smart-aleck. I didn't mean to be rude to her at all; she interpreted me as rude and chose to be offended. I wish I knew how to deal with people like that.
I like the video very much, I'm an aspie and I do agree with all your points. That being said, I'm cringing when I hear you says asbergers instead of aspergers....
Yeah I completely agree. You know what else I hate? People with no legs that use it as an excuse not to walk. And blind people that don't look where they're going. People can change. The fact that they have a disability is no excuse for their behaviour. Most of them don't even try to change!
I never used to use my AS as an excuse but now all of a sudden I often wish I could. You don't have to talk sense to people when you're a kid and now all of a sudden I realise how much I've misses socially. It's extremely easy to just say something the wrong way and not realise it.
I try not to be rude but I do it by mistake. I dont realize I am being rude. Sometimes I even think I am saying something nice and it turns out to be inpolite or inapropriate. People tell me my face remains "emotionless" or that my voice lacks inflections that would make one thing I say mean something else. How can I say one thing and mean something else?
The middle of the road references to "this is true of some, but not all aspies" here are not enough to make this proper aspergers research material. I can understand your views and the opinions are valid, but it seems to be a just a blatant call to see your behaviors instilled in other aspies. Frankly, the degree some aspies suffer from could be worsened by neurotypicals who falsely believe all aspies can correct their behavior because you believe to demonstrate that you have. That's problematic
My sixteen year old son is an Aspie. And we have instilled it in him at an early age that using Aspergers as an excuse will not cut it. It take a lot of work but it can be done...
I try never to use my problem as an excuse. Instead I try to tell them about it when I start engaging in my quirky behaviors to help them to understand.
that do you that have made this video have asperger .. if not shout the fuck up i cant control my diagnose do you ask people who have broken their legs to take a run?
There are excuses, and there are reasons. Your opinions are in fact your opinions, and you do give suggestions. Which is good. I do not think your intentions are bad, however the way it comes across to some it that way. And that's just my opinion. Meet me half way
You hit the nail on the head. Having AS can explain a lot of behavior, But It isn't a blank check to excuse offending others. We aré capable of learning skills and adopting new behaviors If We so choose, even tho i admit It is far easier said than done. Thats why acceptance and forgiveness aré so important, We all can improve, AS or NT.
Also, what is your trade/vocation? I am given the impression by the immaculate way that you dress that you must work as a psychologist or something of that vein...
@Triforceman1 To ask a person their age is sheer bad manners (particularly if they happen to be over the age of 21). Even I know that, and I have Asperger's Syndrome myself.
Totally not seeing the problem, here. First, I've heard it pronounced with a soft g and the accent off the first syllable many times, usually by those outside of the US. So what? Second, she is encouraging people to live up to their potential while acknowledging that it is a. difficult for all b. impossible or unlikely for others due to the severity or nature of their issue. This does not make her offensive or ignorant, IMO.....it makes her a good support for others who have Asperger's as well.
How does this get so many dislikes? All she is saying is no one has the right to be intentionally mean to people. She never said that you have to always know the right thing to do, or be able to think of the right response to everything people say.
the media has recently attacked the Aspergers community by undermining it as a social illness that is completely illusory and fabricated; this is very unfortunate, because the symptoms of Aspergers (communicational deficiency, anti-social tendencies, concentrated and scheduled interests) on te outside make someone appear as if they ARE faking. I know in my experience how warped peoples opinions are of me because I have trouble expressing my rtue emotions.
you are incredibly ignorant, not to mention that you're barely understandable with that accent. People who "use" Aspergers as an excuse for their inappropriate or rude behaviourprobably don't have aspergers. i would say that aspergers, especially as they hit puberty, are some of the nicest people you will ever meet - their social anxiety and misinterpretation of communication signifiers make it obvious that there is something wanting in their discourse, but not in ntheir manners.
The title should read, "Don't use Asperger's as an excuse to be abusive to others". And people don't always have to explain themselves either. Choose who you confide in.
Regarding work, it isn't always easy for people with autism/Aspergers to find work, due to their poor social skills. That being said, people with Aspergers are usually capable of working, especially as we often have strong artistic and technical skills. The trick is finding people who are understanding of the quirks. Society is getting a lot better at understanding AS. I've been lucky, I've been working at a library for 11 years with cool people, plus I draw cartoons for a local newspaper.
I appreciate and respect your opinion, regardless of whether or not I agree with it. Thanks for being brave enough to share it in this pale world of conformity and concession. Cheers!
Right! And I despise those hearing impaired people who use it as an excuse not to listen to me. Learn to lip read! Meet me halfway! @AspergersGirl , who died and left you in charge of judging what others should and shouldn't do?
@AspergersGirl All aspies are different, trying to decide you know them and their capabilities is a perfect example of your syndrome. I know, I am one myself. Each does their own thing and if they knew it were inappropriate, how could they have Asperger's to begin with? They know what's good and what's not? really? Heck I work with one, he makes sounds and does weird things, to say he does it b/c he can say he has it? He just does it b/c it's who he is. Work too, some can't fit in a situation (:
@AspergersGirl it is your problem, you're speaking for all of us here !!!!!! so people who dont know what it is get the wrong idea. you're making it sound like its a walk in the park. 'you can just do this or that '. its poorly thought up material ur presenting here. its people like you who totally miss the point and broadcast it as if you actually know what ur talking about. and you're prettymuch pissing of an entire group of people here by saying that our suffering was fictional
im not actually sure you have aspergers. becuz nobody in their right mind with a history of suffering and getting beat up in school every two days , not getting jobs and girlfriends like all the rest and just sitting in your room by urself for years and walking the streets by urself could post something like this. seriously..how dare you..
First, you mispronounce the name full on. It's not 'As-burge-ous', but more like 'As-berg-ers'. It's a German name and not French. Second, you concentrate a lot on behaviour, but no on autistic people's ability of cognition. Yes, things can be learned, but it is incredibly hard if not impossible. Forget about any autistic person meeting you half-way, it about giving them an example of an alternative way to react they can learn to re-enact. CAN'T TAKE YOU SERIOUS GIRL, SORRY.
Well I dont know how to take this, I saw mom reading a book on aspbergers syndrome, I asked her what was that, she said it was a higher form of autism, mom thinks I might have it? Why she thinks I might have have it my social skills are not like outher people, my ability to hold on to things like the troma of high school? I dont know if she's trying to do this because she is not happy with my lifestyle...its her way of wonting to hold on the the old clean cut church boy i was
The new term is actually High functioning Autism. And yes, we HAVE to learn to be socially normal. We don't have a right to force other people to take our crap
@VocalMasters The presumption that we ought to want to learn is the funny part. I don't give a fuck about the vast majority of people in the Universe, and the few I do are basically cerebral quasi-Aspie nerds.
You know what I choose to do? Tell anyone I'm not interested in to go fuck themselves. Because there's nothing that's important if it's not important to ME.
people who have AS just speak their minds and are very direct, so she just says the things the way they feel to her, as any Aspie does.
calm down. YOU should be understanding that and not cry out loud like all the NTs when someone is being direct lol. and i dont even say you should agree with her, but stop feeling so personally insulted when she is just speaking her mind and being direct.
@aspergersgirl People claim they have AS based on single traits or even a limited set of traits which do not meet the full diagnostic criteria for AS. IMO many of the people who use AS as an excuse for certain behaviors are not actually autistic. Many people who self diagnose are indeed correct but I also believe that a clinical DX is important for confirmation and moving forward in making positive changes. self vs clinical DX is an important distinction in this topic. Good video.
I knew one guy who was autistic at uni and he was rude to me in front of his friends he made that excuse. I agree a rude person is a rude person! I have aspergers and dyspraxia and would never ever use any of them as an excuse.
AspergersGirl is a female me. I'm 59 and bullied all my life cause people think I'm normal [NT]. If you realize what your real strengths and weaknesses are, be honest and work on what you can you won't end up with kids that don't like you and you will have good friends who accept you.
I have Asburger Syndrome and am in a special department at a school, I don't use it as an excuse But people say i do, I'm confused because i get angry and i can't control it sometimes, So i'm only asking if you think i'm right or the other people are? please reply
I completely agree. It goes for many diagnoses though. I've met people with several different diagnoses, unrelated to ASD, that have been the same way.
"Oh, I have a personality disorder, so I'm allowed to be overtly rude, and not apologize when you bring it to my attention." No. If someone tells you "What you did there was rude/insensitive", then you should apologize and make an effort to change that behavior.
I've worked on mine for many years now, and it's slow, but it can be done.
@ilovebrean I agree she does'nt sound like she has it, But we never know, I'm in a speical dempartment where there are 10 students picked out of the whole school who are suppost to have very bad Asbugers, I've been there for a longtime and i've seen each one swear, assult and a lot lot else, there are a couple there that are very quiet like me but can't control there anger! All of us have gotten in trouble because of other people who provoke us to do these things, But she does'nt seem to have it
This woman makes me want to scream. I don't have Asperger's, maybe she just brings that emotion out in people. GOD WHAT A BORING TWIT!!!!!!! *sorry* but shutup already lady.
What about a boss who has problems being way too fixated, arbitrary and hyper in the tasks she assigns? She is new and seems to believe that she has the right answer to every "challenge" she identifies, regardless of however many people agree (OR NOT!) in a very social and group-oriented dynamic.
We have a very supportive organization, so we will probably figure out a way to deal effectively with this, but I am one of the few who have identified her disorder, and work directly with her.
I'm sorry, I know I can't diagnose anyone (over the internet or in real life), and please take this as a complement rather than a criticism - but you don't come across like an aspie at all. You use your voice very well, and you seem very wise in your thoughts on social etiquette and interaction. If you've learned this, then you have learned it better than many people who don't have aspergers.
It can go both ways if you think about it. You yourself could be wrong for blaming things for that but also other people do not know you as an asperger. They will never be able to get inside your head.
@AspergersGirl do u sometimes(or every day)wake up and wonder why it seems like everyone else's world is spinning round but yours isn't, if so, WELCOME TO MY WORLD.
does everybody hate fuckin aspergers or what, is that a question that can be answered honnestly i would love to know opinion from many people, things like this hardly get on to youtube maybe cos of bananas
@SediluWarrior what are you trying to say, oh sorry are you scum thats why you comments are dissapearing to where they should be going, how long did it take you to think of them three letters. are you by any chance a content removed piece of scum
in my opinion, i really don t agree with using it as an excuse. i think you very pretty but is rather bananas what you have actually put on you tube. can t pretend and i have had a lot of help. suppose its not for everybody as every aspie is different
I have Asperger's. I hate it. Before Kindergarten, my mom took me to see if I had Asperger's. Despite me being socially awkward, having no friends, and acting different, they ruled out any diagnosis. Then comes 5th grade and I was taken back again to see if I could get a diagnosis. They diagnosed me as having Asperger's. I have had a lot of trouble in school such as meltdowns. I have trouble controlling my emotions when I get stressed.
EVERDAY OF MY LIFE I NEVER EVER put myself in position of telling anybody i had Aspergers ...WITH THE FEAR OF people knowing and Rejecting me and not getting a Relationship Or a Job or A Friend.. I had avoided so much and lived with Anxiety ....WHY DID U HAVE TO MAEK A JOKE ABOUT THE CONDITION ...You have any idea How Muchhh i didtn want people to know thati had it ..I STRUGGLED SO MUCH IN EMPLOYMENT AND IN SOCIAL CIRCLES ..I FAILED SO MUCH ..I WAS NICE AND NEVER TROUBLESOME
AND BTW... U LOOK SO HOT AND NORMAL ...I BET U VE HAD SEVERAL BOYFRIENDS SO PUT THE SOCIAL SKILLS ASIDE AND PLUS U WERE HIRED ASA SECRETARY OF DEFENSE WERENT U ..YEA GO GIVE THE PRINCE A BLOWJOB AND ALSO UVE HAD IT EASY CUZ UR A BLONDE who atleast GETS Perverts lookin at U ...And whats with the NORMAL SPEECH OF URS U SAID U WERE HIGH FUNCTIONING RIGHT ...EXCUSEEEE BITCH ..UR ASPERGERS GIRL RIGHT .... EXCUSEEE BITCH ...U LITERALLY MADE MY FUCKIN DIAGNOSIS I SUFFER EVERYDAY WITH SOUND EASY FUCK U
@blindnation0 YOU ARE A LIAR THERE'S NO WAY YOU HAVE ASPERGERS YOU ARE PROBABLY A DUMBASS JOCK WHO HATES GIRLS. I DON'T KNOW ANY ASPIES WHO EVEN NOTICE GENDER NEVERMIND HATE OR RESENT THE OPPOSITE SEX MORON TROLL GO HANG OUT WITH YOUR STEROID DRONE BUDDIES
! Let me start By telling You I FOUND THIS VERY RUDE , OFFENSIVE ,AND UPSETTING ! I HAVE ASPERGERS MYSELF .. And for u to say People with Aspergers WHO STRUGGLE WITH THE THINGS YOU SAID IN a very Slack manner like u dont even know i bet Is pretty disturbing . Ok when u spoke about the JObs . I HAVE HAD JOBS AND had to quit em and also HAD MANAGERS AND COLLEAGUES literally not wanting me to work ! I NEVER Fkin told anybody of em i had ASPERGERS ! Ur pretty much Diminshing and Avoiding IT .
People who watch this video. I would like to say I have Aspergers and I do see a point to this video. I do not know AspergersGirl nor anyone like her but she has a good point in the fact that some people can and sometimes do use their autism as an excuse sometimes they don't even HAVE the autism. I think the problem people have with this video is maybe the fact has confidence to do this sort of thing. I do the same thing except with a journal online. She is simply expressing an opinion.
Oh yeah. Other factors that make me think the diagnosis was BS is the fact that most people autism/asperger's have problems reading others emotions when I feel I have a sixth sense of feeding off people's energy and body language long before they even open their mouth, which is another reason why I'm careful about whom I associate myself with.
Is it asperger's when you don't meet people you don't know out of fear of what they might think of you? Or is it just social anxiety? I was diagnosed with asperger's at 17 but I often question if it was a BS diagnosis because that shrink didn't know what I had to go through as a child how I quickly learned that society consists of social circles in which you're either in or not. With that said, I interact just fine with people I know but people I don't know or I deem as enemies I avoid them.
EXCUSE ME!!??? DO YOU HAVE ASPERGERS? Do you have any idea what its like to feel like your trapped inside your own head? I think if you think you have done enough reasearch about this u haven't. You probably knew before u even posted this that this is contriversial and you would get various reactions. I partially agree with you but i also think you have no idea what your talking about and i found this very insulting. overall. RUDE!
@loveringtaylorswift If you did your research you would know that yes, I have aspergers. Yet you tell me to do mine?
I have watched this video over and over again. There is absolutely nothing offensive about it unless you're a high functioning aspie who knowingly uses aspergers as an excuse when you know you shouldn't for that particular issue. If the shoe fits, by all means wear it.
For aspies who use valid excuses - I'm not talking about them. As I stated throughout the whole video.
@AspergersGirl yer i do not think u havee AS at alljust fed up on how they or a anoyed or somthing like that so as lady gaga said :we wear born this way
Having Asperger's doesn't mean you shouldn't try to better yourself as a person. Everybody has things they're not good at and negative qualities. I'm not saying people with Asperger's need to fight against impossible things, but I agree in at least *trying* to meet the other party half way.
Just because it's harder for us to do certain things doesn't mean we should give up, say it's just who we are and withdraw from everything. You don't have to go insane with it, but it's worth a go, surely.
....have someone like that act like a child, or act spoiled. I can understand there are people here that probably have Asperger's and are getting offended. For that I say this, if extreme cases of asperger's usually involve problems identifying body language and emotion, than how did you get offended by this video? Another thing; the first step to recovery is knowing that you are no different than the others. Most people who overly complain about their disorder are unwilling to deal with it.
Ok... I see a lot of negative comments, and alot of you are poorly educated or are gullable at best. It's Ok to be ignorant, just don't be an asshole on top of it. Now there are most definitely people who fake, or pretend like it is more severe than it actually is. This is common in aspergers, dyslexia, bi-polar disorder, depression, schizophrenia, and other behavioural disorders. The commonality is that these disorders revolve around the way one is conducting themself. It's not unusual to...
I have Aspergers and I don't use it as an reason. But it needs to be used sometimes for others to understand as an example "I have a obbession with history and I often compare everything in class to historical things and people bully me because of this so my teachers say 'se has aspergers and is obbessed with history she can't help it" thats where its fine. But I am sort of racist because of views its not good enought to be racist. If you get my point?
@evade People with aspergers and autism have hard time being self aware. i am often told i am shouting or speaking too quietly. You really shouldnt comment on things you dont understand, because the way I see it you are now wearing the label you so generously tried to apply.
doesn't is suck though to be trapped between two worlds on a roller coaster ride spiraling from one extreme to the other. Like you said ... Everybody has a choice... Including you ... You can refuse to associate with an individual for their behavior if it offends as much as they have the right to carry their scar. So I commend you for being yourself ... and respect that you have a valid opinion for you that I differ with.
@AspergersGirl do you find it hard verbalising your thoughts at an optimal pace so that everybody around you doesnt assume you have drunk 50 coffees 30minutes ago,,,,, ??
@douglasjoe1 I do have an idea what I'm talking about. I am sick of people who actually know better blaming their rude treatment of others on aspergers.
i hope this lady never has a child with asperges syndrome i mean i have autism and well i've had a few melt downs but mainly because a lot of mine is due to huge amounts of stress and pains inside my body from the way i grew up. i grew up getting my whole body broken and destroyed every single day by some stupid gang of kids. when i turned 18 my doctor told me due to the damage my ribs will never heal properly and my life span has been knocked down by about 20 - 30 years.
Gaslydeath 3 weeks ago
@Gaslydeath however since then they've left me alone, as i had enough with them and one of these "Meltdowns" ended up with me losing control while they were attacking me, i broke one guys wrist, knocked out another guy and the leader of the group i tied to a lamp post with my belt. then when i had figured out what i had done i rung up the police to hand myself in. they didn't take me however as it was an act of self defence. what i know now is 2 of those guys are in jail
Gaslydeath 3 weeks ago
@Gaslydeath I'm 11 and I have aspergers, people don't try attacking me all the time, but sorry about your childhood :( I know how you feel, I have problems with some people, when I was 9 some fucking 17 year old prick came and punched me in the shoulder 4 times, and when I was 7 some mad idiot broke my left arm, now my left arm is weak thanks to those punks >:(
SaintsBro217 3 weeks ago
@SaintsBro217 yeah well i always think bad things happen to good people because our government is waay to gentle on the way they deal with bad things. i mean i like in the UK and mr cameron needs to make jail time harder so people don't want to go back rather than give them what they want when they want.. i think the crime in this country is a disgrace
Gaslydeath 3 weeks ago
@Gaslydeath I live in the UK too, David Cameron is an idiot in my opinion
SaintsBro217 3 weeks ago
@SaintsBro217 yep he is.. but still the law needs updating to deal with the amount of bad guys out there much like the country needs sorting out.
Gaslydeath 3 weeks ago
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since we use that word as a excuse, how come women can't accept that we are who we are and nothing can change that except for the yelling, we can change that habit. but seriously normal women think we can't be lovable people and we can. i think they need to improve their behavior towards us. god made us for who we are and it's a good thing he did. he did it so others can learn that people can be socially cool and fun to hang with.
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XQUISITEMUSICIAN88 1 month ago
@XQUISITEMUSICIAN88 asperges isn't pronounced assburgers here.. where i live is just pronounced as asperges no burger involved.. so far i've only heard americans call it assburgers, so erm yeah don't try forcing others to say it your way.
Gaslydeath 3 weeks ago
@Gaslydeath I really do apologize for whoever used my account to comment on your video. It was not me and that is why I have removed the comment.
XQUISITEMUSICIAN88 2 weeks ago
@XQUISITEMUSICIAN88 she' British, I'm British as well , in Britain we say things differently, do you know anything about other countries? Fuck you asshole >:(
SaintsBro217 3 weeks ago
@SaintsBro217 As I said to Gaslydeath... I do apologize for who made that comment. It was not me, I leave my account logged in on my computer. I have deleted the remark.
XQUISITEMUSICIAN88 2 weeks ago
I will not tell people of my Aspergers when i meet them. I wait until we get to know each other greatly. i feel my personality traits are as much a part of me as my appearance. I was liked for who i was before being diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome and continue to be now. i will not burden people with information of Aspergers,i feel its not a prevision of being friends. some people will like you others will not. Thank you for your time.
silverdragon013 1 month ago 3
I also usually tell people that I can't always tell if something I am saying or doing bothers them somehow, so I ask them to point out any inappropriate behavior I may exhibit so that I won't do it in the future.
keller654321 1 month ago
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@keller654321 lol I can relate to "saying or doing something bothers them somehow" I've on numerous occasions been talking about something and then randomly the other person randomly explodes in rage :S. I don't see why they don't just say something before they get that mad. I didn't even know why they are mad even after it's very obvious I've upset them in some way. people are just crazy and take things too seriously and so easily succumb to there anger and emotions
micheals1992 3 weeks ago
I don't use it as an excuse but I do usually warn people about it when I'm in the early stages of getting to know someone. For example, I often don't really know what facial expression I am making, so I will warn them that my body language doesn't always coincide with the way I actually feel about something. I really try to make them coincide, but I feel that it may be important for a friend to be aware that I may unconsciously do this on occasion.
keller654321 1 month ago
Your a contradiction to this title Asperger'sGirl. You always use excuses about your condition.
TheManiNicole 1 month ago
Certainly, Asperger's should not be used as an excuse for hurtful interactions. Yes, there are coping skills for behaviors, attitudes, lack of impulse control and/or anxiety overload that an aspie may deem as change worthy. One's joys are often one's troubles unmasked. Still, these skills are the choice of the individual who lives with them and the results. I can't think of any theory that defends self- or socio-destructive behaviors especially when options remain unexhausted. I agree, A-G.
MaestroMediaGroup 1 month ago
This Kiwi chick is so condescending and patronising. I think there should be new stereotypical group of people named docile, boring and posh (dbp).
The Kiwi chick talks like she so much better...get out and experience life and realise most of the world isn't submissive and lame.
munaustralia 1 month ago
i use Asperger Syndrome as an excuse for being unable to talk to girls, approach them, and get a girlfriend, i feel that no matter how hard i try, i will never learn or get better at approaching and talking to women, which is why i think i'm doomed to be single for the rest of my life
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 Okay, my mother says that I have Aspergers. Maybe I do or don't, I have no problem talking to women. I'm the best public speaker I know, talking to women is one of the hardest things to do as a guy, really. Anybody tell you different is a liar, it takes a lot guts to talk to women. I'm not the master of talking to women but respect them as you respect your friend and you'll be fine I think.
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 yeah talking to women is difficult, because the male and female brain are different, i would say this, it's not a matter of being scared, having fear, it's a matter of not knowing how!
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 well i've never been in a relationship before, and it sucks
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 Just apply your knowledge then go for it, there's plenty awaiting out there.
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 what do you mean apply my knowledge and go for it? what if my Asperger Syndrome is too severe and it will be impossible for me?
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 Do you have a girl that's a friend?
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 yes i do but it don't see her as romantic potential
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 Oh man, you talk to the girl you like as if you talk to your mother or aunt, full of respect. Don't go heavy and just make it all about her. That way when she goes to her friends and talks to them about you she's thinking about a stranger. Some girls don't like that but some do. I have a feeling your father or guy figure in your life should be talking to you about this. Don't listen to people on You tube, okay.
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 I hate it when people say that there is someone out there for everyone, because you can't say everyone, that is bullshit, seriously, suicide has crossed my mind a couple of times
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 To tell the truth, just because there is somebody out there for everyone doesn't mean it's going to be, What do you like doing, there is a video in the suggestions here by TheAnMish, her with blonde hair not the black and she says when we like something our creativity shows. You don't even have to tell me what you like doing but if you focus on that, then you'll be a lot happier even if it doesn't get you a girl.
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 thats correct, when people say there is someone out there for everyone, that is bullshit, because they can't say literally everyone
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 You may be right but that does not mean your doing the right thing, being right and doing right can and most of the time be very seperate. I've explained everything I can to stranger I don't know about so all I have to say is good luck and more importantly remember that when you do talk to any girl always make it about her.
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 so if i don't give up, then i could get a girlfriend? it is possible?
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 Absolutely, now if she don't like you then move on. Recomendation: Don't pick up any girls in any bars!!!! It is entirely possible that there's a chick out there scared to death of talking to any guy. That's all I can tell you, God Bless and Good Luck.
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@Gaelheretic4 Thank You, i want to overcome it, i want to develop the motivation, or get inspiration from someone else who was able to get a girlfriend, there was something on the news a few years ago about an Autistic Couple living together, there names are David Hamrick and Lindsey Nebecker, but what type of Autism do they have? Asperger's? High-Function Autism? or just the standard Autism?
nobodysperfect06 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 Your welcome. Have a great day.
Gaelheretic4 1 month ago
@nobodysperfect06 It's only an excuse if you use it as a reason not to do something you can actually do.
If you do use it as an excuse not to just because you're sure you'll fail, don't be. Trust me, you can get better with practise. It'll help to ease yourself into it so you naturally can move forward while still feeling comfortable. I'm sure there are LOTS of people out there who'd be more than happy to go out with you.
MentalMaladies 3 weeks ago
@MentalMaladies what also makes me feel down is that i have attempted, tried Online Dating before but no luck, girls never respond to me, are not interested, i hate having to resort the old-fashioned way by going out, by going outside of my house, because i don't have any real close friends, i don't want to go out alone
nobodysperfect06 3 weeks ago
@nobodysperfect06 Maybe it would help to ease yourself into going out a little bit at a time? I can't say I'm the greatest at giving advice on going out since I do it only very rarely myself, I'm actually currently in the middle of learning techniques to cope with my anxiety when it comes to this with a therapist since stress has become such a big issue in my life.
MentalMaladies 3 weeks ago
@nobodysperfect06 Cont'd: Maybe you're looking in the wrong places? Maybe searching for girls who already have an understanding of your situation would help.
MentalMaladies 3 weeks ago
@nobodysperfect06 one way i found is easy to make friends is mountain biking.. i mean i have autism and well i always loved riding my mountain bike everywhere.. and now i really do ride it pretty much everywhere.. in total over a week i cycle about 200 odd miles and well its gotten me some reputation and people seem to like to talk to me or try following me when i go out on my mountain bike. my whole town even knows who i am which is quite creepy seeing as i only know about 10 of them..
Gaslydeath 3 weeks ago
It's only you moralizing herd cows who NEED excuses. I do what I want, and if you don't like it you can choke on a dick.
ThisMachineKillsReds 1 month ago
ignore them.
billyballantine 1 month ago
lmfao i have apsergers syndrome. i go to a relatively small high school and all my teachers know i have apergers. so when they scream at me ill say stuff like i cant help it i have apsergers syndrome haha
Haveada 1 month ago
@Haveada The last HS teacher that screamed at me go a split lip. Stopped that shit right quick.
ThisMachineKillsReds 1 month ago
i agree far too many people use it as an excuse, genuine people with any type of autisum have a unique way of learning or re-learning behaviour skills. Our brain have been effected in such a way where it means other areas are ALERT. So we have a passion for information and to learn and to understand... this includes behaviour aswell. For someone with any type of autisum its a lack of emotion rather than "oh i cant help being a prat im special deal with it" lol
jaymeeface 1 month ago
I struggle with talking too loudly, etc. I try hard to be more "normal" but i get really tired running through the list of "rules" in my head, and sometimes don't remember.
AlphaGator9 1 month ago
i think you are using aspergers in this vid to be rude
stop being a little b*tch
pinooo1986 1 month ago
I think you have many people against this because people with AS don't want to feel like they are not accepted the way that they are. Yes, we can change, and sometimes we want to. But we don't want to FEEL like we have to change in order for people to like us. I don't know about you, or them, but it's the thing I feel most insecure about [my social interactions]. I TRY not to get into my habits, and yes I am responsible, but the hardest part is sometimes you can't change it even though you want
jushank 1 month ago
I agree with these points. I have Asperger's but I've had a job for almost a year, and if I'm rude I don't mean to be; I learn from it though. Recently someone on Facebook thought I was using my autism as an excuse for my black-and-white thinking and disagreeing with her opinion. She then called me a condescending smart-aleck. I didn't mean to be rude to her at all; she interpreted me as rude and chose to be offended. I wish I knew how to deal with people like that.
Simbaholic 1 month ago
There's a reason we with aspergers likes to be alone *looks at the girl in the youtube clip* >D
EvilVikingisDaniel 1 month ago
are you aware that some of the comportements are unvoluntary made???? so hard to control!
clairenunavut 1 month ago
I like the video very much, I'm an aspie and I do agree with all your points. That being said, I'm cringing when I hear you says asbergers instead of aspergers....
Low760 1 month ago
Are people responsible for their actions?
ClamCrunchy 1 month ago
Yeah I completely agree. You know what else I hate? People with no legs that use it as an excuse not to walk. And blind people that don't look where they're going. People can change. The fact that they have a disability is no excuse for their behaviour. Most of them don't even try to change!
Harmonyww 1 month ago
@Harmonyww funny. But a little harsh to get your point across
jushank 1 month ago
You really don't have a clue do you. You ignorant stupid girl.
adey7569 1 month ago
The girl in Glee pisses me off. Aspergers isn't an excuse it's a gift/curse, with pros and cons.
Trashcansam123 2 months ago
I never used to use my AS as an excuse but now all of a sudden I often wish I could. You don't have to talk sense to people when you're a kid and now all of a sudden I realise how much I've misses socially. It's extremely easy to just say something the wrong way and not realise it.
ThisWorldWillBeMine 2 months ago
I try not to be rude but I do it by mistake. I dont realize I am being rude. Sometimes I even think I am saying something nice and it turns out to be inpolite or inapropriate. People tell me my face remains "emotionless" or that my voice lacks inflections that would make one thing I say mean something else. How can I say one thing and mean something else?
TheGulubdur 2 months ago
The middle of the road references to "this is true of some, but not all aspies" here are not enough to make this proper aspergers research material. I can understand your views and the opinions are valid, but it seems to be a just a blatant call to see your behaviors instilled in other aspies. Frankly, the degree some aspies suffer from could be worsened by neurotypicals who falsely believe all aspies can correct their behavior because you believe to demonstrate that you have. That's problematic
NewAngel81 2 months ago
My sixteen year old son is an Aspie. And we have instilled it in him at an early age that using Aspergers as an excuse will not cut it. It take a lot of work but it can be done...
hhlomaxx 2 months ago
I try never to use my problem as an excuse. Instead I try to tell them about it when I start engaging in my quirky behaviors to help them to understand.
Beauty4Aspies 2 months ago
boobs or gtfo
pungsv3tt 2 months ago
boobs or gtfo
pungsv3tt 2 months ago
that do you that have made this video have asperger .. if not shout the fuck up i cant control my diagnose do you ask people who have broken their legs to take a run?
xXxemokittycupcakexX 2 months ago
There are excuses, and there are reasons. Your opinions are in fact your opinions, and you do give suggestions. Which is good. I do not think your intentions are bad, however the way it comes across to some it that way. And that's just my opinion. Meet me half way
Jonsiebert1 2 months ago
So as a fellow aspergers, I agree and watched many of your clips for a while, I sorted out my life, glad to see you have too :)
what movies and hobbies do you have? very curious
theverdictlondon 2 months ago
Thank you for your comments. I am on the spectrum having discovered it two years ago and I am 57 years old.
pmadaran 2 months ago
You hit the nail on the head. Having AS can explain a lot of behavior, But It isn't a blank check to excuse offending others. We aré capable of learning skills and adopting new behaviors If We so choose, even tho i admit It is far easier said than done. Thats why acceptance and forgiveness aré so important, We all can improve, AS or NT.
TheMyklar 2 months ago
Also, what is your trade/vocation? I am given the impression by the immaculate way that you dress that you must work as a psychologist or something of that vein...
Triforceman1 2 months ago
How old/young (tentative) are you? I'm curious...
Triforceman1 2 months ago
@Triforceman1 To ask a person their age is sheer bad manners (particularly if they happen to be over the age of 21). Even I know that, and I have Asperger's Syndrome myself.
TheEctomorph 2 months ago
Totally not seeing the problem, here. First, I've heard it pronounced with a soft g and the accent off the first syllable many times, usually by those outside of the US. So what? Second, she is encouraging people to live up to their potential while acknowledging that it is a. difficult for all b. impossible or unlikely for others due to the severity or nature of their issue. This does not make her offensive or ignorant, IMO.....it makes her a good support for others who have Asperger's as well.
hiswife2002 2 months ago
How does this get so many dislikes? All she is saying is no one has the right to be intentionally mean to people. She never said that you have to always know the right thing to do, or be able to think of the right response to everything people say.
SanityVideo 2 months ago
the media has recently attacked the Aspergers community by undermining it as a social illness that is completely illusory and fabricated; this is very unfortunate, because the symptoms of Aspergers (communicational deficiency, anti-social tendencies, concentrated and scheduled interests) on te outside make someone appear as if they ARE faking. I know in my experience how warped peoples opinions are of me because I have trouble expressing my rtue emotions.
Grgory58 2 months ago
you are incredibly ignorant, not to mention that you're barely understandable with that accent. People who "use" Aspergers as an excuse for their inappropriate or rude behaviourprobably don't have aspergers. i would say that aspergers, especially as they hit puberty, are some of the nicest people you will ever meet - their social anxiety and misinterpretation of communication signifiers make it obvious that there is something wanting in their discourse, but not in ntheir manners.
Grgory58 2 months ago
The title should read, "Don't use Asperger's as an excuse to be abusive to others". And people don't always have to explain themselves either. Choose who you confide in.
Pippisongbird 2 months ago
Regarding work, it isn't always easy for people with autism/Aspergers to find work, due to their poor social skills. That being said, people with Aspergers are usually capable of working, especially as we often have strong artistic and technical skills. The trick is finding people who are understanding of the quirks. Society is getting a lot better at understanding AS. I've been lucky, I've been working at a library for 11 years with cool people, plus I draw cartoons for a local newspaper.
NorthcoastNut 2 months ago
Touché :D
I appreciate and respect your opinion, regardless of whether or not I agree with it. Thanks for being brave enough to share it in this pale world of conformity and concession. Cheers!
aspeykirk 2 months ago
Right! And I despise those hearing impaired people who use it as an excuse not to listen to me. Learn to lip read! Meet me halfway! @AspergersGirl , who died and left you in charge of judging what others should and shouldn't do?
aspeykirk 2 months ago 14
@aspeykirk The king of asperger control?
I don't know, No-one of course. This is my opinion, nothing more. If you can't take it, it's not my problem.
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MagicMakeup11 2 months ago
@AspergersGirl "The king of Asperger control?" LOL
mizzday100 2 months ago
@AspergersGirl All aspies are different, trying to decide you know them and their capabilities is a perfect example of your syndrome. I know, I am one myself. Each does their own thing and if they knew it were inappropriate, how could they have Asperger's to begin with? They know what's good and what's not? really? Heck I work with one, he makes sounds and does weird things, to say he does it b/c he can say he has it? He just does it b/c it's who he is. Work too, some can't fit in a situation (:
OriahLivingston 1 month ago
@OriahLivingston agreed!
jushank 1 month ago
@AspergersGirl it is your problem, you're speaking for all of us here !!!!!! so people who dont know what it is get the wrong idea. you're making it sound like its a walk in the park. 'you can just do this or that '. its poorly thought up material ur presenting here. its people like you who totally miss the point and broadcast it as if you actually know what ur talking about. and you're prettymuch pissing of an entire group of people here by saying that our suffering was fictional
HanLw88 1 month ago
im not actually sure you have aspergers. becuz nobody in their right mind with a history of suffering and getting beat up in school every two days , not getting jobs and girlfriends like all the rest and just sitting in your room by urself for years and walking the streets by urself could post something like this. seriously..how dare you..
HanLw88 1 month ago
First, you mispronounce the name full on. It's not 'As-burge-ous', but more like 'As-berg-ers'. It's a German name and not French. Second, you concentrate a lot on behaviour, but no on autistic people's ability of cognition. Yes, things can be learned, but it is incredibly hard if not impossible. Forget about any autistic person meeting you half-way, it about giving them an example of an alternative way to react they can learn to re-enact. CAN'T TAKE YOU SERIOUS GIRL, SORRY.
VocalMasters 2 months ago
@VocalMasters You don't have to. It isn't my problem if you don't.
AspergersGirl 2 months ago
@AspergersGirl
Well I dont know how to take this, I saw mom reading a book on aspbergers syndrome, I asked her what was that, she said it was a higher form of autism, mom thinks I might have it? Why she thinks I might have have it my social skills are not like outher people, my ability to hold on to things like the troma of high school? I dont know if she's trying to do this because she is not happy with my lifestyle...its her way of wonting to hold on the the old clean cut church boy i was
pbrskater26 2 months ago
@AspergersGirl
The new term is actually High functioning Autism. And yes, we HAVE to learn to be socially normal. We don't have a right to force other people to take our crap
goduniverse 1 month ago
@AspergersGirl Well said!
TheEctomorph 1 month ago
@VocalMasters exactly. and aspergersgirl you are wayyy off.
HanLw88 1 month ago
@VocalMasters The presumption that we ought to want to learn is the funny part. I don't give a fuck about the vast majority of people in the Universe, and the few I do are basically cerebral quasi-Aspie nerds.
You know what I choose to do? Tell anyone I'm not interested in to go fuck themselves. Because there's nothing that's important if it's not important to ME.
ThisMachineKillsReds 1 month ago
@VocalMasters Maybe it sounds like that because it's because of the accent? I like the accent...
...Either way, it sounds right to me (yes, even if it's German).
Zapherenath 1 month ago
duh...you can make excuses for anything
karp821 2 months ago
people who have AS just speak their minds and are very direct, so she just says the things the way they feel to her, as any Aspie does.
calm down. YOU should be understanding that and not cry out loud like all the NTs when someone is being direct lol. and i dont even say you should agree with her, but stop feeling so personally insulted when she is just speaking her mind and being direct.
CallofFruitey 2 months ago 7
This is about you. Can you change the title to "Why I cannot use Aspergers as an excuse?"
illiad1985 3 months ago
@aspergersgirl People claim they have AS based on single traits or even a limited set of traits which do not meet the full diagnostic criteria for AS. IMO many of the people who use AS as an excuse for certain behaviors are not actually autistic. Many people who self diagnose are indeed correct but I also believe that a clinical DX is important for confirmation and moving forward in making positive changes. self vs clinical DX is an important distinction in this topic. Good video.
Rascal77s 3 months ago 2
I knew one guy who was autistic at uni and he was rude to me in front of his friends he made that excuse. I agree a rude person is a rude person! I have aspergers and dyspraxia and would never ever use any of them as an excuse.
electricundergound 3 months ago
Thats really an assertive well-organized speech.
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MagicMakeup11 3 months ago
why do u guys have to be put into a special department thing cause u have aspergers?! i dont!
lolliepopsyum 3 months ago
AspergersGirl is a female me. I'm 59 and bullied all my life cause people think I'm normal [NT]. If you realize what your real strengths and weaknesses are, be honest and work on what you can you won't end up with kids that don't like you and you will have good friends who accept you.
newcreationrc 3 months ago
I have Asburger Syndrome and am in a special department at a school, I don't use it as an excuse But people say i do, I'm confused because i get angry and i can't control it sometimes, So i'm only asking if you think i'm right or the other people are? please reply
vic0tv0studeos 3 months ago
I completely agree. It goes for many diagnoses though. I've met people with several different diagnoses, unrelated to ASD, that have been the same way.
"Oh, I have a personality disorder, so I'm allowed to be overtly rude, and not apologize when you bring it to my attention." No. If someone tells you "What you did there was rude/insensitive", then you should apologize and make an effort to change that behavior.
I've worked on mine for many years now, and it's slow, but it can be done.
TheAnMish 3 months ago
suffer everyday with sound easy fuck you is a well true fact, is fuckin defo not at all
Blomblipmania 3 months ago
you certainly dont sound like you have aspergers to me or if you do its very very mild. i ahve aspergers and cant help my behavioour
ilovebrean 3 months ago
@ilovebrean I agree she does'nt sound like she has it, But we never know, I'm in a speical dempartment where there are 10 students picked out of the whole school who are suppost to have very bad Asbugers, I've been there for a longtime and i've seen each one swear, assult and a lot lot else, there are a couple there that are very quiet like me but can't control there anger! All of us have gotten in trouble because of other people who provoke us to do these things, But she does'nt seem to have it
vic0tv0studeos 3 months ago
This woman makes me want to scream. I don't have Asperger's, maybe she just brings that emotion out in people. GOD WHAT A BORING TWIT!!!!!!! *sorry* but shutup already lady.
kimkarkrashagain 3 months ago
She is boring -- what's her diagnosis?
kimkarkrashagain 3 months ago
Well said AspergersGirl!
SediluWarrior 3 months ago
What about a boss who has problems being way too fixated, arbitrary and hyper in the tasks she assigns? She is new and seems to believe that she has the right answer to every "challenge" she identifies, regardless of however many people agree (OR NOT!) in a very social and group-oriented dynamic.
We have a very supportive organization, so we will probably figure out a way to deal effectively with this, but I am one of the few who have identified her disorder, and work directly with her.
fuzzyone99 3 months ago
@fuzzyone99 Thanks for your time.
fuzzyone99 3 months ago
I'm sorry, I know I can't diagnose anyone (over the internet or in real life), and please take this as a complement rather than a criticism - but you don't come across like an aspie at all. You use your voice very well, and you seem very wise in your thoughts on social etiquette and interaction. If you've learned this, then you have learned it better than many people who don't have aspergers.
tosgem 3 months ago
It can go both ways if you think about it. You yourself could be wrong for blaming things for that but also other people do not know you as an asperger. They will never be able to get inside your head.
themananswer2250 3 months ago
@AspergersGirl do u sometimes(or every day)wake up and wonder why it seems like everyone else's world is spinning round but yours isn't, if so, WELCOME TO MY WORLD.
Bollocks681 3 months ago
does everybody hate fuckin aspergers or what, is that a question that can be answered honnestly i would love to know opinion from many people, things like this hardly get on to youtube maybe cos of bananas
Blomblipmania 3 months ago
i agree with that sound comment it definatly is not fuckin easy
Blomblipmania 3 months ago
aspergers is evil on your brain, this is true, anyone comment if you want???????????????/
Blomblipmania 3 months ago
@Blomblipmania huh?
SediluWarrior 3 months ago
@SediluWarrior what are you trying to say, oh sorry are you scum thats why you comments are dissapearing to where they should be going, how long did it take you to think of them three letters. are you by any chance a content removed piece of scum
Blomblipmania 3 months ago
in my opinion, i really don t agree with using it as an excuse. i think you very pretty but is rather bananas what you have actually put on you tube. can t pretend and i have had a lot of help. suppose its not for everybody as every aspie is different
Blomblipmania 3 months ago
you dont understand it cant be controlled on low fuctional aspies
chuk968 3 months ago
I have Asperger's. I hate it. Before Kindergarten, my mom took me to see if I had Asperger's. Despite me being socially awkward, having no friends, and acting different, they ruled out any diagnosis. Then comes 5th grade and I was taken back again to see if I could get a diagnosis. They diagnosed me as having Asperger's. I have had a lot of trouble in school such as meltdowns. I have trouble controlling my emotions when I get stressed.
Mr2BonClayOP 3 months ago
@Mr2BonClayOP Same here
ivanova88 2 months ago
EVERDAY OF MY LIFE I NEVER EVER put myself in position of telling anybody i had Aspergers ...WITH THE FEAR OF people knowing and Rejecting me and not getting a Relationship Or a Job or A Friend.. I had avoided so much and lived with Anxiety ....WHY DID U HAVE TO MAEK A JOKE ABOUT THE CONDITION ...You have any idea How Muchhh i didtn want people to know thati had it ..I STRUGGLED SO MUCH IN EMPLOYMENT AND IN SOCIAL CIRCLES ..I FAILED SO MUCH ..I WAS NICE AND NEVER TROUBLESOME
blindnation0 3 months ago
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SediluWarrior 3 months ago
AND BTW... U LOOK SO HOT AND NORMAL ...I BET U VE HAD SEVERAL BOYFRIENDS SO PUT THE SOCIAL SKILLS ASIDE AND PLUS U WERE HIRED ASA SECRETARY OF DEFENSE WERENT U ..YEA GO GIVE THE PRINCE A BLOWJOB AND ALSO UVE HAD IT EASY CUZ UR A BLONDE who atleast GETS Perverts lookin at U ...And whats with the NORMAL SPEECH OF URS U SAID U WERE HIGH FUNCTIONING RIGHT ...EXCUSEEEE BITCH ..UR ASPERGERS GIRL RIGHT .... EXCUSEEE BITCH ...U LITERALLY MADE MY FUCKIN DIAGNOSIS I SUFFER EVERYDAY WITH SOUND EASY FUCK U
blindnation0 3 months ago
@blindnation0 YOU ARE A LIAR THERE'S NO WAY YOU HAVE ASPERGERS YOU ARE PROBABLY A DUMBASS JOCK WHO HATES GIRLS. I DON'T KNOW ANY ASPIES WHO EVEN NOTICE GENDER NEVERMIND HATE OR RESENT THE OPPOSITE SEX MORON TROLL GO HANG OUT WITH YOUR STEROID DRONE BUDDIES
SediluWarrior 3 months ago
! Let me start By telling You I FOUND THIS VERY RUDE , OFFENSIVE ,AND UPSETTING ! I HAVE ASPERGERS MYSELF .. And for u to say People with Aspergers WHO STRUGGLE WITH THE THINGS YOU SAID IN a very Slack manner like u dont even know i bet Is pretty disturbing . Ok when u spoke about the JObs . I HAVE HAD JOBS AND had to quit em and also HAD MANAGERS AND COLLEAGUES literally not wanting me to work ! I NEVER Fkin told anybody of em i had ASPERGERS ! Ur pretty much Diminshing and Avoiding IT .
blindnation0 3 months ago
People who watch this video. I would like to say I have Aspergers and I do see a point to this video. I do not know AspergersGirl nor anyone like her but she has a good point in the fact that some people can and sometimes do use their autism as an excuse sometimes they don't even HAVE the autism. I think the problem people have with this video is maybe the fact has confidence to do this sort of thing. I do the same thing except with a journal online. She is simply expressing an opinion.
TomA6297 3 months ago
@TomA6297 Exactly, well said. It's excellent. Many NT's seem to automatically hate Aspie women for only the reason of the Pink Monkey.
SediluWarrior 3 months ago
Oh yeah. Other factors that make me think the diagnosis was BS is the fact that most people autism/asperger's have problems reading others emotions when I feel I have a sixth sense of feeding off people's energy and body language long before they even open their mouth, which is another reason why I'm careful about whom I associate myself with.
2bjjones 3 months ago
So is having these social defenses that I feel I learned to have asperger's or just social anxiety or both?
2bjjones 3 months ago
Is it asperger's when you don't meet people you don't know out of fear of what they might think of you? Or is it just social anxiety? I was diagnosed with asperger's at 17 but I often question if it was a BS diagnosis because that shrink didn't know what I had to go through as a child how I quickly learned that society consists of social circles in which you're either in or not. With that said, I interact just fine with people I know but people I don't know or I deem as enemies I avoid them.
2bjjones 3 months ago
i have asbergers and i know from this video you dont you have really pissed me off and no its not as simple as that you stupid fucking bitch
whitley157 3 months ago
@whitley157 stop being so self absorbed you bastard!
karmalevel 3 months ago
EXCUSE ME!!??? DO YOU HAVE ASPERGERS? Do you have any idea what its like to feel like your trapped inside your own head? I think if you think you have done enough reasearch about this u haven't. You probably knew before u even posted this that this is contriversial and you would get various reactions. I partially agree with you but i also think you have no idea what your talking about and i found this very insulting. overall. RUDE!
loveringtaylorswift 3 months ago
@loveringtaylorswift If you did your research you would know that yes, I have aspergers. Yet you tell me to do mine?
I have watched this video over and over again. There is absolutely nothing offensive about it unless you're a high functioning aspie who knowingly uses aspergers as an excuse when you know you shouldn't for that particular issue. If the shoe fits, by all means wear it.
For aspies who use valid excuses - I'm not talking about them. As I stated throughout the whole video.
AspergersGirl 3 months ago 10
@AspergersGirl well if you got Aspergers i am a millionare
romans52345 3 months ago
@AspergersGirl i'm wondering what was your Academic record like in school??
romans52345 3 months ago
@AspergersGirl yer i do not think u havee AS at alljust fed up on how they or a anoyed or somthing like that so as lady gaga said :we wear born this way
ghosts2kewl 2 months ago
@loveringtaylorswift You are the rude one sir!
karmalevel 3 months ago
Having Asperger's doesn't mean you shouldn't try to better yourself as a person. Everybody has things they're not good at and negative qualities. I'm not saying people with Asperger's need to fight against impossible things, but I agree in at least *trying* to meet the other party half way.
Just because it's harder for us to do certain things doesn't mean we should give up, say it's just who we are and withdraw from everything. You don't have to go insane with it, but it's worth a go, surely.
MentalMaladies 3 months ago
....have someone like that act like a child, or act spoiled. I can understand there are people here that probably have Asperger's and are getting offended. For that I say this, if extreme cases of asperger's usually involve problems identifying body language and emotion, than how did you get offended by this video? Another thing; the first step to recovery is knowing that you are no different than the others. Most people who overly complain about their disorder are unwilling to deal with it.
godiamone 3 months ago
Ok... I see a lot of negative comments, and alot of you are poorly educated or are gullable at best. It's Ok to be ignorant, just don't be an asshole on top of it. Now there are most definitely people who fake, or pretend like it is more severe than it actually is. This is common in aspergers, dyslexia, bi-polar disorder, depression, schizophrenia, and other behavioural disorders. The commonality is that these disorders revolve around the way one is conducting themself. It's not unusual to...
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tinkerbellys12 3 months ago
@tinkerbellys12 lol.
AspergersGirl 3 months ago
if u dnt have aspergers then u need to shushh
laurengullick1 4 months ago
@laurengullick1 I do have aspergers. As it's stated all over my website, and my channel, and in all my videos.
AspergersGirl 3 months ago
I have Aspergers and I don't use it as an reason. But it needs to be used sometimes for others to understand as an example "I have a obbession with history and I often compare everything in class to historical things and people bully me because of this so my teachers say 'se has aspergers and is obbessed with history she can't help it" thats where its fine. But I am sort of racist because of views its not good enought to be racist. If you get my point?
flicksharpe1 4 months ago
I'm starting to believe that the majority of people who claim to have AS on youtube are just your average run of the mill weirdos.
sylarwins 4 months ago
@evade People with aspergers and autism have hard time being self aware. i am often told i am shouting or speaking too quietly. You really shouldnt comment on things you dont understand, because the way I see it you are now wearing the label you so generously tried to apply.
SuperJman6076 4 months ago
doesn't is suck though to be trapped between two worlds on a roller coaster ride spiraling from one extreme to the other. Like you said ... Everybody has a choice... Including you ... You can refuse to associate with an individual for their behavior if it offends as much as they have the right to carry their scar. So I commend you for being yourself ... and respect that you have a valid opinion for you that I differ with.
thorsworld2000 4 months ago
@AspergersGirl do you find it hard verbalising your thoughts at an optimal pace so that everybody around you doesnt assume you have drunk 50 coffees 30minutes ago,,,,, ??
cybermental 4 months ago
@cybermental I have extreme problems verbalising my thoughts in general. Half the time it doesn't come out in the way I mean.
AspergersGirl 4 months ago
@AspergersGirl I hope you dont mind if i send you a short private message about aspergers...... im curious.... i can relate to what you speak of....
cybermental 4 months ago
@AspergersGirl Have you been diagonosed with mixed receptive language disorder?
illusions1010 3 months ago
@illusions1010 ??? no..
AspergersGirl 3 months ago
@AspergersGirl the question was for cybermental.
illusions1010 3 months ago
Your wrong and have no idea what your talking about!
douglasjoe1 4 months ago
@douglasjoe1 I do have an idea what I'm talking about. I am sick of people who actually know better blaming their rude treatment of others on aspergers.
AspergersGirl 3 months ago 3
@douglasjoe1 *you're
karp821 2 months ago