I have said in my own vlogs on here that this is an extremely personal and private thing. We do appreciate the support and the helpful advice, but there is only so much we can take before we have had enough. I love being alone and spending private time with my boyfriend, just being feminine in MY way. You are fine and I totally get being despondent at times. Especially when financially we have to drag this out far longer than we want. Hugs to another metal girl!
there is no set way to act like anything..i am married to the quietest woman, who is nice to everyone, i mean just extremely sweet. but loves metal and going to concerts and hates girly things. there is no set way to be you..and people can go take it in the face..you are you enjoy being you..and never stop rocking
I am pretty sure you said that transition should be the last option before you kill yourself, but it should be your first. You know how it makes you feel, it is going to be hard, but if it makes you happy, you shouldn't see it as a last resort!!! Apart from that, your videos are great :)
You should see me play the piano... I look like a crazy evil chick version of Rachmaninoff but nobody will dare question my gender identity without getting his balls ripped off!! I don't keep my composure like you =P.
You made a really, really good point there at the end when you said that you "don't want to be a trans". This will get you into all kinds of arguments as there is a sizeable percentage of TG's who consider themselves a 3rd gender and are all about being "out and proud" and they just throw their TG status into everyone's faces. I couldn't do that... I moved through transition and went stealth and just got on with my life as a woman for the past 19 years and it's been a great life :)
Good comments here in the last month. I saw the posts you are referring to and you are right to just be yourself. You've been doing an impersonation of manhood for your entire life, you don't need to move into another closet trying to live up to other people's expectations of yourself as a woman. You have the right instincts, it shows in these videos. You could have gone full time a year ago if you hadn't been surrounded by an unsupportive family and friends who can't let go of "Austin".
Jess, check out Annah Moore if you've not done so already. She's fucking awesome. This crap about what people should or should not like is utter nonsense. I make experimental noise music. One of the most influential and experimental artists was the creator of the Doctor Who theme Delia Derbyshire, There are no cliches, there are no stereotypes. Bullshit. Rock on and do whatever and fuck shit up.
I must say that I am impressed with the progress that you have made you look great. Although I am somewhat older than you I have to agree with a lot that you have to say its so hard to be strong all of the time that is not to hard at the beginning when you are getting better with every month that passes the problem is you are on a journey that never really ends the problem is do you tell people and be trans in there minds for ever or do you say nothing and risk them finding out for themselves.
Those people who are constantly on the fence criticizing us TS women are mislabeling themselves as trans. You are you and I am me. The transition, hormones and living as a women is what matters to us. Not the inflections, mannerisms or what we like. Those 'haters' are invariably male cross dressers masquerading as Trans. For them it is a performance... and oftentimes a deeper sexual narcissism. For them it is performance and sexual pleasure and your just a buzz kill for not being a caricature.
I want to say that i dont just accept you as a woman but think of you as a woman, there is a difference. For every thing that would "out" you there are hundereds of genetic females that and like those same things, thus not outing you at all. I see GF that look more like a man than me (I dont pass all that well, but but thats not the point) and they dont give a s%&t.
Don't change what you like just because someone says that "its not femine enough" this is about being who you really are inside.
I think you pass incredibly well. There are things I notice because I know you're trans and I know what to look for, but I have no problem accepting you as a woman and if I wasn't paying attention, I probably wouldn't even place you as trans.
hey thank you for the video, it's great to have strong females like yourself telling things straight in such a calm and clear manor.
I read 'Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity' which said some things which made me think about my transition and trying to fit into the stereotypical gender roles.
I like to think of transistion not being about throwing away your old (masculine) self and everything that made up what you were, but becoming whole.
RIGHT ON girl!!! people told me I couldnt play hockey with guys cause I am a girl or can't play Star Wars The Old Republic Online or World of Warcraft because im a girl... thats bullshit and you are right !!!
Haters are just jealous... you seem more woman to me than some women I know! As part of the LGBT community (being gay myself) I totally support everything you do and I think you are FLAWLESS DIVA! Keep being yourself and don't change just because of some stupid internet troll who only has the courage to insult people from behind a screen where they won't be confronted face on. <3 WERK!
Nothing you like "outs you". You are beautiful and look comfortable in your new body. The only changes I noticed were that I don't like chocolate anymore and prefer 2 hot meals a day. I do favor baths now over showers.
My taste in music was always feminine yet out of what's considered normal for my age and ethnicity. I always liked classic soul love songs and jazz. Don't let anyone dictate your tastes.
There's alot of hate and jealousy in the transcommunity amongst ourselves.
I believe you should continue to do and like all the things you did before transitioning. In some ways, I feel that gender is in the mind and not the physical body...if that makes sense at all. I mean, I feel you can have one without the other. Please don't keep thinking of your self as a transperson, If you feel in your heart and your mind that you are female, than that is what you are. I completely envy you for making the transition, I only wish I had your strength. Please stay strong!!!
I know what you mean. More than half of my friends who are cisgender females are into death metal, some of them play electric guitar and are quite good at it, and they usually get complimented for doing their own thing and being outside the norm, but yet for a transwoman people are all like you either have to fit society's hyperfeminine stereotype or you are somehow less of a woman... wtf? Doesn't make any sense.
Please dont listen to the haters, and I am very sorry I sent you a question and you dont have to answer if you dont want to. I would really love to know where to buy the meds online. And I have not started transition and I really hope to, and I was worried about the things I like to do as a man, but after watching this vid I realize it does not matter, you are really hot and I would never mistake you for a man no matter what you liked. Keep on keepin on!!!!!
Hey jess, i just wanted to say hi. Ive been watching your videos for nearly a year now, and Ive noticed a sort of tapering off point in your you tubing. i just wanted to say you are such a huge inspiration for me. your personality, your looks, your voice... your amazing. considering were you have come from, i think you are beyond amazing! i wish your youtube experience was different. i hope you are doing well, i hope your spirits are high and the holidays are good to you. <3 from a fan.
If I saw you in public, I never would suspect you were born a boy... You are absolutely GORGEOUS! And as for other people telling you how to act, what to like, or what to wear... fuck that. Just keep doing what your doing and live your life how you want sweetness. You are beautiful inside and out.
WTF!!! how is liking Metal and being a girl not be allowed!!????!!! what about the following femail Metal artists:
Lita Ford, Girl School, Doro Pesch , Night Switch, Evanesense, Joan Jett, Athena Lee ( way better drummer than her brother Tommy ) the list goes on and on and on please keep rocking you are a more then competent musician and guitarist !!!!
I really can't understand how anyone could look at you and not see a woman. And you're really beautiful,girl!
I think it's so cool that you play guitar! I'm learning to play too, I hope someday I can play as well as you. I'm not into metal though (I'm more into classic rock / blues / rockabilly) but most of my friends - male and female - are metal fans.
I really love seeing and know you can make it in the woman's world. I can't though I really want this for myself and I really look up to you. You are my heroine. Be you!!!!!
With great power comes great responsibility! You are a hero!!! Tks for sharing your history, I'm from the other side of the world and your history just touched me a lot! Best regards!
I know plenty of other girls who love metal. I know I do. ^_^ And I pretty much do my own thing too. so just keep doing what makes you happy. Because that's what makes you, You! ^_^
Do not worry about the people that are trying to drag you down. You are beautiful and doing what makes you happy. You are gorgeous and do not forget that. The internet is a place for all of the degenerate cowards to post negativity to others. Don't listen to those idiots, you are already stronger than they are because you are doing what makes you, you. Keep your chin up because you are an amazing person, amazingly beautiful, and stronger than 99% of others.
wow people are fucking pricks... im a girl.. i hunt i fish i play cod and all the "guy games" i live the way i want to im not the type to strut around in a pink tootoo , people always ask me if im bi because these things... im bi on my own damn terms.. i did all of this before i found out who i was.. and know one can telll you how to be a girl because a female is who she is doesnt matter if she likes black or pink... it matters about how you feel on the inside♥ keep your head upp
It's good that you're so strong willed and level headed. Don't let others impose their will on you. The most important thing is to be true to yourself. If you spend your time trying to please other people, you'll only end up spinning in circles.
@Jesslyngirl87 Can you play a Gibson Les Paul electric guitar or a Gibson B. B. King Lucille electric guitar or an Epiphone Les Paul Jr electric guitar or a Gibson Melody Maker electric guitar or the kind that Joan Jett plays-the Joan Jett Gibson Melody Maker electric guitar or maybe you should try the Gibson Midtown Custom electric guitar or how about an Ibanez electric guitar or a Jackson electric guitar? Ever played those two guitars?
Hey, as far as I'm concerned...you are my Heroine hun. I am very mechanically inclined. I have a truck that I built with my own hands. I like to do metalworking, woodworking, and all kinds of stuff that I grew up doing. I don't see how it matters. This is a shell change; I am not becoming someone else...I am becoming myself. As close as I can possibly get. I will always be a tomboy, with the wit of a straightrazor, and the mouth of a sailor. I don't want to be Jessica Simpson; i want to be me.
You are 150% passable as a women. If I just watched this video without having seeing you before you started HrT, I would have absolutely no reason to assume you use to be a guy. You are lovely. I really like this video because you are right. There is no one in the word who can say what a girl should do. You are you, and your gender doesn't decide what you like.
Keep hanging in there! You are a wonderful girl, and you are an amazing person. I wish I could have a conversation with you. Thanks
I totally agree with you. I'm into games and am a huge geek. That is a male dominated world, but I'm not going to change just because I'm in transition and some people think that girls should act a different way.
You should get a job at a call center. There are hundreds of them, and lots of people with lots of... character. Just keep to yourself if you don't want confrontation :p Stand up for yourself, just because you want to be a girl doesn't mean you have to be a weak one :]
Thats how you SHOULD live, not caring what people think of you. I'm a girl and I would have a stroak without my video games. And look at Avril Lavigne, she loves to skateboard
You're hands down one of the most passable trans women I've ever seen. It's sad that so many trans people can't feel validated as the gender they want to be accepted as by society, regardless of how they already feel, look or act, until they change their genitalia. But with patience you'll get there hopefully.
I want to tell you that you look amazing, I love watching your videos because it makes me think about how fluid we are as human beings, how we are capeable of reinventing ourselfs, and you have done that. The other day I was watching the story of a woman in Mexico that used to be a men, and she said that she is not transgender, because thats not something you ARE, is something you DO for a period of time until you reach your destination, which is being a women. So you are a women. Congrats =)
Nobody wants to be "trans" we all wish we were genetic. I try to think "why does being genetic matter" I know it definitely hurts and I do hope it get's better for you. I also totaly agree with you on what people say about how women are "supposed" to act. It's really annoying. No one ever thinks a trans person could be a tomboy or like things that stereotpyically boys like.. It drives me crazy because I too have to deal with that all the time. Really hope things look up soon <3
The fact that you're a beautiful, strong woman in the face of people that try to tell you you're wrong is just a testament to the fact that you're being your own person. I'm glad you're not letting anyone tell you who to be. I know plenty of girls and woman who like things generally deemed to be for boys and these females are wonderful people.Gender stereotyping is unfortunately trans people like us have to face, but we just need to say "To hell with it" and be who we're happy being.
Youtube is a place where nasty people like to gather, but most of them are far too immature to take seriously. I don't think anything has that much sway to be an "appropriate" gender activity . That's just simple mindedness. I'm a woman, I still love getting down on an intense video game and other less girly things - and this doesn't make me less of a woman. I think your inspiring. To take such a drastic leap. Life is difficult, but it's overcoming the obstacles is what's so wonderful about it.
Has anyone told you lately that you're a gorgeous creature? I use the word creature because person is mundane, and goddess is too dramatic. In any case, a ladeh who can game, play, and generally kick it is a dream to many dudes and chicks alike. Glad you're staying you, and hope life picks up to compensate for these many bad days, beau.
My computer sucks and wont let me watch the last minute of your vid...however, I just want to say...
Dont let anyone tell you how to "act like a girl" there are MANY different types of girls and they all have their own personality. You are gorgeous, bio woman or not! It's hard to be happy with yourself sometimes, I know...we cant let it affect us to the point where we stop doing things we enjoy doing. I've really been battling the depression lately. I know exactly what you mean about not finding
pt 2: a job because of legal documentation. Sometimes its so exhausting and frustrating that I keep giving up. Probably why it took me 10 years to start hormones lol We have a much better life experience than the rest of the world and THAT we do need to be thankful for, no matter how hard our lives may be. Just try to keep your chin up hun... :)
There are so many girls who like "boy stuff". It doesn't make anyone less of a woman or man just because they like things which are supposed to be gender-specific.
Kudos to you to not giving in to that stupid talk! :)
The woman you are today is .... hard to believe that you were someone else .... I would even say impossible ... I know that if good road in your new life and thank you for your video it feels good to many of us ...
The woman you are today is .... hard to believe that you were someone else .... I would even say impossible ... I know that if good road in your new life and thank you for your video it feels good to many of us ...
It can be hard. But it can be great too.I was actually forced to go full time at just 2 months into HRT. I got outed at work and then the men I work with got uncomfortable with my transition. When that happened I pretty much got the attitude of, "What have I to lose? I have to take that step sooner or later."
The HR Department where I work have been wonderful. They changed the name on my shirts, and basically I became just another female employee.
@EpicCorruption It was a kick in the butt that I didn't want, but yet I don't really regret. You just have to take that first step. I'm now almost 9 months along on HRT and I'm living as me.
That being said, everyone's situation is different. I know of one woman who's not had an easy time of it and she's been full time since the late 1990's.
I am seriously considering an srs. Could you tell me everything u did and at what age? Things have been going through my head lately and I decided to go for this.
ugh this is my second time sending this i don't remember my other comment but u shouldn't listen to other people if they don't like the way you are than they shouldn't watch you lol i love your videos and music and i've been watching you for a while all i can say is be your self and don't listen to others but any ways all the best adive i can give u is be your self don't change for any one just be your self i know its not easy
Omg girls aren't allowed on the internet either, so how did that girl comment? Get back in the kitchen, don't vote, don't get an education, raise the kids, and sleep in separate beds. THAT'S how a woman should act.
i think that people who say shit like that only can do it online anyway who cares ur awesome ive been on HRT probably the same length of time and your a beautiful woman and F*** the HATERS
One: invest in hair clips :) Two: stop being your biggest critic! You ARE beautiful! Shoot, I'd LOVE to look like you. Not everyone can have the chance and fortune to be where you are now in your life...like me. You're on Youtube and there will be HATERS. f*them. Keep on jamming and doing your thang. Too awesome.
I completely agree, I know women who love Metal, I know women who love gaming (my niece is a games programmer), I know women who love football. What you like doesn't define you. I'm a man but I like romantic comedies, am I not supposed to? BS! You're looking good Jess, all the best.
hey Jess, welcome to the life of a tough chick. people are always trying to tell women what being a "woman" means---HA. It's as old and stupid as saying girls can't like math or cars. If you lived near me we would totally hang.
its been a year watching u girl... Good going..keep it up... And yeah u should join a music band...U actly rock..U can be a successful musician one day... ;D
awww jesslyn... you rule girl! being trans is a gift... we are the children of Hemes and Aphrodite... the messenger of the gods and the goddess of love and beauty... who else gets to live two lives in one?! you are a perfect role model for us:) love you sis:)
i really think you are the most down to earth person ever the social points you make about gender are amazing thank you for be yourself and not being a stereotype like a smart person
Theres stereotypical and then theres you. I've already started my transition 6 months ago but Im not gonna give up my interests just because their not girly. I love my motorcycle and going to the gun range. Dont like it, oh well
A very, very interesting subject. Some people want to put you into a box to satisfy themselves which is a wrong thing to do. Many of them do that out of insecurity but don't let their own distress get to you! Be you.
You seem very radiant these days. Thank you for the encouraging words which will be guiding to both trans and cispeople! Wishing you all the best
Best camera angle ever...why let people bring you down? Have you seen yourself in the mirror lately? You are sooooo hot! (No Im not some old pervert/weirdo)
I think your a perfect example because being who you truly are as the women you are is amazing and I also play WoW and playstation etc if this makes any sense lol take care girly xxx
Just ignore those that are ridiculing you. It isn't worth giving any energy to. Just express yourself to the you are. That includes your hobbies; they're apart of your identity of who you are. You just have be patient as you go through this since. Just be positive and be in the moment. You'll turn out great.
Earlier this year, I did temp office work in a mail processing center (so boring, but eh, I got money). There were a few transgender people there, and they were fully accepted. Was nice there. There might not be opportunities like that around where you are, but hey, you never know.
You mentioned there about being annoyed when people constantly ask you questions that are usually answered in other videos. Have you thought about making a FAQ, either in text or video form? If you were to compile the fifteen or twenty questions you always get asked and have no desire to answer repeatedly and put all of them, along with their answers, in a spoon-fed form, you may cut down a lot of that activity. You could even put the link under every video or something.
You are such a brave, strong individual to have actually accepted who you truly are and take the steps to transition...and especially as young as you are. I finally accepted it about your age, but still took almost 5 years to do something about it. Now I'm 28 wondering why I didn't start transitioning sooner. As hard as it is sometimes, just try to remain strong...remain positive. There are people out there who support you! Try to forget about the haters and focus on those who care for you.
Unfortunately, I think people will amplify the gender role of personal interests with someone transitioning. It sucks. I'm still new in my transition, but with several people I've told, they ask me, "But you like sports so much. What's that about?" It's going to happen, but always remember, there's nothing wrong with liking or not liking something. You like metal? You don't have to be male or female to like metal. There are girls in the metal scene. Cristina of Lacuna Coil is one. Stay strong!
You like what you like, and that shouldn't be dependent on labeling things "male interests" or "female interests". What you like and what sex you are seem mutually exclusive to me. Just for the record, girls who like heavy metal get major bonus points from me! Keep jamming on those Iced Earth riffs!
wow, that's pretty ridiculous, them saying that to you... everyone knows that girls are supposed to be all different.,who wants one kind of girl? it would e sooo boring if all female just tried to be this "princess type"? the way some girls..ALL kinds of girls try to to emulate what they think should be a "female" is pretty funny sometimes.. Keep being you dear :)
@DeathCarcass666 omg i just looked up the story about Marissa Martinez from cretin.. thats so awesome how shes still in the band. that gave me some extra hope for my transition (which ive needed lately)
Just wanted to tell you how Good you look! i was so surprised, this week i turned 25 and the last two months I seriously thought about saying goodbye to my old "me" and start self med HRT on my birthday, (which i haven't..) now you mention it should be the last thing to do.. now this morning i told myself "Screw it! I'll do whatever i want to do, i'll be alone anyway"... how old were you when you started hrt? (hope im not repeating questions sorry!).
Btw i like all the stuff u like practically i LOVE metal, i play bass and drums, i play video games and party with my "bros" in my spare time!! And all my closest friends know i like the way i am and they are fine with it too!!
You keep on doing whatever the hell you wanna do! What u do in your spare time or to ha e fun is your own deal, and it has nothing to do with gender! I know plenty of people in my life that do things "contrary" to their gender and they aren't trans. And pertaining to transitioning, you Just gotta be optomistic about it, u can do or be whatever you set your mind to hun!!
fuck all haters i see, cus i hate that you breath. when someone tells me how to be me that is my response. and i know it hurts to be not genetic but my girlfriend whom i love oh so very much is very much like i am physicaly by that i mean she has hormone problems that mess with her like it did us so take solace that we may be different as women but we are still very much women, oh and im sure you already know this but i will tell you that girls that play heavy metal and wow are hot ^-^
Hats off to you, sincerely. Love what you love, and forget about everything else. And besides...a girl who games, plays metal guitar, and likes cool movies is a total turn-on. You're a beautiful woman and I wish you all the best. Strength and honor, comrade.
I'm trans, I want to become a female, but hell, I love cars, bikes, motorsports, but it won't make me any less female, just because these interests are STEREOTYPICALLY considered 'masculine'. I also know girls who like these too, take part in motorsports, so there are bio girls with these interests too
Same with Jess, I know MANY girls who play videogames and love metal
Ones interests is NOT ones gender. Ignorent people need to understand that
Girl, let me tell you from first hand experience. I have lost friends and family members along the way and it hurts, but in the end, the ONLY one that has to be statisfied with who you are and what you do, is you!!! It really doesn't matter what you like to do with your time, as long as it makes you feel good about you.
I have done alot of things that are sterotypical of guys, like ride motorcycles, shoot guns, watch Nascar or football. But you know what, I don't care what others think!
I listen to your 'livin on a prayer' everyday to give me hope... can't really see you so disappointed and depressed. Honestly, you look very pretty and I don't know why you have trouble passing, if at all you do.
When I think of how things might change for me, and how It would be slightly odd 'acting' girly with my friends, I feel slightly weird myself. But that's not what this is about. This isn't about what girls do, how they are on an average or what things they usually like. It is about you and it is about being comfortable with being ourself. And all you got to do is 'Act Naturally' :)
There are all kinds of girls. All you have to be is yourself. That's what I tell myself.
You're perfect the way you are, Jesslyn. That's so obvious from this side of the internet, you're absolutely lovely in every way. And good on you for telling people to stop picking on your interests. I think you're awesome in all your heavy metal and WoW playing and whatever else people are taking issue with. That's ridiculous, and it's not bitchy at all to call them out on it. I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. Our cultural understanding of gender is so broken.
Like what you like. Do what YOU want to do. If it's your passion there is NO shame in that. I'm a 26 year old female and grew up listening to metal, and played in metal bands through out my teenage years. And I STILL listen to heavy fucking metal/death metal/Prog whatever.. and im happily engaged to a hot sexy man. lol. So those "people" that are trying to give you advice, know nothing. You're hot, beautiful, talented, very girly girl, and men ALWAYS love a chick that can play some good music.
I've watched you blossom over the months into what you are now, in a sad way I would have transitioned and I find myself watching and sort of living vicariously through you because I never did. You have achieved so much and I think peace is found knowing its a journey that you may never complete in this lifetime but ultimately its you who needs to decide what you want to be.
Could you tell me how you change your voice so well? I started HRT 16 days ago, but i heard voice is the hardest thing to learn, so i think i should start already.
Occassionally a genetic female is born with some male anatomy Jess,and viceversa,unless you have had the correct blood work done you don't know,you might have the dreaded xx chromosome make up,many of us do,I suspect you may as well,which makes you a genetic female Jess,but even so ,or not,your heart,your spirit is female.There are hundreds of variations on the grey area in gender physiological and chromosome make up.I just thank God you are who you are Jess,your a huge inspiration to me.
@Charlene68100 well considering how well i developed in bodybuilding i prolly dont have that "xx" but it doesnt really change anything ive done up to this point.
@Jesslyngirl87 I want you to know how much of an inspiration you have been to me and my life! You have made the best videos to watch for alot of reasons but I think you have done so so well with your transition and you have changed your appearance to a beautiful women so well that I envy you! I remember one of your videos long ago where you broke down and basically was saying you get to a point that you don't give an eff what other people think say or do and that was so powerful to me !
@Jesslyngirl87 I want you to know how much of an inspiration you have been to me and my life! You have made the best videos to watch for alot of reasons but I think you have done so so well with your transition and you have changed your appearance to a beautiful women so well that I envy you! I remember one of your videos long ago where you broke down and basically was saying you get to a point that you don't give an eff what other people think say or do and that was so powerful to me !
Hi Jesslyn, it's Palamino : ) Don't ever change for anyone. Be who you are and be what you want to be. Life is too short to please everyone. Both my parents died recently. I asked my father if he had any regrets on his death bed (workaholic), he said, "Look at me now. Look at what I'm taking with me. Nothing,everything I worked for, all my material items. None of it is going with me. Live as you want to live and build your memories! It's all you can take with you." Keep that in mind hon!
Jesslyn, you're doing fabulously! Sweetie, ta hell with whatEVER anyone else says, and just keep living your life... I'd not think twice about you on the street.. and don't let your subconscious get the best of you.. the 'voices' suck, they really, REALLY do. Our choices are really only to take deep breaths and move on.. right? Live well and BE well, girl. Nuff said.
That was such an amazingly true comment and I don't think I've ever heard anyone say it before "you are not becoming another person, you're still yourself". it brought a tear to my eyes. You go girl. you be yourself cuz you ARE amazing!
That was such an amazingly true comment and I don't think I've ever heard anyone say it before "you are not becoming another person, you're still yourself". it brought a tear to my eyes. You go girl. you be yourself cuz you ARE amazing!
Jess, you are fine. Don't let other peoples projections cloud your mind with doubt. You are NORMAL. Your still in the infancy of a great journey hun! You're gonna be fine!
Those kinds of ideas (about how girls/women *should* behave) have plagued women (trans and otherwise) since the beginning of time. Don't let those folks get you down. I hope you find a way to bring back some fun and happiness to your life. From what I can tell, you're physical/presentational (is that even a word?) transition is going well. Hope you find a way to relieve the feelings of isolation. It's not easy - something I struggle with every day too.
i just wanted to say that i've always been impressed with your straitforwardness, and that i wish i could help. i have been undergoing HRT for only a few weeks but my body has not been resisting the changes at all... and i'll either have to live as a butch woman or transtion fully within the next 2 months. your video's have been more then helpful they have helped me through some tough times. sometimes is enuffe that you just uploaded a new vid to show that you havent given up and are perseverin
Oscar Wilde said, "Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken." I could point out trans and cis women with youtube channels who are I.T. specialists, roller derby skaters, chefs, engineers, drummers, and a million other subjects that aren't "feminine". Hell, look at all the female rockers. I would have loved to see someone tell Joan Jett, "oh, you shold play some nice acoustic stuff." Yeah right! People who criticize on youtube just for the sake of criticizing need to get a life of their own.
fact-we as trans women hav grown alot of r life in a "mans" world we have found r own way into life + live with who + what we are + what we have become, you know in legal terms noone has the right to make a another person someone THEY think they shuld be, thats what made my life such a big horrible mess , those who think we should all be stereotype people, even alot of the time its those who are so much different from NORMAL people, trans people have existed as long as 'normal' people-fact
The thing that I have noticed from your videos is that you still have things that are more like a boy, but thats pretty normal to me. I guess things like liking bodybuilding and World of Warcraft are things that come to mind. Its not bad or wrong though, and I find it quite refreshing really. There is nothing wrong with being trans in my opinion, but I do think people that are trans should try to accept that, yes, they were once or boy (or a girl). It probably sounds patronizing in some...
@jamstrings100 ...way, but I am saying it because that's how I see it I guess. I guess I wouldn't like someone to stereotype me because of my sexual preference, but I'm sure some people would do it. The world is evolving, but it takes time doesn't it?
Anyways, I like your videos and think you're pretty cool. Good luck to you.
Be yourself dear. Most real women are boring as fuck. I guess one of the reasons men are attracted to Shemales is because they show more femininity. 95% of women wear men's drabby cloths and they don't look good in them. Just one big mess with no matching pattern.If any one needs training to be a real girl or woman it's the real women.
I have said in my own vlogs on here that this is an extremely personal and private thing. We do appreciate the support and the helpful advice, but there is only so much we can take before we have had enough. I love being alone and spending private time with my boyfriend, just being feminine in MY way. You are fine and I totally get being despondent at times. Especially when financially we have to drag this out far longer than we want. Hugs to another metal girl!
SophiaAphrodite 2 days ago
i'm a girl. i love cars, video games, heavy metal.. doesnt matter your likes or dislikes!
missbabypeachez 1 week ago
I love your coat :)
KTevolved 1 week ago
"You live your life, you don't tell others how to live theirs"
Best quote, I've ever heard, you are really inspirational.
SitarKnight 2 weeks ago
@AimyPetite
xTheFalloutGirlx 2 weeks ago
there is no set way to act like anything..i am married to the quietest woman, who is nice to everyone, i mean just extremely sweet. but loves metal and going to concerts and hates girly things. there is no set way to be you..and people can go take it in the face..you are you enjoy being you..and never stop rocking
tookitfarandleftitbe 2 weeks ago
I am pretty sure you said that transition should be the last option before you kill yourself, but it should be your first. You know how it makes you feel, it is going to be hard, but if it makes you happy, you shouldn't see it as a last resort!!! Apart from that, your videos are great :)
JesstheBear 2 weeks ago
You should see me play the piano... I look like a crazy evil chick version of Rachmaninoff but nobody will dare question my gender identity without getting his balls ripped off!! I don't keep my composure like you =P.
Zarenthar 3 weeks ago
You made a really, really good point there at the end when you said that you "don't want to be a trans". This will get you into all kinds of arguments as there is a sizeable percentage of TG's who consider themselves a 3rd gender and are all about being "out and proud" and they just throw their TG status into everyone's faces. I couldn't do that... I moved through transition and went stealth and just got on with my life as a woman for the past 19 years and it's been a great life :)
FarDareisMai2012 3 weeks ago in playlist More videos from Jesslyngirl87
Good comments here in the last month. I saw the posts you are referring to and you are right to just be yourself. You've been doing an impersonation of manhood for your entire life, you don't need to move into another closet trying to live up to other people's expectations of yourself as a woman. You have the right instincts, it shows in these videos. You could have gone full time a year ago if you hadn't been surrounded by an unsupportive family and friends who can't let go of "Austin".
FarDareisMai2012 3 weeks ago in playlist More videos from Jesslyngirl87
I wouldnt even second guess you not being born a woman you are beautiful
scottwforsyth 3 weeks ago
Jessie,hit me back,your totally cool! : ) at rockready29@gmail.com
Rockmegood1 1 month ago
Jess, check out Annah Moore if you've not done so already. She's fucking awesome. This crap about what people should or should not like is utter nonsense. I make experimental noise music. One of the most influential and experimental artists was the creator of the Doctor Who theme Delia Derbyshire, There are no cliches, there are no stereotypes. Bullshit. Rock on and do whatever and fuck shit up.
controlFunctionmedia 1 month ago
I must say that I am impressed with the progress that you have made you look great. Although I am somewhat older than you I have to agree with a lot that you have to say its so hard to be strong all of the time that is not to hard at the beginning when you are getting better with every month that passes the problem is you are on a journey that never really ends the problem is do you tell people and be trans in there minds for ever or do you say nothing and risk them finding out for themselves.
weaton25 1 month ago
Those people who are constantly on the fence criticizing us TS women are mislabeling themselves as trans. You are you and I am me. The transition, hormones and living as a women is what matters to us. Not the inflections, mannerisms or what we like. Those 'haters' are invariably male cross dressers masquerading as Trans. For them it is a performance... and oftentimes a deeper sexual narcissism. For them it is performance and sexual pleasure and your just a buzz kill for not being a caricature.
quanteum 1 month ago
I want to say that i dont just accept you as a woman but think of you as a woman, there is a difference. For every thing that would "out" you there are hundereds of genetic females that and like those same things, thus not outing you at all. I see GF that look more like a man than me (I dont pass all that well, but but thats not the point) and they dont give a s%&t.
Don't change what you like just because someone says that "its not femine enough" this is about being who you really are inside.
Jessicatastrofy 1 month ago
I think you pass incredibly well. There are things I notice because I know you're trans and I know what to look for, but I have no problem accepting you as a woman and if I wasn't paying attention, I probably wouldn't even place you as trans.
goldencricket 1 month ago
hey thank you for the video, it's great to have strong females like yourself telling things straight in such a calm and clear manor.
I read 'Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity' which said some things which made me think about my transition and trying to fit into the stereotypical gender roles.
I like to think of transistion not being about throwing away your old (masculine) self and everything that made up what you were, but becoming whole.
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jennifers0love 1 month ago
RIGHT ON girl!!! people told me I couldnt play hockey with guys cause I am a girl or can't play Star Wars The Old Republic Online or World of Warcraft because im a girl... thats bullshit and you are right !!!
habsgurl322 1 month ago
Haters are just jealous... you seem more woman to me than some women I know! As part of the LGBT community (being gay myself) I totally support everything you do and I think you are FLAWLESS DIVA! Keep being yourself and don't change just because of some stupid internet troll who only has the courage to insult people from behind a screen where they won't be confronted face on. <3 WERK!
grantvaleska 1 month ago
I gave you a "Like" just because you stated you play WoW! NICE!!!
milesdux 1 month ago
Nothing you like "outs you". You are beautiful and look comfortable in your new body. The only changes I noticed were that I don't like chocolate anymore and prefer 2 hot meals a day. I do favor baths now over showers.
My taste in music was always feminine yet out of what's considered normal for my age and ethnicity. I always liked classic soul love songs and jazz. Don't let anyone dictate your tastes.
There's alot of hate and jealousy in the transcommunity amongst ourselves.
AutumnAarilyn 2 months ago
I believe you should continue to do and like all the things you did before transitioning. In some ways, I feel that gender is in the mind and not the physical body...if that makes sense at all. I mean, I feel you can have one without the other. Please don't keep thinking of your self as a transperson, If you feel in your heart and your mind that you are female, than that is what you are. I completely envy you for making the transition, I only wish I had your strength. Please stay strong!!!
bigbayliner185 2 months ago in playlist More videos from Jesslyngirl87
I know what you mean. More than half of my friends who are cisgender females are into death metal, some of them play electric guitar and are quite good at it, and they usually get complimented for doing their own thing and being outside the norm, but yet for a transwoman people are all like you either have to fit society's hyperfeminine stereotype or you are somehow less of a woman... wtf? Doesn't make any sense.
Kojitsu 2 months ago
Please dont listen to the haters, and I am very sorry I sent you a question and you dont have to answer if you dont want to. I would really love to know where to buy the meds online. And I have not started transition and I really hope to, and I was worried about the things I like to do as a man, but after watching this vid I realize it does not matter, you are really hot and I would never mistake you for a man no matter what you liked. Keep on keepin on!!!!!
asphaltoval26 2 months ago
Hey jess, i just wanted to say hi. Ive been watching your videos for nearly a year now, and Ive noticed a sort of tapering off point in your you tubing. i just wanted to say you are such a huge inspiration for me. your personality, your looks, your voice... your amazing. considering were you have come from, i think you are beyond amazing! i wish your youtube experience was different. i hope you are doing well, i hope your spirits are high and the holidays are good to you. <3 from a fan.
SingleSharpG 2 months ago
If I saw you in public, I never would suspect you were born a boy... You are absolutely GORGEOUS! And as for other people telling you how to act, what to like, or what to wear... fuck that. Just keep doing what your doing and live your life how you want sweetness. You are beautiful inside and out.
LadyXxXTattoo 2 months ago
You look amazing and you made a Really Good Point....Jus Be Yourself, Who care what everyone else thinks. Just Keep doing what your doing!
CrazyCanadian86 2 months ago
WTF!!! how is liking Metal and being a girl not be allowed!!????!!! what about the following femail Metal artists:
Lita Ford, Girl School, Doro Pesch , Night Switch, Evanesense, Joan Jett, Athena Lee ( way better drummer than her brother Tommy ) the list goes on and on and on please keep rocking you are a more then competent musician and guitarist !!!!
leonl55 2 months ago
@leonl55 Good Fukn' Point! yo \m/
demolitionbarbiedoll 2 months ago
You are a beautiful woman. I like all the same shit. Metal Rawks
Yosami 2 months ago
Você ficou linda, sério, só pare de mexer no cabelo com tanta frequência, isso é uma mania masculina demais.
kevinsmoresco 2 months ago
I really can't understand how anyone could look at you and not see a woman. And you're really beautiful,girl!
I think it's so cool that you play guitar! I'm learning to play too, I hope someday I can play as well as you. I'm not into metal though (I'm more into classic rock / blues / rockabilly) but most of my friends - male and female - are metal fans.
Don't let the sexist idiots get to you!
MariLee1br 2 months ago
What did she say at 1:42?
themystic10 2 months ago
Jesslyngirl
I really love seeing and know you can make it in the woman's world. I can't though I really want this for myself and I really look up to you. You are my heroine. Be you!!!!!
juligrlee 3 months ago
With great power comes great responsibility! You are a hero!!! Tks for sharing your history, I'm from the other side of the world and your history just touched me a lot! Best regards!
PHRabiskin 3 months ago
I have a lot of respect for you!
UhhLeanne 3 months ago
screw the ignorance girl, people are going to hate that's their karma not yours. keep your mind set
DamagedGoodsOhhWell 3 months ago
I know plenty of other girls who love metal. I know I do. ^_^ And I pretty much do my own thing too. so just keep doing what makes you happy. Because that's what makes you, You! ^_^
KeairaElisabeth 3 months ago
Do not worry about the people that are trying to drag you down. You are beautiful and doing what makes you happy. You are gorgeous and do not forget that. The internet is a place for all of the degenerate cowards to post negativity to others. Don't listen to those idiots, you are already stronger than they are because you are doing what makes you, you. Keep your chin up because you are an amazing person, amazingly beautiful, and stronger than 99% of others.
paintballcapt062 3 months ago
you right on!
docmccalla 3 months ago
Very sexy voice! I like it. ;D
ZawiszaTheBlack 3 months ago
I think you're a fucking badass.
orangepony52 3 months ago
wow people are fucking pricks... im a girl.. i hunt i fish i play cod and all the "guy games" i live the way i want to im not the type to strut around in a pink tootoo , people always ask me if im bi because these things... im bi on my own damn terms.. i did all of this before i found out who i was.. and know one can telll you how to be a girl because a female is who she is doesnt matter if she likes black or pink... it matters about how you feel on the inside♥ keep your head upp
iloveyou1010101mt 3 months ago
yea there stupid metal is the only way! and i have a few chick friends who are extremely more metal than most people haha stupid people
hitlrszombie 3 months ago in playlist More videos from Jesslyngirl87
It's good that you're so strong willed and level headed. Don't let others impose their will on you. The most important thing is to be true to yourself. If you spend your time trying to please other people, you'll only end up spinning in circles.
moonwalkervegan 3 months ago
Also, have you played that new guitar video game "Rocksmith"?
kjchicago1 3 months ago
@kjchicago1 nah. there isnt really any songs on it that i actually care to play
Jesslyngirl87 3 months ago
@Jesslyngirl87 Can you play a Gibson Les Paul electric guitar or a Gibson B. B. King Lucille electric guitar or an Epiphone Les Paul Jr electric guitar or a Gibson Melody Maker electric guitar or the kind that Joan Jett plays-the Joan Jett Gibson Melody Maker electric guitar or maybe you should try the Gibson Midtown Custom electric guitar or how about an Ibanez electric guitar or a Jackson electric guitar? Ever played those two guitars?
kjchicago1 3 months ago
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kjchicago1 3 months ago
Omygoshhh..you really look like a girl already. You're pretty.
Apatah 3 months ago in playlist More videos from Jesslyngirl87
Hey, as far as I'm concerned...you are my Heroine hun. I am very mechanically inclined. I have a truck that I built with my own hands. I like to do metalworking, woodworking, and all kinds of stuff that I grew up doing. I don't see how it matters. This is a shell change; I am not becoming someone else...I am becoming myself. As close as I can possibly get. I will always be a tomboy, with the wit of a straightrazor, and the mouth of a sailor. I don't want to be Jessica Simpson; i want to be me.
Noelle3674 3 months ago
You are 150% passable as a women. If I just watched this video without having seeing you before you started HrT, I would have absolutely no reason to assume you use to be a guy. You are lovely. I really like this video because you are right. There is no one in the word who can say what a girl should do. You are you, and your gender doesn't decide what you like.
Keep hanging in there! You are a wonderful girl, and you are an amazing person. I wish I could have a conversation with you. Thanks
timecantell1787 3 months ago
You are just awasome.
viktorspjuth 4 months ago
i agree, a girl can like anything she wants
naxdiel666 4 months ago
You are an amazing woman.
elvis3700 4 months ago
LOVE this video. You put focus on av very important topic. transpeople are just like everyone else.... with different intrests :D
You are strong and beautiful girl.
nij682 4 months ago
I've been outted my whole life for liking death metal. What the fuck? You're brutal for being you. \m/
JettaJunkie272 4 months ago 8
I totally agree with you. I'm into games and am a huge geek. That is a male dominated world, but I'm not going to change just because I'm in transition and some people think that girls should act a different way.
limelizard1 4 months ago
You should get a job at a call center. There are hundreds of them, and lots of people with lots of... character. Just keep to yourself if you don't want confrontation :p Stand up for yourself, just because you want to be a girl doesn't mean you have to be a weak one :]
BetweenEternity 4 months ago
Thats how you SHOULD live, not caring what people think of you. I'm a girl and I would have a stroak without my video games. And look at Avril Lavigne, she loves to skateboard
xGummiBearr 4 months ago
You're hands down one of the most passable trans women I've ever seen. It's sad that so many trans people can't feel validated as the gender they want to be accepted as by society, regardless of how they already feel, look or act, until they change their genitalia. But with patience you'll get there hopefully.
kingboobs20 4 months ago
you look great girl. lovin the outfit.
thenakedsociety 4 months ago
Candy Girl would like to start an all trans band ,,, I can hook you up if you want, But I;m sure you can find' her. Good luck girL!
CateyCz 4 months ago
this made me cry, your strong, people should piss off and leave you be!
swordarchertex 4 months ago
I want to tell you that you look amazing, I love watching your videos because it makes me think about how fluid we are as human beings, how we are capeable of reinventing ourselfs, and you have done that. The other day I was watching the story of a woman in Mexico that used to be a men, and she said that she is not transgender, because thats not something you ARE, is something you DO for a period of time until you reach your destination, which is being a women. So you are a women. Congrats =)
serendy22 4 months ago
Nobody wants to be "trans" we all wish we were genetic. I try to think "why does being genetic matter" I know it definitely hurts and I do hope it get's better for you. I also totaly agree with you on what people say about how women are "supposed" to act. It's really annoying. No one ever thinks a trans person could be a tomboy or like things that stereotpyically boys like.. It drives me crazy because I too have to deal with that all the time. Really hope things look up soon <3
AbstractAlice 5 months ago
I love u Jess...i wish u were in nyc so we could be in a band together...i would sing power ballads to u all night long!
RapidCycling07 5 months ago
You're beautiful. I'm a girl and I really envy you
AimyPetite 5 months ago 13
The fact that you're a beautiful, strong woman in the face of people that try to tell you you're wrong is just a testament to the fact that you're being your own person. I'm glad you're not letting anyone tell you who to be. I know plenty of girls and woman who like things generally deemed to be for boys and these females are wonderful people.Gender stereotyping is unfortunately trans people like us have to face, but we just need to say "To hell with it" and be who we're happy being.
YusuThePanda 5 months ago
Youtube is a place where nasty people like to gather, but most of them are far too immature to take seriously. I don't think anything has that much sway to be an "appropriate" gender activity . That's just simple mindedness. I'm a woman, I still love getting down on an intense video game and other less girly things - and this doesn't make me less of a woman. I think your inspiring. To take such a drastic leap. Life is difficult, but it's overcoming the obstacles is what's so wonderful about it.
JMtothaG 5 months ago
Has anyone told you lately that you're a gorgeous creature? I use the word creature because person is mundane, and goddess is too dramatic. In any case, a ladeh who can game, play, and generally kick it is a dream to many dudes and chicks alike. Glad you're staying you, and hope life picks up to compensate for these many bad days, beau.
CackleCackleHehehe 5 months ago
My computer sucks and wont let me watch the last minute of your vid...however, I just want to say...
Dont let anyone tell you how to "act like a girl" there are MANY different types of girls and they all have their own personality. You are gorgeous, bio woman or not! It's hard to be happy with yourself sometimes, I know...we cant let it affect us to the point where we stop doing things we enjoy doing. I've really been battling the depression lately. I know exactly what you mean about not finding
AdamTBoy 5 months ago
pt 2: a job because of legal documentation. Sometimes its so exhausting and frustrating that I keep giving up. Probably why it took me 10 years to start hormones lol We have a much better life experience than the rest of the world and THAT we do need to be thankful for, no matter how hard our lives may be. Just try to keep your chin up hun... :)
AdamTBoy 5 months ago
Thank you.
theSecondEve 5 months ago
There are so many girls who like "boy stuff". It doesn't make anyone less of a woman or man just because they like things which are supposed to be gender-specific.
Kudos to you to not giving in to that stupid talk! :)
You're awesome the way you are.
Alfruna 5 months ago in playlist Weitere Videos von Jesslyngirl87
can you tell me everything you did, like what phases u went thru n stuff?
EpicCorruption 5 months ago
Or how hard is it to go out and live the 1-2 years in the role?
EpicCorruption 5 months ago
@EpicCorruption idk it wasnt too hard for me really. you just do it
Jesslyngirl87 5 months ago 2
The woman you are today is .... hard to believe that you were someone else .... I would even say impossible ... I know that if good road in your new life and thank you for your video it feels good to many of us ...
olive36 5 months ago
The woman you are today is .... hard to believe that you were someone else .... I would even say impossible ... I know that if good road in your new life and thank you for your video it feels good to many of us ...
olive36 5 months ago
@EpicCorruption
It can be hard. But it can be great too.I was actually forced to go full time at just 2 months into HRT. I got outed at work and then the men I work with got uncomfortable with my transition. When that happened I pretty much got the attitude of, "What have I to lose? I have to take that step sooner or later."
The HR Department where I work have been wonderful. They changed the name on my shirts, and basically I became just another female employee.
KeairaElisabeth 3 months ago
@EpicCorruption It was a kick in the butt that I didn't want, but yet I don't really regret. You just have to take that first step. I'm now almost 9 months along on HRT and I'm living as me.
That being said, everyone's situation is different. I know of one woman who's not had an easy time of it and she's been full time since the late 1990's.
KeairaElisabeth 3 months ago
I am seriously considering an srs. Could you tell me everything u did and at what age? Things have been going through my head lately and I decided to go for this.
EpicCorruption 5 months ago
ugh this is my second time sending this i don't remember my other comment but u shouldn't listen to other people if they don't like the way you are than they shouldn't watch you lol i love your videos and music and i've been watching you for a while all i can say is be your self and don't listen to others but any ways all the best adive i can give u is be your self don't change for any one just be your self i know its not easy
redcandy1983 5 months ago
Omg girls aren't allowed on the internet either, so how did that girl comment? Get back in the kitchen, don't vote, don't get an education, raise the kids, and sleep in separate beds. THAT'S how a woman should act.
/sarcasm.
TheSqueakyWaffle 5 months ago
Keep strong Jess. Nice to see you are fine and thx for the updates,
Holeesan 5 months ago
i think that people who say shit like that only can do it online anyway who cares ur awesome ive been on HRT probably the same length of time and your a beautiful woman and F*** the HATERS
tommygun375721 5 months ago
@Jesslyngirl87 You still in Ohio right? You and I have so much in common. I love rock, pop and same history as you. I love your personality!
marvelous211 5 months ago
One: invest in hair clips :) Two: stop being your biggest critic! You ARE beautiful! Shoot, I'd LOVE to look like you. Not everyone can have the chance and fortune to be where you are now in your life...like me. You're on Youtube and there will be HATERS. f*them. Keep on jamming and doing your thang. Too awesome.
therebeldolly 5 months ago
I completely agree, I know women who love Metal, I know women who love gaming (my niece is a games programmer), I know women who love football. What you like doesn't define you. I'm a man but I like romantic comedies, am I not supposed to? BS! You're looking good Jess, all the best.
Pazma1 5 months ago
hey Jess, welcome to the life of a tough chick. people are always trying to tell women what being a "woman" means---HA. It's as old and stupid as saying girls can't like math or cars. If you lived near me we would totally hang.
taihuibabe 5 months ago
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its been a year watching u girl... Good going..keep it up... And yeah u should join a music band...U actly rock..U can be a successful musician one day... ;D
SophiSidd 5 months ago
awww jesslyn... you rule girl! being trans is a gift... we are the children of Hemes and Aphrodite... the messenger of the gods and the goddess of love and beauty... who else gets to live two lives in one?! you are a perfect role model for us:) love you sis:)
sophieleonarda 5 months ago
i really think you are the most down to earth person ever the social points you make about gender are amazing thank you for be yourself and not being a stereotype like a smart person
stevenmhyden 5 months ago
yeah is the curse that we live, sometimes people lost everything for follow their dreams.
the transition is magic for us, because we show the real people that we are...
but always have problems, serious problems but we need continue
seifer010 5 months ago
Theres stereotypical and then theres you. I've already started my transition 6 months ago but Im not gonna give up my interests just because their not girly. I love my motorcycle and going to the gun range. Dont like it, oh well
ValkyriesMoon 5 months ago
A very, very interesting subject. Some people want to put you into a box to satisfy themselves which is a wrong thing to do. Many of them do that out of insecurity but don't let their own distress get to you! Be you.
You seem very radiant these days. Thank you for the encouraging words which will be guiding to both trans and cispeople! Wishing you all the best
TsukiNoMahou 5 months ago
Best camera angle ever...why let people bring you down? Have you seen yourself in the mirror lately? You are sooooo hot! (No Im not some old pervert/weirdo)
RapidCycling07 5 months ago
I think your a perfect example because being who you truly are as the women you are is amazing and I also play WoW and playstation etc if this makes any sense lol take care girly xxx
salaya232 5 months ago
Sorry Jesslyn! :-/
nhusean 5 months ago
Just ignore those that are ridiculing you. It isn't worth giving any energy to. Just express yourself to the you are. That includes your hobbies; they're apart of your identity of who you are. You just have be patient as you go through this since. Just be positive and be in the moment. You'll turn out great.
Railroad2008 5 months ago
You are absolutely right - your hobbies don't have to change to fit into a steriotype. You are effortlessly feminin.
musely81 5 months ago
Earlier this year, I did temp office work in a mail processing center (so boring, but eh, I got money). There were a few transgender people there, and they were fully accepted. Was nice there. There might not be opportunities like that around where you are, but hey, you never know.
chrimigules 5 months ago
Keep your chin up sweetie. Girls lucky enough to be born in the right body like metal, action movies, and video games. Just tell em to F off!
jfield11 5 months ago
You mentioned there about being annoyed when people constantly ask you questions that are usually answered in other videos. Have you thought about making a FAQ, either in text or video form? If you were to compile the fifteen or twenty questions you always get asked and have no desire to answer repeatedly and put all of them, along with their answers, in a spoon-fed form, you may cut down a lot of that activity. You could even put the link under every video or something.
anothereviloverlord 5 months ago
You are such a brave, strong individual to have actually accepted who you truly are and take the steps to transition...and especially as young as you are. I finally accepted it about your age, but still took almost 5 years to do something about it. Now I'm 28 wondering why I didn't start transitioning sooner. As hard as it is sometimes, just try to remain strong...remain positive. There are people out there who support you! Try to forget about the haters and focus on those who care for you.
jennyfur283 5 months ago
Unfortunately, I think people will amplify the gender role of personal interests with someone transitioning. It sucks. I'm still new in my transition, but with several people I've told, they ask me, "But you like sports so much. What's that about?" It's going to happen, but always remember, there's nothing wrong with liking or not liking something. You like metal? You don't have to be male or female to like metal. There are girls in the metal scene. Cristina of Lacuna Coil is one. Stay strong!
jennyfur283 5 months ago
You like what you like, and that shouldn't be dependent on labeling things "male interests" or "female interests". What you like and what sex you are seem mutually exclusive to me. Just for the record, girls who like heavy metal get major bonus points from me! Keep jamming on those Iced Earth riffs!
6672rock 5 months ago
You are so adorable <3
McGturtle3 5 months ago
wow, that's pretty ridiculous, them saying that to you... everyone knows that girls are supposed to be all different.,who wants one kind of girl? it would e sooo boring if all female just tried to be this "princess type"? the way some girls..ALL kinds of girls try to to emulate what they think should be a "female" is pretty funny sometimes.. Keep being you dear :)
cutechubbychick1 5 months ago
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cutechubbychick1 5 months ago
Agreed. What about the metal bands Cretin and Life of Agony, both of which have members who have transitioned? Fuck people, keep your head up.
DeathCarcass666 5 months ago 6
@DeathCarcass666 omg i just looked up the story about Marissa Martinez from cretin.. thats so awesome how shes still in the band. that gave me some extra hope for my transition (which ive needed lately)
thanks
jess :)
Jesslyngirl87 5 months ago
@Jesslyngirl87 I saw Cretin earlier this year. So so so good.
DeathCarcass666 5 months ago
@GoGideonGo i think scorpio i was born in november
Jesslyngirl87 5 months ago
Just be yourself girl. You're great just the way you are.
G00glyb34r 5 months ago
What a croc to them. there are tomboys out there and girly girls that don't necessarily like things thought to be "Girlie"
You are "femanine" and a great person and that's all that matters if it makes you happy and the fact you play Metal is a bonus :).
Spamazoid 5 months ago
Just wanted to tell you how Good you look! i was so surprised, this week i turned 25 and the last two months I seriously thought about saying goodbye to my old "me" and start self med HRT on my birthday, (which i haven't..) now you mention it should be the last thing to do.. now this morning i told myself "Screw it! I'll do whatever i want to do, i'll be alone anyway"... how old were you when you started hrt? (hope im not repeating questions sorry!).
maniau 5 months ago
@maniau it was right after i turned 22. ill be turning 24 in november.
Jesslyngirl87 5 months ago
Btw i like all the stuff u like practically i LOVE metal, i play bass and drums, i play video games and party with my "bros" in my spare time!! And all my closest friends know i like the way i am and they are fine with it too!!
Harveyh4 5 months ago
You keep on doing whatever the hell you wanna do! What u do in your spare time or to ha e fun is your own deal, and it has nothing to do with gender! I know plenty of people in my life that do things "contrary" to their gender and they aren't trans. And pertaining to transitioning, you Just gotta be optomistic about it, u can do or be whatever you set your mind to hun!!
Harveyh4 5 months ago
fuck all haters i see, cus i hate that you breath. when someone tells me how to be me that is my response. and i know it hurts to be not genetic but my girlfriend whom i love oh so very much is very much like i am physicaly by that i mean she has hormone problems that mess with her like it did us so take solace that we may be different as women but we are still very much women, oh and im sure you already know this but i will tell you that girls that play heavy metal and wow are hot ^-^
jokersgirll88 5 months ago
If I like it, I like it (clicks the like button). COMPLETE AGREEMENT!!!
4:42 - 5:15 COMPLETE AGREEMENT!!!
StoicVenus 5 months ago
If I like it, I like it (clicks the like button). COMPLETE AGREEMENT!!!
StoicVenus 5 months ago
Also (posted a comment too soon) - 4:42 - 5:15 COMPLETE AGREEMENT!!!
StoicVenus 5 months ago
Hats off to you, sincerely. Love what you love, and forget about everything else. And besides...a girl who games, plays metal guitar, and likes cool movies is a total turn-on. You're a beautiful woman and I wish you all the best. Strength and honor, comrade.
duckfish405 5 months ago
*Sigh* Wow, people tell you 'how to be a girl'?
I'm trans, I want to become a female, but hell, I love cars, bikes, motorsports, but it won't make me any less female, just because these interests are STEREOTYPICALLY considered 'masculine'. I also know girls who like these too, take part in motorsports, so there are bio girls with these interests too
Same with Jess, I know MANY girls who play videogames and love metal
Ones interests is NOT ones gender. Ignorent people need to understand that
TheAwesomeRogers 5 months ago
Girl, let me tell you from first hand experience. I have lost friends and family members along the way and it hurts, but in the end, the ONLY one that has to be statisfied with who you are and what you do, is you!!! It really doesn't matter what you like to do with your time, as long as it makes you feel good about you.
I have done alot of things that are sterotypical of guys, like ride motorcycles, shoot guns, watch Nascar or football. But you know what, I don't care what others think!
dana2be 5 months ago
I listen to your 'livin on a prayer' everyday to give me hope... can't really see you so disappointed and depressed. Honestly, you look very pretty and I don't know why you have trouble passing, if at all you do.
amy25arya 5 months ago in playlist Videos from Jesslyngirl87
When I think of how things might change for me, and how It would be slightly odd 'acting' girly with my friends, I feel slightly weird myself. But that's not what this is about. This isn't about what girls do, how they are on an average or what things they usually like. It is about you and it is about being comfortable with being ourself. And all you got to do is 'Act Naturally' :)
There are all kinds of girls. All you have to be is yourself. That's what I tell myself.
amy25arya 5 months ago in playlist Videos from Jesslyngirl87
how to be a girl:
1. do what feels right!
2. dont give a hoot what others say or think! go your own way!
3. if you like stuff, thats fine!
go your own way and dont care if anyone says otherwise!!! you go girl!!
90pokeman 5 months ago
You're perfect the way you are, Jesslyn. That's so obvious from this side of the internet, you're absolutely lovely in every way. And good on you for telling people to stop picking on your interests. I think you're awesome in all your heavy metal and WoW playing and whatever else people are taking issue with. That's ridiculous, and it's not bitchy at all to call them out on it. I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. Our cultural understanding of gender is so broken.
rmazar 5 months ago
Like what you like. Do what YOU want to do. If it's your passion there is NO shame in that. I'm a 26 year old female and grew up listening to metal, and played in metal bands through out my teenage years. And I STILL listen to heavy fucking metal/death metal/Prog whatever.. and im happily engaged to a hot sexy man. lol. So those "people" that are trying to give you advice, know nothing. You're hot, beautiful, talented, very girly girl, and men ALWAYS love a chick that can play some good music.
liddykat 5 months ago
Thanks:') this video meant alot
TheJayward1113 5 months ago
I've watched you blossom over the months into what you are now, in a sad way I would have transitioned and I find myself watching and sort of living vicariously through you because I never did. You have achieved so much and I think peace is found knowing its a journey that you may never complete in this lifetime but ultimately its you who needs to decide what you want to be.
monicaxireland 5 months ago
You are completley gorgeouss. Never give up girl ;)
Xxprayforplaguesxx00 5 months ago
Could you tell me how you change your voice so well? I started HRT 16 days ago, but i heard voice is the hardest thing to learn, so i think i should start already.
Kroopek4 5 months ago
your hair is getting long... cute :3
theholyrussian 6 months ago
Excellent perspective! Keep on keepin' on!
petitelisanc 6 months ago
Search for Storm Large - Ladylike...enough said really! Jesslyn, do what you like and love what you love! Much love girl xx
jennimiferful 6 months ago
Not all girls can be the same , if that were true then this world would be really dole and boring , you are your own kind of person and I admire you.
plm456plm 6 months ago
What you need to understand Jess, is that the majority of people who leave comments on YouTube are retarded. :/
Bemanilover 6 months ago
Thanks for being really honest. It means a lot.
CardiacInfarction 6 months ago
And I always favorite your metal guitar work!!!!Love it!!
Charlene68100 6 months ago
Occassionally a genetic female is born with some male anatomy Jess,and viceversa,unless you have had the correct blood work done you don't know,you might have the dreaded xx chromosome make up,many of us do,I suspect you may as well,which makes you a genetic female Jess,but even so ,or not,your heart,your spirit is female.There are hundreds of variations on the grey area in gender physiological and chromosome make up.I just thank God you are who you are Jess,your a huge inspiration to me.
Charlene68100 6 months ago
@Charlene68100 well considering how well i developed in bodybuilding i prolly dont have that "xx" but it doesnt really change anything ive done up to this point.
Jesslyngirl87 5 months ago
@Jesslyngirl87 I want you to know how much of an inspiration you have been to me and my life! You have made the best videos to watch for alot of reasons but I think you have done so so well with your transition and you have changed your appearance to a beautiful women so well that I envy you! I remember one of your videos long ago where you broke down and basically was saying you get to a point that you don't give an eff what other people think say or do and that was so powerful to me !
123KristenLeigh 5 months ago
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@Jesslyngirl87 I want you to know how much of an inspiration you have been to me and my life! You have made the best videos to watch for alot of reasons but I think you have done so so well with your transition and you have changed your appearance to a beautiful women so well that I envy you! I remember one of your videos long ago where you broke down and basically was saying you get to a point that you don't give an eff what other people think say or do and that was so powerful to me !
123KristenLeigh 5 months ago
Hi Jesslyn, it's Palamino : ) Don't ever change for anyone. Be who you are and be what you want to be. Life is too short to please everyone. Both my parents died recently. I asked my father if he had any regrets on his death bed (workaholic), he said, "Look at me now. Look at what I'm taking with me. Nothing,everything I worked for, all my material items. None of it is going with me. Live as you want to live and build your memories! It's all you can take with you." Keep that in mind hon!
MsGracers 6 months ago
Jesslyn, you're doing fabulously! Sweetie, ta hell with whatEVER anyone else says, and just keep living your life... I'd not think twice about you on the street.. and don't let your subconscious get the best of you.. the 'voices' suck, they really, REALLY do. Our choices are really only to take deep breaths and move on.. right? Live well and BE well, girl. Nuff said.
AngelMarie1976 6 months ago
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That was such an amazingly true comment and I don't think I've ever heard anyone say it before "you are not becoming another person, you're still yourself". it brought a tear to my eyes. You go girl. you be yourself cuz you ARE amazing!
NorthwolfMels 6 months ago
That was such an amazingly true comment and I don't think I've ever heard anyone say it before "you are not becoming another person, you're still yourself". it brought a tear to my eyes. You go girl. you be yourself cuz you ARE amazing!
NorthwolfMels 6 months ago
Jess, you are fine. Don't let other peoples projections cloud your mind with doubt. You are NORMAL. Your still in the infancy of a great journey hun! You're gonna be fine!
bentonhunter 6 months ago
Such a feminist argument! LOVE THIS VIDEO! Thank you.
dahlia0913 6 months ago
Transitioning should be about being yourself. Wouldn't it be a nice world if we could all just transcend gender roles and just be?
p.s you look great and I think you pass absolutely.
ThatFelicitygirl 6 months ago
@ThatFelicitygirl ; I agree, baby.
akatsukimercenary 6 months ago
Your hair is fucking hot, the end! And I completely relate to you in this video in every way but keep your chin up girl it's better than going back..
TransSexualAj 6 months ago
Those kinds of ideas (about how girls/women *should* behave) have plagued women (trans and otherwise) since the beginning of time. Don't let those folks get you down. I hope you find a way to bring back some fun and happiness to your life. From what I can tell, you're physical/presentational (is that even a word?) transition is going well. Hope you find a way to relieve the feelings of isolation. It's not easy - something I struggle with every day too.
vivienky 6 months ago
i just wanted to say that i've always been impressed with your straitforwardness, and that i wish i could help. i have been undergoing HRT for only a few weeks but my body has not been resisting the changes at all... and i'll either have to live as a butch woman or transtion fully within the next 2 months. your video's have been more then helpful they have helped me through some tough times. sometimes is enuffe that you just uploaded a new vid to show that you havent given up and are perseverin
yourneedswport 6 months ago
Oscar Wilde said, "Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken." I could point out trans and cis women with youtube channels who are I.T. specialists, roller derby skaters, chefs, engineers, drummers, and a million other subjects that aren't "feminine". Hell, look at all the female rockers. I would have loved to see someone tell Joan Jett, "oh, you shold play some nice acoustic stuff." Yeah right! People who criticize on youtube just for the sake of criticizing need to get a life of their own.
eternallypre 6 months ago
fact-we as trans women hav grown alot of r life in a "mans" world we have found r own way into life + live with who + what we are + what we have become, you know in legal terms noone has the right to make a another person someone THEY think they shuld be, thats what made my life such a big horrible mess , those who think we should all be stereotype people, even alot of the time its those who are so much different from NORMAL people, trans people have existed as long as 'normal' people-fact
ThEsUbMaRiNeGirL 6 months ago
The thing that I have noticed from your videos is that you still have things that are more like a boy, but thats pretty normal to me. I guess things like liking bodybuilding and World of Warcraft are things that come to mind. Its not bad or wrong though, and I find it quite refreshing really. There is nothing wrong with being trans in my opinion, but I do think people that are trans should try to accept that, yes, they were once or boy (or a girl). It probably sounds patronizing in some...
jamstrings100 6 months ago
@jamstrings100 ...way, but I am saying it because that's how I see it I guess. I guess I wouldn't like someone to stereotype me because of my sexual preference, but I'm sure some people would do it. The world is evolving, but it takes time doesn't it?
Anyways, I like your videos and think you're pretty cool. Good luck to you.
jamstrings100 6 months ago
damb you look good
lansier2 6 months ago
Be yourself dear. Most real women are boring as fuck. I guess one of the reasons men are attracted to Shemales is because they show more femininity. 95% of women wear men's drabby cloths and they don't look good in them. Just one big mess with no matching pattern.If any one needs training to be a real girl or woman it's the real women.
MicrosoftsourceCode 6 months ago