I won't marry because women won't do thier duty in a marriage or respect men any more. On top of that I can have my finances ruined on a whim. I know how "modern" women are, as soon as a man becomes firm with his women and demands respect and that the woman do her part in the marriage she will just say "fuck you, I don't need you". Then they will divorce you, take all your money and if that's not possible they will just get welfare which is still the man's money in a sense.
I understand where you are coming from. But are you really happy? Most woman with your mentatilty are very evil and and unhappy. Of course you won't admit it.
Your voice sounds like Lady Chablis. you never give up control, not even for a man. People who have to answer to anyone else... sad. it's not a real relationship in any form if you are not living first for yourself.
@sweetbrownskin, i understand 100% what ur saying. Trust me. But at the end of the day u still need to decide if u want that special person in ur life or not. And when u find that special person, are they ok with not getting married. It takes 2 people to connect, but they both need to agree. So if u find another man, and he turns out to be ur soul mate, and he wants to get married. are u saying u wont do it? because of ur reasoning? then u loose ur soul mate? Thats a Big price to pay.
Yes! I didn't realize until I was divorced and turning 40 that the reason for that oft quoted statistic about women over 40 having such a tiny chance of remarrying, is that they don't WANT TO. Shocking to me as well that I feel that way. I was faithfully married for 17 years.
Also do you realize that in a marriage, the man also relinquishes some of his power too? If he's a good husband, he can't do whatever he wants whenever he wants either he has a wife and probably children to think about. And the aforementioned are his responsibility. Now if it's a 50-50 thing then you are relinquishing just as much as he is depending on how yall work that out. Give and take on both sides, sista!
If what you are saying is true, and yall are "liberated" and "empowered", then why are black women complaining about the 70% unmarried statistic? Why are so many black women lamenting the fact that they aren't married? What is the truth here? Also ursurping the man in the family structure IS a feminist ideal so like it or not you were influenced by it. However, I don't think a man has to CONTROL you where you can't do the simple things you said you enjoy doing at the beginning of the video.
You cant be "strong and independent" and still want to be married where you have to follow the direction of the man, it does not gel
And thats why BW are having a hard time getting married
Even the white women, who stated this feminism nonsense have higher rates of marriage
You want to be in control, and lets say you find a man that does that, you will get bored and dumb the poor sap because he such a pushover, it makes no sense
If you like your independence so much, keep it, dont marry
Well basically it becomes a catch 22 but I don't think very many women will realize this, sadly. All we can do is point out the obvious at this point, and form relationships with the ones who get it.
She said she was speaking for herself & herself alone & she asked how many women feel the same way. You can't argue with HER reason for liking be single.
yeah i can tell you get rejected by all kinds of women. I feel sorry for you that you have to degrade blk women to make yourself feel half way decent.
How can you say that you believe in god, yet you reject marriage. Marriage is symbolic between God and man. It sound like you like having authority. Everybody has to give in to somebody. You submit to pastors, supervisors, police, and judges just to name a few. What wrong with submitting to a loving husband. please don't have kids so you can damage their minds like yours.
I can relate to you girl, I went through college very focus, never went on a date while being in school. I have always been the kind of sista that puts her career first and men usually last. I was engaged before, but I got cold feet. The whole housewife thing scared me out of it. I always loved being my own person, and I feel I made myself a great living by myself. So I dont need a man to give me anything, I got that.I mean I'll date, but I dont think I'll ever get married. Its just my choice
You know I don't deny your point. It is possible that I am looking only at the negative side of marriage. But I still say that The person who has full and total control is no more because he or she must consider the other's feelings.
u dont want to be married cuz u want to do what you want to do. in marriages it is about we, not i. so u shouldnt be upset that ur single but happy. cant have it both ways
And I am happy. I did this vid. for those who said that I was bitter and angry at being single. This is why that is not true. I'm happy. I think that alot of women are like me but too ashamed or afraid to admit that they don't want to be married. So they blame men for them being single.
i agree with you. its the easy way to make them feel better about themselves. blame men. the solution is to ask urself do u want to be married, and if the answer is yes, figure out what u did to cause urself to be single
Makes no sense. This coming from a young black man whose parents have been together for 40yrs and have seen so many changes in this world. Your opinion though.
There is some truth to this I think black women are used to being control of their own lives and on some subconscious level sabatoge their relationships out of fear of giving up some of their control. Although, we do this we still want to get married but have a difficult time letting the man do what he does without trying to control every aspect of the relationship. We need to learn how to let go, I know this is true for me and this may be true for other women.
Thank you sista for your honesty. Even in that statistic of 70% being unmarried there is fault on both sides. Both men and women are responsible for that statistic. And again it is going to take men and women to solve it.
I must say on the issue of marriage you seem to be looking at the glass as half empty. If being married is seen as giving something up or losing something then it hurts from the start the chances of being successful.
Hmm.. ok but pessimistic or optimistic the truth is the truth. You must relinquish your power to be successful. I can't be married and act the same way I do now. Not if I expect to be married long. Realistically two become one.
You are a very powerful woman. You are a highly intelligent woman. I don't use the word woman lightly. If I mean female I say female. I am saying woman. I am sure that you know in any relationship roles shift. No one is ever always right. The true power lies with the submissive. The submissive will always be. The dominant can not exist without the submissive. In a healthy relation the roles will change as circumstances change. Couples sometimes fail to realize this necessity.
There is only one role when two become one... succeed... reach that goal. Anyone with any sense of truth in them will admit that women are smarter than men. Men are physically stronger usually but women are smarter. Listen to the woman... listen... listen... listen to the woman. Once again I didn't say female i said woman.
You truly are a man of God for your words are so true. There is nothing that can be said against what you are saying. It is obvious that you have sound doctrine on which you base these statements. I guess the Father wanted me to hear you for some reason. And I have. But the thought of marriage still scares me.
It is not about being afraid. It is about overcoming your fears because God has not given us the spirit of fear. He has given us a Spirit of power. Give God time and trust Him and he will give you what you need exactly when you need it.
Wow! You are right because no matter how I dip and dodge when God says it's time it will be. I'm just enjoying the blessing of being single right now. lol
Ladies it is real because you know that to be true within you. Now just multiply by 1000 and quite naturally yes others are the same. They know this to be true for themselves. But like some homosexuals who stay in the closet they stay in the closet. Others just deny it to themselves.
Have I touch on a taboo subject? Maybe so it is so easy to say all men out here sorry, rather than to say I just don't want the constraints of marriage.
It really is deep! I mean is this the black woman's form of the womens rights movement. 70% of us are single is this the reason why? I mean if you really wanted to be married you would be. Come on if that was your only goal in life you would be married. Whether or not you would be happy is another question
I won't marry because women won't do thier duty in a marriage or respect men any more. On top of that I can have my finances ruined on a whim. I know how "modern" women are, as soon as a man becomes firm with his women and demands respect and that the woman do her part in the marriage she will just say "fuck you, I don't need you". Then they will divorce you, take all your money and if that's not possible they will just get welfare which is still the man's money in a sense.
MrROTD 1 week ago
I understand where you are coming from. But are you really happy? Most woman with your mentatilty are very evil and and unhappy. Of course you won't admit it.
errol1 8 months ago
Your voice sounds like Lady Chablis. you never give up control, not even for a man. People who have to answer to anyone else... sad. it's not a real relationship in any form if you are not living first for yourself.
Kismetkim69 9 months ago
i went running at 3 o clock this mornin
anthonyvwoodhouse 1 year ago
@sweetbrownskin, i understand 100% what ur saying. Trust me. But at the end of the day u still need to decide if u want that special person in ur life or not. And when u find that special person, are they ok with not getting married. It takes 2 people to connect, but they both need to agree. So if u find another man, and he turns out to be ur soul mate, and he wants to get married. are u saying u wont do it? because of ur reasoning? then u loose ur soul mate? Thats a Big price to pay.
zk92000 1 year ago
You could get a remote control!
Assaultdpretxel 2 years ago
no disrespect, her vocal patterns remind me so much of the soul singer Betty Wright.
HulkonaBitch 2 years ago
you also forgot to add sweetbrownskin,
If i want I can buy myself some fresh batteries for my vibrator,
If i want I can have as many cats as i want.
whitebitchnigga 2 years ago
Yes! I didn't realize until I was divorced and turning 40 that the reason for that oft quoted statistic about women over 40 having such a tiny chance of remarrying, is that they don't WANT TO. Shocking to me as well that I feel that way. I was faithfully married for 17 years.
Assaultdpretxel 2 years ago
Also do you realize that in a marriage, the man also relinquishes some of his power too? If he's a good husband, he can't do whatever he wants whenever he wants either he has a wife and probably children to think about. And the aforementioned are his responsibility. Now if it's a 50-50 thing then you are relinquishing just as much as he is depending on how yall work that out. Give and take on both sides, sista!
dealmaker007 3 years ago
If what you are saying is true, and yall are "liberated" and "empowered", then why are black women complaining about the 70% unmarried statistic? Why are so many black women lamenting the fact that they aren't married? What is the truth here? Also ursurping the man in the family structure IS a feminist ideal so like it or not you were influenced by it. However, I don't think a man has to CONTROL you where you can't do the simple things you said you enjoy doing at the beginning of the video.
dealmaker007 3 years ago
You cant be "strong and independent" and still want to be married where you have to follow the direction of the man, it does not gel
And thats why BW are having a hard time getting married
Even the white women, who stated this feminism nonsense have higher rates of marriage
You want to be in control, and lets say you find a man that does that, you will get bored and dumb the poor sap because he such a pushover, it makes no sense
If you like your independence so much, keep it, dont marry
GenLaughingMan 3 years ago
Well basically it becomes a catch 22 but I don't think very many women will realize this, sadly. All we can do is point out the obvious at this point, and form relationships with the ones who get it.
dealmaker007 3 years ago
COMPANIONSHIP !!!
crpdm1965 3 years ago
She said she was speaking for herself & herself alone & she asked how many women feel the same way. You can't argue with HER reason for liking be single.
badderinperson 3 years ago
I know a good doctor
SisterswithAsses 3 years ago
(see video)Unpretty by tlc(musiclover036)
Beryl333 3 years ago
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totalalisa 3 years ago
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totalalisa 3 years ago
Black women want pushovers because bw are dominant bossy and out of control. Black women are the most rejected women in world history!
TechKnowStudio 3 years ago
yeah i can tell you get rejected by all kinds of women. I feel sorry for you that you have to degrade blk women to make yourself feel half way decent.
totalalisaagain 3 years ago
They killed his character off of good times... :(
dealmaker007 3 years ago
How can you say that you believe in god, yet you reject marriage. Marriage is symbolic between God and man. It sound like you like having authority. Everybody has to give in to somebody. You submit to pastors, supervisors, police, and judges just to name a few. What wrong with submitting to a loving husband. please don't have kids so you can damage their minds like yours.
reality500 3 years ago
She's a low tramp now free to go out and fornicate at 3 in the morning like a fool.
She hates black men like all the rest of them.
TechKnowStudio 3 years ago
I can relate to you girl, I went through college very focus, never went on a date while being in school. I have always been the kind of sista that puts her career first and men usually last. I was engaged before, but I got cold feet. The whole housewife thing scared me out of it. I always loved being my own person, and I feel I made myself a great living by myself. So I dont need a man to give me anything, I got that.I mean I'll date, but I dont think I'll ever get married. Its just my choice
SistaChiC 3 years ago
When you marry you do not suppose to relinquish anything. You suppose to gain and grow together
dua72 3 years ago
You know I don't deny your point. It is possible that I am looking only at the negative side of marriage. But I still say that The person who has full and total control is no more because he or she must consider the other's feelings.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
u dont want to be married cuz u want to do what you want to do. in marriages it is about we, not i. so u shouldnt be upset that ur single but happy. cant have it both ways
agray10 3 years ago
And I am happy. I did this vid. for those who said that I was bitter and angry at being single. This is why that is not true. I'm happy. I think that alot of women are like me but too ashamed or afraid to admit that they don't want to be married. So they blame men for them being single.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
i agree with you. its the easy way to make them feel better about themselves. blame men. the solution is to ask urself do u want to be married, and if the answer is yes, figure out what u did to cause urself to be single
agray10 3 years ago
Makes no sense. This coming from a young black man whose parents have been together for 40yrs and have seen so many changes in this world. Your opinion though.
goat918 3 years ago
My parents have been together for 47 years and the world has changed. But what about it makes no sense.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
There is some truth to this I think black women are used to being control of their own lives and on some subconscious level sabatoge their relationships out of fear of giving up some of their control. Although, we do this we still want to get married but have a difficult time letting the man do what he does without trying to control every aspect of the relationship. We need to learn how to let go, I know this is true for me and this may be true for other women.
SunScorpio8 3 years ago
Thank you sista for your honesty. Even in that statistic of 70% being unmarried there is fault on both sides. Both men and women are responsible for that statistic. And again it is going to take men and women to solve it.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
I must say on the issue of marriage you seem to be looking at the glass as half empty. If being married is seen as giving something up or losing something then it hurts from the start the chances of being successful.
Rdardenea 3 years ago
Hmm.. ok but pessimistic or optimistic the truth is the truth. You must relinquish your power to be successful. I can't be married and act the same way I do now. Not if I expect to be married long. Realistically two become one.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
You are a very powerful woman. You are a highly intelligent woman. I don't use the word woman lightly. If I mean female I say female. I am saying woman. I am sure that you know in any relationship roles shift. No one is ever always right. The true power lies with the submissive. The submissive will always be. The dominant can not exist without the submissive. In a healthy relation the roles will change as circumstances change. Couples sometimes fail to realize this necessity.
Rdardenea 3 years ago
Wouldn't you agree that alot of marriages fail because of confused roles within the household? That is too many cheifs and not enough indians.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
There is only one role when two become one... succeed... reach that goal. Anyone with any sense of truth in them will admit that women are smarter than men. Men are physically stronger usually but women are smarter. Listen to the woman... listen... listen... listen to the woman. Once again I didn't say female i said woman.
Rdardenea 3 years ago
You truly are a man of God for your words are so true. There is nothing that can be said against what you are saying. It is obvious that you have sound doctrine on which you base these statements. I guess the Father wanted me to hear you for some reason. And I have. But the thought of marriage still scares me.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
It is not about being afraid. It is about overcoming your fears because God has not given us the spirit of fear. He has given us a Spirit of power. Give God time and trust Him and he will give you what you need exactly when you need it.
Rdardenea 3 years ago
Wow! You are right because no matter how I dip and dodge when God says it's time it will be. I'm just enjoying the blessing of being single right now. lol
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
Ladies it is real because you know that to be true within you. Now just multiply by 1000 and quite naturally yes others are the same. They know this to be true for themselves. But like some homosexuals who stay in the closet they stay in the closet. Others just deny it to themselves.
soulnblack 3 years ago
Have I touch on a taboo subject? Maybe so it is so easy to say all men out here sorry, rather than to say I just don't want the constraints of marriage.
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago
That is deep! Ok ... you may be right. I mean do like to be in control and not answering to anybody. Wow! good question.
righteouslady 3 years ago
It really is deep! I mean is this the black woman's form of the womens rights movement. 70% of us are single is this the reason why? I mean if you really wanted to be married you would be. Come on if that was your only goal in life you would be married. Whether or not you would be happy is another question
sweetbrownskin 3 years ago