Dang it! You got me tearing up too. I am a single black 25 year old woman no children and I have been having these same thoughts that you have expressed. I simply hate to see a young single mother especially who doesn't handle their business with their child or children. It makes me want to reach out to them but i'm often not sure I should considering that fact that I don't know what it's like to be a young single mother .
Hi,I haven't finished watching the video as yet but I was wondering why do u start the age of teens having "relationships" from 17 and not younger? ( I'm 16). I'm just asking because some of my friends have been in relationships since like 13... and one girl is still with the same guy.
...which is exactly why I chose a different path for myself. I never felt that maternal instinct and never wanted kids. However, I love the way you tell your story without coming across as "preachy". I admire you so very much and oh, by the way, part one came out on my birthday (July 13th). Maybe I was MEANT to see that video - who knows. You and I have had such similar backgrounds as far as being raised and growing up! Girl, I've said it before, I'll say it again - keep up the good work!
I know this video is one of your older videos, but I just came across it today and it really touched me! I remember when I was in high school and I cried because no one ‘wanted me’. I was so down on myself, and I really thought something was wrong with me. I can relate to what you are saying in this video. I love the fact that you always keep it real! There are so many people who talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk! Love your videos! Thanks for taking the time to make them!
AfricanExport, after watching your “bad ass kid” video, I had to go back and view the videos on your channel dealing with your teenage mother experience. I’m so glad that I did. God’s Word will come to people through a myriad of vessels. He used you as a vessel to speak to me today. Just wanted you to know. . .
Thank u for your words! I wish this video was made 5 yrs ago when I left Cali to attend school in Tallahassee. I too was naive and in high school I often cried because of the lack of attention from guys. When I came to college, this same insecurity continued. Except I moved passed the crying and just focused on school. Nonetheless this didn't keep me from falling prey to one guy who was no good for me and in the end used me. Although I am not a parent, I wish knew then what I know now...
The "Parents are smarter than teens" theme is so right on. I swore up and down my mother was crazy and didn't know a thing. Now, at just 25, I go to her for
E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. She is like the ultimate encyclopedia to me. She has been the young mother. My father stayed but he lost his life so she was single. I watched her and learned my strength from her. I am so grateful for her struggle to make it because it certainly made me who I am.
Please do more talks like these. I don't have kids or anything but i found these helpful and reassuring. I realize that i'm not mature enough for sex and it's ok. The guy that has been pursuing me (10 years older than me) has been giving me "red flags." I know young women like to think they are mature for their age, but I think this is esp. true for me. He doesn't want my mind, just my body. I feel cheap around him. He says empty words and every time he touches me it's out of lust not love. :-/
Thank for being so transparent. This is a topic that is very close to me as well. I have a 13 year boy that I am raising all by myself with zero support from anyone BUT God. It is so important to have this dialogue. Please continue, God bless you!
OMG, AFRICAN EXPORT, enough with the REALNESS! If u didnt hit it on the head with older man....man ol' man ur too too good, and too too right. Much love. One of your 21 year old subscribers for LIFE!
When we as women learn and understand that we have so much power. No one woman has to be pregnant before she wants to. No woman has to raise babies alone and have tons of kids if she doenst want to. Women need to carry condoms, stand up for themselves. Sometimes as women we never want to take the blame and woman up and say, yeah i picked a slimeball. This single parenthood thing is damaging the black race, among other things.
MAternal instincts are learned and or developed not created out of thin air. When I first got pregnant I had very little m.instincts, but when he was born it was fully developed. I live for the Lord but improve for my family. You make an excellent point.:)
thank you for this series and yes i will stay tune even if it is not about hair and your realness is what keeps me and other coming back! again thank you for sharing your story
On point, as usual. Kudos to you Sis for a great video. I need a hair tut on that style. I'll check to see if you've posted one. I like this lighting on you. It is very hollywood glam. What a blessing you have been. ((big hug)) This message is good for wm of all ages. I know some GROWN wm who make unwise choices for the sake of love/lust or whatever it is. Sometimes in live all wm need o put having a SO on the back burner while we get our ish together.
ms.export i just want 2 applaud u for making this video!Not only are u helping to support young mothers, but ur also ministering to others so they won't have to go through situations as thoughs.Being from where I'm from ppl have this "bright idea" that you have 2 live up under a man and start havin babies by a certain age && i'm REALLY REALLY trying to overcome that stereotype by trying 2 finish college first.So I just wanna say thank you cuz you've given me hope.
I did not expect to cry while watching this until you got teary-eyed. As a young woman ( I am 22), I really appreciate your honesty and candidness. There really are women out here, young and old, who need to hear your words of wisdom and empowerment. I totally respect what you are doing. You look beautiful by the way. ;-)
i have tried to help a couple young ladies who put them selves in bad situations. one i am still working with. the other has just lost her 4 kids and is pregnant again, she is only 21-22. there is nothing i can do...she wouldnt listen. the other young lady i am helping as most s possible. i can only do so much it is up to her to fight though the struggle. thank for this video.
@angeewells God bless you for helping. I believe that if we are able, then we should help. However I also believe that hard headed dummies dont deserve you time. Initial resistance is understandable, but persistance should only last for a short time. When people are ready for change they typically seek it out.
@lisa9047 I cant wait to see it chica. Forreal boo its hard in this world. Its a slaughter house and many are sacrificed. I just believe that there are more talented, intellegent and capable people that just need a push, a hand or a heart for that matters and lets them know that they are worth and deserving of all the goodness the world has to offer.
God bless you African Export! You are such a blessing to so many people. I hope that you have touched all 7,000 of your subscribers with this video. You have knowledge beyond your years young lady. Trust! I am in my 30's and thought u were close in age. But that doesn't matter. Continue to be you and keep it real. We love you!
god allah whoever or whatever you believe in using you!!! i am glad you are allowing yourself to be used. YOU ARE GOING TO TOUCH SOMEBODY!!!! your doing it already. keep these vids coming. your amazing. even though i don't have any children on my own i have young friends and friends who do. most of them have sense thank goodness but still they need a reminder. best believe i posted part 1 and 2 on fb and on their walls!
I'm glad you made this video. My mother was a teenage mother, all my aunts and older cousins were as well. I was finally able to break the cycle. Without my mother pushing me to strive for more i would not have been able to do it. The cycle definitely needs to be broken, and that can only happen with awareness and challenging the youth to do better.
God bless you for this "series"! It takes a lot to expose yourself and to let us veiwers (strangers, really) into your life with your life experiences and insight. Trust and believe, you are putting out positive energy and Gods love out and into the world, and God is using you as a vessel to save our young women, whether it be 1, 7, 1000 or more "girls", I thank you for them! Much love and God bless!
@MlleCafeAuLait Thank you. I love sharing what I have been through. Most dont share because there is shame and embarassment. But the liberation that comes with TRULLY understanding your life mistakes and growing from it is awesome. My outward appearance, conversation, and how I carry myself wouldnt have people assume my young adult life was what it was, but that is what makes ME great. Girl I really want to tell yall about the idiots I chose to date. That is a "shaken head" moment. lol
You are so real! and yes even being subtle *some* young men do pray on girls. Me and my boyfriend's friends were hanging out and one of his friends was talking to a girl on the phone telling her he loved her and all that and when he hang up, I was like so you got a girl now and he was like no i just want her for sex that's it! =O And my boyfriend turns to me and says you are lucky I aint like him but you girls need to stop letting guys use you." Some girls in my area have *no* self respect.
I love the fact that you cover other topics besides natural hair. The fact that you're multi dimensional is what makes your channel more interesting than other channels. Keep on doing what you doing. I had my son when I was 23, grown but then again not really, but can relate to dating the wrong guys and lowering your standards at a young age. Only God knew that my sons father and I would end up married, but I could have gotten pregnant by the irresponsible dudes that I used to date:) Thank God
This video is on point. I appreciate that you are aware of the bigger issues that are destroying our children. I love your videos and your spirit. Please keep up the good work. I am inspired and encouraged when I see your videos.
God bless you girl. To extend yourself to young women like you have in such a genuine way is touching and inspirational. I said I would make a vid response, but I don't know that I should. Your videos on this subject are on point. Thank you for this. Sincerely
Thanks for taking time out for "real talk'.I agree with you when its all said and done the make-up, hair and clothes are fun but we have serious issues that NEED to be discussed. I was a young mother too and I understand your concern. My "baby" is now sixteen and I'm trying to let her know that getting pregnant is NOT mandatory.I want her to know that she has abundant choices and options. As always thanks again for keepin it real.
WOW, if I made videos I would make one now. I wrote two comments on you previous video on this subject but did not post them because like you, there was just too much to say and think about on this subject. However , I must say that you are 100% on point on this subject. It always, always, always comes back to self love, self respect, and your sense of morality. We as a people have to do better than this. Not just black people, look at today's headline on Bristol Palin. I am honored by U!
I love what you do ,your inner soul is just so beautiful it makes the outer you even more beautiful, I dont have many friends, and I choose them wisely,but if I had my pick you would be in top 3....Keep doing what you doing,I love it!!!!!!
well spoken, the message is to live life , I saw the effects of a young mother from my mother whom was married but she did not start livining until she was in her 40's and that made me think there is no rush to have children I had my first child at 28 and second at 31 and was so ready from them then as I was mentally ready I see a mother as a positive role model.
Anyway girl keep these videos coming really enjoy them, from a new subscriper :)
Wow AE, this video is awesome. I don't have children but I'm glad there is a voice for our girls now. A lot of them don't have someone that can be real with them like this and/or sometimes it has to come from a 2nd source b4 it sinks in.
I love it when we can get a little deeper. Yes, we need our hair vids but we need to work on the total us.
I'm learning to listen to myself and monitor who I bring into my life these days.
africanexport i enjoy most of your videos yes im interested in nat hair but i also like/admire you as a person if i didnt wouldnt watch your vids even if u had the flyest hairstyles makeup clothes etc
im sure many of your other subbies feel the same way i look foward to any videos you do regardless of the topic because your an awesome/beautiful person in all ways so keep doing what you do :)
Love the serious videos. I can't speak on the young motherhood because I don't have any children, but I would like to say that loving yourself before getting into a relationship is extraordinarily important. Also don't feel like (our allow anyone else to make you feel like) your self worth is tied to a man. I'm 25 in my last year of graduate school and the first thing people say to me is when are you getting married and start having children.
@SapphireStar09 This mentality needs to stop. No one ever asks my 32 year old brother when he's getting married and having children. We are not just on this earth to be someone's wife and mother. Don't get me wrong I do plan to be married and have children eventually, but I want to make sure I reach my goals first. I don't want to be that mom that gives up their life and puts all their hopes and dreams on their children. I want to reach my dream and do everything to help my child reach theirs.
@SapphireStar09 Thats the way it should be, and you could be a blessing to younger women because you are living your dream. Many dont have this as an example to follow or to look up to.
You were hitting home tonight girl. So many of your talking points where giving me flash backs. I'm going into my bathroom right now to respond to you. We need to keep this subject alive. Even though some of these young mothers don't want ANYONE telling them the truth. Thank you for sharing and baring your soul to us. I appreciate it if no one else does.
I hope your honesty and your wisdom will truly help some one although i am older and my children grown. You have spoke truth tonight that we must teach our children at a young age to want and desire more from there life then just kicking it. and def teach our girls to have self worth and to understand that they our queens and should be treated as such.
Dang it! You got me tearing up too. I am a single black 25 year old woman no children and I have been having these same thoughts that you have expressed. I simply hate to see a young single mother especially who doesn't handle their business with their child or children. It makes me want to reach out to them but i'm often not sure I should considering that fact that I don't know what it's like to be a young single mother .
CurlsGalore2004 1 month ago
Girl, you got me all teary eyed at the end...
TheKEMeleon 1 month ago
Hi,I haven't finished watching the video as yet but I was wondering why do u start the age of teens having "relationships" from 17 and not younger? ( I'm 16). I'm just asking because some of my friends have been in relationships since like 13... and one girl is still with the same guy.
harrisoncollege101 6 months ago
off topic but ur eyes are amazing
KayNatural12 6 months ago
...which is exactly why I chose a different path for myself. I never felt that maternal instinct and never wanted kids. However, I love the way you tell your story without coming across as "preachy". I admire you so very much and oh, by the way, part one came out on my birthday (July 13th). Maybe I was MEANT to see that video - who knows. You and I have had such similar backgrounds as far as being raised and growing up! Girl, I've said it before, I'll say it again - keep up the good work!
NancyGooGoo 11 months ago
@NancyGooGoo THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS. BE WELL
AFRICANEXPORT 11 months ago
I know this video is one of your older videos, but I just came across it today and it really touched me! I remember when I was in high school and I cried because no one ‘wanted me’. I was so down on myself, and I really thought something was wrong with me. I can relate to what you are saying in this video. I love the fact that you always keep it real! There are so many people who talk the talk, but don’t walk the walk! Love your videos! Thanks for taking the time to make them!
luvbeinnatural 1 year ago
Wonderful video! Thanks for sharing with us! *SN: You look great!
PearlfectJourney 1 year ago
AfricanExport, after watching your “bad ass kid” video, I had to go back and view the videos on your channel dealing with your teenage mother experience. I’m so glad that I did. God’s Word will come to people through a myriad of vessels. He used you as a vessel to speak to me today. Just wanted you to know. . .
CallaLily40 1 year ago
Thank u for your words! I wish this video was made 5 yrs ago when I left Cali to attend school in Tallahassee. I too was naive and in high school I often cried because of the lack of attention from guys. When I came to college, this same insecurity continued. Except I moved passed the crying and just focused on school. Nonetheless this didn't keep me from falling prey to one guy who was no good for me and in the end used me. Although I am not a parent, I wish knew then what I know now...
relnatural 1 year ago
Just curious what are you going to school for? I think you would make an awesome counselor.
empressm6 1 year ago
The "Parents are smarter than teens" theme is so right on. I swore up and down my mother was crazy and didn't know a thing. Now, at just 25, I go to her for
E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. She is like the ultimate encyclopedia to me. She has been the young mother. My father stayed but he lost his life so she was single. I watched her and learned my strength from her. I am so grateful for her struggle to make it because it certainly made me who I am.
empressm6 1 year ago 2
Please do more talks like these. I don't have kids or anything but i found these helpful and reassuring. I realize that i'm not mature enough for sex and it's ok. The guy that has been pursuing me (10 years older than me) has been giving me "red flags." I know young women like to think they are mature for their age, but I think this is esp. true for me. He doesn't want my mind, just my body. I feel cheap around him. He says empty words and every time he touches me it's out of lust not love. :-/
yummieyummie123 1 year ago
those earrings are FIERCE! thrift store??
1goodmomof3 1 year ago
@1goodmomof3 Even better the Beauty Supply Store, $1.50, which reminds me I need to paint them mso they dont tarnish.
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
Thank for being so transparent. This is a topic that is very close to me as well. I have a 13 year boy that I am raising all by myself with zero support from anyone BUT God. It is so important to have this dialogue. Please continue, God bless you!
beader4life 1 year ago
That was some real talk. Keep it coming! People need to hear this type of stuff. You never know who you might be reaching. Great videos.
DvaAuNaturel 1 year ago
OMG, AFRICAN EXPORT, enough with the REALNESS! If u didnt hit it on the head with older man....man ol' man ur too too good, and too too right. Much love. One of your 21 year old subscribers for LIFE!
MittBritt20 1 year ago
Painful. Powerful. God bless you for this.
atinob43 1 year ago
@atinob43 thank you so much
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
You look stunning. I'm going to try that hairstyle. Please believe I am. You are wise beyond your years...
atinob43 1 year ago
@atinob43 yes let me know if you do. email me a pic
african.export@yahoo.com
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
@AFRICANEXPORT I'm sorry, I don't know how to e'mail the picture, but I will take one, just in case I learn. Thanks for sharing.
atinob43 1 year ago
These are 2 of the best videos I've seen on youtube! Thanks for getting the word out.
sppices 1 year ago
@sppices Thank you ,
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
you are so right..WE def need this incite, thank you for the talking the initiative to put it out there
madlovely85 1 year ago
you have taken your channel to a new depth and layer.. and i love it..
nappyandcute 1 year ago
THE TRUTH!
KreativeKutie 1 year ago
i agree with alot of the things u say that go on in our communities! i wish i could articulate them the way u do!
NiaSoPurdy 1 year ago
@NiaSoPurdy Hey Nia! Oh, yes, she articulated, baby!!! Woo Hoo!
atinob43 1 year ago
When we as women learn and understand that we have so much power. No one woman has to be pregnant before she wants to. No woman has to raise babies alone and have tons of kids if she doenst want to. Women need to carry condoms, stand up for themselves. Sometimes as women we never want to take the blame and woman up and say, yeah i picked a slimeball. This single parenthood thing is damaging the black race, among other things.
AtlantaAngel84 1 year ago
MAternal instincts are learned and or developed not created out of thin air. When I first got pregnant I had very little m.instincts, but when he was born it was fully developed. I live for the Lord but improve for my family. You make an excellent point.:)
bebegurl31291 1 year ago
PLEASE keep this coming!
GvannD 1 year ago
@GvannD Will do , video uploading now.
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
thank you for this series and yes i will stay tune even if it is not about hair and your realness is what keeps me and other coming back! again thank you for sharing your story
ndstreet1 1 year ago
On point, as usual. Kudos to you Sis for a great video. I need a hair tut on that style. I'll check to see if you've posted one. I like this lighting on you. It is very hollywood glam. What a blessing you have been. ((big hug)) This message is good for wm of all ages. I know some GROWN wm who make unwise choices for the sake of love/lust or whatever it is. Sometimes in live all wm need o put having a SO on the back burner while we get our ish together.
mpenny226 1 year ago
@mpenny226 AMEN lol
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
ms.export i just want 2 applaud u for making this video!Not only are u helping to support young mothers, but ur also ministering to others so they won't have to go through situations as thoughs.Being from where I'm from ppl have this "bright idea" that you have 2 live up under a man and start havin babies by a certain age && i'm REALLY REALLY trying to overcome that stereotype by trying 2 finish college first.So I just wanna say thank you cuz you've given me hope.
MzMatchbox 1 year ago
I did not expect to cry while watching this until you got teary-eyed. As a young woman ( I am 22), I really appreciate your honesty and candidness. There really are women out here, young and old, who need to hear your words of wisdom and empowerment. I totally respect what you are doing. You look beautiful by the way. ;-)
Honey503 1 year ago
@Honey503 Thank you chica
~keep it real and keep it positive
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
i am glad you are a partner : ) this was another good video. p.s i like your earrings : )
lolagloss 1 year ago
@lolagloss thanks chica. Forever 21 .
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
i have tried to help a couple young ladies who put them selves in bad situations. one i am still working with. the other has just lost her 4 kids and is pregnant again, she is only 21-22. there is nothing i can do...she wouldnt listen. the other young lady i am helping as most s possible. i can only do so much it is up to her to fight though the struggle. thank for this video.
angeewells 1 year ago
@angeewells God bless you for helping. I believe that if we are able, then we should help. However I also believe that hard headed dummies dont deserve you time. Initial resistance is understandable, but persistance should only last for a short time. When people are ready for change they typically seek it out.
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
This is speaking my life so much...I'm gonna finish editing my vid response and respond. It is so real out here. Thank you so much you have no idea.
lisa9047 1 year ago
@lisa9047 I cant wait to see it chica. Forreal boo its hard in this world. Its a slaughter house and many are sacrificed. I just believe that there are more talented, intellegent and capable people that just need a push, a hand or a heart for that matters and lets them know that they are worth and deserving of all the goodness the world has to offer.
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
God Bless you this is beautiful!
changingdirections 1 year ago
God bless you African Export! You are such a blessing to so many people. I hope that you have touched all 7,000 of your subscribers with this video. You have knowledge beyond your years young lady. Trust! I am in my 30's and thought u were close in age. But that doesn't matter. Continue to be you and keep it real. We love you!
mahoganybella 1 year ago
@mahoganybella xoxo. Girl Im a mature 30 something at heart ;o) I keep it real, but also I have to keep it grown and sexy lol
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
You are speaking truth! You had to experience this And have got the lesson, so that
you can teach. Your daughter is bless to have you!
Angie
betterthaneverbeen 1 year ago
god allah whoever or whatever you believe in using you!!! i am glad you are allowing yourself to be used. YOU ARE GOING TO TOUCH SOMEBODY!!!! your doing it already. keep these vids coming. your amazing. even though i don't have any children on my own i have young friends and friends who do. most of them have sense thank goodness but still they need a reminder. best believe i posted part 1 and 2 on fb and on their walls!
sultrydoll 1 year ago
I'm glad you made this video. My mother was a teenage mother, all my aunts and older cousins were as well. I was finally able to break the cycle. Without my mother pushing me to strive for more i would not have been able to do it. The cycle definitely needs to be broken, and that can only happen with awareness and challenging the youth to do better.
BashfulBeautyy 1 year ago
Wow your makeup looks amazing
falalah81 1 year ago
God bless you for this "series"! It takes a lot to expose yourself and to let us veiwers (strangers, really) into your life with your life experiences and insight. Trust and believe, you are putting out positive energy and Gods love out and into the world, and God is using you as a vessel to save our young women, whether it be 1, 7, 1000 or more "girls", I thank you for them! Much love and God bless!
MlleCafeAuLait 1 year ago
@MlleCafeAuLait Thank you. I love sharing what I have been through. Most dont share because there is shame and embarassment. But the liberation that comes with TRULLY understanding your life mistakes and growing from it is awesome. My outward appearance, conversation, and how I carry myself wouldnt have people assume my young adult life was what it was, but that is what makes ME great. Girl I really want to tell yall about the idiots I chose to date. That is a "shaken head" moment. lol
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
You are so real! and yes even being subtle *some* young men do pray on girls. Me and my boyfriend's friends were hanging out and one of his friends was talking to a girl on the phone telling her he loved her and all that and when he hang up, I was like so you got a girl now and he was like no i just want her for sex that's it! =O And my boyfriend turns to me and says you are lucky I aint like him but you girls need to stop letting guys use you." Some girls in my area have *no* self respect.
SamuraiCrystal 1 year ago
I love the fact that you cover other topics besides natural hair. The fact that you're multi dimensional is what makes your channel more interesting than other channels. Keep on doing what you doing. I had my son when I was 23, grown but then again not really, but can relate to dating the wrong guys and lowering your standards at a young age. Only God knew that my sons father and I would end up married, but I could have gotten pregnant by the irresponsible dudes that I used to date:) Thank God
DeeJ085 1 year ago
This video is on point. I appreciate that you are aware of the bigger issues that are destroying our children. I love your videos and your spirit. Please keep up the good work. I am inspired and encouraged when I see your videos.
TheNaturalmystery 1 year ago
God bless you girl. To extend yourself to young women like you have in such a genuine way is touching and inspirational. I said I would make a vid response, but I don't know that I should. Your videos on this subject are on point. Thank you for this. Sincerely
GodsGotThisNatural 1 year ago
Thanks for taking time out for "real talk'.I agree with you when its all said and done the make-up, hair and clothes are fun but we have serious issues that NEED to be discussed. I was a young mother too and I understand your concern. My "baby" is now sixteen and I'm trying to let her know that getting pregnant is NOT mandatory.I want her to know that she has abundant choices and options. As always thanks again for keepin it real.
ChooChoogirlelle 1 year ago
WOW, if I made videos I would make one now. I wrote two comments on you previous video on this subject but did not post them because like you, there was just too much to say and think about on this subject. However , I must say that you are 100% on point on this subject. It always, always, always comes back to self love, self respect, and your sense of morality. We as a people have to do better than this. Not just black people, look at today's headline on Bristol Palin. I am honored by U!
whitneysolier1 1 year ago
18:16 That part cracked me UP!! That is soo true!!
but...I love your wisdom on this...Thank you =) *hug*
NaturallyGlowin 1 year ago
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NaturallyGlowin 1 year ago
I love what you do ,your inner soul is just so beautiful it makes the outer you even more beautiful, I dont have many friends, and I choose them wisely,but if I had my pick you would be in top 3....Keep doing what you doing,I love it!!!!!!
NATURALIFICENT 1 year ago
God bless you for this video series!
cwwwwj247 1 year ago
well spoken, the message is to live life , I saw the effects of a young mother from my mother whom was married but she did not start livining until she was in her 40's and that made me think there is no rush to have children I had my first child at 28 and second at 31 and was so ready from them then as I was mentally ready I see a mother as a positive role model.
Anyway girl keep these videos coming really enjoy them, from a new subscriper :)
Bynita28 1 year ago
Not everyone is suppose to be a parent. So of course not all mothers are going to have maternal instincts.
MissLady8282 1 year ago
That unwanted feeling comes from home. Most of the young ladies that feel like you felt usually are not getting love and attention at home.
MissLady8282 1 year ago
Wow AE, this video is awesome. I don't have children but I'm glad there is a voice for our girls now. A lot of them don't have someone that can be real with them like this and/or sometimes it has to come from a 2nd source b4 it sinks in.
I love it when we can get a little deeper. Yes, we need our hair vids but we need to work on the total us.
I'm learning to listen to myself and monitor who I bring into my life these days.
Wonderful video! Thank you.
TreseMason 1 year ago
africanexport i enjoy most of your videos yes im interested in nat hair but i also like/admire you as a person if i didnt wouldnt watch your vids even if u had the flyest hairstyles makeup clothes etc
im sure many of your other subbies feel the same way i look foward to any videos you do regardless of the topic because your an awesome/beautiful person in all ways so keep doing what you do :)
prettyproblem16 1 year ago
you are so stunning and even more beautiful because you help and encourage others selflessly.
barbiedefined 1 year ago
Love the serious videos. I can't speak on the young motherhood because I don't have any children, but I would like to say that loving yourself before getting into a relationship is extraordinarily important. Also don't feel like (our allow anyone else to make you feel like) your self worth is tied to a man. I'm 25 in my last year of graduate school and the first thing people say to me is when are you getting married and start having children.
SapphireStar09 1 year ago
@SapphireStar09 This mentality needs to stop. No one ever asks my 32 year old brother when he's getting married and having children. We are not just on this earth to be someone's wife and mother. Don't get me wrong I do plan to be married and have children eventually, but I want to make sure I reach my goals first. I don't want to be that mom that gives up their life and puts all their hopes and dreams on their children. I want to reach my dream and do everything to help my child reach theirs.
SapphireStar09 1 year ago 8
@SapphireStar09 Thats the way it should be, and you could be a blessing to younger women because you are living your dream. Many dont have this as an example to follow or to look up to.
~keep it real
AFRICANEXPORT 1 year ago
@SapphireStar09 People will start to ask when he gets older. Like Why haven't you gotten married with brows raised.
firebrandsgirl 1 year ago
i really appreciate this video..thank you xx
xLycrax 1 year ago
keep up the real talk mamas...its much needed!
Cali GUrL
mscaligurl87 1 year ago
You were hitting home tonight girl. So many of your talking points where giving me flash backs. I'm going into my bathroom right now to respond to you. We need to keep this subject alive. Even though some of these young mothers don't want ANYONE telling them the truth. Thank you for sharing and baring your soul to us. I appreciate it if no one else does.
Japan1fan 1 year ago
I hope your honesty and your wisdom will truly help some one although i am older and my children grown. You have spoke truth tonight that we must teach our children at a young age to want and desire more from there life then just kicking it. and def teach our girls to have self worth and to understand that they our queens and should be treated as such.
missy312able 1 year ago 4