It should say something when the video starts out talking about a nice guy, in the context of being a bad thing.
To summarize...
1). Niceness doesn't equal love (getting jerked around does)
2). You're stringing him along (he'll be better off whacking it)
3). Discover what you really want (a guy who will treat you like shit...seriously, being abused by a guy who thinks he owns the world will indeed float your boat)
Advice to nice guys stop being nice . When you stop caring about women your neediness goes , your insecurities go. women hate over protective,paranoid guys and clingy guys although this is completely primal.Any guy who says he is happy with there girl hanging with other guys is a lair plain and simple . Modern relationships are nothing more than an act . that's why people are so messed up these days. Most guys learn this lesson after a couple of broken hearts!
The missing element is actually ATTRACTION not 'love.' The woman may love the guy and care about him, but he doesn't give her the feelings (possibly because he isn't exciting and challenging enough)
kill the bad boys. burn them alive. gut the bad boys. castrate the bad boys. cut the bad boys' throat in the middle of the night, he wont argue the bravado of this, all he will do is gurgle on his own blood and die.
i did a search dgltowing and this came up...feelings arent always right...good marrages are never based on feelings...i have been in relationships where my feelings where "stay with her" but she cheated...i believe that if you are with a nice guy stick it out...love is like an apple tree you plant seeds and they grow...it dont happen over night but if you nurish your relationship you will get love in return because love is not a feeling its an action when you say i love you where is the verb?
The more clingy and needy he acts...the more repulsed and turned off by him I am. He tells me he wants me to call him alot because I want to not because he has to ask..but if I dont call him for a day...he acts all wounded and hurt. He is starting to come off as a very narcissistic person and I dont really know how to get away :(
You know 6 months ago I would of disagreed and said there is no such thing as a guy that is too nice...but I would have been dead wrong! I have found myself in this exact situation. I have tried to express to this person my discomfort in the excessive gifts that he keeps trying to give to me...in a way it has just made me think that he is trying to buy me.
If that's what you mean then you should say that."No women in their right mind would want to be in a relationship with a psychopath"
I know several right now,Because they think love is that feeling they get like skydiving out an aeroplane.I know people that have been with the wrong person so long they don't know what to do with the right person when they come along.I also have seen People with nothing in common that have great relationships.Love is how an individual defines it for themselves.
You make some big assumptions and you still don't get it. I don't know why you think "satisfying your soul" has anything to do with being with a psychopath. No woman in her right mind would want to have a relationship with a psychopath!
What I was referring to were things like sharing common interests, having compatible goals in life, encouraging each other's passions and strengths. Kindness and respect are necessary components in a good relationship, but niceness by itself is not enough.
This is a huge myth i can easily prove wrong.Go out on a bunch of first dates and be a total jerk,see how many second dates you get.I gaurantee every girl would say "i'm not going out with him again, he's a jerk!!".even the jerks know this so they suck up until you have made some commitments and feel you have too much invested to leave before they reveal themselves.If people wanted to be with a jerk why would the divorce rates be so high? divorce court is not filled with nice people.
You guys don't get it. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being nice. This video was done for women who are staying in a relationship with someone just because that person is nice, rather than finding the person who truly satisfies their soul. This same information could be given to men.
Women do like nice guys, but they don't fall in love with guys just because they're nice ... there has to be something more ... like a deeply satisfying connection.
So if nice isn't the defining difference then why have it in the title? Satisfying your soul sounds like your saying you need to be in a relationship with a bad boy (psychopath) and put an element of the danger in getting your ass whipped on a daily basis.That's not Love either, that just gives people the wrong idea about what love is.I say, if your in a relationship with a guy that treats you with kindness and respect.Why don't you tell them how to make that relationship more interesting.
Aw ... that's not true and not what I meant to imply. It's a wonderful thing to be in a relationship with a guy who treats you right. I'll have to make a video that addresses this for all those great, nice guys out there. Thanks for the assignment. :)
Good points, however, I can't cover every possible issue in a short feature like this.
Also, understand that attraction happens on many levels. This woman may have been emotionally attracted to this man in an attempt to resolve some past issue or satisfy a need, but at the same time, on another level, she also could be physically repulsed by this man. Attraction can be quite complex.
Many women these days are waiting for that Prince charming guy to be exciting, romantic, charming, sensitive, funny, secure, handsome, mysterious etc.
If women expect these things from men then they should offer the same as well, yet I constantly come across women just holding out for that man yet they have nothing to offer in return but their boring existence!!
The bottom line...expect ONLY as much as you have to offer! If you are boring don't expect someone to transform your life!
I tried to post that in 2 parts, part one didn't take, now I have to split it into 3. That is good advice for women, here's MEN ADVICE (1/3). Women don't make sense to most men because they love you for how they FEEL & more importantly how you make them feel about themselves. "Nice guys" or really needy guys use logic, ie, if I follow her around like a puppy and give her everything she wants, she'll see that and fall in love with me. Makes sense logically, but it's WRONG. (next)
Part 2. I have found by dating a lot of women and having standards that they want a challenge (also fun, interesting, and strong). Being nice doesn't create love, being a challenge does. Why do so many women date jerks and then cry on the shoulder of the nice guy who is always there for them about why the jerk they are dating can't be a nice guy? He's a challenge. Nice guy is not a challenge even he can give her what she wants, just not what she needs. (finished below)
Because modern american and western women are losers. Let's face it, they'll screw any penniless bum exciting jackass then once they've been saddled with 2 or 3 children from these losers they'll seek out mr. nice guy the dependable one to pay the bills. To say it in another way. Hi nerd (nice guy) we had a great party and had lots of fun, never invited you but we'd like it if you would pick up the tab.
He's a complete jerk who treats her wrong constantly, but she thinks she can turn him into what you already are as a nice guy but you give it away WAY to easily and it is needy and repelling. Most people want what they cannot have until they get it, then they no longer want it once they have it. For those who don't understand, I am NOT saying act like a jerk, but explaining why women date jerks and why they don't like guys who have no idea what being a man is all about.
It should say something when the video starts out talking about a nice guy, in the context of being a bad thing.
To summarize...
1). Niceness doesn't equal love (getting jerked around does)
2). You're stringing him along (he'll be better off whacking it)
3). Discover what you really want (a guy who will treat you like shit...seriously, being abused by a guy who thinks he owns the world will indeed float your boat)
randommagnum 1 year ago
Nice guys always end up last.
menelikmen 2 years ago
Advice to nice guys stop being nice . When you stop caring about women your neediness goes , your insecurities go. women hate over protective,paranoid guys and clingy guys although this is completely primal.Any guy who says he is happy with there girl hanging with other guys is a lair plain and simple . Modern relationships are nothing more than an act . that's why people are so messed up these days. Most guys learn this lesson after a couple of broken hearts!
HateGrind 2 years ago
your all wrong! it's not about if love,
or attraction, money, being nice, or LACK OF communication or having a excellent sex life!
WOMEN CAN NEVER BE SATISFIED!...FROM ANYTHING!!
they want there house painted 100,000 diffent times afterward they want the orginal color!
THANKS feminsm and the sexual revolution
misfits2012 2 years ago
BE THE BIGGEST ASSHOLE. PERIOD!
AceroySangre 3 years ago 4
take a fucking look at yourself chris. it could be love. your just way to selfish. u will probably love someone who doesent love u
e5d4c3 3 years ago
The missing element is actually ATTRACTION not 'love.' The woman may love the guy and care about him, but he doesn't give her the feelings (possibly because he isn't exciting and challenging enough)
TimpBizkit 3 years ago
kill the bad boys. burn them alive. gut the bad boys. castrate the bad boys. cut the bad boys' throat in the middle of the night, he wont argue the bravado of this, all he will do is gurgle on his own blood and die.
superkal2006 3 years ago
Good advice for women, great advice for men. Nice job laura.
SarcasticBlasphemer 3 years ago
Thanks, I appreciate your input.
LauraLuvv 3 years ago
i did a search dgltowing and this came up...feelings arent always right...good marrages are never based on feelings...i have been in relationships where my feelings where "stay with her" but she cheated...i believe that if you are with a nice guy stick it out...love is like an apple tree you plant seeds and they grow...it dont happen over night but if you nurish your relationship you will get love in return because love is not a feeling its an action when you say i love you where is the verb?
dgltowing 3 years ago 3
The more clingy and needy he acts...the more repulsed and turned off by him I am. He tells me he wants me to call him alot because I want to not because he has to ask..but if I dont call him for a day...he acts all wounded and hurt. He is starting to come off as a very narcissistic person and I dont really know how to get away :(
littlegrllost 3 years ago
You know 6 months ago I would of disagreed and said there is no such thing as a guy that is too nice...but I would have been dead wrong! I have found myself in this exact situation. I have tried to express to this person my discomfort in the excessive gifts that he keeps trying to give to me...in a way it has just made me think that he is trying to buy me.
littlegrllost 3 years ago 2
If that's what you mean then you should say that."No women in their right mind would want to be in a relationship with a psychopath"
I know several right now,Because they think love is that feeling they get like skydiving out an aeroplane.I know people that have been with the wrong person so long they don't know what to do with the right person when they come along.I also have seen People with nothing in common that have great relationships.Love is how an individual defines it for themselves.
jaydenfre 3 years ago
You make some big assumptions and you still don't get it. I don't know why you think "satisfying your soul" has anything to do with being with a psychopath. No woman in her right mind would want to have a relationship with a psychopath!
What I was referring to were things like sharing common interests, having compatible goals in life, encouraging each other's passions and strengths. Kindness and respect are necessary components in a good relationship, but niceness by itself is not enough.
LauraLuvv 3 years ago
This is a huge myth i can easily prove wrong.Go out on a bunch of first dates and be a total jerk,see how many second dates you get.I gaurantee every girl would say "i'm not going out with him again, he's a jerk!!".even the jerks know this so they suck up until you have made some commitments and feel you have too much invested to leave before they reveal themselves.If people wanted to be with a jerk why would the divorce rates be so high? divorce court is not filled with nice people.
jaydenfre 3 years ago
You guys don't get it. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being nice. This video was done for women who are staying in a relationship with someone just because that person is nice, rather than finding the person who truly satisfies their soul. This same information could be given to men.
Women do like nice guys, but they don't fall in love with guys just because they're nice ... there has to be something more ... like a deeply satisfying connection.
LauraLuvv 3 years ago
So if nice isn't the defining difference then why have it in the title? Satisfying your soul sounds like your saying you need to be in a relationship with a bad boy (psychopath) and put an element of the danger in getting your ass whipped on a daily basis.That's not Love either, that just gives people the wrong idea about what love is.I say, if your in a relationship with a guy that treats you with kindness and respect.Why don't you tell them how to make that relationship more interesting.
jaydenfre 3 years ago 5
that is true....
i have to agree with you on this one.......
very true
inferagon 3 years ago
you should remake this video and explain it all...
you should alwaise try to ignore the misunderstanding of others
you are right in a sense and jaydenfre is right too....lol
but then yea...
inferagon 3 years ago
true...
but then i have to admit she's right too..lol
it's all about how you view it I guess...
inferagon 3 years ago
thats all good and fluffy ,but the bottom line is women just dont like nice guys.
hansie475869 3 years ago 4
if you are a nice guy there are only two options, turn bad or kill yourself. period.
Yankeezcap 3 years ago
Aw ... that's not true and not what I meant to imply. It's a wonderful thing to be in a relationship with a guy who treats you right. I'll have to make a video that addresses this for all those great, nice guys out there. Thanks for the assignment. :)
LauraLuvv 3 years ago
What is the boyfriend or husband a modern american or western women deserve? The answer is NONE.
sneaker73 3 years ago
the established concept of the stereotypical "nice guy" is not nice, it's manipulatable.
actual nice is based on merit, not attraction.
If you are a stereotypical nice guy all you will ever do is be manipulated. There are only two ways to free yourself of this...
1)stop being manipulatable, don't bend to someone else's will.
or
2) DEATH. If your truly dedicated to being this kind of guy, you should kill yourself.
Yankeezcap 4 years ago
I should have watched this video not even 24 hours ago. This would have made me feel breaking up with the guy less stressful on me :-(
teacherspet1229 4 years ago
Laura,
No caveat? Sounds too definitive to be solid advice.
Why was she attracted to the guy in the first place? Is she clear on the alternatives? Is she misjudging value and behaving immaturely.
Not only should you not stay with someone you are not attracted to, but why are you with them in the first place?
youmewhoever 4 years ago
Good points, however, I can't cover every possible issue in a short feature like this.
Also, understand that attraction happens on many levels. This woman may have been emotionally attracted to this man in an attempt to resolve some past issue or satisfy a need, but at the same time, on another level, she also could be physically repulsed by this man. Attraction can be quite complex.
LauraLuvv 4 years ago
Many women these days are waiting for that Prince charming guy to be exciting, romantic, charming, sensitive, funny, secure, handsome, mysterious etc.
If women expect these things from men then they should offer the same as well, yet I constantly come across women just holding out for that man yet they have nothing to offer in return but their boring existence!!
The bottom line...expect ONLY as much as you have to offer! If you are boring don't expect someone to transform your life!
javawhz 4 years ago 8
Excellent advice! Thanks for your input. Pay attention, Ladies!
LauraLuvv
LauraLuvv 4 years ago
I tried to post that in 2 parts, part one didn't take, now I have to split it into 3. That is good advice for women, here's MEN ADVICE (1/3). Women don't make sense to most men because they love you for how they FEEL & more importantly how you make them feel about themselves. "Nice guys" or really needy guys use logic, ie, if I follow her around like a puppy and give her everything she wants, she'll see that and fall in love with me. Makes sense logically, but it's WRONG. (next)
nwvat420 4 years ago
Part 2. I have found by dating a lot of women and having standards that they want a challenge (also fun, interesting, and strong). Being nice doesn't create love, being a challenge does. Why do so many women date jerks and then cry on the shoulder of the nice guy who is always there for them about why the jerk they are dating can't be a nice guy? He's a challenge. Nice guy is not a challenge even he can give her what she wants, just not what she needs. (finished below)
nwvat420 4 years ago
Because modern american and western women are losers. Let's face it, they'll screw any penniless bum exciting jackass then once they've been saddled with 2 or 3 children from these losers they'll seek out mr. nice guy the dependable one to pay the bills. To say it in another way. Hi nerd (nice guy) we had a great party and had lots of fun, never invited you but we'd like it if you would pick up the tab.
sneaker73 3 years ago
He's a complete jerk who treats her wrong constantly, but she thinks she can turn him into what you already are as a nice guy but you give it away WAY to easily and it is needy and repelling. Most people want what they cannot have until they get it, then they no longer want it once they have it. For those who don't understand, I am NOT saying act like a jerk, but explaining why women date jerks and why they don't like guys who have no idea what being a man is all about.
nwvat420 4 years ago
I agree completely.
LauraLuvv 4 years ago
important advice. good for guys to listen too.
coltanram 4 years ago
u describe my relationship to a tee. thx 4 the advice.
dakotahman 4 years ago