I've always said it should be GLBTQIA the A meaning allies. I think it would be perhaps the most important letter. I love the straight people that stand up for us. To me it's like the white folks that came down here to the south and defended the rights of the black people. I think none of us are an island to ourselves and need others as allies. I have friends of all types but if I'm offended (or if I offend them) we tell each other. I would rather know if I offended someone.
I'm not black and I get super pissed when anybody says anything remotely racist. My exboyfriend once said that he "doesn't trust black people" and the comment just turned me to ice.
A friend of mine (non-native English speaker) said "Injun" instead of "Indian" the other day and I had to stop the conversation and say "Dude... that's a racial slur. Be careful how you pronounce indian or you're going to sound like an asshole." And I'm not an Indian.
As others have said, it's more than okay to stand up for people being slurred, no matter what your connection to them is or whether or not you even have a direct connection to them. It's good to stand up for people when they aren't there to stand up for themselves.
On another note, there are ways to stay part of the queer community. I know a woman who visited our college during pride week who had identified as a lesbian, but married a transman. She goes around educating people about queer stuff
there are terms that are offensive regardless of whether you actually identify as one of the groups they are speaking of or not. you could just tell the people who say them, "hey that is not cool to say stuff like that"... and it's none of their business why you think it. that it is ignorant and assinine to say such slurs should be enough.
oh, i don't think you SHOULD hold your tongue when somebody says something bigoted, no matter what they know about you. not that i think anybody can always afford to be the voice that stands up against oppression of whatever kind, but i think if you can muster the strength to say, "no, that [racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/etc] remark is not okay", all the better! in some way, people might actually listen to you more if they think you're a straight woman.
I've always said it should be GLBTQIA the A meaning allies. I think it would be perhaps the most important letter. I love the straight people that stand up for us. To me it's like the white folks that came down here to the south and defended the rights of the black people. I think none of us are an island to ourselves and need others as allies. I have friends of all types but if I'm offended (or if I offend them) we tell each other. I would rather know if I offended someone.
gentlebutch 2 years ago
I'm not black and I get super pissed when anybody says anything remotely racist. My exboyfriend once said that he "doesn't trust black people" and the comment just turned me to ice.
A friend of mine (non-native English speaker) said "Injun" instead of "Indian" the other day and I had to stop the conversation and say "Dude... that's a racial slur. Be careful how you pronounce indian or you're going to sound like an asshole." And I'm not an Indian.
Allies of all kinds are always appreciated! <3
sillyyetsuccinct 2 years ago
As others have said, it's more than okay to stand up for people being slurred, no matter what your connection to them is or whether or not you even have a direct connection to them. It's good to stand up for people when they aren't there to stand up for themselves.
On another note, there are ways to stay part of the queer community. I know a woman who visited our college during pride week who had identified as a lesbian, but married a transman. She goes around educating people about queer stuff
tobeyanonymous 2 years ago
there are terms that are offensive regardless of whether you actually identify as one of the groups they are speaking of or not. you could just tell the people who say them, "hey that is not cool to say stuff like that"... and it's none of their business why you think it. that it is ignorant and assinine to say such slurs should be enough.
youcancallmethedude 2 years ago
oh, i don't think you SHOULD hold your tongue when somebody says something bigoted, no matter what they know about you. not that i think anybody can always afford to be the voice that stands up against oppression of whatever kind, but i think if you can muster the strength to say, "no, that [racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/etc] remark is not okay", all the better! in some way, people might actually listen to you more if they think you're a straight woman.
asebastian249 2 years ago
Your views are greatly appreciated. Change is inevitable.
tobyr3 2 years ago
*hugs* thanks toby!
mytransman 2 years ago
my girlfriend and I support the GLBTQ community as a heterosexual couple.
transcenderJR 2 years ago
Thank you for that....we need more people like you in this world. You support means more than you can even know.
mytransman 2 years ago