5:04 to 5:36 of the video made me have bitter tears; this video has become a real eye opener for me and it has completely confirmed what I read in the bible about people like these, I read all about this in the bible; the bible clearly explained all this narcissistic behavior and I was in so much denial that I couldn't bring myself to clearly see this behavior in my family. I'm glad that I'm still young. From this day I know that God has arranged this day for me to see this video.
@starsheild7 would you like to talk? You can email me at delusiondispeller@gmail.com. I'm here for you. I lived it and am continuing to heal as well. God bless you too.
@starsheild7 you feel free to email me whenever it is convenient. Tomorrow I am dealing with my fiancee's dr appt and getting some teeth repaired in my own head.
My sister is a narsissist and she is a horrific person to have in our family. She does her best to make your life hell, then expects an apology for whatever she believes you've done wrong in her mind. She's a hard core drama queen, everything revolves around her, reguardless of whether or not you want her in your life.
I am in therapy because of this monster. My therapist suggesting texting if I absolutley have to communicate due to a family emergency, it works well.
I took an overdose after my husband insulted me in front of my friends. MY husband did not even come to see me in hospital. I was shattered about that. He showed no remorse or empathy whatsoever. I Knew then that If ever I got real sick he would not be there for me ! and that hurt. He is happy only when things are going his way, other times hes negative and moody. Is he a narcissist?
@ilovemymum777 I definitely would say that your husband showed some signs of narcissism there or at least self-centeredness. He could also be borderline and it's hard to tell the difference because of the crossover of the two disorders.
@ilovemymum777 He possibly is, but I'm going to be honest with you. You are responsible for the overdose you took. It was your choice to feel sorry for yourself because he insulted you in front of your friends. You can be sure he knows this. Not all narcissists are stupid and are often quite smart, as a matter of fact. He can use this against you to claim you are weak. Never let yourself be a victim of a narcissist. The more you give them control, the more they will seek ways to get it
All the information you give here is so true ! The only one you missed place at my is the silent treatment that could last up to a week . I am like "lisasingsfree", I kept falling for the" I will change" or the charm for about 24 hrs before he wanted sex. This for me was probably the biggest betrayal act, as after being married for many years you start to see the pattern, you only become univisible and he only becomes so charming when he needs his desires filled and then it's back to reality.
Instead of "helping" perfect strangers, why not take care of that crying grandchild? How 'bout creating videos at night when she's sleeping or when she's with her parents?
@shiftingparadigms what crying grandchild, first of all? Secondly, my grandchild is 3 years old now, doing fine, and got more attention in her life from me than from anyone else back in the time of my filming these videos. Her mom has worked full-time since she's been born and still does. My granddaughter spends most of her time in daycare during the day, and she is just now, beginning to talk. I will post her video here so you can be assured that she is doing ok.
@shiftingparadigms How do you know the grandchild didn't awaken in the middle of the video? It was only a couple of minutes. The child will live, and if anything, learn a thing or two about patience. Use a little common sense.
@Terrigm45 is there a reason you feel the need to be so degrading toward me? Are you perhaps one of the types of people I've been referring to in my videos? I hope not! Examine yourself please, and be kind.
@shiftingparadigms how about finding a different channel if my granddaughter's crying (which was very normal for her) is upsetting to you. She was never abused by me in any way, I assure you, but instead, i have spent most of her life trying to protect her from neglectful situations she's ended up in.
I'm sitting next to my NPD husband in the middle of a silent treatment phase. This is after 2 weeks of telling me how much he loves me. We go in about 2 week cycles - honeymoon period, then crash-->explosion-->silent treatment. I knew years ago what I was dealing with (we've been together 7 years), but he always promises to change, and then becomes very loving, and stupidly I always fall for it. I'm becoming less stupid. Thank you for these videos!! I don't feel so crazy!
why does that bother you and it's because I was stressing that people are unique and individual and free. The butterfly is a symbol of freedom. I haven't made videos in a long time anyway, and when I stopped doing my butterflies, I had already posted my videos and was not about to remake every one that I had a symbol on my face in. Hope that makes sense. I don't have a whole lot of time to mess with things like that and the butterfly served its purpose at that time, but time moves on.
I appreciate knowing what I was up against in my marriage. As you said he blamed me for being 'overly sensitive' and 'too emotional.' I would advise him about proper parenting, etc. I didn't know this caused him to seethe inside with anger at being 'criticized'. He never expressed his feelings & even denied it if I asked if I hurt his feelings. And yes, he refused to take me to the hospital when I broke my foot. The silent treatment was his specialty, as was being too busy to acknowledge me
THANK YOU BBUNCHES FOR ALL THAT YOU DO. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE A FRIEND VIA NET THAT UNDERSTANDS ME. I AM ABOUT TO GET DIVORCED TO A CHRISTIAN NARCISSIST WHO CONFUSED ME 3 YEARS AGO FROM ME BEING IS MUSA TO HIS WORSE NIGHTMARE NO MATTER WHAT I DID. I TRIED TO BE PERFECT AND NEVER PLEASED HIM. HE WAS ANGRY EVERYDAY AND NEGLECTED ME WITH ALL HIS MIGHT, BUT THIS SAME PERSON TOOK HIS TIME EVRY MORNING TO READ THE BIBLE. IT IS NAUSEATING TO SEE THAT AS HE HAS NO LOVE IN HIS HEART OR EMPATHY
I am the son of a narcissistic father and i have just this year realized what was going on. as one might guess, self esteem problems have plagued me recurrently all of my life. Recently i have come to the realization that i am not garbage, that i am not incapable of success and advancement and that the things i am very talented at aren't just destined to go to waste, and indeed this is only what i have been programed to believe for 18 years....
@mortum000 i have become a master at detaching myself emotionally from the situation, and i can very easily see what makes him tick. There is one problem though. You say it is important to learn to be your own individual person, but i came to realize that i indeed have no clue who i am on my own...
@mortum000 Whenever i dont know what to think about something, which is most of the time i immediately default to thinking that i am sup par, or a failure in that area. I know this is a programmed response but the only countermeasure i know is to tell myself i am good at it, which is as much a delusion as thinking that i fail because in truth i still have no idea and i am still shooting in the dark, so i am still as confused as ever. How can i find who i am and stop thinking so poorly of myself?
@mortum000 I was finally getting a chance to read over all the posts on here that I have been so busy and didn't have time to check on. Yours caught my eye and I want to respond to you. The way you reclaim or claim who you are as an individual is, EXPERIMENT. That's right....begin tasting different foods to discover "hey IIIIII like that!" Go places to find out what appeals to you. You can do this and you must. God did not create you to be someone's puppet or clone. Find YOU...
I really wish I had known this when I was married years ago. This is incredible information and everything you said was absolutely true. This describes my ex spouse better than anything I have read. This is a form of mental illness that I had to deal with for years without understanding how to cope, therefore I did what I knew at the time and that is to totally leave and detach myself from this individual. Now, even after years of being divorced, I am so glad I left. I should have sooner.
this is very true, ive just gotten out of a relationship with someone who was like this, i was with him for a year and 3 months. and i didnt realize it until i got out of it whcih was only 2 weeks ago, i was wondering why i felt so bad, as if he'd always put the blame on me, i was always anxious, started getting very depressed, shy, lack in self respect, and very worried and concerned. im now seeing a councilor. aah your a genius darling :)
everything you are saying is true. i didn't learn all of this until i attended this denomational church and was baptized. I go to the bible classes and have learned so much and now make better decisions. I know this sounds crazy. my husband was doing this for soooo long., but i didn't know. I really believe the bible teaches us about ourself and other people...I have been reading books on narcissist also..I am so amazed how it matches him so. Thank You keep the videos coming.
GREAT CLEAR AND CONCISE VIDEO....I think there's alot of truth and clarity to this segment.
lkofie 3 weeks ago
5:04 to 5:36 of the video made me have bitter tears; this video has become a real eye opener for me and it has completely confirmed what I read in the bible about people like these, I read all about this in the bible; the bible clearly explained all this narcissistic behavior and I was in so much denial that I couldn't bring myself to clearly see this behavior in my family. I'm glad that I'm still young. From this day I know that God has arranged this day for me to see this video.
God bless you.
starsheild7 1 month ago
@starsheild7 would you like to talk? You can email me at delusiondispeller@gmail.com. I'm here for you. I lived it and am continuing to heal as well. God bless you too.
DelusionDispeller 1 month ago
@DelusionDispeller I would love to talk. My schedual has been a little busy but I'll send you an email message very soon.
God bless you.
starsheild7 1 week ago
@starsheild7 you feel free to email me whenever it is convenient. Tomorrow I am dealing with my fiancee's dr appt and getting some teeth repaired in my own head.
DelusionDispeller 1 week ago
I WAS ALWAYS USEFUL...GIFTS?...HE GAVE GIFTS TO TO OTHER PPLTHAT DID NOTHING FOR HIM...GO FIGURE?
BUT THAT WAS IN THE PAST...I KNOW THAT HE'S GONING TO TRY & DO BETTER.... :D
maryhadalittlelamb25 1 month ago
My sister is a narsissist and she is a horrific person to have in our family. She does her best to make your life hell, then expects an apology for whatever she believes you've done wrong in her mind. She's a hard core drama queen, everything revolves around her, reguardless of whether or not you want her in your life.
I am in therapy because of this monster. My therapist suggesting texting if I absolutley have to communicate due to a family emergency, it works well.
SammyHagarSim 1 month ago
I took an overdose after my husband insulted me in front of my friends. MY husband did not even come to see me in hospital. I was shattered about that. He showed no remorse or empathy whatsoever. I Knew then that If ever I got real sick he would not be there for me ! and that hurt. He is happy only when things are going his way, other times hes negative and moody. Is he a narcissist?
ilovemymum777 2 months ago
@ilovemymum777 I definitely would say that your husband showed some signs of narcissism there or at least self-centeredness. He could also be borderline and it's hard to tell the difference because of the crossover of the two disorders.
DelusionDispeller 2 months ago
@ilovemymum777 He possibly is, but I'm going to be honest with you. You are responsible for the overdose you took. It was your choice to feel sorry for yourself because he insulted you in front of your friends. You can be sure he knows this. Not all narcissists are stupid and are often quite smart, as a matter of fact. He can use this against you to claim you are weak. Never let yourself be a victim of a narcissist. The more you give them control, the more they will seek ways to get it
Terrigm45 2 months ago
A good video
islandliving1952 5 months ago in playlist islandliving1952's Favorited Videos
That's funny i find that women are like that ?
gasttheplast 7 months ago
All the information you give here is so true ! The only one you missed place at my is the silent treatment that could last up to a week . I am like "lisasingsfree", I kept falling for the" I will change" or the charm for about 24 hrs before he wanted sex. This for me was probably the biggest betrayal act, as after being married for many years you start to see the pattern, you only become univisible and he only becomes so charming when he needs his desires filled and then it's back to reality.
403rose 8 months ago
Wow I am really impressed with the large amount of correct information you put on this short video! great job!
naturemom57 9 months ago
Great video! I think the previous poster is hearing what sounds like a cat meowing in the background maybe?
plugincharmed 9 months ago
Instead of "helping" perfect strangers, why not take care of that crying grandchild? How 'bout creating videos at night when she's sleeping or when she's with her parents?
shiftingparadigms 10 months ago
@shiftingparadigms what crying grandchild, first of all? Secondly, my grandchild is 3 years old now, doing fine, and got more attention in her life from me than from anyone else back in the time of my filming these videos. Her mom has worked full-time since she's been born and still does. My granddaughter spends most of her time in daycare during the day, and she is just now, beginning to talk. I will post her video here so you can be assured that she is doing ok.
DelusionDispeller 10 months ago
@shiftingparadigms How do you know the grandchild didn't awaken in the middle of the video? It was only a couple of minutes. The child will live, and if anything, learn a thing or two about patience. Use a little common sense.
Terrigm45 2 months ago
@Terrigm45 is there a reason you feel the need to be so degrading toward me? Are you perhaps one of the types of people I've been referring to in my videos? I hope not! Examine yourself please, and be kind.
DelusionDispeller 1 month ago
@shiftingparadigms how about finding a different channel if my granddaughter's crying (which was very normal for her) is upsetting to you. She was never abused by me in any way, I assure you, but instead, i have spent most of her life trying to protect her from neglectful situations she's ended up in.
DelusionDispeller 1 month ago
I love the butterfly! Thank you for posting these videos.
lawstudentgirl1 10 months ago
Please help me I am being held hostage by this man!
alliecollier43 11 months ago
@alliecollier43 you need to tell a safe person somehow and remove yourself from the situation
DelusionDispeller 1 month ago
I'm sitting next to my NPD husband in the middle of a silent treatment phase. This is after 2 weeks of telling me how much he loves me. We go in about 2 week cycles - honeymoon period, then crash-->explosion-->silent treatment. I knew years ago what I was dealing with (we've been together 7 years), but he always promises to change, and then becomes very loving, and stupidly I always fall for it. I'm becoming less stupid. Thank you for these videos!! I don't feel so crazy!
lisasingsfree 1 year ago
why does that bother you and it's because I was stressing that people are unique and individual and free. The butterfly is a symbol of freedom. I haven't made videos in a long time anyway, and when I stopped doing my butterflies, I had already posted my videos and was not about to remake every one that I had a symbol on my face in. Hope that makes sense. I don't have a whole lot of time to mess with things like that and the butterfly served its purpose at that time, but time moves on.
DelusionDispeller 1 year ago
I appreciate knowing what I was up against in my marriage. As you said he blamed me for being 'overly sensitive' and 'too emotional.' I would advise him about proper parenting, etc. I didn't know this caused him to seethe inside with anger at being 'criticized'. He never expressed his feelings & even denied it if I asked if I hurt his feelings. And yes, he refused to take me to the hospital when I broke my foot. The silent treatment was his specialty, as was being too busy to acknowledge me
kaylu12 1 year ago
THANK YOU BBUNCHES FOR ALL THAT YOU DO. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE A FRIEND VIA NET THAT UNDERSTANDS ME. I AM ABOUT TO GET DIVORCED TO A CHRISTIAN NARCISSIST WHO CONFUSED ME 3 YEARS AGO FROM ME BEING IS MUSA TO HIS WORSE NIGHTMARE NO MATTER WHAT I DID. I TRIED TO BE PERFECT AND NEVER PLEASED HIM. HE WAS ANGRY EVERYDAY AND NEGLECTED ME WITH ALL HIS MIGHT, BUT THIS SAME PERSON TOOK HIS TIME EVRY MORNING TO READ THE BIBLE. IT IS NAUSEATING TO SEE THAT AS HE HAS NO LOVE IN HIS HEART OR EMPATHY
love74ism 1 year ago
I am the son of a narcissistic father and i have just this year realized what was going on. as one might guess, self esteem problems have plagued me recurrently all of my life. Recently i have come to the realization that i am not garbage, that i am not incapable of success and advancement and that the things i am very talented at aren't just destined to go to waste, and indeed this is only what i have been programed to believe for 18 years....
mortum000 1 year ago
@mortum000 i have become a master at detaching myself emotionally from the situation, and i can very easily see what makes him tick. There is one problem though. You say it is important to learn to be your own individual person, but i came to realize that i indeed have no clue who i am on my own...
mortum000 1 year ago
@mortum000 Whenever i dont know what to think about something, which is most of the time i immediately default to thinking that i am sup par, or a failure in that area. I know this is a programmed response but the only countermeasure i know is to tell myself i am good at it, which is as much a delusion as thinking that i fail because in truth i still have no idea and i am still shooting in the dark, so i am still as confused as ever. How can i find who i am and stop thinking so poorly of myself?
mortum000 1 year ago
@mortum000 I was finally getting a chance to read over all the posts on here that I have been so busy and didn't have time to check on. Yours caught my eye and I want to respond to you. The way you reclaim or claim who you are as an individual is, EXPERIMENT. That's right....begin tasting different foods to discover "hey IIIIII like that!" Go places to find out what appeals to you. You can do this and you must. God did not create you to be someone's puppet or clone. Find YOU...
DelusionDispeller 1 year ago
I really wish I had known this when I was married years ago. This is incredible information and everything you said was absolutely true. This describes my ex spouse better than anything I have read. This is a form of mental illness that I had to deal with for years without understanding how to cope, therefore I did what I knew at the time and that is to totally leave and detach myself from this individual. Now, even after years of being divorced, I am so glad I left. I should have sooner.
Renley1 1 year ago
this is very true, ive just gotten out of a relationship with someone who was like this, i was with him for a year and 3 months. and i didnt realize it until i got out of it whcih was only 2 weeks ago, i was wondering why i felt so bad, as if he'd always put the blame on me, i was always anxious, started getting very depressed, shy, lack in self respect, and very worried and concerned. im now seeing a councilor. aah your a genius darling :)
SaraTourettes 1 year ago
everything you are saying is true. i didn't learn all of this until i attended this denomational church and was baptized. I go to the bible classes and have learned so much and now make better decisions. I know this sounds crazy. my husband was doing this for soooo long., but i didn't know. I really believe the bible teaches us about ourself and other people...I have been reading books on narcissist also..I am so amazed how it matches him so. Thank You keep the videos coming.
mariej52 1 year ago
you are so beautiful to me!!! cant you see :)
SuperSweetpea23 1 year ago
@SuperSweetpea23 aw that is very kind. :) Thank you. You are beautiful to God and to me as well!
DelusionDispeller 1 month ago
@DelusionDispeller Hey thanks for the reply back. now i have subscribed to your channel
SuperSweetpea23 1 month ago