and you can't overcome shyness like you can't get rid of AIDS, if God wants you to be a loser then accept it and believe that'll be much better... just stop looking for stupid advices 'cuz nothing helps better than becoming enraged and a bottle of vodka... that'll help you a lot more than these so-called "experts"...
you can overcome shyness i myself used to be a very shy person but over the years i have talked to people and read websites and books on how to overcome shyness and i has helped me alot, i now feel much more confident and good about mysel... so don't talk crap saying that god created you a loser because he didn't, you are your own person u create yourself. maybe this advice didn't help u but it helped me and probably many other people
of course, many studies indicate that shyness is related to lack of self-confidence, bla, bla, bla... listen, in this world there are predators and there is prey. since young age you must know what you want: to dominate or be dominated. there's no other option, unfortunately and its the real truth no matter how much we hide it. and also, people who give up commit suicide thus proving that they can't accept nor control their life.
Here is the best and only method to improve self confidence in social situations: realize that everybody else is in fact also just a hairless moneky trying to make it through the jungle, no more or less than you, and you will find an inner calm that will help you in this and in many other ways and aspects of your life.
i think shyness is due to when we dont give proper attention n concentrate what going at the moment..........i m sure if u r 100 % take keen interest what happening right now in your surrounding than there will be no problem of shyness n other social phobias.......if u really happy by heart u will like to meet new people
breaking out of that shell takes a lot of courage & security. Anxiety level soars when trying to step out of your comfort zone. That alone keeps SOME from opening themselves up...........if you have never experienced this, you may not understand.
how do i have a feeling your talking about Jim Carry? i don't know just had that thought come into my head for some reason. he always seems like a sad/shy person. i know he's in a lot of funny movies and stuff...but i don't know he just seems like a sad person to me. i don't understand why.
Im shy for some reason because im insecure. Im athletic, 5'9, muscular build, and some girls say im cute. But im still insecure. Idk why though(btw im 13yrs)
You are actually wrong. "overcomming shyness"... "Shyness is selfish". Like that would help a shy person?! Yeah that's right, make them feel even worse about themselves than they allready do! Shyness stems from a lack of selfesteem. Lack of confidens in themselves. Lack of Love for themselves. They just don't like themselves that much. Wich is what should change! It's perfectly ok to be shy! Love thyself oh shy person! And feel the growing begin...
He doesn't mean selfish in the regular sense, he means it's not generous towards others because you're not contributing, participating, etc. He says all these things that make sense but you're branding him for something that wasn't entirely thought through, good on you guys, don't listen to his advice then.
@uhleksee imagine you meet an incredibly gorgeous and charismatic girl, however she doesn't talk to you and just keeps to herself, of course she isn't ''selfish' for being so BUT you would miss out something amazing, right ? but he didn't mean it literally just as a joke KINDA, kno what i'm sayin ?'
ii followed him but he failed by not mentioning where anxiety comes in.. its not complete selfishness.. or maybe the shy person just isnt keen on social interaction because after all ... he is shy!
Yes its true! shy people are selfish! (also narcissist in other words) Because people complaining about it are saying "wtf? im not selfish" well your sitting there thinking about YOU and how YOU arent selfish take the time to look up narcissist in the dictionary. Believe it, you are worried about yourself on how YOU can start a conversation, or how you can prevent YOURSELF from being embarrassed. I'm what you would consider shy and this video does make sense to me. Just think about it.
You're fucking stupid, how is this gonna help me with my shyness? Expertvillage more like Beginner Village, learn your fuckin' stuff, being shy isn't selfish, its lack of self-confidence, the NON-shy people are more selfish than we are you fuckin' cock.
how to overcome shyness? just remember that you're going to die one day and when you're dead there's little you can do. when you're alive one the other hand you can do anything!
It's really not hard to pick up girls. You just need to educate yourself and luckily, there's some sick guides out there. "The Game" by Neil Strauss started things off for me and most recently, I've been using the techniques from P.Box
Here's what you need to do:
Step 1: Go to MackMethods. com
Step 2: Get the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use the tips and blend it in with your own twist
Picking up girls is a skill. Educate yourself and you'll laugh at how easy it is.
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did).
I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out haha
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the tip.
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did).
I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out lol
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the wealth
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did).
I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out haha
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the wealth
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did). I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out haha
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the wealth.
Hey guys, I'm a therapist and I'm working on a new blog and video series to help people overcome social anxiety. I hope you'll check it out and help me build a community. Just search for my user name.
Has anyone suggested the scientific approach? A Neurofeedback specialist can analyze the problem by looking at the brain activity. If you have severe activity causing your thoughts to race this will cause severe anxiety. Neurofeedback can unlock the brain. My son has had 26 sessions and is feeling extremely better.
dr.paul.... the jealous, callus , bitter cousin of doctor the most interesting man in the world.......THE COMMERCIALS WERE MY IDEA YOU SON OF A BITCH!!!!...its said you can here this statment in the background of every commercial
know what guys? im not gonna say i have totally overcomed my fears, shyness, etc.. but if were not going to do something bout it, nothing will change. becuase by the end of the day, no matter how many people will encourage us to do this and that, it is still in our hands if were going to help ourself out or not.
i suffer from shyness well is not that bad like before is still bothers me sometimes anxiety comes and the only thing i want to do is get out of the situation.
i am terribly shy....im mostly myself when im in my comfort zone or else when im out there i anticipate failing and just feel like a looser....when im among ppl my tummy hurts(butterflies in stomach kinda thing)and the whole atmoshere feels weird...
@StuntedSnail Something I like to do when I'm super depressed is to go chat up a cashier. Go to starbucks or something, and when it's your turn, they will ask, "Can I help you?" This is your opening to talk to them. Just say one or two sentences about anything, and then smile. They will probably respond positively. Then you can either continue talking with them or order your coffee. It helps me bounce back into a social environment if I've shut myself off for so long. You're not alone!
Knowing i willingly sacrifice my time in order to help the well-being of others sometimes, and donate to various charitable organizations. Yet, in spite of all this; due to my shyness, i am therefore to be considered selfish...
@GMunny5 he didnt say imply that youre selfish, although i do find it interesting that you have the need to tell the world of any good deeds you do... kinda takes away the sincerity of it
So overcome shyness by just...not being shy in other words. Great advice! Alcoholic? Just stop drinking! Narcissist? Stop thinking about yourself so much! Psychopath? Just stop stabbing!
@Biohazardz100 I am reading Shyness: A Bold New Approach - it doesn't blame or label people for being shy, it talks about how to be "successfully shy", meaning that you may always be somewhat shy, so you plan for it and have strategies ready for situations that make you shy. Please do not kill yourself- I was so shy in high school I wore my long hair over my face to hide behind. I am now 45 and although I am still shy, I have had a wonderful life - life gets SO much better after high school!!
I find it funny when ppl who view this end up leaving a snippy comment about this Dr., yes he's kind of an old james bond wannabe but what he's saying is true. Leaving a comment about him won't make you any less shy, or make what he is saying wrong so why not just take what you want from it. I personally have am SICK AND TIRED of being shy. I feel like i'm 2 different people, the real me inside and the semi shy person that i am in front of People and even Family! I feel like a prisoner! SCREAM
@ehabq lol u just know by the way he acts :p stares at me a lot, brushes me in the hallways purpposly, he even waited for me just so he could hold the door for me!
@Curious6Kevin9 really? then so does confindence and empowering ones self. shy ppl are shy cos there thinking of everyone else but themselves confident ppl are confident cos they only have themselves in mind and noone else.
Lols. I feel so embarrassed for watching this. But I'm like really shy, but when I'm at home, on the internet, or texting my friends, I talk more. I'm a dancer, but when people watch me dance or when we practice, I get so shy and I dont want to dance with them around x/
being outgoing is not always better than being shy. a lot of times outgoing people are loud and obnoxious and are all "look at me look at me".. we shouldn't be a world that views that as what we should aim to be, while shyness is some sort of handicap. honestly, we're all just as insecure as everyone. we just need to realize that.
@CxoLENNON I know what you mean. Sometimes I have to have a moment alone just to 'center' myself. I know that I'm a good person even though I don't feel good all the time. If someone insults me or ridicules me, it hurts my feelings & makes me feel bad, but it doesn't change who I am on the inside.
@CxoLENNON Why would you care about someone judging you? If you define your own self-worth, you can't care less about other people making assumptions on you.
@CxoLENNON Yeah it might be true, it might not be true, but I think thoughts like that don't help people with social issues. That's what I was reaching for.
good video. i am or at least consider myself to be a pretty intelegent person but when you were talking i felt like you were talking to me instead of your camera. i keep what im thinking to myself alot of the time instead of speaking it. ive just always thought thats the "type" of person i was. i felt i was just naturally quiet, but now i talk alot more depending on who im talking to. some people just give off "bad vibes" if that makes since. mainly guys. i was raised by a single mom.
Every where we look in nature we see the act of confidence, superiority, that is put on simply to get ones genes to be carried on to the mate. But Its all just a game. Its all an act and only you can think you are confident, you can think , you can be, you can swear you are but what is it? How can you? What is confidence in an existential riddle? I am a peacock, i have large brightly colored feathers that are 2 shades of green lighter than yours therefore i possess higher confidence levels...?
He is kind of right, I'm very self confident but had a fucked up childhood thanks to my alcoholic dad. Besides, I noticed that we learn from our parents, even without thinking. My dad is an introvert who made friends with vodka, he barely had any friends, so I guess he is at fault for making me shy. Now I'm 24 and trying to change all of that, including losing my virginity.
@LtWalker11 for looking for self confidence vids? you shouldn't. i think it's a good, not to mention a healthy thing to want to build your self confidence. :) you're not a loser. no worries
@StuntedSnail Also if you have a camera you could make a youtube video without showing your face. Just go outside and video some cars and talk to the camera a bit. It's fun sometimes. Another thing I like to do is record my voice and just talk for like ten minutes. Then I save the recording and I can listen to myself talk on my computer. I did this every day for weeks, and now I'm a lot better at rambling, which actually makes people more comfortable. Feel free to PM me for more ideas.
I don't agree that shyness also means selfishness. Personally, I refuse to open up to other people if I can't tell they're interested in me or not. Though if certain people share the same interests, I can bond with them instantly. I wouldn't force them to like me because its like breaking their "barrier" and seems unethical in a way. I wouldn't say I'm shy myself. I can talk plenty with my few close friends and family. However if my mouth is shut, then I have nothing important to address.
I think Im overcompensating from the sound of this video. Im currently taking a muay thai class and one of the reasons is, I think it might help me feel better about myself and maybe help me break out of my shell.
Thats not even the full story. When I DO talk, they just look at me and then move on with theyre lives. When ever I do something everyone is doing, I get really hot because I'm afraid people will watch and think of me of some weird kid. There is also a girl I like and when ever I see her I freeze up and and I all of a sudden get weaker. I CANT EVEN GO ON HER FACEBOOK WITHOUT SWEATING LIKE A PIG! I really DO want to overcome my fear of rejection!
I am sooo shy at school and in public. I am not shy at home. I have trouble even talking to people at school and I always feel that I'm being watched. i used to not be as shy in elementary school, but now I am in high school... it is a big problem with me..
omg man i hate being shy cuz i cant talk to the cute grls...and especially that 1 girl that i just got to have. i have been unshy around ppl a couple of times but it was becuase i just said one joke everybody laughed and i just kept on craking jokes like freaking crazy.SHIT but most of the times i am prety shy i wana overcome it really badly :(
@LunaTicTacs I have the same problem...I can tal to family and friends, but around ppl I know I just shut quite down, I'm in highschool and I do have a lots of friends but when I get try to tal to a girl I don't know what to say and it ends up a wierd situation...so I just avoid it. Which I need to stop
Well for me, I'm shy because I have been through so many
bad things in life that I don't know, where to begin, and then how much do I talk about with someone if they want to listen to what I have to say without scareing them off.
I feel like I will always be shy just because I have had so
many things happen to me that made me insecure, there's
@IAmIntelligence my suggestion is overcome 1 problem at the time! focus on 1 major task, and then a other one, a other, and after a time most will be resolved!! good luck!
and you can't overcome shyness like you can't get rid of AIDS, if God wants you to be a loser then accept it and believe that'll be much better... just stop looking for stupid advices 'cuz nothing helps better than becoming enraged and a bottle of vodka... that'll help you a lot more than these so-called "experts"...
11MasterBlade 3 days ago
@11MasterBlade
you can overcome shyness i myself used to be a very shy person but over the years i have talked to people and read websites and books on how to overcome shyness and i has helped me alot, i now feel much more confident and good about mysel... so don't talk crap saying that god created you a loser because he didn't, you are your own person u create yourself. maybe this advice didn't help u but it helped me and probably many other people
xxxpurplepinnerxxx 2 days ago
of course, many studies indicate that shyness is related to lack of self-confidence, bla, bla, bla... listen, in this world there are predators and there is prey. since young age you must know what you want: to dominate or be dominated. there's no other option, unfortunately and its the real truth no matter how much we hide it. and also, people who give up commit suicide thus proving that they can't accept nor control their life.
11MasterBlade 3 days ago
Here is the best and only method to improve self confidence in social situations: realize that everybody else is in fact also just a hairless moneky trying to make it through the jungle, no more or less than you, and you will find an inner calm that will help you in this and in many other ways and aspects of your life.
LackadaisicalE 4 days ago
i think shyness is due to when we dont give proper attention n concentrate what going at the moment..........i m sure if u r 100 % take keen interest what happening right now in your surrounding than there will be no problem of shyness n other social phobias.......if u really happy by heart u will like to meet new people
shailukala 4 days ago
I have made a video 5 Steps towards overcoming shyness, feel free to check it out :)
MsDeelz 3 weeks ago
breaking out of that shell takes a lot of courage & security. Anxiety level soars when trying to step out of your comfort zone. That alone keeps SOME from opening themselves up...........if you have never experienced this, you may not understand.
072885RL 1 month ago
selfish? really..... I don't totally agree with that.
072885RL 1 month ago
What??
RogerUribe2530 1 month ago
What?
MegaMavric 1 month ago
what ?
robertma4171 1 month ago
What?
kazakhaul2011 1 month ago
He deserves his own meme
daynawoww 2 months ago
Grossly oversimplified!!
1LaOriental 2 months ago
I'm shy because of my speech impediment.. ^^
Minimalici0us 2 months ago
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how do i have a feeling your talking about Jim Carry? i don't know just had that thought come into my head for some reason. he always seems like a sad/shy person. i know he's in a lot of funny movies and stuff...but i don't know he just seems like a sad person to me. i don't understand why.
92FanMail 3 months ago 4
Im shy for some reason because im insecure. Im athletic, 5'9, muscular build, and some girls say im cute. But im still insecure. Idk why though(btw im 13yrs)
DreSmoove1 3 months ago
To all shy people: please, give me some money, Don't be selfish! :)
foodabz 3 months ago 2
what ever you do do not click the girl in a tiny bikini think youll regret it
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don't be shy, be yourself ;)
dimitris95osfp 3 months ago
You are actually wrong. "overcomming shyness"... "Shyness is selfish". Like that would help a shy person?! Yeah that's right, make them feel even worse about themselves than they allready do! Shyness stems from a lack of selfesteem. Lack of confidens in themselves. Lack of Love for themselves. They just don't like themselves that much. Wich is what should change! It's perfectly ok to be shy! Love thyself oh shy person! And feel the growing begin...
kamileishon 3 months ago 3
that actually makes sense lol
MrRapidfirekid 3 months ago
He doesn't mean selfish in the regular sense, he means it's not generous towards others because you're not contributing, participating, etc. He says all these things that make sense but you're branding him for something that wasn't entirely thought through, good on you guys, don't listen to his advice then.
Poomba1989b 3 months ago
@uhleksee imagine you meet an incredibly gorgeous and charismatic girl, however she doesn't talk to you and just keeps to herself, of course she isn't ''selfish' for being so BUT you would miss out something amazing, right ? but he didn't mean it literally just as a joke KINDA, kno what i'm sayin ?'
TehCuteDuke 4 months ago
ii followed him but he failed by not mentioning where anxiety comes in.. its not complete selfishness.. or maybe the shy person just isnt keen on social interaction because after all ... he is shy!
Oskie425 4 months ago
shyness is selfish? i disagree completely with that
BriMarie876 4 months ago
Yes its true! shy people are selfish! (also narcissist in other words) Because people complaining about it are saying "wtf? im not selfish" well your sitting there thinking about YOU and how YOU arent selfish take the time to look up narcissist in the dictionary. Believe it, you are worried about yourself on how YOU can start a conversation, or how you can prevent YOURSELF from being embarrassed. I'm what you would consider shy and this video does make sense to me. Just think about it.
ZxOxMxBxOxMxB 4 months ago
You're fucking stupid, how is this gonna help me with my shyness? Expertvillage more like Beginner Village, learn your fuckin' stuff, being shy isn't selfish, its lack of self-confidence, the NON-shy people are more selfish than we are you fuckin' cock.
TheVerbalSlaughter 4 months ago
how to overcome shyness? just remember that you're going to die one day and when you're dead there's little you can do. when you're alive one the other hand you can do anything!
wirechair 4 months ago
i bet hes got a nice fat cock
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RosalieStreet 4 months ago
This is a really great video!
TheNobleBard 4 months ago
exactly, people will be confident with you only if youre confident with them.
lunteren2007 4 months ago
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Guys,
It's really not hard to pick up girls. You just need to educate yourself and luckily, there's some sick guides out there. "The Game" by Neil Strauss started things off for me and most recently, I've been using the techniques from P.Box
Here's what you need to do:
Step 1: Go to MackMethods. com
Step 2: Get the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use the tips and blend it in with your own twist
Picking up girls is a skill. Educate yourself and you'll laugh at how easy it is.
MMArtist99 4 months ago
lol at the end his smile said "this shit is too funny".
WorldOfSnakes 4 months ago
@joshkization no man they're not. For improving on basketball skills they're a great bunch!
WorldOfSnakes 4 months ago
Hi Expert Village. Great Video. Keep it up :)
DebraGanoTV 5 months ago
@uhleksee Do you have a Phd in behavioral phychology?
SnakeSolidMGS 5 months ago
lol@ xToxiicPanda.. :p
HananPrincessx3 5 months ago
HE'S NOT TALKING ABOUT JIM CARREY BY THE WAY, HE'S TALKING ABOUT ROBBIN WILLIAMS.
KwokWork 6 months ago
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WhiteMoonLights 6 months ago
*Yawns*
admiralsnipe 6 months ago
Helping people by asking money for it is 'selfish' too. ;) Maybe you could donate some of that money, that would be less selfish.
Incognito2803 6 months ago
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cerealrulz 6 months ago
useful vid :)
Thank you
medicinepharmacy 6 months ago
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superkulkin2 6 months ago
HE'S TALKING ABOUT JIM CAREY BY THE WAY.
MrTypow 6 months ago
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Guys,
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did).
I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out haha
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the tip.
FreeOnlineWorkouts 6 months ago
WTF EXPERTVILLAGE LOL!!!!
probro93 6 months ago
cool bro
matyuk54 6 months ago
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Guys,
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did).
I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out lol
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the wealth
LadyboyHunter 6 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
Guys,
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did).
I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out haha
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the wealth
MMArtist99 6 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
Guys,
Getting girls doesn't have to be difficult (I used to think it did). I'll give you some advice right now..
Step 1: Go to MackMethods(dot)com
Step 2: Order the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use it and laugh at how easy girls are to figure out haha
Seriously, that program has changed my life. I probably shouldn't even be mentioning it because I don't want a bunch of other guys out there running the same "game" but whatever, I'm in a good mood today so I'll share the wealth.
UFCFights11 6 months ago
Lol at cheeky smile at the end :)!
gitaarmaniaac 6 months ago
Hey guys, I'm a therapist and I'm working on a new blog and video series to help people overcome social anxiety. I hope you'll check it out and help me build a community. Just search for my user name.
SocialAnxietyDr 7 months ago
You really have a talent for making videos! Keep them coming
thethirdq 7 months ago
You really have a talent for making videos! Keep them coming
thethirdq 7 months ago
this dude is speakin the truth though...
itzauztin 7 months ago 12
this man got game ;)
MonicazProduction 8 months ago 2
jim carrey was homeless
AhYaOk 8 months ago
Has anyone suggested the scientific approach? A Neurofeedback specialist can analyze the problem by looking at the brain activity. If you have severe activity causing your thoughts to race this will cause severe anxiety. Neurofeedback can unlock the brain. My son has had 26 sessions and is feeling extremely better.
Diane9773 8 months ago
dr.paul.... the jealous, callus , bitter cousin of doctor the most interesting man in the world.......THE COMMERCIALS WERE MY IDEA YOU SON OF A BITCH!!!!...its said you can here this statment in the background of every commercial
iwasthere 8 months ago
he is fukcing asshole..
shridharnike 8 months ago
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You sick fuck.
shamustafe99 8 months ago
i love this guy, hes really good
middoo08 8 months ago 6
know what guys? im not gonna say i have totally overcomed my fears, shyness, etc.. but if were not going to do something bout it, nothing will change. becuase by the end of the day, no matter how many people will encourage us to do this and that, it is still in our hands if were going to help ourself out or not.
jurexblue 8 months ago
i cant believe theres actually some videos here in youtube that gives some tips on how to overcome something. ishould surf the net more often. lol.
jurexblue 8 months ago
Well this is how shy i am; I only had 1 girlfriend in my life and i'm 35 years old. I don't think you can get anymore shy than that.
electric7508 8 months ago
@electric7508 gee i dunno im a 62 year old virgin and my mom still baths me
dseer13 8 months ago 2
i suffer from shyness well is not that bad like before is still bothers me sometimes anxiety comes and the only thing i want to do is get out of the situation.
Chilenita2009 8 months ago
i am terribly shy....im mostly myself when im in my comfort zone or else when im out there i anticipate failing and just feel like a looser....when im among ppl my tummy hurts(butterflies in stomach kinda thing)and the whole atmoshere feels weird...
aha00002 9 months ago
@jctbay
I agree with you. Look on the suggestions list on the left and you can see one of his video, "How to Please Yourself."
TNGGamer 9 months ago
so drunk
legggggggggy 9 months ago
@StuntedSnail Something I like to do when I'm super depressed is to go chat up a cashier. Go to starbucks or something, and when it's your turn, they will ask, "Can I help you?" This is your opening to talk to them. Just say one or two sentences about anything, and then smile. They will probably respond positively. Then you can either continue talking with them or order your coffee. It helps me bounce back into a social environment if I've shut myself off for so long. You're not alone!
Raddmiral 10 months ago
@Raddmiral Man no disrespect but I think if you're problem can be overcome by just chatting up a cashier then it must not be such a big deal lol.
WorldOfSnakes 4 months ago
Jim Carrey
emis2004 10 months ago 5
de Paul looks like a pimp
86kinky86 10 months ago
Shyness is selfish... Great thing to say so that people like me and other people watching this video to get convidence to overcome shyness... x
csifriendsscrubsfan 10 months ago 9
@csifriendsscrubsfan
I actually found it rather offensive...
Knowing i willingly sacrifice my time in order to help the well-being of others sometimes, and donate to various charitable organizations. Yet, in spite of all this; due to my shyness, i am therefore to be considered selfish...
GMunny5 10 months ago
@GMunny5 I know, I felt offended too. He was talking sense up until he said that. He obviously has never been shy x
csifriendsscrubsfan 10 months ago
@GMunny5 he didnt say imply that youre selfish, although i do find it interesting that you have the need to tell the world of any good deeds you do... kinda takes away the sincerity of it
p00ner92 10 months ago
who is the comedian?
souljatwar 10 months ago
I overcompensate by killing myself at the gym everyday. This guy described me almost perfectly.
ryncote 11 months ago
nice candles ,,,
validfor1hour 11 months ago 3
So overcome shyness by just...not being shy in other words. Great advice! Alcoholic? Just stop drinking! Narcissist? Stop thinking about yourself so much! Psychopath? Just stop stabbing!
ColumbiaGorgeGuy 11 months ago 2
@ColumbiaGorgeGuy Pessimist? Just stop being so negative. : )
Rockshift999 11 months ago
lol is it just me or does he kinda resemble an American-equivalent of Chris Tarrant?
DA296 11 months ago
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DA296 11 months ago
@Biohazardz100 I am reading Shyness: A Bold New Approach - it doesn't blame or label people for being shy, it talks about how to be "successfully shy", meaning that you may always be somewhat shy, so you plan for it and have strategies ready for situations that make you shy. Please do not kill yourself- I was so shy in high school I wore my long hair over my face to hide behind. I am now 45 and although I am still shy, I have had a wonderful life - life gets SO much better after high school!!
mdeley2002 11 months ago
how unusefull ...
romeoneverdies 11 months ago
Or just drink that whole bottle of wine, then you wont be shy;)
Tikafit 11 months ago 3
FINALLLYYY!!! i find someone who feels the same way i do..
Dezireex097 11 months ago
I like the joke at the start.
yousurfer2 11 months ago
I find it funny when ppl who view this end up leaving a snippy comment about this Dr., yes he's kind of an old james bond wannabe but what he's saying is true. Leaving a comment about him won't make you any less shy, or make what he is saying wrong so why not just take what you want from it. I personally have am SICK AND TIRED of being shy. I feel like i'm 2 different people, the real me inside and the semi shy person that i am in front of People and even Family! I feel like a prisoner! SCREAM
cccwg 1 year ago 5
is it jim carrey? he used to live in a van when he was a kid.
MissKatRob 1 year ago
@Biohazardz100 same!! theres this guy i like that likes me back but since we're both quiet none of us can make the first move!! It sucks!!
Saraljinx 1 year ago
@Saraljinx so how do you know he likes u if he's quiet :P
ehabq 1 year ago
@ehabq lol u just know by the way he acts :p stares at me a lot, brushes me in the hallways purpposly, he even waited for me just so he could hold the door for me!
Saraljinx 1 year ago
SHYNESS IS SELFISHNESS! thats where that feeling comes from . . .
Curious6Kevin9 1 year ago
@Curious6Kevin9 really? then so does confindence and empowering ones self. shy ppl are shy cos there thinking of everyone else but themselves confident ppl are confident cos they only have themselves in mind and noone else.
firemansam11 11 months ago
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legendof 1 year ago
ok this said WHAT shyness is it didnt say HOW to over come it!!
3sixsex 1 year ago
Lols. I feel so embarrassed for watching this. But I'm like really shy, but when I'm at home, on the internet, or texting my friends, I talk more. I'm a dancer, but when people watch me dance or when we practice, I get so shy and I dont want to dance with them around x/
nikkixescapist 1 year ago
I love this guy!!! He's completely right!!! Everything he said makes so much sense.
Nikolette11 1 year ago
what does this guy think hes the most interesting man in the world lol
7Alphamale 1 year ago 26
@7Alphamale LMAO
Necroman666 8 months ago
@7Alphamale who cares what he thinks!
sphynx105 7 months ago
@7Alphamale it just shows how confident he really is..
lincolnvelasquez 7 months ago
macho..(: hahahhahahhahahahhahaha.. i like this guy(:
mjg4eva 1 year ago
being outgoing is not always better than being shy. a lot of times outgoing people are loud and obnoxious and are all "look at me look at me".. we shouldn't be a world that views that as what we should aim to be, while shyness is some sort of handicap. honestly, we're all just as insecure as everyone. we just need to realize that.
embracedandredeemed 1 year ago
i can be outgoing, and i love it.
but people are so judgmental these days you can't even say
a sentence without getting judged. it's so pathetic.
CxoLENNON 1 year ago 141
@CxoLENNON it's not just these days, I think it's these humans that are judgemental
stoltobot 11 months ago
@CxoLENNON I know what you mean. Sometimes I have to have a moment alone just to 'center' myself. I know that I'm a good person even though I don't feel good all the time. If someone insults me or ridicules me, it hurts my feelings & makes me feel bad, but it doesn't change who I am on the inside.
MishuTaste 9 months ago
@CxoLENNON Why would you care about someone judging you? If you define your own self-worth, you can't care less about other people making assumptions on you.
Stupidxxxx 7 months ago
@Stupidxxxx Did I say I cared? I'm just stating the facts, because it is extremely true.
CxoLENNON 7 months ago
@CxoLENNON Yeah it might be true, it might not be true, but I think thoughts like that don't help people with social issues. That's what I was reaching for.
Stupidxxxx 7 months ago
faggot
clubhouse248 1 year ago
good video. i am or at least consider myself to be a pretty intelegent person but when you were talking i felt like you were talking to me instead of your camera. i keep what im thinking to myself alot of the time instead of speaking it. ive just always thought thats the "type" of person i was. i felt i was just naturally quiet, but now i talk alot more depending on who im talking to. some people just give off "bad vibes" if that makes since. mainly guys. i was raised by a single mom.
codylawson2005 1 year ago
Well for me, i have overcomed my shyness by just think of someone that
i'm comfortable with. It could be your mom, dad anybody.
And really It works!!
cwolly100 1 year ago 2
He's making us feel really great about ourselves, by saying how selfish we are, fucking moron. :-P
starfaery 1 year ago
The set is such a comfort
harlikwin 1 year ago
this man helped me alot i feel alot better after hearing this ...im confident again
gunskill20 1 year ago
I was born shy I can't even get on the phone to talk to someone I haven't even met.
foreal201023 1 year ago
lmfao 2:06 instant fake smile at the end
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Hope this video helps me.. :)
LadiesYeahMan 1 year ago
There is no actual "how to" in this video. It doesn't help in any way.
Roadstar1602 1 year ago 2
No offense Dr. Paul, but hearing your voice made me want to sleep. mmmmmmm rest.
ThunderBilTheMighty 1 year ago 2
Maybe self-destruction is the answer.
KnfRaw 1 year ago
Self Improvement is masturbation.
SilverHammock 1 year ago 6
Every where we look in nature we see the act of confidence, superiority, that is put on simply to get ones genes to be carried on to the mate. But Its all just a game. Its all an act and only you can think you are confident, you can think , you can be, you can swear you are but what is it? How can you? What is confidence in an existential riddle? I am a peacock, i have large brightly colored feathers that are 2 shades of green lighter than yours therefore i possess higher confidence levels...?
CantWeedThis 1 year ago 5
He is kind of right, I'm very self confident but had a fucked up childhood thanks to my alcoholic dad. Besides, I noticed that we learn from our parents, even without thinking. My dad is an introvert who made friends with vodka, he barely had any friends, so I guess he is at fault for making me shy. Now I'm 24 and trying to change all of that, including losing my virginity.
inurik 1 year ago 3
god i feel like a fucking loser for looking this shit up
LtWalker11 1 year ago 348
@LtWalker11 not really if your trying to better yourself.
DonDaDapper 1 year ago
@LtWalker11 No Buddy...It takes guts to accept that there is something in me I have to fix . You are a winner already . Peace :)
gnmithun 1 year ago
@LtWalker11 No Buddy...It takes guts to accept that there is something in me I have to fix . You are a winner already . Peace :)
gnmithun 1 year ago
@LtWalker11 eww a theist
engeljakob 1 year ago
@LtWalker11 oops! i meant to vote up...
SpawnedFromMaelstrom 11 months ago
@LtWalker11 Like chandler bing's therapy tape: "..you are a strong..confident women..."
DA296 11 months ago
@LtWalker11
god are u baiting or what
guglovcae1 11 months ago
@LtWalker11 for looking for self confidence vids? you shouldn't. i think it's a good, not to mention a healthy thing to want to build your self confidence. :) you're not a loser. no worries
campcoskuro 10 months ago
@LtWalker11 LMAO!
Tboy16 10 months ago
@LtWalker11 why?
asemanasa 10 months ago
@LtWalker11 i dont care what i feel like anymore i just want it gone..
StuntedSnail 10 months ago
@StuntedSnail Also if you have a camera you could make a youtube video without showing your face. Just go outside and video some cars and talk to the camera a bit. It's fun sometimes. Another thing I like to do is record my voice and just talk for like ten minutes. Then I save the recording and I can listen to myself talk on my computer. I did this every day for weeks, and now I'm a lot better at rambling, which actually makes people more comfortable. Feel free to PM me for more ideas.
Raddmiral 10 months ago
@LtWalker11 LOLOLOLOL me too D:
Steveeeeeeeeeeeeeeey 10 months ago
@LtWalker11 But I knew I'm a loser even before watching this (as you called) "Shit".
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AbaagailKaci 1 year ago
I don't agree that shyness also means selfishness. Personally, I refuse to open up to other people if I can't tell they're interested in me or not. Though if certain people share the same interests, I can bond with them instantly. I wouldn't force them to like me because its like breaking their "barrier" and seems unethical in a way. I wouldn't say I'm shy myself. I can talk plenty with my few close friends and family. However if my mouth is shut, then I have nothing important to address.
UrbaniteLN14 1 year ago
@UrbaniteLN14 Nice way to justify your shyness
TheSingaLegend 1 year ago
being a body builder is a bad thing?
Wesley296 1 year ago
@Wesley296 no its not..
Loolbollen 1 year ago
@Loolbollen If it's used for the issue he obviously discussed then it can be.
InferiorThanYou 1 year ago
@Wesley296 If it's used for the issue he obviously discussed then it can be.
InferiorThanYou 1 year ago
selfish?! I guess he´s NEVER been shy in his whole life
picasso94 1 year ago
I clapped at the end
777jackpot1 1 year ago
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StarfireEKS 1 year ago
Was he talking about Woody Alen?
TheGuwrovsky 1 year ago
I think Im overcompensating from the sound of this video. Im currently taking a muay thai class and one of the reasons is, I think it might help me feel better about myself and maybe help me break out of my shell.
magilla2282 1 year ago
after this story i fell like litle better
1994mehmed 1 year ago
Thats not even the full story. When I DO talk, they just look at me and then move on with theyre lives. When ever I do something everyone is doing, I get really hot because I'm afraid people will watch and think of me of some weird kid. There is also a girl I like and when ever I see her I freeze up and and I all of a sudden get weaker. I CANT EVEN GO ON HER FACEBOOK WITHOUT SWEATING LIKE A PIG! I really DO want to overcome my fear of rejection!
Yert456CP 1 year ago
I am sooo shy at school and in public. I am not shy at home. I have trouble even talking to people at school and I always feel that I'm being watched. i used to not be as shy in elementary school, but now I am in high school... it is a big problem with me..
Hummers222 1 year ago 2
@Hummers222 i know how u feel im the same way
YoungMr15 1 year ago
omg man i hate being shy cuz i cant talk to the cute grls...and especially that 1 girl that i just got to have. i have been unshy around ppl a couple of times but it was becuase i just said one joke everybody laughed and i just kept on craking jokes like freaking crazy.SHIT but most of the times i am prety shy i wana overcome it really badly :(
catalananthony 1 year ago
this actually makes sense what this guy's saying!
Sephirot1994 1 year ago
and if she speaks to me, what do I say, because she's very beautiful, and
I'm afraid I will say something stupid, or studder... or just freeze up altogether.
IAmIntelligence 1 year ago
Also, this is embarrassing, but I'm really shy around women,
and there's this woman, I like and she flirts with me, and I want to
flirt back, but I worry about what other people will think, so I don't flirt back,
how can I overcome this worry.. do I just take a deep breathe, and focus directly
in her eyes, because I'm unsure about this.
IAmIntelligence 1 year ago
@LunaTicTacs I meant ppl I don't know
DinoBoy31 1 year ago
@LunaTicTacs I have the same problem...I can tal to family and friends, but around ppl I know I just shut quite down, I'm in highschool and I do have a lots of friends but when I get try to tal to a girl I don't know what to say and it ends up a wierd situation...so I just avoid it. Which I need to stop
DinoBoy31 1 year ago
damn, these vids should be longer...
1sea6 1 year ago
Well for me, I'm shy because I have been through so many
bad things in life that I don't know, where to begin, and then how much do I talk about with someone if they want to listen to what I have to say without scareing them off.
I feel like I will always be shy just because I have had so
many things happen to me that made me insecure, there's
just too many. don't know what to do.
IAmIntelligence 1 year ago
@IAmIntelligence my suggestion is overcome 1 problem at the time! focus on 1 major task, and then a other one, a other, and after a time most will be resolved!! good luck!
mproductionsmusik 1 year ago
daaamn this dude is old as hell, looks like he is about to croak in that lounge chair he has.............
RagnarokBW 1 year ago
talk faster, man.
c41762 1 year ago